Here comes the backlash. Stonewall is a "gay rights organization," and "this is war."

wafflegaff · 2021-06-08T08:04:50+00:00

https://archive.ph/imdw4

wafflegaff · 2021-06-08T08:03:34+00:00

Agreed with the above. Thank you.

wafflegaff · 2021-06-04T00:36:44+00:00

https://archive.ph/kCOoU

wafflegaff · 2021-05-29T07:22:53+00:00

The minute they say "reminder" you know it's going to be bullshit.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-27T08:53:35+00:00

i've never seen any other letter actually contribute to the homosexual community

If it wouldn't out my real life details I would happily offer a withering and deeply (for you) embarrassing refutation of this statement. Please kindly remember what this sub is about (unless you don't care and should therefore indeed come under mod scrutiny for how you disparage other members of this group) and be decent. This approach doesn't look good on anyone.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-26T22:53:20+00:00

As long as it's run by our mods and they have thoroughly checked to make sure they closed any security holes that would allow unauthorized people to control content, mess with users, etc.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-18T07:02:56+00:00

We have either exhausted the possibilities, or are just not trying anymore.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-18T06:35:30+00:00

https://media.giphy.com/media/3o84TYYrYHgVR2ToU8/giphy.gif

wafflegaff · 2021-05-18T05:30:44+00:00

I like that there is now an "asexual spectrum"

That caught my eye as well.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-18T05:24:33+00:00

Anything (including diet) that bumps up your serotonin enough (btw, don't play chemistry set with your serotonin; see serotonin syndrome) can tank your libido. I've experienced this and never liked it. Fortunately diet is easy to modify. But yeah, at those times, I would have absolutely no interest whatsoever. So I feel for people who take SSRIs, etc. I see what they mean and it blows. Or...not....

wafflegaff · 2021-05-18T05:03:34+00:00

Hey there, welcome. We're glad you found us. My thoughts (briefly) about your concerns:

Religion does not confer knowledge or authority and in fact tends to do the opposite when it comes to things like this. It's completely irrelevant. Love is love. Just go with that. <3

I don't even know what's real anymore.

Yes you do, hon. You are a woman who loves women. It's the people around you and the TRAs who are wandering off into the weeds and making up extra stuff that has nothing to do with you or your sexuality. They shouldn't give a rip who you love and should just want you to be happy (and I'm very sorry, and here's a <BIG HUG>, if they don't—we do). It is none of their business and they are the ones with mental health issues if they think otherwise.

It sounds like a vacation from all of these distorted beliefs would do you some good when you can make it happen. That's too much pressure to think things about yourself in ways that simply aren't true or relevant or healthy.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-18T04:58:55+00:00

How are you gullible enough

Hey. Compassion eh? Come on. Is this how you would have wanted to be responded to if you were in her shoes? She's here asking us precisely because this all feels uncomfortable to her.

Otherwise I agree, u/helloolleh, that getting away from these influences on how you see yourself will be really good for you when you can swing it. Keep your eyes on that prize if it hasn't happened yet. And build your support network. That was easier in the Before (TRA) Times, so it might take longer, but even a friend here, a friend there can add up over time. Don't give up.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-16T10:18:32+00:00

This may be one of the best curses I've ever heard.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-16T08:13:04+00:00

The attraction to the same-sex is straightforward, and ever present and works the same as homosexual attraction. but the opposite-sex attraction only pops up when certain qualifications are met

Also me. (Except you know, original parts and accessories.)

wafflegaff · 2021-05-13T22:17:01+00:00

https://archive.ph/0fZZJ

wafflegaff · 2021-05-13T22:16:20+00:00

https://archive.ph/BBdws

wafflegaff · 2021-05-13T17:30:02+00:00

This appears, upon inspection of the comment history, to be sound advice.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-13T07:10:11+00:00

I can't.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-13T05:53:02+00:00

So hey, welcome to this sub. We try to stay away from broad, derogatory generalizations here about members of our own group (LGB). I encourage you to consider the parts of your response which appear to be veering into that territory; it is both inaccurate and alienating to others here. It's possible to talk about one's experiences without negating or devaluing others. No one here needs or deserves to have it stated or implied that their sexual orientation is not real, for example.

Thanks for considering. Cheers.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-12T03:35:20+00:00

https://archive.ph/gxlCG

wafflegaff · 2021-05-12T03:24:33+00:00

AP News is showing bias, but this article does dig a little deeper

https://archive.ph/tGNq1

wafflegaff · 2021-05-12T03:24:13+00:00

https://archive.ph/wWYcw

wafflegaff · 2021-05-12T03:16:21+00:00

I'm also getting dude vibes, here.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-12T03:12:20+00:00

<tucks this word away for future use>

wafflegaff · 2021-05-12T03:07:58+00:00

They have zero concept of nuance.

