Hurt deeply by "bisexual" friend by Hera in Lesbians

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A friend of mine suggested that she was deliberately playing me so i could serve as a source of validation for her. In hindsight that's logical, but i never got cruel vibes from her in the like 15+ years I've known her. Maybe I'm too trusting. Idk.

This. Look, I don't know you or your history and I can only speak from personal experience. Don't. Trust. Women. Ever. Not even lesbian or bi women, but lesbians are definitely the more trustworthy when it comes to dating. Based on my 10 years since I've realised I'm a lesbian and talking to women and having several crushes and so on, I know one thing for sure - women love attention. They literally do ANYTHING for attention. They will lead you on just to have validation. It isn't about you, it is about them. The truth is that women who ACTUALLY date women in a serious long term way are really really few. I would argue only lesbians and a very small percentage of bi women.

So don't take it personally and I'm sorry this has happened to you. Been there, done that, more than once, with different women.

Masculine women are nicer than femmes on apps by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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That being said I will never marry someone wearing a suit lol

Yeah, that's pretty much how I feel as well. I'm open to make out and stuff if there's chemistry and she's sweet even if she isn't exactly my "type"/more masculine than I wished. But I have my serious doubts whether I'd be able actually want something serious out of it. Last time I tried to date a butch women, I had literally urges to cheat on her constantly with more feminine women. I felt claustrophobic with so much masculinity. Obviously, I decided to end it right away for the sake of both of us. Interestingly enough, she had told me that I was exactly her type. Life is so damn bs, isn't it?

Lesbians aren't pornsick men by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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This.

Masculine women are nicer than femmes on apps by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Interesting! Thanks for your feedback!

but some ppl are just terrified of being made fun of and rejected because it is how often a confident woman taking initiative is portrayed.

That's sad...

I used to think I was only into femmes, I don't know why to be honest but now I've come to ignore all the labels and styles, a woman is a woman.

Well, in my case, it's because I don't like to feel like I'm the "feminine" one and she's the "masculine" one. I don't like that dynamic, I feel like there are certain gender roles that will be expected of us. It doesn't feel right and I actually feel uncomfortable. And besides I do not find masculinity attractive, it's not really something I actively control, it just what happens. But I am trying to keep an open mind (and I've tried this several times) to actually give a try to women who I wouldn't consider them to be my "type", namely more masculine women, because as I said, they seem to treat much better. But I obviously don't want to hurt them either. It's funny you mentioned the "fuckboy" vibe, for example, because it is one of the things that turns me off the most. But I do know there are plenty of women who actually find it attractive somehow!

Masculine women are nicer than femmes on apps by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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When I was on s/lesbians, people were sometimes really hurtful. So if I were to post about a topic I felt at all vulnerable about, pertaining to being a lesbian, I would definitely come to this sub first.

Thank you for understanding.

Masculine women are nicer than femmes on apps by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you for your words😘

Masculine women are nicer than femmes on apps by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Because I had trouble there unfairly.

Masculine women are nicer than femmes on apps by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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I'm not from US, but thanks!!

Masculine women are nicer than femmes on apps by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Interesting, so it might be the fact that I'm a femme interested in other femmes. It's actually intriguing how women act according to how you present lmao.

-- One insane clown said to another by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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"hetero is the new gay"

Kinda intimate rant... Kinda NSFW by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Yes, you're similar to me. I feel way more uncomfortable with straight women, I feel like I can get this off my chest with lesbian or bi women even if I'm scared because they will always understand at least at some level whereas with straight women I'm absolutely terrified and won't do it.

Kinda intimate rant... Kinda NSFW by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Yeah, I just checked her out and she's hot as f*ck too lmao.

Kinda intimate rant... Kinda NSFW by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Omg, this was so wholesome to read! :D You're living the dream, at least for me! You gave me hope lol and made me feel less alone! I constantly feel like I'm alone on this so hearing this means the world to me! So thank you. : )

Kinda intimate rant... Kinda NSFW by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Omg, it seems like there are actually a considerate portion of us who are in the same boat! It just goes to show how society still kind of "shames" women for being sexual like men and also how society has still a long way to go in order for homosexual women to feel 100% comfortable and enjoy their lives with no fears. It's funny that it was the opposite for you! I was indeed the horniest when I was a teenager, it was absolutely horrible! Now I'm still very horny, but as a teenager it was ridiculous! But everyone's different! May I ask you something: Do you also feel self conscious being sexual with les or bi women you feel attracted to? Or just feel self conscious around straight women?

