Behold - new definitions apply - a NB he/him lesbian = valid 💫

strawberrycake · 2021-06-23T20:19:42+00:00

He’s hot. You think he’ll want to hook up if I identify as a lesbian for the night? He better not be one of those lesbians with a genital fetish I hear about 😤

strawberrycake · 2021-07-29T23:05:29+00:00

A while ago they patched in all those ugly flags including the hideous progress flag. I might consider not getting TS5 if they continue the woke train and make you to choose pronouns or something. Gender customization right now is sometimes nice though when I want to to make a same-sex pregnancy. 😂

strawberrycake · 2021-07-03T03:43:35+00:00

TRAs like comparing themselves to race only when it serves them and is convenient. Then when you question why a male can identify out of his sex but can’t be Korean, all of a sudden they’re totally different concepts with no relation and how dare you compare them. Even though race is MORE of a social construct than sex… In fact, he could literally become Korean through legal means.

strawberrycake · 2021-07-26T14:19:32+00:00

If we can unlearn so-called genital preferences just by going to therapy, can’t they also learn to accept their own bodies?

strawberrycake · 2021-07-15T15:23:24+00:00

In fandoms there is an appreciation for men with big “tiddies” which refers to big pecs usually. I admit to liking the aesthetic myself. My boyfriend is a little chubby and I like his as well. I don’t like women’s boobs, though.

strawberrycake · 2021-07-02T16:14:21+00:00

Those ghostly hands look like they’re going to strangle me like something from Fatal Frame.

Also, love how there’s no couch for gay men. We’ve been swallowed up by the “Progress” flag.

strawberrycake · 2021-08-26T13:11:51+00:00

For fuck’s sake, why do trans people treat us like aliens in a fucking zoo? I don’t know what “gay club etiquette” is either. Stop acting like we’re some exotic creature you have to tame. 🙄

strawberrycake · 2021-08-03T19:17:44+00:00

I don’t remember all the sordid details of his past. I do remember his creepy sex drawings. Lesbian indeed…

strawberrycake · 2021-08-03T17:45:17+00:00

Which is funny because Chris Chan is the poster child for self-ID being a horrible idea. He has an extensive history of doing and saying creepy things to women. He was the definition of incel before the term was coined. The idea of him wanting to be a lesbian is so clearly messed up. I can’t fathom how society has fallen this hard for anyone to take his identity seriously.

strawberrycake · 2021-07-19T18:07:51+00:00

If you ladies had any idea of what the fuck gay male culture is like then you wouldn’t even demand to not be called “she”. The gay men I’m friends with still call each other “she” and “girl”. We’re all in our late 20s/early 30s so it’s not like some ancient thing.

You just want to appropriate aspects of gay culture you like (like being called slurs since they VaLiDaTE you) but push away the aspects you don’t like. And at the same time, you want to be treated exactly the same while also having special rules that only apply to you. That’s not how this shit works!

strawberrycake · 2021-03-24T23:28:43+00:00

For me, my support ended when genital fetish/preference discourse was becoming popular (I literally saw it happen on Tumblr, they can’t deny it). I also discovered the lies about Stonewall shortly after by simply reading Wikipedia articles.

I love dick and man ass and no amount of brainwashing is going to change that.

strawberrycake · 2020-10-15T22:21:07+00:00

I promise that some of us anime fans are not (too) crazy!

strawberrycake · 2023-02-11T23:48:19+00:00

Funny enough, all the gay and trans people I know are stoked about this game. I’ll probably buy 2 copies (one for my boyfriend) when I can afford it.

strawberrycake · 2022-08-17T14:22:11+00:00

It was explained that they are still coded as male or female. A “they/them” does not exist mechanically in the the game since it only changes text in the English version. Fortunately for us it means sexual orientation remains based on sex in the majority of cases.

strawberrycake · 2022-08-17T14:11:42+00:00

It could be fun to create a Sim who’s meant to be prudish, a member of the clergy or a made up religion/cult, or a frat boy (aka an aromantic heterosexual 🙄). The pronouns update is also silly, but I might use it to create creatures referred to as “it” or maybe royal titles. I have no desire to use it for its supposedly intended purpose even though it could be interesting to mess around with.

