r/askgaybros - You DONT understand TRANS GAY MAN!!! (she’s mad and she’s not gonna take it anymore) by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 22 insightful - 9 fun22 insightful - 8 fun23 insightful - 9 fun -  (0 children)

My life is miserable and I wish every day that I might be stricken down so that nobody has to deal with me anymore.

I wish that for you, too.

I absolutely guarantee that I am physically stronger than most of you, dysproria is a massive motivator and though I am only a 19 I am as muscled as an avid bodybuilder because I absolutely cannot stand even an ounce of femininity in my own body. It’s not transphobic to not want to date a trans man, but you are dumb as fuck if you think trans men aren’t real men. I’m twice as man as you, I had to very literally fightnto be recognized as a man. Don’t call me a woman or a fake man. You don’t have to date me but I’ll punch your fucking lights out if you call me a woman. Absolutely fuck you if you think that fuck off or meet up with me and discover what it feels like to be punched into next week. I’m so angry I don’t even care. Fuck off if you’re triggered.

It sounds like you're the triggered one, ma'am.

The ladies of r/gaytransguys are raging. Why oh why is /r/actuallesbians so much more accepting? by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 24 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 0 fun25 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

These women hate to see enthusiastic consent and it shows

Girl dick is not threatening lesbians by jay-day in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 22 insightful - 6 fun22 insightful - 5 fun23 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

What do you mean? Plenty of "cis" dick suffers from erectile dysfunction. Seems like both dicks function too similarly to be worth differentiating.

The tale of the legendary she/they clown by Hannibalboy93 in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Scared? Not really for myself, but definitely scared for Gen Z gay men and boys. I know my experiences as a Millennial teenager and the shit I went through from straight people, including straight girl "allies" (such as sexual assault), so I can only imagine how much worse it is when those girls are now saying they are you and are enabled by everyone around them.

Dating as a Gay or Lesbian while not believing in Trans Ideology, how has it been? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I haven't put much effort into dating for the last couple years and instead have been working on other goals (2nd degree, investing, etc.). That being said, due to my being openly critical about trans ideology two years ago while working at the bathhouse probably affected how I'm viewed locally. Combine that with my current living situation and you have all the reasons why I don't bother with dating right now.

The tale of the legendary she/they clown by Hannibalboy93 in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 18 insightful - 7 fun18 insightful - 6 fun19 insightful - 7 fun -  (0 children)

At least the guy he was talking about didn't seem as lost

So it is meaningless in the end, huh? by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

https://kchallacombe.medium.com/

(after following her Linktree): Katherine, honey, maybe if you didn't act like an insane genderist then the other lesbian and bi women in Lethbridge would overlook your disability.

The ladies of r/gaytransguys whine about not being able to get gay men (again) by CaptainMoose in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose[S] 33 insightful - 2 fun33 insightful - 1 fun34 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I totally feel you there. It sucks because I was the very definition of conventionally attractive when I was presenting as a straight cis girl, I had tons of guys who had crushes on me and were asking me out all the time. They were all straight obviously but still. I actually feel like I had less surface-level dysphoria and depression back then just knowing that I was a lot hotter than most girls and was the center of male attention almost 100% of the time.

Wow. Just... wow. The sheer level of narcissism in this comment is what made me need to post this thread.

Spoiler: many of them just end up dating other trans-identified women or bi and "pan" men.

Now the real context: Raging homophobia by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 16 insightful - 3 fun16 insightful - 2 fun17 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

I... how can one be aromantic and polyamorous? Polyamory requires you be able to romantically love multiple people at once.

The straight girls of r/gaytransguys mourn the loss of their enablers/trans widowers by CaptainMoose in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose[S] 28 insightful - 1 fun28 insightful - 0 fun29 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think these heterosexual women leaving their heterosexual boyfriends/husbands because of their fetish for gay men keeps it relevant. Also this comment:

Exactly like cishet guys and trans guys cannot have a really healthy relationship

Highlights them grooming each other to go after gay men.

Buzzword this, buzzword that... by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

During season 6 of RPDR, he referred to himself as "gay" and "weird" as a teenager.

Transmen love calling gay men "dirty" by jay-day in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 34 insightful - 2 fun34 insightful - 1 fun35 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Heterosexuals can't even comprehend of nonpenetrative sex being enjoyable. Mutual oral, frottage, and tribbing are lost on them.

Buzzword this, buzzword that... by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

But as one of the most privileged people within the LGBT community...

Very few gay men are wealthy. The majority of us, despite being a well-educated class, are often unemployed or underemployed. Kurtis, as an example, has dropped hints of coming from an underprivileged background and struggled to find stability in life because of the homophobic violence he was subject to. You, despite being an HSTS according to your other tweets, would probably get this and understand it if you weren't such a narcissistic void who treats the other gay men around you like NPCs.

Buzzword this, buzzword that... by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's like that one guy that's on the current season of Survivor that has a pregnant "husband" at home. I told my (actual male) husband about that and his first response was, "So he's bi, right?"

Among my online gay friends, one pointed out that Ricard said he didn't even want to get married to a guy until he met this woman. Just like Benjamin Putnam (Bendelacreme), there's a variety of deeply homophobic and sexist bi men that will market themselves as gay and only end up with self-harming women while shitting on the gay men who supported their asses.

The ladies of r/gaytransguys look for prey on Grindr by CaptainMoose in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose[S] 25 insightful - 1 fun25 insightful - 0 fun26 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Remember, they have to be on grindr to see you. Unless someone at your school is SO homophobic that they'd make a fake grindr account just to see who's gay (unlikely), the only 'new light' they're gonna see you in is 'potential boyfriend'

You mean like how you women are on a digital sexual space that was exclusively for men looking for who is gay like the homophobic trash you are?

