r/lgbt stages a glorious celebration of girldick by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I'm a trans woman, I'm a lesbian, I've had concerns with wanting bottom surgery, as I've said in other posts I worry about getting bottom surgery because of a lot of comments made about "how much of a shame it is when trans women with big dicks get bottom surgery"

W-who the hell asks this? 😂

Sunday - I'm 73 years but my new breasts are only 19 days old. by censorshipment in LGBDropTheT

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You made it worse 🤣!

Sunday - I'm 73 years but my new breasts are only 19 days old. by censorshipment in LGBDropTheT

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I HATE THAT YOU RUINED MY EYES WITH THIS TITLE!

Sorry enbies, the bros say a big fat no to non-men of all descriptions by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Lights cigarette

Former mod of r/detrans was "majorly confused," thought she was bisexual before realizing she is actually straight by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

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straight people never pretend to be bisexual

I know of quite a few people men and women who thought they were bi but life circumstances (like Helena) or sexual availability (a male friend of mine) put them into a situation that they tried to make it work. Once they were removed from that situation, they were able to assess what their true feelings (and true orientation) are.

Can't keep up with their own lies by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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When you do clownery, the clown bites back. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Sexuality means nothing anymore by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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Bro. They’re still male. If you like that, you’re bi (GAMP.) This isn’t some esoteric issue that needed all of those words FFS. 😂

Edit: spelling

Thank you for validating my big-dick lesbian energy uwu uwu uwu by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I had to read this comment a few times. I thought he was saying “I never thought I’d be this close to one of these (a lesbian).” 😮 How creepy would that have been lol. The fanfic thankfully never happened.

Why do LGB Alliance and LGN keep giving a platform to Julie Bindel, when she repeatedly makes homophobic and biphobic claims? by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

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Doesn’t she believe that she chose her own sexuality? She explains her stance back in 2015

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/video/2015/apr/22/julie-bindel-i-m-a-lesbian-but-i-wasnt-born-this-way-video

** I typed out a longer post that got deleted 😵‍💫. Will come back to add my thoughts again when I have more time.

Suddenly in a lesbian relationship! by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Bravo that you did.

Jennifer Bilek asks and I want formerly LGB orgs to answer. by our_team_is_winning in LGBDropTheT

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"Gay rights 2.0!"

Jennifer Bilek asks and I want formerly LGB orgs to answer. by our_team_is_winning in LGBDropTheT

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Your assessment matches what I’ve heard coming from feminists. They don’t admit to the schism but they were well aware of queer theory before it ever hit the gay mainstream in later years.

Let's celebrate my laughable delusion by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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That’s a cute story. 😂

Sage advice from one bro to another bro nervous about joining an LGBT+ hiking group by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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The best lover was a great comment 😂.

GC Twitters criticism of Pete & Chasten Buttigiegs Adoption is getting homophobic by Criticallacitirc in LGBDropTheT

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I noticed a lot of comments were upset at first because they thought this adoption was surrogacy but I noticed a shift in tone when they learned that the children were adopted instead.

I think people focusing on the developmental health of a young baby having access to its mother and breastfeeding is one thing (this applies to any family that adopts a young baby) - to say that gay men cannot be good fathers in infancy is another.

(And yes, I know that some new mothers cannot produce milk and that could possibly be a problem feeding a young baby.)

Tired of sex obsessed gay spaces - “ But as far as these gay spaces go they can burn for all I care” - Thoughts? by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT

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I don’t have an opinion about this since I’m not a gay man but I thought I’d share this tweet with the sub for discussion. :)

Deranged woman has Twitter meltdown because gay guys don't want to have sex with her by spanishprofanity in LGBDropTheT

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Wow. That’s fucked. Poor guy.

My co-worker transitioned overnight by ekb88 in GenderCritical

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It’s a big thing that’s being done to indigenous kids here who are in foster care as well. :(

My co-worker transitioned overnight by ekb88 in GenderCritical

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I always thought this was an American thing that would never enter the real world in the 90s. How wrong I was. :(. It has spread like mold.

My co-worker transitioned overnight by ekb88 in GenderCritical

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That sounds unbearable:(.

Excuse me, lesbians, can you overlook my transness and date me, pwease? 🥺 It's just a label, after all! by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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Date a transbian then. I’ll wait. 😂

50 years after our first major rights rally, this is what queer Canadians say we need today | CBC Arts by Femaleisnthateful in LGBDropTheT

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There is plenty of evidence that they let down the gay community like with Bruce McArthur.

