Lesbians are heteronormative because they wont make the first move... on a man.

CaptainMoose · 2020-10-06T17:27:01+00:00

The way I envision a healthy relationship is an equal-give equal-take lesbian affair whereas both lesbians start conversations

You can tell a dude wrote it because he used lesbians as a noun instead of women.

CaptainMoose · 2021-01-08T03:26:45+00:00

Except wasn't the term homosexual coined by a gay man to provide legitimacy to people's experience of exclusive same-sex attraction?

Also, funny how heterosexuality will never go away in this hypothetical scenario.

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-04T04:08:22+00:00

To add to her psychotic behaviour, she has rape fantasies that she posts on reddit.

As the user who worked in a bathhouse, shit like this frustrates me because of the harassment campaigns we had to endure from all sides wanting biological women in a male only space. One of the arguments that the "transman" who came in had was that any of those type of women would be too dysphoric to let their genitalia be seen (à la Lou Sullivan) yet it's clearly not the case. OP also has the audacity to praise how consent is respected in these spaces while blatantly refusing to acknowledge the fact that many of the men who walk past her cannot enthusiastically consent to seeing her pussy, let alone in a sexual manner.

She also has another post where she documents how she masturbates in public, so her euphoria about consent really is wafer thin.

CaptainMoose · 2021-02-10T22:00:36+00:00

Because we are also attracted to the men attached to the penises. Body and face. We don't find women sexually attractive. Their touch isn't experienced positively. No matter how many steroids they take, or surgeries they have.

CaptainMoose · 2020-09-26T10:25:24+00:00

In my opinion, separating romantic and sexual attraction has been embraced because it stabilizes opposite-sex relationships while destabilizing same-sex relationships. A "heteroromantic" bisexual will always be using gay men or lesbians (depending on their sex) for sex while only engaging in opposite sex relationships. Our intimacies will always be fair-weather and fleeting and queer theory ideologies hope to keep it that way.

You can see this trend with the bodies pushed on gay men and lesbian women. Either transgender bodies, which are the opposite sex so we engage in heterosexuality, or asexual bodies, so we can be in a same-sex relationship but without the sex. IMO, it's also why open relationships are pushed so hard on gay men- they destabilize our relationships and promote the idea that we shouldn't work on being better for our partners, that we should keep a relationship going even if we don't want to be with that person (because breaking up is 'problematic'), and that you can't expect sexual exclusivity from someone you're committed to.

CaptainMoose · 2021-01-03T23:59:46+00:00

Looking at the post history, this man has also lectured feminine boys for referring to themselves as "traps" (because it leads to eXtErMiNaTiOn) and aspires to be a sex worker.

Also, his tits look like moobs and he wears a chastity cage and diapers. Disgusting.

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-22T20:57:50+00:00

On one hand, I’m glad they’re with each other and leaving gays and lesbians alone. Today, she posted about how her fiancé was so kind and helped her with her makeup and wardrobe for her first ever drag show.

Yeah, they're still not leaving gays and lesbians alone. She (at least) is still making money in a position an actual LGB person could be working to support themselves and now will be occupying the spot of a gay (or bisexual) male drag performer and thus siphoning money that way.

It also doesn't stop them from using her positions within our spaces to continue to harass gay men and lesbian women on behalf of any other "gay transman" or "lesbian transwoman" who saunter in.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-15T14:08:35+00:00

"So you would fuck a man who takes estrogen, gets breast implants, and inverts his dick?"

No, and for the same reason I wouldn't date a guy with a split tongue or a Prince Albert- body modifications are gross and unnerving.

CaptainMoose · 2022-03-25T03:10:00+00:00

If anything is a genital fetish, it's whatever I just read

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-18T20:53:38+00:00

Regardless of how he views you, that’s a weird and mildly transphobic thing to say and don’t get me started on cis gay men and their weird aversion to afab genetalia as a whole. I’d give him a real firm talking to and tell him to educate himself on different language to use when he talks about preferences, because that wasn’t it. Stay safe out there and don’t accept things that rub you the wrong way, if you felt off, you’re right.

"Stay safe out there, fellow rapist."

CaptainMoose · 2021-11-17T12:03:18+00:00

I was ashamed for so long of being a "man" mainly attracted to lesbians. But like, not porn-lesbians. Actual, normal people in my life who were or later turned out to be lesbians. Also, I started noticing that I assumed people who were attracted to me were bi? And when they told me they were straight I was disappointed for some reason?

Presenting this horrifying little statement.

CaptainMoose · 2022-01-03T11:30:25+00:00

I totally feel you there. It sucks because I was the very definition of conventionally attractive when I was presenting as a straight cis girl, I had tons of guys who had crushes on me and were asking me out all the time. They were all straight obviously but still. I actually feel like I had less surface-level dysphoria and depression back then just knowing that I was a lot hotter than most girls and was the center of male attention almost 100% of the time.

