Do individuals with CAIS have female sex organs? Or do they have male sex organs? by HOWABOUTNO in GenderCritical

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I remember watching a little briefing on CAIS and if I remember correctly, they do possess female sex organs. The complication that comes up with them is that they are also born with internal gonads but they're non-functional and are dormant.

I don't think there's been a condition where a person born with male genitalia, was also born with a uterus.

‘I’m team Terf’: Dave Chappelle under fire over pro-JK Rowling trans stance by saiditting in GenderCritical

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Nice to hear that your partner didn't take what you showed her lightly and even if she didn't fully peak, like you said the seed has been planted and when she sees more of this gross mentality towards black women from these trans-identified men, she'll eventually come around. It's like once you start seeing this kinda stuff, you become more acutely observant when you see it

I actually went back to the video and filtered the comments by "newest" and there actually some black women who were getting peaked so yeah, I think this video and another one that I saw pop up by another black woman creator talking about Nikita Dragun (though I haven't watched that one yet), this is all good to see.

‘I’m team Terf’: Dave Chappelle under fire over pro-JK Rowling trans stance by saiditting in GenderCritical

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Yeah I agree with all you said. I actually was watching Karen Davis from You're Kidding Right where she was speaking with Jennifer Bilek and Jennifer mentioned something that is pretty true with how the trans thing seems to be more of a white thing then a black thing because black people have "culture". I had to step back and think about it and I think she made a decent observation. Because you don't typically see black men coming out as "transbians". You mostly just see black gay men transing out and it's because of internalized homophobia as well as dealing with homophobia in black dominated spaces as well as dealing with the hardships of being an effeminate gay man in general in the gay dating scene so they trans out thinking it will make their lives better (which it really doesn't) but anyway yeah, this is more than likely why black women have a harder time seeing the truth about transgender ideology.

But if more black women saw what many trans-identified men think of them as aka don't really consider them women because they aren't white women, I feel like they'd sooner see how misogynistic and racist the ideology is.

‘I’m team Terf’: Dave Chappelle under fire over pro-JK Rowling trans stance by saiditting in GenderCritical

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I can see where you're coming from even though I wish people (men) would stop shutting women out and actually listen to why women don't support the ideology that is trying to erase them/you. But it also kinda irritates me when some women try to tow the line with the ideology like they won't call trans-identified men what they really are and call them "transwoman". I especially get disheartened when I see black women do this because black women are some of the biggest targets from these trans-identified men who love to make the accusation that black women are like men. Like I was watching a bit of this video and I could finish it because I was getting too frustrated by the woman trying to tow the line and validate these men and the comments weren't any better. I mean I understand why they're most likely doing this but they have to realize that by playing along with these larpers is not gonna help.

Sadly sticking up for women is the quickest way for a man to lose friends and allies though.

Unfortunately you're right but the saddest thing that got me with this is that all my friends were women...

‘I’m team Terf’: Dave Chappelle under fire over pro-JK Rowling trans stance by saiditting in GenderCritical

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I think it's kinda true that black men have more of a social cache when talking this stuff. Well to an extent because as a black man myself who officially came out in support of women, I did face some backlash as all my friends abandoned me and on the video where I made my support known, I've gotten a few nasty comments. Not really rape threats, only got 2 but yet I can only imagine how much women get.

Disappointed in Vanessa Vokey by shinnygummy in GenderCritical

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Yeah I mean I'd like to hope that maybe I'm really just misinterpreting her but it's just that the tone of her in the video and how she came across in our little chat just seems like she really does feel a certain way about men wearing feminine items and then how she thinks it's no big deal if a woman decides to wear a skirt or pants.

People claiming that clothes determine a person's sex is the problem, and she knows that.

Yeah it should be about choice I feel.

Disappointed in Vanessa Vokey by shinnygummy in GenderCritical

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I thought she meant AGP men as well but then when I was having my back and forth comment with her in the comments section, she kinda revealed a little more about her feelings on men wearing things like dresses and skirts. I'll give her the makeup argument because she was being consistent in the sense that she thinks no one, woman or man should be wearing makeup because of the ingredients used in it but the skirts and dresses thing is where she had a tad more stronger views on. She was mainly saying that men (she was specifically say "you" but I get what she was trying to infer) who wear dresses and skirts do it for attention whether positive or negative and when I explained that I thought "men's clothing" was boring and restrictive, she replied that I felt that way because men's fashion makes men blend together and not stand out from one another and so I started wearing skirts to be seen as different.

But the thing is that even if skirts were normalized for men, I'd still occasionally wear them like I do now because I just think they look nice (mostly maxi skirts) and they go well with the style I like to go for in my own personal look.

You're probably right that maybe she wasn't trying to infer that every man who wear feminine garb do it for fetish but it just kinda came off that way at the time.

Unfortunately I was born in 91 so I missed the 80s but I watch videos of what it was like and it was so cool seeing men and women breaking the gender norms and not calling themselves some made up "Gender identity" and just more or less owned it. Robert Smith, Siouxsie Sioux (when she wore pantsuits), Pete Burns, Annie Lennox, etc. It was great. Heck even Boy George came out telling people to stop worrying about pronouns, it was awesome lol.

Blaire White's photoshoot

I know haha. But it's the comical hip pads that really got me, it's just not flattering at all...

Disappointed in Vanessa Vokey by shinnygummy in GenderCritical

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She said it in the video "Men in dresses are not our allies", it was a snippet from a livestream she did. I remember commenting on it and we had a short little back and fourth and it ended with us agreeing to disagree. It was pretty civil all things considered, I was just taken aback that she believes that but then again, I understand why because so many AGPs can be so... Uncouth and it probably did get to her, especially since she does have some more conservative views. And since men like me (the ones who dress unironically feminine with no sexual pretense) are rare to come across, it can be harder to see that not all men who present femininely are doing it for a fetish.

Her comments on Blaire White, I could sorta see where she was coming from because of the various things that Blaire does that are pornographic stereotypes of women like mostly dressing in lingerie as outfits and/or short skirts/mini dresses with high heels and always showing off his moob cleavage. The lip popping, the dead eyed/open mouth look he'd do in his thumbnails (he doesn't do it as much anymore), this photoshooot he did, how he would jiggle his moobs on camera sometimes in his videos/interviews, etc. I don't know if "AGP" is the right term for it but it's clear that Blaire acting this way may reflect on how he thinks women are. But where the AGP doesn't make sense for him is that I'm more than sure he does all those things to be seen as attractive to men and isn't getting off on it himself per say but getting off on the praise he gets from comments but especially the comments from men, that's usually how it is for HSTS.

Disappointed in Vanessa Vokey by shinnygummy in GenderCritical

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I understand why some may not want to get vaccinated but I dunno, I'm just getting tired of this because who knows when we will leave "mask world" and I really hope this really will not be our new normal for the next like 5 years, eugh... lol I just want things to go back to normal now y'know? I understand that covid was serious when it first hit and a lot of people did get affected by it (including myself, I caught it back in 2020) but I feel like we more or less have a better handle on it now then we did in 2020.

Disappointed in Vanessa Vokey by shinnygummy in GenderCritical

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Yeah, I'm very thankful for the gender critical videos that's she made because she made so many good points and continually stood her ground even when she got dogpiled on by Samantha Lux's fans. But the anti-vax/anti-mask thing totally came from left field and I can't get behind that neither. I get that we're living in trying times right and the masks are annoying to have to wear but this is why the vaccines are being made, so we can return back to normalcy and people refusing to get vaccinated are not helping matters and will be the reason why we stay in "mask world".