Id throw my pics through face app or the like to change up my hair to make myself look a bit different and put that up, you get more people approaching you and you can just say oh that's just a cover here's a real pic (I'm not out in some parts of my life)

So further catfishing men who cannot consent to you and acting like you're somehow the victim?

Maybe cuz it's not your community and it's force-teamed? by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

He's giving you the side eye because he knows from experience that many of the women who enter our spaces don't give a fuck about whether or not we consent and will make a scene if you even glare at them when they sexually assault you. He's observing where you physically are in the room so he can take evasive measures to protect himself.

When there are so many queers in your class that the straight kids are the ones who have to come out by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 25 insightful - 1 fun25 insightful - 0 fun26 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Going through the post history and I found this. I think it's obvious that she (a) is a girl, (b) is from a Muslim family so she had the fucked up sex roles for girls thrust on her EXTRA hard, (c) doesn't want to be a girl/woman because her mom is an asshole and doesn't want to be a boy/man because her dad is a creep, and (d) has been groomed into hating her body by her heterosexual parents.

I feel bad for her. This is why I don't trust a lot of parents who go around claiming that their kid has ROGD and act like they're a fucking victim or that it sprung out of nowhere.

r/askgaybros - I'm scared to be called tr*nsphobic and lose all my friends :( how to by stunaep in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 28 insightful - 1 fun28 insightful - 0 fun29 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm glad some of the responders are telling him to drop the friends entirely. In my experience, the types of people who pressure others into dating someone they cannot consent to are typically sexual predators themselves.

Your right to say no ends where my vagina begins - "Having sex with me is not largely different from having sex with any other gay man." by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 31 insightful - 1 fun31 insightful - 0 fun32 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Part of the reason why people often don’t want to have sex with transgender people is that they don’t know what that sex would look like.

Oh, I know what sex with a biological woman looks like. You REALLY don't know the adolescent and young adult experiences of gay men when we are trying so hard to look for even a shred of opposite-sex attraction through pornography or, god forbid, actual relationships with biological women. Intimacy with the opposite sex doesn't just feel bad because of her genitalia or breasts- her hands, fingers, feet, toes, mouths, etc. all feel wrong.

Sometimes, they’re not even sure what trans bodies look like without their clothes.

I can assure you that many of us have seen trans bodies naked, often in an attempt to try and be "good" people or to see if we could be opposite sex attracted toward a masculine enough woman.

This year has the highest number of deaths on record for trans and gender diverse people, most of them transfeminine people and sex workers. The statistics we hear are hammered in our brains, sometimes long before we even come out or realise we’re transgender. It’s hard to thrive when you’re afraid of being the next one. And that means we rarely take risks. When safe to do so, the disclosure happens quite early on, before entering a bedroom, before meeting up for the first time after matching on a dating app. We'd rather out ourselves than be killed. It’s always easier to assume someone isn’t safe for us than the opposite. So, what might be a simple question of ‘sexual preference’ to some is a matter of life and death for us.

Regardless of who she is, it is not her place to appropriate the deaths of black and brown homosexual transsexuals. They get killed by predatory johns who knew what these men's biological sex was and are trying to hide their same-sex sexual activities because of the risk it has on their "straight" life. She has no reason to be afraid of being the "next one" because she is, by her own admission, asexual. On top of that, she is a well established middle class white woman. She is not a lower class, impoverished, racialized gay man. She still is at risk for sexual violence, however, but so are these men on top of the other struggles they face.

Woman on r/gaytransguys lies and says she had erectile dysfunction to trick gay men by CaptainMoose in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose[S] 13 insightful - 8 fun13 insightful - 7 fun14 insightful - 8 fun -  (0 children)

Hey now, she could have been hooking up with another bEaUtIfUl transman

Or, crazy idea here, you could not chase the one subset of men who aren’t into women and play the victim about it. 🤷🏻‍♀️ by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The deaths from HIV in the 1980s were a genocide, a deliberate neglect of a major health crisis - so referring to PrEP as a rite of passage just for their sense of validating a phony identity is just disrespectful and sociopathic.

The fetish also shows how they view gay men monolithically. I don't take PrEP because of a family history of kidney and liver issues, but also because I don't believe it's my responsibility to go on medication for someone else when condoms are readily available. They view us as NPCs and can't fathom that we have an inner world that motivates our actions and reactions.

real gay men are valid too by Hannibalboy93 in LGBDropTheT

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At first I was just going to clown on this, but the commenter seems to be a massively pedophilic bi woman.

"I love little girls" fucking hell.

Or, crazy idea here, you could not chase the one subset of men who aren’t into women and play the victim about it. 🤷🏻‍♀️ by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

In January 2016, Kunlun Tech Co Ltd bought 60% of the company and they fully bought it out by January 2018. Before that, more options were being added to maximize user experience such as more filters you could use to find what you want (that were mostly free). After the acquisition, that's when things started to go downhill and they began to cave (the Kinder campaign, openly allowing women, features that allowed you to see who looked at your profile and other micromanaging/stalker shit, etc.). It was then sold back to the US in March of 2020 around the time that the stock market crashed due to lockdowns.

Or, crazy idea here, you could not chase the one subset of men who aren’t into women and play the victim about it. 🤷🏻‍♀️ by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 22 insightful - 2 fun22 insightful - 1 fun23 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I’m trying to sort some similar things out. The dating apps are so fucked. Can’t they just ask people if they’re okay dating an FTM in the settings? it could be so simple!!

