Where are the straight-identifying women in relationships with trans men/trans-identifying females? by yousaythosethings in LGBDropTheT

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I think it's harder for media to spin a beneficial angle for straight men and straight women. By straight I mean the majority of hets who don't question their orientation post puberty, obviously a small number do question later in life and come out as bi/gay.

That majority generally have a vague life plan that at some point in their 20s/30s involves having kids. Even if they can be persuaded politically that TWAW and TMAM they aren't primed early on for the possibility of IVF, sperm donation, surrogacy or adoption in the way gay and lesbian people are - until something goes wrong it's not really a consideration.

Average, well rounded and healthy straight people are unlikely to be persuaded out of the easiest and most sexually attractive life path for them (opposite sex relationships) in exchange for some flags, glitter and inclusivity. Why would they? Straight people have a plentiful dating pool as it is. Much easier for the media to focus on anyone who sits outside of being straight.

Equally I think gay men, although targeted, are unlikely to perceive much benefit to themselves.

Sadly I think this is why lesbians and to an extent bi women, end up being the focus of both TW & TM much of the time. It's the double whammy of being women (who are generally more agreeable and empathetic) but unlike many straight women are less likely to be fixated on the heteronormative life path of dating-marriage-babies. Hence the erroneous assumption that convention (or genitals) shouldn't matter to lesbians and an expectation they be flexible with how they identify.

The woke "male feminist" youtuber to stunning and brave transwoman timeline by firemonke8 in LGBDropTheT

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He was also an out of work actor in a pandemic that shut down all theatres. It's greatly boosted his channel and patreon. One minute no one had heard of him the next he's getting interviewed by the BBC. Amazing what a name change and a bit of lippy can do. Seems like the British version of Clymer.

US rapper Kurtis Tripp talks to Dennis Kavanagh about conversion therapy at 13, the pressure to identify as trans and his journey back as a gender critical gay rights activist by millicentfawcett in LGBDropTheT

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This is the tik tok guy from earlier this week. He sounds to have had a rough past although he is quite upfront about his prior felonies. He seems to be getting a lot of harassment on twitter still.

A reminder that the long awaited book "Trans" by Helen Joyce is released today. by millicentfawcett in LGBDropTheT

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Nice. I persuaded a friend to buy a kindle copy. I think she's in for a shock because Helen lays it all out much better than my attempts to explain how insane things have got.

A reminder that the long awaited book "Trans" by Helen Joyce is released today. by millicentfawcett in LGBDropTheT

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Glad you're enjoying it. I couldn't put it down.

I was expected to smile my way through it all”: A lesbian transwidow tells her heart-wrenching story to Jo Bartosch by millicentfawcett in LGBDropTheT

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A moving interview from a woman whose girlfriend transitioned.

A reminder that the long awaited book "Trans" by Helen Joyce is released today. by millicentfawcett in LGBDropTheT

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Have you read Material Girls by Kathleen Stock? She is a prominent UK lesbian, not really a radfem either although many would put her in that category solely because of her views on this topic.

Now there's been quite a few books written on the issue I think what stands out as missing is a book by a gay man aimed largely at gay men or at least from that perspective.

That's what struck me when reading the chapter on transing children and the particularly upsetting bit about Kai Shappley whose mother readily admits trying to beat the gay out of him before settling on turning him into a girl.

It's unusual that this hasn't happened yet because gay male writers have historically been at the forefront writing about harms in the past.

Anyone up for a challenge?

A reminder that the long awaited book "Trans" by Helen Joyce is released today. by millicentfawcett in LGBDropTheT

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I don't think so. She's not strictly a feminist either or at least she didn't write about feminism or women's rights prior to this. She's worked at The Economist for a long time and has a PHD in mathematics.

She did a podcast a few days ago for The Critic with Jo Bartosch (LGB News) in which she explains how and why she got into writing about this.

https://play.acast.com/s/0e104b01-3044-5ead-9e6d-deb112ba4a43/60ec474604c59f0013610107

Take your hole pills you stupid f*gs by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Imagine being that obnoxious, even as a teen. Is she doing it for internet cred?

At least the club was kicking her out. Silver linings and all that.

Take your hole pills you stupid f*gs by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Her timeline is interesting. She sounds like a kid who is weaning off trans ideology but isn't quite there yet and has gone a weird hybrid of femcel and radfem. She seems to recognise identity is bullshit but still has pronouns in bio and uses afab un-ironically. If she truly is 16 as stated hopefully she'll grow up bit soon.

A reminder that the long awaited book "Trans" by Helen Joyce is released today. by millicentfawcett in LGBDropTheT

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Thanks that's good to know.