Kinda intimate rant... Kinda NSFW by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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I don't have any problems orgasming haha, I meant in social interactions😝

Kinda intimate rant... Kinda NSFW by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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🤣🤣🤣 Yeah, it's a source of daily stress because of not being able to expressing it. It is what it is 😝

Kinda intimate rant... Kinda NSFW by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Omg I didn't know Vanessa and she is really hot. I have a crush on jade Carey 🤤 but for me I prefer them to be tall, I love tall women. I don't refuse short, but tall 🥵

Kinda intimate rant... Kinda NSFW by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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You just need to relax and you'll get there ;)

Kinda intimate rant... Kinda NSFW by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Haha it's honestly great to watch a horny women like me. I wish all women were this horny haha. Yeah, the Olympics had some great woman jeez 🤤 I love watching gymnastics lol

Kinda intimate rant... Kinda NSFW by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you for your answer! It's really great not feel judged even though you might not be like me. That's reassuring, so thank you. But yeah, I have to agree, I wished I had other les/bi women in my life, as a friends for once and not simply the women I date 🙃

Kinda intimate rant... Kinda NSFW by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you so much for your comment! <3 I feel much relieved and not alone rn. I really think the fact that I don't have any lesbian or bi girl friends doesn't help and makes me feel like I'm alone on this when apparently I'm not! I also think about that I can much easily relate to straight men but not when they do disgusting too over the top comments. I'm constantly wondering "are women like this too?????" because I feel like straight women are just so much more discreet and so soft with words that I truly don't know. But I feel really happy that you do not think less of me and think it's fine. That s a relief! Because this is not something I can control, I can repress it or not, but my body will react anyway. I'm so sorry that your friends reacted the way they did when you expressed your sexuality and I truly hope you can find friends where you can be yourself and, like me, stop repressing it! I really appreciated your comment, so thank you for wasting a little bit of your time to telling me that its okay <3 I love you in a friendly way 🥺 no homo hahahaha, just kidding :)

Kinda intimate rant... Kinda NSFW by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Hahaha yeah that would be great 🤣 but like, do you just say whatever you're thinking around straight women? I'm just so terrified of that I swear 😅 (straight women around here, if you're reading this I would also love to see your pov on this!! )

Kinda intimate rant... Kinda NSFW by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thanks for your answer! I'm really glad you've been able to express yourself as you wish, that's truly awesome :D

I'm very butch though... so I can get away with being hypermasculine and hypersexual. I can talk about my pussy being wet around other women... they expect me to be vulgar and bold like a man.

Bingo. You hit the nail on the head. That's the thing. I feel like it's not socially "accepted" for me to be that open because I'm not a man nor a butch woman. I feel like I'm in this weird 'box' where I look like a 'regular' woman, mistaken for being straight, but I'm not. And I'm not what people think I am, you know? I don't know if this makes any sense, but I hope you can understand where I'm coming from.

Not knowing if you can continue living in a world of Gender Woo as a Gender Critical person? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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Yes, I am lol. That's great to know! I have thought about that before, but it's just so few of us that I don't meet that much women to know... And yes, at least I don't feel very comfortable to be out due to the environment. I know that in another environment, namely with more women, it would be much easier.

Not knowing if you can continue living in a world of Gender Woo as a Gender Critical person? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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It's just that online can only do so much and you're gonna eventually want to speak with people in real life you know?

Yes, I totally understand you, believe me. I'm dying to have some irl gay friends, but in my degree it's basically 90% mostly straight men and the other 10% it's women, majority straight as well. It's not an "easy environment" to meet lgb people such as with an arts degree for example.

Hang in there <3

Not knowing if you can continue living in a world of Gender Woo as a Gender Critical person? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. This definitely broke my heart. I'm a lesbian and I've also had my lows in life and the trans ideology movement disencouraged me a lot as well. Because I already felt lots of difficulty when it comes to dating, because of it being so small and also because I am only attracted to femmes (unfortunately, I can't seem to find masculinity attractive, despite efforts). Trans ideology made it even harder because now it's femmes AND gender critical. I know what it's like to feel weird, different as well since a teenager. Feeling out of place, always trying to fit in. Even today, with 24 years old, I still struggle with this, but I'm trying to be more open. I know what it's like to feel hopeless as well and to feel like no one understands. I've never had a lesbian or bi girl friend till this day, so someone who would understand me. Obviously, girls I dated don't count. I mean like an actual friendship. Well, I did have a lesbian friend for a while but she was butch and she didn't understand me in some ways. So I've always felt like the black sheep. I still struggle and hope to get better each day. But I occasionally feel I have no one who understands me. So this place is really one of the few places I can count on. Just want to let you know that I care about you and I wished I could help you or at least be there for you in these hard times. You deserve better. And you deserve to be happy and have a fulfilling life. Please, hang in there. I truly hope you never forget how beautiful you are and that you are worthy of being here.

