Discuss with just facts?

VioletRemi · 2020-11-23T19:12:05+00:00

And how about actually adressing the point instead of attacking the person, lmao?

VioletRemi · 2020-11-23T18:00:40+00:00

Not sure why discussing this.

Homosexuality exist in mammals without society. Done.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-23T17:00:46+00:00

how hard

And almost no news about 3-5 times increased rates of Domestic Violence, about increased amount of women running out of home with kids, increased amount of women and kids dying from domestic violence, strongly increased amount of rape cases.

But "harder to buy estrogen and need 2 more hours than usually" is discussed and "so bad! Poor transes!".

and if they died

Yet 0 deaths of trans people this year so far in Europe. And no homicides either. They attacked or killed more women during this time, than being targeted themselves.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-22T22:22:42+00:00

Most funny thing is that it was done by transgenders themselves and was posted to me by transgender to support their position, and instead it is literally harming them.

Same as this their site, which only speaks against their claims: https://transrespect.org/en/map/trans-murder-monitoring/?submap=tmm_2020

UK were mourning at Transgender Rememberence Day, when 0 transgenders were killed in whole year in UK, yet during lockdown 3 women are killed every week from domestic violence, which is almost 5 times increase from last year. Yet there no Women Rememberence Day. And event that was about mourning victims of male feminicide in France - was vandalized by transwomen.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-22T21:49:23+00:00

I had a source about 2015 year, not sure I will be able to find it again (that will take long digging in browsing history - it was big poll made by transgender organisation, where only 12% said they had surgery, 34% more said they may do surgery, and rest said they either never will or maybe will but in many years from now), and then it was only estimation about 2019 year, as transwomen quantity raised exponentially, but surgeries done raised only by few percents (so it mathematically it was going to around levels I've said).

VioletRemi · 2020-11-22T20:19:54+00:00

We are discussing problems that are unique to our experience, homophobia and sexism we are surrounded all the time, sharing our similar experiences, trying to not let "I am bisexual but call myself lesbian" or "I am a man with penis but I am lesbian" to become main narrative (like it is in most "lesbian" spaces nowadays, where all lesbians are banned or pushed out, and only non-lesbians staying there). If woman comes and is shitting on us with homophobia - there nothing misogynyc in telling her to shut up in her homophobia/lesbophobia. Answer - if white woman comes to women of color forum and start speaking racist things about women of color - should she be told to shut up or it is "misogynyc" to do so, lol?

VioletRemi · 2020-11-22T20:10:50+00:00

This easily seen on UK polls. When poll asking if transwomen should be allowed to women spaces - majority is saying yes. When poll asking if transwomen with penises should be allowed to women spaces - even bigger majority is saying no.

People just not realize that 5 years ago only 12% of transwomen did not had penises. And nowadays only 5-6%.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-22T20:09:01+00:00

On my proves nothing was responded :(

VioletRemi · 2020-11-22T20:03:37+00:00

Yeah, comparing lesbians to men is way too homophobic, and not very common thing for many people with same views finding somehow this forum and writing here.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-22T19:05:42+00:00

For person in question - maybe. For system in general? Clearly not.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-22T17:19:17+00:00

I think it is just misogynysts found a "law loophole in liberal views".

VioletRemi · 2020-11-22T17:12:50+00:00

Because their whole life depends on everyone else? They do not exist without other people validation.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-22T17:08:07+00:00

It happened few months ago, but need a reminder.

men

There "man", singular.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-22T16:40:02+00:00

Yeah, "woman" is not a person, "woman" is not a living human being, woman is just a "uniform", a mask you wear and can remove whenever you want. All sexism is only because of women's stubbornness of not wanting to remove that "uniform"!

VioletRemi · 2020-11-22T16:11:18+00:00

It was answered. Researches, experiments and conversion therapies that were saying it is not innate - all failed and found no support for their claim. In science it is very often used "proof to the contrary" methodics, when laws are proven and concluded from making an assumption that law is incorrect and going from there, finding that opposite to the law can't be true, and though law is true. So, as a former scientist, I see all those failed researches, experiments and conversion theraies as evidence for sexuality being innate. Plus it is corresponds with living esperience with majority of homosexual people. Even for bisexual people sexuality is seems to be always staying constant, if they are liking men for 80% and women for 20%, after 30 years, even if lived with women - they still have same ration on how they are liking men and women.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-22T14:44:57+00:00

You get wet and aroused from a naked woman you like nearby? Or it is just visual liking and romantic stuff?

