LGB ErasureWoman banned for being a lesbian on dating app Hinge

submitted by PeakingPeachEaterfemale♀ | detrans🦎 | eater of peaches 🍑 from self.LGBDropTheT

Here is the source: Stole this from Ovarit

EDIT: here's a written form for those not interested in clicking on multiple links, the main source was from Twitter:

So the war on lesbians continues

Today I was banned by dating app @hinge for stating on my profile that I was ‘only seeking biological females’

Apparently it is no longer acceptable to be same sex attracted

Homophobia in plain sight

Pls RT

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[–]bastetkat 54 insightful - 13 fun54 insightful - 12 fun55 insightful - 13 fun -  (2 children)

If I could make a dating app, I'd make all the TRAs only match with each other. I'm sure they wouldn't have a problem with that since they believe trans people are the sex they identify as, riiight?

[–]WinstonSmithTired of being nice 34 insightful - 12 fun34 insightful - 11 fun35 insightful - 12 fun -  (0 children)

Noooo but that would trigger their dysphoria!!! (Their own words, LOL)

Only they get to have boundaries, the rest of us are ~transphobic genital fetishists~, how lovely

[–]SpatOuttheKoolaid 18 insightful - 14 fun18 insightful - 13 fun19 insightful - 14 fun -  (0 children)

And that every last one of them is stunning and beautiful. Problem solved!

[–]julesburm1891 48 insightful - 12 fun48 insightful - 11 fun49 insightful - 12 fun -  (5 children)

But, of course, no one is trying to force lesbians to date men.

[–]PeakingPeachEaterfemale♀ | detrans🦎 | eater of peaches 🍑[S] 37 insightful - 10 fun37 insightful - 9 fun38 insightful - 10 fun -  (1 child)

TRAs: "yOuR tRaNsPh0Bic f0r n0t LiKinG DiCK!!!"

.......

....

..

Lesbians : You're homophobic for forcing lesbians to like dick.

TRAs: "There's NO such thing as homophobia because trans people are MORE oppressed than YOU are."

SOCIAL MEDIA/ NEWS : Lesbians catfished by trans'women' and raped, lesbians threatened with violence and called "Terfs" for not liking dick, lesbian women are sexualize by disgusting perverted men, lesbians are stalked & DOXXed, lesbians forced into "gay therapy", Lesbians are outed and violently beaten, etc

TRA: "WELL SOMEBODY CALLED ME BY THE WRONG PRONOUN, THAT'S LITERAL VIOLENCE, AS IF YOOOOOU WOULD KNOW!!"

Lesbians: . . . . . . .

[–]MezozoicGayoldschool gay 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You forgot to add in the end:

LEGISLATIVE POWER: We are on side of TRA!

[–]ElectricSheepSuperBi 30 insightful - 19 fun30 insightful - 18 fun31 insightful - 19 fun -  (2 children)

smh just let them pee

[–]MyLongestJourney 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

we just want to pee

[–]PeakingPeachEaterfemale♀ | detrans🦎 | eater of peaches 🍑[S] 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

This was a rather depressing and insightful read.

This is a good fallback if people ask "Well, why can't trans 'woman' do XYZ or be in female-only spaces".

This is good.

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 36 insightful - 14 fun36 insightful - 13 fun37 insightful - 14 fun -  (8 children)

This is fucked up but, in the current environment, the obvious solution is stealth.

Nobody is obligated to explain why they are not attracted to someone. You can make up any reason you want, including the most frontal attack possible: you're ugly. That's not identifiably transphobic if you don't add the rest of the sentence, ... because you look like the man you obviously are.

[–]Eurowoman24 28 insightful - 12 fun28 insightful - 11 fun29 insightful - 12 fun -  (0 children)

this will hurt since they all want to be porn star look -a - likes

[–][deleted] 27 insightful - 11 fun27 insightful - 10 fun28 insightful - 11 fun -  (0 children)

lmfaooooo y'all we just have to be honest. Don't be shy ladies and gents. If they ask why just say the truth: you're ugly. Simple and to the point.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 26 insightful - 9 fun26 insightful - 8 fun27 insightful - 9 fun -  (0 children)

Or go for the more PC and easier to articulate: “I’m just not attracted to you.” “Why?” “Because I don’t find you attractive.” “Why not?” “I’m going now. Bye.” Consider adding a foreboding “Good luck out there!”

