Man crowned Miss New Zealand

sisterinsomnia · 2020-11-10T23:30:47+00:00

Men do womaning better

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-10T19:52:23+00:00

When they say "remember the humans" they mean "remember the penis people."

sisterinsomnia · 2020-11-10T23:29:43+00:00

This is my new collection interest! I have: egg producers, uterus-havers, uterus-owners, folks with uteruses, vagina-owners, vulva-owners, individuals with a cervix, non-prostate-owners, birthing bodies

Which am I missing?

sisterinsomnia · 2020-08-04T04:59:47+00:00

Thinking, thinking... No, can't think of any reason why it is always women who get the truly violent and brutal and sexist attacks.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-15T18:58:37+00:00

Not agonizing over what to wear every morning, I guess. That is the hardest thing about being a woman, Jenner said at the time.

That and the Lily Madigan debacle in the UK were my first peak experience. Madigan was voted in as the Constituency Labor Party Women's Officer in Rochester and Strood in 2017, despite being nineteen years old at that time and, I think, having transitioned only a year before. So I learned that being a woman is so incredibly easy that the whole sex can be easily represented by a teenager born male with just a few months' experience in womaning. The open and blatant contempt that both these events demonstrate toward the actual life experiences of female people is something else!

sisterinsomnia · 2020-08-03T07:01:19+00:00

This is the new religion. Sing it, sister. Or sibling or whatever. Sigh.

How did we get to this from second wave feminism? When did we think that it would be a great idea to take the class 'women' and turn them into a sub-category of the new gender identity -based category 'women'? And how did it happen that the old class 'women' is now the privileged class and that the other class of 'women' is the less privileged one when it consists of people who enjoyed male privilege until transitioning?

In any case, to be 'cis' requires that one identifies with some abstract female essence in the head or even the soul, then looks into one's pants and notices, happy, that what is there matches this abstract female essence. Most people define their gender on the basis of their biological sex, not apart from it.

And when that is the case, well, then we are adding up apples and oranges when we use 'inclusiveness' as the justification to write 'pregnant people.' Because every time one nonbinary female-bodied person is included and validated, a bus-load of ordinary women are excluded and invalidated.

I hate that whole trans-built edifice, as if one's gender is some weird shitty religion, as if what personality someone has determines which box to tick on forms. And once you go that way you can't define what the group oppressed on the basis of sex even is. "Woman" has become an individual choice, and all the structural reasons why women have been oppressed are disappeared.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-08-02T06:28:08+00:00

Hear, hear. I have a folder full of other examples of the differences between word use in health articles aimed at men vs. women. I have never seen 'ejaculators' used anywhere, and prostate-havers was used only in Teen Vogue's famous anal sex article (which tries to make nonprostate-havers accept anal sex) where the pictures of the pelvic area of non-prostate-havers had erased the clitoris!

That article is a metaphor for the whole trans movement. And shows what it thinks of us non-prostate havers.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-27T01:22:48+00:00

Actually, the trans dogma would argue that being interested in STEM means that you are probably a man (if playing with dolls as a child means that you are girl, then surely adult occupational choices are equally informative). So WIST is a totally unnecessary organization in the first place.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-15T21:43:33+00:00

These are TIMs talking to each other, so they don't care about men's reproductive organs. They have them.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-08-03T12:36:18+00:00

When I first saw that picture about a year ago I thought it looked exactly like a happy doggie. You know, begging for a meatball, sitting there excited.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-08-03T11:59:50+00:00

I know. But they are getting their asses/arses handed to them on Twitter, at least.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-08-03T06:00:53+00:00

The word 'transphobic' has lost all meaning, like a nice glass of wine which has been poured into the Pacific Ocean. What would you call a real transphobic act now? The kind which involves loathing and hatred?

Millions of people seem to be reality-phobic. A child's biological sex is almost always known even before birth these days and certainly after birth. To pretend that it is Schrodinger's sex, to be revealed only after parents have asked the child at some ripe old age, say three, is pure idiocy if for no other reason than because it will never ever work unless the child, indeed is kept in a box like that imaginary Schrodinger's cat was. Other adults and other children will inform the child.

The project of erasing biological sex from human vocabularies is more useless than almost anything I can think of. It will never come to pass. But it's not impossible that the concept of women as adult female human beings will be erased on the political left. I think of today's anti-feminist situation as a pincer move: Both the far right and the far left are enforcing retrogressive sex roles on us.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-08-01T08:56:10+00:00

The language is actually not from CNN but from the American Cancer Society. CNN and many small-town papers just published what the Cancer Society sent them. Press release. The Cancer Society site has a little more and oddly enough the part they didn't send out does mention women, too. It still also talks about individuals with a cervix.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-28T04:11:32+00:00

This sounds very much like a religious cult going after the heretics.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-28T04:03:26+00:00

Exactly. I think of it as trying to write a private contract with patriarchy if you are female: "Psst, misogyny, look over there where the binary women are. I am nonbinary!"

