So, even though gender is "fluid," Elliot Page was always a man

JulienMayfair · 2020-10-31T22:02:25+00:00

I remember the point when it finally dawned on me what trans activists were demanding compared to what LGB activists had traditionally demanded. TRAs demand a fundamental shift in how sex and gender are defined FOR EVERYONE IN THE ENTIRE HUMAN RACE.

Think for a minute about the magnitude of that demand compared to, say, our demand to be able to engage in relationships with our partners of choice without constant moral condemnation.

Once you grasp the massive scope of TRA demands, nothing they affirm or deny should surprise you. We wanted to be left alone to live our lives. They are at war with reality.

JulienMayfair · 2020-12-26T03:25:16+00:00

That subreddit fell to gender ideology and long time ago, and yes, the irony is not lost.

JulienMayfair · 2020-12-10T14:27:38+00:00

We spent 30 years hammering home the idea that sexual consent may be revoked at any time for any reason.

Then TRAs showed up to turn people into oppressors for withholding sexual consent.

JulienMayfair · 2021-04-13T00:17:16+00:00

One behavior pattern that the women of r/GenderCritical had figured out is that pushing their way into other groups' spaces is part of the thrill. To be able to coerce "inclusion" makes them feel powerful and validated.

There were stories of trans women who would go around a town and join every group for women they could find, at which point, they would provoke conflicts and demand that all conversation center on them. Then, when the women responded negatively, they would cry "transphobia" and try to get the group shut down.

How many times have we heard that? A group exists for women discussing reproductive health, and a trans woman arrives and starts policing everyone's language when, in fact, not having any of those reproductive parts, he has no reason to be there.

JulienMayfair · 2021-06-19T16:06:44+00:00

I posted this elsewhere, but I've noticed that one common TRA strategy is to break things down into weird little pieces and then come up with arguments based on those pieces in isolation with no reference to how those pieces are integral to some kind of whole. The thing is, attraction is holistic. We take in everything about that person.

If you're 6'6" with a square jaw, wide shoulders, a prominent Adam's apple, huge hands, and a deep voice, you're not going to come across to anyone as female. Anyone who can see will add those things up in a fraction of a second. Talking about genitals and genital preferences is a red herring. Attraction is not based on any one thing; it's the whole picture.

We should always call TRAs out on this when they pursue style of argument.

Edit: I have a high-functioning autistic friend, and he has a tendency to do this as well. He's a friend, but it can be maddening.

JulienMayfair · 2020-07-14T20:33:02+00:00

"You're going to regret this."

Oh, believe me, we do.

JulienMayfair · 2021-03-25T00:44:42+00:00

We did not adequately vet her background before formally hiring her.

Umm, bullshit. Challenor's problems were all highly public knowledge that anyone could have found via the simplest Google search. Getting ejected from TWO political parties in the UK isn't something you accidentally overlook.

"We didn't adequately vet her background" might be credible where there was a charge from 20-30 years ago that might not show up on a background check.

Reddit is simply infested with TRAs and TRA sympathizers who thought no one would notice. Who will they hire next? Maybe they can offer Jessica Yaniv a public relations position. What's Karen White doing these days? Is he out of prison?

JulienMayfair · 2020-12-01T18:55:28+00:00

It's amazing how quickly they retcon someone's entire career to the point where an account of it now reads like the female characters she played were played by a man in drag.

JulienMayfair · 2020-07-18T14:20:22+00:00

He told me he found it demeaning because it was “what was used to describe us a mental illness” at one point.

Yet he probably embraces 'queer.'

JulienMayfair · 2020-07-10T21:06:13+00:00

I feel like it's almost better to have it over with than to be waiting for the ban hammer to fall. In any event, kudos to the mods for having the foresight to have our new place all ready for us!

It was getting to be like living in an apartment with a really shitty landlord . . .

JulienMayfair · 2020-09-30T18:37:31+00:00

Update: And now the T there are playing the "This is making me feel unsafe, and I may have to leave" card. What crybullies they are. One the one hand, they've maneuvered themselves into mod positions where they can ban anyone they like, but on the other, they have to play the victim whenever someone doesn't kiss their asses.

Edit: And now they've dragged racism (Strategy #2) into it, even though no one on the gay side mentioned race.

