r/ftm - Why do Cis men think their schlong and boys make them a man?

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-20T14:51:39+00:00

I was thinking, "Maybe she should read Hemingway's The Sun Also Rises if she's that clueless about castration anxiety and impotence." It's something that makes actual men squirm just hearing about it.

Some men are so neurotic about neutering their dogs that they have fake dog testicles installed.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-20T14:46:40+00:00

I just don’t understand men at all

This was my takeaway. It sounds like someone who's just encountered a foreign culture they've never seen before, like someone who travels to the UK and is SHOCKED by the fact that they drive on the left-hand side of the road. AND WHY CAN'T I GET PEANUT BUTTER IN THE GROCERY STORE??? WHAT IS WRONG WITH THESE PEOPLE???*

*I don't know if this is still true, but it used to be the case that peanut butter was not a popular product in the UK.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-19T20:43:01+00:00

. . . and we used to roll our eyes at college undergrads who called themselves bisexual for a semester or two. Now that seems like the good old days.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-19T16:03:55+00:00

I'm submitting this link because I think it's deeply relevant to many of the phenomena we discuss on here and that we have to deal with in real life. I'm posting my reasoning since I know the mods remove posts that they don't think are directly relevant to the LGB. I would make the argument that it's relevant because it involves the whole culture of internet pornography and how that culture has transformed into something unrecognizable to those of us who grew up in the age of print media or renting porn DVDs that were supposed to be available only to adults. What this mother found was available to her young daughter was chilling to me.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-19T14:44:02+00:00

Woke conversion therapy.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-19T01:45:59+00:00

Just ran it through my memory banks. With every boyfriend I've had, it was sex on the first date.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-17T14:49:11+00:00

No. That kid has basically 0% chance of not growing up totally emotionally abused and confused. I wonder if some of them won't rebel against their parents by rejecting all this crap.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-17T14:39:55+00:00

They don't ask, they TELL us all, over and over and over again, in entitled, obtuse, and often rapey fashion.

They're fishing for validation, and like with most narcissists, they are enraged when they don't get it.

It's funny. With the few trans people I knew in the 1990s, all they wanted to do was pass. They didn't bring up being trans all the time.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-17T14:36:59+00:00

gay men make me very dysphoric

Just the grammatical construction there reveals the problem. No, your dysphoria makes you dysphoric. Or maybe it's all the crazy ideas you absorbed from Tumblr or trans subreddits. It seems to be a feature of this generation that they are told to blame all their problems on someone else, as if the entire world is supposed to accommodate them.

I looked at the post history, and in photos, it's so obvious this person is female.

It's hard to be angry at this kid because, in the end, this is a kid who's been misled and sent down a path to misery. In the absence of that, maybe she would have had some rough teenage years and survived to become an adult able to deal with the real world. There's a reason why in the old protocols, transition was the treatment of last resort when nothing else worked for the treatment of dysphoria. It was never a great option.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-16T20:52:17+00:00

I can sympathize with the people in charge of Boston Pride and their decision to shut it down. After a certain point, I'd start thinking, "Why am I even putting up with this shit anymore when I could just walk away and live my life in relative peace? Why live with a target painted on my back? What's the point?"

And no, I wouldn't turn over an organization I'd built to people who only want to vandalize it. I'd just notify the landlord we were leaving, close the accounts, and turn off the utilities.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-16T00:32:10+00:00

True. Even the Westboro types were strictly obeying the law and trying to provoke violations of First Amendment rights so they could sue.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-16T00:30:04+00:00

I was 26 before I even met a trans person. As far as I can remember, the topic was never even mentioned during my entire college education.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-15T04:42:30+00:00

Reality check: Just remember that no one had heard of this nonsense just 10 years ago.

I was teaching at colleges until 2009, and I never heard anyone mention special pronouns. Nothing. Nada. Not a word. I sometimes had as many as 120 students per semester and never had a single student who identified themselves as trans. The whole issue of gender identity might as well not have existed.

Can you think of any phenomenon that's taken this seriously by so many people that basically came out of nowhere to become such a contentious issue in such a short span of time???