Shouldn’t be hard for them to come up with QT examples. 👀

Has anyone noticed this on Grindr? by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT

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I've also had guys try and get me to pay to sleep with their "female roommate" on Grindr (aka, pimps trying to solicit and exploit women).

I’m shocked and losing what little faith I had left faith in mankind after reading this.

Has anyone noticed this on Grindr? by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT

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Great point.

Has anyone noticed this on Grindr? by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT

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We often talk about HER/giggle but I haven’t seen many comments about the homophobia on Grindr. What homophobia have you noticed on Grindr?

Marsha Marsha Marsha - the rewriting of history in concrete by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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😫 Why are there so many objectively awful people involved in this and why does nobody seem to care or do due diligence on them?

Gender Ideology 101: The origins by JoeyJoeJoe in LGBDropTheT

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GDAlliance did an interview with Shute just a short while ago. I encourage anybody to watch it:

https://youtu.be/edzyk-TQhEY

Some basics of queer theory - with Queer theory jeopardy:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n-NseFg2kno

I’ll post some more as I come across them.

An actual nursing student says… by Chunkeeguy in GenderCritical

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😂

Just wait til he hears who Stormé DeLarverie was... by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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Just say you want the T to be first and go. 🙄

Pop quiz: How many of you have heard of Dr John Money? (no spoilers please) by JoeyJoeJoe in LGBDropTheT

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I honestly thought that this info would be encountered early. When you find out about John Money or the roots of queer theory, it feels like you are peeling back the layers of a rotting onion. 😫

Pop quiz: How many of you have heard of Dr John Money? (no spoilers please) by JoeyJoeJoe in LGBDropTheT

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I hope so!

Pop quiz: How many of you have heard of Dr John Money? (no spoilers please) by JoeyJoeJoe in LGBDropTheT

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I’m shocked. We need to spread some info around then!

Pop quiz: How many of you have heard of Dr John Money? (no spoilers please) by JoeyJoeJoe in LGBDropTheT

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Of course. Can you be in this sphere without knowing about this man?

This guy again! And he's crying even more this time, for some reason...? by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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He’s got to feel like he’s oppressed somehow.

New NY Gov is pushing this shit too 😩 by spanishprofanity in LGBDropTheT

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Never mind actual history. Let’s make shit up instead! 🤨

We really can't have anything... by hufflepuff-poet in LGBDropTheT

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👀😂

I don't feel welcome anywhere as a gay man by Ice-Kagen in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you for the links.

I don't feel welcome anywhere as a gay man by Ice-Kagen in LGBDropTheT

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Do you really think the TRA brigade care about violence against women?

You know…I thought it would have been mentioned until you brought up this very valid point. 😅 They don’t give a damn about violence against women. Duh.

How did you find out about it? When did this happen? Was Buck abusive to his ex who left with the Wachowskis?

Question - why are some straight/bi women offended by my inability to find them attractive? by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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This post confused me to no end. You’re gay so why the hell would you find x/y/z attractive on a woman?

I think some women get confused by rejection since they equate opposite sex to being a group that should find them attractive in some way. Deep down, they don’t believe in same sex attraction. Weirdos 🤣.

I don't feel welcome anywhere as a gay man by Ice-Kagen in LGBDropTheT

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I’ve never heard it come up even when Buck was on contra’s channel befofe contra was "cancelled".

I don't feel welcome anywhere as a gay man by Ice-Kagen in LGBDropTheT

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Just disregard the fact that HSTS FtMs love to beat their female partners (Hi Buck!)

I’ve never heard about this re: Buck 👀

Snowflakes mad for calling a relationship between a man and a woman straight. Actual bi people don't seem to care by Mermer in LGBDropTheT

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Internalized biphobia 😂

Watch the TIM Cassie Brighter discuss his community, SmartSluts, for teaching women their sexuality. The audacity. The fetishism. The maleness. by genderquitter in GenderCritical

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They’re so focused on "convincing" lesbians but they never discuss helping bisexuals "overcome biases" when we actually like dick. It’s so creepy. I guess bisexuals don’t confirm their womanhood enough. 🤢

Masked Guy’s take on an anti-LGB Alliance meltdown by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT

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I like The Masked Guy. Straight forward commentary, holds no punches + right amount of snark.

Is anyone else frustrated by Lil Nas X? by jim_steak in LGBDropTheT

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I kind of see it as a cringe adolescent/young adult journey of sexuality and self discovery.

I didn’t think of it this way. :)

Is anyone else frustrated by Lil Nas X? by jim_steak in LGBDropTheT

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He gets on my nerves because of how gimmicky, flashy and trolly his videos are supposed to be. I’d hoped for better gay male representation but he got the same black, music-artist treatment of hyper sexualization.

