r/gaytransguys - just wanted to share some pics of me and my bf when we got to meet in person for the first time! one of the only people who has always seen me for who I am. love is possible and real......

CaptainMoose · 2023-01-28T00:34:06+00:00

She looks like a good candidate for 13 or 30.

CaptainMoose · 2023-01-28T00:32:56+00:00

Congrats on discovering your bisexuality, queen.

But my correctively raped ass doesn't need the taste of pennies in my life.

CaptainMoose · 2023-01-09T22:37:34+00:00

Like, fuck you, dude. No!! Your mother did not pray for you to stick your dick in a man, not a man with my kind of parts or the other kind of parts. For fuck sake, cis dudes can be super fragile sometimes.

Lady, you would be surprised at the shit mothers try and push on their gay sons as a "compromise" for their homosexuality.

CaptainMoose · 2023-01-09T22:34:31+00:00

Yes, my lack of struggle that included being sexually assaulted out of the closet at 15 by a girl on a field trip on a dare by our classmates, my mother having me correctively raped while holding my legal documents hostage, the constructive dismissal I've been put through by straight (female) employers because I don't like up to their Will & Grace fantasies as I have boundaries (which is partially what led to me working in a bathhouse to avoid that shit), etc.

I sure don't know shit about struggling.

CaptainMoose · 2022-12-28T05:34:37+00:00

Don’t pay any attention to r/askgaybros, that place is fucking awful to not only trans men, but queer POC and feminine men as well. They aren’t called gaycels for nothing

Funny, cause most of the guys who post there actually get laid.

Also from what I’ve seen with FTM transitions, y’all look handsome as fuck. Well put together, well groomed. That can come off as a threat to most guys thats dont even know how to shave properly lol

LMAO, that's fucking ironic when most of these women are sporting pube beards.

CaptainMoose · 2022-11-26T05:12:17+00:00

I was definitely attracted to gay men as a “straight woman”. It was a pretty horrible place to be in. Then I thought it must have been because that was a “safe” way to have crushes and feelings that were never going to be materialised… life makes so much more sense since I understand that I’m trans

Based on her other posts, this woman is over 30, has only been on testosterone for 5 months, and is now buying wigs because she wants to become a drag queen. How the fuck do you go so long in your heterosexual life without being attracted to even one of the 98% of men who are opposite-sex attracted? Literally, my first crush was another gay teenager and we're operating with just 2% of the population able to consent to the same sex.

Yep, I mistakenly identified as lesbian and then bisexual for over a decade because I knew I wasn’t straight, and denied/repressed my attraction to men for a long time because I didn’t want to be straight, not to mention the sexual dysphoria.

I’m actually not attracted to women at all, never was, despite having had multiple long term serious relationships with them, and once I realized I was trans, and attracted to gay men and not straight men, it was like everything fell into place.

If any lesbian and bi women on dropthet ever wonder why gay men seem hesitant around you, it's because these types of women are all too common. Also why I never trust a woman who writes slash porn who claims to be a lesbian. Why you so obsessed with two dudes fucking if you aren't into it?

CaptainMoose · 2022-11-22T02:07:58+00:00

Also, too, most same-sex attracted people are not legal scholars. Sure, we have those among us who worked tirelessly to find ways to argue for our rights (employment non-discrimination, housing, marriage, etc.), but most of us are going to be laypeople if we ever have to create a will/living will. There will for sure be some loophole that we aren't aware of that can be played against us/our lover. Or a loophole that could be put into a civil union that most people ignore because it doesn't affect them the way marriage does.

CaptainMoose · 2022-11-21T13:45:39+00:00

To a certain extent, gay men have always pitied HSTS TiMs and lesbian women HSTS TiFs because "there but for the grace of God go I." In the LGBT youth group I was a part of at 17, there was one TiM who was a college student who allegedly would go back and forth on his transition. I felt pity for him because (1) I had started to deal with gender dysphoria on and off from the age of 15 and (2) because he was finding the barriers in the medical system tiresome because he was expected to conform to an exact stereotype of a woman despite his being an individual. When he wasn't around, the other teenagers (including TiFs) would clown on him. I thought they were assholes (and frankly they were).

We're expected to tolerate a lot of shit in our spaces and put a smile on, even from our own demographic. For gay men, this looks like fetish play, meth, etc. None of us like dealing with the resident junkies in our bars, bathhouses, etc., but we get shut down whenever we say it's an issue. It's why so many of us freak out whenever you have one of these detransitioners or ex-gays condemn the spaces- half the time that motherfucker was the one causing the problems or contributing to them while we were just trying to have a normal time.

CaptainMoose · 2022-11-21T13:33:42+00:00

Someone I am aware of on the Booktube part of Youtube is an enby-identifying gay man and went through the same thing this year when his enby-identifying fiancé died. The mother and brother of the deceased used the situation to scam the gay man into paying for a funeral that was already covered just so they could pocket money.