Wow. Just... wow. The sheer level of narcissism in this comment is what made me need to post this thread.

Spoiler: many of them just end up dating other trans-identified women or bi and "pan" men.

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-15T19:26:17+00:00

Heterosexuals can't even comprehend of nonpenetrative sex being enjoyable. Mutual oral, frottage, and tribbing are lost on them.

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-20T04:31:38+00:00

"bold of you to assume trans people are attracted to YOU" is always my thought when I see that.

I have Tinder Gold and can see who is trying to message me on Grindr. I think I have a pretty clear idea of the number of women I've had to block on the latter and clear from my queue on the former.

I'm a gay transman and I felt all of this in my soul. Its disgusting how much transphobia is out there. Gay trans men exist, damn it! We aren't a fetish, we aren't a sort of lesser man, we are men!

You are not a man and you yourself have a fetish.

It's good to keep in mind there's no such thing as THE gay community, there's just gay pockets and subcultures with varying degrees of chillness. None of those gay men that say those kind of things is the pr manager of the gay community either, it's even the other way around, they are seeking community and attempting to define themselves through saying that "ew, vagina" shit. If you think that's pathetic, you aren't wrong. You will find partners just fine though, they'll simply not be in the transphobic pockets of gay men. Ultimately, it's no different from how "gay culture" excludes a bunch of body types and ethnicities, everyone hates it and the people that do it are some losers on grindr, not confident and well adjusted people.

Gay men come together into "communities" because we are exclusively same-sex attracted and want to maximize our chances at finding a short-term or long-term partner to pair off with. Those of us who feel safe enough will express the "ew vagina" sentiment because we are not able to enthusiastically consent to anyone born with one. If you have a problem with that, you are a sexual predator. Many gay men will censor ourselves because of having to navigate education, housing, and employment in order to survive in the larger society and at least try and prosper or because we don't want to be iced out of the few spaces that prioritize(d) same-sex attraction. The people that make their boundaries clear are not losers and are, in fact, much more well adjusted than anyone going on an incel/femcel rant every other day.

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-23T20:57:01+00:00

my room was covered in posters of cute celebrity boys that I meticulously cut out of magazines. that and the choreographed dancing I would make up for fun.

I couldn't even put up band posters on a corkboard without my mother ripping them down. These girls really show their ass in knowing absolutely nothing about what being a teenage boy is like, let alone a gay teenage boy.

CaptainMoose · 2021-08-08T20:16:19+00:00

Many of these women fail to understand the "enthusiastic" part of enthusiastic consent.

CaptainMoose · 2021-11-26T14:12:34+00:00

More and more we're being exposed to the fact that there are absolutely bi men who label themselves as gay just like there are bi women who label themselves as lesbian.

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-27T15:16:24+00:00

I’m a cis woman lesbian with a genital preference for penises. My girlfriend is a trans woman and doesn’t want to do surgery. Would I be with a woman with a vagina? Yes. Would I be with a woman with a penis? Also yes.

I got such a bad headache from reading this that my nose started to bleed. If I were a transwoman, I would claim it was my period.

CaptainMoose · 2021-09-16T15:27:10+00:00

Well, not broad daylight. It's usually a rather dim blue light.

But everyone still expects a dick between your thighs.

CaptainMoose · 2021-11-06T21:49:38+00:00

Theoretically, we can be into "non-binary" people who are actually male. Practically, though, we don't want to stick our dicks in crazy.

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-05T02:05:40+00:00

Part of the reason why people often don’t want to have sex with transgender people is that they don’t know what that sex would look like.

Oh, I know what sex with a biological woman looks like. You REALLY don't know the adolescent and young adult experiences of gay men when we are trying so hard to look for even a shred of opposite-sex attraction through pornography or, god forbid, actual relationships with biological women. Intimacy with the opposite sex doesn't just feel bad because of her genitalia or breasts- her hands, fingers, feet, toes, mouths, etc. all feel wrong.

Sometimes, they’re not even sure what trans bodies look like without their clothes.

I can assure you that many of us have seen trans bodies naked, often in an attempt to try and be "good" people or to see if we could be opposite sex attracted toward a masculine enough woman.

This year has the highest number of deaths on record for trans and gender diverse people, most of them transfeminine people and sex workers. The statistics we hear are hammered in our brains, sometimes long before we even come out or realise we’re transgender. It’s hard to thrive when you’re afraid of being the next one. And that means we rarely take risks. When safe to do so, the disclosure happens quite early on, before entering a bedroom, before meeting up for the first time after matching on a dating app. We'd rather out ourselves than be killed. It’s always easier to assume someone isn’t safe for us than the opposite. So, what might be a simple question of ‘sexual preference’ to some is a matter of life and death for us.