Unmasking your homophobia : Riley J. Dennis or how woke homophobia is seen as "progressive". by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT

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Same. 🥺

ACTUALLY gay - the face of their derangement by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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This is really sad to see and to read what she’s asking reinforces just how far gone she is.

Merseyside Police (UK) members wave rainbow flags, and make "pledges" about "pronoun awareness," gender identities, etc... by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

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I cringed so hard I threw my back out. WTF is this garbage?

Asexual Daddy Bear - Clown World parties on by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I wonder how many of those pins on his jacket describe aspects of his personality identity

At some point the penny is going to drop for the Gaydens, surely? by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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You mean people still hate on females? gasp

"I want to date lesbians" is a valid reason for transition by kaenorr in LGBDropTheT

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That’s a perfect explanation.

Y’all are bigoted transphobic monsters by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Wow. Wtf was that mess? Also:

victim by choice with anyone in their 20's! been doing with guys and women in their 40's since 14 🤷🏽‍♂ that I was a victim with.

That’s abuse.

Just make your own goddamn thing already... by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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Yikes.

Without a hint of irony: can't lesbians have ANYthing? by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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When I meet someone who is proud they are a Gold Star Lesbian, I tell them that I as a Trans Woman am also, technically, a Gold Star, normally pissing them off...

How?😂

DIVA magazine’s hottest lesbian pinups of 2021 by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Fans face.

Fred Sargeant and Bev Jackson -LGB Alliance by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT

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Dammit!😂

Fred Sargeant and Bev Jackson -LGB Alliance by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT

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I haven’t seen a disclosure provided but they just received charitable status a little while ago. Looked up the charity on the registry of charities portal UK and they will not have a report until the charity has been registered for 10 months.

I’m sure you could email them and ask about transparency and goals if you like. :)

Fred Sargeant and Bev Jackson -LGB Alliance by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT

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I just stumbled across this interview of Fred for the LGB alliance. I haven’t listened to it yet but i trust there will be little nuggets of LGB history in it.

"'I’m not attracted to trans people' is based on the idea that you actually CAN exclude trans folks from your dating pool, and you absolutely positively can’t" by ThrowMeAway2879 in LGBDropTheT

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You can’t exclude trans people

I have before, I just did and I will continue to exclude whoever the hell I want from my dating pool for whatever reason I want to. Die mad about it.

Gay Magazines: Can't we have anything for ourselves anymore? by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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:( No.

My UNPOPULAR LGBT OPINIONS | Honest TRUTH | Kai Decadence by SexualityCritical in LGBDropTheT

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Yup, he’s on here. Somewhere 👀

My UNPOPULAR LGBT OPINIONS | Honest TRUTH | Kai Decadence by SexualityCritical in LGBDropTheT

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🥳 Kai has uploaded!!!! it's been a while. I can’t wait to watch it when I get home.

Saying out loud what we already knew by DiveBarDiva in LGBDropTheT

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So it is the same guy! Sometimes these creeps all look and sound alike after a while lol.

Saying out loud what we already knew by DiveBarDiva in LGBDropTheT

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Why do I feel like he's brought me out here to murder me?

🤣

Just need someone to tell me I'm not crazy! by Rial in LGBDropTheT

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You are not crazy. u/Destresse gave some great advice there so I can’t add much but to say again: you’re not nuts. The world has started drinking this gender koolaid.

Stay strong.

My Trans Girlfriend Doesn't Make Me Gay - Trans Ally Reaction - Pristine Propaganda by usehername in LGBDropTheT

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👀 if you say so, GAMP.

Tommy Dorfman Would Like to Clarify (that’s he’s a tim) by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT

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Sad quote:

I was in a nine-year relationship in which I was thought of as a more male-bodied person, with a gay man. I love him so much, but we’ve been learning that as a trans woman, what I’m interested in is not necessarily reflected in a gay man. So we’ve had incredible conversations to redefine our relationship as friends.

Tommy Dorfman Would Like to Clarify (that’s he’s a tim) by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT

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Hollywood began to take notice soon after I published my debut novel Detransition, Baby—which follows a trans woman, a cis woman and a trans woman who has detransitioned as they try to form an unconventional family—in early 2021. One of the calls was from the actor Tommy Dorfman. I figured Tommy would ask about a role in a potential adaptation. But no—it turned out Tommy just wanted to connect with me as a fellow queer storyteller trying to navigate the waters of the film industry and a culture in flux. We talked for two hours: it was a rare, genuine call from an artist who simply wanted to bond over telling stories. Before then, I knew Tommy only by reputation, as the actor who rose to fame in 2017 in the role of Ryan Shaver, the conniving, scene-stealing poet on the Netflix series 13 Reasons Why. I kept hearing about Tommy from artists I respected. When everyone I knew was debating Jeremy O. Harris’ Slave Play, Tommy was tapped to star in Harris’ next project, Daddy, alongside Ronald Peet, Hari Nef and the legendary Alan Cumming.