strawberrycake · 2022-07-14T20:39:06+00:00

I’m a bit younger than her and I already grew out of my trans phase. I get it when younger people are like this, but it’s hard for me to conceptualize an adult doing stuff like this.

strawberrycake · 2022-05-11T13:18:21+00:00

I remember an American professor got in trouble (and possibly fired) for talking about the Mandarin filler word “nei ge”. It means “umm” or “that”. But since it somewhat sounds like a racist term, he got cancelled. Disgustingly Anglo-centric like all this woke BS.

strawberrycake · 2022-05-10T13:30:26+00:00

Funny how they’re concerned about the removal of sexual orientation from history. Aren’t they the ones that removed “lesbians and gays” from their acronym?

strawberrycake · 2022-05-10T13:24:22+00:00

I think the author said something like “sex with me is largely no different than any other gay man”. So this person might be a “gay trans man” who tend to really be intense activists against gay men’s boundaries.

strawberrycake · 2022-05-04T19:06:15+00:00

Singular they is really destroying my comprehension. I had to read it several times to understand if the person was referring to one or both of them in the situation (I’m still not certain and lost interest in finding out). It’s really not intuitive and I’m sure a nightmare for non-native speakers of English.

strawberrycake · 2022-04-25T14:18:41+00:00

Just a rant I guess but I feel so alienated from my family. On Easter I just felt like I was from another planet. I can fake conversations and things like that but it’s difficult. Of course the gay thing is an elephant in the room. Some of the older people I overheard gossiping how they thought I was handsome and they need to set me up with a girl. The ones my mom’s age know, but like for example my aunt said I could take some food to “my buddy”. She knows I live with my boyfriend. Everything feels awkward and I can’t explain it.

strawberrycake · 2022-04-18T13:05:11+00:00

Yeah, the Anglocentrism of it is really gross. Also, my whole thing is that yes, we do sometimes use “they” as a singlar, but when we need to specify a singular person using “he” or “she” is far more clear. If you talk about a non-binary person among literally any group of people it is super confusing and there’s usually a breakdown in communication.

strawberrycake · 2022-04-16T02:37:05+00:00

Same here… I knew someone who used to be very chill and fun to just be around. Lately she’s gotten very political and I had a feeling she’d transition (she did). Now she’s dragging her husband into the whole thing which everyone knows she’s literally abusive to him. Someone reported that she’s calling herself the f-slur now. It’s sad to see the cool girls I grew up with become brain-rotted by Twitter (another friend became a queer she/they non-binary, she’s a whole ass mom with a husband)

strawberrycake · 2022-04-15T16:27:02+00:00

It’s pretty rampant among radfems and the like. The few times I’ve lurked radfem places (I don’t comment on them) they tend to push weird conspiracy theories about gay men. I went to one where they were talking about a gay man speaking out on biological sex and someone ranked gay men HIGHER than straight men on who is least likely to get pushback for speaking out. There was another article pushing some conspiracy shit that claimed something like women have no importance in the lives of gay men which makes them more nefarious than straight men. Seriously.

Needless to say, lesbians in these spaces tend to call out others the most on their homophobia so I trust them the most. Still, it’s not a good look that they perpetuate this crap. It’s unfortunate that as a gay male I feel we are on our own. It seems every ideology and philosophy blames us for everything. Anything from natural disasters to women’s rights it’s always our fault. 🙄

strawberrycake · 2022-03-27T21:59:56+00:00

Literally. I’ve been playing a lot of Genshin Impact lately and every gaming website I look at to find team builds and stuff just pushes this stuff. One just started blasting a video about “LGBTQ+ representation in video games” as some kind of ad without me clicking on it. Another recommended an article if I should play the new Harry Potter game if I “want to support my trans friends”. It’s all so tiring even when I am trying to enjoy escapism.

strawberrycake · 2021-11-30T19:56:19+00:00

I used to work with an older white man who was a they/them and claimed he was a PoC. It’s definitely a thing that happens. An Indian woman I knew complained about it to me in private and how these identities made it more difficult to address how shitty he was at his job. It’s progressive armor.