Despite both men being self-hating, this is why marriage rights are important (and why I wouldn't settle for unions). Making sure every nook and cranny of the law keeps us and our loved ones from being treated like chattel from exploitative family members after we die is important to me. If I get married and die young, I don't want my husband to get fucked over by my mother (the same woman who had me correctively raped, who kept my legal documents locked in a vault I had no access to, and who gets enabled by everyone else).

CaptainMoose · 2022-11-21T13:26:15+00:00

"As a bi person mostly attracted to men, I've personally always loved how gay men can be a safe space for women. Before I knew I was trans, it made me really happy knowing there are a fair amount of gay guys that will stand up for women, and prove men and women can be genuine friends with no attraction involved whatsoever."

Correction: a space in which men and women can be friends but the MAN isn't attracted to her whatsoever. Can't guarantee the reverse (especially when women try and evade the fact that they glomp onto men because it feels good to them without regard for how it feels for him).

"How does you not being attracted to women make you sexist? are all gay men sexist then? Honestly, i was reading something about how most people understand masculinity as something opposed to or opposite of women. That being masculine is shown as being possessive of women. I disagree with the idea that THATS what it means to be masculine, but i know it can be hard to unlearn that."

Well, when you have feminist literature and letters from the 1960s/70s claiming that gay men are sexist for not being able to consent to women as well as TiFs nowadays claiming that gay men are both sexist and transphobic for not consenting to them, you can kind of see how OP would draw that conclusion.

CaptainMoose · 2022-11-07T18:36:14+00:00

I mean, there are a few real men who flaunt their micropeen but usually because they fetishize being shamed for it.

CaptainMoose · 2022-10-09T23:57:33+00:00

That Rory one is apparently a guy https://www.gofundme.com/f/rorys-survival-fund-to-zap-the-beard-off

$20 says he's bi and the exact type of "gay" guy these delusional chicks sleep with.

CaptainMoose · 2022-10-09T23:51:05+00:00

On the plus side, at least this time around they're seeing pushback from actual LGB people against this shit (rather than it being swept under the rug as everyone cites Foucault for one reason or another while ignoring his critics such as Rictor Norton and Pierre Gripari).

CaptainMoose · 2022-09-25T02:56:48+00:00

These people see gays as nothing but something to use. And as soon as gays don't serve them, they lash out with homophobia. The only value gays have to these people is what they can do for them.

They don't even need to be TiFs to pull this type of shit. In previous jobs, I've been put through attempts at constructive dismissal for not being the "fun" gay and being a stickler for rules by my conservative, Christian manager (another, older, gay man working there who fit the GBF role to a T relayed to me some of the fucked up shit she said about me to him and gave me a crash course on how to deal with it). I've had female friends drop me for having boundaries and for having real needs that need to be addressed, especially financial and housing ones, before I could give them a fun night at a gay bar.

CaptainMoose · 2022-09-14T09:29:27+00:00

Does she not recognize that some (many) men on Grindr may be bi? I mean, the only bit of stand-up of hers seems to infer she also likes pussy, so shouldn't she of all people know that bisexuals exist?

CaptainMoose · 2022-08-23T16:02:58+00:00

Good on the actual gay teenagers for forming an age appropriate relationship in spite of this psychotic straight girl.

CaptainMoose · 2022-08-16T00:33:52+00:00

Do these roided out women not know that you can suck a guy's dick or jerk him off while fucking him in the ass?

CaptainMoose · 2022-08-03T08:48:47+00:00

Most people, even those who claim to be good at it, suck at sucking dick. It took until I was 22 or 23 (I forget which) to actually cum from head. Up until then, I hated it because I would get performance anxiety due to being expected to enjoy something I knew wouldn't feel good. It wasn't until I got good head for the first time that things changed and I could finally relax knowing it wasn't me- it was the other guy.

But yeah, a lot of guys don't cum from head.

CaptainMoose · 2022-08-01T05:59:10+00:00

DeadEndia has been around since 2014 and was a popular web comic on Tumblr. The creator, Hamish Steele, is a self-hating gay man who fancies himself a "homoromantic asexual," (at least that's what I remember him saying he was almost 8 years ago).

In short, the conversion therapy propaganda is sometimes coming from inside the house.

CaptainMoose · 2022-07-10T05:04:02+00:00

What bugs me is that he cited at least two instances where people tried to warn him. First was his religious family and then was the bi man who was in an open relationship with another male-to-transsexual who had first hand experience with a partner who had bottom surgery. What more warning do you want?

CaptainMoose · 2022-07-07T01:39:55+00:00

I was super attracted to women like damn near lesbian but I knew I also liked guys to some degree

I mean, she was always bi but called herself a lesbian.

CaptainMoose · 2022-07-06T16:00:38+00:00

She calls the man she's with her "cis gay partner" in this post, but 4 months ago she was referring to him as bi 1.

So what's the truth? Are you dating a bi guy who only wanted a tomboy GF he could placate with pronouns or did your crazy ass latch on to a closeted gay man who is trying to squirm away from you because you'll go nuclear if he tries to make a clean break?