VioletRemi · 2020-11-22T14:19:39+00:00

I see no answers there at all, only blaming that it is TERF thing to ask.

And then people saying "TERF is not a slur". It is. People just throw that word and can ignore anything, any criticism, any real complains, any real problems. It is same like saying "that person is nazi, we should ignore all they're saying".

VioletRemi · 2020-11-22T12:59:14+00:00

Sexuality is not an identity. If you are bisexual you are bisexual, even if you call herself heterosexual, or lesbian or gay man, or anything else. Your words would not change material reality of who you are. And the reason that people still ignoring reality and agreeing with whatever people say they are - hurts actual lesbians (and well - all other minorities).

And - a lot of lesbians are hating bisexual women just for that (I myself fine with bisexual women, my first gf was bisexual), and it creates bi-phobia withing the community. When bisexual women are saying they are lesbians and then dating men or never even dating women, but just saying that they are lesbians. And then men are oming to lesbians and saying - hey, that woman who always dates men is calling herself lesbian, so come and try my dick, you just not found correct dick yet!

And it is not even QT problem, this was long before QT. It is mostly porn problem, porn makes "lesbians" sexy for straight men, so even straight women can be called themselves lesbians or kiss another girl while men are looking to "be more hot for men and sell for more".

And from what I've seen in those communities, many of them aren't lesbians. Like non-binary woman who is dating feminine man who is non-binary too are calling themselves lesbians, even thought they never had any relationship with woman and never even kissed a woman.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-22T12:54:30+00:00

Experience of homosexual people is not enough of an evidence? Especially in countries, where lesbians are forced into marriage, and yet lesbians are failing to get aroused from men even with long time living with hem or with different ones (I was married on a man as well).

The fact that all tried conversion therapies failed is not enough of an evidence?

The fact that all researches on "fluidity over life" failed to is not an evidence? Even if it not covers all the cases and there some exceptions (which are most likely not exist), it says that vast majority of homosexual people can not change sexuality.

What it should be then to make it more clear?

VioletRemi · 2020-11-22T12:31:01+00:00

If bisexual woman identifies as lesbian, she does not become lesbian from that, she is still bisexual.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-22T12:25:04+00:00

Ah yes, it is just homosexuals in Iran are masochists and do not want to change sexuality even in fear of death.

There nothing bad or weird in bisexuality to accept it.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-22T01:38:55+00:00

Bonus quote: https://i.imgur.com/exIWSpi.png

"Most important thing is thinking about your gender whole day"

VioletRemi · 2020-11-22T01:17:29+00:00

Archive of article in question: https://archive.is/c4QsR (archive to not give clicks).

When he rebranded himself as "non-binary", there was different article, that now he is a saviour of trans people: https://archive.is/ph3wP

However, all points are still valid. Being GNC man without calling yourself non-binary or trans - is "threat to trans".

VioletRemi · 2020-11-22T01:05:10+00:00

Being female is just a clothing to wear. Any more misogynistic claim there can be done?

Gender non-confirming men, who are not claiming to be women, are danger to transwomen because then transwomen have no way to show that they are women? Really? How does anyone see this and do not realize how sexist this is and how it hurts both women and GNC men?

So if transwoman have sex without cloths with a man, then it is homosexual sex, but if sex is in cloths it is "heterosexual" sex? How does that even work?

VioletRemi · 2020-11-21T23:47:03+00:00

I meant they can chose between men and women to date. I worded it poorly, yeah. Thank you for noticing.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-21T22:57:03+00:00

And I'd say it is not even transgender people's fault. It is conservative abusive men (and friends) found way to reduce rights and powers of minorities and to spread the abuse, but this time by framing it is as something good and progressive. And now many are just jumping the bandwagon (mostly men) or becoming victims of ideology (mostly teen women, 5337% increased transition rate for them). And in the end it is already marginalized groups of people who are suffering from it - people of color, women, gender non-conforming people, LGB people, intersex people, and even old-school transsexuals. While men are gaining more power and control over spaces (like that NYC district, where right before elections man decided to become transwoman and he with other man from same political power won both places - men's and women's), or 56% of transwomen in prisons are men who decided to transition after getting to prison and asked to move them to women's prison (and mostly they are sexual offenders, so sexual offender crimes are over represented among transwomen, almost 2~2.5 times more than in general for men) - who are then detransitioning after getting out of jail (at least few cases were like that), men are taking women's places in goverment, or taking control over women's organisations (like in UK just year ago transitioned manager took over women's help and pregnancy support center). And then they are using their power to remove word "woman" from everywhere - because when it is "people's abortion problems" - it is everyone's problem, not just women's problem, so men have voice there too, when we are "birthing bodies" - sex-work is justified, as we are just bodies and not human beings, and so on. And at same time men's spaces are not touched, word "man" nowhere is replaced. And it in the end hurts transsexual and "good transwomen" too, because of the fact that most of newly appeared TW are just from those men who want to abuse system or control women (and hurts transmen, because a lot of lesbians, gnc young women are transitioning to transmen under the pressure, and while only 4-5% of TW are getting surgeries, more than half of TM are getting at least top surgeries, which is destroying their body for the whole life, as most of them detransitioning later on).