Or being contradicted or prevented from taking what they want.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-12T03:07:25+00:00

Indeed, they might as well just give up and start grunting and whimpering exclusively. It's all the same interchangeable, meaningless twaddle.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-12T03:00:34+00:00

I think many of us would try to make that work, but it isn't for everyone. Which some find out the hard way.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-09T19:43:02+00:00

I think it's time for a distinction between left- / right-wing and "abuse enabler."

wafflegaff · 2021-05-09T19:38:09+00:00

Don't point your brain at crazy.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-09T19:36:14+00:00

I'm with you on that.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-09T12:25:21+00:00

I was busy wondering what was going on with her face and didn't let her keep talking. Nor did I get far enough to know which pronoun melange was expected. Color me unconcerned.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-09T12:21:11+00:00

The forecast isn't looking good. Maybe in twenty years, but given the general age range, they are just going to be older twits in ten, for the most part.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-09T12:20:25+00:00

My pleasure. :-) I know some do it to bypass people giving Reddit clicks, which is also a worthy cause.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-08T19:53:23+00:00

I'm so glad I wasn't really aware of this turn of events yet in 2016.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-08T19:39:28+00:00

Shock value.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-08T19:38:59+00:00

Or your dildo...

wafflegaff · 2021-05-08T19:35:40+00:00

Or even worse.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-08T19:00:34+00:00

I once dated a person with a certain physical attribute I wasn't a huge fan of (what it was is immaterial), but who also had a lot going for them in other ways. Alas, they turned out to also have a deep pathological narcissism problem. Eventually they hated me for accepting and loving them including that particular physical attribute (something they hated about themselves), i.e. seeing reality. Can't win. Don't try. Compassion from a safe distance is my policy now.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-08T18:46:17+00:00

The object of this game was to be rapey one way or another: Either by coercing consent, or by claiming false victimhood. Mission accomplished.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-08T18:44:59+00:00

¯_(ツ)_/¯

wafflegaff · 2021-05-08T18:44:10+00:00

Which is hilarious given how often we are expected to want them because we're bisexual.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-08T18:42:57+00:00

Between last night and now, I think I read that entire thing. I was enthralled by the candor.

Special mention:

There's more projection here than a fucking planetarium Jesus fuck

https://archive.ph/d3MS3

wafflegaff · 2021-05-08T05:01:35+00:00

That's not why I post archives; it's in case the original disappears. Click away.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-08T05:00:49+00:00

What an asshole.

I enjoyed the fact that those clips were way shorter than the ones in which actual women were speaking.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-07T20:53:34+00:00

Their totally-clueless and out-of-place two cents. Clearly no experience with actually being a lesbian.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-07T20:17:55+00:00

And one for the Declaration on Women's Sex-Based Rights mentioned in a comment: https://archive.ph/Jp5Qk

wafflegaff · 2021-05-07T20:03:14+00:00

https://archive.ph/X27s8

wafflegaff · 2021-05-07T19:49:12+00:00

I can see it both ways. The problem with forcing and forcing and forcing a coercive agenda on people for years is they have to learn to expect that from you to stay out of the crossfire. Suddenly wanting to seem reasonable after years of abusing people? Good luck being believed about that.

And if you aren't those people over there who've been doing the abusing for years and are no longer trusted, then I highly recommend making that distinction explicitly. Which this meme doesn't do.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-07T19:46:08+00:00

For realsies.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-07T19:44:39+00:00

Soros is also behind a hell of a lot of the non trans woke crap we are wading through socially. He's pushing old school social Marxism hard.

This statement reads like satire. Maybe you have some credible sources to go with it?

wafflegaff · 2021-05-06T20:06:35+00:00

Much of that was near the end (which made me wonder who brigaded that post). Plenty of "I'll just walk off the cliff" and other forms of "nope" as well. I didn't see a ton of enthusiasm for those choices.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-06T19:15:21+00:00

Plus image: https://archive.ph/oh477

wafflegaff · 2021-05-06T18:32:12+00:00

Yes. That's the saddest part.

They don't understand their own value without all the pomp and circumstance. They think it isn't there.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-06T11:14:26+00:00

I don't think much of this. I'm already an anomaly and always have been, one way or another. So I just figure if someone didn't expect it, then I'm performing the public service of having opened their minds a bit. I'm used to being in that role and sort of enjoy it. I like helping people cut the crap in their own heads.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-06T01:09:24+00:00

Good.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-06T01:04:41+00:00

Yes. The people who are prone to pathological narcissism. They have unhealthy coping mechanisms which are costly to those around them.

