Why am I not surprised that a YouTuber who considers himself something of a "queer" historian frequently lies about history? by RippoffOfLove in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Haha for real, and I'm hearing that James is a bit of a misogynist so him running with the Mulan bastardization makes even more sense because oh no, a woman character can't be more than the stereotypes lambasted onto them. Eugh. I'm just glad the original Mulan movie came out in the 90s because if it came out today, they would've totally made her trans-identified, like it would be revealed at the end of the movie.. .

Why am I not surprised that a YouTuber who considers himself something of a "queer" historian frequently lies about history? by RippoffOfLove in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It was quite surprising to learn just how big of a plagiarist scumbag this dude really was. Granted I was never a fan of this guy and had only seen like 2 of his videos which I found contrived but it was still surprising to learn about nonetheless. I watched HBomberguy video and I was getting constantly annoyed of him referring to gays and lesbians as "queers" and then the whole Mulan thing saying her story was also a "gender allegory" (no the fuck it wasn't).

Concerned about Gender Critical Video (Feedback much appreciated!) by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's awesome to hear. I actually finally did get around to just getting the video, it took a good 2 years but I finally was able to finish and publish it a few months ago this year :)

Blaire White Expose' Video [Needing some Feedback] by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I agree that it's absolutely stupid to give someone like him praise for saying that you're against child abuse and saying women shouldn't have to date/sex with troons when it's like no duh, that's just common sense. He only comments on things that work in his favor of getting outward public approval but notice how he has remained absolutely silent on Kellie-Jay Keen and the #LetWomenSpeak event. He hasn't given any opinion on what he thinks about KJK, a loud prominent voice trying to organize and get all men (she doesn't play along calling him with she/her pronouns) out of women only spaces. And with #LetWomenSpeak he hasn't mentioned what he thinks about the TRAs who have assaulted and terrorized the women who attend.

Blaire White Expose' Video [Needing some Feedback] by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

FuckMeOrElse

I've never heard this term but that got a good chuckle out of me. But yes, it's apparent to those who pay attention that he doesn't care about women and girls and only cares about his own self-interest which is appearing reasonable on the surface speaking out against the more outwardly volatile TRAs but in reality, he still takes advantage of women only spaces with the belief he should be given special treatment.

The Truth About Trans by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm not sure what you mean by the timestamp thing but the video is not clickbait. Is it provocative? Sure but all I say in it I mean 100% with no pretense and with all I dip into in the video, it's arguing facts and logic. And this goes into the comments I have been getting in how I am countering those trying to argue against me. A lot of them are doing exactly what I highlighted in the video via throwing intersex people under the bus, refusing to answer simple questions, and/or using arbitrary stereotypes.

Why do TRA have anime avatars on social media? by Rage-Xion in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's a fair point and to ad to the TIMs who want to be anime characters, I think part of it also has to do with fetishizing the character if the TIM in question is straight or bisexual. They want to skinwalk the character and be sexual.

And funny enough I tended to relate female characters a lot more than male characters growing up. In Pokemon I liked Misty. In Digimon I liked Sora. In X-Men I liked Rogue and so on. Though I think it's mainly because a lot of male characters just didn't have personalities I related with compared to female characters. Like the closest male character example I could relate to was Bakura from Yu-Gi-Oh (the good guy, not evil bakura lol) and Kurama from Yu Yu Hakusho lol.

And I'm sure that some guys do feel like they have to be a masculine man by peer pressure (from other men). I think this is what can explain when some ex-military men come out as TIMs and do a 180 on their life.

Have you found men on lesbian dating apps? by Rage-Xion in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm gay man so I'm not on lesbian dating apps but I remember a few years back when I was conversing with one of my coworkers who happened to be a lesbian, when I came out to her in the sense of not believing in trans ideology, she confided in me that her experience on the lesbian dating apps was frustrating because she kept getting hit up by TIMs on "HER". This was back in 2019 and I wouldn't be surprised if it got worse.

The Truth About Trans by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thanks for the welcome and no problem! Definitely take your time with this one because it's a long one lol

The Truth About Trans by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The comment section for the most part is pretty good so far. A few ridiculous ones in the mix but most of the feedback has been positive and I'd like to believe that on the more crazier ones, I've been holding my own countering them.

Why do TRA have anime avatars on social media? by Rage-Xion in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I have seen what you're saying and I think I have an explanation for this. Obvious reason is that many of these TRAs are huge geeks (I don't mean this in a bad way, I'm a geek myself lol). This trans bullshit has infected geek fandom/culture (gaming & anime especiallly)and I'd say it's where you'll see the trans crap the most.

Now if we're talking about the TRAs who are actually trans-identified? My suspicion is that a lot of these TIMs see themselves as these anime characters. I feel like this has become much of a thing ever since mainstream gaming has went online and in the wake of avatar culture where you're able to create your own character. The most common example being Final Fantasy 14 where you see a large sizeable population of these TIMs. But aside from that, you also have the TRA TIMs who just simply latch onto their favorite female character and want so badly to be them which is what makes them fall into the delusion of thinking they can become them.

But that's just my own theory of course.

The term "Transwoman", do you use it? by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's just ridiculous though.... I get the horse thing but you know that this is what these (obvious) men want, they can say that "transwoman" is not the same as "woman" but let's be real, they know deep down that the word associates with "woman" and that's where they get their euphoria from...

The term "Transwoman", do you use it? by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's a fair compromise. I personally just can't get myself to call obvious men in dresses and makeup "transgender person" when I know it's a man... And vice versa with masculinized women but I get your approach.

The term "Transwoman", do you use it? by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's an interesting perspective and though I would rather just call these people what they are objectively, I think that calling a trans-identified man a "transman" and trans-identified woman a "transwoman", that could be a compromise that doesn't object biological reality.

Does anyone else feel like trans men are treated unfairly in homosexual dating spaces? by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

If on lt could be a joke...

Dealing with TQ+ nonsense as an artist by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

From what I've observed, a lot of them are definitely straight but call themselves "queer". I've said it before and I'll keep saying it but I haven't met much of any fellow gays or lesbians who call themselves "queer", it's usually bisexual and/or straight women who do this and of course they would, they aren't completely same sex attracted so they won't fully understand why many gays and lesbians don't use that word to describe ourselves.

Dealing with TQ+ nonsense as an artist by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

seek out people in the community that feel the way you do so you know you have friends there.

But that's the hard part, finding artists in these fandom/spaces that don't believe in TQ+ If we're all hiding, how do we find each other?

Dealing with TQ+ nonsense as an artist by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I just couldn't handle how grating it was, interacting with all of those TQ+ people.

