RIP Our Toucans by Hatman in TumblrInAction

[–]JulienMayfair 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

We at LGBDropTheT have been keeping Saidit warm for you for the last two years (We got hit in the 2020 ban wave). I figure Reddit banned TIA and SJIA as a Pride month present for the TRAs.

All I can say is that that Reddit can continue to hide its head in the sand and pretend that they represent mainstream culture. They'll simply be all the more surprised by the escalating backlash against the increasing overreaches of the gender mob.

I don't want to see the LGB caught up on that backlash, but we will be. We sounded the alarm about policies that were going to blow up in all our faces.

MtF - osteoporosis, skoliosis, no sexual function, and overwhelming regret. by leached_outcrop in GenderCritical

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This is really sad, and it brings back memories of what an FtM friend of mine said not too long before she committed suicide, particularly the fact that, in the long run, transition did not make her happy.

Second female Penn swimmer steps forward, describes teammates in tears by AmericanMuskrat in SuperStraight

[–]JulienMayfair 7 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Most transwomen these days are becoming "trans lesbians."

Second female Penn swimmer steps forward, describes teammates in tears by AmericanMuskrat in SuperStraight

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I used to be a competitive swimmer, and this guy is such a piece of shit. Body geometry makes a HUGE difference in how effective you are as a swimmer, including shoulder width, arm/leg length, hand/foot size, etc... It's simple physics. His reach and how much force he can deliver on each stroke is going to be far greater than a woman's. Look at any Olympic swimming competition, and you'll see that all the men are tall with long limbs, just like divers and male gymnasts tend to have compact builds.

And as a competitive swimmer, he knows all this. And he does it anyway.

Welcome Back to TiA by Hatman in TumblrInAction

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Welcome to Saidit, where those of us on LGBDropTheT ended up over a year ago during the 2020 purge. It truly amazes me how quickly gender ideology has managed to gain so much power. Gender really is a new religion.

New California law will force retailers to have ‘gender neutral’ toy sections by NutterButterFlutter in GenderCritical

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I sort of wonder if this law is strictly constitutional. Of course, businesses are regulated for various purposes for issues of environmental protection and public health, but does the government have the right to compel a business in a positive sense (not simply preventing them from doing something) to market products in a certain way?

As the parent of two vagina owners by Chunkeeguy in GenderCritical

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Odds of randomly happening to have two TIF daughters vs. odds that this is a result of psychological/sexual abuse.

Charges filed over the Wi Spa "Transphobic Hoax" by Finnegan7921 in GenderCritical

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As usual, the TRAs have picked a real winner to stand behind: a registered sex offender with a history of indecent exposure charges and other criminal offenses.

We warned people that unregulated self-ID would lead to perverts doing thing like this, but of course, they replied that no one would ever present themselves as transgender to be a predator. No, that would NEVER HAPPEN.

“Watch me take a knife to your throat” | Michael Biggs | The Critic Magazine by BiologyIsReal in GenderCritical

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Sadly, most of them use to be Women's Studies departments before they were taken over by Queer Theorists and repurposed.

Guardian Engages in Massive Gaslighting in Wi-Spa Coverage by JulienMayfair in GenderCritical

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All those protesting men in women's changing areas are painted as far-right extremists with ties to QAnon, failing to mention that these protests originally turned violent due to Trans-Antifa.

Woman on Canada's Women's Soccer Team is now a hero(heroine?) for denying that she's a woman by JulienMayfair in GenderCritical

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I'm still gobsmacked that you can "make history" simply by claiming you're genderspecial. Clearly none of the other plain old standard-issue women on the team are deserving of mention.

The real harm of lumping everything together as "gender identity", which can lead to death of people who really need help by VioletRemi in GenderCritical

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I'm also reminded of an FTM trans man I knew in graduate school during the transition. She admitted to me that transition didn't fix her problems, and she eventually committed suicide.

How gender critical women are seen (confessions of an ex-TRA) by SexualityCritical in GenderCritical

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Just as an example of how Google manipulates search results, I decided to google Kai Decadence (not being familiar). Google auto-completed the name as "Kai Decadence TERF."

Then I used duckduckgo, and it didn't try to paint him as a TERF.

Moment judge calls out Strange Chaselio and the ACLU's Big Lie of the Trans Sports "Ban" by jjdub7 in GenderCritical

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What about the girls' feelings

When you hate everything about yourself that made you a woman so much that you now deny being one and live as a man, it's probably not surprising that you don't care very much about being fair to women.

Benefits of Transsexual Surgery Disputed As Leading Hospital Halts the Procedure (Published 1979) by divingrightintowork in GenderCritical

[–]JulienMayfair 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Just from my own experience, I was friends with someone transitioning FTM in graduate school. She later told me that it didn't fix her problems, and a few years later, she committed suicide. I also knew an older MTF who confessed to me that she regretted transitioning, especially the surgery, but felt she was stuck with the outcome. And the latter actually passed pretty well and was not remotely a modern angry TRA.

I fully believe that the current enthusiasm for transition is going to end badly for a lot of young people, but it's hard to tell people that they are going to regret their decisions in 25 years.