A reminder that the long awaited book "Trans" by Helen Joyce is released today. by millicentfawcett in LGBDropTheT

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It could be just the UK release then. I think it's also available in Waterstones, one of our major booksellers, but I don't know if they ship internationally.

Sorry if I got your hopes up. Hopefully it will be available in the US soon.

A reminder that the long awaited book "Trans" by Helen Joyce is released today. by millicentfawcett in LGBDropTheT

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I actually have a hard copy coming too. I prefer reading on Kindle these days but I often buy a physical version too if it's a book I want to keep or lend out.

Some Discussion Questions for You Guys by Horror-Swordfish in LGBDropTheT

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I don't think same sex marriage caused this. Firstly because there are countries that have embraced transgenderism where marriage equality doesn't exist. Secondly the groundwork for much of what's happened was laid decades ago. Orgs like The Beaumont Society/Press for Change in the UK have been around for a long time. We had the Gender Recognition Act (2004) years before marriage equality, in fact one of the main reasons the GRA exists in the UK is because the government at the time did not want to introduce same sex marriage.

That said organisations like Stonewall have taken advantage and accelerated things due to having a vacuum post marriage equality. It's provided them with a new cause and new income stream. So I can see why people conflate marriage equality and what has come after.

Re the mental illness aspect. I don't necessarily think it's a problem to have removed the T from the DSM just as it wasn't with gay. For me it's a case of present outwardly how you wish but stop pretending people can change sex and that there are no consequences to that lie.

As a comparison it would be like gay people decades ago rather than fighting for acceptance of reality e.g two men can be in a relationship and that's fine, insisting their relationships were actually heterosexual despite the evidence of our eyes.

I really don't see how in 30/40 years the concept of gender ideology will have survived all the inevitable casualties. Things are pretty bad now and a hell of a lot of people are starting notice. Are people really going to be discussing in decades to come about how it's so great that no females compete in sport now? Will they reminisce happily about how backwards it all was when AFABs used to win Olympic medals? I hope that's not the dystopia we have to look forward to because it's not a world I want to live in.

r/lgballt:"Clowngender is heckin cute and valid uwu" they are beyond parody at this point by FineIWillDoItMyself in LGBDropTheT

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That was my first thought. These are the kids that a few decades ago would have been happy playing table top games in a little clique. I don't really care that they want to squabble over nonsense but it's a problem when adults who should know better give it credence and it's a problem when it's linked with the LGB community.

Comments on Benjamin Cohen (from Pink News) article in The Times by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

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I think you can only view the comments with a subscription or if you are reading a share token article. I don't think archive sites capture comments. Sorry I don't have either. I keep toying with taking out a subscription but it's not cheap even when on offer.

Do you think many non-binary people become trans? by louisa_emythox in LGBDropTheT

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NB females have a strong likelihood of eventually having a mastectomy and dabbling in hormone treatments even if they retain the NB label.

It's another one of those incongruous things about this ideology - despite non binary supposedly meaning neither sex it seems in young women it actually ends up favouring the male appearance and identity. Hence a lot of NB girls going by he/they.

NB males overall seem to do less that could be physically harmful. It's often just about wearing makeup and having a beard (plus a huge amount of ego and entitlement).

It's definitely a gateway identity especially if you're female.

Help me find a video! - About NZ Pride by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT

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How many LGB are gender critical? by RedJackal in LGBDropTheT

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I think it's a lot more than that and little to do with political allegiance. I can easily believe that most would rather rip their tongue out than admit to being gender critical/a believer in biology in the current climate but I'm sure their choice of sex partners tell you everything you need to know. If they aren't including FTMs in their dating pool, they know.

The saying goes;

TRA in the tweets TERF in the sheets

Now that the "Trans-racial" topic is discussed in the Wakosphere again thanks To Oil London. by FineIWillDoItMyself in LGBDropTheT

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Bring it on. I want to see people putting pressure on Crufts to allow them to compete. Trans Dogs are Dogs.

How to undo half a century of hard slog to improve the lives of LGB people by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Thing is though some are. This is one of the issues, if all LGB's stood firm it would be a lot easier. Same with women and feminism, for every woman who is fighting against female erasure and wanting kids to grow up safely there's another who's cheering it on and transing their 3 year old.

Twas ever thus I suppose.

Glenn Greenwald is DONE with Queers! ;-) by BEB in LGBDropTheT

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I remember having an exchange with GG on twitter about 12-18 months ago. I can't remember what aspect of this whole insanity it was about but I got the impression back then he wasn't a believer but he was quite dismissive.

He was one of those people who say things like "of course the concept of a female penis is ridiculous but no-one is actually making that claim, you're just being hyperbolic"

I guess he's educated himself since then.

