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[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 24 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 0 fun25 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. This definitely broke my heart. I'm a lesbian and I've also had my lows in life and the trans ideology movement disencouraged me a lot as well. Because I already felt lots of difficulty when it comes to dating, because of it being so small and also because I am only attracted to femmes (unfortunately, I can't seem to find masculinity attractive, despite efforts). Trans ideology made it even harder because now it's femmes AND gender critical. I know what it's like to feel weird, different as well since a teenager. Feeling out of place, always trying to fit in. Even today, with 24 years old, I still struggle with this, but I'm trying to be more open. I know what it's like to feel hopeless as well and to feel like no one understands. I've never had a lesbian or bi girl friend till this day, so someone who would understand me. Obviously, girls I dated don't count. I mean like an actual friendship. Well, I did have a lesbian friend for a while but she was butch and she didn't understand me in some ways. So I've always felt like the black sheep. I still struggle and hope to get better each day. But I occasionally feel I have no one who understands me. So this place is really one of the few places I can count on. Just want to let you know that I care about you and I wished I could help you or at least be there for you in these hard times. You deserve better. And you deserve to be happy and have a fulfilling life. Please, hang in there. I truly hope you never forget how beautiful you are and that you are worthy of being here.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Aw thank you. I'm so sorry you've been going through hardships as well, it's just not fun at all but I think the main thing that really makes this so much worse is that the places that people like us used to be accepted in are no longer like that anymore because they've swallowed trans dogma hard time and they'll oust and ostracize anyone who doesn't follow the cult-like mentality. It's just terrible... But yeah it's great that this is one of the very few places where people like us can feel safe in so I'm grateful for that. It's just that online can only do so much and you're gonna eventually want to speak with people in real life you know?

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

It's just that online can only do so much and you're gonna eventually want to speak with people in real life you know?

Yes, I totally understand you, believe me. I'm dying to have some irl gay friends, but in my degree it's basically 90% mostly straight men and the other 10% it's women, majority straight as well. It's not an "easy environment" to meet lgb people such as with an arts degree for example.

Hang in there <3

[–]Nani 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I'm assuming you're also in STEM and in my experience there are actually a lot of LB women, we are just largely somewhat closeted in the work environment as many professors don't even truely accept women in that environment.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, I am lol. That's great to know! I have thought about that before, but it's just so few of us that I don't meet that much women to know... And yes, at least I don't feel very comfortable to be out due to the environment. I know that in another environment, namely with more women, it would be much easier.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I can imagine lol But I mean at least you don't have to deal with gender extremists because those people tend to be all over the art world... lol And I'll try :)