Regardless of who she is, it is not her place to appropriate the deaths of black and brown homosexual transsexuals. They get killed by predatory johns who knew what these men's biological sex was and are trying to hide their same-sex sexual activities because of the risk it has on their "straight" life. She has no reason to be afraid of being the "next one" because she is, by her own admission, asexual. On top of that, she is a well established middle class white woman. She is not a lower class, impoverished, racialized gay man. She still is at risk for sexual violence, however, but so are these men on top of the other struggles they face.

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-26T16:07:12+00:00

It's hard to describe, but like, cis queer men don't seem to be as visible in the online queer community, or at least the parts I'm in, and I worry that a lot of gay men rep I've seen has been made by cis straight women, or just generally people without much actual experience with other men in romantic and sexual relationships seemingly.

Maybe because most gay men avoid things labelled as "queer" like the plague until we finally have it beaten into us that, while they appear to be welcoming on the surface, "queer" spaces hate actual gay men. They hate our input, they find any content with earnestly create about same-sex relationships "unrealistic," and they hate when we establish boundaries.

Trans men also have their own perspective on queer attraction to men and that's valid and good and I don't think it's at all fetishism or 'not really gay', I don't even think cis women portraying queer men is inherently fetishism, fetishism is defined by how it's executed, not who makes it.

While opposite-sex attraction is not a fetish, they way you women go about it is. You define fetishism by how it's executed, but fail to grasp that every step you take is an execution of the fetish. You are literally wearing men's clothes and taking testosterone in the pursuit of an idealized man, one who objectively cannot consent to a biological woman.

Also I guess like, it often feels like a lot of gay male content has women in mind as an audience so it still makes me feel quite insecure and dysphoric. Like, a while back I was wistfully watching gay men tiktok compilations, but then I went in to the comments section and it was 90% self proclaimed women (or, idk, possibly 'women', but regardless) and it made me feel so shitty, esp since like, apparently it's a thing for cis guys to do 'gay stuff' and post it online as a 'joke' either because they think gay stuff is inherently weird and funny or as an excuse to be intimate as cis guys are usually discouraged from that, so I don't even know if any of those guys were actually gay or if guys are at all like that in gay relationships.

There is 100% an issue of straight men gay-baiting on social media to amass a following for money and they are successful at it because (a) their opposite sex attraction means they have fewer boundaries with women which makes that part of their audience more comfortable and (b) gay men are desperate for someone "normal" as representation. Even a decade ago, the gay men I subscribed to on Youtube were not ones popular with straight women- none of them could turn the platform into a career and many maintained their offline jobs.

I'm not a huge social media user but one thing I did when I first came out was follow gay guys on Instagram who were interested in the same crafts and hobbies as me or who were in the same life space as me (married with kids.) It started for me as a "see, you can still be everything you are as a man" validation thing for me but I think it could help from this angle too.

This commenter really highlights one of the overall problems these women have- they filter which gay men they interact with and create an echo chamber of what they think gay men's lives are like. She doesn't have to confront the gay men her age that are impoverished, working multiple jobs to get by, perpetually single and worried about dying alone because the numbers are not in our favour, etc. This is one of the ways their treatment of gay men demonstrates the fetish: they don't allow us to be real people, just objects for consumption.

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-09T08:26:31+00:00

The F2Ms learned they can crash the party on any night, but it isn’t as fun because they will party alone if they do. So, space was made, nobody was replaced by someone else, and everybody had equal access. That’s an ethical change.

That's not an ethical change. For any actual homosexual man who is violated because there is a biological woman in an explicitly sexual space for men, they are experiencing sexual misconduct due to her presence (either as voyeur or exhibitionist). On the nights that center these women, those are nights that those men will not go to the bathhouse for the sake of their mental health. Those also may have been the only nights he had off from work so there goes access to one of the few spaces that centered same-sex attraction.

I follow the cruising listings on Squirt.org (in part because of my old job). I've seen what gay men have posted on the listings for bathhouses that allow transgender identified people and women (in general). Saying that we don't fucking like it isn't me projecting.

CaptainMoose · 2020-12-12T03:13:45+00:00

Just cause it's a homologue doesn't mean this homo wants to touch it.

CaptainMoose · 2020-09-25T10:25:30+00:00

I peaked in 2018, but the seeds were planted before over the course of 4 years. In 2014, I had an encounter with a HSTS in a bar who started bashing on gay men for not wanting to interact with him. I was polite and let him speak, but he started referring to all of us as faggots because, god forbid, we go to gay bars to network with other gay men to find hook-ups and relationships. It's like his dumb ass forgot what these spaces were for the minute he started wearing high heels and downing estrogen.

Over the next few years, I had several encounters with HSTS & BSTS in gay bars that reaffirmed for me that transitioning is just about internalized self-hated. Everything they complain about gay men doing, they do ten-fold. Not to mention I've seen the amount of pressure they put on GNC gay men to transition, especially if they do drag.