California’s proposed “equity”-focused K-12 mathematics framework says there are no students who are intellectually gifted in the subject area, and that providing tracks for higher-level math students is discriminatory. by scrubking in politics

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It's tragic to think of how much intellectual potential our society going to lose by attempting to handicap our most gifted students to make the rest feel better about themselves.

And you can bet China isn't dumbing down their educational system for woke points.

Trans ‘woman’ in Devon jailed for arranging sex with fake underage girls by Chunkeeguy in GenderCritical

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What a surprise . . .

Elliot Page Says 'I Knew I Was a Boy When I Was a Toddler': 'Absolutely, 100%' by Femaleisnthateful in GenderCritical

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FWIW, I read that El Page recently filed for divorce from her wife after separating from her last summer. It seems overall that she's a very troubled and unhappy person.

Oscars ratings plummet to record low, 58.3% drop off from last year. by [deleted] in news

[–]JulienMayfair 7 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

too many depressing movies

Seriously. For me, this last year has been depressing enough. Back in the Recession, I lost my job, so do I really want to sit through Nomadland and be reminded of all that anxiety all over again? I've become, by default, the primary caretaker for my aging mother whose memory is deteriorating. Do I really want to go sit alone in my house and stream The Father? Do I want to watch movies about racial issues while the downtown of the city where I live is being trashed by rioters and that's all that's on the news 24/7?

Reality has been bad enough. I've taken to watching history documentaries and how-to videos on Youtube.

DNA is Transphobic by Tarrock in MeanwhileOnReddit

[–]JulienMayfair 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, there is an accommodation: If you don't want to know about your DNA, don't take a DNA test.

4 in 10 transgender women in seven major US cities have HIV: CDC by Carle in GenderCritical

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Are there many black TIMs in the south?

They certainly exist. They tend to be gay black male crossdressers as opposed to AGP white males. The thing is, you probably move in different social circles. I've read several studies over the last decade about the challenge of trying to slow HIV transmission among black communities in the Deep/rural South. HIV educators have been trying to target prevention strategies to these communities for 30 years without a great deal of success.

4 in 10 transgender women in seven major US cities have HIV: CDC by Carle in GenderCritical

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I think we're on the same page.

4 in 10 transgender women in seven major US cities have HIV: CDC by Carle in GenderCritical

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Efforts to control the spread of HIV have run into these same factors for the last 40 years. HIV educators and community activists managed to get the HIV transmission rate WAY down from its peak in the early 1980s, but at a certain point, the rate leveled out and has remained stubbornly flat. Nothing seems to change it, especially in the U.S. South where lack of education is a major factor. So really, none of this is new information. This was "Safer Sex" guidelines from 1987. It's like cigarette smoking or anything else like that. A certain percentage of people will not change their behavior no matter how you try to present the information to them or intervene in other ways. You can talk about the factors that have contributed to making people unreachable, but once that's the case, you can't necessarily do anything about it. You can't force people to listen to you or force them to change their behavior unless you want to implement a total police state.

Trans charities are using children as political pawns by BiologyIsReal in GenderCritical

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The parents might, but the same issues of cognitive capacity would apply. Can a 13 year-old comprehend the consequences of signing a liability waiver?

ACLU blocks woman's request for data on numbers of transgender inmates in women's prisons by BiologyIsReal in GenderCritical

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I was partly being facetious. I'm aware of the story of how the ACLU become unmoored from its original mission.

ACLU blocks woman's request for data on numbers of transgender inmates in women's prisons by BiologyIsReal in GenderCritical

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What the fuck happened to that org?

Chase Strangio

UVA Med TiM Professor embarks on quest to ruin minority student's career for questioning the ill-defined concept of micro-aggressions during mandatory campus seminar by jjdub7 in GenderCritical

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Like another commenter, I see no evidence that any of the faculty members involved are trans. It's still a ridiculous situation, but let's try to keep with the facts.

Progress!!!! - "Caitlyn Jenner is considering running for governor of California. If elected, Caitlyn, the winner of the men's decathlon at the 1976 Olympics, would become the first woman to govern California" by BEB in GenderCritical

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Yes, California really needs someone who's never held elected office or had any significant political experience running the state. But then narcissists often fail up in our strange new world.

TiM Grace Lavery, the Berkeley English prof. who wanted to burn transphobic books, seems to be delighted at the thought that a TiM could get a uterus implanted from a dead or living woman, only to abort the fetus that was presumably the point of the operation. (Judith Butler is also at Berkeley...) by BEB in GenderCritical

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Narcissism 101:

1) Do or write something really awful.
2) Act like you've been misunderstood and claim to be the innocent victim when people call you out on it.
3) Cultivate sympathetic, reassuring, and validating responses from your rescuers/supporters.

TiM Grace Lavery, the Berkeley English prof. who wanted to burn transphobic books, seems to be delighted at the thought that a TiM could get a uterus implanted from a dead or living woman, only to abort the fetus that was presumably the point of the operation. (Judith Butler is also at Berkeley...) by BEB in GenderCritical

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Why is it these people are always mugging for the camera like Frank-n-Furter from Rocky Horror or Norma Desmond from Sunset Boulevard?