CaptainMoose · 2022-07-02T11:27:34+00:00

If/when same-sex intercourse is criminalized again, she will be the first to call the cops on a gay house party she isn't let into.

CaptainMoose · 2022-06-30T13:55:35+00:00

Back when I was lost in the sauce of the gender woo woo? I entertained the idea, but I'm glad there was no follow through because reality would have hit me like a ton of bricks in the bedroom when the entire thing reminded me of my corrective rape. Even the push afterwards from my mother about the possibility of butch women or transmen. It absolutely would not be a relationship in which I was enthusiastically consenting.

The biggest thing about "passing" is that everything is staged. Like a fat chick using angled shots and contour, it's harder not to notice in the real world where the sun is shining. Drag queens used to crack jokes about "transgender friendly lighting" all the time for a reason.

I agree that GAMPs are most likely a type of bisexual, mostly since the same guys who seem to be into TS/TV are also into twinks.

CaptainMoose · 2022-06-19T07:23:47+00:00

I get over things fairly quickly, but I also tend to end things when red flags start to pop up. For example, with my last ex, he tried to pressure me into letting his friends do whatever they want to me while we were on a date. The next week when we hung out, I confronted him on it and laid out how his behaviour was coercive especially in the context of us trying to work on a relationship (not to mention he was 38 and I was 25 at the time). When more red flags popped up (late for dates, needing me to pay despite him having $100K a year job and me working minimum wage at the time, the drinking problem), I broke it off. I would later find out that his drinking problem escalated and he lost his job and ended up locking a guy in a closet covered in lube to prevent him from leaving his cabin on the lake.

The way that I get over things is to be analytical about them. Look at everything objectively and use that information to help guide you on what it is you are comfortable with and what it is you are uncomfortable with. Pushing through and confronting things can be scary, but if you don't try then it will take longer to hone the skill and the further away you'll be from a fulfilling relationship.

Also, make sure you are in a place where the relationship doesn't become all consuming. Make sure you are maintaining your hobbies and interests and make sure you are making financially stable choices so the relationship doesn't become a necessity for your survival or your personhood.

CaptainMoose · 2022-06-15T21:22:24+00:00

Don't forget, THEY lack the part you're attracted to, also -- namely, the ability to see a whole huMan and all the wonderful, valuable, sexy possibilities therein.

Cringe.

CaptainMoose · 2022-06-14T00:44:20+00:00

I saw this earlier today and was horrified. The description of the pulsating dick base was what got me.

CaptainMoose · 2022-06-12T20:16:15+00:00

I mean, I could (and do privately) say the same thing about women in general, so it all evens out lmao

CaptainMoose · 2022-06-09T01:44:32+00:00

I would say bi men who are into "femininity." In my experience, they also tend to be into twinks.

CaptainMoose · 2022-06-07T05:21:10+00:00

Straight woman (born 1987) says she's a lesbian at 20, then says she's bi at 30 ("my attraction to women completely dropped off"), and continues to fetishize gay men while dating a straight dude.

In one of her previous posts on r/lifeafternarcissism, she details how her ex-girlfriend was "clingy" and it took about 4 times to break up. In one of her posts on r/bisexual, she documents how sex with women never really felt good. She also has a history of alcoholism and two of her "lesbian" exes are now with men permanently.

Cluster. B.

CaptainMoose · 2022-06-04T04:44:24+00:00

SolRosenberg - account made July 2021, sporadic poster - YES

SoundSituation - account made June 29 2021, Saidit Admin - YES (I think we would be obligated to)

spanishprofanity - account created August 2021, sporadic poster - YES

strawberrycake - account made September 2021, sporadic poster - YES

stunaep - account made October 2021, regular poster - YES

CaptainMoose · 2022-06-03T21:48:26+00:00

dilsency - account made June 21 2021, know of him through Tumblr and confirmed that he isn't larping, regular contributor, gay man - YES

DrMantisToboggan - account made July 12 2021, regular contributor, gay man - YES

ElectraHeart - account made December 17 2021, well thought out posts, gay man - YES

elpk1313 - account made July 10 2021, exclusively posts links - MAYBE

Femaleisnthateful - account made June 29 2021, regular contributor - YES

CaptainMoose · 2022-06-03T21:38:43+00:00

vineqar - no post history - NO

Wanderingthehalls - made account Dec 5th, 2021, regular contributor here who makes well thought out posts - YES

WanderingWonder - made account Aug 2020, sporadic user, nothing to rule out - YES

WeirdWingsAirliner - made 7 hours ago - NO

winterwillow - made account July 11th 2021, lesbian, was more active 6 months to a year ago - YES

Yes-Homo - made two days ago - NO

CaptainMoose · 2022-05-27T21:34:05+00:00

One thing I will say on the subject of David Levithan- I think it's interesting that his most successful work has always centered or included heterosexuality (Nick & Norah's Infinite Playlist, Every Day, etc.) while he works that center on the often uncomfortable experiences of gay teenage boys (Wide Awake, Boy Meets Boy, etc.) never seem to get adapted or celebrated.

