The sky is falling and the TW+ chickens are coming home to roost

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2021-10-10T04:03:13+00:00

Some individuals may not but like everything else pushed with the media on this subject--they want us all lumped together.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2021-10-09T21:05:53+00:00

"The best case scenario is the LGB side of the community loses patience with them and drops them long before the mainstream does" I think we're at the point where more of us have than haven't, yet the mainstream still continues to lump us all together, when the issue is always the TQ. I'm not in the UK but I doubt it's the LGB folks who are having a meltdown over this, yet always reported "LGBTQ". We're at the point where an individual is rarely recognized in the media as "a lesbian", "a gay man" it's "a LGBTQ person". "Normies" think LGBT(etc. etc) is just "one big happy family". Meanwhile how many of us same sex attracted folks even feel remotely welcome muchless represented in "the community" these days?

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2021-10-08T15:11:53+00:00

While in "girl clothes"--so what, princess dresses?

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2021-10-08T15:10:07+00:00

Except of course for those of us who are actually LGB, we're just "bigots"....but hey, there's a letter for every straight now!

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2021-10-07T20:08:39+00:00

"Queer people are erased entirely"--did they check under the heterosexuals that need constant attention category?

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2021-09-09T21:07:34+00:00

Pervs.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2021-09-07T20:36:16+00:00

Exactly....as a lesbian I find masculine women to be very attractive, but if she cuts off her tits, grows a beard, goes bald, gets ab implants, and all the other things testosterone does to a woman....that's a hell no.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2021-09-07T14:44:36+00:00

But it doesn't superimpose the trans flag over it so it's still sooper-dooper bigoted!

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2021-09-06T17:14:00+00:00

Two. This is totally not a Munchausen mommy!

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2021-08-24T18:53:52+00:00

First time I met a transbian in the real world, it was a typical dude with a buzzcut.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2021-08-16T19:17:10+00:00

No, I would not.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2021-06-05T02:54:29+00:00

I just can't believe they're acknowledging butch lesbians instead of calling them "trans men"

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2021-03-29T03:36:55+00:00

I peaked in real life by a "butch transbian" (aka normal straight dude who just declared himself a woman/lesbian) who had this same argument. "Women wear jeans and t shirts, women don't have to wear makeup..." Before I realized how bad this ideology is, I figured he would be in for quite a rude awakening when he hit the real world (he was about 20 years old). Nope, anything goes---it's the ones who question it that get laughed at/canceled

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2021-03-26T00:19:01+00:00

Propaganda to the normies. And the uber wokes, even those who aren't themselves gender specials, are equally as annoying and tend to travel in circles with only other uber wokes (as everyone else slowly backs off).

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2021-03-02T07:14:06+00:00

The hook line and sinker of trans ideology, the "equality act", bathrooms, sports, locker rooms. Full on literal believers in "TWAW"

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2021-03-02T07:08:24+00:00

I can't believe it either. But there's a lot I can't freaking believe is reality these days! Yes the Dems really have blown it. This is more of a "people who can think critically and actually look at the evidence" than a left vs. right thing. A lot of my woke libfem friends are astounded people on the left aren't supporting this!

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2021-02-27T21:25:31+00:00

Weiner is also responsible for writing the bill that allows any male bodied person who either identifies as woman, or even "non binary" into women's prisons. What a gem.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2021-02-27T16:12:59+00:00

I'm surprised the headline lead with "transgender woman" instead of merely "woman" like a lot of these things do, then having to scroll to down to find picture of obvious man

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2021-02-27T09:18:08+00:00

But how will Munchausens parents justify the puberty blockers if they no longer have "boy" and "girl" toy aisles?

