LifestyleDon't know if I can continue living in a world of the Trans Ideology

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[–]lunarstrain 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (9 children)

I'm sorry life has been so unkind, I can relate. It can be really difficult to see a future for yourself when you're so isolated from other people. It's good to hear that you have a goal for the near future, that's such an important and valuable motivator when you're dealing with depression like this.

I really recommend you look for a therapist if you can afford it, not all of them will try to forcibly trans you. I found one that understands that masculine women and feminine men exist. If you live in a woke place, look online. Video therapy offers a lot more options and you can even look for therapists that specialize in gay and lesbian issues but not trans. Your life has value beyond martyrdom even if it doesn't seem like it right now.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

I wish I could afford therapy but I just can't and I don't think I ever will unfortunately. I want to try to touch it out like I have been doing the past decade but the thought of having to continue this way for another 20-30 years is exhausting and I'm not sure I can survive that so i would rather get things in order if worse comes to shove.

[–]lunarstrain 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Low cost therapy

US - Open Path Collective. One time fee of $60 for membership, $30 - $60 per session, based upon income.

CA - Affordable Therapy Network. $50 - $65.

UK - UK Counseling Network. 18 - 55 pounds.

AU - Talked. $50+.

EU - It's Complicated. 40+ euros.

Hopefully one of these is useful to you. I really want you to feel better some day.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Thanks, that'll definitely come in handy :)

[–]lunarstrain 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

No problem, happy to hear it. :-)

Don't get discouraged if you don't fit well with your first therapist, it took me a few to find one I liked and now things are going smoothly.

Hope you have an easier time of things soon regardless.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I'll try to keep this in mind. I'm just a bit nervous because my kinda issue is something I never hear others talk about, not unless they're being directed to gender affirmation therapy and we all know how nonsensical that is. I just don't want to hear the phrase "you might be trans" because that'll just show where their end game is.

[–]lunarstrain 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

The best advice I have for this situation is be up-front.

If you tell the therapist that someone has suggested to you before that you might be trans, you thought about it, and then came to the conclusion you're happiest as a feminine man, a decent therapist won't push you in that direction.

Especially if you mention that the unhappiness you experience around being a feminine gay man is because of the way others react to you or treat you due to your male feminity.

A lot of therapists have been fed the same sort of lies as the rest of the medical industry/TRAs and their desire is to genuinely help people. So, if you make it clear that you're not suffering from some kind of gender confusion, they won't push the issue.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well it's worth a shot, nothing to really lose right? Yeah, I'll try that, thanks.

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Kai, please know that your perspective can and probably will change in 20-30 years.

I can remember being depressed and feeling hopeless in my late 20's / early 30's, maybe for different reasons than you, but the sense of hopelessness was the same. These days I'm pretty happy/content and on top of my game.

It may be a cliche, but it does indeed "get better". Hang in there! And if you can find someone professional to sort out short-term feelings of despair, please don't hesitate.

Best wishes to you!

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Anything is possible I suppose, I'll have to wait but it's just a lot of things are looking very uncertain and it does lowkey terrify me. For now I just want to get the personal projects done and see where my head space will be after. I'll have some money saved for a few therapy sessions as well, maybe it'll help.