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-27T06:26:32+00:00

The idea that women want to be humiliated and hurt in sex is a fairly old one, but it seems to become more prominent at certain times and then recede from sight. There was a time when articles actually asked what women liked in bed or talked about the female orgasm, but this is not one of those times. Rather, this is a time for women to be choked or slapped without consent, because that is what porn teaches.

Far too many men and boys (and women and girls) believe that what porn depicts includes female sexuality in all its forms, even though most porn is made for the masturbation needs of heterosexual men, and the women in it are props toward that end. It is a form of warped sex education, and I really fear for the generation of today's teenagers who get their ideas about the opposite sex from porn.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-25T08:59:20+00:00

This is probably one of the weirdest things I have ever read. Now male-bodied people are interviewed about their ghost periods on a site which sells menstrual supplies to people who actually do menstruate and none of it is a joke!

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-25T08:40:59+00:00

Why is the trans man angry at the argument that only females get cervical cancer? The word 'female' does not refer to gender identity at all but to biology, though I think this is an attempt to turn it into something equally vacuous as 'woman.'

Also, how can the medical system know that a trans man needs reminders if the trans man has registered as a male person?

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-23T07:46:17+00:00

Yes. It's as if the name is a fossil from far older times when the term 'women' meant something.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-20T20:50:33+00:00

Now I am going to tear my hair out.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-19T00:09:26+00:00

Writing newspapers and firms is a very good idea. I do that already, and if many of us do it will ultimately have an impact. Also not supporting brand names which do not support women.

On JK Rowling, people could support her charity, Lumos, and send her supporting emails.

But ultimately we need a large organization with some clout. So far the ones which exist here are not large. So sign up as a member if you can.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-15T19:00:17+00:00

I think they want to be the ones who define womanhood so that it is being very feminine, liking pink and sparkles, liking submission, makeup and so on. The parts which will be removed are anything to do with the female body.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-09-24T20:36:04+00:00

Yeah, the alphabet soup is fun. I am pretty sure I could find a letter to fit me and I am as vanilla as they come.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-09-05T12:40:47+00:00

Sort of unrelated, but vanilla is the second most expensive spice in the world! It is subtle in flavor and not at all boring if you get the real thing.

My point is, of course, that what is called vanilla sex may be the impression of people who have been dulled by exposure to porn etc to such an extent that they don't get what is going on and view it as bland.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-08-27T09:49:45+00:00

This might be a more distant connection to the same thing, but worth thinking about:

The female body is in the process of being completely erased (we are vulva-owners or cervix-havers or uterus-carriers instead) by being made gender-neutral (pregnant people, menstruators), while the male body stands as it always has, with no attempt to increase inclusive language in health screening messages on, say, prostate cancer (all ejaculators, time to check your prostates).

I think this difference is driven by a kind of misogyny, the hatred of the female body, which might be shared by trans women, trans men and those nonbinary people who have that body. Nobody in those groups wants the female-bodied people to have a name, even though absence of a name for that group makes fighting sexism extremely tough.

And yes, I think the trans women are dominating much of the activism. Natal women are expected to be inclusive and kind and that plays into the very sex-patterned developments, too.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-08-10T16:38:00+00:00

She can write that trans women pose no threat for so-called cis (sic) women because she clearly hasn't done any research on it. Her forte is the optimistic and breezy style and instant intuitive observations. It's not the kind of jaw-breakingly boring work that one must do to understand that 'cis' does NOT mean just a woman who is not trans, but a woman who has a special woman essence in her mind which just happens to match her body. So all 'cis' women are expected to be completely happy to see the female body turned gender-neutral because their identity is that essence in their heads, nothing more.

She clearly has not thought through what will happen when we have no acceptable way of talking about female people. Because if we can't name the people who are of female sex, then we can't define the targets of sexism etc.

But yes, she certainly has not even Googled the topic of incidents in toilets/bathrooms. I have quite a few in my files.

I think she bases her arguments on some very nice trans folks she has known in her life and not on what today's trans activists are demanding. But what matters for women's rights is the latter, sadly, and not the fact that many trans people are good people.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-08-09T23:03:03+00:00

It is part of the erasure of the female body. Now that body is gender-neutral, so there can't be any such thing as sex-based oppression because there is no female biological sex.

And of course everyone who menstruates belongs to the sex which produces large gametes, though it is possible to belong to that sex and not to menstruate, too. Besides menstruation stops for everyone at some point.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-08-09T22:52:58+00:00

Very good. I had a story about an invading force entering the Country of Women. The invaders called themselves refugees and were successful in making the original residents see them as such. But while real refugees would just silently try to learn about the country and get their lives at least a little bit fixed, the colonizers begin by demanding that all the basic laws of the country be changed and that what history can be talked about must be policed.