It's transphobic to describe yourself as "same sex attracted", according to AskTransgender. by FediNetizen in LGBDropTheT

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I've been reading through those comments, horrified, and I'm thinking who are these people? Where did they come from? Then I realise that despite gains for LGB people in law over the past decades the sentiment that same sex attracted people are 'unnatural' just hasn't gone away has it? It's festered under the surface and turned into this nightmare.

LGBA USA – Leading the way in preserving and protecting the rights of lesbians, gay men and bisexuals. by millicentfawcett in LGBDropTheT

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New website launched. Looks pretty good. The design is great.

Concerns we're heading for a misgendering crisis as 61% of Brits never ask about pronouns™ by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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A completely manufactured 'crisis'.

Rather than cave to the demands of TQ+, Philly Pride Presents disbands their organization by NutterButterFlutter in LGBDropTheT

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Thanks. Glad it was helpful. I realised after posting it was a lot of text to wade through but the Deptford Project and what went on there is a crystal clear example of fetishising the working class whilst also being disdainful and dismissive of them.

Rather than cave to the demands of TQ+, Philly Pride Presents disbands their organization by NutterButterFlutter in LGBDropTheT

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You might find this interesting. It happened a few years ago in the UK but highlights what you are observing. It's too long to fully quote but I've picked out some relevant bits.

https://www.feministcurrent.com/2018/03/23/leftist-women-uk-refuse-accept-labours-attempts-silence-critiques-gender-identity/

Lucy Mcdonagh grew up working class, raised by a single mother. Her life as a young woman was marked by addiction, abuse, poverty, and mental health issues. She managed to escape a relationship with an extremely violent man at 32-years-old, after being partnered with him for 10 years. “My experience of being a working class woman and the level of trauma carried by many working class people has been my driving force since I was young,” Mcdonagh told me.

“All I have ever wanted to do is to try and empower working class people into supporting ourselves and, in doing so, empower our community. Being working class isn’t just about poverty. It’s about resilience and an unspoken understanding of violence. We don’t talk about our struggles because that places us at greater harm.”

That reality is suddenly of great interest to those who wish to coopt (or “parasitize,” if you will…) the struggles of oppressed groups as a means to gain social, cultural, or political leverage.

Mcdonagh had been forced to close the holistic wellness centre she was running in Deptford after leaving her then-partner, due to the trauma and subsequent breakdown she experienced during the police process. Once back on her feet, Mcdonagh co-founded The Deptford People Project, which not only feeds people, but, in her words, “created a family for those who were ostracized from the community.”

“We eat together, we played music, laughed and talked… We were not offering a service, we were offering an opportunity to become part of a community again. There was no ‘helping the poor’ — we are all poor and ran the project together. It was amazing.”

Not long after this project took off, Deptford was gentrified, and working class people like Mcdonagh were no longer welcome. “Working class people can be quite scary to white middle class people not from the area,” she explained.

“We shout and swear and take the mick out of [tease] each other. We speak a different language. One that is often mistaken for aggression. We’re not [politically correct] because most of us have never really believed that politics is anything more then a rich man’s game to get richer. But we’re not unintelligent — we’re just not academic.”

Gentrification brought a sudden increase in “very posh, white, ‘social justice’ groups and movements.” Now, the local groups who claimed to support the most marginalized seemed, to Mcdonagh, to be little more than “a social gathering for privileged students, using the community as a trendy trademark.”

“They used weird pronouns and called themselves ‘they,'” Mcdonagh said. She didn’t think this “rich kid’s trend” would affect her work so didn’t concern herself too much. “We were too busy trying to keep people fed, off the street, and out of prison.”

Though purporting to support the oppressed, Mcdonagh felt these students had no concept of or empathy toward the real experiences of actual marginalized women. “In reality [they] were supporting themselves via a complex new ideology and language that only they speak,” she said.

Mcdonagh was similarly nonplussed after meeting with a new domestic violence organization, also run mainly by young middle class students. The language this group used struck Mcdonagh as nonsensical and unhelpful to women actually suffering due to male violence. “The list of trigger warnings and safe space policies included a whole load of new gender terms that I had never heard of.” She adds, “I don’t know what a safe space is but I’d like to know where there is one for working class people in our area.”

In particular, all the focus on “gender identity” confused her. “Why were all the most publicized [social justice organizations]… suddenly centering their [work] on a group of people I’ve never come into contact with?”

At this point, Mcdonagh discovered the proposed changes to the GRA. She had some close friends who were “transsexual,” so understood how the GRC worked. She told me:

“I had never been concerned about a trans person who had medically transitioned entering a women-only space. To my knowledge it wasn’t a big thing. Only about 5000 people have a GRC in the UK. So you can imagine that doesn’t really cause any major issues.”