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-13T20:54:47+00:00

Great. 20 years ago, we worried about gay events being attacked by groups like Westboro Baptist Church. Now it's Trans-Antifa.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-13T17:41:43+00:00

Also: "I'm not biologically female because my brain is male and brain is part of biology" sounds like a 5-year-old's logic 😭

Well, it's what these kids are being told by their peers and teachers. They're having their heads filled with this shit. If I were cruel, I would have replied that I never had to question whether or not I should bring my dick to a potential gay date.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-13T16:45:02+00:00

I'll grant that she was probably trying to be cute, but, to my mind, it's a pretty graceless way of trying to be cute and remind everyone that you consider yourself a "queer woman" who wants to hang out with the guys, even when you're not invited. I think the gesture of using the f-slur for herself is her way of claiming that she's entitled to reclaim it.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-13T14:33:56+00:00

I sort of wonder if this law is strictly constitutional. Of course, businesses are regulated for various purposes for issues of environmental protection and public health, but does the government have the right to compel a business in a positive sense (not simply preventing them from doing something) to market products in a certain way?

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-13T13:43:47+00:00

Regarding that particular post, I didn't think it was particularly disrespectful, so I think it was a bad move for gender critical people to come down on her rather than just ignore her. It's pretty clear that this generated a backlash and that that post is now being brigaded from both sides.

Picking your battles wisely is never a bad idea.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-12T17:05:29+00:00

I haven't read comics since I was in elementary school, so forgive me if I'm behind on things. But if Superman is an alien, how does he have a kid?

And if the kid is also an alien, then isn't it all inter-species sex?

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-12T17:00:30+00:00

I think it's been pretty well established that Demi Lovato is, to use the technical term, totally fucking nuts.

Her educational achievement is limited to a home-schooled high school diploma, and like many of these child stars, she's a managed product with a mediocre intellect. But our culture of celebrity gives her a voice entirely out of proportion to its value.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-09T17:51:04+00:00

If the TQ+ want "queer" spaces or groups so much, why don't they open or start their own? Why do they ALWAYS have to take over spaces, groups, or organizations opened or created by the LGB?

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-08T13:31:02+00:00

Imagine an international NEWS organization like the BBC wanting to be impartial. The scandal!

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-07T16:10:13+00:00

Oh yeah -- as though an über-woque organization like the BBC is somehow suddenly going to become a hostile place for LGBTQIA2S+++ to work. What a pile of bullshit.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-07T16:08:30+00:00

There were some good replies on there.

Overall, I think gender is an attempt to turn what used to be called "personality" into a civil rights category. So if someone doesn't like your personality, they are now oppressive bigots.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-07T00:12:02+00:00

Mostly British? I thought France wasn't really having genderism at all -- like much of the rest of the world.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-06T13:40:54+00:00

Among Borderline Personality Disorder Symptoms:

Distorted and unstable self-image or sense of self

People with borderline personality disorder may experience mood swings and display uncertainty about how they see themselves and their role in the world. As a result, their interests and values can change quickly.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-06T00:59:51+00:00

Maybe read my post about how a TQ+ takeover destroyed a gay male community I was part of. It's happening more to lesbians than to gay men, but not only to lesbians.

And if radfems are trying to get other radfems fired from their university jobs . . . well, I guess that's a very long game to play.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-05T13:43:07+00:00

Like some of the commenters, I also suspect it's a fake post. It's a brand-new account used only to post this question, and then the user took replies and posted them to r/ftm, just trying to stir shit up.

The assholes over at r/gaybroscirclejerk like to pull this shit.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-04T13:18:32+00:00

She goes to one place, and suddenly she concludes that these spaces have always been open to everyone, when, in fact, that's not true at all. I went to a couple of gay bathhouses in the late 90s, and there were NO women there.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-04T01:32:15+00:00

The original Bond was campy, silly fun like Archer.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-03T15:39:41+00:00

I took a look at the posters post history, and she has posts on trans subreddits, including one celebrating the overturning of the Tavistock decision, something about "feasting on TERF tears."

Obviously a major TRA stirring shit up on AGB and then running back to GBCJ to boast about it, and GBCJ is moderated by TRAs.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-03T04:42:47+00:00

Well, maybe Luke Evans.

But as I've said for the last decade, the best James Bond these days is Sterling Archer.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-03T01:50:30+00:00

At least we seem to be winning when it comes to the bullshit of "you wouldn't have any rights without trans people." Their fake history is really not flying anymore.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-01T18:08:18+00:00

Their strategy is always to focus on something ridiculously specific without acknowledging that attraction is holistic. It's the whole package. And if I like dick, it's not that dick is somehow hard to find.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-01T17:28:19+00:00

And the thing is, once the TRAs have "won," the whole thing dies. They can't seem to keep it going. I wonder if the very fact of shared trans identity is uncomfortable to them because it reminds them of something that, paradoxically, they talk about all the time while somehow wishing that it's not what they were.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-01T16:41:39+00:00

As usual, good points from you.