This is really pushing me as well. I try to ignore it all but what's really getting to me is when I'm seeing younger artists in their teens and early 20s saying how they want to have "top surgery" and how they're "non-binary" or "transmen" and it's getting to a point where I can't ignore it. These youths don't understand that "top surgery" is gonna be something they regret (especially when they develop phantom nipple pain). And the way some older TRA artists are blindly encouraging this stuff makes it even more horrifying and all the more reason why I want to come and speak out against this because the common thing you here from those who do "detransition" is that they wished someone would've not affirmed them and was brutally honest about what they were risking instead of blindly affirming them.

Dealing with TQ+ nonsense as an artist by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The alternative scene has been swept up by this bullshit as well. When I got on blast for being a "tErF" because I supported Maya Forstaters, JK Rowling, and Magdalen Berns, I got banned from the active goth groups I used to active in and now whenever I even try to interact with a goth or just an alternative looking person in general, if they're aware of my YT channel, they avoid me at most and/or will say how awful I am for being "tRaNsPhObIc".

I used to be excited to see alternative people out in society but now that excitement is gone and I try to avoid them lol...

Dealing with TQ+ nonsense as an artist by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I know this is a late post but as a fellow artist, I just had to comment and say that I totally understand your frustration because I'm getting so fed up and irritated by how much the TQ+ has dominated the art social media scene. I will say that I have made conscious effort to not bother interacting with any artist I come across on Twitter who lists pronouns or is a TRA (you can tell by the things they retweet) which has made trying to make friends in the scene borderline impossible. When I came out in support for Maya Forstater and JK Rowling back in 2020 on my Facebook, I lost all my friends and I got banned from groups I used to be very active so believe me, I totally feel why you are hesitant to come out and speak against trans/gender ideology because it really will more than likely cause your friends to abandon you. The worst are the ones who say thay they can respect your beliefs but slowly stop communicating with you until they cease contact altogether... That happened with 3 acquaintances I had and it sucked to go through.

I'm not fully out with my beliefs on my art twitter but I leave no room for people to think I support trans ideology, I don't make "trans" characters or art and I don't use neopronouns neither. Some artists I follow whose work I do like do have trans-identifying characters and I just bite my tongue even though many of their characters' backstories showcase how nonsensical the ideology is (lol). I'm still debating if I want to go public with being gender critical (I call it "pro-reality") on my art twitter if all else to be an example of an artist who is not a "cOnSeRvAtIvE" and is a gender nonconforming, feminine presenting gay man who doesn't believe in trans ideology but part of me is afraid of being completely burned at the stake with no chance to ever make new art friends ever again. I'm not gonna lie, I have more or less been on my own with not much social interaction at all after 2020 when all my friends abandoned me and I got banned from some of the groups and because of how the TQ+ ideology has captured most of the art world, it's made me fearful to even try to make new friends for fear of being rejected and called a "bigot" or "transphobe" when I know deep down that I'm not those things and that most of the time these people don't even see how toxic the ideology really is. And I especially feel you on not supporting things like women getting their healthy breasts amputated or getting frankenphalluses ("Phalloplasty") sewn onto their vagina that will lead to all kinds of health disasters like developing sepsis because of the fistulas... I follow this one artist who is in my age bracket (30s) and is a blind TRA and is supporting two younger artist women who have barely entered their 20s and goes along with them wanting to get "top surgery". I want to step in and say something but I don't because of the inevitable backlash I know I'll get... And then having to hear artists saying things like "AFAB / AMAB people", "people with vaginas", and just all that other bullshit that just really aggravates the hell out of me.

Ultimately the choice is up to you. Which ever way you ended up going, it's totally understandable. Personally part of me thinks you should go public just to show that you don't have to swallow TQ+ dogma to be an artist and that you're not some evil "transphobe". That we are regular people just living in reality and that way , you could be an example to other artists who may not believe in this gender crap and maybe find some confident to speak out as well. But agian, there's no denying that it can also lead to burned friendships... It's all about what you think you can handle. When I came out on my YouTube channel, I faced a lot of rejection but I also got quite a bit of support as well and as soon as I finish up my follow up video explaining why I don't believe in TQ+, I may try to search out and find other people who feel the same way.

The definition of "Gender" and how TRAs use it to push their agenda by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm glad you were joking about the last part because I hate when people say "AFAB" or "AMAB". A few people I follow who are blind trans supporters use these terms and I cringe and wince every time because as we all know, no one is "assigned" anything at birth, like what does that even mean? lol.

Matt Walsh by JulienMayfair in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

So admittedly I don't know a ton about Matt Walsh outside of the trans stuff but considering how he's a traditional conservative, I'm not surprised that he's sexist and homophobic. But I did watch the "What is a Woman?" documentary and while I did enjoy the message of it, it was still a somewhat Conservative propaganda piece because he made sure to not include any leftists who are against gender ideology and made it out like it's only the right who don't support such nonsense. And I mean sure, it's mainly the left pushing this toxic ideology but it's a bit unfair to make it sound like all leftists support the ideology and it's because of this that makes me want to continue to speak out and not be silent as someone who is left-leaning and also gay.

So even though Matt Walsh is traditional core conservative through and through, I still can at least agree with him on this matter. And until more leftists start speaking out against this gender BS, it's really not a big deal to agree with one aspect that conservatives have as they're the only ones en masse so far trying to push back the trans dogma.

The definition of "Gender" and how TRAs use it to push their agenda by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Why shouldn't you use the dictionary?

I'm not sure, I've heard some GC feminists say that using the dictionary isn't the best way to combat trans ideology and I think they say this because just like how we say that transgenerism literature is based in opinion, these people will say the same about the dictionary.

Why argue with these people anyway, pointless. Imo

Believe me I get that and after the last few interactions I've had about this, I think I'll be "noping" out whenever these TRAs do this. I was just generally curious on what others thought about this particular angle.

r/gaytransguys - now that I understand my gender identity I feel so much more comfortable liking guys ... Lul wot by Chocolatepudding in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah I think you're right. It's best to keep it straight forward and not complicated any further.

r/gaytransguys - now that I understand my gender identity I feel so much more comfortable liking guys ... Lul wot by Chocolatepudding in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence 10 insightful - 3 fun10 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

As a gay men, these women are just as delusional as the "transbians"

Some mix of transmasc agender genderfluid

Like what...? Lol.

Mostly because when I tried to like guys when I didn't know I was trans it always felt wrong because I was pretending to be straight and since I'm a guy it just felt dysphoric and awkward

Why does it feel like there is more to this story? Was she facing a lot of rejection from guys? Is it because she didn't like the traditional gender roles in the relationships she was in? So many questions.