VioletRemi · 2020-11-21T22:17:19+00:00

I don’t really know of a way that we’d check to ensure everyone is female

Change society in a way that men are not automatically thinking that women should just take their will unquestioned, and where men have enough respect to women to not act like that. But those are just dreams for next hundred years at least.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-21T21:13:22+00:00

compromising

Why it is WE who need to compromise? Why always women?

To me the compromise should be- female spaces remain sex based, and we just accept thst passing TW may use those spaces undetected, but we have the ability to ask an obvious male to leave.

It is still not a solution, and again imposted on us without our consent, ignoring us in general.

From possible "choices" it is the best one. But when you chose between "the worst", "very bad" and "not too bad" - it is not a choice.

became randomly mad, as it always happens to women, through millenias

I’d personally be okay with certain requirements being in place so at least we could stop the majority of it in theory.

Yeah, anti-safeguarding like in Norway by law (if you ask clearly man to leave, they can sue you to 3 years in jail, and that even can happen with just regular man who is not TW, as they can go after that and in the internet through site change their Self-ID and sue you as TW), or like in "Brenda not a Wolf" child's book that teaches kids to trust creepy guys near the van giving them candies, or like Oxford's university which invites any men inside, so creepy men can easily use that opportunity.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-21T21:01:03+00:00

As Duncan said: "The only safe males in women's toilets/spaces are the ones who will not enter them even if they will be allowed to".

VioletRemi · 2020-11-21T20:59:12+00:00

however I don’t know that I have the right to say that and dismiss how other females may feel. If a female says she feels uncomfortable or unsafe with any male, regardless of GRS or identity,

I would not feel comfortable with any male in such spaces. When I was on a walk with my transsexual friend, who I am very sure is safe (homosexual one, 20+ years after surgery, etc) - I was still feeling uncomfortable, and either waiting until they finished and only then going to the toilet, or asking them to wait until I finished, gladly they were respecting my request (I still would prefer to enter second). Especially when I am on my period, or have some other issues with my body due to my health conditions - I will just feel very-very uncomfortable when someone who can't understand my struggle and can poses any potential threat or make fun of me or find disgusting what I am doing (like imagine changing your cup - go to cubicle, then go out of it and wash it out from blood, then go back to cubicle - and do this all while there male is present and watching it. Or imagine having miscarriage or cramps... I just can't, really, urgh). Especially in modern society, which removes tampon advertisements for showing periods from TV, because it is considered either "too gross" or "sexual". Menstruation stigma and taboo is way too powerful in any society in the world for now. I don't know how many more years or decades we need so society and men especially realise it is same as just breathing, or pee'ing, or anything, it is normal and natural, it is happening for dozen of years starting from when we are 10 years old and repeats monthly. There nothing sexual, gross or dirty in it.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-21T20:50:29+00:00

We (well, not “we” but some) are also teaching females not to even take note of males in these spaces, which I think is a bad thing.

Oxford's university put sign on women's and only women's toilets that is encouraging anti-safeguarding, sign that welcome's any criminal and creep in there.

It says that "if you see someone that you think do not belong to that place or someone you do afraid - do not call the police and do not ask them what they are doing here, just continue doing your stuff and be nice to them". Yeah, no way I will be cleaning my menstrual cup when there is some bearded man standing.

This even created problems in some USA schools/colleges, where teen boys were coming to women's toilets and filming girls washing faces and trying to catch them pee'ing. And boys when caught just declared that they found that they are feeling like a women and they are trans in reality to get free of charge and get no punishment for their actions.

It is just bad and wrong practice.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-21T20:40:56+00:00

There many causes when gay men were still attacking women, just not rape them. So they are "safer" to women than other males in general, but safer does not mean "completely safe".