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2021-02-27T05:06:20+00:00

Well, we're definitely not on "actual" lesbians that's for sure.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2021-01-24T17:46:28+00:00

Gee, how stunning and brave of him. I'm surprised he's not only capitalizing on being a "woman" but also a lesbian too. (Actually part of me wishes he would start drawing attention to his "lesbianism" so the world can see what's going on) Now that this "beautiful woman" will be in the public eye, the general public can picture "her" naked in the local women's locker room as we're told "there are no differences between poor, vulnerable transwomen and 'cis' women and it's their absolute right to see you naked"

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2021-01-24T17:42:52+00:00

The "woke" narcissistic parents would bring their kids to this "beautiful brave woman" in droves, and their friends will enforce how wonderful of parents they are for having a "trans kid" and for letting their kids be their "true selves" by sterilizing them before puberty and permanently surgically and hormonally altering their bodies.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2021-01-13T22:03:13+00:00

Everyone is a "lesbian" these days except actual women who are exclusively sexually attracted to other actual women--then we become "bigots". Sounds like a bunch of maybe bisexual maybe women talking about men. =/

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-12-25T21:05:25+00:00

Why not put together an entire team of transwomen? Especially at the Olympic level. I bet the opinion might shift then!

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-12-11T06:01:52+00:00

I'm sure a lot of the likes are genuine given the twitter crowd, but there are sites out there where twitter likes (retweets, followers, even comments) can be purchased.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-12-09T00:54:24+00:00

r/feminism is moderated by men

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-12-08T23:52:25+00:00

Well, my 50 something "non binary entity" lesbian friend on Facebook, who, unlike the rest of us is "sometimes like a man and sometimes like a woman" but it's fine to "say she/her" talks about "women's issues" still, still calls herself "wife", still talks about "lesbian issues," talks about how "penises are gross" (I mean, I agree too but don't feel the need to announce this on FB, as "terfy" as I may be), but hates those "evil, vile terfs especially JK Rowling" seems to think so. But wants to remind us that she's "trans too not just lesbian!"

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-12-08T01:33:58+00:00

Every class meeting is a pronoun circle

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-12-08T01:28:13+00:00

It's fairly new and has less than 400 subscribers. Once it hits the TRA radar, it won't be there. I lurk (I'm a lesbian), but I wouldn't post under my normal reddit name, as, eventually, it will be targeted.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-12-05T19:55:26+00:00

Anyone who would ever say that to you must be one of those evil "terfs" Absolutely anyone is a lesbian who says they are, except for homosexual vagina havers. Congratulations to both of you stunning and brave women!

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-12-05T07:07:39+00:00

Sorry--grammatical error. I fully agree with you and was attempting to make that point......should have been "unlike the rest of us". That Pelosi's wealth and power keeps her out of locker rooms, prisons, shelters, etc.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-12-05T04:56:08+00:00

It's popular (or appears to be popular.....not seeing a lot of actual voters polls on this issue), and she's not thinking. Also she's of the socioeconomic class where she won't have to deal with it, like the rest of us.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-12-05T04:32:53+00:00

"Dehumanising"

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-12-04T23:13:42+00:00

Absolutely the phrasing a well-adjusted emotionally stable person would use!

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-12-04T17:07:35+00:00

"Remember that most lesbians have girldicks and that rhetoric like this is literally killing 487 million innocent black transwomen every single hour"

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-12-04T03:40:44+00:00

She often displays very vulnerable and insecure body language, like in this interview. She's talked about struggling with depression, sexual harassment during XMen, likely has trauma she's not sharing with the entire world. Every trans man/nb woman I've met in real life has had serious trauma history. Cults and narcissists alike both prey on insecure, traumatized people.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-12-04T03:20:19+00:00

Everyone is supposed to forget Ellen ever existed, despite celebrity status. And not ask questions. Never ask the questions. In other news, we've always been at war with Eurasia.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-12-03T16:29:28+00:00

It's another insulting, made-up tumblr label that is now imposed on people who aren't into the massive hookup culture that has arisen in the same period. Though some people are into casual sex, it's not abnormal to not be, it's not a "sexual orientation."

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-12-02T19:52:32+00:00

"I'll see your 10 commandments and raise you the....Trans Commandments!"

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-11-16T18:14:06+00:00

Mulholland Drive

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-11-03T01:24:53+00:00

And that every last one of them is stunning and beautiful. Problem solved!

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-11-02T21:50:06+00:00

Uh-oh...all the cool non binaries are just "parent" these days. Guess he'll be coming out as a woman next month.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-11-01T19:01:53+00:00

I'm sure the other students were so distracted by the name that's all they could focus on.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-10-30T22:09:49+00:00

One of them is about to move in the other's childhood bedroom with him.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-10-30T22:07:52+00:00

LARPers gonna LARP.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-10-27T00:11:40+00:00

Whereas I disagree on some of her points (I'm not pro Trump) I'm very grateful she's speaking out.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-10-26T17:43:37+00:00

They bully society into bending over backwards constantly.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-10-21T19:28:35+00:00

You really think it'll take that long?