Can the dislike or even outright disgust towards Bodybuilder looking women be a form of misogyny? by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's fair. I've really only talked to 3 guys about this at my job (which is a gym lol). 2 of them said that they feel women who build too much muscle look manly and the other one kept it short and sweet with "just not my type".

Can the dislike or even outright disgust towards Bodybuilder looking women be a form of misogyny? by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Personally I don't like that look on women or men.

Totally fair, I've met people on both sides who think the bodybuilder look is too extreme and not appealing.

but men in general also dislike excessive skinniness and obesity; as do women I have to say.

Yeah you're right there, well in general. You do have those kind of men who actually are attracted to the whole "BBW" thing though you have to wonder if it's true attraction or just the act of control they like to have over on these women.

Concerned about Gender Critical Video (Feedback much appreciated!) by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Oh for sure, this is coming from the perspective of a leftist gay man who is also gender nonconforming in appearance who is agnostic so religion definitely will not be a thing in this essay haha.

Concerned about Gender Critical Video (Feedback much appreciated!) by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah I already was gonna try to use the chapters features that will help break up the video without having to re-upload them into separate but I think separate parts might still be a good idea so I'll definitely take this into consideration.

Peak Transing through True Crime Documentaries? by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

When I hear the line that TIMs are the most vulnerable and are much more likely to be raped, murdered and sexually abused by men and boys than girls and women are, I always ask: then how come the stories of TIM crime victims don't dominate on any of the myriad true crime shows? Or on the nightly news?

This is such a good way to frame it because TRAs love moaning about how much more victimized they are compared to women when it comes to the true crime umbrella and the blunt truth is that the statistics just don't support that. I remember reaiding for the year of 2018, only 32 TIMs were murdered compared 956 women in the same year, it's such a ridiculous talking point.

Agree with all you said.

Peak Transing through True Crime Documentaries? by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Exactly. Funny how women and girls are getting othered and erased but the same is not being done to other female mammals. Or heck, we're not seeing dogs being identified as cats or vice versa. It's just ridiculous.

Peak Transing through True Crime Documentaries? by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah it's just these stories man, so gruesome and horrific and these poor women never stood a chance at the hands of these misogynistic men. the cases that take place in India are especially disgusting with how the victims are viewed there to where they get blamed fro their own assaults and/or death, like WTH.... But yeah this is definitely gonna be one of my reasons for when I explain why I think transgenderism is nonsense.

Sometimes it feels as if a single neglected dog story riles people more than daily news reports of targeted women.

I've thought this as well, it's very disturbing how some wiill sympathize more for a dog a cat being tortured vs a woman who was targeted merely on the basis of her sex. I mean I don't like animal abuse and the torturing of animals but compared to a fellow human, I think the latter is far more horrific.

What made you peak trans? by [deleted] in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well you're more patient and open minded then others because where i am in live, i could never be friends with a trans-identified man or woman because I refuse to validate their delusions.

What made you peak trans? by [deleted] in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

How did that go?

What made you peak trans? by [deleted] in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

So for me, it was a gradual build up. Even back when I was drinking the trans kool-aid, there was a part of me in the back of my head that felt something was off with the ideology was off, especially as a gay man who had no interest in trans-identified women/females no matter how much they "passed". But I kept it to myself because you know, that's what "they" say you have to do, don't question the ideology and just go with it if you don't want to be a hateful bigot. But then I stumbled across a Magdalen Berns video in early 2016, the one she made on that Alok guy about Nonbinary bullshit and the thing is that even though I was a TRA back in that time, I NEVER believed or bought into Nonbinary. To me that was ridiculous the notion of "not being a man or a woman", it was absolutely stupid to me, especially when the people calling themselves that just looked like butch women and effeminate presenting men. Of course later I would learn that these people were just victims of thinking gender roles/stereotypes define sex and that they believed that since they didn't have interest in conforming, that made them neither sex. So naturalyl I agreed and applauded that video Magdalen did but then I came across her video "There's no such thing as a lesbian with a penis" and I remember being very nervous to watch it because she was comitting the cardinal sin (lol) that TRAs push onto people of people not playing along with their ideology and calling it out because it's just "transphobic".

Needless to say, I watched it and felt very conflicted because on the one hand I did think the guy was being ridiculous calling himself a lesbian even though the other part of me was saying "Don't go there, you're being transphobic. But I was intrigued by Magdalen, she was the first person I had come across saying this kind of stuff and I had to hear more and long story short, the video that cracked me was her "why do you hate Transwomen" video along with that consutant teaching men how to be more feminine. Now while I was bordering the peaking thanks to Magdalen, what made me peak fully was watching more gender critical videos, namely the ones from Mancheeze the Great as well as discovering Gender Critical and ThisNeverHappens subreddit before they got taken down. Also learning about John Money, the creep/groomer who was responsible for gender ideology to begin with.

I was appalled and disgusted at the misogyny hurled at women fro ma lot of the TIMs as well as when I saw how some were trying to push feminine gay men and masculine lesbians transition, they even tried to get at me saying I was "trans in denial" because of how I choose to present myself and my admitted, frustrated venting of my difficult dating life in the gay world.

The thing that made me become outspoken about my stance against trans ideology was the Maya Forstarter case and JK Rowling in 2019 who came out in support of her. The amount of hate and lies being spread about them in my own social circles annoyed me so much that I couldn't take it anymore and came out in support of them and I finally came out saying what I truly felt about trans ideology.

So yeah, technically I peaked in mid-late 2016 but kept quiet about my views until 2019 lol.

Gay male detrans youtuber Shapeshifter interviewed by Blaire White - 17min version (details in comments) by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah TT Exulansic mainly did videos on the realities of SRS and she would sometimes commentate on people who had that done and were experiencing complications and she'd commentate on what was happening with their bodies. ShapeShifter was one of the people she did a video on when he was talking about the complications he was having with his inverted penis. He didn't like it and flagged her video calling her "transphobic" and asked his fans to flag her channel.

I completely agree, could not have said it better. I am really glad that Blaire is using his platform to spread awareness of detransitioners, but he is still in denial.

Exactly, his platforming these people doesn't make him any less in denial himself. It doesn't make him any more "true trans" than the others and I think people need to remember this.

Don't know if I can continue living in a world of the Trans Ideology by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well it's worth a shot, nothing to really lose right? Yeah, I'll try that, thanks.

Gay male detrans youtuber Shapeshifter interviewed by Blaire White - 17min version (details in comments) by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That person was more than likely me haha. You're talking about this video right? I try to share that video whenever I find it relevant because it's so annoying how people think Blaire is any different than the average effeminate gay man who was struggling just as much as any other feminine gay man (myself included). He was another gender nonconforming gay man who was strugglign in the gay dating scene where majority gay men are attracted to masculine guys and frustrated, he deluded himself into thinking he must be a woman and felt that if he trooned out, he'd be able to attract more guys.