CaptainMoose · 2022-05-18T10:46:01+00:00

I'm 28 and I've used a glory hole maybe twice outside of a bathhouse setting, but even then it's not for me. I like knowing who it is sucking my dick as well as having light on so I can inspect for things like herpes and HPV before I proceed.

Most men who I see on hookup sites advertising glory holes usually have it set up with a sheet in their living room or foyer so they can still control who is invited/peer out the window. These days it's about pseudo-anonymity.

CaptainMoose · 2022-05-17T13:19:44+00:00

No one owes you an explanation for why they aren't interested. If someone blocks you, get over it. If someone slams a door in your face because you won't take no for an answer (bathhouse example), it doesn't make them the asshole. You are a woman on an app for same-sex attracted men looking for same-sex sexual encounters- you are inherently deranged and predatory for doing what you are doing. Blocking you is the smartest thing this guy could do to make sure your psycho ass doesn't destroy his reputation by screenshotting everything and trying to "expose" him.

CaptainMoose · 2022-05-17T13:10:22+00:00

Most specifically queer spaces I’ve been to have been almost entirely women and AFAB non binary people. It’s nice sometimes, but I’m very much a man who loves men and is very knowledgable of and prefers gay male culture. That’s why I seek out more gay men’s spaces. I’d recommend going to more male oriented events/bars etc if possible, I’ve personally never had any issues. Cis gay/bi men have not been transphobic to me despite all the queer women saying they are while excusing their own transphobia and othering.

Translation: straight woman who fetishizes gay men hates being around lesbian and bisexual women who in turn have zero clue how conditioned gay (and some bi) men are into placating straight women.

I feel like I miss out on a lot of cool things being trans and gay and wish so bad to be in cis gay spaces too. I feel like anon stuff and getting sucked off at glory holes are off the table for me mostly. And just the camaraderie.

They should be off the table for you entirely. In these spaces, men expect another man to be on the other side and consent accordingly. You, like any other woman who inserts herself into gay men's spaces, will ruin any "camaraderie" we have by forcing us to self-censor.

I don't pursue it at all; I know had I been born a cis man I would have spent my young adult years partaking in everything cis gay men take for granted.

"Take for granted" is such a funny thing to include. She fails to realize two very important things: (1) that many gay men do not want to participate in certain activities because we are all individuals with our own boundaries and values and (2) that the gay who do want to participate but can't are in that position because, as an actual marginalized class, we are often needing to take on additional jobs just to get by in life and survive.

CaptainMoose · 2022-05-08T05:25:21+00:00

https://lauralemoon.medium.com/i-am-transgender-and-no-i-dont-hate-my-body-reflections-on-the-direction-of-the-trans-rights-602dab72775

My mistake, she's a detransitioner.

CaptainMoose · 2022-05-08T03:32:38+00:00

To contextualize my forthcoming comment, this man used to be a sex worker, a trafficking victim nonetheless, himself and endured sexual violence:

If you've been through it yourself, why would you try and force yourself on another sex worker And knowing what you know about sex workers raising their prices for people they cannot consent to, why would you get mad let alone publish your coercive thought piece?

Also, his other articles imply he's HIV+ so no shit someone he's trying to pay for sex is going to try and get that PeP money up front in case the condom breaks (or more realistically, in case he tries to pressure her into unprotected sex/rapes her).

Edit: https://lauralemoon.medium.com/i-am-transgender-and-no-i-dont-hate-my-body-reflections-on-the-direction-of-the-trans-rights-602dab72775

Turns out she's a detransitioner.

CaptainMoose · 2022-05-04T04:36:51+00:00

In previous posts, she said he died from an epileptic seizure.

CaptainMoose · 2022-05-03T21:40:42+00:00

Her body for reference.

CaptainMoose · 2022-04-30T04:10:10+00:00

To my surprise, I was a very popular guy at the pool. I hadn't expected the penis-less guy to get much attention at a gay men's resort, but a lot of guys were very flattering and approached me to talk about my tattoos, being trans, etc. On the significantly weirder end of the spectrum, yesterday I found out one guy had thought I was cis and that I had chopped my dick off. I was like 😳😂😳 how did that seem like a more likely option than me being trans???

Do these women ever consider that gay men have been trained to be nice to them even when we are uncomfortable? Christ, the number of times I've had women thrust sexual shit on me and I've had to pretend I'm okay with it only for them to later think I'm secretly bi is too many to count. We don't tell you that you look pretty because we believe it, we do so because you throw temper tantrums even if we quietly look at our phones. We also run the risk of losing our jobs, not being promoted even if we merit it, and losing career connections if we set boundaries. Don't be fucking stupid, ma'am.

And to answer the general question, they will start invading single-sex private spaces such as parties and orgies because dopey white knights will bring them to be "inclusive."