TiM Grace Lavery, the Berkeley English prof. who wanted to burn transphobic books, seems to be delighted at the thought that a TiM could get a uterus implanted from a dead or living woman, only to abort the fetus that was presumably the point of the operation. (Judith Butler is also at Berkeley...) by BEB in GenderCritical

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It's a problem generally with Humanities Departments these days. I'm sure Berkeley is still good in science and technology and possibly some social sciences, but the humanities is in a race to see who can virtue-signal the most by hiring the most outrageous faculty. I'm sure Judith Butler helped since she is also at Berkeley.

How will the young TQ+ cope with bodily aging? by JulienMayfair in GenderCritical

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Have you seen that TV show Botched where a team of plastic surgeons fixes the mess left behind by previous botched surgeries? Though they try not to overstate it, those doctors are clearly aware that some of the people who come to them have serious mental health problems, and they turn down some of the requests they get for bizarre body modifications.

This made me think just now for the first time: Is there a continuum between the women who want bizarre plastic surgery to give themselves unnaturally huge breasts, butts, and lips and the women who want all those things removed? Is one the flip side of the other? It's as though one side wants desperately to exaggerate markers of being female to the point of caricature, while the other side wants desperately to erase those same markers.

Yey, capitalism by jet199 in SuperStraight

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"Would you like fries with that?"

Human Rights Campaign is apparently in competition with the ACLU to see who can LIE more about trans in girls' sports by BEB in GenderCritical

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It's never, "Montana legislators have voted to protect female athletes."

Making Sense of Gender Identity by JulienMayfair in GenderCritical

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rejecting your biological sex seems to be some kind of coping mechanism for some of these kids being sucked into gender ideology.

It's rejecting one's biological sex they gain something else, namely a structure that focuses their attention and, crucially, allows them to avoid the real sources of their distress. People will do all sorts of things to avoid dealing with psychological pain. Processing that in therapy is no fun. Dissociation is one way of dealing with trauma, but it is -- or should be -- a temporary survival strategy, not a permanent state of being.

Back on the GC subreddit, we discussed how gender identity is very tempting for autistic kids. It explains their difficulty relating to social situations and provides them with instant online "friends" who cheer them on, plus it gives them an ideology to focus their attention. It's the perfect trap for them.

Making Sense of Gender Identity by JulienMayfair in GenderCritical

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It definitely draws them from individual psychological problems into a kind of collective narcissism, and then we have the "Narcissistic Triangle" of Victim, Rescuer/Savior, and Everyone Else in which the narcissist plays the victim and then engages the rescuers/saviors to be their white knight and defend them from the rest of us who are simply baffled by it.

As you alluded to above, this also gives the gender identity allies/rescuers/saviors something to do, a cause to fight for.

I was once recruited by a narcissist as a rescuer and came to his rescue on a number of occasions before I started to realize that he was really the cause of all these conflicts he found himself in wherein he claimed to be misunderstood. Narcissists are really good at this.

Manipulative, abusive issues with the trans movement by BovineFeminism in GenderCritical

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In a way, my post today and yours parallel each other. I'm coming to the conclusion that gender identity has become a way for people who are legitimately mentally unwell to demand attention from the world for their internal distress, while, at the same time, avoiding naming it because it's too painful and overwhelming to try to name and confront it directly. Thus, attempting to control others' behavior becomes for them a way of managing their internal distress -- which it is for narcissists. That is why narcissists do what they do. Their self-image is fragile and must be protected at all costs -- in order to avoid dealing with their own fractured internal reality.

You might say that gender identity is becoming a kind of expressionistic theater movement, and we are the unwilling audience.

While the US Left attacks free speech and biology, the Christian Right is now defending it. As someone who lived through the rise of the religious right, I am baffled and perturbed as to how & why the tables have turned. Big Gender could be the Left's version of religion? by BEB in GenderCritical

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One way to prove your faith in a particular movement is to embrace something for which there can be no rational proof as a sign of your commitment. For the Left at the moment, TWAW/TMAM is that profession of faith that demonstrates that you are a member of the congregation.

NATIONAL GEOGRAPHIC on the discovery of a female prehistoric big game hunter, "Importantly, the team cannot know the individual’s gender identity, but rather only biological sex (which like gender doesn’t always exist on a binary)" by BEB in GenderCritical

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Oh, I'm not an expert, but I've watched shows like Time Team. I've seen them find skeletons and try to figure out if it's the skeleton of a man or a woman. It just seemed inevitable to me that the gender mob would start screaming at them that they couldn't know what gender this dead person considered him/herself.

Slanting the News: "Bill Would Ban Transwomen From Sports" by JulienMayfair in GenderCritical

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Ironically, a woman was the one person objecting to the announcement, but it's the same at my undergraduate university. Young women are passionately campaigning for TIMs in women's sports. I truly don't comprehend their motivations.