And now, Tommy is set to direct an adaptation of Mason Deaver’s I Wish You All the Best, is starring this fall in the Channel 4 limited series Fracture and has a role in Lena Dunham’s upcoming film Sharp Stick. But this work is only one part of Tommy’s public presence: with a quick glance at Instagram, it becomes clear—even if you don’t recognize all the brand names (which I don’t)—that Tommy dresses fashionably, with fashionable people, in fashionable places. Tommy embodies a very modern type of celebrity, one that’s increasingly influential—and increasingly scrutinized. And there’s something that both paparazzi and Tommy’s followers began to notice over the past year or so: a change in Tommy’s style and appearance. People began to speculate what that shift might mean in the comments and on blogs; some of the speculation has been lurid, some tentatively supportive. And yet, for the past year, Tommy has said nothing, acknowledged no change, just continued on—until now.

Torrey Peters: We’re friends—we’re casual. So why are we having a formal conversation today in TIME?

Tommy Dorfman: We’re talking today to discuss my gender. For a year now, I have been privately identifying and living as a woman—a trans woman.

Peters: Would you say that you are coming out?

Dorfman: It’s funny to think about coming out, because I haven’t gone anywhere. I view today as a reintroduction to me as a woman, having made a transition medically. Coming out is always viewed as this grand reveal, but I was never not out. Today is about clarity: I am a trans woman. My pronouns are she/her. My name is Tommy.

Peters: You’ve been transitioning for a year. That much seemed obvious to me from your Instagram. What’s the difference between announcing it now, and letting your transition be implicit, as you’ve been doing?

Dorfman: I’ve been living in this other version of coming out where I don’t feel safe enough to talk about it, so I just do it. But I recognize that transitioning is beautiful. Why not let the world see what that looks like? So I kept, on Instagram, a diaristic time capsule instead—one that shows a body living in a more fluid space. However, I’ve learned as a public-facing person that my refusal to clarify can strip me of the freedom to control my own narrative. With this medical transition, there has been discourse about my body, and it began to feel overwhelming. So, recently I looked to examples of others who have come out as trans. There’s the version I couldn’t really afford to do, which is to disappear for two years and come back with a new name, new face and new body. But that’s not what I wanted.

Peters: Do you think that older way of coming out—where you go away and come back and announce a new name and identity—is still viable?

Dorfman: For me, personally, it’s not viable. I’m not changing my name. I’m named after my mom’s brother who passed a month after I was born, and I feel very connected to that name, to an uncle who held me as he was dying. This is an evolution of Tommy. I’m becoming more Tommy.

Peters: I like that idea: transition as an amplification of yourself rather than a qualitative change.

Dorfman: It is not transition. Or it is, but not as an idea of going somewhere. Just that I am actually myself.

Peters: The expectation that trans people must go away to medically transition strikes me as a burden. People have to work, to live their lives, even as they transition.

Dorfman: It’s completely unrealistic and unsustainable, especially when trans people are some of the most disenfranchised and disadvantaged people. Peters: It’s an incredibly fraught moment for LGBTQ youth in the U.S. How do you feel about what’s happening in our country?

Dorfman: There have been dozens of bills in the last six months [introduced] directly to inhibit the success, safety and livelihoods of trans people, specifically trans youth. I always suggest engaging on a personal level: personalize your activism and advocacy, find the organization closest to you that you can assist. If you don’t feel comfortable using your body to be of service but you have monetary capabilities, do that. Educate yourself as much as possible. Peters: Why did you want to discuss your trans identity in TIME, specifically? TIME was the magazine that declared the “Trans Tipping Point” in 2014, with actor Laverne Cox on the cover. More recently, actor Josie Totah came out in TIME, and Elliot Page gave his first interview to TIME after coming out. What is your intervention in that history of precedents? Dorfman: When we come out, we’re always in conversation with every other coming-out. TIME is a news source that has centered this kind of storytelling for a long time, from Ellen DeGeneres on. My intervention is evolution—I’m just another person transitioning. I’m showing gender fluidity; how fast and dynamic and vulnerable it can be, how it’s an ongoing thing. Peters: Is there a difference for you in coming out personally and professionally?