The old rule about citizenship was that the basic rule was to be born into the country. Not so, after the colonizers have said their bit. Now the basic rule is what the colonizers satisfy but perhaps nobody else among the existing inhabitants. When some of them complain, the colonizers tell them that they obviously identify as men and should leave the Women's Country for those who do identify as women (which means loving pink, sparkles, sleepovers, makeup, erotic clothing and girly talk).

The policing of history means that old role models in the history books of the Women's Country are now assigned to various trans groups, because they didn't act in properly feminine ways. And neither can the old cultural issues be now discussed, such as the female body, as the colonizers don't have those.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-08-04T00:34:49+00:00

I haven't found a general explanation that wouldn't put everyone else into the binary categories. That assumes that those binary people are content with extremely retrogressive gender roles. This is insulting, especially as many if not most people are gender nonbinary in terms of hobbies, interests, personality types and so on but if they don't get the label they are not allowed to be seen as such.

But yes, there are some nonbinary people who seem to use that identity to protect themselves after traumatic experiences and also as a stepping-stone in the stream they are crossing to either transition or detransition. Like a temporary identity but it may become permanent, too.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-08-02T22:50:16+00:00

It is a good piece. The far left is increasingly authoritarian and inflexible. The horseshoe theory of politics really does apply to that part (though not to everything in politics) in that the far right and the far left are both more likely to have authoritarian group-think centered and also in the very black-and-white thinking where introducing nuances is seen as 'problematic.'

He writes about the demands to stop blind auditioning because it has not produced enough orchestra members belonging to racial and ethnic minorities. That it has increased the share of women in orchestras quite dramatically should matter to progressives, because returning to auditions where the player can be observed will bring back sexism. So how are those clashing interests going to be negotiated?

I guess they won't be negotiated at all...

sisterinsomnia · 2020-08-02T20:56:26+00:00

I am not a cis woman. That is a made up term, states that the person is comfortable with their 'assigned gender' from birth, and, more crucially, states that this person has some weird woman essence in her head which just nicely happens to correlate with their female body, but the body itself is not at all the basis of how she defines her gender.

That is why we get cervix-havers and the rest of the shit: By ruling that nobody identifies with their bodies in determining their social gender. But I do, and I believe that most women and men do. Those gender definitions are invalidated and ridiculed when wokerati use ovary-havers and the other shit.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-08-02T20:52:47+00:00

TRAs are the ones who have the powers of naming. They rule the language, and the new words they have created are both lies (afab is not an actual process) and made so that it is impossible to talk about the group 'female people.' The group which faces sex-based oppression.

So afab would be the closest to that. But nobody is 'assigned' a sex at birth. This was done in the past for some intersex babies. Today most people know the sex of the child they are going to have before it is born. Sex is observed, not assigned.

And it is a term for sex we need, not something fuzzy such as 'gender assigned at birth'. I guess one might argue that visitors who bring pink balloons to celebrate the birth of a girl are starting the process of assigning her the female gender stereotypes and so on. But that is not helpful, and in any case a very tiny minority should not be allowed to demand total power over language as part of trans rights.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-08-02T20:45:36+00:00

Considering that it is written by a self-acclaimed expert on sex, the absence of the clitoris should have made the editors immediately reject the piece.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-08-02T20:44:35+00:00

This is one of the things which gave me another mini-peak. That the clitoris is erased altogether in the picture is deeply symbolic of the erasure of the biological woman in everything.

And yes, this is a real article, and yes, it is aimed at teens.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-08-02T06:31:11+00:00

Oddly enough, my online reading suggests that many AGPs are very right-wing. You are correct in that the vocal activists and the movement itself is far left. Imagine far left strongly advocating retrogressive gender roles because they are good for trans people...

sisterinsomnia · 2020-08-01T02:41:46+00:00

Is this part of being sex positive? I have not read enough about prostitution, but I am almost completely sure that all sex workers face a very high risk of being murdered because the men who want to butcher women know that they are most likely to get off if she is a prostitute.

The bit about black trans women facing the highest murder rate of all groups is not actually true. I saw one calculation where in the US it came to roughly the same rate as the rate black women in the same job face in genera. All murders are horrible and all murderers are despicable, but it is odd how one neo-group of black women (with male bodies) gets all the attention while natal black women have to jump up and down and yell to even be noticed.

The overall rate at which transgender people are murdered in the US is actually realy low, lower than the rate at which all women are murdered. So even TRAs dare not lie about that rate, but they have chosen to hook onto the BLM with the black trans woman rate. It is still a lie that it would be the highest rate.

Then there is the fact that many of the recent killings of black trans women in the US were not by the punters but rather similar in type to how all murders are. In other words, a lot of intimate partner killings or fights within the family or drug deals gone bad and so on. What she says about sex workers deserving to exist in their careers without consistent shame and violence is very true, of course. But which group is it which does the shaming and the violence? Who are the people we hear yelling about whores all the time and so on? It is not SWERFs. Which is a completely nonsensical term.

