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[–]lunarstrain 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

No problem, happy to hear it. :-)

Don't get discouraged if you don't fit well with your first therapist, it took me a few to find one I liked and now things are going smoothly.

Hope you have an easier time of things soon regardless.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I'll try to keep this in mind. I'm just a bit nervous because my kinda issue is something I never hear others talk about, not unless they're being directed to gender affirmation therapy and we all know how nonsensical that is. I just don't want to hear the phrase "you might be trans" because that'll just show where their end game is.

[–]lunarstrain 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

The best advice I have for this situation is be up-front.

If you tell the therapist that someone has suggested to you before that you might be trans, you thought about it, and then came to the conclusion you're happiest as a feminine man, a decent therapist won't push you in that direction.

Especially if you mention that the unhappiness you experience around being a feminine gay man is because of the way others react to you or treat you due to your male feminity.

A lot of therapists have been fed the same sort of lies as the rest of the medical industry/TRAs and their desire is to genuinely help people. So, if you make it clear that you're not suffering from some kind of gender confusion, they won't push the issue.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well it's worth a shot, nothing to really lose right? Yeah, I'll try that, thanks.