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-10-21T16:13:40+00:00

That's why so many women are declaring themselves "non binary" now.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-10-21T16:10:25+00:00

We fail to kiss their asses, basically.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-10-21T05:26:43+00:00

They get called terfs and cancelled.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-10-11T15:07:22+00:00

Nice to see some sanity in the comments section

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-10-09T15:51:34+00:00

That's how all cults recruit--they go for the isolated misfits, traumatized, etc. and offer them a "family"

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-10-06T15:12:31+00:00

I'm at the point where I hear "LGBT" in the mainstream and it's like nails on a chalkboard. It's always the T.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-10-04T20:30:17+00:00

They won't get the "gender euphoria" in the men's room. Also ever notice small, feminine gay men have never petitioned en masse to be let into the woman's room?

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-10-03T16:43:54+00:00

Yes. Only difference is they get the liberal feminist cheerleading once they declare they're women.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-10-03T02:43:19+00:00

Well, he's convinced me finally. I have been wrong about the "male privilege" all along. This person cannot get laid. Can you even imagine, fellow terfs, what that kind of oppression is?

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-10-02T21:59:39+00:00

And I'm a "vagina fetishist" because I won't "unlearn my genital preferences" and take the "girl dick". And if I complain about it my straight friends will determine I'm an evil terf.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-10-02T21:01:56+00:00

Deeply. They're not going to stop until every last woman is either a they, taking testosterone or both and every "woman" has a dick. I'll really blow their minds. I, too, have varied my clothing style throughout my life, exhibit some stereotypically feminine traits, some stereotypically masculine, some kind of neutral too....and....get this....I still call myself a woman. I must be in deep denial.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-10-02T16:46:04+00:00

But who else agrees I'm valid? This is only one person and the dopamine boost is nice but it may wear off quickly. Please, sub, am I valid? Do I belong here? Are there any lurking tberfs that might hurt my feelings?

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-10-02T16:14:42+00:00

Come to think of it, I've suffered from wealth dysphoria from very early childhood. I was not given every toy I asked for and I suffered for it. I never got that pony. I was dehumanized by being denied a ferrari on my 16th birthday by my tberf parents--trans-billionaire exclusionary radical feminists. Always claiming they "couldn't afford it". If only I were born a couple decades later I could have reported them for that horrible transbillionairephobic abuse.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-10-02T14:29:26+00:00

Meanwhile, I'm going to call my bank and credit card companies and inform them that I now identify as a billionaire and they better act accordingly or else it's literally murder!

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-10-02T04:00:44+00:00

Like the other commenter said on the thread, I, too, couldn't figure out if this was a parody at first. I wonder if Spotify employees who identify as supermodels also get their plastic surgeries paid for in order to become who they really are?

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-09-30T05:18:04+00:00

Narcissistic, autistic, very young, or unhealed childhood trauma. GC forums could be so so much more healing for the latter than the constant "yes we affirm you're a non binary entity. Congratulations for being yourself because you don't conform to stereotypes. Thanks so much for reminding us at least weekly. You're so brave. So glad I'm taking time out of my busy adult life to congratulate you on yet another trans/enby special day."

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-09-30T01:44:58+00:00

Narcissistic parenting. (one of the few remaining helpful communities on reddit is r/raisedbynarcissists) it's classic, just the method is new. I was raised by a narcissist--I was "marketed" into academics, but I was born in the 80s. So glad I wasn't born a few decades later and my mom didn't happen to want a son.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-09-28T14:30:40+00:00

I hate that this is happening (as a California woman it makes me sick to my stomach, actually), but I hope this finally peaks people. It does seem like from the comments the average person is appalled with this, especially when they realize it's self-id based.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-08-20T04:12:09+00:00

If it ever gets hacked and doxxed a lot may be in trouble in their personal and professional lives. Also, lower self-worth, lower expectations in relationships. This won't end well.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-25T14:17:33+00:00

Apparently those are "menstrutor's issues." According to TRAs women's issues include twirling, "feeling cute", "tiddies", and sleepovers to reclaim their lost girlhood at age 45.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-23T17:06:56+00:00

They're especially shocked when lesbians don't cater to male entitlement like most straight women do.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-23T16:43:24+00:00

Is liberal feminism anything more than a codependency movement?