You have to spiritually be a part of that group.

Yes, that sense of deep connection to one another is very important.

In order to be exclusive, you have to exclude people who try to change the fundamentals characteristics of that group.

And to connect these points, the glue that held the group together was our connection to one another as a brotherhood of gay men. The crux of the opposition was a hostility towards that brotherhood, seen from the outside, such that we were eventually told that wanting to experience that sense of brotherhood with one another by excluding those who were not like us actually made us bad people.

It's like a band where members are playing well together because they share a musical vision. Then other people want to join the band who aren't on the same page. Yet they want to be "centered" and demand it on the basis of their declared oppression rather than a sense of spiritual connection.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-01T01:11:22+00:00

He’s an activist

One thing you eventually learn about activists is that lying in the service of the cause is a very serious occupational hazard. It's just too tempting.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-01T01:06:20+00:00

These people exist and have always existed.

To some extent, but a lot of these people are the product of years of over-exposure to online porn, and they have to keep searching for novel things to try to maintain the effect.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-01T01:02:04+00:00

I like to ask the obvious question: If trans people were so powerful in terms of leveraging civil rights victories, why did they need the LGB at all? They could have just done it all without us instead of demanding that our movement include them.

JulienMayfair · 2021-10-01T00:58:05+00:00

Remember enthusiastic consent? Remember when we tried to teach young people about how they shouldn't give in to others trying to manipulate them into sex when they didn't want to? I do.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-30T00:32:02+00:00

Do these people compete to see who can sound the craziest? They all sound like they live their lives in online fantasy worlds.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-30T00:30:05+00:00

There's a "bodies buried in the backyard" vibe going on there.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-28T14:12:17+00:00

I just hope I live long enough to see "doctors" like this destroyed by malpractice suits.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-28T14:04:12+00:00

In reality, how often does anyone ever use the term "gold-star gay"? I see it maybe once a year. It's more of a joke than anything else, but then the first thing you lose when you enter the language-policing mindset is your sense of humor.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-28T00:19:26+00:00

I'd suggest using the word "totalitarian" as opposed to 'Nazi' because totalitarianism is what we're dealing with. There is no sphere of individual autonomy in opinion you are allowed to have on these issues. You are not allowed the freedom of conscience to disagree without being punished.

TRAs are the new Inquisition. You must believe, or else.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-27T14:02:45+00:00

Maybe it's a difference of opinion, but I think in certain of her photos, she could be mistaken for a man. I think we've all, at one time or another, seen someone, say, in the grocery store and haven't been able to tell right off if the person is a man or a woman. Beckham admits it herself in the interview.

Also, Beckham notes that she was carrying her niece on her shoulders, which is more of a stereotypically "dad" thing to do.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-27T13:57:45+00:00

From another post from the same user:

For the past few years ive been doing hookups late at night on the side of the street. This is because currently i dont own my own car or house yet and wont for another 6 months.

Recently neighbors have been calling the cops and now there starting to get on to me. I dont know why since like 80to90percent of the hookups are on the side of the street very rarely would they ever park in a drive way and it would be late at night so dont get why ppl are complaining.

He's having sex in public places enough to get noticed by neighbors who've complained to the police about it, and he can't understand why. What a credit to the community.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-27T13:48:20+00:00

Well, at least this person is getting most of the history right.

Trans people could always have had their own movement, but instead they tried to latch onto gay liberation. The truth is that they were always trying to take shelter in the community we built, and now they want total control over it.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-25T17:37:46+00:00

I think part of it is size. TumblrInAction has close to 500,000 subscribers, and I think Reddit management is a lot happier to sacrifice something like LGBDropTheT with 20,000 subscribers to the mob than they are to ban one that's so popular. They know banning it would generate a major backlash and further delegitimize Reddit.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-25T01:08:13+00:00

. . . because you're so far up your own ass in terms of trans ideology that, in your mind, you can do no wrong.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-25T01:05:01+00:00

was recording a private conversation

Which reminds me that the legality of doing so is highly dependent on state law. In some U.S. states, secretly recording a supposedly private communication is illegal.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-25T01:02:49+00:00

Most men would not want to tell their boss (or anyone) that they got rejected because of male pride. But I guess she wouldn't understand that . . .

