The horror! This transgender student was deadnamed in class, and his mom wants school boards to do more

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[–]MarkTwainiac 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This mother and child live in Ontario. In Ontario, it's easy & there's a straightforward process of paperwork for parents who have custody to change the legal name of their children. If a child is age 12 or above, the child must sign off on it.

So the fact that this kid's name has not been changed legally indicates something fishy is going on.

[–]lefterfield 16 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

This almost reads like a parody. This mother is abusing this child by making (her?) helpless and dependent on her.

[–]yousaythosethings 9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I had to check multiple times before I decided that it probably wasn’t parody.

[–]worried19 16 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

This is a fucking 13 year old child. Stuff like this upsets me so much.

[–]zephyranthes 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

"must feel safe"

"celebrate each student's identity"

Fookin tossers. If you don't like your legal name, change it.

[–]ZeWombat 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I wish we could leave discussing "feeling unsafe" for situations which are truly unsafe.

[–]SpatOuttheKoolaid 12 insightful - 6 fun12 insightful - 5 fun13 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

I'm sure the other students were so distracted by the name that's all they could focus on.

[–]teacherterf 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

  • if someone is genuinely triggered by their legal name - the name they went by for the first twelve and a half years of their life - then that's a them problem. Such a person could benefit from therapy - the old-fashioned kind that helps them cope with everyday life, not the "uwu u r valid!!! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈" kind that apparently gets deployed whenever gender enters the picture.

  • if using the student's legal name actually put the student in real danger in such a way that would be remedied by using the student's chosen name instead - and I'm skeptical, but let's follow this thought to its conclusion - then that reflects an extremely unhealthy culture on the part of the school. The school is basically agreeing that it has created an environment where it's completely understandable if kids bully a gender-nonconforming girl - hey, she was asking for it! - but absolutely beyond the pale to bully the exact same kid who goes by a different name and pronouns.

It boils my blood that it's verboten to look at this kid who is sent into a tailspin of anxiety BY HER OWN LEGAL NAME and say "this isn't healthy". Genderspecials aren't the only students who saw names they don't go by in the online classes. But when it happens to the normie cis kids, they say "actually, I go by my middle name Tom instead of my first name Robert", the teacher makes a note and tries to remember, and everyone moves on with their day and no one contemplates suicide.

[–]Smitt 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Imagine being so privileged that seeing your old name on a screen is “worst case scenario”

[–]LoveNotPorn 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

All trans people should be dead named until they legally change their name.

[–]SweetBabyCheeses 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

So the mothers advice was “if you [don't] want to be outed, just play it off,'" she told him. Outed?!?! It’s hilarious that anyone thinks they’re actually “passing”.

[–]teacherterf 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The kid transitioned earlier this year. Are we supposed to think that no one know that she was the same person who had gone by a different name ten months earlier? Come on.

[–]arcticbasket 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I hate to sound like an old lady, but the way young people are coddled and overprotected these days, I honestly fear for how they're going to survive as functional adults.

[–]forwardback 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

As a possibly "old" woman (>60), I've got to ask why:

I hate to sound like an old lady,

What's wrong with older women's thoughts or words?

(Your misogyny is showing)

Edit: Stands as is

[–]arcticbasket 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

FFS, it was a joke: older people not understanding younger people. It had nothing to do with an older woman's thoughts being wrong.

[–]Finnegan7921 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It amazes me that the writer could put out this article w/o laughing his head off. They are acting like someone killed the kid's dog and put it in his locker. The kid is so wrapped up in the transition that this "incident" still haunts him weeks later. what a fucking joke we are turning into as a society.