And, drag clearly didn't heal him, it just gave him a way to express symptoms even more visibly.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-05T18:15:54+00:00

He's dressed like a tantrum. You are far more charitable (or subtly facetious) than I; I can't even take that part seriously.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-05T07:14:27+00:00

Or...he IS a cotton candy machine...

wafflegaff · 2021-05-05T07:13:57+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YILRE-fr2Dw

wafflegaff · 2021-05-05T07:11:27+00:00

Okay, this response makes me think we are talking past each other, but I'm a little too spent at the moment to figure out how. Will try to remember tomorrow.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-05T00:51:21+00:00

Welp, you should tell that to the government then. :-) All of them, everywhere.

And why shouldn't the state compel people performing essential services to comply with a mandate to not arbitrarily discriminate? Have you never been in a group that was subjected to this? (I ask this rhetorically, because I have not kept track of anything you've shared about your background, but you sure do sound like someone who has been insulated from a lot of the types of harm that others here haven't had the luxury of avoiding. Are you seriously cool with the state rubber-stamping self-important nitwits who think they have the prerogative to deny services that all people in a society at some point might require? Because, I'm not cool with that. And I don't know anyone else who is either. So I can't relate to this sentiment.)

wafflegaff · 2021-05-04T20:17:17+00:00

The best part of this is that everything about that selfie is superficiality. When you blast someone with your over-the-top plumage in this way you are denying them an opportunity to glimpse anything but your very loud, needy, narcissistic shell. That is the epitome of superficial.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-04T17:11:54+00:00

Female incels. Just as terrible as the male version. Look kiddos, you can't force your crush to have sex with you. Especially not by insulting his intelligence and indeed, his very existence.

This is what would happen if groupies got bitten by stalker zombies.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-04T16:58:26+00:00

It's clownphobia, and how dare you.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-04T16:56:47+00:00

That's both true and not my point. They benefit from the public trust in licensed professionals. People cannot make up licenses privately that carry the weight of one issued by the state. If you want that privilege, then you shouldn't be discriminating against people while you profit from it.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-04T07:53:53+00:00

Well, they always pander to pretend victimhood from other TRAs. Should they take this agreement out into the world and start trying to become child-saving crusaders, then I imagine they'll be in need of medical care soon as well. Smells faintly of natural selection at work.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-04T07:45:58+00:00

Yup. Also, welcome to our little tribe! You are already contributing wonderfully. Great to have you aboard, remember to take breaks before your head explodes.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-04T07:20:59+00:00

I feel so sorry for satirists in 2021. All the good jokes are taken.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-04T07:17:30+00:00

Having now seen your other comment(s), I can see why.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-04T06:22:07+00:00

Removeddit archive: https://archive.ph/6Cj4R

Reddit archive list (the earlier archive someone made last week (thanks, someone!) is the intact one with some comments that Removeddit didn't catch): https://archive.ph/https://www.reddit.com/r/MtF/comments/n0h467/i_spent_two_weeks_in_the_icu_and_will_need_years/

wafflegaff · 2021-05-04T01:06:50+00:00

Wait until you see a few of these switch masks a few times in front of your very eyes. All the world's a stage, and especially the hearts and minds of anyone who has something they want, or is perceived as an obstacle to something they want.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-04T00:55:34+00:00

I wondered if you two knew each other, and I also hope you're using fake names here for your safety. ;-)

wafflegaff · 2021-05-04T00:37:22+00:00

They tend to overestimate their own competence.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-04T00:36:28+00:00

who does that?!

Cluster B does that.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-04T00:29:34+00:00

I'm gonna go with this: It's likely a CYA DARVO spin campaign. He did something alarming / creepy (such as, you know, act like a kidnapper) to get his ass beat and is trying to be the victim for attention now.

Seen this shit over and over with my own eyes. They will weave elaborate tales of woe when the truth is that they were the perps.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-04T00:15:11+00:00

trans people getting offended by others telling them they don't look trans

There is really no point in trying to avoid setting off someone who is choosing to feel offended because that's their hobby. I say just tell them all the things to cover all the bases so they get to the point quickly of outing themselves as Cluster B.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-04T00:08:38+00:00

I remember that article. We probably discussed it here. It had a very "if a tree falls in the forest" existential-crisis vibe. But, that's what having certain personality disorders is like—feeling empty unless other people are around to fill you up with validation.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-03T23:22:45+00:00

This seems to need to be explicitly stated, so: We weren't there and don't actually know what's going on with her, so repeating this statement actually doesn't make it more true. That's a rather futile tactic to take (and a very TRA tactic). Odd approach to take to dialogue on this particular sub, no?