CaptainMoose · 2022-04-15T14:11:59+00:00

After chatting on a dating app with someone I thought was a non-binary person or a gender nonconforming woman (both our dating profiles are meme-y and confusing, our language has no gendered pronouns, and we both have gender neutral names), we decided on a weekend lunch and a walk. I had a lovely time! After couple of hours we started talking about gay shit we found out about our gender blunder, had a good laugh, and continued on our date. He later told me that he found my queer androgyny very attractive, and I have to admit that his genderfuckery, softness and queer history were appealing. He’s a trans man, and wears his masculinity loosely with painted nails and eyeliner.

So you went on a date with a gender nonconforming straight woman? Or maybe she's bi, IDK. Either way, she's a fucking idiot.

CaptainMoose · 2022-04-14T14:12:05+00:00

His content started off with him spying on his neighbours and then he, much like Arielle Scarcella, progressed to "sex ed." He's never been the sharpest crayon.

CaptainMoose · 2022-04-14T11:14:18+00:00

Can Davey Wavey just die of an overdose already? Out of all the OG "gay" Youtubers, he's always been the least relevant.

CaptainMoose · 2022-04-12T15:16:03+00:00

Worked at a bathhouse until COVID hit. Right before, we were dealing with harassment campaigns from these types of women and their white knights. They largely do not give a fuck about gay men's experiences of sexual violence from women and why male-only spaces are important to us. They don't care that seeing a woman's naked body (in a non-medical context) is experienced as a form of sexual misconduct.

To me, the only real difference between them and the average straight girl who starts dry humping gay men in our bars is that these girls are on steroids. They aren't the girls who would have been emo kids a generation ago- they are the girls that would have had their first heterosexual experiences with closeted gay men (first kiss, prom, etc.). They get off to men who don't consent to them.

CaptainMoose · 2022-04-12T14:56:20+00:00

The possible locations this happened are : Roxy's, a lesbian bar in Buffalo up until 2014, and The Roxy, a restaurant in Portland that closed a couple weeks ago that had a for everyone policy.

Probably was the latter. Also, for more proof of the guy being a creep who doesn't respect boundaries:

He's being called out for being 29 and posting on r/teenagers

CaptainMoose · 2022-04-08T13:04:08+00:00

As someone who grew up obese, lost the weight (and gained it back), I think fatphobia is a stupid concept. Being overweight is not healthy and can be changed through diet and exercise. Seeing the discourse about how fit guys not wanting to fuck fat guys was problematic (supported by fat women because they were pushing it in their own lives and pursuits) back in the early 2010s was my first breaking point when it came to "wokeness." In my opinion, a lot of this discourse is just a form of academically supported rape culture.

CaptainMoose · 2022-03-31T16:29:14+00:00

Fun fact, this guy was found out in January 2020 to be the co-owner of a Sugar Daddy website that preyed on vulnerable women Link

CaptainMoose · 2022-03-25T03:10:00+00:00

If anything is a genital fetish, it's whatever I just read

CaptainMoose · 2022-03-17T12:47:02+00:00

OP who claims to be a top also posts on "aaaaaaacccccccce." Ma'am, what is the truth?

CaptainMoose · 2022-03-07T02:15:06+00:00

Even in this circumstance, it's a straight man setting his boundaries with this delusional woman. It doesn't make you morally inferior to not consent to a certain sex act, even if it's one that you are supposed to be the sole partner getting pleasure from it. Funny how amid discussions on "rape culture" and entirely new version of it arose.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-17T13:42:49+00:00

Christ, I remember when I was 17/18 and I got chastised by the straight girls for not liking breasts because, in their words, "they're just lumps of fat." They are not. Unless you're obese, breasts are mostly made up of breast tissue. That's why breast cancer is it's own thing and not a form of liposarcoma.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-16T01:24:11+00:00

They're not suggesting you date bi/pan men because those guys date women, they're suggesting that because bi guys tend to be more secure in their sexuality than gay men, on average.

Bullshit.

Older culture is important and cool but we can keep parts of that and ditch things like transphobia, racism, and letting predatory older guys take advantage of younger guys as a "learning curve" (this one comes particularly with my local gay bath house in mind)

Interesting how you bring up predatory behaviour and yet are a woman who goes into a men's bathhouse. Like every single woman who tried to come down the stairs, get it through your fucking head that a good portion of the men that go there are exclusively same-sex attracted- we cannot consent to you. Even the bi men there are looking for dick. Also, at least in the bathhouse I worked at, we would encourage new guys to get rooms so they could have a place to shut out guys who wouldn't take no for an answer. Also, I banned the shit out of guys who had complaints lodged against them.