Creating a bi space whitout the TQ+ invading it seems impossible (And I feel like sht about wanting one) by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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I'm a lesbian, but I fully support and encourage bi people like you! You deserve to be just as much listened as any lesbian or gay man.

Trust me, everyone already knows. No haircut needed. by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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This is my personal taste as well. I don't care if a woman tries to look confident all the time. And looking "tough" even turns me off. In fact, it's the mysterious, shy sweet girl in her little corner which will make me feel intrigued and curious about. For me, it's empathy and kindness that turn me on the most as well. However, to each their own and it's great that we're all different and have different tastes!

The new elephant in the room by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I've always felt so bizarre to separate the emotional from the sexual attraction. Plus, they're kids!!! They don't know what it's like to feel physical attraction....

Question - why are some straight/bi women offended by my inability to find them attractive? by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Sure.

Question - why are some straight/bi women offended by my inability to find them attractive? by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Haha! Yeah, I think bi people are the most vulnerable demographic in very specific situations, such as these. Bi people caught up in an heteronormative society end up more times than often with wrong ideas of what sexuality is (thinking everyone's "fluid" like them, or that sexuality is a choice because they chose the opposite sex for example) and some very insecure in themselves and confused as well because society is mainly monossexual. So it definitely has its challenges to navigate the world as a bisexual in a monossexual society. At least that's what I observed through my personal experience.

Question - why are some straight/bi women offended by my inability to find them attractive? by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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I mean I've had several conversations of the sort and I've dealt not only with confused straight woman but also men. 😂 There was a guy who once in a while would ask me several super detailed questions looking super confused such as "If a guy was very very very feminine, wouldn't you want to date him?", "The thought of someone, anyone, masturbating doesn't turn you on, even if it's a dude? Because I think it does with me" etc etc etc, but he looked really confused. Later I knew he was kissing dudes at parties. Is he bi? Maybe. It would explain his constant confusion with me

Question - why are some straight/bi women offended by my inability to find them attractive? by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Not only men. They want literally everyone's attention, including lesbians. Straight women take advantage of lesbians as well for their own profit lmao.

Question - why are some straight/bi women offended by my inability to find them attractive? by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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This, this is an incredibly good answer and my experience as well. Closeted or insecure bi freak out with me because of me being aware and recognizing my sexuality. Haha

Question - why are some straight/bi women offended by my inability to find them attractive? by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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It's basically the same as when straight dude find lesbians "a challenge". They take it as a personal issue, instead of just respecting our sexual orientation. They don't see our sexual orientation as legitimate.

4 year old girl transed by parents. by Rage-Xion in LGBDropTheT

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My story isn't exactly like yours but it has similarities. I was a tomboy when I was young, only had guy friends and liked to dress my brothers clothes and play only with considered "boy things". Absolutely hated pink, dolls or anything considered to be stereotypically for girls. As time went by things literally and gradually inverted. As time gone by, I've started to enjoy more and more the company of women, enjoying more stereotypically girl things and my guy friends started to lack. I ended up loving many of the stereotypically girl things, something I would absolutely hate when I was a child. And ended up loving femininity in contrast to what I felt when I was a kid, who though girls were picky and boring and that guys and hobbies that liked were so much cooler. I actually don't like masculinity at all since then. So things literally inverted for me lmao. This is why this ideology scares me so much, because i love being a woman, I'm just a lesbian... But if I was in the wrong hands victim of this ideology, I truly don't know what would be of me.

One they/them's descent into TQ+ hell by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Amazing how I started to read and was immediately "this is not something a woman would do". Then I read it was a transgender woman. Jeez. Gender identity is so bs. And this trans man is acting like a typical woman as well, and unfortunately one that has dealt with a lot of abuse. You can't change your sex!!!!!!!!!