Narcissistic abusers can reduce anyone to rubble including the rich and famous, and they love juicy targets. That is my point, which I am now repeating with more words attached so it's perfectly clear.

And not every rich, famous person is also psychologically resilient. I refer you to every performer who ever killed themselves in response to the radical reality shift forced upon them by stardom. Try having some empathy for people who are "fortunate" (in quotes, because fame has serious downsides as well sometimes) too, maybe?

Do you also ask "why did she stay" every time a woman doesn't leave her abuser? I bet not.

And that concludes my interest in this subthread.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-03T00:25:56+00:00

Registered tax return preparers are federally credentialed by the IRS. As with pharmacists and other health-care providers who have to obtain a state license to work in their professions, if they don't want to play fair and provide such basic, necessary services equally to citizens of their state, they should find another line of work, not be a non-viable business for a select, arbitrary subset of their fellow citizens.

https://irs.treasury.gov/rpo/rpo.jsf

wafflegaff · 2021-05-03T00:00:56+00:00

wafflegaff · 2021-05-02T23:59:40+00:00

Or...as if we are some sort of equal-opportunity sex dolls.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-02T23:53:12+00:00

That's always been my favorite come-on.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-02T23:49:05+00:00

Sometimes people tie up their dogs outside. A lot of coffee shops in my town have a bowl of water out there and it's sort of expected. Could have happened here.

Thank you for explaining the reason for that link, it wasn't at all apparent. :-) TMZ is obviously not anyone's first news source, but I'm still glad to see Jenner taking that position. (Though, my vote would very likely go elsewhere. Fortunately, I don't live in that state.)

wafflegaff · 2021-05-02T23:43:05+00:00

It's the same way I looked after a couple of years with a narcissistic abuser. A few months after getting away from that person my best friend saw me again one day and was surprised by how much better and more like myself I looked.

Which is not to say that's going on here, but that's one reason someone can appear to deteriorate in this fashion.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-02T23:38:52+00:00

They can. They can also be targeted by predators who actually enjoy bringing them down. They aren't immune.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-02T23:33:29+00:00

I have to admit I'm surprised the Guardian remembered they're the Guardian and ran that piece. Excellent read.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-02T23:32:59+00:00

I'd love to see the intended link. Sounds pretty silly from your description. Parscale is evidently a hot mess so that's a rather comical choice.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-02T23:10:10+00:00

I don't think biological males would post there.

<cough>r/actuallesbians/</cough>

wafflegaff · 2021-05-02T21:50:51+00:00

https://archive.ph/A3B2f

wafflegaff · 2021-05-02T21:48:24+00:00

That sounds confusing and unsettling for sure. You are a sweetie for supporting her regardless. I've had a couple of no-go topics with loved ones along these lines, though not related to TRA stuff (yet). I hope the relationship continues to go well for you. From the sound of it she might be more willing to admit her true stance once the people around her are more comfortable with doing so.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-02T21:47:19+00:00

That link actually went to a great little clip of Jenner shutting down a question about the fairness of biological males in women's sports. Worth the watch.

wafflegaff · 2021-05-02T21:38:49+00:00

Same site as archive.ph, archive.vn, and archive.today; I am not sure if there are other domains that also point to this site.

https://archive.ph/jsYXl https://archive.today/jsYXl https://archive.vn/jsYXl

wafflegaff · 2021-04-30T04:05:24+00:00

Those comments are some gems.

wafflegaff · 2021-04-30T00:22:53+00:00

Oof.

wafflegaff · 2021-04-30T00:20:14+00:00

https://archive.ph/pa3yO

wafflegaff · 2021-04-29T23:50:19+00:00

I want to just put this in a big dog food bowl and set it in front of so many woke people right now. Saved.

wafflegaff · 2021-04-29T23:23:17+00:00

Thanks for the reminder, yes. Yesterday I was riding the vaccine wave a bit and forgot.

wafflegaff · 2021-04-29T08:06:48+00:00

Following along, this is not something I'd thought about. Thank you for asking the question. Reading that broke my heart.

wafflegaff · 2021-04-29T07:23:12+00:00

More people who need help, in their own way, "detransitioning."

wafflegaff · 2021-04-29T00:04:52+00:00

Given that we've tried to obliterate those, if you are casting about for a way to be unique and special now that you have the freedom to be whatever without worrying about gender role conformity, you'd have to have a way to "other" everyone else again. That means promoting stereotypes. All over again.

Deeply ironic that they elevate themselves, their youth, their supposed wisdom and hipness by going backwards. But that is what they're doing: Dusting off the bullshit from the past to beat people with it again.

wafflegaff