r/gaytransguys reminisce about being no different from other girls

CaptainMoose · 2020-10-06T17:27:01+00:00

The way I envision a healthy relationship is an equal-give equal-take lesbian affair whereas both lesbians start conversations

You can tell a dude wrote it because he used lesbians as a noun instead of women.

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-27T15:16:24+00:00

I’m a cis woman lesbian with a genital preference for penises. My girlfriend is a trans woman and doesn’t want to do surgery. Would I be with a woman with a vagina? Yes. Would I be with a woman with a penis? Also yes.

I got such a bad headache from reading this that my nose started to bleed. If I were a transwoman, I would claim it was my period.

CaptainMoose · 2021-01-03T23:59:46+00:00

Looking at the post history, this man has also lectured feminine boys for referring to themselves as "traps" (because it leads to eXtErMiNaTiOn) and aspires to be a sex worker.

Also, his tits look like moobs and he wears a chastity cage and diapers. Disgusting.

CaptainMoose · 2023-01-28T00:34:06+00:00

She looks like a good candidate for 13 or 30.

CaptainMoose · 2022-03-25T03:10:00+00:00

If anything is a genital fetish, it's whatever I just read

CaptainMoose · 2021-11-15T08:21:23+00:00

"My ex."

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-03T23:49:31+00:00

Yup, penis and all :)

CaptainMoose · 2021-08-04T13:54:19+00:00

It's easy not to feel sexual attraction when your husband dyes his beard radiation green and stretches his ear lobes wide enough to fit three dicks.

CaptainMoose · 2021-11-07T20:26:07+00:00

I went there and there's a story that says "shemale" in the transgender category, bit of a yikes there :/

Boohoo, the fetishist doesn't like being fetishized.

CaptainMoose · 2021-11-06T21:49:38+00:00

Theoretically, we can be into "non-binary" people who are actually male. Practically, though, we don't want to stick our dicks in crazy.

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-17T12:08:49+00:00

Mrbig_boi:

As a gay dude who dated both cis and trans men Personally i say trans guys are nicer and better Every cis guy i dated was kinda mean - straight up terrible every trans guy i dated was absolutely amazing i still miss my most recent trans ex Trans on trans relationships are top teir

Also Mrbig_boi:

Meow... FtM Catboy

Could it be entirely possible that every "transguy" you date is just endlessly validating while the "cis" men you date hold you accountable for your shit and that's why you think they are mean?

CaptainMoose · 2021-04-21T11:00:43+00:00

"Phallic standards" just say we expect you to have a dick and for you to wash it.

CaptainMoose · 2020-12-12T03:13:45+00:00

Just cause it's a homologue doesn't mean this homo wants to touch it.

CaptainMoose · 2021-07-25T14:27:21+00:00

Guess I'm one of those male lesbians now

CaptainMoose · 2022-01-24T07:08:23+00:00

My life is miserable and I wish every day that I might be stricken down so that nobody has to deal with me anymore.

I wish that for you, too.

I absolutely guarantee that I am physically stronger than most of you, dysproria is a massive motivator and though I am only a 19 I am as muscled as an avid bodybuilder because I absolutely cannot stand even an ounce of femininity in my own body. It’s not transphobic to not want to date a trans man, but you are dumb as fuck if you think trans men aren’t real men. I’m twice as man as you, I had to very literally fightnto be recognized as a man. Don’t call me a woman or a fake man. You don’t have to date me but I’ll punch your fucking lights out if you call me a woman. Absolutely fuck you if you think that fuck off or meet up with me and discover what it feels like to be punched into next week. I’m so angry I don’t even care. Fuck off if you’re triggered.

It sounds like you're the triggered one, ma'am.

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-18T20:53:38+00:00

Regardless of how he views you, that’s a weird and mildly transphobic thing to say and don’t get me started on cis gay men and their weird aversion to afab genetalia as a whole. I’d give him a real firm talking to and tell him to educate himself on different language to use when he talks about preferences, because that wasn’t it. Stay safe out there and don’t accept things that rub you the wrong way, if you felt off, you’re right.

"Stay safe out there, fellow rapist."

CaptainMoose · 2021-09-16T15:27:10+00:00

Well, not broad daylight. It's usually a rather dim blue light.

But everyone still expects a dick between your thighs.