I don't feel welcome anywhere as a gay man by Ice-Kagen in LGBDropTheT

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This is very true. I see this happen as well with bisexual women. And with me, many people don't see being a lesbian as immediately opposed to dick. Is very bizarre.

I don't feel welcome anywhere as a gay man by Ice-Kagen in LGBDropTheT

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This, I wish this wasn't true but this is the harsh reality nowadays 😬😬

Censorship Thursday - share your sub bans here! by NutterButterFlutter in LGBDropTheT

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Omg I miss r/LGBDropTheT so much :'

Frustrations as a GNC Gay man (Trans/Nb Nonsense) by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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Hey. Just to let you know that you are loved. You deserve to be happy just the way you are. Just know that if you ever need someone to talk to, you can pm me. I'm lesbian, so unfortunately I'm not a GNC gay man, but I just hope you know that you're amazing. Big hugs <3

Ah but has he checked her pronouns? These white knights would change their opinion in a heartbeat. by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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This a little off topic, but it's amazing how society often puts women on a pedestal. It seems like everyone gets lots of shit from women except straight women. Women use lesbians for attention, gay men for attention, and everything they can for attention. I'm a lesbian but we also do experience A LOT this kind of shit from women, because they like our attention and lead us on just for their ego, but they don't care about us. It's funny how they do a similar sh*t to gay men. It's even more infuriating when I hear multiple straight women tell me they wished they were lesbian because it would be so much [insert positive word here]. Yeah, I bet you couldn't even handle one month 😅 Sorry, this ended up being kind of a rant, but I feel sorry for this dude, I really do. As a fellow lesbian, I hope he runs from that crap woman.

I feel depressed when women talk about guys (I'm a lesbian) by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you for your answer! :) It's always great to know we're not the only ones dealing with this. I'm glad you appreciate your post. I wish you can overcome this as well, take care <3

I feel depressed when women talk about guys (I'm a lesbian) by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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I mean, honestly being a lesbian ruined my teenage years. I feel like they were robbed from me. When you don't have a support system and everyone's constantly asking you if you have a boyfriend and about guys all the freaking time and all the trying to fit in was exhausting and I hated it and I still have problems on that as you can see. Thank you once again.

I feel depressed when women talk about guys (I'm a lesbian) by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you for your sweet answer! It's interesting how this sentiment can apply for other situations as well. Take care and hope you're well too <3

I feel depressed when women talk about guys (I'm a lesbian) by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you so much :' I was actually thinking about going to a psychologist because I feel like I really need some (professional) help... This week already I'll meet the psychologist. Big hugs

I feel depressed when women talk about guys (I'm a lesbian) by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Great questions! I honestly think it's both 1 and 2, despite being more of 1 than 2. I was never a rebel kind of girl. I was always that kind of person who wants do the right things the right way since I was a kid. I enjoy following the 'rules'. Being homosexual kind of challenged me in a way it was perceived as something 'bad' and with stigma, whereas having a husband and kids would be the ""right"" thing to do according to society, you know? It was also very hard for me because of how society still perceives homosexuality. And also what people expect of me and wanting to fit in. Thanks a lot!! :)

I feel depressed when women talk about guys (I'm a lesbian) by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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True !

I feel depressed when women talk about guys (I'm a lesbian) by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thanks for your answer! Yeah, it's definitely caused by comparison. I will consider therapy, thank you!

I feel depressed when women talk about guys (I'm a lesbian) by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Wow, this was a really interesting comment! You described it perfectly well using a different example... This was a very wholesome comment, thank you! Big hugs and wish the life smiles at you and that you get to travel as much as you'd like! <3

I feel depressed when women talk about guys (I'm a lesbian) by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Aww that's so sweet, of course we can be friends <3 feel free to pm me if you want and we can chat any time :)

I feel depressed when women talk about guys (I'm a lesbian) by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you so much! This phrases resonate a lot with what I'm feeling:

But I refused to see myself as one of them (. . . us). And it was because of my fear of being different. I never judged anyone else negatively for being gay, lesbian, or bi but I did not want to accept that my life would be harder in this way.

This was always one of my problems as well and it's one I apparently still do. I appreciate you talking about your own experience and totally encourage you to rant on here, if you feel like it. I truly love this community and feel safe and loved here and it always helps. I wish you the best!

I feel depressed when women talk about guys (I'm a lesbian) by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you once again. You sound like such a caring person. I wish you the very best and that you'll be very happy in life.