But during a discussion with Goldsmiths students about a community housing project, things blew up. Mcdonagh was verbally attacked by students after rejecting the new language being imposed on her community, called a “white cis woman,” then a “bitch and a “cunt.” A young male student tagged her in a post online arguing that the Women’s March should not allow women to focus on “the vagina” as it was “transphobic.” When Mcdonagh asked how he was defining “woman,” the man responded, “Anyone who says they are.”

This is when, she says, it all fell into place. “That’s what ‘self-identify’ means: anyone can say they are anyone… So, rich, privileged people can claim to be marginalized.” Beyond that, she asks, “How can we keep working class women safe if anyone can be a women legally?”

Mcdonagh became more troubled when “a middle class teenage boy identifying as women [was] given a woman’s officer position in the Labour Party” and when she observed a woman she knew suspended from the party for “refusing to say that a male person with a penis is a woman.”

She tells me there is “a very real lack of understanding about female victims of abuse, their need for sex-segregated spaces, and their need to be protected from predatory men.” But it has become impossible to debate or even discuss these issues. “Suddenly (mainly) white middle class students were shouting down and abusing working class women for expressing concern,” she says. “These people were bullying real victims into [submitting to] their ideology — women who have spent their lives being forced to accept situations they don’t want.”

Mcdonagh says she doesn’t believe that “a rich white boy” can “understand the needs of a working class ex-care system woman, raped and abused for decades by many different men — a woman living in a world that won’t ever feel safe again and who is bringing up children in a community that is suffering [due to] poverty, abuse, and trauma.”

“I couldn’t sit back a watch this final episode of ‘Gentrification Deptford’ invade the only thing that working class women have left: their experience.”

Mcdonagh and her group were concerned about how the proposed changes might affect services for women like her and those she worked with. Yet the questions they have are not being answered. They worry about how they will be able protect the women they work with from males who need only self-identify as female in order to access women’s spaces and about whether or not a “small, unfunded, grassroots organization [will be able to] challenge the law for the greater good if needed.” They also want to know whether challenging such a law could jeopardize their access to funding in future.

“Working class women know the lengths that abusers will go to get access to their victims,” she said. “We know this because we have lived it.”

“I fear that just the possibility that a male-bodied person [whether a client or staff member] could access a women-only service would be enough for, for example, our Muslim women’s community to avoid those spaces,” Mcdonagh says. “We are still trying to access hard to reach women and this would definitely make it more difficult.”

While she doesn’t believe “trans people” are inherently a threat, Mcdonagh believes very strongly that victims of male violence need women-only services and that women should be prioritized in terms of staffing these kinds of services as well. “We have already seen that trans-identifying males tend to apply for women-only positions and job vacancies as a way of reinforcing their gender identity,” she says.

“The first thing Lily Madigan did upon receiving their GRC was to apply to volunteer for women’s refuge. This is a white, middle class, 20-year-old male (who has not medically transitioned), who took their school to court to be able to wear a skirt. Lily wasn’t applying to volunteer because they felt they had something to offer victims of domestic violence. Lily was using women’s refuge to validate their identity and enforce transgender rights regardless of the effect on female victims.”

“When we are being verbally abused and called fascists because we are concerned about the effects of policy change on marginalized people, it is a direct attack on working class women and grass roots organizations.”

It’s bad enough that women are being fired, ostracized, bullied, and threatened for trying to speak about an issue that affects their lives, rights, spaces, and movements in so many ways. That it is largely young, white, middle and upper class individuals, bullying marginalized women, who have worked in these movements for decades, makes the situation all the more shocking and hypocritical.

Mcdonagh says:

“I want to tell those people who have gentrified our whole existence that our safe spaces are not for sale. That our experience is not for them to redefine. I want to let those people know that they are complicit in the victimization of already victimized people. Mostly, I want to start a conversation about social privilege and how the trans political and social movement is driven through [academia] and is suppressing the rights of working class women.”

RA apology to artist Jess de Wahls for removing her works for supposed ‘transphobia’. Gender woo woo crowd lost! Usually suspects now trying to cancel the Royal Academy(Lol, founded in 1768, good luck Ayden), with much anger over the Pride flag RA is using. Die mad, b!tches by Midcentury in LGBDropTheT

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I suspect the reports that Jess was considering legal action focused their minds, especially in light of the Forstater judgement. Had Jess crowdfunded I think she would have raised the costs in a few hours.

Are gay people better off without Stonewall? Video debate with Stonewall, LGBA and others by millicentfawcett in LGBDropTheT

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This took place last night with Tortoise Media as the host. Features Jan Gooding former SW Chair, Christine Burns retired trans rights activist, both Kate and Bev from the LGB Alliance. Other recognisable names such as Jonny Best and I think Ben Cohen make an appearance too.

I've not watched it fully in a linear fashion, just skipped around to listen to various bits. Kate from the LGBA really came out guns blazing! Jonny was pretty good too.