And the truth of the matter is this. Blaire was/is still attracting the same kinda guys he was attracting when he was not trans-identified. I'm confident in this because I don't call myself "trans" and I still attract the closet-case bisexuals who claim they're only into "trans" identified men. These men know there's no such thing as "transwomen" and all they care about is that the man presents himself in a non-masculine way, the fake moobs are just a bonus but I don't have any and they still were trying to get at me.

And yeah before Blaire's current boyfriend, his last two were closet-case bisexuals. One literally made him hide in the closet when his parents came to visit him at his college dorm (he admitted to this in one of his old livestreams, he got drunk and emotional).

Don't know if I can continue living in a world of the Trans Ideology by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

No that helps, thank you for the perspective but at least you undersand that the TRA/trans cult nonsense has made life so much worse because the progress that was being made before this shit blew up was on the true path of progressiveness and then boom, it's slowly being decimated because of these delusional people and the people who blindly support it with no rhyme or reason.

Don't know if I can continue living in a world of the Trans Ideology by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The history of the feminine gay man and what they (and butch lesbians) had to go through is what makes me so aggravated about where we are now where most of these people are now thinking they really are the opposite sex and it's part of the reason why I decided to be as vocal as I am against the trans cult since I'm GNC myself and hardly come across other GNC gay men who aren't deluding themselves...

But thank you, I'll try to keep that in mind.

Don't know if I can continue living in a world of the Trans Ideology by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Anything is possible I suppose, I'll have to wait but it's just a lot of things are looking very uncertain and it does lowkey terrify me. For now I just want to get the personal projects done and see where my head space will be after. I'll have some money saved for a few therapy sessions as well, maybe it'll help.

Don't know if I can continue living in a world of the Trans Ideology by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'll try to keep this in mind. I'm just a bit nervous because my kinda issue is something I never hear others talk about, not unless they're being directed to gender affirmation therapy and we all know how nonsensical that is. I just don't want to hear the phrase "you might be trans" because that'll just show where their end game is.

Don't know if I can continue living in a world of the Trans Ideology by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thanks, that'll definitely come in handy :)

Don't know if I can continue living in a world of the Trans Ideology by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I wish I could afford therapy but I just can't and I don't think I ever will unfortunately. I want to try to touch it out like I have been doing the past decade but the thought of having to continue this way for another 20-30 years is exhausting and I'm not sure I can survive that so i would rather get things in order if worse comes to shove.

Gay male detrans youtuber Shapeshifter interviewed by Blaire White - 17min version (details in comments) by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Lest they risk losing their license... It's appalling but the trans cult wanted this.

Gay male detrans youtuber Shapeshifter interviewed by Blaire White - 17min version (details in comments) by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

"I wish someone had just hugged me and said, You're not a woman. You're never gonna be one." as an example of the type of reaction that would have been an appropriate response to his wish of being a woman.

Historically his mother should've been the one to do this but yeah, I think that's what he meant as well.

Gay male detrans youtuber Shapeshifter interviewed by Blaire White - 17min version (details in comments) by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't have a penis or know anything about the mechanics of that, but that sounds horrifying.

Honestly I feel like it would be the equivalent of "phantom nipple pain syndrome" that trans-identified women can get when they have their breasts amputated. Painful and weird because the brain is in distress realizing that something is missing.

Anyhow it's great that Shapeshifter is being forthcoming about the reality of these surgeries and how fucked they really are. You can't ignore him neither, he was a loud peddler of the trans cult and did everything they told him to do. Silence those who speak out against the ideology and getting the surgeries. He did all this and look where it got him.

Gay male detrans youtuber Shapeshifter interviewed by Blaire White - 17min version (details in comments) by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm very aware of this Shapeshifter person because he played a part in cancelling TT Exulansic's YouTube channel when she did an analysis/commentary on the reality of his SRS and he didn't like hearing the truth so he flagged her channel and got others to join in. I'm sure it wasn't the only thing that got her completely terminated but it was the first.

Anyway it's clear that he was sold a lie and is seeing the error of his ways. His story is sad but it is what it is. I think it's great that he's owning his own life choices and not fully blaming others, no one force him to get SRS after all. But he's taking self-responsibility and that's noble of him. What's more noble is that he's spreading the message to others, warning the youth to not go through with it, that they will regret it as much as he does and this is important so I'm thankful that he's being upfront and honest about it.

That said, I didn't watch the interview because I'll be honest, I can't listen to Blaire's fake "woman" voice for prolonged periods of time but I saw a breakdown of it and I think it's hilarious how Blaire really tried to push that he and Shapeshifter are not the same when they are. Both are effeminate gay men though one had the snip and came to his senses, the other is still living in denial. And don't give me the "Blaire says he's male" argument, it doesn't mater that he acknowledges himself as male when he's still insisting that he's anything but a man and "transwoman" doesn't count, women are not a subclass of their own sex and "transwoman" implies they are a kind of woman which they're not. The day Blaire accepts what he truly and stops callimg himself anything but a man is when my view on him will change but as is, he's just as delusional as the other trans-identified men as far as I'm concerned.

Back to Shapeshifter, I wish him luck. I hope he has a good support network who's helping him out try to live life one step at a time because I can't imagine living that way knowing I can't go back and undo what I did to an important part of my body...

Disney's is pushing sexuality onto kids before their time in their woke movies. Look at this degeneracy. by MarkJefferson in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Exactly. It's fucking annoying and hypocritical lol That's pretty much how I gauge on whether people are truly accepting or not. If they look at media like that or the other one I linked and they say it's pushing an "agenda", that to me just shows that they never were accepting of homosexuality.

Disney's is pushing sexuality onto kids before their time in their woke movies. Look at this degeneracy. by MarkJefferson in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

No problem! I felt the same way when I first watched it back what it released, it was so wholesome and totally relatable to us gays who actually did have crushes on other boys but were too nervous to express it for the obvious (the judgement from other kids like what was illustrated in the video). But yet people bitched and complained about that short (it has a pretty big dislike bar) because it was "pushing the gay agenda" onto kids...

Not sure who this is by xandit in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

When you really think about it, when it comes to prominent gender nonconforming men on the YouTube which seem to be Jeffree Star and James Charles (Both "J's" lol), both are horrible representations. Jeffree Star for what you shared and James Charles for being pushy on straight guys and messaging underage high school boys. Just yikes.

