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[–]Movellon 39 insightful - 5 fun39 insightful - 4 fun40 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

It’s almost as though sex is real, gender identity is nonsense and sexual orientation is based on biological sex.

[–]JulienMayfair 38 insightful - 4 fun38 insightful - 3 fun39 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

"My [female] partner passes as a female."

The mental gymnastics . . .

I feel bad for this guy and the slippery slope he doesn't even realize he's on.

[–][deleted] 23 insightful - 1 fun23 insightful - 0 fun24 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

To be fair, he's going through those mental gymnastics because he obviously loves his partner. He realises that she's a woman and he's attracted to women.

I don't blame him for trying to find a compromise. He's just learning the hard way that that's not how life works--sometimes there are no compromises.

[–][deleted] 30 insightful - 1 fun30 insightful - 0 fun31 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

It amazes me that it takes so many people so long to realise that love is, in fact, conditional. Anyone who claims to love someone 'unconditionally' doesn't know themselves well enough to have realised what it takes to make a relationship work and what their limits are.

If my partner ever came out as 'a woman' the relationship is over. It doesn't matter how much I may love them but, at that point, the relationship simply can no longer work and yes, my feelings of love will be challenged and start to fall apart.

I'm increasingly of the opinion that many of these trans/non-binary people have never really grown up and come to terms with life, love and everything else. There's an almost tangible narcissism and overinflated sense of entitlement to the way they reason.

[–]highgemini 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Totally agree with you. My partner and I have both discussed this and know that else are lesbians. We both know that if one of us decided we were male or NB that we would no longer be attracted to the other.

[–]LiterallyawomanTERF IRL 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

People who think love is unconditional tend to end up doing very poorly in life imho. If you have zero expectations of yourself or your partner with poor boundaries you’re in for a bad ride

[–]Rosefield 20 insightful - 2 fun20 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Sounds like an abusive relationship. He has to walk on eggshells.

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 14 insightful - 4 fun14 insightful - 3 fun15 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

I used to say in the old sub that literally anyone can become pansexual under the new definition because it's no longer about what sex you're attracted to but what 'gender' you're attracted to, and despite the 'pan' in the name, being attracted to just more than one 'gender' is enough to qualify - even straight people can qualify. A lot of my jokes are based on hyperbole so I think a lot of people thought I was kidding, but whoomp! there it is!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fdKsgBNEHUU

[–]Criticallacitirc 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This is why sexual orientation is based on sex & not gender identity. OP is a biological male in a relationship with a biological female, they are in a heterosexual relationship. They are both straight. I swear, why is everyone making it so complicated?

[–]crypkidsformally 'rezkidsinlove' 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Chick just wanted this straight dude to call himself pansexual so she can tell herself she's 'VaLiD' while she infiltrates LGB spaces that don't belong to her.

There used to be an artist on tumblr who made a comic about very senario, but alas, she deleted and her stuff isn't as easily found anymore. 'Violet' something or other.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Poor guy. RUN!

[–]Eurowoman24 9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

bruh... still a straight male tho!

[–]fuck_reddit 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

All I gotta say is Yikes!

[–]Three_oneFourWanted for thought crimes in countless ideologies 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

And this is why the gender definition of sexuality is 110% BS. If you're attracted to genders, then no sexuality other than pan can exist because anyone could identify as anything

[–]highgemini 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That poor guy he’s in a lose-lose either way.

[–]Ossidiana 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This may be rude to say, but that nutcase lady really deserves to be dumped by this poor dude.

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Bored heteros like this woman need a hobby.

Nvm- I guess this is it; Poor dude..