And here comes Strategy #3: Denounce anyone who disagrees with you as having "archaic ideas about gender." No has told anyone else that they need to educate themselves -- yet. The TQ+ congratulate themselves on being so sophisticated.

Edit 2: The shit is now flying so fast that even the TQ+ are attacking each other. One said that he thought gay men who wanted gay male only spaces should just so somewhere else. Another one attacked him asking if that meant he thought it would be OK to have a whites only group. (I guess by implication, the second guy is saying that it's not even OK for gay men to leave the group; they have to stay there and support the TQ+ even while they're being told to shut up.) The first attacked back saying that the second had a toxic need to "school" people even though they are basically on the same side.

Edit 3: Now lots of people are commenting on "how toxic this group is." They're not wrong, but they probably won't have the courage to say that the toxicity came in with the drive to be inclusive and centering of the QT+.

Edit 4: There are now 449 (!) posts on this one thread with people going back and forth, mostly trashing each other. I think one of the myths underlying the whole mess is that there is something known as the LGBTQIA+++ community. No, it's not a community. It's a bunch of people whose interests don't really align, and if you force them together, the only way to do it is by actively silencing dissent.

Edit 5: And speaking of actively silencing dissent, the Mod Police are now on the scene with this comment:

Hey, Moderator here. Just a reminder to flag transphobic and transexclusionary comments. They go against or community guidelines and have no place here. We don’t know they’re there if you don’t flag them for us. Thanks for your help!

Gotta ban the wrongthinkers.

JulienMayfair · 2020-07-19T22:49:04+00:00

Still, even those posts are pretty mild compared to what transwomen write about lesbians who won't date them. Those quickly devolve into fantasies of torture, mutilation, rape, and murder. And they get away with it.

JulienMayfair · 2020-07-14T16:42:59+00:00

Why do they say we are a "hate sub"?

Because someone else told them we are.

It's also because these days, "hate" has been defined as simply disagreeing with someone about a topic they have deemed sacrosanct.

It's pretty clear that AGB is deeply divided on the topic of trans.

JulienMayfair · 2020-07-14T13:57:11+00:00

I agree, but I think this group has always been political.

I would like the LGB to oppose things like 1) Unrestricted Self-ID, 2) Tracking children into transition, and 3) Transwomen in women's sports.

In terms of gender, yes, we spent the 60s, 70s, 80s, and 90s trying to loosen the bonds of gender roles. Then, strangely, people started wanted to put themselves back into boxes. We may need to understand why people want to put themselves back into gender boxes, even if they are new ones, rather than do without them. Has the postmodern ethos left people with such a lack of a sense of stable identity that people are returning to gender roles for a sense of stability?

JulienMayfair · 2021-08-24T18:30:56+00:00

Back on the Gender Critical subreddit, some women theorized that one of the games some TRAs play is to look for places where they are likely not welcome and then try to get into those places -- for the psychological payoff of forcing women to accept their presence.

I'll never forget one account I read on there of a trans woman who came to a workshop for pregnant women and crossed a lot of boundaries with the other participants. I mean, why would you do that?

JulienMayfair · 2020-12-01T19:00:33+00:00

I wonder if her wife will now have to come out as bi/straight.

I just googled her, and the wife (Emma Portner) looks a good deal more manly than Page.

My prediction: They will both transition and will insist that everyone refer to them as a gay male couple.

JulienMayfair · 2020-09-01T17:52:01+00:00

A straight man wrote the novel Call Me By Your Name upon which the movie is based. A straight woman wrote the story that became Brokeback Mountain.

Claiming you can't write about anything other than your own experience is just more toxic identity politics.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-17T18:35:06+00:00

Ethics? Character? Integrity? Trust? What are those things compared to the pleasures of tricking someone into sex?

JulienMayfair · 2021-07-04T02:31:53+00:00

America 2021: You can't peacefully assemble to make your voice heard in a public space without being attacked by Antifa. This is domestic terrorism.

Twenty years ago, I went toe to toe with Westboro Baptist Church types at a gay event, and I have to give them credit. They knew and obeyed the law. They were horrible people, but they didn't physically attack us, nor did we attack them. We all played by the rules of civil society.

But trans activists? Forget it. They'll try to beat the shit out of you. I think Andy Ngo (who I heard is gay) is right about Antifa and their ties with trans activism.