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-21T14:56:15+00:00

"Am I welcome here?"="Hi everyone, please give me narcissistic supply! It's run out from 3 days ago when I asked the same thing in another female centric sub."

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-20T17:03:56+00:00

Congratulations--I know this was a very difficult move to make and you may be in for a few days-weeks of hurting and grieving, but there is another side. The other side is a happier and stronger you. And eventually you will meet a more compatible partner that can be an active participant in a relationship with you.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-19T21:31:29+00:00

"100 made up genders on the wall, 100 made up genders. Take one down pass it around...who needs hobbies when you've got 99 genders on the wall?"

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-19T17:42:28+00:00

She may also be a narcissist, have borderline personality disorder, or maybe untreated bipolar. It does hurt to leave someone you love, but it's not healthy.....I've left a narcissist too and it hurt at the time but on the other side of it is much higher self worth and, eventually, a more compatible partner. It also hurts to be in this dynamic, and--do you really want to be in this cycle for years, decades on end? Now you've got the gender stuff on top of it. How long before you get declared a "terf" in your friends circle if you show any signs less than doing backflips over each announcement?

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-19T17:26:22+00:00

Sounds like she runs the relationship with her fluctuating moods. This puts her always in control, and it doesn't feel equal...and it sounds like this has been going on since before the non binary announcement. It doesn't sound like the relationship is compatable or happy to begin with, and going forward it will continue to be this or worse. Every time you slip with "she" "It's THEY!!" and pulling back for another week or two. Meanwhile what's happening to your self worth? You can care about someone and even love someone and it doesn't mean it is the right partner for you. You deserve better. Sounds like you've already been conditioned by a narcissist in the past. The cycle just goes round and round until you get off it.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-19T17:08:02+00:00

The goalposts constantly move. When everything is transphobic, nothing is.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-19T16:45:59+00:00

It's really going to collapse when they start going after straight men.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-19T16:42:23+00:00

..must be the impression they get from actualnonlesbians

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-19T16:16:04+00:00

Hey now....their whole world also includes twitter ;)

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-19T16:14:17+00:00

And after JKR spoke out, many people who weren't involved in this debate before were finding GC and related subs. Reddit couldn't possibly have that.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-19T04:22:42+00:00

I've considered myself "progressive" for years but the last few months have really shown me how scary what is actually going on with the far left--it is getting culturally authoritarian. I still consider myself part of the left in general, but I don't agree that trans activism, homophobia, misogyny, cancel culture, deplatforming, burning books, and political violence to be progressive. Also the bullshit that anyone who questions the narrative trans activism (and I'm starting to see a few other issues) must be "right wing" is terrifying too

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-19T04:13:47+00:00

Totally the way any other healthy, mature adult would react. No personality disorder here, folks

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-19T02:23:07+00:00

"Sorry, I don't date narcissists"

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-19T02:17:53+00:00

Part of it is being here, and elsewhere. I really think that part of the mass purge on reddit wasn't entirely unrelated to JKR's comments. Those being introduced to this and some who read her work and saw the responses eyes were starting to be open and some would seek out more information on our position. Couldn't possibly have a 65K and growing forum on a platform as big as reddit, as well as all the related subs, that could possibly peak more people. I know the average joe (and our other 60K former members) doesn't know saidit, spinster, etc. as well as reddit and twitter at this point, but our arguments need to still be out there. If TRA voices are the only ones heard, a lot of people don't think critically beyond that.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-17T23:38:09+00:00

Overwhelming consensus amongst those not cancelled and deplatformed for asking questions, and/or pointing out the obvious?

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-17T16:52:09+00:00

No doubt in my mind I'd get cancelled by libfems on my Facebook I've known for over 20 years. Even if I so much said I support JKR. You'd definitely be cancelled, maybe worse.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-17T16:50:00+00:00

After they banned our subs, they're going into withdrawal. What else would they do with their lives?