I feel depressed when women talk about guys (I'm a lesbian) by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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It's not that I can't stand them, but it's very true that what I really really wanted was to hang out with other lesbians and bi women :'

I feel depressed when women talk about guys (I'm a lesbian) by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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I'm so so relieved that I'm not the only one feeling this. I feel so much better after reading your comment because you truly understand where I'm coming from and what I'm feeling, in particular:

For me it felt like an intense sadness and sudden "otherness". Looking back at it, I think maybe I was also mourning the loss of ever having a "normal" life comparatively.

This is exactly it. It's true that consuming lesbian media and seeing more visibility helps, it did help me a lot in the past in fact. Currently though, I just feel more depressed because I'm not "living it", if you know what I mean. But I truly appreciate your comment a lot, because you truly understand me. And it's still true everything you said.

I feel depressed when women talk about guys (I'm a lesbian) by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you so much for your advice. And I'm so sorry about the bullying you had to go through :( This is also a great advice. I really appreciate it. It's very true that when we have at least one friend that can truly accept us and know us is helps a lot. I used to have my best friend but due to lack of schedule incompatibility we drifted apart but try to be part of each other's lives. I'm going to try to deepen my already existing friendships and meet more people. Thank you. <3

I feel depressed when women talk about guys (I'm a lesbian) by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you so much and I'm glad you enjoy my posts! :) I found your comment very insightful, I'm definitely going to give it a try, and instead of avoiding or acentuating the negative feelings, I'm going to face them instead and try to replace it with positive! I truly appreciate all your advice, very detailed and I'm sure it will help me somehow! <3

"I want to date lesbians" is a valid reason for transition by kaenorr in LGBDropTheT

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It takes a very mentally ill, totally disgusting, fucking loser of a man to be willing to focus all of his energy towards the only demographic of women who isn't interested in them, besides being one hell of a tiny minority of the population. But it's not a fetish /s

I don't know by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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You're welcome ;)

I don't know by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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I'm not horny haha, some women are just captivating. But they sure could make me horny 🤫🙊

I don't know by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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I ended up looking at your comments (sorry 🙈) and realised you're a mathematician. I swear to God, if I met you I would have a massive crush on you, as this is anonymous I don't care to be blunt lmao, but I love nerdy woman, and you're intelligent in all the possible ways! You're literally "wife" material I swear to God 😱 You just captivated sorry lmao, with just one comment from this post you made me curious and searched for more and I ended up being even more captivated 😂 sorry if this is very awkward once again, I just was astonished with you, I've had massive crushes on nerdy women like you before, they're my weakness. Have a great day!

I don't know by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Omg, I hope this isn't awkward but you're amazing. I'm sure that the person you are dating or will date will be a very lucky one. You have an incredibly good emotional intelligence and empathy. Something that I, unfortunately, don't see that much. I watch several truly good people but who struggle to understand where others are coming from. Like you say, it's hard to communicate your problem in the 'right' way so people misunderstood it. Unless you're intelligent emotionally enough to understand the nuances and reasons behind it. You're amazing.

Look at my hands and tell me I’m not a lesbian by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you haha.

Look at my hands and tell me I’m not a lesbian by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Oh I want to use my hands believe me ;) but it's true that I tend to use them less than a more active woman in sex. And no, I didn't date them at the same time. But when I'm with a woman, I want her to feel special and confident, so I never make comparisons to other women I've been or dated. It's more or less how bottom gay men lie to their tops in bed and say their dicks are huge just to make them feel confident haha 😝 I don't lie, but I kind of will do everything in order for her to feel "unique" or "special" even though she might not be doing anything much different from other women I've been before lmao.

Look at my hands and tell me I’m not a lesbian by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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It's very funny you're talking about this, because since I'm a kid basically I've been told I have very big hands in comparison to my height and body proportions. And a funny thing is both of the two women I seriously dated loved my hands, one of them told me I had the most beautiful hands a woman could have and the other told me she wanted to marry my hands 🤣 obviously I never told the last one that she wasnt the only one enjoying my hands because I wanted her to feel special 😝 I have long thin fingers and tbh it seems to be one of my most attractive features. Honestly, as a lesbian, it was really pleasing to have my hands complimented, when one of them told me she thought my hands were big was really hot.

Lil Nas X is supergay by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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These comments:

I would also like to point out that he didn't say "I just like cisgender dick" I know many gay men, both cis and trans who are including dildos and strap-ons and pre-op trans guys' t-dicks when they say they "like dick".

