LifestyleDon't know if I can continue living in a world of the Trans Ideology

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[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

I wish I could afford therapy but I just can't and I don't think I ever will unfortunately. I want to try to touch it out like I have been doing the past decade but the thought of having to continue this way for another 20-30 years is exhausting and I'm not sure I can survive that so i would rather get things in order if worse comes to shove.

[–]lunarstrain 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Low cost therapy

US - Open Path Collective. One time fee of $60 for membership, $30 - $60 per session, based upon income.

CA - Affordable Therapy Network. $50 - $65.

UK - UK Counseling Network. 18 - 55 pounds.

AU - Talked. $50+.

EU - It's Complicated. 40+ euros.

Hopefully one of these is useful to you. I really want you to feel better some day.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Thanks, that'll definitely come in handy :)

[–]lunarstrain 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

No problem, happy to hear it. :-)

Don't get discouraged if you don't fit well with your first therapist, it took me a few to find one I liked and now things are going smoothly.

Hope you have an easier time of things soon regardless.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I'll try to keep this in mind. I'm just a bit nervous because my kinda issue is something I never hear others talk about, not unless they're being directed to gender affirmation therapy and we all know how nonsensical that is. I just don't want to hear the phrase "you might be trans" because that'll just show where their end game is.

[–]lunarstrain 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

The best advice I have for this situation is be up-front.

If you tell the therapist that someone has suggested to you before that you might be trans, you thought about it, and then came to the conclusion you're happiest as a feminine man, a decent therapist won't push you in that direction.

Especially if you mention that the unhappiness you experience around being a feminine gay man is because of the way others react to you or treat you due to your male feminity.

A lot of therapists have been fed the same sort of lies as the rest of the medical industry/TRAs and their desire is to genuinely help people. So, if you make it clear that you're not suffering from some kind of gender confusion, they won't push the issue.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well it's worth a shot, nothing to really lose right? Yeah, I'll try that, thanks.

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Kai, please know that your perspective can and probably will change in 20-30 years.

I can remember being depressed and feeling hopeless in my late 20's / early 30's, maybe for different reasons than you, but the sense of hopelessness was the same. These days I'm pretty happy/content and on top of my game.

It may be a cliche, but it does indeed "get better". Hang in there! And if you can find someone professional to sort out short-term feelings of despair, please don't hesitate.

Best wishes to you!

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Anything is possible I suppose, I'll have to wait but it's just a lot of things are looking very uncertain and it does lowkey terrify me. For now I just want to get the personal projects done and see where my head space will be after. I'll have some money saved for a few therapy sessions as well, maybe it'll help.