And yes, we're just beating down the doors for the girldick and the constant "am I valid?"

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-17T15:48:42+00:00

They're burning the Harry Potter series, but we're "right wing" for asking questions. They cannot fathom the idea that most of us are left leaning.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-17T04:21:08+00:00

Congratulations! :)

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-16T17:11:03+00:00

Sadly, a lot of them are turning to testosterone

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-16T17:06:56+00:00

I tried to tell one of my straight best friends about the phenomenon and all the crap that was happening on reddit around last fall sometime. She's been roped in by her tech company into doing the "gender diversity trainings" at her job (aka they're using her hyper codependent niceness and makes a great handmaiden, apparently has a female "they" boss who she has to go around reminding everyone this boss is a "they"). Her response? "Oh, you should just get to know more trans people!" and "Reddit is male dominated" (she's never had a reddit account)---I was like "yeah, you are so close to getting it". She then told me about one of her acquaintances who is a "queer woman" who has a partner that went full on mastectomy, phalloplasty, etc' "No one would EVER do that if they weren't born in the wrong body". I haven't raised the subject since. I also have several other friends/aquintances that just form what they've been posting about JKR on Facebook knowing that my even attempting to say anything would just get me unfriended and banished for "terfiness"

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-16T06:47:17+00:00

I'm really starting to open my eyes to this.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-16T06:40:23+00:00

It's narcissistic parenting. I had the unfortunate experience of being raised by a narcissist (fortunately I was born decades before this trend), and so much of this is textbook, just now channeled into the kid being "trans" (it could be channeled into the kid being an academic genius, sports star, child actor, something else marketable.....but this is a new superspecial woke way of exploitation for a new generation)

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-16T05:37:01+00:00

Unfortunately your comment was a "poe's law" situation because trans rights activists are screaming about "feminine penises"/girldick/shenis/whatever they're calling it this week. This is how absurd this situation has become. And reddit banned the lesbians for standing up against it. It's that insane! When I first read your comment it really looked like a 50/50 sarcasm or TRA argument.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-16T04:59:14+00:00

I have always considered myself a progressive until the last few weeks. I still consider myself part of the left, but this past month has really made me open my eyes to the left, really really made me look at cancel culture, and I've been noticing more and more mysogyny in the left as I've been on my peak trans journey over the last couple of years. I never thought I wouldn't say I was a progressive, but I can't see TRA stuff, "sex work" stuff, cancel culture, political violence, book burning, censorship as remotely progressive. I will never be on the right but my eyes are deeply open. The more I open my eyes the more "politically homeless" I feel as a lesbian. We wouldn't even be able to physically gather in a group (as we an here) in a liberal city--rather that be in a "terf meeting" or an old fashioned lesbian bar... without being violently attacked by the left, and that's terrifying

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-16T04:43:00+00:00

....either that or (if it's a company email address) being held hostage by their HR department

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-16T04:25:37+00:00

Kids are being indoctrinated into this online and in schools, trans classmates in pre-school, etc. There's a phenomenon the last few years of "rapid onset gender dysphoria" mostly among groups of girls where a lot of kids come out as trans, etc. all at once

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-16T03:04:08+00:00

And after she took the stand, all the subreddits got banned. Can't have people actually going to reddit to read our arguments, god forbid--they're too logical. God forbid people actually listen to well-informed women, listen to LGB people with concerns, listen to de-transitioners, or.....think critically.

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-16T02:54:20+00:00

Meanwhile, r/actualwomen....deemed another "hate group" and cancelled. I'm so thankful that JKR is standing up--she's got a wide platform, "fuck you" money, and is in an industry that she can't be blacklisted from ever working again. As depressing as the backlash has been, there's also a lot of comments across platforms in support of her and more are peaking every day. I'm so thankful we have online communities, still, to gather, but the real world is very depressing when trying to find other lesbians (maybe even more so for those of us who live in liberal cities)

SpatOuttheKoolaid · 2020-07-15T23:28:47+00:00

Sadly, the only thing that surprises me about this is the fact that sub has still been there (I figured because it was so small) Any women's space (and especially "feminist") space remaining on reddit will be run by men for men, allowing useful libfems.

SpatOuttheKoolaid