And allowing everyone in women's toilets is not a solution. Public women's toilets already have 2 times less spaces than men's toilets (because of urinals), women's toilets are used for menstrual needs as well, so women will use toilet longer on average, more often, and require more safety, and at same time women whave two times less places already. So putting more people to go into women's toilets will make situation even worse for women, as there can appear deficit of places.

Men need to sort out violence between themselves, to protect gay and gnc men much better, and de-stigmatize them in society. "Just combine them with women" is not the solution, and will fix nothing, only hurt women in long run. Women has nothing to do in men versus men problems, so it is just wrong to use women as shield in that fight.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-21T20:39:28+00:00

Of course.

Such beliefs are homophobic and opening arms for homophobic conservatives, as they are supporting the very conservative claim that homosexuality is just a preference and genital fetish. Which is not true.

Homosexuality (and any sexuality) is not something we can chose, not something we can change or "unlearn". It is same as being born tall, or with red hair, or with any color skin. It is not something that you can identify into by making some cosmetic changes to yourself.

Same with arousal and attraction, even if we (lesbians) will really want to be aroused by TW, our body will not respond, even if we really like them as a person and had a good date and TW is very well passing. It just will not happen, body will not respond and that is it. And there no way to make body respond. So it is just not working concept.

Concepts like "everyone is bisexual just don't know it" are lies as well. Sexuality - is just biological reality, and that is it.

Word "sapphic" was appropriated from being synonymous to lesbian to mean loving women while being anyone. So TW can use it instead of calling themselves "lesbians", because they are not lesbians and can never be, same as women attracted and aroused by them are bisexual or straight, and never can be lesbians either. So calling them "sapphic" is decently good solution as for me.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-21T20:20:47+00:00

It is pretty ironic to call your account starting with word "Lesbian", while having no idea about women's body at all.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-21T20:04:14+00:00

Not to really chose sex, but make one way or other to be much more likeable to happen, and then check sex very early and make abortion if it failed.

And considering that in many countries dozen millions girls are aborted to have "first baby to be a boy" in family - you know exactly how this technology will be used.

However, all this still not allows and will never allow to change DNA and sex of already born person.

Furthermore, even if you alter DNA of already developed human - NOTHING will change (well, the only change that will happen is that such person will just die very-very fast, as body was not built to support such genes, so it will starte many cancers very fast, or just straigh up fail to function).

Body will not magically re-arrange themself. New organs would not magically be created. Old organs will not dissapear. Body shape and form will not be changed. For that to happen - DNA must be changed within first few days of pregnancy.

So it is not just "fantasy of sci-fi", it is dreaming of something impossible in principle. It is like dreaming that our tech will be able to change laws of universe - like, it is not possible, but even if it will be possible, that will just destroy world.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-21T19:33:46+00:00

And we all know why.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-21T11:34:58+00:00

Making single-sex spaces unisex would defeat the purpose of single sex bathrooms. There would only need to be one unisex bathroom. The men's room is already equipped with facilities that accommodate trans-womxyn's biology.

Good article about that: https://womansplaceuk.org/gender-neutral-toilets-dont-work-for-women/

VioletRemi · 2020-11-21T11:26:06+00:00

Ah yes, olympic level trained females can be stronger than some untrained males, but in sports there in question - trained males, not untrained males.

Even on Veritasium show, when he is untrained man, was learning how to properly run from woman olympic finalist, he almost beat her time in 100m and 200m. And he only trained 2 weeks.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-21T11:19:52+00:00

Why the f*ck would someone like Caitlyn Jenner who could win gold in men's sports not just play men's sports? Why on Earth should they be playing in women's sports instead? You haven't answered that question yet.

I will add this: http://boysvswomen.com/#/

If trained boys and male teens are able to beat all time women olympic records, then what about well trained male after years ot trainings?

There nothing strange about that transwoman in USA, who only after 6 months of training, first time ever in their life - have beaten all USA women records in powerlifting in their weight category.

And we should not forget that advantage of males not only in muscle mass and from puberty, even not undergone puberty males are still have advantages - because of bones structure (females need to spend more energy to run because of skeletal structure, same structure why we have "hisp sway": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UEZrNLagwls), because of bigger lungs, because of 40% faster oxygenisation (so easier to sprint and faster breath recovery), faster metabolism, bigger heart and faster blood pumping through organism (so even more faster oxigenation) - if speaking about male and female of same height and weight. And if consider that males on average 10-20% taller and bigger, than those advantages are even bigger. And it is just speaking about BASIC structure of body, not talking about muscular mass, bone density, and other changes coming during puberty or from high testosterone levels.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-20T23:18:51+00:00

It is just road backwards to 1900s.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-20T23:16:13+00:00

Yesterday they wanted to remove "women-centric" language from discussions about pregnancy, abortion rights and childbirth. And I thought they are no longer hiding that they are just misogynysts.