Not sure it will change anything as the parting remarks by Jan don't seem to acknowledge the validity of other views especially the gay men and lesbians who spoke about the redefining of sexuality.

Sunday Social - open chat! by TumbleweedFireflies in LGBDropTheT

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Finally found a workaround that does work. In case it helps anyone else I found a discussion on reddit that suggests adding .jpg at the end of the url. That's worked so far on the couple I've tried.

Sunday Social - open chat! by TumbleweedFireflies in LGBDropTheT

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Thanks for the suggestion but it hasn't worked unfortunately.

Sunday Social - open chat! by TumbleweedFireflies in LGBDropTheT

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Hope it's okay to post this here. Does anyone have any idea why I can't view Imgur posts linked here? When I click on them it takes me to the site and all I get is a blank grey page.

I've tried going to the Imgur homepage which works as normal but it's the same there if I try to click on a thumbnail. I've opened an account to see if it makes a difference being signed in but it hasn't. I've tried messing around with settings on my browser (Safari) and tried using a VPN.

I've run out of ideas now. TIA

Just as everyone suspected: Tavistock gender clinic ‘converting’ gay children by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Not surprising that the retention of gay employees was poor. They must have been horrified by the reality of this experimentation. I'm glad they are able to speak up now. Sadly it's coming too late for some children who are too far along this pathway.

It drives me a bit insane that the obvious isn't obvious to everyone.

Gay Americans starting to wish straight people would chill out about Pride Month by PatsyStone in LGBDropTheT

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Ha ha. Very on point. :-D

The women who have sex with gay men will now be safe - but not from Stonewall by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I'm familiar with lavender marriages and bearding but I got the impression she was talking more about a 'friends with benefits' type situation. As you say though, who knows? I have no way of verifying what's true or isn't.

The women who have sex with gay men will now be safe - but not from Stonewall by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I either watched or read something a while back that featured a women who I think was a founding member of the GLF or Stonewall (maybe both?). She's not very high profile compared to the founding men but she is currently a TRA. She was talking about HIV and the lack of acknowledgement that lesbians in the community were at risk because some of them slept with gay men. It was a very old interview so she meant lesbians in the true sense and she was referencing the height of the AIDs crisis. It's the only time I've heard someone bring that up and I don't know how true it is, she inferred that it was taboo but more common place that people realised.

I wonder if that is the sort of thinking behind the statement or at least part of it? I can't remember where it was to link to but it stuck in my mind because the idea of gay men and lesbian women having sex with each other out of comfort or convenience hadn't ever occurred to me. I wasn't an adult in the 80s/90s and I don't move in those circles so I still don't know what to make of it.

The Six Million Dollar Nebularomantic DemiMan by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Add rockers to make a it a trio and perhaps we can have a decent music era back at the same time.

Yes I know I sound old! :-)

Hungary's parliament passes anti-LGBT law ahead of 2022 election by millicentfawcett in LGBDropTheT

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Loads of articles about this but I went with one that wasn't behind a paywall.

Not a surprising move for Hungary and disappointing to have sexual orientation conflated again with gender identity.

Edited to add: Seems like Orban tacked this onto a bill outlawing pedophilia so it couldn't be challenged easily by opponents.

Marriage equality was a mistake by justagaydude123 in LGBDropTheT

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It may have accelerated its reach a bit in some countries like the UK because Stonewall felt they needed a new cause but I think it would have still happened to some extent without marriage equality.

I think some of the timing is coincidental rather than straight up causation. Around a decade ago is when social media really blew up and people started becoming very 'online' especially the youngest generations. That's what has fed much of it in conjunction with queer theory being pushed via higher education. Speaking of higher ed, in the UK at least, it's also the time frame in which universities have ceded a lot of power to students because they became paying customers via high tuition fees. If education were still free I think more of the crap that goes on would have been nipped in the bud.

It's also worth noting that orgs like The Beaumont Society and the older transactivists like Burns and Whittle have been around much longer than most people are aware of, lobbying governments and influential people. I'm speaking from a UK centric perspective here but much of the groundwork was already laid before it all went viral and anyone realised the significance of what was being done.

In short I think it's been a perfect storm situation with no one factor to 'blame'.

Oh the pain, the pain: the agony of these dickless losers on /r/askgaybros by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I don't know if that's a straight up troll or a confused young person. If it's the latter I continue to be baffled at how many people especially the younger end don't understand the basics of homophobia. I mean, "Eww, men liking other men's dicks is nasty, why do you all do it?" is surely 101?

I know how this has happened but I still can't quite believe it has happened.

You know how progressive Iran is... by turtleduck23 in LGBDropTheT

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I seem to recall Mouncey being very upset that people might think he was sexually attracted to men.

