So I recently asked a question on a gay subreddit trying to get some input on whether there were any Gay men who were attracted to GNC men and obviously most said that they weren't. It's not something that I was new to hearing because I've been aware that the majority of Gay men aren't into GNC feminine presenting men but something that was really frustrating me was how some of these men were saying that I'm trying to look like a woman and for that, I'm not really man. "Transwoman", "Non-binary", etc. These things were thrown in my direction and knowing what I know about Gender ideology and how bullshit it is, this really frustrated me.

And this just made me remember what I hate most being a GNC Feminine gay man and that is that whenever I tried to find other GNC gay men to talk about and vent with, I could never find ANY sane GNC men who didn't buy into gender identity nonsense. Majority of them are calling themseves "transwomen" and the other half are calling themselves "non-binary" or "Genderqueer". Point is they're trying to "other" themselves from being men even though that's what they freaking are.

I suspect that this kinda thing is a vicious cycle. I see young gay men who express interest in feminine things but escpecially if they have an interest in dressing in women's clothing/feminine attire. They get led and I feel even gaslighted into thinking of themselves as not men and that's how they fall into this trap of delusion.

It just gets frustrating because I sometimes do feel like I'm the only GNC feminine guy who doesn't buy into gender bullshit and think Im something other than a man just because I prefer to not look masculine. It has cost me my dating life but it sucks to know that I can't even find other men like myself to talk with. They all believe that they are the things I mentioned and I get it, femininity in men is so highly stigmatized and I think that even Gay men do this to us feminine gay men, trying to gaslight us into thinking we're not men because they find us unattractive but don't want to feel bad for it and try pushing us into the woman category even though we aren't women period, no man in makeup and feminine garb is.

I was reading through some de-trans stories and comparing the stories of de-trans women and de-trans men (usually gay) is very telling because what I picked up is that the det-trans women tend to accept being women meanwhile with de-trans men, they either ditch femininity altogether or the ones who still want to be feminine, they just call themselves "Nonbinary" and in a way, they aren't fixing anything, they are still buying into a lie of them not being able to accept that they are men, feminine men. I dunno, it's just something I noticed in a lot of these stories.

Anyway, I just needed to vent really. Thanks for reading if you did.