strawberrycake · 2021-11-13T14:08:50+00:00

I’m a millennial too (late 20s) but this really is our fault. Our generation started this shit and is the one that is perpetuating it in institutions outside of academia.

strawberrycake · 2021-10-28T15:27:45+00:00

I love how our “whole identity revolves around the genitals” (something literally a homophobic preacher would say) and yet their community is based around discussing penis envy. Freud would have a field day with these women.

strawberrycake · 2021-10-21T00:34:26+00:00

It is definitely a secular religion as someone who used to believe in this BS. That’s why this ideology easily became a social contagion.

strawberrycake · 2021-10-15T15:31:47+00:00

I graduated college in the mid-2010s. A pronoun was just a grammatical term when I was there. I was never asked my pronouns. The LGBT organization had like one trans person and actual gay/bi people. I didn’t even know the concept or know anyone who identified as such until the early 2010s. In fact, I remember seeing a guy wearing a skirt on campus and everyone thought that was progressive. We were this close to a movement abolishing gender roles…

strawberrycake · 2021-09-17T13:35:14+00:00

What does this even mean? Is love between men so alien that it becomes a fantasy somehow? This is so degrading.

strawberrycake · 2021-09-13T16:17:55+00:00

What a sad tale. This man is so distressed and the amount of malpractice directed toward detransitioners is insane. The part that really chilled me was when he recounted the doctor’s notes saying something like “patient claims to be male and denies being female”. Like, we have descended into some real lunacy.

This is a medical scandal in the making. Either the activists will suppress information like this or this behavior will be looked back on horrifically like lobotomy.

strawberrycake · 2021-09-10T16:09:38+00:00

They see these terms like “twunk” as something they can just identify into. Any deviation is gatekeeping, which I’ve legit seen a bigger woman accuse others of when they didn’t think she was a twink (it’s fatphobic too!). However, to most gay men these terms simply exist to talk about body types. They are not uwu precious fandoms. Clueless straight people are appropriating these terms.

I also find her conversion to Judaism interesting. It seems she’s trying to identify into as many oppressed categories as she can.

strawberrycake · 2021-09-08T22:28:22+00:00

Ah yes, some nostalgic propaganda I remember falling for when I believed in gender. I hated my sexuality so much I tried to identify to something more politically correct. Dark times that they will deny anyone experiences

strawberrycake · 2021-09-07T13:17:59+00:00

There must be something in the water… I know two different women in heterosexual relationships that have come out as some sort of trans all of a sudden. It seems to come out of nowhere like this reddit user who was straight yesterday.

strawberrycake · 2021-09-02T17:58:48+00:00

I suppose that would be your interpretation of gay men if your only frame of reference is porn.

Also, to me this implies that ancient homophobic idea of a penetrated man being relegated to a non-man status. I’m sure that goth’s mind would explode learning that my more feminine boyfriend tops sometimes.

strawberrycake · 2021-08-28T01:42:50+00:00

I said that in a sense of accepting it’s a possible outcome. I don’t want it to happen and will do what I can. However, this very well might be the new transhumanist religion of the future and we are mere heretics and apostates who are a footnote in the history books.

strawberrycake · 2021-08-26T13:27:35+00:00

I don’t care honestly if I’m “on the right side of history” as they say. The gender ideology movement steps all over women, homosexuals, and even transsexuals. If this queer theory/gender ideology stuff thrives in the next 100 years with the rise of transhumanism then so be it. Something being approved by society doesn’t mean it’s morally correct. It takes a great deal of hubris to think we’re living in times where progress is only linear.

strawberrycake · 2021-08-25T13:23:07+00:00

I feel like I live in a parallel universe because my school experience was so different than what I hear now. In high school I didn’t know a single kid who identified as anything but a boy or a girl. I was online a lot too and chatted with a lot of gay/bi kids but no trans. Then in college not that long ago (early 2010s to mid 2010s) I knew only a handful of trans people. The large LGBT group I went to had maybe like one trans member. Pronouns weren’t really discussed. It’s hard to think how quickly this all happened.

strawberrycake · 2021-07-28T17:35:09+00:00

Hmm… I guess I’m more C. My friend group is mid-20s to early 30s. We have a dynamic of teasing each other and not being too serious. My boyfriend’s friends are pretty similar. Like, I won’t be afraid to say a game character is hot or whatever.