I haven't watched the video yet, just read the text.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-31T14:15:18+00:00

I am extremely angry that this development is sold as inclusiveness. My own gender identity is that I am a woman because I am female, i.e, because I have a female body, and that body affects my life as well as the way others treat me.

So when the inclusionists use terms such as 'menstruating people' my gender identity gets slapped on its face and invalidated. But this must not happen to those whose identities require that the body not be mentioned. There is a clear clash of rights and one size, the one with lots more people, is expected to lie down and identify as a silent door mat. Because of #nodebate.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-31T09:38:04+00:00

A survey done in the UK a few years ago by a cervical cancer trust found that almost half of the women they surveyed didn't know what a cervix is. That is a huge problem when someone is giving out health information. And as MezozolcGay pointed out, the word 'women' is missing from the entire article. Yet something like 98% of all people with a cervix think of themselves as women.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-30T19:55:57+00:00

A Human With Vagina. My new gender identity. This stuff is so insulting! Yet to complain about it turns me into the monster.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-30T19:18:18+00:00

Sorry, I didn't save it. It went round on FB I think, but I cant get it to come up in search.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-30T19:09:35+00:00

Many of you may have seen that video which shows how easy it is to tell male and female movements apart. I recall that you only see the little points of light the video attaches to all the joints of drawn male and female body shapes. When they move, all you see against everything being dark is those little twinkling lights moving, and it is enough to tell which body is supposed to be male and which female.

I don't know how to turn off that skill which appears to be required now.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-30T08:32:11+00:00

It went according to Posie's plans, of course. This is a great strategy because when the poster was taken down it became news worth reporting and more people learned about the underlying reasons. The Streisand effect.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-29T22:02:57+00:00

I don't know how 'feminine' patterns of work and transport trans women might have. Based on what I have read those men who transition in mid-life certainly don't seem to take on any female-coded household chores or child-rearing chores.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-29T04:44:33+00:00

That's because not refusing to kiss the toes of every trans activist idea out there, every single one of them, however clearly that removes rights from billions of other people, is now transphobia. Indeed, the only acceptable choices are silence (which may also be violent, I read, as not supporting is violent) and extreme adulation.

So the slur is now meaningless, or would be, were it not for the pictures of anime figures aiming guns at you that the slur comes with.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-29T02:10:19+00:00

I want to see similar discussions about 'what is a man?" I want to see discussions about putting 'ejaculators' on condom packets for the sake of inclusiveness, and I want lots of universities start clubs for mxn, to be inclusive of people who are not men but who want all the benefits the club offers. (This latter is because I have started seeing stuff which suggests that nonbinary means you get not to be a woman when it is unpleasant but that you do get included when it benefits you. All that 'nonbinary women' shit.)

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-28T04:42:21+00:00

When I first learned about it I went to the site. They explain 'gender' by having a long row of pictures, one end being a Barbie doll and the other a GI Joe. In-between those two the body changes from less curvaceous to first straight and then to the inverted v-shape. That the concept of 'gender,' assumed to have zero to do with biological sex, is explained using bodies and their clear biological sex seems so bonkers to me. Then they recommend that you pick the gender label that reflects the body you most identify with or something equally irrational.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-28T04:20:48+00:00

The writer of this piece did zero research on this topic, elevating a very small study done by a trans advocate, while ignoring the two recent studies which demonstrate that the one year on estrogen does pretty much nothing to decrease the advantage of going through male puberty.

https://www.preprints.org/manuscript/202005.0226/v1

https://www.biorxiv.org/content/biorxiv/early/2019/09/26/782557.full.pdf

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-27T06:03:00+00:00

The problem I see is that these issues seem to pushing out many of the traditional concerns of the left, such as the fact that material things matter enormously. Income inequality matters, having child-care matters, having good schools and health care everywhere, including in poor areas, matters. The trans discourse may stick out more in this, because however marginalized and hurting that group might be it is very small. Yet these concerns seem to be taking out most of the oxygen in the air so that things like poverty are ignored.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-26T21:49:07+00:00

Slightly off the topic, but pay attention to what has happened to language, who now have the power of naming and which demographic group is being erased.

The 'assigned at birth' is just part of all those changes, such as 'woman' is now nothing more but a feeling inside one's head, perhaps to do with liking pink and sparkles, 'biological sex' is now complicated, perhaps a spectrum, perhaps socially constructed, equality of the sexes has been replaced by the equality of all sorts of neo-genders, all based on nothing but feelings in the head, 'gay' and 'Lesbian' are now problematic words as sexual orientation is replaced with preferences for certain gender expressions, and so on.

The way 'inclusiveness' (from queer theory) has invaded feminism is the same as others demanding that we keep our houses unlocked, invite everyone in, and never complain when they trash the house and steal our own identities and rights. But now not being inclusive enough is bigotry...