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-24T17:24:46+00:00

Guy with beard is hot.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-24T17:19:23+00:00

Narcissistic Personality Disorder 101: Triangulate. If someone attacks your fragile self-image, set out to destroy that person by any means possible.

Also, do you think most actual cis men would have taken screenshots and sent them to the boss? No way.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-24T01:08:20+00:00

It's amazing to me how more people don't recognize how the whole gender movement reinforces conservative stereotypes about what's gender-appropriate.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-23T18:17:03+00:00

I'll say it again: "Same-sex attraction" was the neutral term for writing about homosexuality in academic papers in the 1990s to avoid the what was seen at the time as the medical connotations of 'homosexual' and the cultural associations of 'gay.' So you'd write about how same-sex attraction manifested itself culturally in, for example, Classical Greece or Rome or in Japanese feudal military culture.

No one talked about "same-gender" attraction until a couple of years ago.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-23T03:03:13+00:00

That's how they do it. Get a moderator position and shut down everyone they don't like.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-22T19:23:44+00:00

Funny thing is that the guy who wrote this has a PhD in literature and has been to Iraq, even wrote a book about it.

His main point is usually criticizing U.S. military involvement overseas, which is fair, and radical Islam is one way in which opposition to U.S. militarism expresses itself. But that doesn't mean I need to "listen" to it to understand that it's a totalitarian, patriarchal, and anti-LGB ideology.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-22T14:39:59+00:00

Doing medical research via Twitter??? WTF?

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-22T01:48:02+00:00

Facing that reality might tRigGeR hIs dySPhoRia.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-21T12:39:57+00:00

Yeah, there's no argument here. No reasoning. Just an opinion.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-21T12:39:22+00:00

You know what? I don't need a 24 year-old lecturing me about a period of history that I lived through just because he thinks he knows about it because of a scene he's played in a movie.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-20T19:46:03+00:00

Dear Not Queer Guy,

Run away. Fast. Save yourself.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-20T19:42:02+00:00

" . . . and then I was finally diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, which explained my distorted and unstable self-image."

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-19T02:16:27+00:00

Isn't that basically the textbook definition of autogynephilia?

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-18T00:14:26+00:00

an excuse to not date trans people at all

So . . . I now need an "excuse" if I don't want to date someone I'm not attracted to in the first place? Get some personal boundaries, people.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-17T18:35:06+00:00

Ethics? Character? Integrity? Trust? What are those things compared to the pleasures of tricking someone into sex?

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-17T18:31:41+00:00

Remember kids, only 12% of gay men polled would date a trans man. And gay men are what? 3% of the overall population? So that makes your dating pool 0.36% of the general population.

I guess they just reinforce each other's delusions until they have to go out into the real world as individuals and meet the cold reality of their choices.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-17T14:57:50+00:00

It really irks me that professors are still parroting that same line about homosexuals being invented in the late 1800s. I wrote about that ~30 years ago, pointing out that in De Sade's writing, he presents same-sex attracted men as a known type a century earlier. And we've just kept pushing the dates further back as we discover more and more. Dante had Sodomites, and I watched a video not too long ago about how widespread homosexuality seemed to be in Renaissance Florence.

No one would argue that electricity didn't exist before someone gave it a name.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-17T04:47:53+00:00

went on to commit suicide.

I read that Alexis died of HIV complications, not suicide. He had had HIV since 1987.

But it was true that he had gone back to living as a man towards the end and had reportedly decided that all the gender stuff was silly.

So Robert Arquette lived 35 years as a man, 9 years as a woman, and then three more years as a man; yet, all the internet sources describe him as a trans woman.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-16T01:23:05+00:00

Kickboxing is a really terrible sport in general. The husband of a friend of mine was a competitive kickboxer, and he's had to have multiple major orthopedic surgeries in his 50s because of the damage it did, including foot surgery on severely damaged bones in his feet, knee surgery, and a hip replacement.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-16T00:50:47+00:00

It's only positive function is to act as a warning sign that one should stay well away.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-16T00:49:38+00:00

I think non-binary has run its course as a trend. Everyone is tired of it. It's like some tired dance craze that now clears the dance floor, the Macarena of identities.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-15T19:23:35+00:00

Antifa + TRA + Pacific Northwest seems to be a very bad combination.