Interacting with most other people I’m more A.

strawberrycake · 2021-07-27T23:43:11+00:00

Hmm… I went to school in the Midwestern US so maybe it was more regional.

strawberrycake · 2021-07-27T15:07:26+00:00

Wow, we have similar experiences. Similar graduation time, overbearing/abusive mother, and sexually assaulted by straight women (and one who later transitioned to a “gay guy”). I remember at that time there was a lot of straight people throwing around f-slurs and calling everything gay. That took a toll on my mental health since I heard it literally everyday. Did you have a similar experience? Also at my school there were only a handful of openly gay guys. There were more bisexual/lesbian girls who mostly settled down with men later in life.

strawberrycake · 2021-07-27T13:14:54+00:00

To that I would question why fellow primates express same-sex relations in the wild, but no primate can change sex by sheer will. If sexuality is a “social construct” and changing your sex is not.

strawberrycake · 2021-07-25T15:21:49+00:00

As a former Tumblr user, they were saying this before marriage equality in the US.

strawberrycake · 2021-07-25T13:31:48+00:00

When I was on Tumblr years ago this was a common talking point. I thought monosexual privilege was an abandoned argument (much like the even sillier “allosexual privilege”). It’s all kind of BS when you realize who is privileged and who isn’t comes and goes in trends. I’m worried how quickly organizations are trying to adopt an unstable worldview.

strawberrycake · 2021-07-12T13:35:19+00:00

Most humans have a desire to believe in something greater than ourselves. Even the most rational of humans. Anyone is prone to ideology. Clearly this is the case with modern day events…

I don’t think I’m particularly smart for what it’s worth but what I will say is that I was raised in a very Catholic family. The blueprint was there despite my rejecting religion in Catholic school. My conclusion is that secularism does not necessarily equate to rationality. Something will take its place.

strawberrycake · 2021-07-12T13:29:28+00:00

I was more in the genderfluid/genderqueer camp of non-binary. The biggest issue with it is that it has no concrete definition so anyone can identify under this “umbrella”. So for me, I did not view myself as a sexless being but instead desired to be female. This feeling was not consistent and therefore I believed I was in-between. Of course exposing myself to trans propaganda made these feelings worse which is why my desire to be female morphed into a desire to be a trans woman later on. I’ve hated my body until very recently so I think general body dysmorphia got into the mix.

I believe you are correct, though. Most enbies are buying into some sort of philosophical belief (a religious rebirth of the self). If the person is experiencing body issues and mental health issues (I was to severe degrees) then that is a recipe to join any sort of ideology. Unlike transsexuals I personally don’t believe non-binary is real outside of a spiritual context.

strawberrycake · 2021-07-11T21:15:53+00:00

I’m a desister technically. Thought I was genderfluid/non-binary/whatever then a trans woman for a bit. Never medically transitioned.

These in-between genders are still dangerous in my opinion. I watched a few videos from detransitioners who once thought they were something in-between until transitioning to a trans woman or trans man. And as I mentioned, I went from being a nebulous gender to contemplating medical transition as a trans woman.

All the detransitioners I’ve watched (and I agree with them) say that if you believe in gender identity then gender becomes a spirit quest of sorts. You are constantly searching for the true self. So yes, it’s likely that if she continues this spiritual journey that she may come to the conclusion of transitioning.

strawberrycake · 2021-07-08T14:23:56+00:00

I’ve been seeing more transpecies things recently so I guess we’ll see how long it takes for society to reach critical cognitive dissonance.

strawberrycake · 2021-06-27T15:55:31+00:00

We will not become normal members of society if we’re paraded around as shockingly different for a whole month. Being treated as equals is all I wanted during the pain of growing up. If the TQ+ want to keep pushing the envelope then go ahead but at least give us the option to have a separate day or opt out.

strawberrycake · 2021-06-25T01:38:54+00:00

I’m technically desisted despite my case not being possibly that severe. I fit the DSM-5’s definition of childhood dysphoria. Then I grew up and it got worse with the exposure of Tumblr/queer theory. There was a few years I thought I was trans. I was dissatisfied with my male body. With my unaccepting family I thought I’d be better off a straight woman. I hated my body too with several attempts to starve myself, shave off all my body hair, etc.