But aside from this and what she said about how any man who dresses in feminine clothing are perverted fetishists (it concerned me as a feminine GNC man myself who doesn't do what I do for fetish or sexual gratification), I still support her as a GC speaker and I just treat this as someone who I think makes good content but I don't agree with her on everything kinda deal.

"You're only Gender Critical because you're jealous" by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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Yeah I sometimes get that but it's true, it's not been easy because I'm a magnet for closet-cases and I'm not willing to deal with that lol.

"You're only Gender Critical because you're jealous" by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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Oh a little clarification. I'm a gay effeminate man. I usually get the "You're jealous" accusation from trans-identified males.

Also - I’m not being rude or denigrating gay men - but if you are gay you can find sex wherever, someone is always willing - it’s finding someone you want to have relations with that is the issue.

And yes this is true but where i am in live, I'm looking for something more than hookups so that's why I struggle more with a nearly dead dating life lol. i turn 30 this month and I came out at 16 and I can say that I went through my 20s never being in any relationship.

"You're only Gender Critical because you're jealous" by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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Oh no no, I'm a gay man. I'm just more on the feminine side of things including having a more feminine presentation.

I've met a straight woman who was considering being trans solely because she wanted to fuck gay guys as a top.

Eugh. Yeah like you said, your friend is better off finding an effeminate straight or bisexual man because no gay man would want to do that with her.

"You're only Gender Critical because you're jealous" by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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Right lol It's just their narcissistic rage kicking in because how dare someone not validate their fantasy.

"You're only Gender Critical because you're jealous" by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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Yeah you're right. And I think when you refuse to play along with them, they go into a narcissistic rage because they're so used to most people bending over for them so when they find people (especially women) who don't play along with their fantasy, they can't process it.

Is "Gender" really just "Masculinity", "Femininty", and "Androgyny"? by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

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It's funny because back when I did believe in Transgenderism, I didn't believe in Non-binary at all and when I went back and analyzed why I didn't believe in NB, this reflection made me see that even trans ideology doesn't make any sense how they define it lol.

Is "Gender" really just "Masculinity", "Femininty", and "Androgyny"? by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

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Ah I see. So it was essentially a bastardization of terms then? That essentially "Gender" was tied to "Gender Roles" and then eventually created "Gender Expression" as a way to break out of the rigidness of gender roles but the TRAs got hold of it and used it as a baseless term to define themselves and then NBS followed suit with this meaningless definition. Because you always hear these people say "Identify as gender" and it just doesn't make sense because they use "man" and "woman" as gender when that isn't their definition.

It's why whenever you ask these people to define "man' and "woman", they cannot do that.

TiM (literally) beats woman in MMA debut. Women's sport takes another step backwards. by Peak_Condition in GenderCritical

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Not only that. They want to beat and abuse women while also winning an award for it.. The prestige, the courage. /s eugh...

TRA Argument, need some help (having to do with bathroom) by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

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Agreed.

TRA Argument, need some help (having to do with bathroom) by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

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Right exactly. Unless it was absolutely a last resort, I'm more than sure these fathers would make due with what they have.

TRA Argument, need some help (having to do with bathroom) by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

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Very interesting, thanks for sharing!

TRA Argument, need some help (having to do with bathroom) by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

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Right exactly. I've read from some other women that they have seen men changing baby's diapers in women's restrooms but ti's almost entirely rare, especially since it's just like you said, most places that receive lots of business have family restrooms anyway so this dude was just pulling things out of his butt to be honest.

TRA Argument, need some help (having to do with bathroom) by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

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Thank you for sharing and yeah, there really should be more options for men who want to care for their baby. Thankfully where I live, most places do have a family bathroom.

TRA Argument, need some help (having to do with bathroom) by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

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Thanks for the explanation and I agree, it's pretty clear that if you see a man bringing in a baby with him and it's an obvious baby and not some toy used as a prop (lol), it's clear he just wants to do his due diligence and care for his child and be in and out. I have not come across any incidents of a man using a baby or small child as a prop to perv and be a creep towards women so it's generally okay.

The racial thing, don't even get me started. These people just can't hold in the opportunity to show their racism when it comes to this can't they?

TRA Argument, need some help (having to do with bathroom) by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

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Thank you. I looked around some more to get some insight from other women and they pretty much said the same thing so I see that it's okay that this and ONLY this is the exception where a man going into a woman's restroom is okay because it's for the well-being of the child.

So this TRA is just making a nonsensical argument.

TRA Argument, need some help (having to do with bathroom) by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

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Yeah I was thinking more about the father angle and it's a poor argument. I was curious though and looked around to see of cases of fathers using women's bathrooms to change their baby's diapers and the women were saying they didn't have a problem with it and I think the difference between a father using the space and a creepy fetishistic AGP is that the father comes in with a baby and changing supplies which should signal that he's just there to change his baby's diaper and believe me, I know that there can be the possibility of a man using the child as a prop to gain access to female only spaces but thankfully so far I didn't come across any cases of this.

Nonetheless, you're right that it's a weak argument he made on that part. I'm not sure if this guy is a "male feminist" to be honest but I wouldn't be surprised if he was.

The racism definitely annoys me but there's not much I can say on that angle that this pissant won't try to twist so I probably won't even bother addressing it.

Any Gender Critical guys here who are also into videos games/anime/etc, geek stuff. And how are you managing in these communities? by Kai_Decadence in GenderCriticalGuys

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Unfortunately my social circle is pretty dead since coming out. Everyone left and now I'm on the fence of trying to meet new people in the art scene because so many are bleeding heart TRAs... I'm sure there are some others who can see through the bullshit that is gender ideology but they're probably hiding themselves

Any Gender Critical guys here who are also into videos games/anime/etc, geek stuff. And how are you managing in these communities? by Kai_Decadence in GenderCriticalGuys

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Very well said and yeah, it would be nice to find other artists and geeks who don't buy into this nonsense TRA crap.

Any Gender Critical guys here who are also into videos games/anime/etc, geek stuff. And how are you managing in these communities? by Kai_Decadence in GenderCriticalGuys

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I couldn't read through the whole story because I was getting annoyed at the situation and the ass kissing they were doing for this man but I got the gist. That poor woman, she didn't have a chance against this ex-marine and I can't believe people aren't seeing just how fucked up the situation is. As for the trans-identified man, it's clear why he thinks he's a woman, he came from a super homophobic background and I can sympathize as a gay man myself who is also on the feminine presenting side but I still think it's wrong that he participated in a woman's sports competition.

Any Gender Critical guys here who are also into videos games/anime/etc, geek stuff. And how are you managing in these communities? by Kai_Decadence in GenderCriticalGuys

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You're unfortunately right. It was bound to happen in the arts and geek culture because imagination and creativity are big in these spaces but at least back then people more or less could separate fiction from reality and it was only a minority who were believers of nonsense... And as someone who is an artist and also in to the gaming/animation side of things, it freaking sucks how so many of these people eat up this nonsense with no critical thought whatsoever...