He likes dick! Good for him! Does that include t-dick? Bottom surgery dick? Store-bought dick? Don't know, none of my business.

💀💀💀💀

How much do you express your sexuality to your straight friends? by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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I'm glad you like my questions :) I get you, thank you!

How much do you express your sexuality to your straight friends? by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you!

How much do you express your sexuality to your straight friends? by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you!

Lil Nas X is supergay by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

How was your experience as a gay or bi person in high school? by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Damn, what a story! Do you think that girl had like a crush on you or was she "testing" you in order to bully you? Because I know how awful girls can be, especially in teenage years!!

How was your experience as a gay or bi person in high school? by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Damn, I'm so sorry for the things you went through :( I truly hope you feel better right now and have found true friends who will accept you for who you are!

I'm just too different to relate.

I kinda feel this way lots of time. So, don't worry! I get you. Big hugs

How much do you express your sexuality to your straight friends? by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Yeah, that's what I think too. I feel like I want to be with people who understand me and I never am and end up feeling like the 'black sheep'.

How much do you express your sexuality to your straight friends? by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Ok, thank you!

How much do you express your sexuality to your straight friends? by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you!

How much do you express your sexuality to your straight friends? by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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And I believe it's very much a gender thing, women are taught to behave certain ways just like men are. Women gently test the waters and hold back our true thoughts and feelings, and find a neutral or compatible way of interacting. We escalate and build up and advance as we feel safe to do so.

Omg, you explain what I feel so well 😢 I feel like men are allowed to express their sexuality with no filters at all and sometimes it's even too much and with women it's opposite! I'm constantly afraid or testing if this is the right moment, the right time, the right people to say what I'm thinking or not. And the way I say the things is everything very thought and not espontaneous.

They may be wanting to get to know you better and let loose themselves, and can't because you aren't revealing who you really are.

Yes, this is precisely my problem. I repress so much and hold myself back so much I feel like my friends don't get to know me.😢 And then I just don't want to go out anymore, start distancing myself, because I feel so "careful" with what I speak all the time :'

PS- you don't need to censor swear words or gendered slurs in this sub.

Thanks for letting me know! I think you really nailed it, and could really understand my fears and problem with this... I feel much better after this comment, it will be a slow process, I hope I can become a more espontaneous person :'

How much do you express your sexuality to your straight friends? by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Yes, I definitely understand where you're coming from! Being overly explicit can be off putting. I'm just wondering because currently I'm struggling to express my sexuality in any way. Thank you for your feedback!

How was your experience as a gay or bi person in high school? by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you for sharing your story! <3

Part of it though is that she was visibly gay so every gay/bi girl would reveal themselves to her.

Damn, you have no idea how much I envy your gf lmao... I've thought countless times about becoming more "masculine" for that to happen (which I'm pretty sure would make my life easier), but I just can't.. It just isn't me.

It's very interesting to see how you both ended up together and have so different experiences. I wish you both all the best! <3

"Whoops! Mask slipped, sorry 'bout that!" - When you're too blatant for r/AL by ThrowMeAway2879 in LGBDropTheT

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Hahahahahaha yes 🤣👌

"Whoops! Mask slipped, sorry 'bout that!" - When you're too blatant for r/AL by ThrowMeAway2879 in LGBDropTheT

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my mood in the streets: f*ck off

my mood in the sheets: come at me, mommy

joking joking haha

"Whoops! Mask slipped, sorry 'bout that!" - When you're too blatant for r/AL by ThrowMeAway2879 in LGBDropTheT

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Yup

"Whoops! Mask slipped, sorry 'bout that!" - When you're too blatant for r/AL by ThrowMeAway2879 in LGBDropTheT

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How many accounts have you created so far? A thousand? Don't you have literally anything else to do than attacking people? Don't you realise it the one who needs help is you? 🧐

How was your experience as a gay or bi person in high school? by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you for sharing your story! <3 It seems you had a great experience, that is awesome!

Not being able to talk to my parents about what, to me, was the most important thing in my life at the time made me feel resentful and alienated to a degree that I stopped discussing anything significant with them

Something similar has happened to me. I did tell my mother, but as she didn't reacted well to my coming out and hurt me so much I stopped discussing anything related to my loving life with her till this day.

I hope you feel better or happier now and that you were able to overcome your insecurities and fears! Take care.