For a short time I tried to accept I was a trans woman. Then I got so disillusioned with the trans community for its genital preference debates and its lies about gay history. I stopped believing in gender and it helped. Eventually my feelings stabilized in my mid-20s (I’m in my late 20s now).

I have pangs of dysphoria now and then. It’s more than manageable these days, though. I accept I’m a gay male with feminine interests. I’m also really glad I never took hormones or anything.

strawberrycake · 2021-06-23T20:30:20+00:00

Most straight men don’t stand for this shit. I suspect you’re right since there was a self-identified gay man I met who only dates trans women and feminine guys. Nobody sane saw it as a contradiction.

strawberrycake · 2021-06-21T14:35:29+00:00

Additionally, Turning notes that language has evolved to recognise women as sexually non-binary. For example, Turning says her lesbian partner had a “Gay Straight Alliance” at her high school, around 2007. That phrasing encouraged a binary – members were either gay or straight, with no real options for those who might have identified somewhere in between – and no word that specifically embodied female sexuality, the ‘L’ left conspicuously out of the GSA acronym.

We’re never getting back gay/lesbian-focused groups, are we?

strawberrycake · 2021-06-19T12:35:28+00:00

I think us actual homosexuals need to clarify what the hell sexual orientation is. It’s not based on the degree of your sex drive. It’s not based on “gender presentation” or “gender identity” (which is a phrase I replace with gender roles in my head). Pronouns do not get me horny. It is based on sex.

Now these idiots think I’m attracted to chromosomes. That’s not what that means. Yes, I have found trans men attractive. I’ve also found extremely masculine women attractive. I’ve heard of lesbians thinking certain drag queens are hot. Does this mean our sexuality is fluid? Nope. As soon as I realize they’re biologically female then all my attraction goes away.

I can appreciate aesthetic beauty. I admire beautiful women. I’m not physically attracted to them. And I think this confusion with appreciating aesthetic beauty causes a lot of straight people to think they’re “queer” or whatever

strawberrycake · 2021-06-19T04:10:24+00:00

I think this is true. Personally, I’ve had several straight people and one “queer” woman married to a man wish me a “happy pride” out of nowhere, but my actual gay friends have barely acknowledged it. It’s definitely for straights to virtue signal

strawberrycake · 2021-06-16T15:30:57+00:00

It absolutely is. Back when I was a Tumblr kid, I thought I was biromantic homosexual. That was also when they said bisexuals and asexuals were oppressed by gay people under “monosexual privilege”. 🙄

strawberrycake · 2021-06-11T14:10:33+00:00

GottMik was so cringey. She wants to be one of the boys so bad but then vilifies them by doing all the “down with cis” crap. Then there was that song she literally wrote herself about being a girl and she knew would be heard by everyone, but then she promptly threw a fit that they would find out??? I avoid fandom these days but I’m sure they all babied her. 🙄

strawberrycake · 2021-06-01T21:26:44+00:00

Any other sane anime nerds here? Weird how so many people with this interest gravitate toward queer stuff considering it’s rarely present in anime/JRPGs/etc. It’s like... if there’s a cute anime girl Japan wants to be with her and the US wants to become her lol

strawberrycake · 2021-05-26T14:32:17+00:00

My mom is also a Midwesterner in her 50s and has yet to ask me this. I keep waiting for her to find out lol

Interestingly, I used to live in a more woke city and not many people that I had private conversations with seem to buy it either. Hell, I personally know trans people who don’t even buy it. One of them told me “there are only men and women”.

strawberrycake · 2021-05-25T13:32:33+00:00

Why do so many women think they’ve changed genders after a bad haircut? Fuck’s sake.

strawberrycake · 2021-05-14T17:44:49+00:00

So I think a big reason is that gay men are at the bottom of the LGBTQ+ community. We are hated by pretty much every political side and I’ve even seen a decent amount of vitriol from radfems and the like.