Any Gender Critical guys here who are also into videos games/anime/etc, geek stuff. And how are you managing in these communities? by Kai_Decadence in GenderCriticalGuys

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I'm sorry that happened to you and yeah, I experienced a similar thing. I recently came out as a person who doesn't believe in transgenderism publicly and all my friends ditched me, 2 of which silently ghosted me so I get the possible feeling.

Any Gender Critical guys here who are also into videos games/anime/etc, geek stuff. And how are you managing in these communities? by Kai_Decadence in GenderCriticalGuys

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I find there's still a lot out there, especially on Youtube. A lot of people are normal and don't subscribe to this stuff. Far more than those that do, I suspect.

I guess I just haven't been lucky then on my end. When I came out in support of JK Rowling and then later came out admitting I don't buy into Trans ideology, all my friends left and they were all in the gaming/geek fandom. Granted I didn't have many friends to begin with but still, it definitely did kinda shock me because they didn't even try to ask why I felt the way I did. Then I got banned from a few groups when word got out that I was "transphobic" (aka didn't believe in trans ideology) and it was just a weird ride to say the least.

Also, if the Youtuber you liked recently transitioned but is otherwise still providing you with good gaming related entertainment, I don't see why you shouldn't keep watching him. If he's transitioned and begun to make it a big deal and peppered his channel with nutso SJW woke extreme leftist garbage, then you should find someone else. Like all things, personality is the most important thing, and if the guy isn't an annoying douche about it and you aren't uncomfortable with it, who cares what gender he thinks he is?

The Youtuber in question is actually a woman who thinks she's a man and I have a good feeling as to why she thinks this. I've watched her channel for years and she checks certain check boxes on why women start to believe they're men. But anyway, I think the thing that makes it hard for me to watch her is that she's trying to put on this fake "masc" voice and it sounds so unnatural and not "her" and she usually makes long-form content and I just couldn't sit through her trying this so put on voice.

Any Gender Critical guys here who are also into videos games/anime/etc, geek stuff. And how are you managing in these communities? by Kai_Decadence in GenderCriticalGuys

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D-Did this really happen???

Not knowing if you can continue living in a world of Gender Woo as a Gender Critical person? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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Thanks! I really wanna get them started but I'm currently in a bit of a tricky living situation right now but I'm hoping to get things into motion hopefully by the end of this month or in October because I really wanna get that follow up video done lol.

Not knowing if you can continue living in a world of Gender Woo as a Gender Critical person? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you so much for the kind words, they do help. It's been pretty rough the last couple of months. I don't really regret coming out because it feels good not having to lie about the truth and I really want to help other GNC people but especially the youth who are being suckered into the trans lie and damaging their bodies with the HRT and surgeries if they go through with that.

But yeah, it's just really tough trying to adjust to all this when it comes to personal relationships...

Not knowing if you can continue living in a world of Gender Woo as a Gender Critical person? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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You raise some good points, there has been so much going on when it comes to the trans ideology and slowly the truth of the insanity is coming out and all but it's still gonna take some more push to truly see actual change. I'm really hoping that the rapists being put in women's prisons will be a big turning point. I do get everything you're saying.

I think for me, it's just having to continue on living in lonesome. I lost all the people I ever talked to when I came out in support of JK Rowling and my not believing in transgenderism and it's just been so rough trying to push through live having not much of any people to talk to. Because I'm paranoid to even bother trying to talk and make friends with people these days because I fear that when they learn I don't buy into transgender, they're gonna leave me. Dating has been a crapshoot but to be fair, it's always been a crapshoot for me. It's just overwhelming sometimes, I can't lie but I'm gonna try and hold out and just push through life.

Not knowing if you can continue living in a world of Gender Woo as a Gender Critical person? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you for sharing this. :)

Not knowing if you can continue living in a world of Gender Woo as a Gender Critical person? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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Oh my I'm so sorry you went through that...

Not knowing if you can continue living in a world of Gender Woo as a Gender Critical person? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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Right and that's the reason why I haven't gotten a dog yet. I just don't have the time and to give a dog all the attention they'll inevitably need just yet but when I do, I'll definitely be getting one. :)

Not knowing if you can continue living in a world of Gender Woo as a Gender Critical person? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you. Yeah it's been a struggle for sure and sometimes it can be a little overwhelming but I know that there is a silver lining to these kinds of things, there just has to be. But thanks again, your comment helped. :)

Not knowing if you can continue living in a world of Gender Woo as a Gender Critical person? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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Aw thank you haha

Not knowing if you can continue living in a world of Gender Woo as a Gender Critical person? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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I mean you're not wrong that dating for gay men is a lot more difficult because many are just into hooking and what's worse is that these days, you're seeing a lot more gay/bi men in open relationships popping up and if you're someone who's trying to look for other single guys, it just adds another layer of frustration sorting you have to be mindful of. Yeah being feminine but more specifically feminine presenting because I think there are some gay men who don't mind guys with a more feminine personality as long as they still present in a masculine style but if the guy is also feminine presenting like I am? That's where they have problems. And right, my being black probably doesn't help neither...

i currently don't have any pets but in recent years I've been thinking about getting a dog because it would be nice to have something in the flesh that'd be happy to see me (lol). But no seriously, I do plan on maybe getting a dog in the future when I have a more stable living situation. Cats are cool but I just was always drawn more to dogs lol

Not knowing if you can continue living in a world of Gender Woo as a Gender Critical person? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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Yep! I currently have 2 channels, one for Goth & Music and another for Video Games. And I'll be having a third channel where I expand more on my gender-critical views as well as other LGB topics.

And when I get finished with this other video I'm working out where I explain why I don't believe in Transgenderism, I'll share the link to my third channel :)

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I'm so sorry that you go through all this but I do understand, I have autism and my anxiety was/is pretty bad as well so I get the struggle. I won't lie, part of me does hope that I can become a representation of a feminine presentng gay men who can help spread the message that it's okay to be this way. Granted it has made my life a little rough since unfortunately feminine presenting men are just not seen as that much of a positive thing but still, "transing" out is not to fix this. It's not progressive neither. So I'm hoping that as I continue to talk about my experiences as well as address why trans is such a lie, it'll do some good for the LGB community but especially the LGB youths who are growing up being indoctrinated into this trans crap.

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I can imagine lol But I mean at least you don't have to deal with gender extremists because those people tend to be all over the art world... lol And I'll try :)

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Thank you for the adivce and kind words. I'm feeling a lot better now then I did when I wrote the post. Granted depression is something I've dealt with since middle school but I know that it doesn't have to last forever. You're right that it sometimes does feel hopeless since this trans madness has poisoned and riddled itself in gay spaces converting gays and lesbians to swallow it with no question. I think it was just a lot to take in when I started getting banned from the places I used to hang out in and chat with others and then seeing all these horrible things written about me and I had no way to defend myself since I was blocked. But I do want to keep trying and not give in or give up. I just need to remember that things can change in time and I'm hoping the same can happen for me as well and hopefully for the better.

I just don't have any personal friends or family I could talk to about this. I mean I've talked with my brother who's gay about my views and he thinks I'm crazy and "spend too much time on the internet" because he's not aware how trans is affecting women's rights and spaces (or he doesn't really care since he's not a woman and all his female friends are fine with trans-identified men using women only spaces). There is one person who I feel might not fully buy into trans but I'm not sure and I'm afraid if I talk with her about it, she'll just think I'm "transphobic" and I just don't think I can deal with another one of that right now. But yeah, I just don't have anyone IRL I can talk to about this stuff who agrees with me. If things do get worse, I'll more than likely just seek a mental health professional .