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-26T07:50:39+00:00

I have seen some anecdotal (and online!) evidence that some are doing this, but not so much for gaining access to women's bodies per se, but for gaining access to the unlimited amounts of sex they believe all women enjoy all day long. Now how many people that might be is unclear.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-26T05:21:17+00:00

So let me get this right. It is okay for a woman to refuse to undress in an enclosed space with an adult naked bepenised person if that person is not getting undressed out of a dress, but not okay if that person is getting undressed out of a dress, everything else being exactly the same?

I have recently noticed how TRAs, at least online, have zero empathy with natal women. Zero.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-26T05:02:12+00:00

Gender stereotypes used to be one of the things feminism fought against. Now lib fems fight for them...

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-26T05:01:17+00:00

I know. There is nothing innate about color preferences, but little children are gender detectives and when they learn the concept of gender they try to make sense of it. This leads to avoiding the colors that they think mean the other sex. But their ideas about sex (I don't think they even understand what 'gender' is and sometimes I think nobody does today) are extremely superficial. In one study a little boy put a barrette in his hair and declared that he was now a girl. The adults thought it was funny, but he meant it literally. For him 'girl' and 'boy' were all about superficial stuff.

And the TRAs argue that children of that age (three or four) already know for certain if they are trans...

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-26T04:57:10+00:00

Pretty much. Conservatives argue that if you are a boy you must play football. TRAs argue that if you play football you must be a boy. They are almost equally rigid and regressive in stereotypes, though the left form of this allows people to choose one of the rigid sexist boxes or become a nonbinary which really is meaningless while the right argues that sex is what determines those rigid boxes.

I had several years recently when I was just too busy to follow these developments, and when I did pick it up I was truly shocked. The strong sexism from the far left has now joined the strong sexism from the far right. A pincer move against real feminism.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-25T09:33:57+00:00

Correct. The only way someone can identify as nonbinary is if others identify with the sexist and retrogressive binary gender roles and stereotypes. So the statement is not only about the nonbinary person but about everyone else, too.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-23T07:36:45+00:00

Now that was cathartic!

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-23T07:30:13+00:00

All the Karen subreddits are chock full of misogyny. I spent a couple of hours reading them the other day. Many seem to enjoy finding that it is acceptable to openly bash at least middle-aged white women with certain hair-cuts, while far worse behavior by men goes unmentioned or at least is never generalized the same way.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-23T04:38:05+00:00

This is the new type of inclusiveness, though it appears to apply to anything to do with women harder. One must have no boundaries, one must never center women's issues, and that is within feminism! It should go without stating that focusing on one group at a time does not mean that the other groups are not worthy of support, but that sometimes there are specific reasons to focus on that one group.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-19T05:59:18+00:00

Yup. What was that stockbroker or something called who won Glamour magazine's Woman of the Year a few years ago? He carefully built his career in a pinstripe suit, then started going in on alternative days as a(n inappropriately dressed) woman. Part-time womaning for giggles.

But if he chose to list his gender as 'woman' in official statistics, his high earnings would be counted as female. There are too few people doing this to affect the overall average gender (really sex) gap in wages, say, but it is still extremely annoying and insulting.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-17T01:06:53+00:00

He sounds well-meaning and like someone who has never really questioned the issue beyond a very superficial glance and the desire to support a marginalized minority. That this particular marginalized minority has rather wide-reaching plans of erasing the female body (but not the male body) and so on is not visible after only a superficial glance. I know because I traveled from where he is to where I am now, and it is "educating" myself by reading writings on both sides which led me here...

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-15T22:12:33+00:00

Claim it in the first place? Those called T*RFS didn't create the term.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-15T21:11:02+00:00

This may not be peaking, but it made me realize that I didn't understand what had happened to the trans rights movement. https://janeclarejones.com/2018/11/13/the-annals-of-the-terf-wars/

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-13T22:33:47+00:00

Indeed. The UK Green Party at one point had men and non-men! Talk about erasure. But of course men don't have to be inclusive, only women. So prostate cancer is a men's health problem, cervical cancer is a cervix-haver problem.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-07-10T21:01:31+00:00

Do the schools teach about homosexuality and heterosexuality as homegenderuality and heterogenderuality? However hard I try, I cannot find any logic at all in the latter concepts.

sisterinsomnia · 2022-04-10T22:39:51+00:00

The activists took that poll over (astroturfing it). The results mean nothing, i.e., they can't be interpreted to mean that people in general now regard 'women' as a class consisting of a mix of penis women and vulva women.

sisterinsomnia · 2021-09-10T04:10:51+00:00

Love those gentle reminders! The statement is only true IF and ONLY IF 'woman' has nothing to do with belonging to the female sex. So someone, somewhere changed the definition without any democratic consultation. So all women out there who regard themselves as women BECAUSE their sex is female have now their identities invalidated in order to validate the identities of a tiny group of transgender individuals with female bodies.

sisterinsomnia · 2021-09-10T04:06:39+00:00

This is one of those odd things where someone accuses another person of what might apply to the accuser. AGP is a fetish and those transgender women who have it are fetishists. But they are probably among those accusing others of 'genital fetishism'.

sisterinsomnia · 2021-06-29T04:24:05+00:00

It is an erasure. Any woman whose gender identity is embodied, i.e., who is a woman because she lives with a female body has her gender identity erased (to use the trans-cult language). She can no longer be a woman on an embodied basis but is told that she possesses an abstract identity which just happens to coincide with the sex of her body, and that other people have the same body but do not identify as women so 'pregnant people' is required to replace 'pregnant women.' To be inclusive.