Oh, and a year ago Miss Woman up in the quote was self IDing as a lesbian.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-15T20:10:27+00:00

Because there was a huge push a decade ago when Grindr first started becoming popular about how putting "no X" on your profile was prejudiced. Gay men were shamed and doxxed for asserting boundaries by one another. Other people outside of gay men starting piling on to shame gay men for being "racist" or "fatphobic" all the while straight, white women could swipe right on Tinder on any guy darker than Italian and heavier than what he can lift without facing the same backlash.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-15T14:08:35+00:00

"So you would fuck a man who takes estrogen, gets breast implants, and inverts his dick?"

No, and for the same reason I wouldn't date a guy with a split tongue or a Prince Albert- body modifications are gross and unnerving.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-15T14:06:42+00:00

If you're going to be offended by the homosexual male understanding that time only moves forward and can't be wasted, then why bother taking testosterone?

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-14T01:23:30+00:00

The only silver lining is that his behaviour was archived before he detransitioned. He can't play victim to the "LGBT community."

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-13T19:08:04+00:00

Basically the idea that you cannot reject someone for their HIV status lest you be bigoted; that you are too immature to date if you cannot accept that a partner may have HIV. That the only healthy sexual practice is to take PrEP (and casually not mention condom use). U=U, Undetectable = Untransmittable, nevermind blips, the possibility that your partner may not be taking their medication correctly, or the potential for other drug interactions with the medication.

If someone wants to be in a serodiscordant relationship, that's fine as it doesn't affect me. However, I've met way too many HIV+ guys over the years who, even after being diagnosed, will still push for condom-free sex. I nope out of situations where allegedly negative guys want to bareback for the same reason and have been met with hostility and violence. Your choice to have unprotected sex says a lot to me about your critical thinking skills and whether or not I want to invite you in to affect my life.

In working at the bathhouse, I had to diffuse a situation where an HIV+ guy, undetectable, sat on the dick of one of the bi regulars without a condom. He then revealed his status which freaked the regular out because he lived with Eastern European family who snoop through his things and he couldn't risk having PEP around because it would out him. I had to explain to him what undetectable meant (even though the other guy gave methhead vibes so trusting his disclosure was... iffy) and had to direct him on how to access medical care. Same when an HIV+ new hire tried to pressure another regular into unprotected sex and the regular reported back that he didn't even disclose his HIV status, that he had to find it out via Grindr. I am knowledgeable about these topics because I have to be, but I am also a grown ass gay man having to navigate a complicated social matrix where being "moral" runs the risk of having a negative impact on my health and lifespan.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-13T18:38:35+00:00

This reminds me so much of the discourse directed at gay men for not wanting to date HIV+ guys.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-13T13:50:58+00:00

I think I'll pass on the self-hating lesbian threeway, thanks.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-11T05:34:25+00:00

These women base their entire sense of being "male" off of mass-marketed images of men directed at them for their consumption.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-11T04:08:51+00:00

But holy shit these men are so boring. I have a full profile with my intrests listed, different questions or prompts, and that I am looking for a serious relationship.

Her interests based on her other posts: KPop, The Sims, and teen dramas. And even with the one she could actually be productive with, she doesn't make her own content (either mods/CC or stories). Her entire life is just consuming the work of others. She is a boring person projecting her insecurities onto gay men.

Despite that the only messages I get are ten different variations of "hey". Now, if I'm intrested in them I will respond to ask them a question, but I am confused as to why they seem to put in such a low amount of effort.

It's called playing it cool. Most messages beyond a quick hello always come across as creepy and unhinged. Part of having such a small dating pool is that it's really easy to memorize who gives off red flags- the axe may forget, but the tree will always remember.

Yes it's incredibly normal and incredibly sad. That being said you can find some amazing people! Just gotta search for the needle in the gay stack

Maybe don't look in the gay stack if you have a vag, sweetie. You girls have an entire world of heterosexual men to choose from. Grindr isn't the space where you can claim victimhood.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-10T22:32:14+00:00

I looked up the prosthetic she mentioned and found their website. Some of them even have "foreskin." Like... do you not think someone would get suspicious when they can't push it back. Even phimosis has some tug.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-09T11:41:37+00:00

I think it's stupid. If you are able to enthusiastically consent to sex with one sex, you are capable of loving a member of that sex. Case in point, my "heteroromantic" bisexual ex who was the first to drop the L-bomb in our relationship before freaking himself out. For him, the possibility of a relationship with a man meant having to actually face the homophobia in his family, mainly from his sister.

The SAM also plays into the fact that gay men and lesbian women who were in relationships with the opposite sex don't have spaces in which they can be vocal about how what they experienced wasn't love but was more like Stockholm Syndrome. They can't even say "Hey, I disassociated/depersonalized to get through sex acts." One of the older gay men I knew (I think he's passed from cancer by now) when I worked at the bathhouse was blackmailed into a relationship by his deceased wife (she was friends with him and his boyfriend who killed himself in the 80s and threatened to out him to his family once the boyfriend was dead), raped repeatedly by her, and now has kids and grandkids. He only opened up to me because I'm open about being the victim of corrective rape. Even though the wife was dead, he still couldn't tell his family the truth because none of them could handle the reality that mommy/nana was an absolute monster.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-06T12:08:40+00:00

Apart from H, these are literally things she could already do with a boyfriend. However, from an earlier post of her's:

I'm also not a "cuddly" person and I'm very awkward to talk to, to be frank; I'm usually the one to always ask if my partner is okay because I pick up on little things like body language and how they talk and how it changes every 5 seconds.