JulienMayfair · 2021-06-07T02:19:27+00:00

I mean for me anyone showing me their genitals at that much of an early stage is a firm no.

Yeah, gay men NEVER send dick pics or general nudes to each other before meeting in person for the first time. Absolutely unheard-of. We'd NEVER rent a room in a bathhouse and lie there naked while others stroll by to inspect the goods and offer their own. We're all much too high-minded for that sort of behavior.

What do you want to bet we'd find that this queen's private messages aren't quite as noble as her tweets?

JulienMayfair · 2021-03-25T12:32:01+00:00

Unfortunately, the TQ+ seem to be the embodiment of everything the religious right warned people about years ago.

JulienMayfair · 2020-12-22T01:24:06+00:00

Reddit really specifically hates lesbians.

Reddit is currently dominated by TRAs, and TRAs definitely hate lesbians. Why? Because validation from real lesbians is what all these AGP trans women crave above all else. They don't care if a bunch of guys won't acknowledge them, but women must do as they are told. Women must play along with male entitlement.

JulienMayfair · 2020-07-16T16:33:07+00:00

It reminds me of someone who thinks he's a jazz musician because he's been playing at home by himself. Then he decides to go to an open jazz jam and gets booted off the stage because he's not nearly as good as he thinks he is.

I have seen this happen IRL.

People have all sorts of ideas about themselves, but like other posters have said, a reality check was badly needed for this girl. How do you fancy yourself a gay men when you have no fucking idea what gay men and gay male sexual culture is like? Where did she get her ideas?

JulienMayfair · 2020-12-02T16:10:44+00:00

I remember reading that, as a result of COVID and students staying home, quite a few young women had detransitioned, strongly indicating the role of social contagion on transition.

JulienMayfair · 2020-09-12T14:13:24+00:00

No, I can't vote for Trump. Even more than gay rights at this point, I care about the planet and the natural environment, and Trump's anti-environmentalist policies are unacceptable to me. Second is healthcare. I'm self-employed and have bought my health insurance for the last few years via the exchange. While not perfect, the ACA has been important for me. Republicans refuse to do anything about healthcare. Trump said he would repeal the ACA and replace it with something better. Four years later, we still haven't heard word one about what that would be.

While I might agree with Trump on a few principles, it's not enough to outweigh the fact that he's basically a horrible human being, unqualified for his job, most of which is done by the people around him who cover for him.

And his response to COVID was to drop the ball.

The TQ+ agenda is annoying, but it's not more important to me than protecting the planet.

JulienMayfair · 2020-07-15T17:55:23+00:00

This is one of those cases where I think gendered expectations do come into play in the sense that women are supposed to be agreeable and compliant, looking out for any supposed underdog. A lot of SciFi/Fantasy readers imagine themselves as outcasts of one sort or another, and I think they saw Rowling as someone who understood them and wrote to them. Because she has stood up for her principles -- which they consider the wrong ones -- they can't forgive her, especially when we are in such a crazy cultural moment.

In contrast, Gervais has always been snarky and has a very different fan base.

As to how it got this bad, most cultural analysts are in agreement: Social media in general and Twitter in particular. It is having a corrosive effect on our ability to function as a society where people with different points of view can live together without constantly being at war. People now see this constant bickering as normal.

JulienMayfair · 2021-02-04T23:31:32+00:00

She didn't, but to pathological narcissists, the world is divided into black and white. Everyone validating my self-image = good. Everyone refusing to validate my self-image = bad.

JulienMayfair · 2020-12-04T15:51:06+00:00

Apparently all there is to being a woman is having long hair and wearing dresses and makeup. Who knew!

JulienMayfair · 2020-08-31T14:41:47+00:00

Sex and dating choices are inherently discriminatory. My sexual and dating choices are none of anyone else's business, but they can't stand that and want to make my choices their business. The fact is that I don't owe anyone validation or sexual access to my body. If I don't want to date someone who's made up like a circus clown, I don't have to. Maybe I don't want to date someone who has to be the center of attention in every room.

I've been saying for years that identity politics should be provisional and should be discarded once it accomplishes its reasonable civil rights goals. When you become permanently invested in it, it becomes a road that leads to endless and ever-more fine-grained obsession with grievance along with ever-more overbearing demands on everyone around you. It leads away from the path to becoming a mature adult with healthy boundaries.

