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[–]CaptainMooseEx-Bathhouse Employee 25 insightful - 1 fun25 insightful - 0 fun26 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

To my surprise, I was a very popular guy at the pool. I hadn't expected the penis-less guy to get much attention at a gay men's resort, but a lot of guys were very flattering and approached me to talk about my tattoos, being trans, etc. On the significantly weirder end of the spectrum, yesterday I found out one guy had thought I was cis and that I had chopped my dick off. I was like 😳😂😳 how did that seem like a more likely option than me being trans???

Do these women ever consider that gay men have been trained to be nice to them even when we are uncomfortable? Christ, the number of times I've had women thrust sexual shit on me and I've had to pretend I'm okay with it only for them to later think I'm secretly bi is too many to count. We don't tell you that you look pretty because we believe it, we do so because you throw temper tantrums even if we quietly look at our phones. We also run the risk of losing our jobs, not being promoted even if we merit it, and losing career connections if we set boundaries. Don't be fucking stupid, ma'am.

And to answer the general question, they will start invading single-sex private spaces such as parties and orgies because dopey white knights will bring them to be "inclusive."

[–][deleted] 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

yesterday I found out one guy had thought I was cis and that I had chopped my dick off. I was like 😳😂😳 how did that seem like a more likely option than me being trans???

Maybe because "gay male" means something, so he expected an actual man to be there, not a woman? And because he was trying to be kind and considerate towards a man who may have lost/disfigured his genitals for one reason or another?

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 9 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

There is an extreme BDSM subculture where people do, in fact, remove their dicks. I've seen pictures of the self-castration process (on the Farms). Could link, but I don't think it would be welcome here and, anyway: NSFL.

[–]lunarstrain 3 insightful - 5 fun3 insightful - 4 fun4 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

You just reminded me that I saw that too. You'll be hearing from my lawyer about our upcoming emotional damage suit. ☹️

[–]PriestTheyCalledHimBisexual 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

They will complain it is not trans or 'queer' enough, or want it fully racist segregation or POC ONLY! Or worse that it has nothing to do with asexual people who are not LGB or hetero at all.

FYI, trans people have been doing this for decades and throw public temper tantrums when they get told no or learn as adults that it is not all about them, their needs, issues etc.

[–]ChunkeeguyTeam T*RF Fuck Yeah[S] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yikes.