How was your experience as a gay or bi person in high school? by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you so much for sharing your story! <3 This story breaks my heart :' I wish I could have been there for you at that time. If I felt high school was horrible for me, I cannot imagine how much harder it must've been for you at that time :' I truly hope you're at a much better place right now and if you by chance ever need to talk to someone, feel free to pm me! Take care, and wish you the best happiness in the world, you deserve it dude! Big hugs

How was your experience as a gay or bi person in high school? by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you for sharing your story! <3 I liked particularly your point 3, that's so true. Everything you said. This newer gays are a disappointment for sure... Hope you have an awesome life, right now! Take care.

How was your experience as a gay or bi person in high school? by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you for sharing your story, dear mod! <3 Bi representation here, I think it's the only one so far! Let's see if more bi people will join!! :) I'm sorry for all the bad things you went through, and happy for the things which made you grow! Take care.

And everybody in /r/tttt clapped by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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This label that I’ve felt so much comfort and security in

This, ladies and gentlemen, is how you can tell she isn't a lesbian. The vast majority of lesbians (me included) have struggled or struggle A LOT with the word 'lesbian' and many of us have done everything to call ourselves everything but lesbian. For example, I still avoid that word and prefer telling I'm a gay woman instead. However, currently due to TQ+, I call myself always homosexual.

Every time I see someone SO obsessed with the label 'lesbian' is always not a lesbian and when I see a woman trying to run away from it, more often than not, she IS the real lesbian 😅 Oh, the irony of it.

To no one's surprise, creator of the "lesbian masterdoc" comes out as bi. by MilkTea in LGBDropTheT

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Exactly, this is what's the most ironic. I think people who aren't lesbians have this romanticized and idealized idea of what being a lesbian is, that two women together is rainbow and everything never ending beautiful when in reality women can be a pain in the a**, the relationships are "normal" meaning they have its ups and downs and problems, the dating pool is ridiculously small and practically no one respect us, not even within our own community. How cool to be a lesbian. /s

How was your experience as a gay or bi person in high school? by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you for sharing your story!! <3 your story is very interesting, a perspective from someone who was unaware of it practically during all of your teenage years. And I'm so sorry you felt so anxious, I'm also kind of introvert person and sometimes I also feel kinda anxious and it sucks, I cant even imagine someone who reaaaally struggles a lot with it. Best wishesl

How was your experience as a gay or bi person in high school? by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you for sharing your story and views! <3 the way you handled your homosexuality during secondary school was somehow similar too. I would "swing" between having brave days, where I would come out fearlessly and just wanted to be happy and didn't care about others, and coward days too where I suddenly panicked and didn't want anyone else to find out because I even felt it was a flaw/abnormality I had in me. It was a long slow process to fully accept my homosexuality and I'm still not 100% there. Lovely to read your story. Take care!

How was your experience as a gay or bi person in high school? by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you for sharing you story! <3 you definitely touched an important point!! Homosexuality does influence my friendships and I'm very careful not catch feelings for straight girls in particular. Something that obviously would not happen if I was straight. Despite my efforts, I still have a crush on a straight friend rip 🤣 and yes, that part is very isolating and something that straights, due to their giant dating pool, don't even think about. I have the same opinion as you regarding gay friends. I would like to have gay friends, but ones that I was not attracted to so it can be any gay man (preferably a feminine one as well) and a butch lesbian or simply a lesbian I was personally not attracted to. Take care!

How was your experience as a gay or bi person in high school? by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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That's interesting. I honestly had no idea straight women could be so toxic to gay men or that it was that common. That's why it's so bs when people claim that only men are evil and women are these perfect princesses who harm no one. If I hear one sentence or other or both from someone, I won't hang out with that person.

How was your experience as a gay or bi person in high school? by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you so much for sharing your story and having the bravery to share such horrible incidents that happened to you! <3 I'm so sorry about that your boundaries and dignity as a human weren't respect by your peers and I truly hope youre at an amazing place right now. One of the things I related the most about your answers were point 3. It happened the exact same with me and that's how I feel too (except it is the lesbian version and not gay man version lmao). Take care!

How was your experience as a gay or bi person in high school? by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you so much for your answer! <3 I can say I relate about 95% to your story, I'm amazed at how many things and feelings i had to go through which were very similar to yours. The only part I couldn't relate was the fact of having gay friends not being relevant to you, but I definitely agree with you on the fact that sexual orientation shouldn't be the main or the only factor into friendship. Take care! <3

Why it's always a mistake to accept the "support" of celebrity larpers by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Preach, sis