Hearing your story does give me hope though that maybe my life can turn around too. Thank you for sharing yours, it really helped.

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Your previous friends suck. If you're feeling down, there are some simple things you can try, that I can vouch for. Go outside, get some sun, do a bit of exercise, eat food with vegetables, go to bed early. There are real physiological reasons why I feel happier after doing these things.

I'm just shocked that they just up and dropped me and I recently found out that one of them even went so far as to bad mouth me calling me this horrible, disgusting "transphobe" who they didn't want to be associated with anymore (this ex-friend blocked me so I didn't know until someone else told me but this person also dropped me as well). I get not agreeing but it hurt they took it that far because even though I've been vocally GC, I never said anything outright malicious to trans-identifed people unless saying things like a surgically inverted penis is not a vagina and a fake arm-skin phallic tube is not a penis is "malicious". I'm just being honest with that but I digress...

I actually do workout regularly and that does help me immensely as well as try to eat right, love me my salad bowls with chicken mixed in lol. I agree that these things help big time.

Regarding finding friends, I suggest just doing some normal people stuff. See if there's a local poker game, badminton club or whatever. Maybe check for a stoics, philosophy, IDW or whatever meetup. You might find people there who are open minded.

Eugh it's just that I find "normal" people stuff so boring, I'm a geek at heart haha. I dunno, I'll think of something though. One of my hopes is that as I continue making more content explaining why I'm GC as well as really laying it out why the trans beliefs just have no basis, I may find some people who have similar interests who agree with me and we can build a friendship from there. But it's just taking a while because of IRL stuff I'm dealing with but things should be going back to normal soon lol.

As for relationships - i guess you're sort of a twink type looking for a bear man? I don't really know that much about that stuff, but imagine there are websites for that kind of thing. If you figure you have nothing to lose, why not start an Onlyfans? I reckon you could attract a small simp army. You might make being a glam rock/goth femboy into the next big trend.

I technically wouldn't be considered a "twink" anymore since I'm 30 now and "twinks" are guys in their late teens, early 20s lol. Really the obstacles I have with dating are 1, I'm feminine and most gay men are not attracted to feminine and the few who are, are not into feminine presenting men. 2), I attract a lot of emotionally unavailable guys,. Of the few guys who do find me attractive, they only want sex and nothing else and at this time in my life, I'm looking for something more than that. 3), I attract married guys, not even gonna explain why this one is unpleasant lol. And 4), the few guys who do seem to be open to relationships with men, they want them to be "trans"identified because these guys suffer from internalized homophobia and don't want to admit that they're in a Gay/Homosexual relationship. That's what I meant by "they want me to swallow trans dogma" and I'm just not willing to compromise myself in that way. So yeah, it's pretty rough to say the least. And nah, I could never do OnlyFans lhaha And even if I did, I'm sure I would be promptly canceled for being "tRaNsPhObIc" lol.

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Thank you for your perspective and advice. Admittedly I was in a pretty down mood when I wrote this post because I had been feeling this way ever since my last and only friend of my small few friends who dumped me when I released my video that pretty much confirmed I'm a GC gay man and how even before then when I tried to come out to some of these friends in private letting them know, how quickly they all just dropped me without even bothering to listen to why I had my views. So a few weeks ago when I told my last friend about my views because they didn't watch my video, she said that she was okay with it but then immediately stopped talking with me since then and it just really messed with my head because she was the last person I had who I considered a friend and now it's just completely silence. I'm feeling a lot better now though.

But yeah I get that not having people stand up prominently against this trans nonsense can make the fight difficult. We already felt that impact when we lost Magdalen Berns who was a force to be reckoned with and her courage was truly amazing but I will admit that sometimes it can be a little overwhelming with how brainwashed people are and having to hear how "transphobic" you are by pretty much everyone and it just makes me want to throw my hands up because these people are so full of it. They try to challenge your views and you take them up to bat and you counter and address every possible angle they try to throw at you and at the end of it, they still think they've won by calling you a "tRaNsPhObE" when they don't have any other arguments to throw at you.

Here are some thoughts: You mentioned two other male youtubers who do gender critical stuff, why not come in contact with them and ask for a collab/an interview/I don't know what else? I've seen quite a lot of youtubers become fast friends when their share content and stuff, maybe it can help with the loneliness a bit.

I'm definitely thinking of trying this when I get my Gay GC channel off the ground. I wanna try and wait till I have a few videos out that further explain my GC views as a gay man because so far I've only got one and it didn't really go into explicit detail about why I don't believe in transgenderism. But yeah once I do this, I'm gonna try to contact these gay male channels.

Is there an LGB alliance where you're from, or any kind of gender critical LGB org?

Unfortunately no, not locally at least. I did look up this one gay group that was in my city and it seemed promising but when I went to their FaceBook page and scrolled through some of the posts, I saw the "TRANS RIGHTS ARE HUMAN RIGHTS" posts in there and I was like "Nope...". That was the only active group that I saw in the city. I would try and start my own group but with how brainwashed so many people are, I don't think it would do well and I'd probably get made a target of people trying to get me to lose my job and I just don't want to deal with that right now you know?

Nonetheless, thank you for sharing your perspective, it definitely helped!

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Yeah I think I got a taste of that when I officially came out with my video where I exposed all my gender critical beliefs. I had a few people who did understand where I was coming from but a good many were outright offended and tried to challenge me with the usual arguments like the whole "Brain sex" stuff and "different cultures think this and/or that" and when I countered back, they only got angry and I was just thinking to myself about how brainwashed these people are that they can't handle the trans belief being criticized and potentially making sense though they don't want to believe it.

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Right. I mean the Covid stuff doesn't help but still, with how much every person you meet seems to be in gender woo with no rhyme or reason, it's just scary. Like no joke, I went to a store earlier today and I saw a shirt in there that said "Trans rights are human rights". It's like freaking hell man, you can't avoid it lol. But thank you, I'm gonna try

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Thank you and I know deep down you're right that there are more people who agree with us than what we realize but it's still just scary because for those of us who want to try to make friends, especially IRL, it's such a scary thing to do these days because you don't know if the person you're talking with is a gender extremist you know?

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Thank you, I do appreciate the kind words. I'm admittedly in a downer spot at this time but knowing myself, I'll more than likely bounce back soon. I just needed to vent because after losing the one last person who I thought would at least understand my point of view just really got to me.

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Aw thank you. I'm so sorry you've been going through hardships as well, it's just not fun at all but I think the main thing that really makes this so much worse is that the places that people like us used to be accepted in are no longer like that anymore because they've swallowed trans dogma hard time and they'll oust and ostracize anyone who doesn't follow the cult-like mentality. It's just terrible... But yeah it's great that this is one of the very few places where people like us can feel safe in so I'm grateful for that. It's just that online can only do so much and you're gonna eventually want to speak with people in real life you know?