Dorfman: It’s impossible for me to separate my personal and professional transition, because my body and face are linked to my career. I’m most recognized for playing a bitchy gay poet on a soap opera, and I feared that by actively transitioning in my personal life, I would lose whatever career I’ve been told I’m supposed to have. But I’m no longer interested in playing “male” characters—except for maybe in a “Cate Blanchett playing Bob Dylan” way. Sometimes you just have to say, “No, this is just who I f-cking am.”

Peters: What’s next for you, in work and in life?

Dorfman: I’m thinking about how I can infuse my trans body into film and television. Lena Dunham gave me my first role as a girl last year—it was so exciting and validating. And personally, it’s wild to be 29 and going through puberty again. Some days I feel like I’m 14. As a result of that shift, the types of romantic partnerships I seek out are different. I was in a nine-year relationship in which I was thought of as a more male-bodied person, with a gay man. I love him so much, but we’ve been learning that as a trans woman, what I’m interested in is not necessarily reflected in a gay man. So we’ve had incredible conversations to redefine our relationship as friends. Transitioning has been liberating and clarifying.

Peters: Is there some grief and loss in that too? Everyone has to say that transition is amazing, but I personally feel that loss is also a part of it.

Dorfman: Yes, there’s a way in which in order to justify transition, you have to say everything was terrible before. And the sad part is you don’t get to acknowledge some of what you’re leaving. One doesn’t have to medically transition to be trans, but for me, it was an active choice. I’m aligning my body with my soul. Yet as a result of that, I am losing some things. I have to reckon with the fact that I brought along a lot of people and things who might not end up being there for this part of my journey. All I can do now is look to a future where I am, hopefully, just radically honest. That’s the person I am becoming.

Long-Term Consequences of Castration in Men: Lessons from the Skoptzy and the Eunuchs of the Chinese and Ottoman Courts by Cass in GenderCritical

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This Gender Identity Argument Self-Destructs by soundsituation in GenderCritical

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Love King Critical’s content! ♥️

My fellow "cis" gay men, let us fulfil this Aeydyn's dream and be utterly insufferable by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Dormant academic? FML 🤦🏿‍♀️

Either long or short version - it's still nonsense by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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Word 🥗

Just your typical lesbian sex struggles... 🤢 by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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… I need a smoke. This was awful to read.

Edit: I googled this post found the poster and they’re deep in the sauce but they post on actuallesbians sooo… 😬

JK is going to peak the planet by Chunkeeguy in GenderCritical

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She’s fantastic! 🥰

Thank you for your input, Mr. Expert-On-Everyone-Else by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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Him: you don’t want a trans partner?! Well you’d better not want to be penetrated by your lesbian menstruator! Why go for a plastic dick when mine does the same thing?! THERE’S NO QUALITATIVE DIFFERENCE! 😠

So creepy, rapey and disgusting. 🤢

I. case there were ever any doubts about how queer I am! I got my hair dyed today!! (He/him) by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I thought you made up the title but nope… 🤣

OPINION: Being A Non-Binary Bear In A Toxic Masculine Space - Bear World Magazine by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Oh yes! I’ve been meaning to watch that for a long time now. I’m only familiar with Alig from true crime docs in early aughts + the documentary he released when he got out of jail.

OPINION: Being A Non-Binary Bear In A Toxic Masculine Space - Bear World Magazine by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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ALIG WAS FRIENDS WITH RUPAUL? Welp. That solidifies my dislike.

Can We Not? by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT

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So that’s what that was about! It was weird reading through that thread.

Lesbians who won't fuck transwomen are bigots but that's not what I said by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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If a person who wants an apple refuses to eat this "apple" which is really a raw potato I painted red

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The Autogynephilia Files part I - Life Through a Distorted Linds by distortedlinds in LGBDropTheT

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I’m all caught up already. :)

r/lgballt:"Clowngender is heckin cute and valid uwu" they are beyond parody at this point by FineIWillDoItMyself in LGBDropTheT

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Did they really put "attack helicopter" in a spoiler warning/ trigger warning when explaining these Xenogenders?🤣

B in LG spaces dilemma by lazy-summer-god in LGBDropTheT

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Nope. But I’ve heard younger bisexuals saying this…

Boston Pride announces closing amid controversy over inclusion by TumbleweedFireflies in LGBDropTheT

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I like your perspective. I’m hopeful we’ll see changes occurring but I’m fearful that things are going to get worse before they get better.

Help me find a video! - About NZ Pride by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT

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That’s the one!

Help me find a video! - About NZ Pride by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT

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Forgot to answer this message - The OP commented with the thread it was originally linked in. I posted it in this thread - it’s worth watching.

Thanks for the search suggestions though.