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[–]Horror-SwordfishI don't get how flairs work 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I get it, though... I don't have any gay male friends (unless you count my husband, which, of course he's my friend, but that's different), and there's a big part of me that thinks, 'I really would like to be friends with some other LGB people,' but I sort of get the feeling that most of the not-crazy LGB people are just quietly living their lives and aren't really likely to crowd up in LGB spaces, which seem almost overwhelmingly for "activists" nowadays rather than just "socializing."

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

At least you don't have to worry if a guy is actually gay when he says he is (unless he's bisexual which is a whole other situation). As a lesbian, it's hard to trust women who say they're lesbians because it could be bicurious women who want to experiment or straight women calling themselves "political lesbians".

[–][deleted] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It also doesn't help that other people will call any SSA woman a lesbian. 2 friends of mine tried to get me to admit I was a lesbian when they know I like dick. Between them, the LARPers, and the political lesbians it's like there aren't any real ones left.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This is very true. I see this happen as well with bisexual women. And with me, many people don't see being a lesbian as immediately opposed to dick. Is very bizarre.