Women's perspective on sexualized video game female characters? (Mortal Kombat, media aimed at women) by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

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I agree. These people complain that she's wearing a Hijab (which she isn't) and saying that they're trying to bring Sharia Law to MK with her new default look but to me, she just looks like a badass assassin and actually fits the job title now. She really did look like a stripper/concubine, heck they even put her in a concubine/slave position in Shao Kahn's level here along with Kitana as well

I've heard complaints that it didn't make sense for Skarlet to wear an outfit like that because she uses Blood magic but they didn't understand that she uses the blood of her opponents for a lot of the tricks she does, not her own unless she's regenerating herself. Thankfully the hate on her redeisgn has led up since the first year the game was out but I still remember the outcry lol.

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Lol, those Mortal Combat 9 outfits look pretty ridiculous. I'd wager it's more about eye candy. With the Buffy example, it's also the case that the vast majority of the show is focused on the relationships between the characters.

Exactly. It's like I mentioned above, these MK9 outfits were purely just about eye-candy/wank fodder and not much thought put into most of them. I wouldn't have been annoyed with the guy if he was just upfront about them and just said he likes looking at pornstar looking women. It'd be better than him trying to justify why they looked like that for "practicality" and "empowering" reasons lol.

But yeah, arguing with guys that want to deny why they're interested in the game, not likely to go anywhere.

Yeah you're right. When the MK11 controversy first came out years before the game came out when they revealed the character Skarlet's new look, there was an outcry of MK fanboys whinging and going "they're bringing censorship to the women" and things of that nature and some of the complaints were just so dumb and overly dramatic and the justifications for why they thought the old design method aka pornstar look was better were hilarious (and annoying). I tried to explain from a design perspective as I'm a character designer in training myself about why they most likely did this change and it was just clear they want their porn fantasy. Which okay fine, but at least be honest with it lol.

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Lol

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Why does this character dress this way, how does it reflect their personality? If it doesn't, or if there's no thought to it, then that's just eye candy for men.

Exactly. I wish I brought this angle up during the debate. It's all about the "why". Why does the character wear what she does? In the case of Morrigan from Darkstalkers, I get why she would dress like that, she's a succubus and succubus use their sex appeal to lure in victims to drain the life force of. Granted Morrigan is not an evil character but still, I get why she's designed the way she is. Meanwhile as much as I like her, a character like Ivy Valentine from Soul Calibur, they don't really give an explanation about why she wears what she wears. She's an English Aristocrat who also practices alchemy so why would she be wearing a dominatrix outfit of all things? What's her reason for it? And she's also celibate. I actually do like some of her looks, mainly her look from the 5th game which was easily her best main outfit imo but yeah, that's one that always perplexed me. At least with a character like Mileena, we know why she does it. She does it because she's an assassin and wants to catch her mostly male opponents and targets off-guard to go in for the kill. Or someone like I-No from Guilty Gear, it's because she's a overly confident woman who also has a carefree nature to her (going off of her taunts and idle animations).

So yeah, sexy design with reason is the way that it should be done.

I like the example of Buffy. Overall it was a good show, with a few maybe questionable episodes(for many reasons other than sexualization).

Right. I mean it's been a minute since I've seen Buffy but going from the outfits, I don't think we ever saw a "sexy" outfit that looked porn-star level quality and I think that's the point that the guy I was debating with wasn't grasping.

Personally what it comes down to for me is 'balance'. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with women wanting to look good or "sexy", and I don't think society will ever have identical beauty standards for men and women. I'm ok with that.

I understand and agree with this. Sexy female characters are not a big deal so long as there are sexy male characters too and I think this is where Soul Calibur and Tekken kinda do that. Emphasis on kinda because with Soul Calibur, the character Voldo is implied to be the male equivalent of Ivy and uh... I mean it's an old man in his late 60s, not be ageist but it doesn't compare to a woman in her late 20s lol. But ignoring that, I'd say that a lot of the male characters do have sex appeal as well. And same deal with Tekken.

Fantasy doesn't have to. And if the intention is campy, over-the top elements, then character designs could be a part of that, and I don't take issue with it.

So would you say that the outfits in Mortal Kombat 9 fit this?

But there's a lot of games that have ridiculous (female) character designs for seemingly no purpose in the game world or story telling elements. It just comes across as lazy, and is offensive for that reason in addition to the overt sexualization. I agree with you, a woman could be given a sexualized design if that is a choice made for character reasons(and explained in some manner within the story).

Agree 100%

But if every woman - and only the women - are designed that way, it's male-gaze manipulative trite.

And that's the issue with games like Dead or Alive and the way the women but I feel like arguing about DOA with these guys is kinda pointless because at the very least, the creator of the game made it known that the game was supposed to be wank fodder and I can at least respect his honesty even if it's demeaning. I'd rather have that then people making excuses you know?

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Yeah see, this is the stuff I need to hear and try and engage with because I know that some women who do think overly sexualized designs are "empowering", they may not realize that they're groomed into liking it because they want to please men. An experiment I usually try to ask women who think this way is whether or not they'd wear some of these overly sexualized outfits if they were alone on a remote island with monsters that they'd have to defend themselves from (I add the monster bit to try to have these women imagine if we were in some video game fantasy world since we're talking about gamers here lol) and sometimes the point does get across that maybe just maybe they think they want to wear these outfits for themselves when they subconsciously want to do it to be seen as sexually attractive to men. And I don't shame them but I try to get them to think about it a little more so they can understand the opposing side a little more.

I don't believe for a second that he believes this. He knows soft core porn when he sees it, and he likes it. It's not that he doesn't understand your arguments, it's that he likes the porny women's outfits and doesn't care if it affects women negatively.

I think you're most likely right. When I tried to explain to him about why these outfits from MK9 are just not empowering and that I hardly see women actually genuinely praise these outfits (not unless they're professional cosplayers who get paid to model) he tried to divert attention to the fact that he grew up with only his two sisters and his mother and how they don't mind this kinda stuff and read magazines that featured sexy women on them, I kinda suspected that he still just wasn't grasping what I was saying. He was also trying to say that the empowerment comes from the fact that some of the characters like Kitana, Mileena, and Sheeva have visible abs and that it can be seen as a sign of strength but what he seemed to be ignoring was how all the female characters had like Double D-E size breasts with their butts exposed and just overall looked like pornstars. And then tried to flip it by bringing up how it's a double standard because some of the male characters were shirtless. He didn't seem to understand that shirtless male characters aren't designed to be sexy, at lrast not intentionally compared to a woman wearing an outfit like Kitana's MK9 look where it's just... What is empowering about this? or this (her alternate look from the same game It's just pornstar fodder.

(I play games but mostly RPGs like the dragon age, fallout or elder scrolls series where the sex of my character doesn't affect the look very much.

Oh cool. I'm not really into those kinds of games but I can see why they're popular. Would you say that the official female characters in those kinds of games are positive?

I wouldn't want to play a game where the women look like some pornsick male's jerkoff material.

That's perfectly understandable. But would you say that when it comes to these sexualized designs, do you think that a character could be designed as sexy without looking like a total porn fantasy character?

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Ah okay, well I know there are some women who do like sexy designs and for me, it's not so much that I don't like sexy designs because I definitely can (well as much as a gay man could lol) but I just prefer designs that actually have thought put into them you know? Like most of the outfits that the female characters wore in MK9 were just tacky and lacked creativity and style. Like at the most, the only ones that I thought looked kinda cool was Jade's because it actually had a little more stylish-ness to it what with with the incorporation of the gold detailing and parts that added beautiful cohesion to the green, the stylish boots, and the chain adornments and Sonya's because even though I feel like a black bra worn under the vest would've really completed the look, it at least had some sense of style as well. But everyone else's just looked tacky and not creative and were just sexy just to be sexy with no character or style.