Also, it's funny that all those "unique" individuals are dressed up in very conventional fetish gear.

So, go ahead -- be and do whatever you want, but don't demand that I praise you for it or tell you that I find it desirable when I don't. I'm not required to. I don't owe you anything.

JulienMayfair · 2020-07-12T18:01:17+00:00

"My [female] partner passes as a female."

The mental gymnastics . . .

I feel bad for this guy and the slippery slope he doesn't even realize he's on.

JulienMayfair · 2021-04-17T01:30:00+00:00

At the risk of sounding like a member of the Religious Right from the 1980s, kids don't need queerness or gender diversity marketed to them. They'll learn it all soon enough.

JulienMayfair · 2021-03-11T16:37:26+00:00

But like.......isn't that ultimately how all sexualities work.

Exactly. All desire is exclusionary because you want one thing and not another.

Who demands that you like all flavors of ice cream equally? Maybe peanut butter ice cream just doesn't appeal to me. The TRA response would be, "YOU HAVE TO BE OPEN TO EATING PEANUT BUTTER ICE CREAM. NOT BEING OPEN TO EATING PEANUT BUTTER ICE CREAM IS HATEFUL AND PEANUT-PHOBIC!"

JulienMayfair · 2021-08-14T01:55:29+00:00

I'm reminded once again of a memorable quote: "Transgender people are, perhaps, the only oppressed people in history who consider themselves oppressed because their purported oppressors won't fuck them."

JulienMayfair · 2021-03-25T22:26:25+00:00

I personally just can't WAIT for some 20 year-old to start lecturing me about how proud transwoman Marsha P. Johnson threw the first brick at Stonewall and started the whole LGBTQIA+++ movement. /s

I marched in my first Gay Pride Parade in 1990, back when it was still grassroots and genuinely political, since we were in the middle of the AIDS Crisis. We had religious protesters lined up condemning us. Sodomy was illegal. LGB soldiers were being witch-hunted out of the military. Same-sex marriage was like science fiction.

So, basically, my generation snow-plowed ALL this shit out of the way, so some little purple-haired fuckwit can call me a horrible cis-male oppressor. Cry me a river, sweetheart.

JulienMayfair · 2021-03-24T04:14:07+00:00

Yes, I supported the general concept of trans rights, and I think trans people do certainly deserve full civil rights, but not past the point where they start infringing on the civil rights of others. That's where it all went off the rails for me.

There's also the fact that the trans demographic has gone through massive changes with the end of medical gatekeeping and the rise of self-ID, unleashing a flood of heterosexual male autogynephiles who were, historically, never part of the LGB community, which is all too obvious as per their behavior.

JulienMayfair · 2020-07-14T16:46:33+00:00

I know some people who know Tobia, and they are pretty unanimous in private that he's simply a gay men who dresses in women's clothes for attention. He's been writing the same pity-me piece about why people won't date him since he was in college.

JulienMayfair · 2021-03-31T17:20:43+00:00

They also can't explain any distinction or boundary between what's an acceptable identification and what isn't. For example, if I'm 48, but identify as 24, who's to say that's not true? If I look human, but identify as a cat, why can't I be treated at the local vet? If I appear white, but identify as black . . . well, we all know how that goes.

They say you're just being an asshole when you bring up examples like that, but, in the end, what is the distinction that makes one assertion acceptable and another unacceptable? They won't admit it, but the answer is always: Because I said so.

JulienMayfair · 2021-12-27T18:17:36+00:00

Obligatory repost of the fact that "same-sex attraction" was the neutral term used by Foucauldian academics (of all people) to discuss the phenomenon in all sorts of scholarly articles in the 1990s and 2000s. It was considered the neutral term because it didn't carry the medical connotations of 'homosexual' or the current cultural associations of 'gay.'

Scholars -- including prominent Queer Theorists -- studying the history of sexuality would discuss how societies handled "same-sex attraction" in ancient Greece, or Rome, or Japan.

This guy talking about how no one used the term 'same-sex attraction' is just an illiterate little shit.

JulienMayfair · 2021-05-14T14:03:08+00:00

go fuck themselves

Which is the solution to their problem.

JulienMayfair · 2021-03-26T21:06:18+00:00

It's always some excuse like, "All these anti-gender ideology posts are due to LGBDropTheT being shut down, so they came over here."