Being a gay man means being constantly criticized by everyone. If you have different pronouns then maybe you won’t feel so “oppressive” (despite in the US we are the biggest targets for hate crimes in the LGBT).

Then I also think a lot of gay men have some level of dysphoria or self-hatred for failing to perform our gender role correctly. These were some of the reasons why I didn’t identify as a gay man until a little while ago. I used to have pronouns (lol).

strawberrycake · 2020-11-02T13:45:27+00:00

Gendered language can be a form of self-expression. My gay male friends and I (in our late 20s for context) often use feminine and masculine expressions interchangeably. The difference being that we don’t force the world to view us a certain way.

I used to think I might be trans when I was younger, but expressing yourself however the fuck you want and not caring how people refer to you is far more freeing. I hope my generation learns to stop being so obsessed about labels once again.

strawberrycake · 2020-10-30T14:10:24+00:00

I want to point out as an anime fan that this is very much a Western issue. This also probably won’t help much but anecdotally I know a lot of nerds who are “normies”.

strawberrycake · 2020-10-30T14:00:23+00:00

If we’re supposed to force ourselves to like your genitals then accept your own damn body first, for fuck’s sake.

strawberrycake · 2020-09-27T14:12:12+00:00

Unfortunately, I know two different women who identified as lesbians becoming “gay men”. Another one I knew who didn’t transition was dating a man last I checked. I know lesbians are a thing of course I just feel like this fixation on labels isn’t always a good thing for people.

strawberrycake · 2020-09-25T17:33:01+00:00

The first seeds of doubt were planted when a lesbian friend of mine came out as a “gay man”. It made no sense to me, especially because she would say how she was secretly misogynistic and she was only a lesbian to “be the man” in the relationship. It sounded really off to me, but I accepted it because that was the progressive thing to do at the time. This was about 6 years ago before things really took off.

A lot of stuff online peaked me. However, meeting non-binaries for the first time is what got to me. They were all consistently narcissistic, nasty people. One of them would act nice in front of the managers and then weaponize her identity against anyone she didn’t like. She almost got an older woman fired who had a learning disability (she tried so hard to remember her stupid pronouns, the poor lady). I realized she was just a straight woman with short hair. I started to question a lot after that.

strawberrycake · 2020-09-17T02:49:00+00:00

People clock me as gay in the lower income area I live in because I dress in tight/flattering clothes. I’m not sure if I’m feminine enough for this discussion. Disregard if you’d like.

I’m in my late 20s for context. My childhood was difficult. I had more feminine hobbies and my friends were almost all girls. I’d wear my mom’s nail polish and try on her shoes. My mom did not like the fact that I was effeminate.

In high school I was a girly emo kid. I was depressed with an abusive home life. Being gay wasn’t trendy like it is now, so I heard slurs thrown every single day. It destroyed my mental health. I felt pressured to not experiment with makeup and clothes.

Trans started taking off in my early 20s. I bought into everything the community was selling on Tumblr. They constantly trashed gay people due to our ~privilege~ over asexuals and bisexuals (I’m not kidding). Felt like shit to the point where my mental health took a nosedive. I thought I had gender dysphoria. Everyone my whole life treated me like a failed man so I believed it. I was genderfluid for a little while. Then I thought I was a trans woman.

To make a long story short I’ve decided to accept myself. I’m not a perfect stereotype of a man. I’ll never live up to my family’s ideals of masculinity. I’m learning to accept myself. I’m learning that it’s more of a radical act to just be then to have a label for every emotion I experience. That’s my story.

strawberrycake · 2020-09-12T16:54:43+00:00

I was a heavy Tumblr user several years ago. Deep in the queer theory shit. I had several identities including “genderfluid” and the like.

What started to peak me was the “genital fetish” discourse. It had me so angry that I went down the rabbit hole. I soon discovered that Marsha P Johnson didn’t throw the first brick and identified as a gay drag queen (this was all on Wikipedia). I found the LGB Drop the T community a bit before it was banned. Now I’m here.

I’ve of course re-identified as a gay male. Accepting that has done way more for my mental health than the “explore your gender” crowd.

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