Disney's is pushing sexuality onto kids before their time in their woke movies. Look at this degeneracy. by MarkJefferson in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

EXACTLY. I get part of the reason why certain people, usually conservatives complain about homosexual relatioships in kids cartoons because they think it's "unnatural" based on what they read in a book but it's really stupid when anyone acts like a gay character existing in kids media is "pushing the gay agenda". Fuck off. First off, you can't be "turned" gay, you either are or you're not. And second, if we can have scenes like that or any other Disney animated classic that had intimate bonding between a man and woman without it being super skeevy and sexual, then the same can be done with gay & lesbian relationships as well. With gays & lesbians, you don't have to show their sex life, simply holding hands or kissing is enough just like the hetero relationships they show in these movies.

Honestly this little short is one of the best examples of kid-friendly gay representation in my opinion. Silly, innocent, and wholesome. And here's a more recent one. Again, totally safe and wholesome like any other kids-media. Nothing demonic about it lol.

Disney's is pushing sexuality onto kids before their time in their woke movies. Look at this degeneracy. by MarkJefferson in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

And also there could be gay men working on stories that are kid friendly that happen to feature a gay couple in it but is getting turned down because of the double standard. And I'm not excusing the creepy lesbian fetishism mind you, that's just poor taste and creepy.

Disney's is pushing sexuality onto kids before their time in their woke movies. Look at this degeneracy. by MarkJefferson in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Another good point, especially the fetishizing aspect...

Disney's is pushing sexuality onto kids before their time in their woke movies. Look at this degeneracy. by MarkJefferson in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Exactly. I'm all for lesbian representation but that seems to be the go-to for a lot of media representation and it would be nice if we saw some gay representation as well.

To any gay man here, would you seriously date and/or have sex with a TIF? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

also the lack of brow ridge

Oh my gosh this! This is the other feature that makes it noticeable as well but I couldn't really put it into words. But yes, the brow ridge is definitely a ringer.

To any gay man here, would you seriously date and/or have sex with a TIF? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

And that's valid and the objective truth, they aren't no matter how much body hair they grow and what fancy trendy haircut they get.

To any gay man here, would you seriously date and/or have sex with a TIF? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Fair enough

To any gay man here, would you seriously date and/or have sex with a TIF? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Back when I was lost in the sauce of the gender woo woo? I entertained the idea, but I'm glad there was no follow through because reality would have hit me like a ton of bricks in the bedroom when the entire thing reminded me of my corrective rape. Even the push afterwards from my mother about the possibility of butch women or transmen. It absolutely would not be a relationship in which I was enthusiastically consenting.

Right. I mean I'll be honest. Back when I too was lost in the gender woo sauce before I peak transed. I thought about whether if I could have sex with and/or date a trans-identified woman so I tried looking at adult content of "FTM" to see if it did anything for me and there was this one woman who I thought was attractive on the surface. Again, testosterone is a hell of a drug and it can make some women "pass" in certain scenarios and with this woman, I will admit that if I saw her on the street, I wouldn't have thought she was a woman. Of course I didn't hear how this woman sounds when she speaks normally so there's that but appearance-wise, I thought she was attractive until she showed her vagina. I try to sit through it to really test myself and she was zooming into it a lot. Overall I was turned off, the thought of going anywhere near it just made my stomach churn.

So I try another video to see what these "phalluses" look like. Again find a "FTM" who had that done to them and it didn't make any difference. It looked... Unsettling and the fact that at the end of the day it's not real penis put the finally put an end to that chapter, I learned that I couldn't look past it thereby reaffirming that I was a gay man and not a bisexual who can be attracted to hyper masculinized women.

It absolutely would not be a relationship in which I was enthusiastically consenting.

Right there with you. It just wouldn't be fulfilling in the long run, you'd always crave wanting to be with a man because of course we would, we're gay lol.

The biggest thing about "passing" is that everything is staged. Like a fat chick using angled shots and contour, it's harder not to notice in the real world where the sun is shining. Drag queens used to crack jokes about "transgender friendly lighting" all the time for a reason.

Very true. There's also that old Drag Queen saying of "We don't do daytime drag" lol.

I agree that GAMPs are most likely a type of bisexual, mostly since the same guys who seem to be into TS/TV are also into twinks.

Yep. This is what I look like from time to time, I have no cosmetic work done to myself and I would still get these "GAMP" bisexual men hitting me up and wanting to meet me even when I tell them I'm ot a trans-identified man. Heck, I still would get these guys when I look like this So nah, call if "GAMP" but it's still bisexuality at the end of the day, just a "type" of bisexuality where the guy prefers femininity regardless of sex.

To any gay man here, would you seriously date and/or have sex with a TIF? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That makes sense. I think it's the eyes.

To any gay man here, would you seriously date and/or have sex with a TIF? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Right but see, you're a bisexual. A bisexual who seems to prefer men but still bisexual nonetheless.

To any gay man here, would you seriously date and/or have sex with a TIF? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I agree 100% with this: these chasers go for MtFs specifically because they provide a relatively "safe" environment for them to experiment with their sexuality, and by "safe" I mean that it provides them with deniability which they can cling into. I've heard stories of MtFs getting really frustrated because the "straight" males which go for them are really obsessed with dicks, hilariously enough. Yep, it's a relationship and attraction built on delusional lies. And exactly, the fact that these men are so obsessed with dick and how that drives them to TIMs who they themselves, don't want attention on their dick most of the time is just hilarious but again, shows why at the end of the day, these "trans-attracted" men are closet-case bisexuals deep down because they know the only way to get dick is to go to men, adult human males.

The most interesting thing to take from this is that GAMPs are not only deluding themselves, but also the MtFs they orbit around, putting lies on their profiles in order to better attract them. Remember: most HSTS are turned off by males who also go for other males, which makes this all even more hilarious. They lie about being female while at the same time they're being lied to by chasers.

Exactly and that is why in the end no one is truly satisfied. No one is truly happy and things would be different if both parties accepted themselves for what they truly are. That's why I don't hold back with my views because as I explained before, these closet-case bisexuals try to push and use that nonsense on those of us gender nonconforming men who don't lie about who we are but I also acknowledge that "HSTS" are the effeminate GNC gay men who got super frustrated with how hard it was to date in the gay scene and resorted to deluding themselves into believing they are women in the hopes of being able to finally attract more men. As a fellow feminine GNC man who has struggled to find a relationship, I sympathize with these men to a point because I get the struggle, I really do. But lying about reality is not the answer to this and as they more than likely see, they still attract the same men they were more than likely attracting before. Sure they may be getting more quantity of them but it's all the same BS of closet-cases who mostly view them as sex objects so nothing really changes aside from the fact that if these HSTS TIMs are taking HRT and/or surgeries, they'll be experiencing declining health at an earlier age and I think that's unfortunate. Especially because if they actually do get a relationship, aside from it being built on delusion like I said in my previous comment, I also don't believe the closet-case bisexual will stick around with them when the health problems start to appear and worsen with time.

