LGB ErasureAnd in this episode of 'I Hate It Here':

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[–]CaptainMooseEx-Bathhouse Employee 32 insightful - 2 fun32 insightful - 1 fun33 insightful - 2 fun -  (11 children)

More and more we're being exposed to the fact that there are absolutely bi men who label themselves as gay just like there are bi women who label themselves as lesbian.

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 21 insightful - 2 fun21 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 2 fun -  (5 children)

yep and if you call them out on it, they double down.

[–]hufflepuff-poet 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I don't understand the hatred people have for being bisexual and the need to play at being gay or straight. It's ok to be bisexual, it's natural, normal and nothing to be ashamed of. Be honest about it so you can create an actual bi community of people who understand your attraction to both sexes and you can share your experiences with instead of trying to push your bisexuality onto monosexuals and our spaces.

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I don't understand the hatred people have for being bisexual and the need to play at being gay or straight. It's ok to be bisexual, it's natural, normal and nothing to be ashamed of.

While I'm certainly glad that you feel this way... most people don't. And since it's the default attitude, that includes most bisexuals.

We get the same message as everybody else, you know? Not just that bisexuality is a negative thing (confusion, immaturity, wishy-washiness, sluttiness, a phase, a fad, a lie, etc. etc.), but the reason why it's a negative thing; what all these disparaging/dismissive characterizations come down to-- the assumption that there is no such thing. That bisexuality doesn't even exist.

Which is how we end up with bisexual people who call themselves gay or straight. Because they really believe that they are. There's no third option, after all. And that way lies "lesbians who like dick/gay men who like pussy"... which isn't good for ANY of us :(

[–]reluctant_commenter 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I hear you. I think homosexual people need to do a better job of including bisexuality in conversations about same-sex rights and issues. It is its own legitimate thing, and it has its own set of unique experiences. (This is part of why I am more supportive of LGB Alliance than I am of LGN.)

Which is how we end up with bisexual people who call themselves gay or straight. Because they really believe that they are. There's no third option, after all. And that way lies "lesbians who like dick/gay men who like pussy"... which isn't good for ANY of us :(

Yup exactly. It is in everyone's best interest to call out bisexual erasure when it happens! That does affect L/G people, whether we take the time to call it out or not.

[–]reluctant_commenter 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

And there are straight men and women who call themselves gay/lesbian. And straight people who say they're bisexual but have no same-sex interest. I've met people like this IRL; the cognitive dissonance is staggering to witness.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

the fake bis are a old phenomenon. Like usually young girls wanting to be cool. Or they might think they would be into trying to have sex with a woman, so this makes them bi, except they're not have any real same sex attraction.

[–]reluctant_commenter 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Yeah, exactly. That is literally what people say on Tumblr, that "if you could hypothetically be into a person of the same gender/sex, even though you're not, then you're bisexual" lol I could hypothetically turn into a chicken and fly off into the sunset but that's not gonna happen for multiple reasons.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 5 insightful - 3 fun5 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

You're funny, I like funny girls, especially when I'm insomniac lol

[–]reluctant_commenter 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Aw, thanks Elvira :)