[–]dramasexual 22 insightful - 4 fun22 insightful - 3 fun23 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

the obvious solution is stealth.

Fuck that. I didn't come out of one closet to go into another one.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 14 insightful - 2 fun14 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

As a LBL, it feels like the door to my closet is a revolving one. I came out and immediately thought "what the ever loving fuck is this?" What is happening to LGB people is being deliberately kept quiet from the general public. They don't even have the puzzle pieces to put together what is going on to lesbians right now.

[–]LeaveAmsgAfterBeep 10 insightful - 10 fun10 insightful - 9 fun11 insightful - 10 fun -  (2 children)

If you’re afraid of them getting violent from calling them ugly, try:

“Our spiritual energies just aren’t syncing” “We were born under different stars” “I didn’t feel the spark”

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

2020 has made me mean. I'd openly and up front tell a trans-identified individual who was harassing me (subordinate clause important here) they were ugly and then block. Let them sort out the reasons in the privacy of their own room.

In my case it's all hypothetical, I'm married and not looking for strange.

[–]LeaveAmsgAfterBeep 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

That’s fair and I really have no concern sparing feelings, I’m also not looking- but for those I know who are them retaliating with violence for rejection is not unheard of.

[–][deleted] 34 insightful - 2 fun34 insightful - 1 fun35 insightful - 2 fun -  (9 children)

I know it could never be implemented because people would throw a huge fit about it, but I wish dating apps would simply allow you to choose whether or not you want to be shown trans people. It would be so much better because everyone would have a higher chance of matching with people they are fundamentally compatible with.

[–]julesburm1891 31 insightful - 2 fun31 insightful - 1 fun32 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

It would be a win for everyone. Trans people would only see people that could be into them. Everyone else wouldn’t have to deal with members of the sex they aren’t into.

But, when do trans people ever worry about consensual behavior?

[–]Eurowoman24 24 insightful - 2 fun24 insightful - 1 fun25 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

you know, there's always some talk about genitals when you're about to have sex, but what about before? I don't imagine a gay man would be happy knowing he had been making out with a female instead of a male (let's pretend this person passed). ex.

[–]pacmanla 24 insightful - 2 fun24 insightful - 1 fun25 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

Some dating/hook up sites already do. Trans people just simply avoid listing they're trans. I definitely agree, & honestly, if there's pushback, it's going to come from the trans people themselves. Which is silly, imho, because why would you waste time on people who aren't interested in you.

[–]peaked2020 16 insightful - 11 fun16 insightful - 10 fun17 insightful - 11 fun -  (1 child)

Because, you fool, if they just went on maybe 10 dates with a trans woman they would change their mind. Bigot.

[–]PeakingPeachEaterfemale♀ | detrans🦎 | eater of peaches 🍑[S] 11 insightful - 13 fun11 insightful - 12 fun12 insightful - 13 fun -  (0 children)

You transphobe!!! It should only take one date to realize the beauty and bravery of the trans 'woman' or to realize the handsomeness and courage of a trans 'man' who are both ghostly pale PoCs!! Please educate yourself because I'm LITERally dying fron your VIOLENT language right now and need you to PLEASE CONSIDER validating THE BRAVE & STUNNING trans people!!! PLEASE, i beg you!! It LITERALLY pains me right now. LITERALLLY.

[–]MezozoicGayoldschool gay 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

There no validation when person likes you even as trans or because you are trans, they must like you while thinking you are of opposite sex.

[–]macaron 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think it's funny how transphobic trans people are themselves, trying to skirt around being trans.

[–]PeakingPeachEaterfemale♀ | detrans🦎 | eater of peaches 🍑[S] 15 insightful - 2 fun15 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

It would be even nicer if a dating app like that didn't let trans people know that they can only be paired with other trans people(just like they do to us...I tried a female-only dating app before meeting my current partner and LOL there's always trans people sticking their nose in there).