Reddit bans anyone for mentioning their new admin Ashton "Aimee" Challenor's name by TurtleFuzz in WatchRedditDie

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Or the "family business"

Reddit bans anyone for mentioning their new admin Ashton "Aimee" Challenor's name by TurtleFuzz in WatchRedditDie

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Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain -- or the wig.

ACLU transgender lawyer, Chase Strangio, "So much violence against trans people would be eradicated if people could just accept and celebrate their sexual attraction to trans people. Your obsession is so often born of your feared desire." by BEB in SuperStraight

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Aren't they something like 40% likely to be murdered?

No. Some women back on the GenderCritical subreddit did a deep dive into murder statistics and found no epidemic of trans homicides. In fact, as I said above, they found that trans people as a whole did not have any significant risk of homicide based simply on being trans. Where the numbers diverged were where you brought race into the equation, so for trans women of color, their homicide rates track with their race being the significant factor. In contrast, for white trans people, their homicide numbers were lower than the average for the general population in the U.S.

Of course, posting analyses of data like this was part of the reason GenderCritical got banned.

The epidemic of trans homicides is one of the myths they've invented.

ACLU transgender lawyer, Chase Strangio, "So much violence against trans people would be eradicated if people could just accept and celebrate their sexual attraction to trans people. Your obsession is so often born of your feared desire." by BEB in SuperStraight

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Much of the violence against trans people happens in the context of trans people who are involved in prostitution, just like women involved in prostitution often become targets of violence. It's a hazardous job.

Statistically, trans people as a whole are not any more likely to be targets of violence than any other member of the general population.

I think it is abnormal to be trans. by The_Quantum_Alpha in SuperStraight

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It used to be accepted that gender identity disorder could be treated as a mental illness, just like any psychological condition that causes people distress. For a few people, nothing seemed to work, and so they were allowed to transition. This is why there used to be fairly few transitioners.

Now, however, gender activists have hijacked LGB claims that homosexuality is not a mental illness to say that gender identity disorder is not a mental illness -- while, at the same time, demanding medical treatment for it.

Gay people do not claim homosexuality is a mental illness, and we do not demand treatment for it. We just want to live our lives. Ex-gay conversion therapy was notoriously ineffective and often brutal, but gender activists have linked treatment for gender identity disorder to ex-gay conversion therapy in order to ban it.

But why not want to be happy living in your own body? What's wrong with that? Wouldn't psychotherapy be preferable to invasive surgeries and a lifetime of dependency on cross-sex hormones?

My experience, being in my 50s, of trans people I've known is that their distress never really seems to go away, and I genuinely feel bad for them.

US TV "60 Minutes" doing a detransitioner segment & trans activists are freaking out by our_team_is_winning in GenderCritical

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Thirty years ago, I was a field volunteer for the HRC. These days, I wouldn't give them a dime.

Taking hormones made transman incapable of vaginal sex. Just another day in Clown World. by [deleted] in SuperStraight

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It was on TV on the I Am Jazz TV series when Jazz had complications from surgery. Because he had been on puberty blockers, his penis hadn't developed enough for the surgeons to invert it into a neovagina, so I think they had to use colon tissue, and there were problems.

Someone on GenderCritical posted the surgical after-care, and I think transwomen who get a neovagina have to dilate (i.e., insert a dildo) for ~3 hours a day for like a year and a half to keep it from closing up. Jazz's mom was discussing this on TV and how she didn't want Jazz to go away to college because she was concerned that he wouldn't keep up with his dilation -- which his mom was monitoring. Imagine having your mother making sure you use a dildo for three hours a day.

These details are not in the advertising brochures.

In 6 years, it went from "I just wanna pee" to "... folks in media, the term "biological males" is a serious anti-trans slur. You should not use it without noting that." by BEB in GenderCritical

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OK then, if they are not biological males, then they don't need health insurance to provide HRT and surgery in order for them to become "women."

The Family Unit is Transphobic and Must be Abolished, Says Transgender Activist by Happy_Blueberry3910 in SuperStraight

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"Yay! We put Big Pharma out of business!! Down with corporations!!"

[one week later]

"I can't get my HRT prescription filled! WTF!"

The Family Unit is Transphobic and Must be Abolished, Says Transgender Activist by Happy_Blueberry3910 in SuperStraight

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The family unit is shaped by capitalism . . .

But who wants to turn you into a life-long purchaser of hormones, makeup, and other products and services?

Will your Marxist Collective be cooking up estrogen alongside a big pot of lentils?

Sweet young woman who tried to reason w trans activists can't figure out why they're still mean to her: "Trans activists are telling me to eat glass and saying they hope I get raped and murdered. I am not even transphobic. My crime is only calling vulvas “female genital anatomy.” by BEB in SuperStraight

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A lot of the LGB, especially the younger ones, are totally indoctrinated with the "Trans women of color threw the first brick at Stonewall" and other such ideas and genuinely think that trans people have always been at the core of LGB activism. Hell, lots of women are out championing undermining women's sex-based rights. And many women and LGB who are not indoctrinated are too scared to speak out.

Radical feminists were some of the first to sound the alarm on this, but I think they may have made one strategic error. They didn't realize that straight non-trans men would be their natural allies, more so than liberal feminists. I think with the Superstraight trend, we see that a lot of thoroughly decent non-trans men who didn't realize what was going on are ready to come to the rescue.