It was implied that you weren't supposed to be on Grindr since it was an app for same-sex attracted men before a Chinese company had it's way.

What’s the cutoff for the definition of chasers? Some gay cis men seem to be like “oh hey that’s really cool, I’m into that!” Especially stone tops.

The conflation and appropriation of terms used by different sects of same-sex attracted people (stone for lesbians, tops for gay men) fucking sends me.

The Ladies of r/gaytransguys go Unicorn Hunting on Grindr by CaptainMoose in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose[S] 22 insightful - 4 fun22 insightful - 3 fun23 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

Correction: she's bi, with a biological male (as if there is any other), and they are unicorn hunting on Grindr for other dysphoric women.

If Canada has banned conversion therapy . . . by JulienMayfair in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

A brave (and well financed) lesbian will have to take it to court to see how the law is really read.

And in this episode of 'I Hate It Here': by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 32 insightful - 2 fun32 insightful - 1 fun33 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

More and more we're being exposed to the fact that there are absolutely bi men who label themselves as gay just like there are bi women who label themselves as lesbian.

Gay and bisexual men: Do you relate to this meme? by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Yup. And being creeped out by the Victoria's Secret window display posters and taking alternate routes around malls just to avoid them.

The unquenchable lesbian thirst for dick by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 34 insightful - 3 fun34 insightful - 2 fun35 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

I was ashamed for so long of being a "man" mainly attracted to lesbians. But like, not porn-lesbians. Actual, normal people in my life who were or later turned out to be lesbians. Also, I started noticing that I assumed people who were attracted to me were bi? And when they told me they were straight I was disappointed for some reason?

Presenting this horrifying little statement.

How about “my preciousssss”? by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 17 insightful - 16 fun17 insightful - 15 fun18 insightful - 16 fun -  (0 children)

"My ex."

Ftm they/them sell argument map =Minor-attracted person who are Pedophiles, well waving Rainbow flag. This same person goes to makes a later arguments about Pedophilia being same as same sex in another of their videos. by Gayguy123 in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

We can only hope some vigilante gay and lesbian students at Old Dominion University in Norfolk, VA have the wherewithal to break her office windows... or if room 6002 of the Batten Arts and Letters building doesn't have those, at least smash down her door with a sledgehammer and wreak her office.

UK - Surrey County Council announces they'll be spending more money on rainbow crosswalks; sanity in the comments section by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The rainbow crosswalks are just plain stupid because they don't actually do anything to help LGB people as a demographic. Like, maybe instead of investing in this, they could invest in more beds at youth homeless shelters given the overrepresentation of LGB teens among homeless youth. It's just busywork.

You're not trans - You're just weird by justagaydude123 in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way about the parents of rapid onset gender dysphoria teens, especially the mothers. I think the lack of control over their lives and lack of age appropriate independence is one of the universal truths among many of these kids when you factor out United States specific structural issues. In my opinion, many of these teenagers were "terminally online" even pre-COVID because it was the only space they could access without parental overinvolvement. However, without the teen-only aspect or the ability to see how other people are reacting to you, the Internet becomes both dangerous and an echo chamber for these kids. It doesn't surprise me that many detransitioners cite that what triggered their detransition as teens was being able to doing a physical activity without their parents getting involved.

My selfish theyfab makes me feel like a lesbian instead of a gay man by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

She sounds like a theyfab. She is using you as a queer phase. She will find a cis man and start a family after she is done exploring. Her 20s is for herself.

The irony is that the girlfriend sounds more like a lesbian than the OP (who at best is a self-hating bisexual woman who prefers men).

r/gaystoriesgonewild - [NSFW] Masculine Trans at the gay sauna by stunaep in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This would have been around late 2019/early 2020. In the short time I worked there, a lot ended up happening and older regulars and staff filled me in on the long history of women trying to cross gay men's boundaries and weaponizing their boyfriends if need be.

The ladies of r/gaytransguys gush about their fetishes by CaptainMoose in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose[S] 16 insightful - 14 fun16 insightful - 13 fun17 insightful - 14 fun -  (0 children)

I went there and there's a story that says "shemale" in the transgender category, bit of a yikes there :/

Boohoo, the fetishist doesn't like being fetishized.

r/askgaybros - Do gay guys like non binary people by Hannibalboy93 in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 25 insightful - 14 fun25 insightful - 13 fun26 insightful - 14 fun -  (0 children)

Theoretically, we can be into "non-binary" people who are actually male. Practically, though, we don't want to stick our dicks in crazy.

r/gaystoriesgonewild - [NSFW] Masculine Trans at the gay sauna by stunaep in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, both those with and without steroid abuse. We dealt with an ongoing harassment campaign that include us being sent death threats to our personal Grindr accounts for denying entry to one "transman" whose boyfriend called in and then dealt with more formalized bullshit when the guy who runs the HIV testing outreach came in with a "transman" to educate the staff on what it would take to make the space more "trans-friendly."

On top of regular women trying to come in with their boyfriends and getting pissy when they were denied. I got into a verbal altercation with one woman who claimed she was bi and "understood" what it meant to be gay after I retorted that many of the men there could not consent to women, even women as exhibitionists or voyeurs. Her boyfriend came in and apologized to me.

r/gaystoriesgonewild - [NSFW] Masculine Trans at the gay sauna by stunaep in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

In his other posts, he says he's bi so... sadly could be real.