CaptainMoose · 2022-01-08T01:46:32+00:00

At least the guy he was talking about didn't seem as lost

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-05T01:38:07+00:00

Hey now, she could have been hooking up with another bEaUtIfUl transman

CaptainMoose · 2021-09-10T02:41:20+00:00

"Grindr match" you don't match on Grindr. You are capable of messaging any profile. Stop projecting Tinder on other apps for your heterosexual audience.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-15T14:06:42+00:00

If you're going to be offended by the homosexual male understanding that time only moves forward and can't be wasted, then why bother taking testosterone?

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-13T13:50:58+00:00

I think I'll pass on the self-hating lesbian threeway, thanks.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-01T05:06:28+00:00

"I thought I was a lesbian because I wanted to fuck gay men."

That's not how being a lesbian works in the slightest, you moron.

CaptainMoose · 2022-01-08T21:03:27+00:00

What do you mean? Plenty of "cis" dick suffers from erectile dysfunction. Seems like both dicks function too similarly to be worth differentiating.

CaptainMoose · 2021-01-08T03:26:45+00:00

Except wasn't the term homosexual coined by a gay man to provide legitimacy to people's experience of exclusive same-sex attraction?

Also, funny how heterosexuality will never go away in this hypothetical scenario.

CaptainMoose · 2022-03-17T12:47:02+00:00

OP who claims to be a top also posts on "aaaaaaacccccccce." Ma'am, what is the truth?

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-25T19:33:04+00:00

I’ve been on PrEP for over a year now and it’s helped me explore my sexuality a lot since my main concern was contracting HIV.

Imagine being a woman and thinking you need to take additional medication to explore having sex with a man (or at least medication that is more expensive than birth control and condoms).

CaptainMoose · 2021-01-04T16:43:30+00:00

He could have benefited more from investing in braces than horse piss pills.

CaptainMoose · 2022-04-14T11:14:18+00:00

Can Davey Wavey just die of an overdose already? Out of all the OG "gay" Youtubers, he's always been the least relevant.

CaptainMoose · 2021-08-31T19:51:42+00:00

"they refuse to admit that you can transition into being gay."

No, you refuse to admit that despite hormones and surgeries you are still a heterosexual. Someone could fuck Jocelyn Wildenstein, that doesn't mean they are committing an act of beastiality just because she kind of looks like a cat.

CaptainMoose · 2021-08-08T20:16:19+00:00

Many of these women fail to understand the "enthusiastic" part of enthusiastic consent.

CaptainMoose · 2022-04-15T14:11:59+00:00

After chatting on a dating app with someone I thought was a non-binary person or a gender nonconforming woman (both our dating profiles are meme-y and confusing, our language has no gendered pronouns, and we both have gender neutral names), we decided on a weekend lunch and a walk. I had a lovely time! After couple of hours we started talking about gay shit we found out about our gender blunder, had a good laugh, and continued on our date. He later told me that he found my queer androgyny very attractive, and I have to admit that his genderfuckery, softness and queer history were appealing. He’s a trans man, and wears his masculinity loosely with painted nails and eyeliner.

So you went on a date with a gender nonconforming straight woman? Or maybe she's bi, IDK. Either way, she's a fucking idiot.

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-02T22:00:57+00:00

Correction: she's bi, with a biological male (as if there is any other), and they are unicorn hunting on Grindr for other dysphoric women.

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-26T06:38:58+00:00

I honestly think that trans people who label their sexuality based off their sex (trans male lesbians and trans female gays) are very very questionable. Who in their right mind would do that????

Well, none of you are in the right mind, frankly. But at least the trans people you have the issue with recognize a sliver of reality.

CaptainMoose · 2021-09-16T06:02:06+00:00

I got ghosted about 2 days ago. Me[NB] and this guy had really hit it off, dates and fun stuff, we were gonna start getting more serious, but after I told him I was nonbinary he totally just disappeared.

Yeah, people lose their ability to consent after realizing they stuck their dick/smushed their puss in crazy.

No not into that as a gay man. I’m into cis men and trans men

I just... this response is wild given the context.

And honestly I’m kind of surprised to find in a sub full of gay men so many people flaunting their “male pride”. Yes we’re gaybros but that doesn’t mean our “masculine?” energy has to take away from anyone else’s expression or understanding of themselves. There’s plenty of men here that aren’t hyper masculine doppelgängers. If a bear can love a twink why can’t a gay love an NB?