The only way to truly fix this is for men like us (I'm including the HSTS TIMs) is to demand better from the men who claim to be into us but on the TIM's part, they also need to live in reality as well to help invoke the change. Stop insinuating that you're anything but a man and don't play into the delusions of these closet-cases. Make them face their sexuality for what it really is by rejecting their pushes for sex, stop allowing these men to see us as sex objects and instead, real people with feelings who desire love and romance like everyone else.

So I hope you understand now why I take this issue so seriously and why I don't entertain bullshit.

If she admits now that transitioning was a mistake, then what's left for her? She would have spent multiple years of her life sustaining a lie, and what for? Being cheated on by her wife, fetishized by creepers and multiple crippling health problems?!

This is true and unfortunately for her, I see Buck Angel taking this to her grave. She's far too prideful and narcissistic to admit that she was wrong even if there's a part of her deep down that feels she did fuck up.

And unfortunately, this is going to be the exact destiny reserved for many of these FtMs, if not worse!

Which is all the more reason to speak up on this stuff and try to deter people but especially Gay and Lesbian youths from going down the same path of self destruction.

To any gay man here, would you seriously date and/or have sex with a TIF? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

There's a canyon of a difference between a feminine man and a MtF, which is mainly due to the fact the latter goes for surgery specifically designed to emulate female characteristics, while the former does not.

The only difference between an effeminate, gender nonconforming man like myself and a trans-identified man is that the trans-identified man either grew hormone "moobs", or got fake bolt-on implants and deludes himself into thinking that doing all that makes them a woman. One is living in reality, the other is living in denial. And that's the hilariously stupid thing about it. Women are not breasts and "front holes" made out of penis tissue. The scope of being a woman is not measured by whether a man wants to fuck them or not. What I'm saying is that the men who go a step further and mutilate their bodies, they aren't any more of a woman for it and are just men who had cosmetic surgery and attraction to them is still homosexual, it's still same sex. Want proof? Ask how many men woudl seriously stick their dick in a "rotpocket"? The amount is gonna be next to none and its' because they know that it's not a vagina. And the reality is that the men going for these are closet-case bisexuals who want to satiate their craving for dick (something only men can have) but lie to themselves thinking that if they get the dick from a hyper feminized man than it's still "straight" and that is the delusion.

But then again, I could be wrong, as I have never seen chasers go for feminine males personally, so if you could clear if this is the case, I would be very grateful.

Oh it'd be my (dis)pleasure to share this with you. I'm on Grindr, not as much as I used to be because I'm not trying to find hookups and I get tired of the barrage of dick pics but when I was active on there in my 20s and even when I sometimes sign in on the app now, I would get messages from guys who were saying that they were only interested in trans-identified men and even when I told them that I wasn't trans-identified, that I didn't think I was a woman they didn't care, they still wanted to meet up with me. They'd still send me dick pics. And as you've seen in my photo, I don't have any cosmetic work done on me at all. And if Grindr kept chat logs that extended at least 10 years, I would show you just how frequent I was getting these so called "trans-attracted men". And I remember when I was talking to another gender nonconforming gay man on YouTube in the comments section (he wasn't a content creator like I was) who presents in a non-masculine or "boyish"passing way, he confided in me that the experience was the same for him. Are there some bi men out there who only want to engage with men who've gotten the cosmetic work? Sure but I can say a huge number of them really couldn't care less. As long as you're a man who doesn't present in a "manly man" or even "soft boy" way (though a good many even go for that, the "soft boy/flamboyant" look, they don't care, they want the feminine man dick whether he has bolt-ons or not. This is why I can speak with such clarity on the issue, this experience spans a decade. I'm 30 going on 31 and I hopped onto Grindr when I was 18-19 and was active on there for a good while. I started presenting more overtly feminine when I was 22 and the attention only tripled (even though most men were not my type tbf). So believe me, I know what I'm talking about here lol.

Case in point: even today there's still many married guys who only go to gay spaces to "relieve" day-to-day strees while leaving their wives and loved ones oblivious to it.

These are the ones most prone to seeing us as mere sexual objects (while being very homophobic, may I add) and are people who should be avoided.

This is true but there's another layer added to that when we're talking about men like myself, the GNC men who don't try to look masculine or mannish. A lot of those men I told you about who hit me up, a lot of them were married or guys who had a GFs. It was the biggest deal breaker for me even back when I first got onto Grindr. A lot of these men were those ones who claimed to only be "trans-attracted" ("transwomen only, no men" they shout in their bios yet still go for guys like myself lol).

But I argue men like myself get it worse in this regard because there are plenty of non-feminine/Gender nonconforming men in relationships with other men be them gay or bisexual. You know the whole Masc4Masc crowd, at the gym I work at I see plenty of "normal" gay men in relationships. But guys like myself? Hardly. And it's because feminine men, mainly the ones who actively look feminine are still stigmatized in society and this stigmatization is what the (usually) bisexual men worry about and it's why they take special force in only seeing men like myself as sex objects. Even the deluded TIMs still have to deal with this even when they get the fake "moobs" and the few who do get into relationships with other men, these men will hold them to a ridiculously high standard that they wouldn't hold women to like expecting the TIM to be dolled up 22/7, anything that won't "trigger" the reality that they're actually dating another man at the end of the day. Relationships built on lies never last and that's why it's rarity for even TIM to have a long-lasting relationship and even with that, built on truth and honesty.

I didn't know this specific aspect of Buck Angel's background, so thanks for the info.

I actually used the wrong term, it wasn't "septic shock". So what happened is that she had a uterine atrophy from the testosterone that turned into sepsis which almost killed her and it's why she had to get the hysterectomy. My bad but yet she still has the nerve to say that her life was improved since she "transitioned". Is she that fucking mental? lol She almost died from it and I'm sure she's still experiencing messed up health complications that have tied her to be a life-long patient to the hospital.

We only don't hear many stories about it because this is a niche thing.

Right well I hope we do see more women talk about it with time. Thought I think the reason why it hasn't happened yet is because women interested in bodybuilding is quite rare compared to men. Like at my gym, there are only about 3 obviously roided out women who go there whereas there are like 10-12 roided out men and this is chain gym too so it's not one of those smaller ones.

