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[–]Femaleisnthateful 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I do not get the straight women who do this. Does any gay man have experience encountering these women in gay men's spaces?

I can't imagine any woman would enjoy the experience, regardless how they identify.

I understand what straight men are getting out of accessing women's identities and spaces, I just don't get this.

[–]CaptainMooseEx-Bathhouse Employee 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Worked at a bathhouse until COVID hit. Right before, we were dealing with harassment campaigns from these types of women and their white knights. They largely do not give a fuck about gay men's experiences of sexual violence from women and why male-only spaces are important to us. They don't care that seeing a woman's naked body (in a non-medical context) is experienced as a form of sexual misconduct.

To me, the only real difference between them and the average straight girl who starts dry humping gay men in our bars is that these girls are on steroids. They aren't the girls who would have been emo kids a generation ago- they are the girls that would have had their first heterosexual experiences with closeted gay men (first kiss, prom, etc.). They get off to men who don't consent to them.