You know how progressive Iran is... by turtleduck23 in LGBDropTheT

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Clymer nicely demonstrating they have been promoted above their ability in the human rights arena.

Even the most pro trans activist should be able to understand there's nothing progressive or praise worthy about Iran.

Mind you Clymer isn't the first to do this. I believe Pink News have form also.

'Working with Stonewall is no longer compatible with NHS values' by millicentfawcett in LGBDropTheT

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A cracking article by a lesbian woman who is a former NHS Chief Exec. She pulls no punches with this one and it's great to see it in a publication like the HSJ.

Gender critical beliefs are now protected by equality law in the UK. by Treeofthoughts in LGBDropTheT

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I did wonder if he was gay, he seems very clued up about the LGB/T aspect. Then again it's his job to be as part of Maya's legal team so I don't know. Brilliant write up either way.

Gender critical beliefs are now protected by equality law in the UK. by Treeofthoughts in LGBDropTheT

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Exactly. I don't agree with the TWAW crew but I wouldn't try to get them fired for believing it.

Gender critical beliefs are now protected by equality law in the UK. by Treeofthoughts in LGBDropTheT

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This is a must read from one of Maya's legal team. As well as asking what next for women he also tackles what could be a way forward for the LGB. https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/forstater-judgment-what-next-peter-daly

Trans groups go to war with Charity Commission over LGB Alliance by millicentfawcett in LGBDropTheT

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Yes Green is a woman obvs, not a man. Sorry, that was a rubbish sentence composition upon reading it back. :-)

Trans groups go to war with Charity Commission over LGB Alliance by millicentfawcett in LGBDropTheT

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Jolyon Maugham the tax barrister (and occasional fox killer) at the centre of this along with Green is a straight man.

Trans groups go to war with Charity Commission over LGB Alliance by millicentfawcett in LGBDropTheT

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Further article from The Times on this. Seems to have been reported on widely today. https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/2db3626e-c3b1-11eb-8601-6a2ece3e4634?shareToken=d7d4fc16d949353cafd4cdbef3fa5b8b

LGB Alliance “have confidence in the Charity Commission” and Announce Trustees. by Movellon in LGBDropTheT

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I bet the appointment of Wintemute as a trustee is one of the things causing consternation in other circles. That's quite a big deal I think.

Is it easier to come out as queer now that so many celebrities are? by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Yes this. Whenever I see someone self describe as queer I never assume it mean they are actually L, G, B or even T. Some are of course but most of the time, as you say, it's het coupled people who I assume find that fact about themselves too boring. It's such a reversal of LGB campaigning from a few decades ago where the goal was that your sexual orientation should be unremarkable and not say anything about you as a person. It's really not headed in the direction I thought it would. I often wonder where we would be now without the influence of internet and social media.

RANT: Whycan't we have our own fucking spaces? by ukrdude10 in LGBDropTheT

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I'm in a FB group like this, women have been doing it for quite a while. Completely random group name that gives no hints as to what is discussed there. Admittance is word of mouth only and based on referral by an existing member preferably with some real life contact. Downsides are that it's totally private and off the radar of lots of women who would really benefit from joining will never know it's there. It would be the same with a group specific to the L, the G or B. Young LGB people who are just coming out really need to hear from older people that boundaries are okay and unfortunately super secret groups are counterintuitive to this. It's a real dilemma.

Why in the fuck isn't the FBI/police involved with AgainstHatesubreddits!? by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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From what I understand from the way r/GC was targeted stuff like CP rarely makes it way past the moderation onto the actual sub. The purpose is to demonstrate to the higher admins that these sites are problematic/white supremacist or whatever else they're trying to claim. The admins are the ones who can then shut the subreddit down and the regular users are none the wiser as to how or why the sub was banned.

If anyone has proof it will be people who have modded subs targeted by AHS but that depends on whether they kept an ongoing record of everything. I'm assuming once they and/or their sub is banned they no longer have a way of accessing anything that might be evidence.

This is why AHS continue to get away with these tactics. That and the fact reddit seems to be rotten from the top down.

Lauren Black: “I am a butch lesbian. I live with gender dysphoria. I do not believe my deep discomfort with my female body means that I should take steps to change it.” by barnarnas in LGBDropTheT

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Really fantastic piece from Lauren, she seems like a great person who has thought very carefully about the best options, not just for her but also for her family. I hope she continues to be happy. Over 13 k views as well, that's one of the highest read counts I've seen on the site so far.

When you come for SuperStraight men and don't learn your lesson. by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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It's made for a SuperFunny weekend that's for sure. I don't know where it's going to go beyond this because I don't see many of these straight men following up by writing to their MPs/Senators or doing any of the grassroots slog that feminists and the LGB have been doing for a number of years now. Are they just going to get bored and move on to the next funny troll that grabs their attention? Probably!