Like let's take one video game's most prominently infamous sexualized female character Ivy Valentine from Soul Calibur. I personally didn't think her old outfits were that bad because they had this kinda cool factor to them and they weren't going overboard with trying to expose her breasts. But then we get her Soul Calibur 4 outfit and it's just... It's not even an outfit, it's floss (sorry I just really hate this outfit haha). Comparing that to her Soul Calibur 5 look and even her Soul Calibur 3 look (minus the white color, purple looks better on her imo), I personally feel like the 5 and 3 looks are much more creative and visually interesting compared to whatever the heck they were doing with her 4 look.

But I guess that's just me. I prefer sexy style with substance is all. And this goes for the men as well but most of the time the unintentional sexualized male characters also have style about them anyway because the men designing them are not trying to make them look sexy as they're mostly trying to make them look badass and/or powerful.

I hope all I said makes sense haha. And I'm a fellow artist as well, been drawing since I was a child and it's why I take character design so seriously because I want to be a character designer someday.

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Yep all of them were closeted. And thanks! I do get down every now and then but I'm determined to not give up completely just yet.

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Aw thanks. I guess I'll just have to see for the future lol.

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Exactly. I noticed that with a lot of women, particularly younger women these days calling themselves "Nonbinary" (the men on the other hand are calling themselves "Trans"). It's just. WHAT IS GOING ON? 20 years later and this is the "progress"? It fucking isn't! lol

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I remember looking up some Gay local areas online to see if I could to one of the events but unfortunately it had a lot of pro-trans stuff in it and yeah, I could not be a part of that for obvious reasons. This was pre covid-lockdown and we're going back into restrictions again where I live but I think I'll try again when the restrictions lift.

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Haha it's all good. Thank you :)

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I just haven't had the luck unfortunately. But especially IRL which honestly, I may not ever be able to because even if there are gay GNC people who are against the gender woo, they won't outright say it lol.

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I know that I shouldn't have said that but believe me, I was already walking on egg shells because I had just been banned from 2 groups that I used to be really active on back on Reddit when someone reported me for my Gender critical views weeks before I released the video lol.

Frustrations as a GNC Gay man (Trans/Nb Nonsense) by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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Oh I got guys in their early 40s to their 60s too, they just would be asking for dick pics or even some trying to pay me to have sex with them. I did meet up with some older guys when I was younger but it never went anywhere. The generational divide was definitely apparent and even then, most of them were just looking for a "FB" situation. Thankfully these experiences definitely taught me how to notice red flags but that's the thing, it's always red flags (always propositioning for sex).

And yeah I've been told it's better to try to meet guys in person but I don't live anyway near gay clubs and it's not like I can meet guys out in every day public places. Well I mean you could but it's very unlikely.

Frustrations as a GNC Gay man (Trans/Nb Nonsense) by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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To answer your question, sadly I do not. I don't really have friends irl in general to be honest but especially not any GNC gays.

Frustrations as a GNC Gay man (Trans/Nb Nonsense) by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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My experience has been the same with those guys you talked about. Just closet case deluded bisexual men who's internalized homophobia holds them back from truly experiencing attraction to feminine gay men.

I feel like the reason so many femme gnc guys have adopted a "non-man" identity is to soothe the delusions of their chasers. That it's not gay to suck a cock, because it's not a man.

Yeah i think this is true for a good many as well. These Femme GNC gay guys think the only way they can attract men is to play into the delusion of the chasers but it doesn't work anyway. All this does is get you empty promises and still being treated like you're disposable.

If these men could just admit they are atleast bisexual & are attracted to effeminate men, I would think some of this would calm down

I agree. But this is why feminine gay men need to stop with the delusion. Stop thinking you're a type of woman just because you prefer femininity. And stop playing into the internalized homophobia fuel of these Bisexual men. Don't let these men infer that you're a woman because you know you aren't. The point is GNC men need to stand up for themselves.

Frustrations as a GNC Gay man (Trans/Nb Nonsense) by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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I appreciate the niceness but I don't really agree with the gay men liking GNC men thing. At least in my experience, I hardly if ever attract Gay men. The one time I can remember, it was a guy who was significantly older than me (he was in his 70s, I was 22-23) and I'm sure that was mostly because he was trying to prey on young guys. Aside from that, what few guys I have attracted over the year,s most of them were closeted bisexuals who called themselves "Straight".

So I'm not so sure if there are that many Gay men who are attracted to Gender nonconforming feminine men. But i do appreciate the sentiment~

Frustrations as a GNC Gay man (Trans/Nb Nonsense) by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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Well on the dating front, it's just been a little rough tbh. I've been trying to date as GNC feminine gay man for 9 years now. Started when I was 20 and I'll be 30 next month and throughout this period, it's been unrequited mutual attraction, creepy old guys, and closet-case "Chasers". It just feels like I may have to accept that if I want to continue being myself, I'll more than likely have to accept being single forever because after asking what others thought about my appearance in the past and how most were telling me to start looking more masculine or the minority half trying to push me into ridiculous trans ideology, it's just gets mentally taxing at times.

And when I try to find other Gender nonconforming gay men to just vent with and talk with, I'm bombarded with the "Gender woo" crap and it's just aggravating.

Frustrations as a GNC Gay man (Trans/Nb Nonsense) by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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Doesn't matter what he says. He's just too chickenshit to tell the truth. He knows damn well that no straight men are going for him period and that the men who try to get at him are Bisexuals (Most of them closeted). There's no need for the fucking kinsey scale in this equation, the simple fact of the matter is that he was/is attracting closet-case bisexuals, end of story. Sorry to be so blunt but I can't with Blaire and his disingenuous sense of self..

Frustrations as a GNC Gay man (Trans/Nb Nonsense) by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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Fucking thank you for this. Blaire White (and now Samantha Lux) are some of the biggest liars when it comes to this. They know damn well that they were attracting the same men they do now that they did before they adopted the Gender woo nonsense. And even then, Blaire ended up with a closet case bisexual (possible homosexual) man anyway. I hadn't seen blaire's old videos in awhile and recently radical feminist YouTuber Vanessa Vokey did a video on Blaire addressing the internalized homophobia that was evident in his boyfriend. The way that Joey reacted when he saw old photos of Blaire before he started going for the bimbo look (he's still a man, I don't buy into transgenderism period and his reactions were pretty telling.

I look like this and as you can see, I don't have hormone moobs or moob implants or surgically alterations but my look is still very feminine in comparison to the average man and even I get these men who claim to only be into trans-identified males. And I know for a fact Blaire did as well but the common thing was that these men suffered from internalized homophobia and only seek guys like us out for sex which isn't productive when you're trying to find a real relationship.

Frustrations as a GNC Gay man (Trans/Nb Nonsense) by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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Thanks. I feel a little better now getting that off my chest lol. It was just really nagging at me because I read through these stories of these men and they call themselves everything else under the sun but never a man and I'm just like "YOU ARE A MAN." Y'know? haha.

Chris Chan (trans-identified male) admits to sexually assaulting his mother (read the comments to understand the background). by SexualityCritical in GenderCritical

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I swear if they log this as a "Woman on woman" crime, I'm gonna lose it.