CaptainMoose · 2021-09-16T17:57:49+00:00

As the resident bathhouse expert, this is where I need to sound off: most guys are expecting sexual interactions to be mutual. If a guy is blowing me, I may jerk him off or, if he only wants to touch himself, he will jerk off with his dick in plain view. In common areas, guys will display their dicks to signal interest (especially in the actual saunas). These women are going in with an idealized view of how things will play out, let alone their impact. Guys who wear more than a towel and maybe a pair of underwear are treated suspiciously.

These women are in for a rude awakening when their plans fail. I know long-time customers of the bathhouse I worked at say that they would never return if they started to let women in.

CaptainMoose · 2021-08-31T19:05:53+00:00

There's another integral part: having a pussy yourself.

CaptainMoose · 2022-01-24T07:08:23+00:00

My life is miserable and I wish every day that I might be stricken down so that nobody has to deal with me anymore.

I wish that for you, too.

I absolutely guarantee that I am physically stronger than most of you, dysproria is a massive motivator and though I am only a 19 I am as muscled as an avid bodybuilder because I absolutely cannot stand even an ounce of femininity in my own body. It’s not transphobic to not want to date a trans man, but you are dumb as fuck if you think trans men aren’t real men. I’m twice as man as you, I had to very literally fightnto be recognized as a man. Don’t call me a woman or a fake man. You don’t have to date me but I’ll punch your fucking lights out if you call me a woman. Absolutely fuck you if you think that fuck off or meet up with me and discover what it feels like to be punched into next week. I’m so angry I don’t even care. Fuck off if you’re triggered.

It sounds like you're the triggered one, ma'am.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-11T04:08:51+00:00

But holy shit these men are so boring. I have a full profile with my intrests listed, different questions or prompts, and that I am looking for a serious relationship.

Her interests based on her other posts: KPop, The Sims, and teen dramas. And even with the one she could actually be productive with, she doesn't make her own content (either mods/CC or stories). Her entire life is just consuming the work of others. She is a boring person projecting her insecurities onto gay men.

Despite that the only messages I get are ten different variations of "hey". Now, if I'm intrested in them I will respond to ask them a question, but I am confused as to why they seem to put in such a low amount of effort.

It's called playing it cool. Most messages beyond a quick hello always come across as creepy and unhinged. Part of having such a small dating pool is that it's really easy to memorize who gives off red flags- the axe may forget, but the tree will always remember.

Yes it's incredibly normal and incredibly sad. That being said you can find some amazing people! Just gotta search for the needle in the gay stack

Maybe don't look in the gay stack if you have a vag, sweetie. You girls have an entire world of heterosexual men to choose from. Grindr isn't the space where you can claim victimhood.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-01T05:06:28+00:00

"I thought I was a lesbian because I wanted to fuck gay men."

That's not how being a lesbian works in the slightest, you moron.

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-16T22:34:11+00:00

I think these heterosexual women leaving their heterosexual boyfriends/husbands because of their fetish for gay men keeps it relevant. Also this comment:

Exactly like cishet guys and trans guys cannot have a really healthy relationship

Highlights them grooming each other to go after gay men.

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-05T02:11:21+00:00

I'm glad some of the responders are telling him to drop the friends entirely. In my experience, the types of people who pressure others into dating someone they cannot consent to are typically sexual predators themselves.

CaptainMoose · 2021-04-21T11:00:43+00:00

"Phallic standards" just say we expect you to have a dick and for you to wash it.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-14T01:23:30+00:00

The only silver lining is that his behaviour was archived before he detransitioned. He can't play victim to the "LGBT community."

CaptainMoose · 2022-01-22T06:36:34+00:00

These women hate to see enthusiastic consent and it shows

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-30T23:30:42+00:00

Back when I used to do drag I was told by a HSTS prostitute that I would eventually transition. This guy goes back and forth between living as a "woman" who is disgusted with gay men to being a gay man who hates other gay men because of how ungrateful we are for all he's done for that city's LGBT community as a drag performer (despite the fact that he is a crackhead whose behaviour pretty much sank attendance to the one gay bar until it closed). He was kind of right- I did develop gender dysphoria and considered myself "non-binary" for a while. However, I realized it was a quarter life crisis because of how badly I wanted to perform mixed with the reality of my life and working 7 nights a week and watching my 20s go by.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-16T01:24:11+00:00

They're not suggesting you date bi/pan men because those guys date women, they're suggesting that because bi guys tend to be more secure in their sexuality than gay men, on average.

Bullshit.

Older culture is important and cool but we can keep parts of that and ditch things like transphobia, racism, and letting predatory older guys take advantage of younger guys as a "learning curve" (this one comes particularly with my local gay bath house in mind)

Interesting how you bring up predatory behaviour and yet are a woman who goes into a men's bathhouse. Like every single woman who tried to come down the stairs, get it through your fucking head that a good portion of the men that go there are exclusively same-sex attracted- we cannot consent to you. Even the bi men there are looking for dick. Also, at least in the bathhouse I worked at, we would encourage new guys to get rooms so they could have a place to shut out guys who wouldn't take no for an answer. Also, I banned the shit out of guys who had complaints lodged against them.

