Also, too, most same-sex attracted people are not legal scholars. Sure, we have those among us who worked tirelessly to find ways to argue for our rights (employment non-discrimination, housing, marriage, etc.), but most of us are going to be laypeople if we ever have to create a will/living will. There will for sure be some loophole that we aren't aware of that can be played against us/our lover. Or a loophole that could be put into a civil union that most people ignore because it doesn't affect them the way marriage does.