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[–]lunarstrain 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I'm sorry life has been so unkind, I can relate. It can be really difficult to see a future for yourself when you're so isolated from other people. It's good to hear that you have a goal for the near future, that's such an important and valuable motivator when you're dealing with depression like this.

I really recommend you look for a therapist if you can afford it, not all of them will try to forcibly trans you. I found one that understands that masculine women and feminine men exist. If you live in a woke place, look online. Video therapy offers a lot more options and you can even look for therapists that specialize in gay and lesbian issues but not trans. Your life has value beyond martyrdom even if it doesn't seem like it right now.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I wish I could afford therapy but I just can't and I don't think I ever will unfortunately. I want to try to touch it out like I have been doing the past decade but the thought of having to continue this way for another 20-30 years is exhausting and I'm not sure I can survive that so i would rather get things in order if worse comes to shove.

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Kai, please know that your perspective can and probably will change in 20-30 years.

I can remember being depressed and feeling hopeless in my late 20's / early 30's, maybe for different reasons than you, but the sense of hopelessness was the same. These days I'm pretty happy/content and on top of my game.

It may be a cliche, but it does indeed "get better". Hang in there! And if you can find someone professional to sort out short-term feelings of despair, please don't hesitate.

Best wishes to you!

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Anything is possible I suppose, I'll have to wait but it's just a lot of things are looking very uncertain and it does lowkey terrify me. For now I just want to get the personal projects done and see where my head space will be after. I'll have some money saved for a few therapy sessions as well, maybe it'll help.