Sweet young woman who tried to reason w trans activists can't figure out why they're still mean to her: "Trans activists are telling me to eat glass and saying they hope I get raped and murdered. I am not even transphobic. My crime is only calling vulvas “female genital anatomy.” by BEB in SuperStraight

[–]JulienMayfair 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I actually think the cake affair set gay acceptance back.

Just from a public relations point of view, it was a stupid move. If anti-discrimination laws were going to be tested, it should have been on something like someone being denied medical care, something serious. Not a cake for fuck's sake.

Give a warm welcome to the latest Reddit trans pedo new hire. by Cable in SuperStraight

[–]JulienMayfair 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Talk about failing up . . .

Sweet young woman who tried to reason w trans activists can't figure out why they're still mean to her: "Trans activists are telling me to eat glass and saying they hope I get raped and murdered. I am not even transphobic. My crime is only calling vulvas “female genital anatomy.” by BEB in SuperStraight

[–]JulienMayfair 24 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 0 fun25 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

One significant moment of clarity for me on this whole topic was when a realized the truly amazing depth and breadth of trans activist goals. They want to change the definitions and concepts of sex and gender and everything related to it for everyone on the entire planet. And they want you punished if you don't go along with it. Think about that for a minute.

When I was involved in gay activism, we just wanted to live our lives without being harassed. We could have our gay world over here, and you can have your straight world over there. (Yes, there was the wedding cake case, but even gay people were divided on whether or not that kind of thing was a good idea.)

In contrast, gender ideologues intend to change and police the way everyone is allowed to talk about or conceptualize EVERYTHING related to sexual anatomy or sexual identity. It goes far beyond anything the LGB ever asked for. Women cannot talk about their own bodies and female reproductive health in general without being attacked.

If someone talks about husbands and wives, it doesn't occur to me to get upset because I understand that we live in a world made largely by and for heterosexual people. I don't scream, "WHAT ABOUT HUSBANDS AND HUSBANDS???" Not everything has to be about me all the time.

For gender ideologues, it does. If you are not thinking about and "centering" them all the time, they will threaten you or report you.

When & where did the "transgender" movement begin? Seeking specifics. by our_team_is_winning in GenderCritical

[–]JulienMayfair 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm about the same age as the OP, and I can confirm that in the 1980s, while I might have been distantly aware that a small number of people like Wendy Carlos went to Europe to get "sex change" operations, it seemed so rare as to have nothing to do with gay rights, which I got involved in around 1988. I helped found my university's first Gay & Lesbian organization, and a year later, it became Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual. I don't think it crossed any of our minds to include transgender because it simply didn't exist in our experiences. I didn't meet a transgender person until I was 26 and living in California, and I only met two other transgender people during that entire decade.

As to the history, there were various ideas that floated around among the early sexologists, like the idea of "inversion," where lesbians were seen as men in women's bodies, but, if you think about it, all that it steeped in trying to preserve heterosexuality and sex role stereotypes.

One name I haven't seen mentioned here is the controversial figure of John Money, who was in many ways the modern inventor of gender identity. You can look up his whole disturbing career.

Queer Theory didn't move into universities. It was invented in universities and collided with an already-growing movement of looking at the histories of actual lesbian and gay male communities along an ethnic studies model. Lesbian & Gay Studies was gradually displaced during the 1990s by Queer Theory, along with the rise of Gender Theory championed by its high priestess, Judith Butler. Butler's work was then translated and disseminated to a popular audience by people like Riki Wilchins, who was also involved in the Camp Trans protests against MichFest. Leslie Feinberg also helped popularize these ideas.

A number of figures involved in Queer Theory eventually became trans like Pat/Patrick Califia.

Liberal redditors confused over whether banning a rape shelter's fundraiser is morally okay by Terfenclaw in SuperStraight

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Years ago, I was renting a room from a woman who worked at the same restaurant where I worked. It was her house. We got along really well, and it was a good situation. I'm a gay male, so there were no complications. We would go hiking with her dogs, talk about books, etc... But then one day, she came to me very apologetically and said she was going to have to ask me to move out because her daughter needed to move back in. There was enough room for all of us, but her daughter had been raped a couple of years before, so her daughter didn't feel comfortable with a male-bodied person in the house -- even a gay male.

So, did I argue and make a scene about it? No. I told her I understood and moved out because I understood that that was the decent thing to do.

Vancouver Rape Relief offers a sanctuary for rape victims where they don't have to deal with male-bodied people in the same space. I get why that's their policy.

Now, someone could set up a rape shelter specifically for transgender people. But that's not the way Team Trans works. Anything for women that's not for trans women has to be shut down because, according to TRAs, women are not allowed to have sex-segregated spaces for any reason, even reasons that should make sense to anyone who thought about it.