Oh, and a year ago Miss Woman up in the quote was self IDing as a lesbian.

CaptainMoose · 2022-01-08T21:03:27+00:00

What do you mean? Plenty of "cis" dick suffers from erectile dysfunction. Seems like both dicks function too similarly to be worth differentiating.

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-17T12:08:49+00:00

Mrbig_boi:

As a gay dude who dated both cis and trans men Personally i say trans guys are nicer and better Every cis guy i dated was kinda mean - straight up terrible every trans guy i dated was absolutely amazing i still miss my most recent trans ex Trans on trans relationships are top teir

Also Mrbig_boi:

Meow... FtM Catboy

Could it be entirely possible that every "transguy" you date is just endlessly validating while the "cis" men you date hold you accountable for your shit and that's why you think they are mean?

CaptainMoose · 2021-08-31T19:51:42+00:00

"they refuse to admit that you can transition into being gay."

No, you refuse to admit that despite hormones and surgeries you are still a heterosexual. Someone could fuck Jocelyn Wildenstein, that doesn't mean they are committing an act of beastiality just because she kind of looks like a cat.

CaptainMoose · 2020-10-07T06:13:18+00:00

Gatekeeping is "bad" in the same way boundaries are seen as "bad"- they force people to think critically about their behaviour and it's effect on others. No one likes having to self-reflect, especially if the only conclusion they can draw is that they may be the bad guy.

And I disagree with FrostyNugs; I've seen plenty of people in the older generation throw a hissy fit when you set up boundaries.

CaptainMoose · 2022-04-30T04:10:10+00:00

To my surprise, I was a very popular guy at the pool. I hadn't expected the penis-less guy to get much attention at a gay men's resort, but a lot of guys were very flattering and approached me to talk about my tattoos, being trans, etc. On the significantly weirder end of the spectrum, yesterday I found out one guy had thought I was cis and that I had chopped my dick off. I was like 😳😂😳 how did that seem like a more likely option than me being trans???

Do these women ever consider that gay men have been trained to be nice to them even when we are uncomfortable? Christ, the number of times I've had women thrust sexual shit on me and I've had to pretend I'm okay with it only for them to later think I'm secretly bi is too many to count. We don't tell you that you look pretty because we believe it, we do so because you throw temper tantrums even if we quietly look at our phones. We also run the risk of losing our jobs, not being promoted even if we merit it, and losing career connections if we set boundaries. Don't be fucking stupid, ma'am.

And to answer the general question, they will start invading single-sex private spaces such as parties and orgies because dopey white knights will bring them to be "inclusive."

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-12T22:55:09+00:00

Remember, they have to be on grindr to see you. Unless someone at your school is SO homophobic that they'd make a fake grindr account just to see who's gay (unlikely), the only 'new light' they're gonna see you in is 'potential boyfriend'

You mean like how you women are on a digital sexual space that was exclusively for men looking for who is gay like the homophobic trash you are?

Id throw my pics through face app or the like to change up my hair to make myself look a bit different and put that up, you get more people approaching you and you can just say oh that's just a cover here's a real pic (I'm not out in some parts of my life)

So further catfishing men who cannot consent to you and acting like you're somehow the victim?

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-10T06:46:13+00:00

Going through the post history and I found this. I think it's obvious that she (a) is a girl, (b) is from a Muslim family so she had the fucked up sex roles for girls thrust on her EXTRA hard, (c) doesn't want to be a girl/woman because her mom is an asshole and doesn't want to be a boy/man because her dad is a creep, and (d) has been groomed into hating her body by her heterosexual parents.

I feel bad for her. This is why I don't trust a lot of parents who go around claiming that their kid has ROGD and act like they're a fucking victim or that it sprung out of nowhere.

CaptainMoose · 2021-08-31T19:12:45+00:00

"You can say no, but if you don't we will harass you out of the few spaces in your local area that once prioritized same-sex attraction."

CaptainMoose · 2020-10-07T06:18:38+00:00

Gay/homosexual is an apt description of my body and it's responses to sexual stimuli. I am biologically a man and I am only aroused by other biological men (not all of them, just the ones who take decent care of themselves and are my age or older). My body does not respond to biological women in the same way it does men. If it did, I would be bisexual.

I also don't find women physically attractive in any way. I can respect them and admire their innate individual qualities, but everything about them including their faces and how they smell are not physically attractive to me.

CaptainMoose · 2022-04-12T14:56:20+00:00

The possible locations this happened are : Roxy's, a lesbian bar in Buffalo up until 2014, and The Roxy, a restaurant in Portland that closed a couple weeks ago that had a for everyone policy.