To any gay man here, would you seriously date and/or have sex with a TIF? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think some people, myself included, are reluctant to call them full on bisexual because they almost never go for men who present in a masculine way

I'm sorry but my response to that is "so?" So they don't go for masculine looking men. It doesn't matter because they are still going for a type of man, a hyper feminized man. It's still a man at the end of the day and by definition that is a homosexual attraction. Do you get what I'm saying? We feminine men are still men at the end of the day. It's not "pseudo bisexuality" and this is part of the problem. The thought process behind that is that because we feminine men are not conforming to masculinity, we aren't seen as "real men" and that's ridiculous. Women are not emotional lapdogs and shouldn't be expected to widen their definition of "woman" to include men who refuse to conform to masculinity and that attraction to men like myself is just as gay as attraction to masculine men. We are a type of man and that's just the way it is.

Entertaining this BS nonsense that these men who go for hyper-feminized men are "pseudo bisexuals" sets a really bad precedent that fuels their internalized homophobia and makes these guys continue to treat feminine men as sex objects and as a feminine man myself who had to go through that in my 20s and still going through it now, I want that to fucking stop and the only way to stop that is to stop satiating and validating the absurdity that liking hyper feminized men doesn't count as a real homosexual attraction.

What happened was that their reproductive system started to wither away because of the testosterone and roid abuse, which started to kill they from within.

Oh right. I think she had a septic shock issue when that happened too right? Sorry, it's been a minute since I watched anything with Buck Angel, the last thing I saw of her was when she interviewed with Meghan Murphy and I remember she went into long detail about her past but it's been a while so I kinda forgot some things. Though I do remember that she said that she used to get treated like absolute shit back in the 1980s as a gender nonconforming woman like how she got beat up by some men and even raped, had parts of her truck stolen whenever she was out in public, and a troubles at her university. It's pretty obvious with how she developed internalized misogyny within herself that set her down the path of self-delusion.

That's why not-FtM women who abuse steroids (yes, those exist) generally go for hysterectomies before starting: it fucks them up even worse than men who do the same

Ah I see. I work at a gym and sometiems will come across a roided out woman but never knew about the possibility that they'd get hysterectomies.

To any gay man here, would you seriously date and/or have sex with a TIF? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I would argue that both have their points of truth, as there are straight men who have futa fetishes (aka biological women who have dicks) and men who use their MtF chasing as a front to hide their bisexuality.

I'm sorry but I still find this BS. In the real world "Futa" are actually just men with tits. I get that in the fantasy art world, "Futa" are drawn with overtly female faces but that's the art world and the guys who look at that kinda stuff are doing it for the dick, the male sexual organ. And again in real life, "Futa" are just trans-identified men who look like dudes in makeup regardless of the angles and lighting used in the "Tranny porn". I cannot accept that "straight" men want to see feminized men because they don't do dick no matter how feminine the man loos. So no, I think a "GAMP" is just a straight up bisexual man who is attracted to femininity regardless of the sex. It's still bisexual at the end of the day and not even close to "straight" like these closet-cases try to spin it as.

This looks like what some HSTS say about masculine women: that most straight men would rather go for a MtF than a butch women.

It does only the reverse since I'm getting it from delusional women who think they're gay men and that because they're attracting these bisexual men who call themselves gay, it satiates their deluded egos that they can attract gay men.

It's also crucial to remember that most of these photos are carefully taken to make these MtFs/FtMs "pass" and that there's a big difference between how they really look on them and IRL.

I think you're right tbh. I work at a gym and we have 3 TIMs and 2 TIFs who are regulars. The TIMs don't "pass" at all when you see them up close and especially when you hear their voices which sound like flamboyant "lisp" voice. The TIFs, they sound like women when they talk and one of them who "passes" at a glance, when you actually look at her for more than a few seconds, you start to see the female traits come through even though she has a beard but I've seen her on Grindr and she does some sort of editing that flattens her chest a bit to make it not look lie she has breasts when IRL, she does. So yeah agreed, all smoke and mirrors.

Also, I love how the two examples of "passing" FtMs you provided went for the roided out look, which will totally not have grave consequences for them in the future (remember Buck Angel? Yeah...). Also they went the extra mile to hide their hips on the shot, so that's an extra 5 points for the effort.

That's true, I forgot about that LOL Buck Angel's uterus fell out right?

To any gay man here, would you seriously date and/or have sex with a TIF? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

If you want me to delete this I will

OH no you're fine. I'm open to all feedback!

AGB is currently the main target of Reddit's thought police (AgainstHateSubreddits). You might just be wasting your time arguing with women who think they're men, rather than actual gay men.

Oh I didn't know that. With that in mind, I really hope that most of the gay men there actually don't believe this bullshit but are just keeping quiet so they don't get harassed by the troon brigade.

Most GAMPs are into women and feminine men, so yeah, most GAMPs are bisexual. There are probably some gay men who are only into feminine men and I'm not sure if they'd be called GAMP according to the academics;

Exactly. It's bisexuality at the end of the day but moreso conditional where in this type of bisexual's case, they're attracted to femininity regardless of the sex of the person.

I think the idea of GAMP being a fetish is kind of bullshit in the first place. I used to be more conflicted about this but honestly I've come to believe that the GAMP label perpetuates a misunderstanding about this very specific subset of bi men: saying that they have a fetish and are somehow not bisexual. If they're attracted to both sexes... they're bi.

I' feel thye same way. I don't believe for a minute that it's just "simply a fetish". If these men can maintrain an attraction to feminine men who are GNC, it's still an active homosexual attraction whether they like it or not. The real issue here is the internalized homophobia that bisexua men are especially more prone to having. They go their lives thinking they are straight because they experience next to no sam e sex attraction with other men because most men in society are gender conforming, even the effeminate gay men who may act flamboyant and/or effeminate but still present in a fairly masculine-ish way. But then they come across a guy who actually likes to present in a feminine fashion and BAM their bisexual awakening is triggered because they're exposed to a rare kind of man who actually doesn't coform to masculinity in his personal appearance and they find it attractive but they have internalized homophobia because they don't want to be seen as or thought of as gay so they delude themselves into thinking these kinda men aren't "real men".

Women don’t pass as women all the time…what does this even mean? by Houseplant in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Haha right on

Women don’t pass as women all the time…what does this even mean? by Houseplant in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

One woman and two guys. I was surprised when my woman coworker admitted that she didn't see that the "woman" was clearly a man. The voice, the big fake breasts, and his face up close...

Is it reasonable to expect a life of singleness trying to date as a "pro-reality" gay & lesbian? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah same tbh. I only block people when they are being extremely antagonistic or obnoxious as well. It's just that around my age which are millennials (born in 1991) it seems some people aren't willing to agree to disagree when it comes to this "trans" crap because being against transgender ideology is "killing people" and all that noise. But yeah I wouldn't want to be with someone like that at all so I'm not completely bummed about it but it was more the wake up call that most gays have swallowed trans dogma and will not want anything to do with you if you're against it which just adds another obstacle when trying to date.

