Besides random shit people are saying on the internet, what has happened or been said to you IRL that makes you want to drop the T?

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[–]strawberrycake 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

The first seeds of doubt were planted when a lesbian friend of mine came out as a “gay man”. It made no sense to me, especially because she would say how she was secretly misogynistic and she was only a lesbian to “be the man” in the relationship. It sounded really off to me, but I accepted it because that was the progressive thing to do at the time. This was about 6 years ago before things really took off.

A lot of stuff online peaked me. However, meeting non-binaries for the first time is what got to me. They were all consistently narcissistic, nasty people. One of them would act nice in front of the managers and then weaponize her identity against anyone she didn’t like. She almost got an older woman fired who had a learning disability (she tried so hard to remember her stupid pronouns, the poor lady). I realized she was just a straight woman with short hair. I started to question a lot after that.

[–]Seahorse 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I fucking HATE the previously lesbian so called "gay" transmen.

As if lesbians didn't need any more bullshit arguments against our sexuality.

[–]strawberrycake 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Unfortunately, I know two different women who identified as lesbians becoming “gay men”. Another one I knew who didn’t transition was dating a man last I checked. I know lesbians are a thing of course I just feel like this fixation on labels isn’t always a good thing for people.

[–]Seahorse 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think that the stigma with bisexuals means some actual bisexual people avoid the label entirely, not realising that they're the ones that damage it.

The worst thing to happen to sexuality was getting it mixed up with "identity". I don't "identify as" a lesbian, I am one. But other people treat their sexuality as their identity, what they are currently clinging to at that state of mind and time.