No, asshole, we were already there. A lot of gay men aren't buying into your shit. Sorry if you can't face that.

These people live in bubbles where every thought they don't like is banned, and then they're shocked, SHOCKED!, to find out that a lot of people disagree with them.

JulienMayfair · 2021-05-14T14:07:01+00:00

I remember when we actually taught people that they were responsible for their own feelings. We really screwed up as a culture when we started down this path of making everyone responsible for everyone else's feelings because it ends up handing leverage over to the most fucked-up people.

JulienMayfair · 2021-02-26T14:20:47+00:00

"heterosexual trans-attracted men"

So, aren't these men the "chasers" that trans people reportedly don't like, the ones who, to quote a guy I knew in college, want "a chick with a dick"?

I only say that because it flies in the face of so much TRA rhetoric. "Oh, my trans woman penis isn't like a male penis." Compare that to:

The 31-year-old tells me he’s been on Grindr for about three years and has connected with “lots” of women, the most recent being his favorite. “I met a beautiful, articulate trans top who fucked me,” he explains. “I don’t typically bottom, but it was such a profoundly erotic experience that it converted me to being fully versatile.”

So much for "genital preferences = bad"?

JulienMayfair · 2020-12-12T17:01:49+00:00

Either the now ex-boyfriend must either be blind or not the sharpest tool in the shed. The mastectomy scars are a dead giveaway. And he can't tell a surgically-constructed phaux-nis from a real penis? I'm not even sure that this is a real post.

Edit: That reddit account has been suspended.

JulienMayfair · 2020-08-22T21:52:05+00:00

Nothing says "civil rights" like a 200lb. guy stomping a 120lb. woman into the ground.

JulienMayfair · 2020-07-17T19:08:53+00:00

1) Can't even spell Johnson's name correctly.
2) Claims gay people are racist & misogynistic for quoting Johnson himself claiming he was a "boy."

That's a whole new level of stupid.

JulienMayfair · 2020-07-13T17:31:36+00:00

I had one minor peak a few years ago on the r/ainbow subreddit when someone was complaining about hearing the word 'trnny' (or can we use that on saidit?) on the radio. The thing is, it was in reference to someone talking about a *car's transmission*, not a trans person. I pointed out that words only have meaning in context and that among people who work on cars, tranny is common slang for transmission. It's also used for transformers in electronics. But no, this person said that *no one should use that word anymore in any context because it was what trans people were called when people were beating them to death.

That was my first moment of: These people are nuts. They think people are talking about them when they aren't even thinking about them at all.

Then, in 2018, I was doing some local volunteer working for the Democratic Party, including poll greeting, and ended up working alongside a very large transwoman. What occurred to me during this experience was there was nothing about this person that seemed like a woman at all. In manner, behavior, speech, body language, ways of interaction with others, he seemed like nothing other than a man in an ill-fitting dress. He would go up to potential voters, looming over them and obviously creeping them out. I don't think he was helping us at all. That's what first sent me over to start reading Gender Critical where I started learning about the treatment of lesbians, child transition, women's sports, etc....

JulienMayfair · 2021-12-05T00:50:16+00:00

How did not wanting to have sex with human beings from one community in particular become a legitimate preference?

I think my brain just short-circuited. How can someone write something this absurd and not realize the absurdity of it? How did we get to the point where someone not being sexually attracted to you is a civil rights issue? Is this the autism talking? Or is it more pathological narcissism? I mean, I know someone with Asperger's and have seen him struggle to understand other people's feelings, but this is some truly next-level emotional illiteracy at work.

In any event, JUST KEEP TALKING, SWEETHEART. You're only digging yourself a deeper hole, and not one I'm interested in getting anywhere near.

NO ONE IS ENTITLED TO HAVING OTHER PEOPLE WANTING TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU.

JulienMayfair · 2021-11-23T16:25:33+00:00

When I read things like this, I feel like we have really failed an entire generation, having allowed them the license to think that they're entitled to a world where no one ever disagrees with them, and anyone who does should be met with violence. It's a toddler's mentality.

JulienMayfair · 2021-11-13T21:06:27+00:00

Yeah -- and if you state a genital requirement, you're painting a target on yourself for the TQ+ squad.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-16T00:49:38+00:00

I think non-binary has run its course as a trend. Everyone is tired of it. It's like some tired dance craze that now clears the dance floor, the Macarena of identities.