Is it reasonable to expect a life of singleness trying to date as a "pro-reality" gay & lesbian? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'll try lol It's just getting difficult especially when the few acquaintances I have are all in relationships and meanwhile, I haven't been in one at all and I'm now entering my 30s lol.

Finalizing my Gender Critical Video! But need some feedback by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah it's more or less gonna be a summary tbh. I don't want the video to be too long but I want to have something I can refer people back to when they ask me why I don't believe in gender ideology because it gets annoying typing out something akin to a wall of text to explain myself.

Finalizing my Gender Critical Video! But need some feedback by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback! I think your suggestion on the transing of kids and the negative conseqences would be a good lead into the discussion of homosexual erasure and gender nonconformity. It's just gonna be a little awkward because I know for some people, transing their kid so they don't become gay is something some parents want... Bit maybe if I explain the reality of what happens when you put kids on puberty blockers and how it can mess with their brain development and sex development problems, it can show that it really is a form of child abuse if you allow a child to do this to themselves.

And thanks for the tip on the 41%. I think what I'm gonna do instead is explain that "transition" doesn't fix anything in the long run because these trans-identified men and women still suffer from depression and that it can lead to suicidal idealization and that the money used on these ridiculous surgeries and drugs could be used for better mental healthcare avenues (that aren't gender affirmation).

Make sure to research thoroughly so they can't poke holes in your arguments

Right, this is why it's taken me a year to think about this and I'm still having a bit of difficulty writing my script LOL I have some key notes down though so all I'm trying to do is get organized. As for my previous video, I might post it here but I'm not sure because it was more of a general top 10 unpopular opinions of "LGBT" where I briefly go over certain things I don't agree with when it comes to the "LGBTQA+++"

Is it reasonable to expect a life of singleness trying to date as a "pro-reality" gay & lesbian? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I hope so because I'm a little bummed at this point lol.

Another Argument for why transgenderism is real and valid by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah after hearing some other explanations, this is so true haha.

Is it reasonable to expect a life of singleness trying to date as a "pro-reality" gay & lesbian? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'd like to hope so because it's already hard enough traversing the gay dating world as a GNC feminine guy and now I have to worry about my being pro-reality is also going to be a slight against me? FML lol

The reason he blocked me aside form that though is that I actually did try to challenge him a bit. I asked him to define what a woman and a man are without using stereotypes of the opposite sex and he just couldn't do it. He kept saying it's "how you identify" to which I asked him to explain how one "identifies" as either sex. Apparently that was problematic and he couldn't logically defend what he was saying.

Is Chris Chan not the best example of uncensored, unbridled AGP? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Don't get me wrong, Yaniv is still worse because at least with Chris, he didn't go after minors and he never physically harassed women after they made it clear they wanted nothing to do with him like his ex-friend Megan. But Chris is a very interesting case of what happens when you don't help mentally disabled people get proper help along with feeding the trolls.

Never heard of those people, will take a look!

Both are writers though Meghan Murphy also has a YT channel!

Transgenderism is the same as Homosexuality (Argument) by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's another good point. The way society viewed mental illness pre 1980s was a different time where anyone who wasn't normal by mainstream societal standards were to be locked away and have crazy experiments done on them.

Another Argument for why transgenderism is real and valid by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I see, I knew something wasn't adding up... It's once again, science fiction and for these "tests" to have validity, you'd have to run them on infants the moment they are born which is just unethical.

Wait so he's saying the other 79 genders aren't real? The transphobic monster!

LOL

Another Argument for why transgenderism is real and valid by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thank you for this explanation. I will admit that there's a lot I didn't quite understand, namely the more scientific jargon but I think I'm understanding the main point which is essentially a perfectly health baby (in this case a male baby), if he does have any intervention of feminized neurons that can corrupt the brain, the testosterone will block and counter it. Is that correct?

Is Chris Chan not the best example of uncensored, unbridled AGP? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'll be fair in also highlighting that Chris Chan also has autism and was raised by terrible parents who had backwards views on special ed thining they were insane asylums and prevented Chris from getting the proper help to deal with his condition so that made things worse for him but still... All the sexual stuff is point on AGP. I didn't even include the lactating fetish and obsession with wanting a vagina to the point where he cut his taint open and pierced it.

I'm very aware of Yaniv much before Blaire did his videos o him, Gallus Mag and Meghan Murphy were the first to talk about him way before Blaire did.

Transgenderism is the same as Homosexuality (Argument) by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Very nice points. The above examples are hilarious because no matter how you slice it, it's just ridiculous and harmful no matter how you spin it. We homosexuals don't have to change anything about ourselves that will negatively affect our harm in the long run neither.

And yeah it's absolutely insane these TRAs can be when their little ideology comes from a glorified pedophile who was clearly trying to take advantage of vulnerable young boys and both of them ended up committing suicide and yet his experiment is considered "successful"? How ? His primary "guinea pigs"' lives were ruined.

Is Chris Chan not the best example of uncensored, unbridled AGP? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Okay that's more than fair. Yaniv was trying to target kids...

Another Argument for why transgenderism is real and valid by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah it appears so since they claim to be a med student and are trying to come from a scientific angle but it leads to the question of "what is gender dysphoria?"

Transgenderism is the same as Homosexuality (Argument) by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

So simple yet so true and effective. Thanks!

How can you say this when r/actuallesbians has probably more dicks than r/askgaybros? by CancelPower in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That could be a possibility but if that's true, I'm surprised that the sub hasn't been shut down for "transphobia" because whenever a TIF starts a thread there, you have many gay men speak out against her and non have been banned.

Is Chris Chan not the best example of uncensored, unbridled AGP? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Oh for sure, Chris was doomed from the start with his parents not understanding what autism was and not getting him the help he needed back during his schooling years. As for the autism thing in general, there is some truth to this that a lot of trans-identified people do tend to have autism.

Is Chris Chan not the best example of uncensored, unbridled AGP? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You're correct, he was born autistic with parents who conceived him when they were past the prime years of procreation (his father was in his late 50s or early 60s while his mother was in her mid 40s). They refused to get him help when he was in school because they had backwards views on mental illness programs thinking they were akin to insane asylums and didn't understand what autism actually was. So Chris went his whole schooling life with not much help to deal with his condition and couple that with his parents who were too old to deal with him and didn't really discipline him enough when he was a child played a part in why he is the way he is.

Another Argument for why transgenderism is real and valid by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Hm I see. So it's really just a non-conclusive theory at this point? And even with that, it just ties back to the "what did these brains look like" before they developed life experience type of deal.