Maybe if it's peaked thousands of people it won't matter. My main hope is that it's reached a lot of young people and delivered the message that it's okay to have boundaries when it comes to sexuality and help the upcoming generation to say fuck this shit because I'm fairly sure a lot feel like the 16 year old Tik Tok boy but just daren't say it.

LGB-supportive posts on r/SuperStraight, and "drop the T"-supportive sentiment by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

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I love your long form posts. You should tag yourself as SuperOrganised. :)

Straight queer with pink hair explains why your homosexuality is all wrong but kink and polyamory are totes LGB by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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This is only anecdotal (UK) but a friend told me a while back that the local grammar school (have to pass an exam to get in, mostly white affluent parents) had quite a few trans kids. The school mine go to is a local comprehensive that has been in and out of special measures for years and attracts a poorer income demographic to the best of my knowledge has zero trans kids. The school has no policies around trans either which leads me to believe they've not needed any so far. A lot of the kids that go there have far bigger problems than identity navel gazing.

To add - the school is pretty great in a lot of ways. There's a perception that all schools that have poorer intakes and social problems are terrible but the staff are really dedicated and I'd actually rate it as a good school even if the rankings don't. I'm grateful my kids don't get their heads filled with identity nonsense.

"Trans men... can be both males and men, just like cis men" - Real talk, how long do you guys think AGB will last before getting shut down? by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

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I think your husband is everyman/woman on this topic. That line of thinking makes total sense until you look into the topic and realise a) these people are insane and b) common sense like that could get you fired from your job.

Queers and Communists coming after the Sydney’s Gay and Lesbian Mardi Gras by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Sounds very similar to what happened to Auckland Pride a few years back. This video lays out what happened there. It's not the best quality produced video but it clearly lays out how these take overs happen and how they destroy everything in their wake.

https://youtu.be/fRjM75J_CCo

LGBT Identification Rises to 5.6% of the US Population in Latest Estimate (Lesbians are decreasing % wise, while B & T are increasing) by BEB in LGBDropTheT

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This needs a longitudinal study to see if those numbers remain fairly static as younger generations age into older generations. That should in theory sort out some of what is actual sexual orientation versus identity.

LGBT Identification Rises to 5.6% of the US Population in Latest Estimate (Lesbians are decreasing % wise, while B & T are increasing) by BEB in LGBDropTheT

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I wonder if some of it is because we don't have an equivalent word like 'bromance' for girls so they use bisexual instead? In my experience some young women and girls can have really intense female friendships during their formative years that can almost be like romantic relationships without the sex. It's not difficult to see why in these identity obsessed times they might try to label it when really it's quite a standard (although not universal) girlhood experience. I also have a theory that one of the unconscious reasons for these intense friendships is that they can serve as a 'safe space' for exploring relationship skills that are useful later on.

Magdalen Berns Tribute (feat. The Adult Human Females Choir) created by Mr Menno. by millicentfawcett in LGBDropTheT

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I saw him talk about this the other day. I wasn't sure if he could create a musical piece about Magdalen that would be respectful enough but I think he's done an awesome job.

Are more gay men speaking out? by millicentfawcett in LGBDropTheT

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I was impressed with the quality of L&G News. Hopefully in the long term it will help to have something that counteracts Pink News.

Are more gay men speaking out? by millicentfawcett in LGBDropTheT

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I lurk on Datalounge occasionally. Sometimes it's quite funny but other times it seems overrun by trolls. Discussing trans stuff doesn't seem to banned there but threads I've read often turn into a mess of slinging insults.

Gay Camp in Michigan under fire for issuing genital requirements by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Yes. I hate the way any kind of exclusion is automatically a bad thing now. There are situations where it serves a completely valid purpose.

Gay Camp in Michigan under fire for issuing genital requirements by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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It's this sort of mission creep that means very soon no group identity or freedom of association will be allowed. It was reported today about a women's refuge in the UK that had previously become trans inclusive lost their funding because they don't provide services for gay men. So let's say they did relent and accept gay men then immediately straight men have a good legal argument for discrimination. The end result being that what was formerly a women's refuge becomes a refuge for everyone and very few women will want to access it.

Gay Camp in Michigan under fire for issuing genital requirements by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I read about this yesterday. He's not getting much (vocal) support. I find it hard to understand why so many are keen on their spaces being mixed sex.

The first woman in the Gay Liberation Front in 1970 is fighting again for lesbian and gay rights in 2021 by Movellon in LGBDropTheT

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Really great interview with Bev.