But that inclusiveness denies many, many women the basis on which they accept the label 'women.'

A corollary is that there is now no non-pejorative name for those who are of the female biological sex. Yet that is the very group which is suffering from sex-based forms of oppression.

Another way to think about this is to ask what would happen if, say, communists were called just 'people' because they clearly are people. Doing that erases the focus of what they identify with (in trans-cult language).

sisterinsomnia · 2021-02-03T07:13:50+00:00

I have been stunned by the sex differences in transgender leadership. TIMs end up as leaders in feminist places at much higher percentages than their actual numbers in the population would suggest while TIFs are quite rare in leadership roles. I can think of only one or two off the top of my head. But lots of feminist sites have many TIMs. So no wonder that Clymr would be hired to have opinions about something which will never happen to Clymr.

This is linked to the wider trend of erasing all words for biologically female people and replacing them with pejorative expressions such as vulva people while biologically male people are still called men. It has been shocking to watch because it casts light on the question how women got subjugated in the first place. Being inclusive and nice is just a polite way of describing doormattery.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-11-26T08:49:09+00:00

From the article it seems that Decaudin is campaigning to erase any reference to biological sex. He must be an MRA plant, because the group benefiting from that is men as all erasure of the biological sex that has so far taken place has affected only the female biological sex. There are no health articles about ejaculators, in the name of inclusiveness, but many about menstruators, for the same reason. So getting rid of biological sex means getting rid of women.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-11-13T05:28:41+00:00

Those who suggest that trans women often have a male concept of what an ideal woman might be could have predicted that they are going to compete in beauty pageants, dress seductively, mostly ignore real feminists concerns and so on. That's because the ideal woman of a teenage boy is pretty much a beauty queen.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-11-13T04:23:04+00:00

5) Is it okay to invalidate someone's gender identity? Wouldn't invalidating someone's gender identity be lgbtphobic? If no, can you explain why?

Please answer a question for me: Why is it possible for others to invalidate a deeply held inner feeling of one's true gender? I have never been able to understand this and it feels like a contradiction, but perhaps there is something more to this than I am aware of.

If someone misgenders me it doesn't bother me at all, so I find it difficult to fully understand why validation is of such central focus as it seems to be.

Having said that, I would personally not invalidate anyone's conceptions of themselves unless it was necessary for their health and safety (such as in some medical contexts where biological sex matters greatly), and I believe that this is true for most people. People are not going to want to cause discomfort to others.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-11-13T04:18:37+00:00

4) Can you explain why gender identity does not exist? Don't cisgender people identify as/feel like they are the sex they were assigned at birth? Don't other animals identify as their sex assigned at birth due to lack of cognitive ability to identify as anything but their own sex?

I don't think anyone has done research on the existence vs. non-existence of gender identity. All I can say is that I don't have an abstract gender identity and when I read about its presumed universal existence I have no idea what it means and why others find it such an important concept. People have personalities, true, and those show some pattern of being distributed differently by sex, but most everybody really is non-binary in the sense that most people are not walking two-dimensional Barbie or GI Joe stereotypes. Stuff that I see as part of someone's personality is assigned to that person's gender now. This is bad for feminism as it makes the gender boxes more rigid.

Because I don't believe that most people possess an abstract gender identity, I am very reluctant to assume that if only animals were able to think on a higher level they, too, would somehow be found to have such an abstract identity. In any case, studying something like 'gender identity' is impossible, because it is supposed to be an internal feeling and others cannot validate it by measurements etc.

I believe that the concept makes sense for transgender people, however.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-11-13T04:12:07+00:00

3) Why do you say people can't be born in the wrong body?

I personally think that this question is one about linguistics, but I have noticed that Mermaids (a trans organisation in the UK) now says that nobody is born in the wrong body. One can clearly have intense discomfort with the body one has, of course, but why that is the case is something for medical research.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-11-13T04:05:50+00:00

2) Why do you say sex is not assigned at birth? If sex is not assigned at birth then what is it?

In the past biological sex was sometimes assigned by physicians when an infant's genitals could not be readily identified as either male or female. This was done very very rarely, and most infants were classified as either male or female on the basis of observing their genitals.