Woke $57k NYC private school bans kids from saying "mom" and "dad," requires students to undergo three years of mandatory gender education by WildApples in GenderCritical

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his failure to profess a belief in the TWAW slogan makes him unsuitable for an education career

That's how bad it's gotten, and ten years ago, no one had heard of this. I was a university lecturer in the Humanities, and I had never heard anyone talk about "my pronouns" or TWAW as an article of faith. It all exploded with Tumblr and social media. It's social contagion at a pandemic level.

It still boggles my mind that I taught for 20 years and never had a single trans-identifying student in any of my classes.

Canadian man to be imprisoned for opposing minor daughter's transition, defying court by BEB in SuperStraight

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What we need is for reasonable centrists to wake up and say, "Enough" to both extremes. We need some Enlightenment Rationality back in our lives and not Romantic prioritization of feelings over reality.

Canadian man to be imprisoned for opposing minor daughter's transition, defying court by BEB in SuperStraight

[–]JulienMayfair 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The problem is that wokeness has become a religion with a whole set of beliefs that are dogma to the believers.

I think people have religious impulses built-in, and they will look for something to satisfy those impulses. For example, for a while, I attended a Unitarian Church before I got frustrated with their increasing social justice fixation. One of the key moments was when I saw this white teenage girl breaking into tears about her white privilege in front of a whole group of other all-white people. It was grotesque, but, to her, whiteness had become original sin.

These people genuinely believe that they are doing the right thing. That's what's so scary about it.

"Superstraight is a made up sexuality" by Terfenclaw in SuperStraight

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Part of your daily reminder that Twitter, Reddit, and Facebook do not represent reality.

Woke $57k NYC private school bans kids from saying "mom" and "dad," requires students to undergo three years of mandatory gender education by WildApples in GenderCritical

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I was thinking the same thing. It's becoming perilously close to reality.

Woke $57k NYC private school bans kids from saying "mom" and "dad," requires students to undergo three years of mandatory gender education by WildApples in GenderCritical

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Education Departments, where teachers get trained, are some of the most extreme "woke" organizations you will ever encounter. The wife of a friend of mine is getting her Masters in Education, and they have totally indoctrinated her. There is no freedom of thought in those departments whatsoever. You have to comply, or you will never get a degree.

Trans activists murdering Supers has already happened. Dana River murdered 2 lesbians and the media is completely silent. by jet199 in SuperStraight

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The Gender Critical sub coined the term, "Teflon Trans."

The LGBT, HRC, GLAAD, Stonewall created this mess. by suap in SuperStraight

[–]JulienMayfair 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

aren't there still plenty of gay men high up in these organizations though?

It's a fair point. There are plenty of gay men collaborating with the T for their own reasons. Many younger gay men have been brainwashed with gender identity theory or are simply afraid to speak out because power has shifted to the TQ+. I mean, if you're a gay male college professor these day and were critical of the TQ+, students and other faculty would be trying to have you fired.

Mainstream liberal feminism (as opposed to gender critical or radical feminism) has also been a major player in the TQ+ takeover, even more than gay men. It's a very strange phenomenon. There are women on my college's LGBTQ alumni network campaigning passionately for having male-bodied transwomen competing against women in women's sports. It's down to intersectionality and a certain feminist bias in favor of any perceived underdog. For example, on Reddit's Two X Chromosome sub, you'll be instantly banned for being critical of trans policies.

Note that trans people are wildly over-represented as mods and admins of websites. It's a strategy they pursue. Get in there, and ban anyone who dares say anything you don't like.

The LGBT, HRC, GLAAD, Stonewall created this mess. by suap in SuperStraight

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Gay men and lesbians don't need extensive therapy, puberty blockers, life time hormone replacement therapy, expensive surgeries, and a life time of medical complications from all this.

It's also a fairly simple case of careerism. After the gay marriage SCOTUS decision in the U.S., the LGB had won most of their major battles. But all these professional activists desperately needed something to do to continue justifying their paychecks, so they turned to trans issues.

For example, back in the 1980s, when we really needed it, my university, a major big-name one, had no official support for LGB students whatsoever. Zero. Now, when all this stuff has become mainstream, they have this huge, fully-staffed Gender and Sexual Diversity Office. And guess what they offer workshops on these days: "Trans 101" and "Pronouns." There's hardly a word about LGB on their site. The LGB are last-year's news to them.

I call these people "grievance grifters." The less there is for them to complain about, the more loudly they complain. But their paid positions have spread like a cancer, and if you do anything to threaten their gravy train, they will try to destroy you.

A genuine activist should always be trying to put him or herself out of a job. Solve the problem, and move on.

Superphobes be like... by Terfenclaw in SuperStraight

[–]JulienMayfair 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I just like to say something to them like, "I'm gay, and my husband and I want to have a baby. I keep trying to impregnate him, but we're not having any luck. Since biological sex isn't real, I figure it doesn't matter that we're both male, right?"

I think I know what will happen with "SUPER" movement :( [REPOST] by Happy_Blueberry3910 in SuperStraight

[–]JulienMayfair 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Try Douglas Murray's latest book, The Madness of Crowds.

I think I know what will happen with "SUPER" movement :( [REPOST] by Happy_Blueberry3910 in SuperStraight

[–]JulienMayfair 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm sure there are more people who can fill in details and give references both on s/LGBDropTheT and s/GenderCritical. I know there's one article out there that traces the influence of money in the astroturfing that's gone on in spreading gender ideology.