We are not a support club for weirdos by Mermer in LGBDropTheT

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It's definitely something that I've seen escalate over the years since I came out. What makes it all the more frustrating is that the "community" seems more willing to come together and organize fundraisers for men to get breast implants or women to get double mastectomies but you're shit out of luck if you are a gay man/lesbian woman who is in need of housing, is between jobs, etc. And if you're an HIV+ gay or bi man relying on your local AIDS network for canned goods and clothing, you better tow the ideological line or you're cut off, mister.

Down With LGBTQ!* by John Lauritsen by joogabah in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

If bisexual is made into a separate label, then only the Kinsey 6's (exclusively gay men) would be gay. This would define a gay man negatively, as being incapable of having sex with a woman. Many people believe this, but it is false. Yes to bisexuality in practice. No to making it a separate category.

I'm incapable of achieving or maintaining an erection for a woman. I am incapable of enthusiastically consenting to a woman. I absolutely need that label of gay to separate me from bisexual men who want to muddy the waters of the boundaries I try and set while navigating a world that is primarily heterosexual where half the population is woman.

How can I best gaslight myself about this straight woman larping as a gay man by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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"But see this study where straight men say they're having sex with men in rural areas and still say they're straight!"

This might shock you, but bi men are notorious for lying about their sexual orientation to any social science researcher, be it this or the "prison gay" phenomenon. Many of them, privately, identify themselves as bisexual and will disclose this to people they trust. They will obfuscate the data of people they don't trust to keep themselves safe in case they get caught out because of how bi men are looked at by the straight people they are surrounded by.

Get catfished, noob! Wait, what do you mean you're leaving?! Get back here and suck my dick! by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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The man who calls himself Vivian is just... sad.

The hawtest guinea pig any red-blooded gay man ever did fall in lust with by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Bisexual men who call themselves gay: Displays enthusiastic consent.

This self-hating rape fetishist: No, I need you to suffer so I can get off!

Gender non conforming LGBs, what's the most absurd reasons a TRA urged u to transition? by Shales123 in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

A lot of distress over my body and this clawing anxiety that I was losing time each passing night I worked. I wanted my body to be both masculine and feminine. I didn't want surgery (except to fix parts of my face that I would want to change regardless) or hormones because I just wanted to exist naturally. I was shaving my legs, which gave me some relief because it was a physical action I could see myself accomplish when I did it. I grew my hair out, but it became too inconvenient to take care of because of my work schedule so I had it all chopped off. I also hated having to wear suits and dress shirts to work (I still hate them because they are too heavy and the collars of dress shirts choke me out). What's wild is that years earlier I was sporting a goatee and was comfortable and proud of that.

It's weird to describe desisting, but chopping the hair off was like a reverse Samson moment. I got a lot of clarity in just letting go and being practical. I started coming to terms with unresolved traumas, the fact that I didn't feel agency over my body because of my work and living situations at the time (this was pre-bathhouse), and ending up moving cities and growing my beard and body hair back out. I junked all my makeup and drag stuff (should have sold it, honestly), paid off my debt, and having just been coasting through the pandemic working toward new goals and asserting my agency in various ways that can't be taken from me.

Episode 2: Are you dating women or dating vaginas? by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Stop dating people; we don't need you in the pool.

The only other time I've heard this rhetoric was during the height of the "no one has to tell you their HIV status" discourse and the "masc4masc is internalized homophobia" discourse (among others that bombarded gay men in the 2010s). People are allowed to have their sexual boundaries whether or not it excludes you. That is part of the process of finding and establishing a romantic relationship.

Also, it's not just the genitals. It's every little bit of the body of the other sex that homosexuals don't want to touch intimately or be touched by.

Gender non conforming LGBs, what's the most absurd reasons a TRA urged u to transition? by Shales123 in LGBDropTheT

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Back when I used to do drag I was told by a HSTS prostitute that I would eventually transition. This guy goes back and forth between living as a "woman" who is disgusted with gay men to being a gay man who hates other gay men because of how ungrateful we are for all he's done for that city's LGBT community as a drag performer (despite the fact that he is a crackhead whose behaviour pretty much sank attendance to the one gay bar until it closed). He was kind of right- I did develop gender dysphoria and considered myself "non-binary" for a while. However, I realized it was a quarter life crisis because of how badly I wanted to perform mixed with the reality of my life and working 7 nights a week and watching my 20s go by.

Your one to talk, take a look in the mirror by Hannibalboy93 in LGBDropTheT

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Franke Grande also has a fiancé (Hale Leon) and previously dated Zach Rance on the downlow. He also got dragged through the mud for his interactions with the latter before it was revealed a year ago that they dated after competing on Big Brother together.

*purposely forgets about the T, for the betterment of my mentality* by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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He's changed his Tiktok (https://www.tiktok.com/@j0ule3s.mp3?) username. Allegedly he's bi, so I don't see why he doesn't just settle for a man... even another crossdresser to fulfill the fetish.

Trans mod of r/asklesbians getting pissy in the comments that people are downvoting but not responding to obvious bait question. by sneeuweekhoorn in LGBDropTheT

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I’m a cis woman lesbian with a genital preference for penises. My girlfriend is a trans woman and doesn’t want to do surgery. Would I be with a woman with a vagina? Yes. Would I be with a woman with a penis? Also yes.