Because having a different body than your boyfriend and both of you being sane is a wee bit different than pursuing a relationship with a crazy ideologue.

CaptainMoose · 2021-08-09T01:04:22+00:00

A lot of subreddits where men submit nude photos of themselves are just photos of penis and testicles. Maybe a little thigh or stomach to help take up space, but mostly genitals.

CaptainMoose · 2021-07-20T12:22:45+00:00

We'd probably be insufferable by having guys crack jokes about being pregnant with their man's kids or about having food babies.

CaptainMoose · 2022-11-07T18:36:14+00:00

I mean, there are a few real men who flaunt their micropeen but usually because they fetishize being shamed for it.

CaptainMoose · 2022-07-06T16:00:38+00:00

She calls the man she's with her "cis gay partner" in this post, but 4 months ago she was referring to him as bi 1.

So what's the truth? Are you dating a bi guy who only wanted a tomboy GF he could placate with pronouns or did your crazy ass latch on to a closeted gay man who is trying to squirm away from you because you'll go nuclear if he tries to make a clean break?

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-11T04:08:51+00:00

But holy shit these men are so boring. I have a full profile with my intrests listed, different questions or prompts, and that I am looking for a serious relationship.

Her interests based on her other posts: KPop, The Sims, and teen dramas. And even with the one she could actually be productive with, she doesn't make her own content (either mods/CC or stories). Her entire life is just consuming the work of others. She is a boring person projecting her insecurities onto gay men.

Despite that the only messages I get are ten different variations of "hey". Now, if I'm intrested in them I will respond to ask them a question, but I am confused as to why they seem to put in such a low amount of effort.

It's called playing it cool. Most messages beyond a quick hello always come across as creepy and unhinged. Part of having such a small dating pool is that it's really easy to memorize who gives off red flags- the axe may forget, but the tree will always remember.

Yes it's incredibly normal and incredibly sad. That being said you can find some amazing people! Just gotta search for the needle in the gay stack

Maybe don't look in the gay stack if you have a vag, sweetie. You girls have an entire world of heterosexual men to choose from. Grindr isn't the space where you can claim victimhood.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-03T16:51:24+00:00

File this under one of the many reasons that Kate McKinnon doesn't have social media.

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-27T14:24:33+00:00

I... how can one be aromantic and polyamorous? Polyamory requires you be able to romantically love multiple people at once.

CaptainMoose · 2021-11-17T12:03:18+00:00

I was ashamed for so long of being a "man" mainly attracted to lesbians. But like, not porn-lesbians. Actual, normal people in my life who were or later turned out to be lesbians. Also, I started noticing that I assumed people who were attracted to me were bi? And when they told me they were straight I was disappointed for some reason?

Presenting this horrifying little statement.

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-26T00:17:22+00:00

His website

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-20T04:00:12+00:00

For my job i'm a janitor and i basically clean a office space 5 days a week, and do anything from trash to bathrooms. With this being said, i've noticed that the women's restroom is pretty easy. (their are 6 stalls in the women's) and 4 stalls in the men's with 2 urinals) Men are gross. LIke i just came home from work, and i'm tired af and exhausted. LIke i clean up after grown as men and they can't even like flush the damn toilet or like throw trash out.

Having worked in both the hotel industry and in a community college grounds office, I'm going to reveal the following: women will shove half full coffee cups into the Citron sanitary product disposal and cause the entire bathroom to smell like a mix of period blood, coffee, and sour milk. Women are also just as prone to not flushing the shitter.

At least one of the other commenters called that out.

Also, her plastic surgeon fucked her double mastectomy up HARD

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-14T16:02:25+00:00

Why would it matter if they were born with penis or had one surgically constructed? Does that mean if a man has an accident and his dick has to be reconstructed he's not a man anymore or that if a gay man is still attracted to him, that gay man isn't gay? And I never said I be fine with sleeping with or dating a trans guy before surgery, I wouldn't be. But afterwards they are men and as a guy attracted exclusively to men, I'm gay.

