I didn't hear many people call things gay or drop slurs in my presence, but based on what happened to the young lesbian I mentored in my first semester of my final year of high school (she got gay bashed in the locker rooms), most of the violent, overt homophobia was directed at lesbians while gay men dealt with more covert types of homophobia as well as sexual assault from "allies."

As for the out bisexual/lesbian girls from my school, yeah, I noticed that trend too where they all ended up with men. I'm not surprised about the ones who said they were bisexual because at least they were honest about their opposite-sex attraction. The girl who came out as a "lesbian" while at university and then slinked back to being with men irks me because we were friends, she did try and groom me into fitting that GBF role, and then she deleted me off Facebook when she went back to riding dick. All of us who were out as gay/bi men seem to remain out.