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[–]CaptainMooseEx-Bathhouse Employee[S] 40 insightful - 3 fun40 insightful - 2 fun41 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

To add to her psychotic behaviour, she has rape fantasies that she posts on reddit.

As the user who worked in a bathhouse, shit like this frustrates me because of the harassment campaigns we had to endure from all sides wanting biological women in a male only space. One of the arguments that the "transman" who came in had was that any of those type of women would be too dysphoric to let their genitalia be seen (à la Lou Sullivan) yet it's clearly not the case. OP also has the audacity to praise how consent is respected in these spaces while blatantly refusing to acknowledge the fact that many of the men who walk past her cannot enthusiastically consent to seeing her pussy, let alone in a sexual manner.

She also has another post where she documents how she masturbates in public, so her euphoria about consent really is wafer thin.

[–]Destresse🇨🇵 11 insightful - 8 fun11 insightful - 7 fun12 insightful - 8 fun -  (0 children)

Why did I click this. Damn curiosity. 🤮

[–][deleted] 35 insightful - 4 fun35 insightful - 3 fun36 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

I want to go smash my face into a wall after reading it. She's so goddamned fucking close to understanding that gender is meaningless and has nothing to do with sexual orientation, but she just doesn't make the fucking connection. How? How did she not see it?

I bet she also doesn't understand why she had to masturbate by herself while everyone else was fucking.

[–]superbi_scot🇬🇧🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 25 insightful - 15 fun25 insightful - 14 fun26 insightful - 15 fun -  (2 children)

There have always been men in lesbian spaces and there have always been women in gay spaces. Always. Always ALWAYS ALWAYS.

How does someone go to two sex parties and then immediately become an expert on every gay space in history?

[–]Virginia_Plain 17 insightful - 17 fun17 insightful - 16 fun18 insightful - 17 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah those lesbian separatist communes were total sausagefests.

[–]Neo_Shadow_LurkerPronouns: I/Don't/Care 7 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Always. Always ALWAYS ALWAYS.

Nice temper tantrum there!

Me, ME, MEEEEEEEEE

[–]artetolife 30 insightful - 2 fun30 insightful - 1 fun31 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Next time she goes she'll be wondering where all the 'cis' men went. Or it will be closed. I ran a sex party for a while and a big part of the reason men still go to such places is because they're basically the only places left that aren't 'inclusive' i.e. full of women. They certainly aren't going there to celebrate how diverse gender is 🙄

[–]chandra 28 insightful - 1 fun28 insightful - 0 fun29 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Also as a trauma survivor, I've been completely astounded by how healing it is to be in a space where I do not have to justify a no! Non-verbal consent is practiced in these spaces which means if someone approaches you, you can put your hand up or push their hand away and they respect that. it's so freeing to not have to justify your existence there OR justify/explain a no. Emotional boundaries are respected. I can just exist there, and be, and do what I want or not what I want in peace.

These people just have no self awareness, do they?

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

No. Also, there seems to be a pronounced pattern of Gayden's and sexual trauma history. Maybe because they feel they can watch guys up close getting it on while not being hit on themselves?

[–]SerpensInferna 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

There is definitely a distance / safety aspect to it. Gay men are "safe", they have the male form straight women are attracted to but are no threat because they have no sexual interest in women.

Also, in the same way many straight guys love watching women have sex, the same can be said for straight girls and men. There's a fine line there between enjoyment and fetishization, though, as has often been pointed out on this board. And yeah, so many of these women seem to have their wires crossed and are working through some serious damage.

[–][deleted] 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Like for one, this is NOT A MEN's SEX PARTY! LOL. there are trans women there! and non-binary folks and gender non-conforming folks--we have got to stop pretending that these places are binary. They have NEVER ACTUALLY BEEN BINARY. There have always been men in lesbian spaces and there have always been women in gay spaces. Always. Always ALWAYS ALWAYS. Like.. that was not a fucking "man's" space it trancends gender! All of our queer spaces have always been just that--queer spaces.

Gays have let themselves to be colonized by filthy idiots like this. Disgusting. Posts like these just make me angry at the gays for allowing this.

[–]ChunkeeguyTeam T*RF Fuck Yeah 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

They even gaslight themselves, the deranged cunts.

[–]JulienMayfair 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

She goes to one place, and suddenly she concludes that these spaces have always been open to everyone, when, in fact, that's not true at all. I went to a couple of gay bathhouses in the late 90s, and there were NO women there.

[–]CuntWorshiperWomenholic full time | vagina fetishist part-time 14 insightful - 2 fun14 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Since this is on reddit it’s probably larp but if I pretend it’s true for a second even then is still pathetic. A woman like this will just end up raped eventually if she keep on creeping on males, given this is true smh

[–]ChunkeeguyTeam T*RF Fuck Yeah 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

What would happen if this were anything but a fucked up fantasy, is the same thing that happens to gay bars and clubs. Floods of straight women are allowed in and the straight men follow them. That's bound to end well in a sex-on-premises venue.

[–]HelloMomo 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Like gender is just. not. real. Like what the fuck, why are we all walking around here pretending that it is???

I dunno buddy, you're the one pretending it is, so...?

[–]tu_jode_mucho 10 insightful - 4 fun10 insightful - 3 fun11 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

She could've just stayed home if she was just gonna be flicking her own bean anyway.

[–]MBMayfair 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

She talks about how great this space was for her as a trauma survivor...I wonder if she ever, ever gives even a moment's thought to how other, different kinds of trauma survivors would like to have a single-sex space of their own to unwind in. But what am I saying?! According to her, these spaces have never existed.

Yes they did, honey. You're just too young to know better. Speaking of which, I was surprised to see that she's 28. With that kind of know-it-all hubris, I thought she'd be ten years younger.

[–]our_team_is_winning 9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I'm female, so let me ask the gay men:

I went to a "men's" sex party I found online.

Do you guys just randomly post online "gay sex party, strangers welcome"? I'd think for everyone's safety, there would be some screening process? Not just the disease risk but violence -- psychos could show up, people really high on bad drugs -- are there bouncers?

Even if such parties are the norm, I still think her story is BS fantasy. But her fantasy is to have live-action porn, really. She wants to watch gay male strangers having sex where she can watch and get off. She wants props for her fetish.

She needs therapy and to leave gay men alone.

[–]CaptainMooseEx-Bathhouse Employee[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

They happen. Not all the time, but enough that her story sounds plausible to me. I'm guessing it was organized through Fetlife given the sheer number of interesting characters she described.

Typically for something run by gay men, in another man's home, it's word of mouth/networking. The host tells a few guys who he trusts to make good choices who in turn follow suit. Pre-COVID, I heard of a guy locally who would host a weekly sex party for older men and charge $10 a head. The first bunch had just been guys he'd been FWBs with for a while and anything they knew who would be cool and interested. Anyone invited is, in essence, supposed to be pre-screened by the guy who extended the invitation. Disease is at your own risk because you can bring your own condoms.

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'll take "things that no gay man wants" for $500, Alex.

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Do all these Gaydens, and how their men of choice receive them, remind anyone else of this?:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CxDbvtqcNxs

(Except without the singing or, yanno, being in the least enjoyable!)

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