JulienMayfair · 2021-09-05T12:48:39+00:00

If you were wondering what it's like being inside the head of someone with a major Personality Disorder, look no further.

About 10 years ago, a woman got obsessed with a gay friend of mine and decided that they were destined to be together. She got to the point where she broke into his house while he was on vacation, stole all his email contacts, and emailed her sexual fantasies about him to everyone, including his family and business clients. It cost him and his partner thousands of dollars in legal expenses dealing with the fallout, including getting restraining order. She ended up doing a stint in a mental hospital and subsequently fled the state after violating the restraining order.

JulienMayfair · 2021-04-12T22:46:31+00:00

Fine. I'm a horrible cis white gay man. We're all evil, so evil in fact, that you shouldn't have any sexual interest in us whatsoever. Sleeping with us would be sleeping with the enemy. You should stay as far away from all of us as humanly possible. Deal?

JulienMayfair · 2021-01-08T20:04:10+00:00

Quick, easy answer: Most of the LGB left.

JulienMayfair · 2020-09-03T16:06:33+00:00

Where are all the men?

With other men and not hanging out with a bunch of blue/green/pink/purple-haired gender trenders.

JulienMayfair · 2020-08-22T19:33:28+00:00

I think we can safely assume that this is about transwomen playing rugby with women and not about transmen playing rugby with men.

JulienMayfair · 2020-07-10T21:11:34+00:00

GenderCritical was the big "Give me her head on a platter" gesture to the TRAs from Reddit management. It was the most notorious all over Reddit for resisting trans ideology.

JulienMayfair · 2021-07-24T15:58:48+00:00

I remember when I met "Margot," a transwoman friend of a friend. This was ~15 years ago. We were at a club where the lighting was low. After about five minutes, I turned to my friend and whispered in his ear, "Margot used to be a man, right?" He said, "Yes, but don't mention that you've noticed. She hates it when people notice."

Margot was 1) too tall, 2) had shoulders that were too big and wide, and 3) had an Adam's apple. And I'd say Margot actually passed pretty well.

JulienMayfair · 2021-07-12T19:59:38+00:00

To put it another way, I think they perceive the bond that lesbians have with lesbians and gay men have with gay men, and they realize that they are never really going to be able to experience that. From that perception comes a deep resentment and a desire to make us as miserable as they are.

JulienMayfair · 2021-04-01T17:15:10+00:00

Did LGB ever ask for anything like that from straight allies?

No, we just asked to be treated like everyone else.

JulienMayfair · 2021-03-25T12:41:10+00:00

It's just like the story of the gay male group I've posted about. A bunch of trans-identified individuals maneuvered themselves into mod positions, and when they had achieved critical mass, they implemented new rules and shut down any discussion they didn't like.

It's their standard operating procedure now, just like organized crime running a protection racket.

JulienMayfair · 2021-03-25T01:38:44+00:00

GLAAD has actually been a pretty shitty organization for a long time. How do I know? I applied for a GLAAD dissertation fellowship. I didn't get it, but one of the members of their committee was so disgusted by the way the deliberations went that he contacted me privately and leaked to me why they turned me down. Even 20 years ago, it was all about who you were instead of how good your scholarship was. Basically, I didn't check the right identity boxes.

JulienMayfair · 2020-12-02T01:50:45+00:00

Part of me thinks, "Fine. Go ahead. Attack the vast majority of the world's population over a term most of them haven't even thought about. See how far that gets you. Shoot yourself in the foot as many times as it takes."

JulienMayfair · 2020-07-28T12:06:39+00:00

The myth of gender utopia.

JulienMayfair · 2020-07-21T03:02:08+00:00

"trans ppl just want to live their lives"

They want to live theirs -- and run yours.

JulienMayfair · 2020-07-17T16:47:31+00:00

For the moment, we may have to content ourselves with being a reservoir of sanity in a world increasing going through a crazy period. I can't help but think that as TRAs become ever more arrogant and controlling, they are going to step on more and more toes and eventually trigger a major backlash. Sadly, some of it is probably going to come from the results of medical experimentation on kids. And there are bound to be more Jessica Yanivs.

JulienMayfair