I got such a bad headache from reading this that my nose started to bleed. If I were a transwoman, I would claim it was my period.

r/gaytransguys Worries About The Lack of Gay Men in Spaces Where Gay Men Are Fetishized by CaptainMoose in LGBDropTheT

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With the exception of the last quote I picked out, the OP of the others is around 20/21 years old (confirmed 19 in June 2020). She's definitely... immature for her age. But most of the women who post on that sub seem to be in their 30s.

r/gaytransguys Worries About The Lack of Gay Men in Spaces Where Gay Men Are Fetishized by CaptainMoose in LGBDropTheT

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It's hard to describe, but like, cis queer men don't seem to be as visible in the online queer community, or at least the parts I'm in, and I worry that a lot of gay men rep I've seen has been made by cis straight women, or just generally people without much actual experience with other men in romantic and sexual relationships seemingly.

Maybe because most gay men avoid things labelled as "queer" like the plague until we finally have it beaten into us that, while they appear to be welcoming on the surface, "queer" spaces hate actual gay men. They hate our input, they find any content with earnestly create about same-sex relationships "unrealistic," and they hate when we establish boundaries.

Trans men also have their own perspective on queer attraction to men and that's valid and good and I don't think it's at all fetishism or 'not really gay', I don't even think cis women portraying queer men is inherently fetishism, fetishism is defined by how it's executed, not who makes it.

While opposite-sex attraction is not a fetish, they way you women go about it is. You define fetishism by how it's executed, but fail to grasp that every step you take is an execution of the fetish. You are literally wearing men's clothes and taking testosterone in the pursuit of an idealized man, one who objectively cannot consent to a biological woman.

Also I guess like, it often feels like a lot of gay male content has women in mind as an audience so it still makes me feel quite insecure and dysphoric. Like, a while back I was wistfully watching gay men tiktok compilations, but then I went in to the comments section and it was 90% self proclaimed women (or, idk, possibly 'women', but regardless) and it made me feel so shitty, esp since like, apparently it's a thing for cis guys to do 'gay stuff' and post it online as a 'joke' either because they think gay stuff is inherently weird and funny or as an excuse to be intimate as cis guys are usually discouraged from that, so I don't even know if any of those guys were actually gay or if guys are at all like that in gay relationships.

There is 100% an issue of straight men gay-baiting on social media to amass a following for money and they are successful at it because (a) their opposite sex attraction means they have fewer boundaries with women which makes that part of their audience more comfortable and (b) gay men are desperate for someone "normal" as representation. Even a decade ago, the gay men I subscribed to on Youtube were not ones popular with straight women- none of them could turn the platform into a career and many maintained their offline jobs.

I'm not a huge social media user but one thing I did when I first came out was follow gay guys on Instagram who were interested in the same crafts and hobbies as me or who were in the same life space as me (married with kids.) It started for me as a "see, you can still be everything you are as a man" validation thing for me but I think it could help from this angle too.

This commenter really highlights one of the overall problems these women have- they filter which gay men they interact with and create an echo chamber of what they think gay men's lives are like. She doesn't have to confront the gay men her age that are impoverished, working multiple jobs to get by, perpetually single and worried about dying alone because the numbers are not in our favour, etc. This is one of the ways their treatment of gay men demonstrates the fetish: they don't allow us to be real people, just objects for consumption.

The rage of the FTM lesbians (chuckle) by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I honestly think that trans people who label their sexuality based off their sex (trans male lesbians and trans female gays) are very very questionable. Who in their right mind would do that????

Well, none of you are in the right mind, frankly. But at least the trans people you have the issue with recognize a sliver of reality.

Do I even have to say anything here? It's like a parody that somehow took human shape. by Beryl in LGBDropTheT

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Transmen write about taking prep by PriestTheyCalledHim in LGBDropTheT

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I’ve been on PrEP for over a year now and it’s helped me explore my sexuality a lot since my main concern was contracting HIV.

Imagine being a woman and thinking you need to take additional medication to explore having sex with a man (or at least medication that is more expensive than birth control and condoms).

"How did you know you were ‘AFAB’ gay boy?" *vomits weird stereotypes* by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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r/gaytransguys reminisce about being no different from other girls by CaptainMoose in LGBDropTheT

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The one who had a crush on a gay guy when she was a kid is 35 years old according to another post... and is obsessed with kpop. 1

The one who loves cute animals, Disney movies, and ballet is 31 (or 32 since their age was given 6 months ago). 2

The one who brought up her touching the genitals of another kid doesn't list her age, but her photo makes her look like she's in her early to mid 20s.

But yeah, they aren't pre-teen or even teen girls posting there. These are fully grown adult women.

r/gaytransguys reminisce about being no different from other girls by CaptainMoose in LGBDropTheT

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my room was covered in posters of cute celebrity boys that I meticulously cut out of magazines. that and the choreographed dancing I would make up for fun.

I couldn't even put up band posters on a corkboard without my mother ripping them down. These girls really show their ass in knowing absolutely nothing about what being a teenage boy is like, let alone a gay teenage boy.

I just need to talk to some sane people about this bullshit: by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT

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On one hand, I’m glad they’re with each other and leaving gays and lesbians alone. Today, she posted about how her fiancé was so kind and helped her with her makeup and wardrobe for her first ever drag show.

Yeah, they're still not leaving gays and lesbians alone. She (at least) is still making money in a position an actual LGB person could be working to support themselves and now will be occupying the spot of a gay (or bisexual) male drag performer and thus siphoning money that way.

It also doesn't stop them from using her positions within our spaces to continue to harass gay men and lesbian women on behalf of any other "gay transman" or "lesbian transwoman" who saunter in.

Why I don't use their misnomers: by 7874 in LGBDropTheT

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I use their misnomers on here (and only here, albeit with quotation marks) because (a) I've had posts deleted if I use the acronyms I use elsewhere and (b) it helps keep things clear about whether I'm talking about a biological male or biological female which is important when providing information for politically charged topics that are often ignorant about gay men's experiences with either type of trans person.