Let's break this down:

What is constructed by phalloplasty surgery is not, in fact, a penis. It doesn't function like a penis and it only vaguely looks like a penis in the most successful cases (but even still you can tell something is wrong). It is prone to complications, not only to the flesh tube created but to the donor site.
Even if the phalloplasty were successful and "passed" well enough to put it out of mind, it doesn't change all of the other elements of biological women that I as a homosexual man find unattractive. HRT only goes so far in masculinizing appearance. While it reduces buccal fat around the eyes, it doesn't lead to the development of a stronger brow bone (giving transmen that "methhead" look), it doesn't change the size of your hands or feet, etc. Transmen have noticeably female faces the longer you look at them. When gay men and lesbians say we are attracted to the WHOLE PERSON of the same-sex, we mean it.
If a long term partner were to lose his penis to an accident, to cancer, etc., I may stay with him. Would we have sex? Maybe, but most likely not. We would likely still be intimate because he still has every other male feature, unlike a transman who just has the features of a roided out woman. For me, it doesn't feel good to be intimately touched by a woman. Unlike men whose touch is soothing, women's touch feels draining and violating for me. That won't change because a woman is taking steroids and chopped up her body.
Based on the last line, I do believe that this poster is actual a gay man, albeit a very naive one. The truth is that the transition process is like Plato's allegory of the cave. It is very easy for us, like people who transition, to believe that the end result is going to be a you of the opposite sex. I remember being a teenager and following a few transgender youtubers (such as skylarkeleven). I believe that the longer she was on cross-sex hormones, she eventually would look just like a man. Nearly 13 years later and she still looks like a woman with a beard (although now she's sporting those glasses that transmen all love because they cover the browbone).

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-04T04:08:22+00:00

To add to her psychotic behaviour, she has rape fantasies that she posts on reddit.

As the user who worked in a bathhouse, shit like this frustrates me because of the harassment campaigns we had to endure from all sides wanting biological women in a male only space. One of the arguments that the "transman" who came in had was that any of those type of women would be too dysphoric to let their genitalia be seen (à la Lou Sullivan) yet it's clearly not the case. OP also has the audacity to praise how consent is respected in these spaces while blatantly refusing to acknowledge the fact that many of the men who walk past her cannot enthusiastically consent to seeing her pussy, let alone in a sexual manner.

She also has another post where she documents how she masturbates in public, so her euphoria about consent really is wafer thin.

CaptainMoose · 2021-08-31T19:05:53+00:00

There's another integral part: having a pussy yourself.

CaptainMoose · 2021-08-27T05:45:49+00:00

At least on reddit, if you look at who is commenting positively on the nudes of FtMs, it's other women or openly bisexual men. The validation isn't coming from who you think it is, hun.

CaptainMoose · 2020-12-29T12:17:59+00:00

If I were you (and I can be fairly petty so maybe just laugh at this instead of actually doing it), I would screenshot the private conversations where these women are saying they wouldn't date other transmen and post them to the group chat, wait 24 hours for the drama to ensue, and then leave.

The more mature thing would be to say something every time one of them crosses the line and claims space over your experiences. There's no need to be mean (I know you said you are paranoid about coming across as a "stereotypical gay guy that nobody likes"), but you can be firm. "I don't agree that your experience is similar to mine. I grew up being viewed as a feminine man, you grew up as a woman and didn't start to transition until you were 30. We come from very different places." That being said, they would probably take and firmness or boundaries as you "being a stereotype," so you have to ask yourself who it is you would rather be as a person- a man with boundaries or a doormat.

CaptainMoose · 2020-11-27T10:15:37+00:00

On our end, almost all consequences of FtM uwu can be avoided simply by limiting any meaningful social contact with FtMs, which shouldn't be difficult.

I feel that this is much easier on paper than it is in practice. It isn't just FtMs whose harassment and sexual misconduct/assault/battery we have to worry about; it's also anyone who sips the TRA juice and white knights for them. If you have one gay bar in a metro area and the FtMs and their enablers make it hostile to you, you're going to have an even harder time finding a partner.

all for some stupid fantasy that can easily be worked around by dating some metrosexual straight guy who would be happy to have them.

Given how greasy most FtMs look, I doubt a metrosexual straight guy would want to touch them with a 10ft pole. They're more likely to pursue normie, mentally healthy straight girls.

I really feel bad for these women in spite of their obnoxiousness.

I don't. As much as some people look at them like modern day emo kids, I view them more like the creepy girls who dated closeted guys.

CaptainMoose · 2023-01-28T00:32:56+00:00

Congrats on discovering your bisexuality, queen.

But my correctively raped ass doesn't need the taste of pennies in my life.

