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[–]strawberrycake 19 insightful - 2 fun19 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

If you ladies had any idea of what the fuck gay male culture is like then you wouldn’t even demand to not be called “she”. The gay men I’m friends with still call each other “she” and “girl”. We’re all in our late 20s/early 30s so it’s not like some ancient thing.

You just want to appropriate aspects of gay culture you like (like being called slurs since they VaLiDaTE you) but push away the aspects you don’t like. And at the same time, you want to be treated exactly the same while also having special rules that only apply to you. That’s not how this shit works!

[–]Q-Continuum-kin 12 insightful - 4 fun12 insightful - 3 fun13 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

I think part of this that would really trigger them is that when gays use these words they are usually razzing each other... Also include phrases like "oh she thought..." Or "bitch please" so that type of sarcasm or whatever is definitely a minor form of hostility which we usually laugh off and give it back... But to someone like this they take any hostility as a major aggression and then it's combined with the "unforgivable" act of "misgendering" they are really going to lose it.

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I was wondering about the girl and her thing among gay men, seems like they won’t be able to do it going forward.

[–]Criticallacitirc 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I definitely think younger gay men will stop this. Calling someone the wrong pronouns is akin to violence to them. The facetious way gay men do it, is probably a thing of the past 😥

I've seen them historically go back to trans the dead by saying they were referring to each other as "queens" which is a reference to female identity.

I could scream .

Can't wait for someone to ask why so many trans women in the past referred to each other by their chosen name of Mary? 🤪🤣