There is a lot of reasonable conversation that can be and must be had about whether gender and sex dysphoria are or should be considered a mental disorder

Certainly. But what I'm referring to was not a reasonable discussion. It was just name calling or memes. Someone saying how TRA's policing people's sexualities is ridiculous and then adding "I'm not going to fuck someone I don't want just because a group of self-mutilation crossdressers expects this".

Or someone saying "Trans issue will solve itself" and then slapping a meme about 40% of trans people committing sucidie.

I think the feelings are real and distressing. I think the preoccupation with social roles and aesthetics is societally driven. But that having a compulsion to surgically alter your healthy functioning body parts and render them non-functioning is extreme and disordered thinking, and can never be considered morally neutral IMO. By that, I mean if a child has two pathways in front of them that could lead to happiness and one of them requires a lifetime of medicalization and surgery and affirming irreality and the other path is acceptance of their healthy body as it is, then there is no way I think those pathways should be considered equally viable. Many trans people are fully able to recognize this too (e.g, Blaire White, Buck Angel, and Scott Newgent), and there is nothing meaningfully transphobic about that or about allowing those conversations or comments. Nor am I going to get worked up about comments about “mutilation” unless there is something else more to it that seeks to insult people’s humanity. For example, I absolutely think the groomers encouraging body dissociation and gleefully encouraging butch lesbians to get double mastectomies as if they’re like hair dye or a fashion choice, are recklessly encouraging body mutilation and surgical self harm. This needs to be called out and I’m not very impressed by those who are more concerned about policing the language used to discuss serious issues than the underlying issues themselves.

Ultimately, I don’t think “trans people” are an identifiable group of people with a set definition. It’s an ideological concept with pretty much all trans-identifying people not even considering several other trans-identifying people truly “trans.” Are they all transphobic too? I do think “transsexual” is a thing but I think transsexual is a state/result of specific actions taken or the process of those actions, independent of ideology about the meaning of those actions or how their actions should be treated under law.

You don't have to preach to me about any of this, as I fully agree. I think what trans people need for their suicide rates to drop, is self-acceptance – so something all of us in LGB community needed to grow emotionally. Instead, they're being spoon-fed with questionable and potentially risky, mostly permanent solutions and the tendency to push this onto youth is scary and cult-like delusional.