Edit: If you want an example of (a), it's below in automod's rule 4 post.

They really are coming for us and trying to make gay men and woman "deprogram" our "preferences". by Hannibalboy93 in LGBDropTheT

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"bold of you to assume trans people are attracted to YOU" is always my thought when I see that.

I have Tinder Gold and can see who is trying to message me on Grindr. I think I have a pretty clear idea of the number of women I've had to block on the latter and clear from my queue on the former.

I'm a gay transman and I felt all of this in my soul. Its disgusting how much transphobia is out there. Gay trans men exist, damn it! We aren't a fetish, we aren't a sort of lesser man, we are men!

You are not a man and you yourself have a fetish.

It's good to keep in mind there's no such thing as THE gay community, there's just gay pockets and subcultures with varying degrees of chillness. None of those gay men that say those kind of things is the pr manager of the gay community either, it's even the other way around, they are seeking community and attempting to define themselves through saying that "ew, vagina" shit. If you think that's pathetic, you aren't wrong. You will find partners just fine though, they'll simply not be in the transphobic pockets of gay men. Ultimately, it's no different from how "gay culture" excludes a bunch of body types and ethnicities, everyone hates it and the people that do it are some losers on grindr, not confident and well adjusted people.

Gay men come together into "communities" because we are exclusively same-sex attracted and want to maximize our chances at finding a short-term or long-term partner to pair off with. Those of us who feel safe enough will express the "ew vagina" sentiment because we are not able to enthusiastically consent to anyone born with one. If you have a problem with that, you are a sexual predator. Many gay men will censor ourselves because of having to navigate education, housing, and employment in order to survive in the larger society and at least try and prosper or because we don't want to be iced out of the few spaces that prioritize(d) same-sex attraction. The people that make their boundaries clear are not losers and are, in fact, much more well adjusted than anyone going on an incel/femcel rant every other day.

r/ftm - Why do Cis men think their schlong and boys make them a man? by Hannibalboy93 in LGBDropTheT

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For my job i'm a janitor and i basically clean a office space 5 days a week, and do anything from trash to bathrooms. With this being said, i've noticed that the women's restroom is pretty easy. (their are 6 stalls in the women's) and 4 stalls in the men's with 2 urinals) Men are gross. LIke i just came home from work, and i'm tired af and exhausted. LIke i clean up after grown as men and they can't even like flush the damn toilet or like throw trash out.

Having worked in both the hotel industry and in a community college grounds office, I'm going to reveal the following: women will shove half full coffee cups into the Citron sanitary product disposal and cause the entire bathroom to smell like a mix of period blood, coffee, and sour milk. Women are also just as prone to not flushing the shitter.

At least one of the other commenters called that out.

Also, her plastic surgeon fucked her double mastectomy up HARD

A handy sex guide for women pretending to be men (multiple triggers warning) by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Men of all sexualities, values and political perspectives patronize bathhouses, and it’s not uncommon for some of them to experience racism, ageism and other forms of discrimination. Trans men are equally vulnerable to this discrimination, in addition to transphobia.

Let me translate this: these men are told "no means no," "fuck off," or have guys actively evade them because they cannot read body language to save their lives and then whine and complain about how not having sex with them is "discrimination" because another person's body is, in their mind, a human right. Won't you ladies join them in the oh so tempting allure of playing the victim after being sexually violent?

"Gay transman" gets the drunken truth from her boyfriend by CaptainMoose in LGBDropTheT

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Regardless of how he views you, that’s a weird and mildly transphobic thing to say and don’t get me started on cis gay men and their weird aversion to afab genetalia as a whole. I’d give him a real firm talking to and tell him to educate himself on different language to use when he talks about preferences, because that wasn’t it. Stay safe out there and don’t accept things that rub you the wrong way, if you felt off, you’re right.

"Stay safe out there, fellow rapist."

If gay men asserting the fact that they are gay makes you suicidal, your lack of dating options is the least of your problems by ThrowMeAway2879 in LGBDropTheT

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I can empathize with them if they have the sort of parents that refuse to let them have actual hobbies/interests so they are stuck living online after school, or who refuse to let them do age appropriate independent things like taking the bus or walking to a park, the mall, the library, etc.. I can empathize with them if they have the types of parents that micromanage them into only being friends with an approved list of classmates who are just as socially awkward and won't help them grow into being competent and successful adults. I can empathize with them feeling that desperate clawing feeling of needing to grow as a person and can sympathize with seeing transition as a means to put their foot down and start asserting a sense of self around adults who fail to grasp what adolescence is.*

But that stops the minute I remember there are actual gay teenage boys these little shits go to school with that have to put up with their harassment, that have to put up with them infesting the one (if any) age appropriate space for a gay teenager to be in to find other same-sex attracted peers, etc. I didn't start the GSA in my high school for it to lead to future gay and lesbian teenagers being the punching bags of these straight kids.

*While writing this, I realized that I feel that puberty blockers are poetically in line with the ways many of these parents are raising their kids. One stops the body from growing with long-term consequences (issues with bone density, physically underdeveloped, etc.) while the other stops the spirit from growing with long-term consequences (lack of support network, lack of a sense of self, etc.).