Then they'll be confused and mad that the app is "broken" and where all all the "cis" people they want to date at?! After that, we can tell them they have "internalized transphobia" for not even wanting to date those like them haha.

EDIT: they almost made a "female-only" app called Giggle where it had face recognition to allow ONLY women in. But then I heard the app developer is flip flopping stances so idk anymore

[–]peaked2020 13 insightful - 4 fun13 insightful - 3 fun14 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

I have an idea... Simply say “we are protecting trans women from transphobes by not allowing them to speak hurtful words”

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 24 insightful - 2 fun24 insightful - 1 fun25 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Every time I mention using dating apps to family and family friends (who aren't too familiar with this bullshit with the TQ), they ask why I don't just write down in my profile that I'm only interested in biological women so I don't get pestered by trans/non-binary/men. I have to explain to them that if I do that, I run the risk of being harassed, banned, or worse, doxxed, so I have to ignore that shit even though I want to make it clear to anyone I like/connect that that's not something I'm interested in.

[–]PeakingPeachEaterfemale♀ | detrans🦎 | eater of peaches 🍑[S] 24 insightful - 2 fun24 insightful - 1 fun25 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I think most straight people assume the L & G have it easy now because "well, gay marriage is legal now! Aren't you happy?" and silly reasons like that.

They don't realize that everything that was worked for is going backwards. Transitioning became the new gay therapy pretty much. Either "change your body" or "accept girldick". It's messed up.

Just wanted to say that it's good that you are making them aware of what's going on. The more we educate people on the TRA happenings, the better. I think (regular) straight people may be helpful alliances to us...I know for damn sure a straight male wouldn't date a trans 'woman'. And...yeah, neither would a straight woman to be honest, it's just some women get the crap stick and get stuck with the bloke(that she married) who later in life claims to be a broad. If she doesn't stick around and wants a divorce, then she's suddenly "transphobic".

I would have to find the website but there's stories on that! I think they called themselves "trans widows" because the spouse they knew is essentially "gone".

EDIT: Here is the Trans Widow website, I think this is it: The Trans Widow - The Story of the Other Side

[–]Q-Continuum-kin 13 insightful - 2 fun13 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

Remember when gay men used to wear colored handkerchiefs as a way to signal to each other in plain sight? Lesbians should start doing something similar like taking selfies while visibly wearing brikenstocks. Click on profile and see their homosexual sandals and you can know to match.

Problem is you can't get away with this anymore in secrecy. The TRAs would all catch on before most women do then they have to decide if they all adopt the style or start claiming that brikenstocks are transphobic by definition.

[–]PeakingPeachEaterfemale♀ | detrans🦎 | eater of peaches 🍑[S] 14 insightful - 11 fun14 insightful - 10 fun15 insightful - 11 fun -  (2 children)

The new sign is probably going to be "I love Harry Potter" merch or throw in JK Rowlings name in social media. If the TRAs get mad, we can always play dumb and ask "What are you talking about? I just REALLY like Harry Potter! Do you remember in Book 2 Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets Hermoine turnt into a cat hybrid but like LOL she still had human features because an adult human female can't turn into a cat! That goes against biology which reminds me of---"

Lol okay I'll stop there hah.

[–]Rosefield 11 insightful - 6 fun11 insightful - 5 fun12 insightful - 6 fun -  (1 child)

Omg I LOVE this idea!

I mean it's horrible that this is even a thing but perhaps this could be used for lesbians and bi women to find like minded women? Like on dating sites etc.

I love Harry Potter wink wink

[–]PeakingPeachEaterfemale♀ | detrans🦎 | eater of peaches 🍑[S] 12 insightful - 5 fun12 insightful - 4 fun13 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

Yeeees!! It would be really nice, and we can even put out certain/specific HP quotes like:

"I am what I am, an' I'm not ashamed. 'Never be ashamed,' my ol' dad used ter say, 'there's some who'll hold it against you, but they're not worth botherin' with." -Rubeus Hagrid to Harry, Ron, and Hermione in The Goblet of Fire

---that indicate our GC thoughts.