Probably was the latter. Also, for more proof of the guy being a creep who doesn't respect boundaries:

He's being called out for being 29 and posting on r/teenagers

CaptainMoose · 2021-11-15T08:21:23+00:00

"My ex."

CaptainMoose · 2020-10-09T19:53:18+00:00

Yeah, the panhandling pisses me off, too. I've felt this way long before the pandemic hit. Since many LGB people struggle with poverty, every dollar we have to our names counts. Getting mad at us for not donating to your surgery fund is tone deaf.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-11T05:34:25+00:00

These women base their entire sense of being "male" off of mass-marketed images of men directed at them for their consumption.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-06T12:08:40+00:00

Apart from H, these are literally things she could already do with a boyfriend. However, from an earlier post of her's:

I'm also not a "cuddly" person and I'm very awkward to talk to, to be frank; I'm usually the one to always ask if my partner is okay because I pick up on little things like body language and how they talk and how it changes every 5 seconds.

She is insufferable. Also:

i hate my tiddies and want to get them off me but they're a great stim toy and i want bigger tiddies because stimmy

She is not someone who should undergo unnecessary surgery. She is indecisive and will absolutely detransition in the future.

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-02T22:00:57+00:00

Correction: she's bi, with a biological male (as if there is any other), and they are unicorn hunting on Grindr for other dysphoric women.

CaptainMoose · 2021-09-10T02:41:20+00:00

"Grindr match" you don't match on Grindr. You are capable of messaging any profile. Stop projecting Tinder on other apps for your heterosexual audience.

CaptainMoose · 2021-03-18T18:29:55+00:00

The real issue here is that the gay guy was up for trying to act against his sexual orientation and so hurt the trans man.

He probably didn't clock that she was a woman until they met in person. He also probably didn't want her to make a scene if he ended things abruptly, so he ran the clock until whatever date activity they were doing was over.

CaptainMoose · 2021-01-04T16:43:30+00:00

He could have benefited more from investing in braces than horse piss pills.

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-23T23:59:38+00:00

The one who had a crush on a gay guy when she was a kid is 35 years old according to another post... and is obsessed with kpop. 1

The one who loves cute animals, Disney movies, and ballet is 31 (or 32 since their age was given 6 months ago). 2

The one who brought up her touching the genitals of another kid doesn't list her age, but her photo makes her look like she's in her early to mid 20s.

But yeah, they aren't pre-teen or even teen girls posting there. These are fully grown adult women.

CaptainMoose · 2021-08-27T05:45:49+00:00

At least on reddit, if you look at who is commenting positively on the nudes of FtMs, it's other women or openly bisexual men. The validation isn't coming from who you think it is, hun.

CaptainMoose · 2021-08-04T13:54:19+00:00

It's easy not to feel sexual attraction when your husband dyes his beard radiation green and stretches his ear lobes wide enough to fit three dicks.

CaptainMoose · 2022-01-08T01:46:32+00:00

At least the guy he was talking about didn't seem as lost

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-04T01:11:57+00:00

I’m trying to sort some similar things out. The dating apps are so fucked. Can’t they just ask people if they’re okay dating an FTM in the settings? it could be so simple!!

It was implied that you weren't supposed to be on Grindr since it was an app for same-sex attracted men before a Chinese company had it's way.

What’s the cutoff for the definition of chasers? Some gay cis men seem to be like “oh hey that’s really cool, I’m into that!” Especially stone tops.

The conflation and appropriation of terms used by different sects of same-sex attracted people (stone for lesbians, tops for gay men) fucking sends me.

CaptainMoose · 2021-11-07T20:26:07+00:00

I went there and there's a story that says "shemale" in the transgender category, bit of a yikes there :/

Boohoo, the fetishist doesn't like being fetishized.

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-07T00:38:16+00:00

There's a certain kind of gay man who embodies the gender-critical vibe. He’s white, middle class and exactly 45 years old, and even though he works as a corporate lawyer, he thinks teenagers with dyed blue hair are an oppressor class.

They really don't get that gay men put ourselves in the shoes of gay teenagers and understand what it's like to deal with these people on a peer level. Some of us are not that far off from our teenage/young adult years (which is why they need to paint the caricature as being a man in his mid-40s). We know what it's like to feel isolated when we try and access spaces that once prioritized same-sex attraction and think we are the only ones who can smell the bullshit.

CaptainMoose · 2020-09-24T08:14:27+00:00

So Boystown, which was formed by the hard work of gay men, has to change it's name because it isn't inclusive enough to the people who did fuck all?

Not to mention, the majority were against the name change.

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-11T17:50:46+00:00

He's giving you the side eye because he knows from experience that many of the women who enter our spaces don't give a fuck about whether or not we consent and will make a scene if you even glare at them when they sexually assault you. He's observing where you physically are in the room so he can take evasive measures to protect himself.