Remember when Portlandia was funny? Now it seems like a warning.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-15T16:04:19+00:00

I think I would separate science from medicine here as they are not always the same thing. Medicine is supposed to be based in science, but since medicine has to straddle science and social policy, it's never been immune to social pressures. Take, for example, the disaster of the "fat makes you fat" approach to nutrition, which we now know was hardly based in science at all and ended up just making people fatter by replacing fat with sugar.

Johns Hopkins stopped doing gender surgeries because they followed the science and found that the outcomes were not improved. But then people demanded these surgeries, and there were always places where someone would provide a service for the money, like the transwoman who's going to Brazil to get a womb transplant, probably because no doctor in the U.S. or Europe would do it.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-15T12:57:32+00:00

How so?

It may be the case that it's hard to explain to anyone who wasn't there, but back in the 90s, I attended two lectures by Butler, and you had to arrive early just to get a seat because the whole place was packed with fans of hers hanging on her every word. She had major academic celebrity status, and it's clear now as it was then that she wanted to replace biological sex with gender.

In a way, it's about who has the authority to speak on a subject, and the postmodernists have always tried to expand their purview, including expanding that critique into the sciences. Now, for that, Butler is not singularly responsible. There were a lot of postmodern theorists questioning science as a discipline back then, with a lot of it actually coming from branches of feminism. There was a whole philosophy of science group that met at our university, and it was primarily populated by women and coordinated via Women's Studies. It was pushing the same idea found in most postmodern critiques -- that what science considers "knowledge" is actually produced by covert structures of power that seek to maintain the status quo.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-15T12:45:11+00:00

Lesbian & Gay Studies was an ethnic studies-based approach of actual histories of gay/lesbian communities, but it was largely supplanted by Queer Theory, which, as you say, is more philosophically-based and, significantly, tends to be opposed to all social norms related to sex and/or gender identity.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-15T03:23:07+00:00

I've theorized about this in the sense that the use of technology is never a one-way street. It's a feedback loop. The use of technology changes the user. Think about people who live their lives in worlds where people are focused on interacting with others via a disembodied online persona, where it's easy to pretend to be someone else and get rewarded for pretending to be that person. That's one reason I think that transgenderism was so rare when we were in a world where we were largely limited to living in our physical bodies. I think tech has amplified or even created impulses for people to live through identities that they've made up instead of being limited to the "meat."

Where I think you're wrong is in calling computers "mechanistic things." Older physical machines were purpose built. They did one thing. Computers are universal machines. They're largely not mechanical. They do anything you program them to.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-15T00:42:17+00:00

I get what you're saying, but I think one can look at the history and draw a line of influence from Butler to her followers, especially people like Wilchins and Feinberg, who were not only reading gender theory but were participating in things like the Camp Trans protest of MichFest and writing books about gender that were easier to understand.

As a comparable example, I was aware of Critical Race Theory as developed by Derrick Bell and Kimberlé Crenshaw. Now, I doubt a lot of people have actually read Bell's or Crenshaw's work, but you see people nevertheless believing received versions of those ideas and acting on them.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-15T00:32:45+00:00

True. Butler quickly developed an intensely dedicated following of grad students to whom she was a kind of high priestess. They became her "faith militant."

And everyone forgets Riki Wilchins, who played a big part in the 1990s in disseminating versions of Butler's thinking that were easier to understand than Butler's own writing. Wilchins' main career was in tech, and Wilchins helped created a movement in internet tech that supportive of gender ideology, which is part of why companies like Google and Twitter are so pro-trans.

Butler, on the other hand, has mainly remained above it all, but she dog whistles to people like Antifa by calling belief in biological reality "fascism," reassuring them that when they attack people critical of gender, they are attacking fascists.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-15T00:24:04+00:00

Why has it been so widely accepted by LGB people in particular when it harms us?

I can remember when we were still trying to argue that things like Gay & Lesbian Studies was a legitimate field of academic inquiry, and especially in the 1990s, one path to legitimacy was through constructing what at least appeared to be an impressive body of knowledge that required great application of effort to understand. And a way to individual career development was to align yourself with people who seemed to be on the cutting edge. Judith Butler made a big splash, and many people wanted to share in the aura of brilliance that surrounded her. She quickly developed many followers and people who cited her, hoping it would make them look smart, too. She became one of the main voices of Queer Theory, and, in that sense, if you opposed her, you risked making yourself look like a reactionary. I'm guilty of quoting a passage from her in a paper I wrote back then.

