But holy shit these men are so boring. I have a full profile with my intrests listed, different questions or prompts, and that I am looking for a serious relationship.

Her interests based on her other posts: KPop, The Sims, and teen dramas. And even with the one she could actually be productive with, she doesn't make her own content (either mods/CC or stories). Her entire life is just consuming the work of others. She is a boring person projecting her insecurities onto gay men.

Despite that the only messages I get are ten different variations of "hey". Now, if I'm intrested in them I will respond to ask them a question, but I am confused as to why they seem to put in such a low amount of effort.

It's called playing it cool. Most messages beyond a quick hello always come across as creepy and unhinged. Part of having such a small dating pool is that it's really easy to memorize who gives off red flags- the axe may forget, but the tree will always remember.

Yes it's incredibly normal and incredibly sad. That being said you can find some amazing people! Just gotta search for the needle in the gay stack

Maybe don't look in the gay stack if you have a vag, sweetie. You girls have an entire world of heterosexual men to choose from. Grindr isn't the space where you can claim victimhood.