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-03T23:49:31+00:00

Yup, penis and all :)

CaptainMoose · 2021-09-02T22:27:58+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Vaaxn8LHLk

I just want to link the last video he made publicly (not Onlyfans). I genuinely feel that this is a case of transitioning to try and start a new life that he couldn't because of the way his viral fame as a teenager has followed him even into his 30s. However, he has developed no marketable skills over the years, so he still has to try and work online as "Cara" to get by. He starts the video ranting about getting potentially cancelled for the smallest things.

CaptainMoose · 2021-02-17T18:56:48+00:00

To add to my list of reasons from last time:

I'm sick of finding out that the spaces my generation carved out for LGB youth are now the same ones that alienate them to accommodate creepy straight girls going through a phase. I'm sick of how, when they inevitably detransition, they always cast themselves in the role of the victim for being tempted by "the gay" while failing to recognize the other kids in that space and their impact on them.
I'm sick of blocking every fifth person on a gay men's hook up app because they happen to be a biological woman. I'm sick of having to accommodate the feelings of mentally ill women who will blame gay men if she gets her feelings hurt while having zero self-awareness about how invasive, predatory, and violating her actions are. I'm sick of watching spaces gay men built for themselves, both in real life and online, even if they are imperfect, get gutted for "transmen."
I'm sick of every LGB space or resource needing to be T-inclusive or provide for every letter of the alphabet. Lesbians need their own spaces and services as do gay men as do bisexuals. Not everything we make should have the same "queer" slant. Sometimes we only want to expend our energy on our own demographics and that's okay.

CaptainMoose · 2021-01-10T15:16:03+00:00

He probably won't see this, but I want to address the following:

Some of the most common things that make me feel bad about myself are; I can't ever have biological kids, my risk of STD infection is statistically astronomically higher than if I was straight, read something about painful perforations due to long term anal sex as well.

You wouldn't have been able to have biological kids with a man either way if you had transitioned. You can still foster/adopt and it may be in your best interest in the future to foster LGB youth that get kicked out of their homes so you can prevent them from going through the same internalized homophobia you experienced as well as have insight into what a toxic same-sex relationship looks like from the inside so you can catch things before they get out of hand.
Your risk of STD/STI infection was the same as a "straight transwoman." If you want to prevent STIs, use condoms and insist on protection with every sexual encounter, even in relationships. Too often guys think that dating someone for three months and getting tested means they did the right thing when three months is hardly enough time to known if someone has been exclusive with you or not. Prioritize your health and safety in your relationships so you don't become a statistic.
According to other statistics (that I've heard of via word of mouth), most same-sex male couples don't engage in anal. Oral and manual sex are fairly common and don't lead to anal perforations/tearing. Again, if you have concerns, prioritize your health and safety.

CaptainMoose · 2021-01-09T16:05:40+00:00

Ironically, the funniest part of the most recent episode was her little freak out about the lyrics giving her gender dysphoria because it would out her as trans to the other contestants. One, she wrote those lyrics herself. All the men in the room wrote lyrics gassing themselves up about being iconic and fierce while she just wrote about how you were born a woman. Nothing was stopping her from doing the same thing. Two, I really don't think most of the cast didn't already clock her. Granted, the "winners" circle seems to be primarily shorter men than the "losers" circle which was probably done to blend her in on camera.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-02T06:43:36+00:00

You know what? At least she's doing something useful instead of whining on Twitter about how gay men don't want to fuck her. Probably means she's a self-hating lesbian.

CaptainMoose · 2021-11-07T22:55:45+00:00

She sounds like a theyfab. She is using you as a queer phase. She will find a cis man and start a family after she is done exploring. Her 20s is for herself.

The irony is that the girlfriend sounds more like a lesbian than the OP (who at best is a self-hating bisexual woman who prefers men).

CaptainMoose · 2020-11-27T10:15:37+00:00

On our end, almost all consequences of FtM uwu can be avoided simply by limiting any meaningful social contact with FtMs, which shouldn't be difficult.

I feel that this is much easier on paper than it is in practice. It isn't just FtMs whose harassment and sexual misconduct/assault/battery we have to worry about; it's also anyone who sips the TRA juice and white knights for them. If you have one gay bar in a metro area and the FtMs and their enablers make it hostile to you, you're going to have an even harder time finding a partner.

all for some stupid fantasy that can easily be worked around by dating some metrosexual straight guy who would be happy to have them.

Given how greasy most FtMs look, I doubt a metrosexual straight guy would want to touch them with a 10ft pole. They're more likely to pursue normie, mentally healthy straight girls.

I really feel bad for these women in spite of their obnoxiousness.

I don't. As much as some people look at them like modern day emo kids, I view them more like the creepy girls who dated closeted guys.

CaptainMoose · 2023-01-28T00:34:06+00:00

She looks like a good candidate for 13 or 30.

