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[–][deleted] 24 insightful - 2 fun24 insightful - 1 fun25 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

Mods even deleting the most benign comments that don't fit the orthodoxy like this:

It’s their preference. Although they could be a bit more tactful or polite about it.

Can't let anything seep through the cracks to ruin the delusions.

I also see nothing wrong with being rude to people who are invading a space where they don't belong. Make them feel unwelcome and maybe they're finally get the hint and leave.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Indeed. If you go somewhere where people are looking for [not what you are] and you send them pics of what they don't want, you're basically harassing them. You aren't entitled to anything other than the digital door being shut before you can do it again.

[–]CancelPowerSuper Bi Male 22 insightful - 3 fun22 insightful - 2 fun23 insightful - 3 fun -  (3 children)

r/bisexual is such a cesspool that I doubt has any real bisexuals. I remember I got banned from it when I said that I don't like neo-vaginas and neo-penis and I'm not attracted to trans people on a post literally asking about PREFERENCES. Everybody called me "tRaNsPhObiC" because "I don't get to have a natural vs artificial genitals preference" (yes, this was a real comment, not even kidding) then I got permanently banned.

Yikes. I even said it in the nicest way possible but I guess that wasn't enough for the fragile trans mods.

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Just another captured reddit forum turned trans apologetics hive. Many there(bi or not) have been brainwashed into repeating the "2 or more genders" type mantras, which are the bi counterpart to chanting "TWAW/TMAM". Some of the smaller and more specific bi subs are probably better off in this regard.

[–]ChunkeeguyTeam T*RF Fuck Yeah[S] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

JFC

[–]PriestTheyCalledHimBisexual 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Almost all of reddit is like this now.

[–]JulienMayfair 19 insightful - 6 fun19 insightful - 5 fun20 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

No one owes you sexual interest -- or their time. Grindr is a sex app. It's not an emotional-support platform.

[–]CaptainMooseEx-Bathhouse Employee 18 insightful - 2 fun18 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

No one owes you an explanation for why they aren't interested. If someone blocks you, get over it. If someone slams a door in your face because you won't take no for an answer (bathhouse example), it doesn't make them the asshole. You are a woman on an app for same-sex attracted men looking for same-sex sexual encounters- you are inherently deranged and predatory for doing what you are doing. Blocking you is the smartest thing this guy could do to make sure your psycho ass doesn't destroy his reputation by screenshotting everything and trying to "expose" him.

[–]Virginia_Plain 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

I've started pre emptively blocking on the apps. Clears up my grid. From what I've heard HER requires you to state the reason why, but Scruff is no questions asked and has so far allowed me a pretty generous number of blocks. I don't even bother with Grindr. I've yeeted trans people, some lady named Angela who called me handsome with a little heart emoji, married guys, obvious meth users, and other guys I'm just plain not into. I drive trucks now, so I run into lots of people.

Realizing you aren't for everyone is an important part of the dating/hookup app/cruising scene. Sometimes I've been genuinely surprised by people who I consider "out of my league." I wouldn't consider myself ugly, but I have a very large frame, a hairy back, and tend towards being overweight or obese if I'm not careful.

I flat out had a bartender I knew IRL say "hey...I think I'm gonna go with someone else" after I gave him nude pics like he asked for. You know what I did next time I was in his bar? Waved at him, sat down, ordered a drink, and we said hello to each other. He was still as chatty and nice as he was before he decided to take a chance on me on the app. I wasn't his type, maybe he did not want to caress my furry belly. It didn't mean he hated me, and I didn't detect any hate when he backed out of our potential fling.

I agree that referring to people as "rice" or other foods in terms of their ethnicity is fucked up. I don't believe in being insulting to anyone, no not even the trans people on the apps. But damn it you've got to get a thicker skin and realize you just aren't going to do it for some people. People's bodies aren't services you have a "right" to access.

[–]Rosefield 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I don't think HER is being used by many lesbians since they started to pander to trans people. Not only that but the app is a cesspit full of men in dresses

[–]Virginia_Plain 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, I know about the issues plaguing HER from this site and others. The blocking issue is the main thing I was talking about, and seems to be snared in a way that the gay men's apps aren't at least for now. I would not be surprised if apps such as Grindr started going the way of HER and being more aggressive in hunting down people who don't toe the line.

[–]dilsencySame-sex community 13 insightful - 2 fun13 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

It's like they're blaming them for being surprised. Their profile stated that they were a man (I'm assuming they didn't have a face pic). Then they send unsolicited pics of their entire vajine. I'd be taken aback too.

[–]jay-dayGold Star Gay Woman 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Like they’re bi. Leaves me feeling deflated and not good

Them being bi doesn't mean they want a stranger sending them unsolicited photos of their genitals

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

[–]automoderatorHuman-Exclusionary Radical Overlord[M] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

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[–]LesbianManiactransphobic lol 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

She sends unsolicited nudes and does not see a problem with that?