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[–]spanishprofanity 17 insightful - 19 fun17 insightful - 18 fun18 insightful - 19 fun -  (0 children)

Um sweaty trans people don't have to transition to be valid. All gender transition journeys are unique. If your partner is making you uncomfortable because they are making no effort to transition then you are a transphobic bigot.

[–]NeedMoreCoffee~=[,,_,,]=^_^= 20 insightful - 12 fun20 insightful - 11 fun21 insightful - 12 fun -  (3 children)

These people are so exhausting i get tired from just reading their shit.

Imagine having someone like that in your immediate family. I would fake my own death and move countries.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 11 insightful - 7 fun11 insightful - 6 fun12 insightful - 7 fun -  (2 children)

I'm stifling a laugh right now so I don't wake the neighborhood.

I know people who have this nonsense in their immediate families. I also know people who are this nonsense in their immediate families. Who wants to live under the constant threat of sneezing incorrectly and your relative responding by starting World War III?

[–]NeedMoreCoffee~=[,,_,,]=^_^= 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

My condolences to all those families.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Seriously. I'm just waiting until it's safe to speak.

I hate cults.

[–]7874 21 insightful - 7 fun21 insightful - 6 fun22 insightful - 7 fun -  (0 children)

All this talk about desperately wanting to "pass as a gay couple" has me ready to book them a vacation to Iran.

It seems that the homophobia faced by women isn't as extreme as what's directed towards men. It's almost as if these women forgot that homophobia even exists and ceased to care. Infuriating.

[–]CaptainMooseEx-Bathhouse Employee 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

She sounds like a theyfab. She is using you as a queer phase. She will find a cis man and start a family after she is done exploring. Her 20s is for herself.

The irony is that the girlfriend sounds more like a lesbian than the OP (who at best is a self-hating bisexual woman who prefers men).

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Honestly, the OP sounds like a straight woman to me. Yeah, I know that's beyond ridiculous-- she's got a goddamn girlfriend fer chrissakes, how can she not be gay or bi???-- but such are the times we live in :( All I hear is her distaste for femaleness, you know? And desire for maleness. No sign of attraction to the GF as-is at all. Looks to me like they got together on the basis of GF being NB (which according to trans dogma should cancel out her sex) and making noises about going the full Franken-man route. Which, to me, strongly suggests a woman who's exclusively male-attracted, and trying to remake her GF in that image.

[–]7874 10 insightful - 7 fun10 insightful - 6 fun11 insightful - 7 fun -  (2 children)

I went through her post history and found this exchange:

Random Redditor: Then what term should be used if I'm only sexually attracted to people with vaginas (completely regardless of gender)?

nose-vomit (OP): I would call that "predatory" and also "invalidating"

And these gems:

being molested did delay my transition because I became a man hating lesbian.

God the amount of mtf people who aren't attracted to ftm really bugs me. Like...how are you both trans and invalidating trans people.

I'm attracted to masculine energies

She explicitly says she's attracted to "men and non-binaries" and has dated a few other (female) trans chicks, A.K.A. "transmen" before. It seems like she's a bisexual woman attracted to masculinity.

Also bonus homophobia:

I want to dress more like a gay man but lately I've been so insecure that I dress super fucking masculine to try and at least not get misgendered constantly. Idk how to dress more gay without like...being seen as a woman. It's really frustrating. Feels like I can't win

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Feels like I can't win

The only winning move is not to play.

[–]dramasexual 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

being homosexual is inherently predatory

And the past repeats

[–]reluctant_commenter 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Honestly, the OP sounds like a straight woman to me. Yeah, I know that's beyond ridiculous-- she's got a goddamn girlfriend fer chrissakes, how can she not be gay or bi???-- but such are the times we live in :(

Agreed. She certainly wouldn't be the first! https://saidit.net/s/LGBDropTheT/comments/8dy6/former_mod_of_rdetrans_was_majorly_confused/

Which, to me, strongly suggests a woman who's exclusively male-attracted, and trying to remake her GF in that image.

Yup, that's what I was thinking as well. Hard to say for sure but I seriously wonder.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes this woman's OP and her post history wreak of a woman with unprocessed sexual trauma from a man who does not have a firm grasp of her own sexuality. I would not be surprised at all if she's straight and looking for a safe way to be in a relationship with a man. And it seems that in her eyes, that would mean a male who doesn't identify as a man or an androgenized female who acts stereotypically masculine and appears male and does not identify as a woman.

Gender ideology has a weird way of really fucking with the identities and lives of trauma victims. I don't see anything here that indicates that she's actually attracted to women. She seems to be trying on different identities as a coping mechanism. She said she previously "became a man hating lesbian" as a result of being molested. That in addition to her comment about people who are only sexually attracted to "people with vaginas" being "predatory" and "invalidating" reveal her own ignorance over what it even means to be a lesbian/homosexual. She is also upset that there are MTFs who are not attracted to FTMs.

[–]winterwillow 9 insightful - 7 fun9 insightful - 6 fun10 insightful - 7 fun -  (2 children)

Well passing as a gay male couple isn’t solely on the gf, because if op herself passed, they’d be seen as a straight couple wouldn’t they?

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 5 insightful - 6 fun5 insightful - 5 fun6 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)