Also, remember that, in early 1990s, all of this seemed like a lot of obscure theory. No one, myself included, could have imagined how it would play out once gender identity caught on and became a popular concept. I never imagined something like that would be taken so seriously and, within an amazingly short time, become a protected identity category in law.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-15T00:07:03+00:00

I would argue Twitter, Tumblr and Discord have wayyyy more of a role in TRA shit than Judith ever had.

But I think that's the trickle-down effect of her ideas.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-14T14:28:54+00:00

But then cishet people have to ask me how and when I came out and I have to come up with some elaborate emotional cover story

OK, so you think about what is often one of the most difficult periods of a gay man's life, coming out, and you make up a fake story so you can pretend that you went through the same thing.

I guess we're too busy teaching kids about gender these days to teach them about character traits like honesty and integrity.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-12T16:56:18+00:00

I guess Arya Stark of GoT was really a trans man, despite the fact that she was pretending to be a boy to conceal her identity in order to escape the Lannisters and to avoid being raped.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-12T16:53:52+00:00

. . . and bacha bazi is actually trans women, not boys who are basically sold as slaves and forced to prostitute themselves to older men.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-12T16:09:36+00:00

It seems to be that young people have been trained to believe that they are responsible for everyone else's feelings, and, as a result, they are no longer able to distinguish between someone feeling a bit down and someone being seriously mentally ill.

I increasingly believe that a lot of modern gender transition represents people avoiding dealing with their real problems. It's always easier to distract yourself.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-12T13:17:25+00:00

He's a DRAMA teacher. He's completely out of bounds here.

I've studied and taught drama on the literary side. The thing is, there are plenty of ways that sexuality comes into the topic without your having to bring it in via your personal life. Several of the most well-known playwrights of the 20th C. were gay, like Tennessee Williams and Tony Kushner, just to name a couple, and there has long been a gay community tied to the professional theater. You hardly need to bring it in via your personal life as a teacher. It's already there in the material. You just have to teach it honestly.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-12T00:38:16+00:00

I read the whole story on the linked site. Salient points: Teacher is 22 years old and resigned after two weeks. And this is in Missouri, not known for its liberal views.

I taught high school for a couple of years, during which I learned it was not what I wanted to do, but I learned some things that probably apply to junior high school, too. As a public school teacher with kids this age, you need to have a professional classroom persona separate from your private life, which, pretty obviously, this guy had no time to develop. You need to establish your professional credibility with the school administration, your faculty colleagues, your students, and their parents. You are there to teach the students, not to make yourself the center of attention.

I'm not saying people have to be closeted, but there are rules of professional decorum that should be observed. It's the price you pay for being a member of the profession.

And of course the story was posted on Fox News where you are not going to get unbiased comments.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-11T15:02:57+00:00

I hope Jules Gleeson is never hired again to write for any reputable outlet.

Unfortunately, the Teflon Trans shield will probably protect him. They can essentially do no wrong these days.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-11T03:57:27+00:00

Ironically, one of Butler's books is titled Bodies That Matter, which I still have on my bookshelf. I had to read all that crap in grad school 25 years ago.

Also, the interviewer, Jules Gleeson is a trans woman and somehow a Marxist, though I don't know quite how you square materialism with gender ideology. I'm sure there's a postmodern workaround that claims to make it all make sense.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-10T18:24:39+00:00

I've already left. I have no interest in going to Pride.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-10T18:23:24+00:00

I know a gay man in his sixties who's a columnist/journalist, and he's constantly trying to position himself on the cutting edge of wokeness. I'd say it's obvious to everyone that he's pandering in order to stay employed.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-10T18:21:12+00:00

Takei is famous for playing a character he played 50 years ago. He has little other cultural capital. If he disagreed with TQ+ talking points, he'd be canceled in an instant. If he goes along with them, he signals his virtue in their eyes.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-10T14:42:00+00:00

Takei is similar to other older pro-trans gay men I know: hanging on to every trend in a desperate attempt to remain relevant. And I say that as someone in his fifties. I'm well aware that I'm not on the same page as those who consider themselves young and hip.

And I don't hate anyone. But I would rather see people get treatment that actually helps them with their psychological problems.

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