I have theories. 😆

Historically, women have been kept inside households and out of the public eye. This is a behaviour that can still be observed to this day with parents raising their boys to be more active and outdoors compared to their girls. That research is quite a few years old though. But in any case, that is something we can reproduce without thinking, keeping discrete, out of the public eye, not sharing our thoughts etc. Lesbians are stereotyped to be more "indoors", I think there's a reason for that lol.

Another possibility is that we are so used to lacking allies and empathy from people, that's we've learned not to show weakness. Personally, the only times I've tried opening up about subjects like shame, I've been pretty brutally dismissed. By what I suspect are closeted bi women (or confused straight women? I honestly don't know). The one time it was received with respect was from my straight uncle. (I was surprised but at the same time not really. He is one of those straight people who actually questioned their sexuality and came out of it thinking 'yes OK I really am straight so I have to look elsewhere for an explanation on why all my relationships fail' lol)

I still have lots of thoughts on the matter but I think those two make up for the majority. What do you think? Does that fit in your experience?