CaptainMoose · 2022-12-28T05:34:37+00:00

Don’t pay any attention to r/askgaybros, that place is fucking awful to not only trans men, but queer POC and feminine men as well. They aren’t called gaycels for nothing

Funny, cause most of the guys who post there actually get laid.

Also from what I’ve seen with FTM transitions, y’all look handsome as fuck. Well put together, well groomed. That can come off as a threat to most guys thats dont even know how to shave properly lol

LMAO, that's fucking ironic when most of these women are sporting pube beards.

CaptainMoose · 2022-11-21T13:26:15+00:00

"As a bi person mostly attracted to men, I've personally always loved how gay men can be a safe space for women. Before I knew I was trans, it made me really happy knowing there are a fair amount of gay guys that will stand up for women, and prove men and women can be genuine friends with no attraction involved whatsoever."

Correction: a space in which men and women can be friends but the MAN isn't attracted to her whatsoever. Can't guarantee the reverse (especially when women try and evade the fact that they glomp onto men because it feels good to them without regard for how it feels for him).

"How does you not being attracted to women make you sexist? are all gay men sexist then? Honestly, i was reading something about how most people understand masculinity as something opposed to or opposite of women. That being masculine is shown as being possessive of women. I disagree with the idea that THATS what it means to be masculine, but i know it can be hard to unlearn that."

Well, when you have feminist literature and letters from the 1960s/70s claiming that gay men are sexist for not being able to consent to women as well as TiFs nowadays claiming that gay men are both sexist and transphobic for not consenting to them, you can kind of see how OP would draw that conclusion.

CaptainMoose · 2022-07-07T01:39:55+00:00

I was super attracted to women like damn near lesbian but I knew I also liked guys to some degree

I mean, she was always bi but called herself a lesbian.

CaptainMoose · 2022-05-17T13:19:44+00:00

No one owes you an explanation for why they aren't interested. If someone blocks you, get over it. If someone slams a door in your face because you won't take no for an answer (bathhouse example), it doesn't make them the asshole. You are a woman on an app for same-sex attracted men looking for same-sex sexual encounters- you are inherently deranged and predatory for doing what you are doing. Blocking you is the smartest thing this guy could do to make sure your psycho ass doesn't destroy his reputation by screenshotting everything and trying to "expose" him.

CaptainMoose · 2022-04-14T14:12:05+00:00

His content started off with him spying on his neighbours and then he, much like Arielle Scarcella, progressed to "sex ed." He's never been the sharpest crayon.

CaptainMoose · 2022-04-12T14:56:20+00:00

The possible locations this happened are : Roxy's, a lesbian bar in Buffalo up until 2014, and The Roxy, a restaurant in Portland that closed a couple weeks ago that had a for everyone policy.

Probably was the latter. Also, for more proof of the guy being a creep who doesn't respect boundaries:

He's being called out for being 29 and posting on r/teenagers

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-17T13:42:49+00:00

Christ, I remember when I was 17/18 and I got chastised by the straight girls for not liking breasts because, in their words, "they're just lumps of fat." They are not. Unless you're obese, breasts are mostly made up of breast tissue. That's why breast cancer is it's own thing and not a form of liposarcoma.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-16T01:24:11+00:00

They're not suggesting you date bi/pan men because those guys date women, they're suggesting that because bi guys tend to be more secure in their sexuality than gay men, on average.

Bullshit.

Older culture is important and cool but we can keep parts of that and ditch things like transphobia, racism, and letting predatory older guys take advantage of younger guys as a "learning curve" (this one comes particularly with my local gay bath house in mind)

Interesting how you bring up predatory behaviour and yet are a woman who goes into a men's bathhouse. Like every single woman who tried to come down the stairs, get it through your fucking head that a good portion of the men that go there are exclusively same-sex attracted- we cannot consent to you. Even the bi men there are looking for dick. Also, at least in the bathhouse I worked at, we would encourage new guys to get rooms so they could have a place to shut out guys who wouldn't take no for an answer. Also, I banned the shit out of guys who had complaints lodged against them.

Oh, and a year ago Miss Woman up in the quote was self IDing as a lesbian.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-15T14:08:35+00:00

"So you would fuck a man who takes estrogen, gets breast implants, and inverts his dick?"

