LifestyleI feel depressed when women talk about guys (I'm a lesbian)

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[–]artemisiagrey 25 insightful - 1 fun25 insightful - 0 fun26 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I know the feeling you're talking about. For me it felt like an intense sadness and sudden "otherness". It would happen when a woman would ask me a typical question about any possible man in my life and I would not know how to describe the giant chasm in between what they assumed about my life vs the reality. Looking back at it, I think maybe I was also mourning the loss of ever having a "normal" life comparatively. I know I couldn't date guys, but I also didn't want to go through life not relating to other people.

I think this is why lesbian culture is so very important. It helps you not feel othered. It helps you realize how your experiences are not alone. It's okay not to relate. Reading and listening to lesbian media really helped me stay grounded in who I am when I felt out of place.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡[S] 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I'm so so relieved that I'm not the only one feeling this. I feel so much better after reading your comment because you truly understand where I'm coming from and what I'm feeling, in particular:

For me it felt like an intense sadness and sudden "otherness". Looking back at it, I think maybe I was also mourning the loss of ever having a "normal" life comparatively.

This is exactly it. It's true that consuming lesbian media and seeing more visibility helps, it did help me a lot in the past in fact. Currently though, I just feel more depressed because I'm not "living it", if you know what I mean. But I truly appreciate your comment a lot, because you truly understand me. And it's still true everything you said.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

In the past it was useful. Fanfictions, series, I was obsessed as teen and helped me feeling normal and relate. It was also very exicting to see two women together as something how was not used to. Today is less of an interest. A good movie or story is always welcome, but media like site or forum really I don't like. I never liked a lot of so called lesbian culture.

[–]artemisiagrey 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I'm glad! And acceptance really is a process. There is nothing wrong with how you are living it right now, even if it's not the ideal.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thank you once again. You sound like such a caring person. I wish you the very best and that you'll be very happy in life.