Now many expecting parents know before the birth the sex of the fetus. If sex is assigned by anything, then it would be the moment of conception.

Sex is defined in humans the same way it is defined in other animals. It is not a spectrum in humans, though secondary sexual characteristics can be. You are female if you belong to the sex which typically produces ova and you are male if you belong to the sex which typically produces sperm.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-11-13T04:01:54+00:00

1) Can GC explain what is wrong with what I said above? Can you break what I said down and tell me what's wrong with what I said above and why you disagree with it.

These come down to gender identity. A cisgender man is someone who identifies as a man and was assigned male at birth. A cisgender woman is someone who identifies as a woman and was assigned female at birth.

Cisgender people are people whose gender identity matches their sex assigned at birth.

What if those who don't transition have no such abstract gender identity which just happens to match their biological sex? I am pretty sure that I do not, and my informal surveys suggest that many others don't, either.

I believe that for many people the way the feel about their gender is actually based on their biological sex. For instance, my gender is 'woman' because my body is female. There is a causal relationship which runs from the sex of my body to my gender. In a sense I believe that transgender people do not identify with their biological sex while what the gender identity school calls 'cisgender' people (it's not, really, the correct definition of what many feel) do identify with their biological sex. It affects our lives both directly and in how others relate to us. It is also the basis for sex-based discrimination, sexism, and so on.

In short, I think your definition is incorrect.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-11-10T23:38:12+00:00

Their website was hilarious the last time I looked at it which is about six months ago. They talk about vaginas (men are interested in vaginas because they are the tubes while female sexuality is actually about the vulvas so odd choice for the museum). They state that their important value is inclusiveness.

Enough said.

I can't get over the great eagerness so many younger feminists show for the destruction of feminism. I think that it is because they have not thought the consequences and that they are mostly too young to have experienced the kind of sexism which comes later in life. But maybe they just don't like feminism.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-11-10T23:35:13+00:00

This has probably to do with validation. Validation is a never-ending need.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-11-10T05:48:28+00:00

I believe that it is an issue with the real fragility of the gender identity of some transgender people. When someone uses the wrong pronouns on them their world collapses. And yes, in all other contexts this would be viewed as a mental health disorder of some type and the responsibility for dealing with it would not be put on the shoulders of everyone else. This particular minority is treated differently, probably because most negative consequences are experienced by boring bog-standard women who are expected to be kind, without boundaries and so on.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-11-10T05:46:02+00:00

It also utterly invalidates my gender identity. I am a woman because I have a female body and because others treat me a certain way due to not having a male body. Yet suddenly my female body should be written about as if it was gender-neutral (people get pregnant now or bodies)! That leaves me without an identity and the other side tells me that this outcome is annihilating.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-10-25T23:22:04+00:00

This is the study which most clearly shows that the advantage male puberty gives is not removed or even much affected by hormone therapy. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31794605/

sisterinsomnia · 2020-10-25T23:03:48+00:00

National Geography also just wrote about 'pregnant people.' It has been mainstreamed. So the two sexes now are a) men and b) everyone who wishes to be something else.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-10-10T20:07:35+00:00

The trans activists know that the pushback would come from men. That's why we don't read about 'ejaculators' or about 'prostate-havers'. The male biological sex is left alone. There are no groups calling themselves mxn, to be inclusive.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-10-10T20:06:11+00:00

One small aspect of this is that in the UK the debate began earlier because of the proposal to go for self-declaration of gender with zero safeguards around it. In the US everything has happened in the shadows. It took me some time to realise how much has been changed when nobody was watching.

I hope that the US can catch up on that needed open debate, but right now people are being pilloried for saying anything at all.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-10-10T20:02:24+00:00

The principle is to have your cake and to save it, too. I see this for nonbinary female-bodied people, too. Both groups want everything, i.e., to not be treated shittily like women are treated, but to still share in all the fruits from feminists work and, in fact, to be prioritised in that work so that we cannot say 'pregnant women' but must say 'pregnant people'. We must be inclusive and so destroy our ability to see the female biological sex as the reason for our oppression because it is now just something that applies to 'people' in general.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-10-09T16:42:12+00:00

The category 'women' is not allowed to have any boundaries. Or at least those boundaries are not allowed to be decided by women. The goal is to make the word meaningless. It almost is already.

When people talk about 'inclusiveness' this is what really is behind it.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-10-09T16:39:43+00:00

Women's sexuality is now defined by what porn creates and most porn is created to satisfy the masturbatory needs of heterosexual men. So there is not much asking women themselves what they might like in bed. The changes in this over time are pretty astonishing, actually.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-10-09T15:20:14+00:00

When you say 'pregnant people' you invalidate the gender identities of all women who identify as women because they have biologically female bodies, and you turn the female body into something gender-neutral. When the female body has been made gender-neutral it becomes impossible to talk about the female biological sex and then it becomes impossible to talk about the oppression women face which is based on sex.