Chris Chan (trans-identified male) admits to sexually assaulting his mother (read the comments to understand the background). by SexualityCritical in GenderCritical

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Chris Chan is THE ultimate example (at this time) who exemplifies the extreme of AGP and if you watch the documentary series about him being done by GenoSamuel or just read through his "CWCKI" page, it's very easy to see how he ended up the way he did. But yeah, it's still pretty shocking that he actually did this and if he does get prison tiem, he damn well belongs in the men's prison. And the people bitching about the "misgendering" need to really shut up. As if that's more important than the act of what he committed. Absolutely ridiculous.

Some more ridiculous "Brain Sex" argument by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

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Oh I didn't know that (that the image came from the 90s) but it makes it all the more dumb for them to even bring it up, especially since it has been debunked as you said. It's like these transbians are grasping for straws.

Some more ridiculous "Brain Sex" argument by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

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That's insane lol But not surprising unfortunately.

Some more ridiculous "Brain Sex" argument by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

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Thank you so much for your incite! As I mentioned before, I'm not the most technical person when it comes to science, I'm not particularly skilled and versed in the terminology and I can sometimes get distracted by the wording but that was the thing that was always in my head when it came to the "Brains sex" crap. If it's really true than why don't they ever use it as a mandatory thing for screening during the "Gender therapy"? Surely you'd want this kinda thing to confirm and make sure you're making the right decision to "transition" no? And plus if I remember correctly, the main study they used was the one done on 6 post-mortem trans-identified men and I heard that using 6 people does not count as a experiment. Never mind the fact that these men were dead and who's to say that their brain structures weren't chemically altered? What did their brains look like before they started ingesting hormones and what about the possibility of other things like developmental disorders or mental disorders and whatnot?

And I'll definitely get to your friend request soon! I've been so busy offline that I didn't have much time to check my Twitter this week haha.

Some more ridiculous "Brain Sex" argument by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

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(In Maury voice) "You said that you have the brain of a female and we checked the scans and it turns out that was a lie. YOU ARE NOT FEMALE" lol

Some more ridiculous "Brain Sex" argument by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

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This is the thing that always plays in my head when I hear the brain sex crap. If these men are so sure that they have "lady brain", why the hell don't they just do the brain scan then to truly shut us up? Wouldn't doing this prove that what they say is true and be a "Hah suck it" kinda thing for them? Because all they have is a "study" done years ago on 6 post-mortem bodies of trans-identified men and that totally doesn't matter because they were chemically altered and dead, there's no telling what their brains looked like before they took the drugs as well as taking into account other factors like mental illness and/or genetic disorders if any.

(Old interview) Jesse Lee Peterson (religious conservative) interviews Blaire White -- In case you still thought transmed/truscum were the sane ones by usehername in GenderCritical

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Blaire is only rational when he's going up against the more loud and insane TRAs. I think that the mask would slip if he were to debate a radfem or a Gender Critical person. That's the biggest reason why he doesn't debate them and the reason I believe this is because of 2 things he's done.

  • He had a debate scheduled with the late Magdalen Berns (rip) in 2019 via Twitter where they would be debating about the legitimacy of transgenderism. Magdalen at the time was in decent health and was ready to debate him but he kept postponing and rescheduling the date. I believe he did this about 3 or 4 times. But then Magdalen's cancer worsened and she was put into the hospice and that is when Blaire came out and said that he didn't feel comfortable debating someone with a brain tumor. But the thing is, the months prior Magdalen was in decent health and ready to do it.

  • In 2020, he made a Twitter post saying that he wanted to speak and debate against Radfem/GC person and he never followed through on it despite getting some takers.

So taking all this into account, I'm convinced that Blaire knows how he would be looked at if he debated Radfems or Gender Critical people who would pushback on his unsubstantiated claims so he'll try to find any way to avoid it.

Exposing Trans Predator: Alok Vaid-Menon by usehername in GenderCritical

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He's most likely not gonna cover the incident until it dies down. That or won't address it at all because he'll have to come to terms that he's been using women facilities as well.

My UNPOPULAR LGBT OPINIONS | Honest TRUTH | Kai Decadence by SexualityCritical in GenderCritical

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I'm a bit surprised that my video got shared here but thanks :) Currently working on my follow up video about my number 1 haha.

JK is going to peak the planet by Chunkeeguy in GenderCritical

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We can only hope. But I'm so happy that she's not letting these misogynistic Jackasses push her around. Fuck Yes, you go Rowling! The main thing I hope this does is that it inspires other prominent women to stand up and speak out as well. If JK Rowling can do it with such vigor. so could any other prominent woman because let's be real, there's gotta be more of them out there who really don't buy into the trans nonsense but are trying to stay quiet about it but hopefully JK Rowling helps inspire them to not be afraid to stand up and speak out.

To the Gamers of Gender Critical, What do you think of the character Bayonetta? by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

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2/2

Out of curiosity, who are your favourite characters in the soul series? Who do you main? Which character outfit did you think is the best and which one is the worst?

Hm that's a tough one to be honest haha. But----

  • Favorite Characters

▶ Seong-Mina ~ I love her personality. Not the biggest fan of her outfits save for her SCIII 2-Player look but her personality is so lovable.

▶ Kilik ~ I relate with the pacifistic nature of his and I find his story sad.

▶ Ivy ~ Strong and courageous who takes no nonsense.

  • Mains

It really depends on the game but consistently, I usually use Taki, Cassandra, Talim, Hwang/Yun-Seong, and Ivy.

  • Best Character Outfit

Again, it's a tough one because I like a lot of outfits from this series but if I could narrow it down to 5

Amy SC6

Zasalamel SC3

Tira SC3 2Player

Zwei SC5 2Player

Hilde SC4 2Player

  • Worst Character Outfit

Ivy SC4 HATE THIS OUTFIT SO MUCH LOL

Hilde SC6 The "boob armor" really kills it for me because Hilde usually always wore normal chest armor and wasn't designed to be overtly sexual. This design choice feels like a slap in the face and I personally don't like it.

Patroklos SC5 Bland and yet over the top looking, I just don't like it at all and his 2-player looked a lot better.

Talim SC4 2-Player What even is this? SO TACKY, arguably her worst look ever imo lol.

Seong-Mina SC2 Like I mentioned, I was never big on her outfits in general but this one felt the most lazy they've done with her. At least her other primary looks tried to make her top look somewhat distinct but this here is just a bikini/bra top.

How about you?

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I thought it was cool they had her in a dress and they remembered that she does wear a dress like in SCII (well I hope they remembered, it would be disappointing if that was just a decision they made for storytelling reasons), but I wished they put her in a period dress, something that fits the era and her status as an aristocrat (she would look so lovely). I'm not asking for Project Soul to be 100% historically accurate, but at least put Ivy in a nice aristocratic dress that seems to befit the time period.

I agree with you. While I think the way the dress was drawn in the SC3 portrait looked nice, it would be nice if she wore a more historically accurate dress. The game takes place in the late 1500s and I'm sure they could've made a neat Historically accurate dress for her.

I don't blame you for not noticing initially, in the gameplay the translucent fabric of her pants are less noticeable. If you look at the official art, you'll notice it right away. Her SCVI default costume is pretty disturbing, she wears a bra that looks more like some straps criss crossed on her chest and her shorts are very open on the sides (I think you can see the sides of her butt cheek in her character trailer). That could've been her best costume, had they not tried to make it so revealing.