I saw a lot of it happening personally because I was in academia at the time. I attended talks by Judith Butler. I saw Women's Studies departments morph into Gender Studies.

One of the big reasons I got into this was the massive lies that the TRAs told about gay history, which I was very familiar with. Their attempt to coopt Stonewall with lies about who did what really infuriated me. They would say things like, "If it wasn't for trans people, you wouldn't HAVE any civil rights!!!" Now, I'm old enough to know better, and that's one thing that tipped me off to the kind of people I was dealing with: people who would tell any kind of lie to advance their cause.

I think I know what will happen with "SUPER" movement :( [REPOST] by Happy_Blueberry3910 in SuperStraight

[–]JulienMayfair 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm over 50, and in all those years of being a gay man, there is only ONE person I knew who transitioned. Including that person, I met ~3 trans people during the entire decade of the 1990s, living in a major California city. Prior to 1991, it was zero.

I think I know what will happen with "SUPER" movement :( [REPOST] by Happy_Blueberry3910 in SuperStraight

[–]JulienMayfair 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I mean, there's a trail of comments online by transwomen who say things like "the essence of being a woman is to be fucked" or shit like that. They say they experience their femininity when they're dominated and humiliated, and they act like we can't go to their subreddits and read them talking like this.

Your boundaries are not up for debate by [deleted] in SuperStraight

[–]JulienMayfair 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This is good advice. Never let them draw you into the debate in the first place. You never owe anyone an explanation for your lack of interest in them.

I learned this as an acquisitions editor for a publishing company where I had to review submissions, reject most of them, and forward a few for further consideration. I learned quickly NEVER to respond to anyone's request for why their manuscript was rejected. It could only turn into an ugly fight with them telling me I was stupid.

More generally, this is a problem with the wokies. They think they have the right to get inside your head and interrogate you, to "make windows into men's souls," to quote an old line. Well, people have the right to a certain sphere of personal autonomy, and if you're not legally bound to reveal your views on something, you don't have to. Not enough credit is paid these days to the idea of people minding their own business because the wokies thing everything is their business, but it only becomes their business if you play along. Just say, "No, I'm not playing your game because I don't have to. Now, mind your own damn business, and I'll mind mine. End of conversation."

I think I know what will happen with "SUPER" movement :( [REPOST] by Happy_Blueberry3910 in SuperStraight

[–]JulienMayfair 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

We've had s/LGBDropTheT here for 7-8 months with no major problems. We were attacked far more often on Reddit.

The larger problem is that gender ideology is now being taught at all levels of education. Being pro-gender ideology has now become a way to prove how virtuous you are to all your friends. People risk social ostracization and even loss of employment for criticizing it. Women are some of the main voices demanding that male-bodied athletes be allowed in women's sports.

The interesting part is when you look at the history of gender ideology, it was really only a VERY small number of people who invented and disseminated it, but several of them were well-positioned in internet technology jobs and pressured tech companies to embrace it. Riki Wilchins is a big name here, and they had rich backers like Jennifer Pritzker.

I taught at major universities for twenty years, ending in 2010, and throughout all those years, sometimes having as many as 120 students per semester, I never had a single openly trans-identified student in any of my classes. Think about that. Then, it got on Tumblr and got promoted to a lot of young kids.

If it seems like all this came out of nowhere, that's not far from true. It was a small group of people who managed to use their leverage to spread these ideas across the culture and deplatform any critics.

r/SuperStraight Fundraiser That Raised Almost $7,000 For Charity Shut Down by EmptyCode in SuperStraight

[–]JulienMayfair 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, I've previously pointed that out myself. Who's more focused on genitals? It's enough hypocrisy to make your head hurt.

A) You need to unlearn your genital preference.
B) Please contribute to my GoFundMe so I can have my testicles removed.

r/SuperStraight Fundraiser That Raised Almost $7,000 For Charity Shut Down by EmptyCode in SuperStraight

[–]JulienMayfair 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Being older, one thing I know more about that the kids who are promoting LGBTQ+ gender ideology is what happens down the road. I've known several older trans people who have told me privately that they regret transitioning -- especially the surgeries -- and wish they hadn't done it, but they feel stuck with their decision. I think in a few years, we're going to end up with a lot of people regretting their decisions, made at a young age, to make irreversible changes to their bodies. For some of them, transition produces an initial "euphoria," but that fades with time. One of my friends in grad school transitioned FTM and eventually committed suicide.

r/SuperStraight Fundraiser That Raised Almost $7,000 For Charity Shut Down by EmptyCode in SuperStraight

[–]JulienMayfair 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This is why, as a gay man, I can no longer support LGBTQ+ politics. I don't hate trans people, but when you start demanding policies like puberty blockers for young children, male-bodied athletes in women's sports, and the silencing of people who object to coerced consent or who simply have a different point of view on what is obviously a very controversial topic, I'm no longer on your side. Years ago, I was a field volunteer for the Human Rights Campaign; today, I wouldn't give them a dime.