So something which is supposed to be 'inclusive' is actually anything but inclusive, because it invalidates the gender 'identities' of the vast majority of women and because it tries to make feminists work in the future impossible. But then 'inclusivity' comes from queer theory and never was intended to be about fairness. It is intended to destabilise and destroy the concept 'woman,' and it is succeeding. Oddly enough, it is never aimed at destabilising the concept 'man.'

sisterinsomnia · 2020-10-03T20:33:59+00:00

I appreciate what Linehan has done and how much it has cost him in lost employment and harassment.

If you have not already signed the support letter for JK Rowling, please do it! 17,000 names and still rising but more slowly. You can be anonymous, too.

https://www.ipetitions.com/petition/in-solidarity-with-jk-rowling

sisterinsomnia · 2020-10-03T00:38:14+00:00

It is the handmaidens which truly upset me. I have a seat watching the reasons why women have not had rights all through the history though I still can't quite understand where the privileging of this TIM comes from. Is it just privileging male people? Is it virtue signalling and the successful trans campaign which argues that trans people are the most oppressed of all people ever, even if they are coddled rich white TIMs? Or a mixture of both? Or fear, based on the obvious fact that not going along with the adulation results in nasty shit being poured over one's head? Or something else entirely?

I would like to know.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-10-03T00:35:30+00:00

Autogynephilia can take several forms and one has to do with the biological functions of the female body which the autogynephile finds sexually arousing. There are some who have the fetish about menstruation, some who have it about being pregnant and about giving birth (but not about caring for the infant in general terms), some have it about lactating. I have even seen at least one person who constantly writes about a desire to undergo an abortion.

But such things cannot be talked about in any public forum. They do leak out in the writings of some trans women, such as that asshole who wrote Female and argues that being a woman is all about being degraded.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-10-02T05:33:53+00:00

Yup. Strangio is astonishingly misogynistic. I think Strangio chooses the side on the basis of most hurt to women. It is wrong that the mental problems of others are allowed to affect everyone in this manner.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-10-01T21:23:06+00:00

Yup. The current assignment of gender to colours is quite recent, from the early 20th century. That's why viewing it as biologically essentialist is so hilarious. There was even an evo psycho study arguing that women prefer pink as they were the ancient fruit gatherers (but ripe fruit is red, not pink) and that men prefer blue because of ?

sisterinsomnia · 2020-10-01T21:20:41+00:00

There was a study about how children gain colour preferences. The researchers asked very young children to pick balls with different colours. The three-year old group picked colours quite randomly, boys often picking pink and girls blue and so on. By age four or so this changed and the boys started avoiding pink and purple balls and the girls choosing them.

The explanation is that at a certain age kids want to know how their group (boys, girls) behaves, so they learn the cues for that from the world around them. But because they are still very concrete in their thinking, the meaning of things like colour preference becomes very policed. I knew a little boy who at age four or so firmly believed that when he put a necklace on he became a girl. The princess dress etc. may be something similar.

Once kids understand that their being boys and girls is stable and not depending on all that stuff the pink phase tends to be over for most girls. Of course now schools teach that being a boy or a girl might not be stable so perhaps in the future teens walk around in pink princess dresses?

sisterinsomnia · 2020-09-29T22:06:03+00:00

This is a part of the post-modernist idea that there is no objective reality so one's emotions and 'lived experiences' take precedence.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-09-29T22:04:17+00:00

My personal experience is that the pink princess dress stage is a phase and passes. Not all girls (or boys) have it at all, but those who do seem to have absorbed (kids are little sponges about how boys and girls are supposed to be, though the culture gives them the answers) the messages about princesses are just acting out the highest role girls are given in traditional fairy tale stories. Like boys playing at being astronauts etc.

So this doesn't really say much about the raising of the girl.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-09-29T22:01:39+00:00

Agreed on the importance of having more powerful people speaking out. The costs of doing so for many of us are truly high in potential job loss and nonstop harassment, but I already see a very slight change because JK Rowling spoke out. And Cleese supported her. Note, though, how Cleese doesn't get the death threats or the porn pictures. Misogyny really fuels much of the wokebeard social warriorism.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-09-28T22:53:04+00:00

That is weird, to close the comments only after six. Probably an attempt to control what is said. The Karen meme is a heaven-send for those who want to be misogynistic (and ageist) because it is easily generalised to any woman who is white and middle-aged even if she is not doing any of the things the meme Karen does. It suffices if she states something.

sisterinsomnia · 2020-09-28T22:08:45+00:00

You can go on the site and give them feedback. Just scroll down the page to find 'contact us,' then follow the instructions for feedback. Their language is 100% from the trans playbook so that 'woman' is just some weird essence inside someone's brain and inclusiveness means forcing everyone to see that way so that the female body becomes gender-neutral and the female sex is eradicated. Once the female sex cannot be named how are we to fight against sex-based oppression?

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