Oh my goodness, I didn't notice that either with her latest look (though i haven't been playing the game much, IRL busy-ness lol). I agree, that could've been her best look but it's ruined by the sexualization. It's just not appropriate for her character. Really I feel like the best look that she's had was in Soul Calibur 3 I wasn't really feeling her 4 pigtail hairstyle but the outfit looked pretty nice I thought. Yeah she has her sides exposed but for the most part, she looks traditional all things considered, at least compared to her other looks. And no translucency going on neither.

It was also disappointing that they would sexualise a child (the same could be said for Amy, but she was less severe to me).

Right, Amy's outfts were really cutting it close too. I'll admit that I'm biased because I like the Gothic Lolita aesthetic and designs like Amy do appeal to me from a fashion standpoint but there's no denying that her Soul Calibur 3 look was jarring. No bra and that dress could slip off with wrong move. Her Soul Calibur 4 look looked a little more fitted in the top and they had the sense to give her bloomer shorts and her Soul Calibur 6 is her best imo. But I think the reason why the character artist did this kinda thing with these characters might have to do with the way age is viewed in the East when it comes to teenagers. I'm not saying it's right but it's the only explanation I can think of.

Talim had so much potential, and then they wasted her design. To me her SCII first costume would always be the best (I wish they made her tube top larger and cover more of her chest, and made the waist band of her pants reach her waist, not stop at her hips). I would have gone for the SCIII, but the front dark blue part of the costume ruined it (I'm not a fan of her hairstyle, but it's the outfit I'm focusing on). That's the most conservative and decent costume they have for her and they ruined it by making it look like a hybrid two-piece and one-piece outfit. I know they don't suck at fashion design.

It's funny because i used to not like Talim's SC2 default look when I was younger but it's one of my favorites now. I agree with you that it would've been better if her tube top covered more of her abdomen and the pants were high-waisted but for the most part, it was a neat look for her, I especially liked her hairstyle. Honestly on her SC3 look, if we're talking about the outfit itself excluding her hairstyle, I actually liked it. I do get where you're coming from with the dark blue parts but I just think that the look overall looks cool and the most fitting to her if that makes sense? Had they just kept the garments all white and not include the dark blue, it would be perfect but compared to her other default looks, it's the closest to looking almost "priestess" like. Like if you customize the outfit, I believe you can make the Dark Blue parts White and it looks nice.

But if I had to be honest, my most favorite look of Talim's has to be her extra 3-Player costume from SC2. I know she has her midriff exposed but I just can't help but think she looked really cool there. The hair, the bandanna, the color scheme, and when you chose her "Cao Ankana" weapon with it, she just looked so cool imo lol

Speaking of Raphael, I think they really ruined him in the later games. For me SCII Raphael had the best voice actor and best costume (I personally think all of the SCII voice actors were the best in the series, I just don't feel the next voice actors capture their characters for various reasons). Then for SCIII, they made him a vampire with an overrated one side lock of hair, with the rest gelled back, as if like they were trying to make him look aristocratic and fancy, but the entire thing looks bland and like an attempt at a vampire cliche (that green coat dors not make sense, also it's tacky). Come SCIV, common sense hit them that they should have kept his hair style and make his outfits actually look gothic and they continued this theme for SCV and I appreciated how they didn't ruin his design so much.

Yeah I agree with you. His SC2 default outfit was his best hands down. The color palette, the garments, everything was so uniform! And his alternate outfits looked good too and really conveyed the type of warrior and country he represented. I'm a bit torn on his SC3 look though tbh. I agree with you on the hair, it looked bad on hm for sure but I honestly did like the outfit itself. I think it's because it makes me think "Castlevania" and I always had a soft spot for the character designs of that series and Raphael's outfit here just hit that mark for me. But yeah his outfits were usually on point and it was for the best when they ditched his vampire shtick though I will admit that I did like his 2-player in SC5 even if it was probably the most tackiest thing he ever wore haha.

Oh and I also agree with you on how you think SC2 had the best voices for the characters. I feel the same way and it's nice to meet more people who feel the same.

Removing the glasses and changing the boots to leather boots and the gaunlets to simple black ones might work, his shirt and pants can stay the same.

Haha I actually liked his thigh high boots, it's the cape that I didn't like but I get what you mean, they could've made the outfit look less OTT and more aristocratic. That's why his SC2 looks were the best, they captured that perfect.

I think I like her navy captain style more from SCII, even though she does not look good in it, I like the outfit though (I seem to find most of the outfits from that game the most attractive out of the Soul Series). SCIII second outfit gives off the American Wild West feels to me (I think it's the hat). I think the silver parts on her costume add unnecessary bulk to the aesthetics, also I think they should've went with a purple colour palette, it looks a bit too pink. I think it might look better if they put some silver or gold ornate details instead of metal bulk, change the colour of the outfit to a more darker purple palette, make the hat a top hat with a small veil in front with roses pinned to it (maybe) or remove the hat altogether. They were so close and yet so far with this design (why do they keep doing this to me?)

I also really liked Ivy's Navy Captain style as well, the whole outfit was perfectly coordinated. But yeah it didn't really look good on her and didn't seem like something Ivy would really wear neither. On her SC3 2-Player, I think your criticism is valid. I especially agree that they should've went with a dark purple color theme instead of the reddish pink it had. I did come around to that color but Ivy's main color is Purple and they should've kept that for her. But despite all that, I still can't help but love this outfit for her and I thought it was cool how this was really styled after her SCII 3-Player look.

1/2

To the Gamers of Gender Critical, What do you think of the character Bayonetta? by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

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Yeah Soul Calibur 6 Ivy was something. I did like that they had her in her dress when in her mansion because it was a neat reference to the portrait of her from Soul Calibur 2 and Soul Calibur 3. But yeah, her Dominatrix outfit was always one of those things that rose my eyebrow but I suppose she wasn't in complete danger considering her sword was a powerful weapon that could do all sorts of tricks to protect herself based on her moveset. Really though, I always felt that her 2-Player outfit from SC3 because I felt it looked more "Warrior-esq" (relatively) that was both stylish but also somewhat serious.

And yeah Talim's look in SC4 was especially alarming upon further inspection. When I first played the game back when I was a teenager, I didn't notice that Talim's pants were translucent until I went back to the game and took a closer look at the character outfits in that game. Needless to say, I was super shocked that they did that because not only was it inappropriate considering her age, it really did ruin what could've been a cute look for her. Honestly she's always had some very odd looks. I like Talim but it's very unnerving some of the undertones her character leans into.

And true, maybe she wasn't as deep in narrative compared to other characters but I still would've liked to see her grown up and wiser haha.

To the Gamers of Gender Critical, What do you think of the character Bayonetta? by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

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Yeah right. Nina was originally my first favorite Charwcter back in the day until it moved to Julia (pre Tekken 7, I can't stand what they did to her I'm the latest game). And I was always bothered by the sexist practice our on her and Anna as well where they froze their ages at 24 so they don't have to age. They did the same to ivy from soul calibur with the nonsense of soul edge not allowing her to age past 28 lol and also when they cut Talim out of soul calibur 5 because she would've been in her 30s