She is insufferable. Also:

i hate my tiddies and want to get them off me but they're a great stim toy and i want bigger tiddies because stimmy

She is not someone who should undergo unnecessary surgery. She is indecisive and will absolutely detransition in the future.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-03T17:39:38+00:00

Kate in particular said she doesn't want her words taken out of context on social media. Much of all of their success comes down to having a large lesbian following, including they/them lesbians.

With Emma Donoghue in particular (at least I think that's who you meant), she does have Facebook. Also, her wife peddles Queer Theory so... just a caution.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-03T16:51:24+00:00

File this under one of the many reasons that Kate McKinnon doesn't have social media.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-02T06:43:36+00:00

You know what? At least she's doing something useful instead of whining on Twitter about how gay men don't want to fuck her. Probably means she's a self-hating lesbian.

CaptainMoose · 2022-02-01T05:06:28+00:00

"I thought I was a lesbian because I wanted to fuck gay men."

That's not how being a lesbian works in the slightest, you moron.

CaptainMoose · 2022-01-24T07:08:23+00:00

My life is miserable and I wish every day that I might be stricken down so that nobody has to deal with me anymore.

I wish that for you, too.

I absolutely guarantee that I am physically stronger than most of you, dysproria is a massive motivator and though I am only a 19 I am as muscled as an avid bodybuilder because I absolutely cannot stand even an ounce of femininity in my own body. It’s not transphobic to not want to date a trans man, but you are dumb as fuck if you think trans men aren’t real men. I’m twice as man as you, I had to very literally fightnto be recognized as a man. Don’t call me a woman or a fake man. You don’t have to date me but I’ll punch your fucking lights out if you call me a woman. Absolutely fuck you if you think that fuck off or meet up with me and discover what it feels like to be punched into next week. I’m so angry I don’t even care. Fuck off if you’re triggered.

It sounds like you're the triggered one, ma'am.

CaptainMoose · 2022-01-22T06:36:34+00:00

These women hate to see enthusiastic consent and it shows

CaptainMoose · 2022-01-08T21:03:27+00:00

What do you mean? Plenty of "cis" dick suffers from erectile dysfunction. Seems like both dicks function too similarly to be worth differentiating.

CaptainMoose · 2022-01-08T02:20:29+00:00

Scared? Not really for myself, but definitely scared for Gen Z gay men and boys. I know my experiences as a Millennial teenager and the shit I went through from straight people, including straight girl "allies" (such as sexual assault), so I can only imagine how much worse it is when those girls are now saying they are you and are enabled by everyone around them.

CaptainMoose · 2022-01-08T01:54:39+00:00

I haven't put much effort into dating for the last couple years and instead have been working on other goals (2nd degree, investing, etc.). That being said, due to my being openly critical about trans ideology two years ago while working at the bathhouse probably affected how I'm viewed locally. Combine that with my current living situation and you have all the reasons why I don't bother with dating right now.

CaptainMoose · 2022-01-08T01:46:32+00:00

At least the guy he was talking about didn't seem as lost

CaptainMoose · 2022-01-07T12:40:27+00:00

https://kchallacombe.medium.com/

(after following her Linktree): Katherine, honey, maybe if you didn't act like an insane genderist then the other lesbian and bi women in Lethbridge would overlook your disability.

CaptainMoose · 2022-01-03T11:30:25+00:00

I totally feel you there. It sucks because I was the very definition of conventionally attractive when I was presenting as a straight cis girl, I had tons of guys who had crushes on me and were asking me out all the time. They were all straight obviously but still. I actually feel like I had less surface-level dysphoria and depression back then just knowing that I was a lot hotter than most girls and was the center of male attention almost 100% of the time.

Wow. Just... wow. The sheer level of narcissism in this comment is what made me need to post this thread.

Spoiler: many of them just end up dating other trans-identified women or bi and "pan" men.

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-27T14:24:33+00:00

I... how can one be aromantic and polyamorous? Polyamory requires you be able to romantically love multiple people at once.

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-16T22:34:11+00:00

I think these heterosexual women leaving their heterosexual boyfriends/husbands because of their fetish for gay men keeps it relevant. Also this comment:

Exactly like cishet guys and trans guys cannot have a really healthy relationship

Highlights them grooming each other to go after gay men.

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-15T23:08:28+00:00

During season 6 of RPDR, he referred to himself as "gay" and "weird" as a teenager.

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-15T19:26:17+00:00

Heterosexuals can't even comprehend of nonpenetrative sex being enjoyable. Mutual oral, frottage, and tribbing are lost on them.

