I know a couple of trans women that I sense worry about passing, who very definitely do not. They play along when topics like women's hormone cycles come up, but don't add any personal experiences, of course. And I politely don't walk them into the same conversations I would normally have with women about such things, because I know they aren't women and therefore can't go there for real.

Neither of them is an asshole or spewing TRA bullshit so mostly I feel protective of them and cringe on their behalf about what's going on in their neck of the woods. It's got to be pretty scary to be a decent trans person right now, and that's something I've gleaned from a few I've read on Twitter. I'd worry about passing, too, if other people who identified the way I did were busy making complete asses of themselves, claiming to speak for all trans people, and causing a backlash. It's a hell of a trap to be in—not passing, while watching nutjobs smear your entire demographic as rapey, narcissistic bullies.