No, and for the same reason I wouldn't date a guy with a split tongue or a Prince Albert- body modifications are gross and unnerving.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-11T05:34:25+00:00

These women base their entire sense of being "male" off of mass-marketed images of men directed at them for their consumption.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-06T12:08:40+00:00

Apart from H, these are literally things she could already do with a boyfriend. However, from an earlier post of her's:

I'm also not a "cuddly" person and I'm very awkward to talk to, to be frank; I'm usually the one to always ask if my partner is okay because I pick up on little things like body language and how they talk and how it changes every 5 seconds.

She is insufferable. Also:

i hate my tiddies and want to get them off me but they're a great stim toy and i want bigger tiddies because stimmy

She is not someone who should undergo unnecessary surgery. She is indecisive and will absolutely detransition in the future.

CaptainMoose · 2022-01-03T11:30:25+00:00

I totally feel you there. It sucks because I was the very definition of conventionally attractive when I was presenting as a straight cis girl, I had tons of guys who had crushes on me and were asking me out all the time. They were all straight obviously but still. I actually feel like I had less surface-level dysphoria and depression back then just knowing that I was a lot hotter than most girls and was the center of male attention almost 100% of the time.

Wow. Just... wow. The sheer level of narcissism in this comment is what made me need to post this thread.

Spoiler: many of them just end up dating other trans-identified women or bi and "pan" men.

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-15T19:26:17+00:00

Heterosexuals can't even comprehend of nonpenetrative sex being enjoyable. Mutual oral, frottage, and tribbing are lost on them.

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-04T01:11:57+00:00

I’m trying to sort some similar things out. The dating apps are so fucked. Can’t they just ask people if they’re okay dating an FTM in the settings? it could be so simple!!

It was implied that you weren't supposed to be on Grindr since it was an app for same-sex attracted men before a Chinese company had it's way.

What’s the cutoff for the definition of chasers? Some gay cis men seem to be like “oh hey that’s really cool, I’m into that!” Especially stone tops.

The conflation and appropriation of terms used by different sects of same-sex attracted people (stone for lesbians, tops for gay men) fucking sends me.

CaptainMoose · 2021-11-26T14:12:34+00:00

More and more we're being exposed to the fact that there are absolutely bi men who label themselves as gay just like there are bi women who label themselves as lesbian.

CaptainMoose · 2021-11-18T03:59:30+00:00

Yup. And being creeped out by the Victoria's Secret window display posters and taking alternate routes around malls just to avoid them.

CaptainMoose · 2021-11-13T00:43:22+00:00

We can only hope some vigilante gay and lesbian students at Old Dominion University in Norfolk, VA have the wherewithal to break her office windows... or if room 6002 of the Batten Arts and Letters building doesn't have those, at least smash down her door with a sledgehammer and wreak her office.

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-31T17:10:53+00:00

Bisexual men who call themselves gay: Displays enthusiastic consent.

This self-hating rape fetishist: No, I need you to suffer so I can get off!

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-22T20:57:50+00:00

On one hand, I’m glad they’re with each other and leaving gays and lesbians alone. Today, she posted about how her fiancé was so kind and helped her with her makeup and wardrobe for her first ever drag show.

Yeah, they're still not leaving gays and lesbians alone. She (at least) is still making money in a position an actual LGB person could be working to support themselves and now will be occupying the spot of a gay (or bisexual) male drag performer and thus siphoning money that way.

It also doesn't stop them from using her positions within our spaces to continue to harass gay men and lesbian women on behalf of any other "gay transman" or "lesbian transwoman" who saunter in.

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-20T04:31:38+00:00

"bold of you to assume trans people are attracted to YOU" is always my thought when I see that.

I have Tinder Gold and can see who is trying to message me on Grindr. I think I have a pretty clear idea of the number of women I've had to block on the latter and clear from my queue on the former.

I'm a gay transman and I felt all of this in my soul. Its disgusting how much transphobia is out there. Gay trans men exist, damn it! We aren't a fetish, we aren't a sort of lesser man, we are men!

You are not a man and you yourself have a fetish.

It's good to keep in mind there's no such thing as THE gay community, there's just gay pockets and subcultures with varying degrees of chillness. None of those gay men that say those kind of things is the pr manager of the gay community either, it's even the other way around, they are seeking community and attempting to define themselves through saying that "ew, vagina" shit. If you think that's pathetic, you aren't wrong. You will find partners just fine though, they'll simply not be in the transphobic pockets of gay men. Ultimately, it's no different from how "gay culture" excludes a bunch of body types and ethnicities, everyone hates it and the people that do it are some losers on grindr, not confident and well adjusted people.