If gay men asserting the fact that they are gay makes you suicidal, your lack of dating options is the least of your problems by ThrowMeAway2879 in LGBDropTheT

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Mrbig_boi:

As a gay dude who dated both cis and trans men Personally i say trans guys are nicer and better Every cis guy i dated was kinda mean - straight up terrible every trans guy i dated was absolutely amazing i still miss my most recent trans ex Trans on trans relationships are top teir

Also Mrbig_boi:

Meow... FtM Catboy

Could it be entirely possible that every "transguy" you date is just endlessly validating while the "cis" men you date hold you accountable for your shit and that's why you think they are mean?

"Homosexuality? Racism? I don't see the difference?" by ThrowMeAway2879 in LGBDropTheT

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Most deodorants and perfumes marketed toward women already smell bad to me, plus you add on the fact that this dude is removing his body hair which helps to regulate his pheromones when he sweats, and then you add on the fact that he is taking cross-sex hormones which do change how you smell so... these men just become BO factories.

Fellow delusional women: how much do gay men love pussy? by artetolife in LGBDropTheT

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Every "gay" guy I know who sleeps with transmen calls himself queer but secretly recognizes that he is bi. Most people read these guys as gay because they are feminine. Both worked for their respective AIDS Networks as outreach workers. One of them now is pursuing a PhD.

"Homosexuality? Racism? I don't see the difference?" by ThrowMeAway2879 in LGBDropTheT

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I haven't been close enough to tell. If anything, they smell more "neutral", similar to how butch lesbians (who don't shave their body hair) I know who use men's body wash and deodorant tend to smell. Not intoxicating like healthy men smell to me, but just neutral.

MtFs on the other hand typically smell putrid. It reminds me of when I used to shave my armpits and how I would have to reuse deodorant every 3-4 hours. BO masked with cheap perfume.

"Homosexuality? Racism? I don't see the difference?" by ThrowMeAway2879 in LGBDropTheT

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Why would it matter if they were born with penis or had one surgically constructed? Does that mean if a man has an accident and his dick has to be reconstructed he's not a man anymore or that if a gay man is still attracted to him, that gay man isn't gay? And I never said I be fine with sleeping with or dating a trans guy before surgery, I wouldn't be. But afterwards they are men and as a guy attracted exclusively to men, I'm gay.

Let's break this down:

  1. What is constructed by phalloplasty surgery is not, in fact, a penis. It doesn't function like a penis and it only vaguely looks like a penis in the most successful cases (but even still you can tell something is wrong). It is prone to complications, not only to the flesh tube created but to the donor site.

  2. Even if the phalloplasty were successful and "passed" well enough to put it out of mind, it doesn't change all of the other elements of biological women that I as a homosexual man find unattractive. HRT only goes so far in masculinizing appearance. While it reduces buccal fat around the eyes, it doesn't lead to the development of a stronger brow bone (giving transmen that "methhead" look), it doesn't change the size of your hands or feet, etc. Transmen have noticeably female faces the longer you look at them. When gay men and lesbians say we are attracted to the WHOLE PERSON of the same-sex, we mean it.

  3. If a long term partner were to lose his penis to an accident, to cancer, etc., I may stay with him. Would we have sex? Maybe, but most likely not. We would likely still be intimate because he still has every other male feature, unlike a transman who just has the features of a roided out woman. For me, it doesn't feel good to be intimately touched by a woman. Unlike men whose touch is soothing, women's touch feels draining and violating for me. That won't change because a woman is taking steroids and chopped up her body.

  4. Based on the last line, I do believe that this poster is actual a gay man, albeit a very naive one. The truth is that the transition process is like Plato's allegory of the cave. It is very easy for us, like people who transition, to believe that the end result is going to be a you of the opposite sex. I remember being a teenager and following a few transgender youtubers (such as skylarkeleven). I believe that the longer she was on cross-sex hormones, she eventually would look just like a man. Nearly 13 years later and she still looks like a woman with a beard (although now she's sporting those glasses that transmen all love because they cover the browbone).

DC's new Superman comes out as bisexual - has pink-haired xefriend by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Just as an FYI, this version of Superman is Jon Kent, son of the original Superman Clark Kent. More specifically he is Jonathan Samuel Kent as opposed to Jonathan Lane Kent from another timeline.

So this isn't a case of a long-established character becoming "suddenly gay/bi," - this is a character who was introduced in 2015 who is his own separate character. However, within superhero comics the characters taking on each others' names as one retires/dies makes this confusing as hell to the general public.

They made us get into lines based on our biological sex. Why didn’t they see my NB earrings?! by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT

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The club in London where they host "Porn Idol"? Yeah, I'm going to assume the woman's line was shorter.

Anyone watching the new season of Drag Race UK ? by Criticallacitirc in LGBDropTheT

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My opinion always will be that RuPaul fucked up when he didn't let Landon Cider (Kristine BellaLuna) compete after auditioning for drag race in the US. BellaLuna has made a name for herself by being one of the most innovative and creative drag kings (won a season of Dragula) and would have (a) helped put a GNC woman on TV and (b) could have helped swing the narrative away from the lies about Marsha P Johnson to highlight Stormé DeLarverie. It would have been a moment to reconnect lesbian women with aspects of lesbian culture instead of this trend where everything related to gay men must somehow relate to them, too.

Instead the first woman competing was GottMik. No further comment on that one.

'The Elephant In The Room' (hint: it identifies as a leopard and wears thigh high socks and has green hair) by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Oh it's not just about TRAs thinking gay men are misogynistic for not wanting to interact with transmen sexually- it's women, too. Always fun to have older gay men fill me in on the times that women would try and break in to the bathhouse back in the mid-00s.

But we're also considered misogynistic because we don't want to fuck men adorned with accoutrements such as long nails, perfume, and makeup. God forbid we like our men, even our feminine men, natural.