Stop telling women to invade gay men’s spaces - "You’re kidding right" video by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT

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I remember when this article was first published. It caused quite a bit of consternation with a lot of men getting (not unreasonably) pissed off. It turned into a bit of a war of the sexes. Problem is of course it wasn't written by someone female but that was largely ignored or the information would be lost amongst the comments of wherever it was posted. I remember thinking it was designed to be inflammatory and pit gay men against women. I've not changed my mind on that.

Let us fags have our spaces by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I have seen it posited as a conspiracy theory that the world did indeed end in 2012 and we somehow ended up on an alternative timeline.

Let us fags have our spaces by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Has anyone spotted Ted Danson lurking? Should we be keeping an eye on him?

Mr Menno has launched a Patreon platform by millicentfawcett in LGBDropTheT

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Comedy stuff, mostly musical. He has a youtube channel with some of his work.

Allison Bailey suing Stonewall - preliminary hearing, live notes from LGB Alliance (hearings continue tomorrow) by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

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It was touch and go for a while with the redaction issues but it looks like Allison can take the case forward. Judge agreed there was evidence of collusion and influence between SW and GCC. Judge felt case has a reasonable chance of success.

Allison Bailey suing Stonewall - preliminary hearing, live notes from LGB Alliance (hearings continue tomorrow) by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

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Adjourned for lunch now after which we'll hear from the judge. Keeping everything crossed for her but it's feeling at the moment like an attempted stitch up with the lack of full disclosure from Stonewall and GCC.

Allison Bailey suing Stonewall - preliminary hearing, live notes from LGB Alliance (hearings continue tomorrow) by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

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It's not looking good so far today for Allison. The session isn't over but as her QC is pointing out they've been forced into a Catch 22 with redactions. The judge wouldn't allow full disclosure for these hearings but without disclosure it's not looking like she will be granted a full hearing.

Allison Bailey suing Stonewall - preliminary hearing, live notes from LGB Alliance (hearings continue tomorrow) by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

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Thanks for clarifying. I'd read conflicting things so wasn't totally sure.

No it's not unusual at all for barristers to be from the same chamber, it was just a little aside.

Allison Bailey suing Stonewall - preliminary hearing, live notes from LGB Alliance (hearings continue tomorrow) by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

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Additional info- Robin Moira White is trans. They also were on yesterdays legal panel giving evidence to the Women & Equalities Committee on GRA reform. It can be watched here https://parliamentlive.tv/event/index/fb12feef-6d41-457a-a102-ea59813bb583. Robin is also a semi frequent contributor to Mumsnet under their real name where they exhibit a strong disdain for the concerns of women.

Judy Khan I think is the head of GC Chambers?

Both Ben and Robin are part of the same Chambers (not GCC) despite being on opposing sides

One of the people frequently mentioned in the thread is Michelle Brewer who is a barrister at Garden Court, co founder of TELI a trans legal organisation and somebody who heavily criticised the Get the L Out women who demonstrated at London Pride a few years back.

Allison Bailey's (lesbian founder of LGB alliance) CrowdFund page for suing Stonewall is restored by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

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An initial hearing took place on this case today. It's worth reading the LGBA live tweet thread to see what happened. This case could be dynamite if it gets to a full hearing without the current redactions. Evidence presented today is suggestive of Stonewall behaving something akin to a protection racket. They threatened Garden Court Chambers with reputational consequences if they didn't agree to take disciplinary action against Allison Bailey (presumably for the crime of being a lesbian who won't accept lesbians have penises).

I still find it astounding sometimes that this is where current day Stonewall are at.

Mr Menno (LGB. Alliance sea shanty and interview) by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT

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Just watched this video. Very entertaining and informative. He managed to make me laugh and nearly cry all in one interview. I thought his apology to lesbian women was sweet. Hope to see more guys like him speaking publicly.

Michael Che of 'SNL' accused of transphobia over Biden's military executive order joke. by pacmanla in LGBDropTheT

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SNL are screwed now Trump is gone. Anything political they try to do will be framed as some sort of 'hate' if it criticises the Biden admin. They'll have to stick to song parodies and advertising piss takes.

The witch-hunting of <em>Boyz</em> magazine by millicentfawcett in LGBDropTheT

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I don't really know what to say about this. Just when you think nothing can shock you any more.

This is pretty disgraceful.

(sorry about the random symbols in the title - don't know how that happened)

A new and selfless lesbian graces the planet by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I've seen so many example of men coming out as trans whilst their partner is pregnant. It's really quite common. Reminds me of domestic abuse literature where it's pointed out that pregnancy is often an inciting incident for the start of abuse. No doubt because it's at this point she is most vulnerable and trapped and is more likely to accept anything thrown her way.

Biden's Culture War Aggression - Andrew Sullivan article by millicentfawcett in LGBDropTheT

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A very well written article and nuanced take on Biden's EO.