Gay men come together into "communities" because we are exclusively same-sex attracted and want to maximize our chances at finding a short-term or long-term partner to pair off with. Those of us who feel safe enough will express the "ew vagina" sentiment because we are not able to enthusiastically consent to anyone born with one. If you have a problem with that, you are a sexual predator. Many gay men will censor ourselves because of having to navigate education, housing, and employment in order to survive in the larger society and at least try and prosper or because we don't want to be iced out of the few spaces that prioritize(d) same-sex attraction. The people that make their boundaries clear are not losers and are, in fact, much more well adjusted than anyone going on an incel/femcel rant every other day.

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-14T17:30:56+00:00

I haven't been close enough to tell. If anything, they smell more "neutral", similar to how butch lesbians (who don't shave their body hair) I know who use men's body wash and deodorant tend to smell. Not intoxicating like healthy men smell to me, but just neutral.

MtFs on the other hand typically smell putrid. It reminds me of when I used to shave my armpits and how I would have to reuse deodorant every 3-4 hours. BO masked with cheap perfume.

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-11T10:01:02+00:00

The club in London where they host "Porn Idol"? Yeah, I'm going to assume the woman's line was shorter.

CaptainMoose · 2021-10-07T00:38:16+00:00

There's a certain kind of gay man who embodies the gender-critical vibe. He’s white, middle class and exactly 45 years old, and even though he works as a corporate lawyer, he thinks teenagers with dyed blue hair are an oppressor class.

They really don't get that gay men put ourselves in the shoes of gay teenagers and understand what it's like to deal with these people on a peer level. Some of us are not that far off from our teenage/young adult years (which is why they need to paint the caricature as being a man in his mid-40s). We know what it's like to feel isolated when we try and access spaces that once prioritized same-sex attraction and think we are the only ones who can smell the bullshit.

CaptainMoose · 2021-09-14T15:27:52+00:00

"That doesn't make them bi..."

Sir, it makes them bi. Different bisexuals have different types for each sex, that doesn't negate the fact that they are bi.

Also, and I will say it again, many of these men who are fucking "transwomen" are also seeking out crossdressers, transvestites, drag queens, and twinks. You don't have to shave down your skull or shove bolt-ons under your skin for them to fuck you.

CaptainMoose · 2021-07-26T00:34:25+00:00

She was married to a woman who left her after the phalloplasty became disabling and turned her into an asshole. So still a lesbian trans widow.

CaptainMoose · 2021-04-13T13:49:42+00:00

Frankly, a beautiful dick can make-up for an ugly face.

A sewn on tube of arm/thigh/stomach skin won't accomplish the same thing.

CaptainMoose · 2021-03-18T18:29:55+00:00

The real issue here is that the gay guy was up for trying to act against his sexual orientation and so hurt the trans man.

He probably didn't clock that she was a woman until they met in person. He also probably didn't want her to make a scene if he ended things abruptly, so he ran the clock until whatever date activity they were doing was over.

CaptainMoose · 2021-03-13T18:59:04+00:00

I mean, good for a new publication by and for gay men popping up, but they need to spell check their articles.

CaptainMoose · 2021-02-10T22:00:36+00:00

Because we are also attracted to the men attached to the penises. Body and face. We don't find women sexually attractive. Their touch isn't experienced positively. No matter how many steroids they take, or surgeries they have.

CaptainMoose · 2021-02-06T14:43:40+00:00

She needs to see a dentist.

Also, clock the dog's face. Even she's tired of her owner's bullshit.