Super Straight is what finally got me banned from Reddit by Greykittymomma in SuperStraight

[–]JulienMayfair 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

They way I look at it, they can't rebut any of the points we've made, so their only recourse is to ban us.

Last year, the people who wanted GenderCritical shut down were aware that too many people went there thinking it was some kind of hate sub and came away thinking, "Oh, finally something that makes sense."

r/SuperStraight Fundraiser That Raised Almost $7,000 For Charity Shut Down by EmptyCode in SuperStraight

[–]JulienMayfair 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That irony has not been lost on anyone.

r/SuperStraight Fundraiser That Raised Almost $7,000 For Charity Shut Down by EmptyCode in SuperStraight

[–]JulienMayfair 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The same kind of evil fuck that got a rape crisis center defunded. Google Morgane Oger.

Trans folxxxxxxx frequently talk about abolishing all gender roles, stereotypes, binary, etc. If that happened wouldn't the notion of transgender effectively be meaningless? by 1st_Class_Mail_Ally in SuperStraight

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Congratulations. You're picking up on all the many logical contradictions within gender ideology, one of them being the question of how you have gender identity without pre-existing gender stereotypes.

Also, there is growing tension between the binary trans (trans women are 100% women!) and the non-binary who are on the "gender spectrum" or who say they feel like a man one day and a woman another. If you start picking apart those identity concepts, you quickly see that they are incompatible.

But when you try to point out any of this stuff, they just move the goalposts or stick their fingers in their ears and say, "I won't listen to you, transphobe!"

I'm older, and for most of my life, we were trying to subvert gender stereotypes. Hey, you want to be a stay-at-home dad? Fine with us! You're no less a man for that. You're a man, and you want to wear a dress? Fine with us!

Then, just a few years ago, this whole project got slammed into reverse when people started advocating gender identity as a protected legal class. Suddenly, if you want to wear a dress and jewelry, you're a woman.

Question to RadFems: was there good reason for banning the GC sub-reddit? Like threats, doxxing, etc. from GC users. Or was it all internal reddit politics and simply not bowing to the transgender movement that got GC banned? by 1st_Class_Mail_Ally in SuperStraight

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Agreed. I was a male lurking on and occasionally commenting on GC, and for all the reasons you state, GC had become the prize target for TRAs. It was the one subreddit above all others that they wanted GONE, particularly because it had done such a good job of debunking and showing the logical contradictions in TRA arguments. Its very existence infuriated them. The TRAs were very much involved in Reddit's policy shift.

One of the stories they documented was how a transwoman went into a workshop for pregnant women and made all the women there uncomfortable, getting creepily familiar with them. And the woman running the workshop was afraid to do anything about it for fear of being called 'transphobic' and getting fired.

As a super lesbian, I feel more accepted by Republicans, conservatives, and Christians nowadays than I do by my own supposed "community" by [deleted] in SuperStraight

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We tried that on Reddit with the LGBDropTheT sub (banned in the Big Ban Wave last year), and we found that we had people coming from all sorts of different backgrounds finding common ground and getting along. I'm old enough to remember what the gay world was like in the 1990s when we were mostly all getting along with one another. Like any other community, we had our issues and fights between various personalities, but we had a foundation that was pretty solid. And when did gay people say all straight people were evil or post fantasies about killing them? It seemed like we had won most of our important battles and could relax a bit -- and then it all went crazy. Suddenly all the organizations we'd built switched focus and forgot about us.

It felt like this. It's like you built your own house and lived in it. Then, one day, you came home and found that someone else had moved in and changed the locks. You might be allowed back in, but only if you followed the rules set by the new occupants. Oh, and they'd revised your whole history. According to them, you never actually built the house. They built it, and you owe them.

As a super lesbian, I feel more accepted by Republicans, conservatives, and Christians nowadays than I do by my own supposed "community" by [deleted] in SuperStraight

[–]JulienMayfair 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

the people that seem to be pressured the most are straight men and lesbians by transwomen.

And the common denominator is . . .

The irony of the S+ sub ban by TurtleFuzz in SuperStraight

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Trans is arguably the most privileged minority on Reddit, partly because TRAs are over-represented in IT and often pursue mod/admin roles in order to shut down any discussion they don't like. They can pretty much say anything they like, no matter how awful, and nothing will be done about it.

This is what they did to a gay group I used to belong to. Once they had a critical mass of moderator positions, they imposed strict rules for what you could and couldn't say, rules we'd never needed before, and they ban anyone who doesn't toe the line.

Lessons in how to "walk like a woman." by JulienMayfair in GenderCritical

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I guess you could twist your ankle trying to walk in high heels.

Ellen Page is claiming to be transgender. What is going on?! by socialistrobot in GenderCritical

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It's hard to nail down precisely why I think this, but I suspect that Emma Portman, Ellen Page's wife, who is younger, may have had something to do with Page's decision to transition. Maybe it's that her reaction seems so . . . triumphant rather than someone who's been blindsided.

I would also not be surprised if Portman also transitioned and that they would insist that everyone call them a gay male trans couple.