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-15T18:26:59+00:00

But as one of the most privileged people within the LGBT community...

Very few gay men are wealthy. The majority of us, despite being a well-educated class, are often unemployed or underemployed. Kurtis, as an example, has dropped hints of coming from an underprivileged background and struggled to find stability in life because of the homophobic violence he was subject to. You, despite being an HSTS according to your other tweets, would probably get this and understand it if you weren't such a narcissistic void who treats the other gay men around you like NPCs.

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-15T18:22:19+00:00

It's like that one guy that's on the current season of Survivor that has a pregnant "husband" at home. I told my (actual male) husband about that and his first response was, "So he's bi, right?"

Among my online gay friends, one pointed out that Ricard said he didn't even want to get married to a guy until he met this woman. Just like Benjamin Putnam (Bendelacreme), there's a variety of deeply homophobic and sexist bi men that will market themselves as gay and only end up with self-harming women while shitting on the gay men who supported their asses.

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-12T22:55:09+00:00

Remember, they have to be on grindr to see you. Unless someone at your school is SO homophobic that they'd make a fake grindr account just to see who's gay (unlikely), the only 'new light' they're gonna see you in is 'potential boyfriend'

You mean like how you women are on a digital sexual space that was exclusively for men looking for who is gay like the homophobic trash you are?

Id throw my pics through face app or the like to change up my hair to make myself look a bit different and put that up, you get more people approaching you and you can just say oh that's just a cover here's a real pic (I'm not out in some parts of my life)

So further catfishing men who cannot consent to you and acting like you're somehow the victim?

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-11T17:50:46+00:00

He's giving you the side eye because he knows from experience that many of the women who enter our spaces don't give a fuck about whether or not we consent and will make a scene if you even glare at them when they sexually assault you. He's observing where you physically are in the room so he can take evasive measures to protect himself.

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-10T06:46:13+00:00

Going through the post history and I found this. I think it's obvious that she (a) is a girl, (b) is from a Muslim family so she had the fucked up sex roles for girls thrust on her EXTRA hard, (c) doesn't want to be a girl/woman because her mom is an asshole and doesn't want to be a boy/man because her dad is a creep, and (d) has been groomed into hating her body by her heterosexual parents.

I feel bad for her. This is why I don't trust a lot of parents who go around claiming that their kid has ROGD and act like they're a fucking victim or that it sprung out of nowhere.

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-05T02:11:21+00:00

I'm glad some of the responders are telling him to drop the friends entirely. In my experience, the types of people who pressure others into dating someone they cannot consent to are typically sexual predators themselves.

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-05T02:05:40+00:00

Part of the reason why people often don’t want to have sex with transgender people is that they don’t know what that sex would look like.

Oh, I know what sex with a biological woman looks like. You REALLY don't know the adolescent and young adult experiences of gay men when we are trying so hard to look for even a shred of opposite-sex attraction through pornography or, god forbid, actual relationships with biological women. Intimacy with the opposite sex doesn't just feel bad because of her genitalia or breasts- her hands, fingers, feet, toes, mouths, etc. all feel wrong.

Sometimes, they’re not even sure what trans bodies look like without their clothes.

I can assure you that many of us have seen trans bodies naked, often in an attempt to try and be "good" people or to see if we could be opposite sex attracted toward a masculine enough woman.

This year has the highest number of deaths on record for trans and gender diverse people, most of them transfeminine people and sex workers. The statistics we hear are hammered in our brains, sometimes long before we even come out or realise we’re transgender. It’s hard to thrive when you’re afraid of being the next one. And that means we rarely take risks. When safe to do so, the disclosure happens quite early on, before entering a bedroom, before meeting up for the first time after matching on a dating app. We'd rather out ourselves than be killed. It’s always easier to assume someone isn’t safe for us than the opposite. So, what might be a simple question of ‘sexual preference’ to some is a matter of life and death for us.

Regardless of who she is, it is not her place to appropriate the deaths of black and brown homosexual transsexuals. They get killed by predatory johns who knew what these men's biological sex was and are trying to hide their same-sex sexual activities because of the risk it has on their "straight" life. She has no reason to be afraid of being the "next one" because she is, by her own admission, asexual. On top of that, she is a well established middle class white woman. She is not a lower class, impoverished, racialized gay man. She still is at risk for sexual violence, however, but so are these men on top of the other struggles they face.

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-05T01:38:07+00:00

Hey now, she could have been hooking up with another bEaUtIfUl transman

CaptainMoose · 2021-12-04T20:48:01+00:00

The deaths from HIV in the 1980s were a genocide, a deliberate neglect of a major health crisis - so referring to PrEP as a rite of passage just for their sense of validating a phony identity is just disrespectful and sociopathic.

The fetish also shows how they view gay men monolithically. I don't take PrEP because of a family history of kidney and liver issues, but also because I don't believe it's my responsibility to go on medication for someone else when condoms are readily available. They view us as NPCs and can't fathom that we have an inner world that motivates our actions and reactions.

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