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-15T18:26:59+00:00

But as one of the most privileged people within the LGBT community...

Very few gay men are wealthy. The majority of us, despite being a well-educated class, are often unemployed or underemployed. Kurtis, as an example, has dropped hints of coming from an underprivileged background and struggled to find stability in life because of the homophobic violence he was subject to. You, despite being an HSTS according to your other tweets, would probably get this and understand it if you weren't such a narcissistic void who treats the other gay men around you like NPCs.

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-31T01:57:30+00:00

Stop dating people; we don't need you in the pool.

The only other time I've heard this rhetoric was during the height of the "no one has to tell you their HIV status" discourse and the "masc4masc is internalized homophobia" discourse (among others that bombarded gay men in the 2010s). People are allowed to have their sexual boundaries whether or not it excludes you. That is part of the process of finding and establishing a romantic relationship.

Also, it's not just the genitals. It's every little bit of the body of the other sex that homosexuals don't want to touch intimately or be touched by.

CaptainMoose · 2021-07-25T14:27:21+00:00

Guess I'm one of those male lesbians now

CaptainMoose · 2020-09-23T17:58:49+00:00

You aren't alone. There are plenty of gay men who don't buy into the trans ideology. I know and work with a few of them. The problem is, so many of us have been beaten down over other hot button topics that affect our population (such as HIV, preferences, etc.) that we keep our mouths shut if we want to navigate what were once our spaces.

CaptainMoose · 2022-05-27T21:34:05+00:00

One thing I will say on the subject of David Levithan- I think it's interesting that his most successful work has always centered or included heterosexuality (Nick & Norah's Infinite Playlist, Every Day, etc.) while he works that center on the often uncomfortable experiences of gay teenage boys (Wide Awake, Boy Meets Boy, etc.) never seem to get adapted or celebrated.

CaptainMoose · 2022-01-08T02:20:29+00:00

Scared? Not really for myself, but definitely scared for Gen Z gay men and boys. I know my experiences as a Millennial teenager and the shit I went through from straight people, including straight girl "allies" (such as sexual assault), so I can only imagine how much worse it is when those girls are now saying they are you and are enabled by everyone around them.

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-31T02:58:15+00:00

A lot of distress over my body and this clawing anxiety that I was losing time each passing night I worked. I wanted my body to be both masculine and feminine. I didn't want surgery (except to fix parts of my face that I would want to change regardless) or hormones because I just wanted to exist naturally. I was shaving my legs, which gave me some relief because it was a physical action I could see myself accomplish when I did it. I grew my hair out, but it became too inconvenient to take care of because of my work schedule so I had it all chopped off. I also hated having to wear suits and dress shirts to work (I still hate them because they are too heavy and the collars of dress shirts choke me out). What's wild is that years earlier I was sporting a goatee and was comfortable and proud of that.

It's weird to describe desisting, but chopping the hair off was like a reverse Samson moment. I got a lot of clarity in just letting go and being practical. I started coming to terms with unresolved traumas, the fact that I didn't feel agency over my body because of my work and living situations at the time (this was pre-bathhouse), and ending up moving cities and growing my beard and body hair back out. I junked all my makeup and drag stuff (should have sold it, honestly), paid off my debt, and having just been coasting through the pandemic working toward new goals and asserting my agency in various ways that can't be taken from me.

CaptainMoose · 2022-05-17T13:19:44+00:00

No one owes you an explanation for why they aren't interested. If someone blocks you, get over it. If someone slams a door in your face because you won't take no for an answer (bathhouse example), it doesn't make them the asshole. You are a woman on an app for same-sex attracted men looking for same-sex sexual encounters- you are inherently deranged and predatory for doing what you are doing. Blocking you is the smartest thing this guy could do to make sure your psycho ass doesn't destroy his reputation by screenshotting everything and trying to "expose" him.

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-31T17:10:53+00:00

Bisexual men who call themselves gay: Displays enthusiastic consent.

This self-hating rape fetishist: No, I need you to suffer so I can get off!

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-25T19:33:04+00:00

I’ve been on PrEP for over a year now and it’s helped me explore my sexuality a lot since my main concern was contracting HIV.

Imagine being a woman and thinking you need to take additional medication to explore having sex with a man (or at least medication that is more expensive than birth control and condoms).

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-15T20:10:27+00:00

Because there was a huge push a decade ago when Grindr first started becoming popular about how putting "no X" on your profile was prejudiced. Gay men were shamed and doxxed for asserting boundaries by one another. Other people outside of gay men starting piling on to shame gay men for being "racist" or "fatphobic" all the while straight, white women could swipe right on Tinder on any guy darker than Italian and heavier than what he can lift without facing the same backlash.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-10T22:32:14+00:00

I looked up the prosthetic she mentioned and found their website. Some of them even have "foreskin." Like... do you not think someone would get suspicious when they can't push it back. Even phimosis has some tug.

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