'The Elephant In The Room' (hint: it identifies as a leopard and wears thigh high socks and has green hair) by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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In order to operate (at least in Canada), bathhouses have to have their business license be under "private club." That doesn't stop the harassment campaigns, the attempts to get in stealth, or the local university's Women's Studies department from awarding a PhD to someone for disparaging how "transphobic" and "misogynistic" the space is for centering on "cis gays."

'The Elephant In The Room' (hint: it identifies as a leopard and wears thigh high socks and has green hair) by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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The F2Ms learned they can crash the party on any night, but it isn’t as fun because they will party alone if they do. So, space was made, nobody was replaced by someone else, and everybody had equal access. That’s an ethical change.

That's not an ethical change. For any actual homosexual man who is violated because there is a biological woman in an explicitly sexual space for men, they are experiencing sexual misconduct due to her presence (either as voyeur or exhibitionist). On the nights that center these women, those are nights that those men will not go to the bathhouse for the sake of their mental health. Those also may have been the only nights he had off from work so there goes access to one of the few spaces that centered same-sex attraction.

I follow the cruising listings on Squirt.org (in part because of my old job). I've seen what gay men have posted on the listings for bathhouses that allow transgender identified people and women (in general). Saying that we don't fucking like it isn't me projecting.

What's Up With "Gender Critical" Gay Guys? They are tacky, spiteful, and, so far, mostly British by millicentfawcett in LGBDropTheT

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There's a certain kind of gay man who embodies the gender-critical vibe. He’s white, middle class and exactly 45 years old, and even though he works as a corporate lawyer, he thinks teenagers with dyed blue hair are an oppressor class.

They really don't get that gay men put ourselves in the shoes of gay teenagers and understand what it's like to deal with these people on a peer level. Some of us are not that far off from our teenage/young adult years (which is why they need to paint the caricature as being a man in his mid-40s). We know what it's like to feel isolated when we try and access spaces that once prioritized same-sex attraction and think we are the only ones who can smell the bullshit.

Hella hungry for dick and some rape by deception by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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So this woman is not only planning on committing rape by deception and statutory rape, but she's committing what's known as sexual interference with a minor. The lack of post history makes me feel like it's a troll, but goddamn.

Woman masturbates in front of gay men in a bathhouse by CaptainMoose in LGBDropTheT

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They happen. Not all the time, but enough that her story sounds plausible to me. I'm guessing it was organized through Fetlife given the sheer number of interesting characters she described.

Typically for something run by gay men, in another man's home, it's word of mouth/networking. The host tells a few guys who he trusts to make good choices who in turn follow suit. Pre-COVID, I heard of a guy locally who would host a weekly sex party for older men and charge $10 a head. The first bunch had just been guys he'd been FWBs with for a while and anything they knew who would be cool and interested. Anyone invited is, in essence, supposed to be pre-screened by the guy who extended the invitation. Disease is at your own risk because you can bring your own condoms.

That awful new flag is even scarier than you thought by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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God I hate those crosswalks. They're peak performative activism. What exactly does painting the road do to make the lives of LGB people better, hmm?

Woman masturbates in front of gay men in a bathhouse by CaptainMoose in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose[S] 40 insightful - 3 fun40 insightful - 2 fun41 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

To add to her psychotic behaviour, she has rape fantasies that she posts on reddit.

As the user who worked in a bathhouse, shit like this frustrates me because of the harassment campaigns we had to endure from all sides wanting biological women in a male only space. One of the arguments that the "transman" who came in had was that any of those type of women would be too dysphoric to let their genitalia be seen (à la Lou Sullivan) yet it's clearly not the case. OP also has the audacity to praise how consent is respected in these spaces while blatantly refusing to acknowledge the fact that many of the men who walk past her cannot enthusiastically consent to seeing her pussy, let alone in a sexual manner.

She also has another post where she documents how she masturbates in public, so her euphoria about consent really is wafer thin.

Thank you for your most enlightening transplanation by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 14 insightful - 14 fun14 insightful - 13 fun15 insightful - 14 fun -  (0 children)

Yup, penis and all :)

The Final Death of an LGBTQ+ Forum by JulienMayfair in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Having lost a few spaces over the years because the people in charge mismanaged it despite being very clearly warned about what wasn't working, I feel your pain (and I'm only 27 going on 28).

Unfortunately, that's also why the push for everything digital has such a shitty outcome, especially for gay men and lesbian women. You cannot control who joins. You cannot control who participates. You cannot set boundaries by slamming the door or moving around like nomads.

Warning: rape by deception on broad daylight. by Neo_Shadow_Lurker in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 29 insightful - 1 fun29 insightful - 0 fun30 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

As the resident bathhouse expert, this is where I need to sound off: most guys are expecting sexual interactions to be mutual. If a guy is blowing me, I may jerk him off or, if he only wants to touch himself, he will jerk off with his dick in plain view. In common areas, guys will display their dicks to signal interest (especially in the actual saunas). These women are going in with an idealized view of how things will play out, let alone their impact. Guys who wear more than a towel and maybe a pair of underwear are treated suspiciously.

These women are in for a rude awakening when their plans fail. I know long-time customers of the bathhouse I worked at say that they would never return if they started to let women in.

Warning: rape by deception on broad daylight. by Neo_Shadow_Lurker in LGBDropTheT

[–]CaptainMoose 28 insightful - 9 fun28 insightful - 8 fun29 insightful - 9 fun -  (0 children)

Well, not broad daylight. It's usually a rather dim blue light.

But everyone still expects a dick between your thighs.