CaptainMoose · 2021-01-12T21:17:57+00:00

I think the terms are fine and they have a specific use. Not every guy is going to be attracted to every body type and having a lexicon to make it easier to sift through who you find potential mutual attraction is a great way to not waste your own time. I describe myself both as a cub (because I'm overweight and hairy) and a top (because I'm the penetrative partner during anal sex). These terms are related to material reality. Certain terms I get annoyed at other people using, but understand that they aren't just limited to gay male lexicon. However, terms like twink as well as positional sex roles get me more irritated because they have specific meanings that get diluted when used by others.
Our treatment of GNC men is complicated. I may return to this question when I finish answering the rest (or edit it later).
I've gone through phases of liking certain stereotypical things. Drag remains one of those things that I continue to enjoy (depending on the performer) because it's an opportunity to support other gay man directly (via tips). Not every stereotypical hobby or interest applies to every gay man. I've been working these past couples years to push myself to explore the hobbies or interests I always wanted to take up and find an internal sense of validation to do so.
HIV & STI prevention that focuses on condom use; predatory older men; drug use and it's impact on our spaces; saying no to queer theory peddlers who try and involve themselves in our events, spaces, and resources.
I don't feel like I'm a part of the larger community as a gay man. I've worked in some gay male spaces and felt supported by my employers (gay and bi men), but felt attacked by "the other letters." A lot of this has to do with the fact that everyone tries to barge in and access these spaces. It often feels like gay men are expected to build and create everything for everyone, but never create anything exclusive for ourselves. I also feel like the other letters facilitate the discourse in academic settings and gay men have to endure the consequences. For example, Michel Foucault and Queer Theory. Why is this the only gay male perspective that gets taught when we are brought up? Why is it that we are not allowed to have another voice? Why do we always have to be presented as monolithic? If you are a lesbian or bisexual person in a teaching position in academia, why are you not qualifying what is in the course material with the fact that many gay men, even those outside of academia, disagree with this tool and think he's a creep?
I'm going to focus on the "gayden" part because I have more to say. I think these girls/women are creepy and predatory. I think that their harassment of gay boys and men is pushing us out of our own spaces, ones that many of us still need, and into darker corners. I feel especially sorry for and gay teenager stuck in high school right now because he'll be dealing with these clowns and that alienation in GSAs is going to send him out seeking adult spaces in hopes of finding other normie gay teens.
I tend to prefer hook-ups to dating. In dating, people put on facades. In hooking up, most guys will reveal the worst aspects of themselves so you get a feel for who they really are as a person. I don't feel like the "male" and "female" roles are as common in same-sex relationships among gay men. I feel like they can fluctuate. However, I feel like socialization around straight women often leads to gay men internalizing aspects of the "female role" in dating and failing to realize why this doesn't lead to a second or third date. My best relationship was with a closeted bi guy because our dates were actually fun and I didn't feel like I had to lead everything. My worst were with guys who said they "had fun" but were shocked when I told them I didn't because I felt like I was hauling ass throughout the entire thing only to get a stank face in response.
I think it's stupid.
Queer is stupid and meaningless- it relies on you observing the behaviour of the person to establish what they really mean. "F...t" I find offensive- I can take a drag queen using the term to be edgy, but everyone else can keep it out of their mouths. "Sassy" I feel is more applied to black women, so it isn't our term to use or be concerned about. "Homo" I hear less often. "Homosexual" I used to feel was a cringy when used because it sounded very medical, but as I've seen the word gay get diluted I understand the need for it to establish what I actually am. "Gay" see the previous. "Gaybie" is stupid. "Same-sex attracted" I'm fine with. "TEHM" I think was a cringy way for gaydens to try and insult gay men and I find it funny seeing gay men reclaim it.
I don't deal with as much discrimination as I used to. As an adult, most of the discrimination I experience has to do with being held to a higher standard in the workplace. It's often covert, and I see it applied to lesbians, too. In one workplace I was in, a straight woman in the office I worked in would routinely complain about how "slow" the lesbian woman was at doing her job (manual labour, had a bum knee but still pushed herself hard) and about how one gay guy in the IT department didn't know what his job was (he wasn't trained but was trying his best to fix every issue presented to him). This was a woman who spent all day browsing Amazon/doing little if anything productive. The discrimination I see most of us facing as adults centers around our labour and time being devalued and the idea that we aren't employable or deserving of employment.
The most annoying one is the pedophilia stereotype. I know for a damn fact that I am not one and that the vast majority of gay men are not either. I think this has contributed to a lot of the problems we face in building up spaces for our youth because many gay men are afraid of accusations for wanting to work with/help children and teens. Even those that do (such as teachers) remain closeted when gay teenagers need a level-headed mentor and not some Jeffree Star type to parasocially groom them.
I'm pro gay marriage. I don't want biological kids, but if I do get married I will likely foster.
I'm in Canada. Opinions vary person to person, but I think there is a strong, unspoken, negative undercurrent that festers in the actions of certain people. We're often treated as objects even by "friends" and if we don't fit a certain mold we are tossed aside for a more "fun, agreeable" gay man. I think a lot of Middle Eastern countries would qualify as the least accepting because of the forced sex changes.

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