Today they want to remove women's voice from politics. Maybe even vote rights for wome would be revoked now?! And it is very clear they are even worse than MRA, they want women to lose all our hard won spaces, hard won rights, and even ability to voice our opinions.

https://twitter.com/JinnysJoe/status/1329847671063015424

And "ban organisations who are seek to defend biology": https://pbs.twimg.com/media/EnTFWZbWEAI8to8?format=jpg&name=medium

Insanity!

VioletRemi · 2020-11-19T23:35:05+00:00

And their given examples to replace "women's healthcare" are explaining nothing. Their calling of pregnant women as "people who menstruate" - is ignorant too.

Like here one of comments:

"reproductive health care"

Such vague words describe nothing.

This can mean male reproductive health care. Maybe sperm donoring, maybe impotence.

This can mean reproductive health care of my dog or my cat.

It is just confusing and means nothing.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-19T23:13:27+00:00

I am never planning to be pregnant and pregnancy will kill me with my health condition.

And I have nothing against women speaking about pregnancy.

Many women after menopause have no problem about other women speaking about menstruation or childbirth.

No women ever had a problem with this.

Only men in dresses seems to have problem with this. And they are not even hiding it anymore. They just want for women to stop speaking.

They want to make talking about women bodies - taboo again. We still haven't won menstruation/periods-shaming war, and now this strike back on us.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-18T19:03:37+00:00

Are we not supposed to discuss how there are a sizeable portion of women claiming to be men (or nonbinary) who want femaleness removed from discussions of periods, pregnancy, PCOS, breast cancer, etc?

And then be called "birthing bodies" and "breastfeeding bodies" by those companies, which is already happening.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-18T18:27:40+00:00

forget

And then of course I will be bigoted, and in some countries like Norway I will get into jail for 3 years (or some US states I will be charged money) just because I have mental issues. Demand from someone something they can't do and then punish the victim, yay!

VioletRemi · 2020-11-18T18:25:31+00:00

I literally have no idea why they are doing that and saying pronouns, because when writing or speaking to person personally in English you never using pronouns at all. Unless you are speaking to royality or queen/king.

You will not write in mail to a person "he" or "she", you will write "you".

Plus my memory is very bad on names and other weird things like neo-pronouns or any pronouns, so in 90% of cases I will just forget anyways, so it is useless.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-17T22:23:14+00:00

What else to expect from /r/ActualLesbians? :D

https://subredditstats.com/subreddit-user-overlaps/actuallesbians

VioletRemi · 2020-11-16T23:05:20+00:00

Nothing strange in fact that industry aimed on controlling how women must look is held by and "invented" by men.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-15T09:32:10+00:00

That is pretty weird explanations there, because all those things can be easily done with normal sized clit. So the only thing they want is to "make it more like a penis", which is so weird fetish to have - especially with such risks for health.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-13T23:10:35+00:00

Her book yesterday was removed from Target, but after backlash they returned it day after.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-13T16:32:17+00:00

Mother said he was pretty decent person before, but a bit selfish and narcissistic.

He wasn't on war in my country, it was in USSR, and not war - there two trains collapsed, and military was sent to sort bodies and metal out, so he spent few days sorting dead bodies and human pieces. Mother saying after that he started to drink alcohol all the time, and with each year passing his mind was becoming worse and worse, until he started beating mother when I wasn't at home and being agressive to me and my younger sister.

His older brother and my grandfmother suffered there as well.

And me, as lesbian, would be outlawed there as well.

So I have pretty biased vision of it, as it hurted my family (including myself) multiple times and very hard.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-11T19:03:25+00:00

Those people aren't much loved among radfems too, tho, some support them, but most not really. As their main idea is not liberation of women - but hate to men. And that makes them focused and centered on men in their actions, even when in negative way - which is not really "focusing one women".

Reasonable ones are dropping word "lesbian" if we saying them it hurt us, but unreasonable like those in podcast just don't care and very narcissistic.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-11T18:58:01+00:00

I think she is worse, because most sane people will look at straight men and say they can't be lesbians (or even if not say - will think that), while such people like her are spreading mythos about "lesbians are with women only until they find a right dick".

VioletRemi · 2020-11-10T16:09:19+00:00

Game was about woman with self doubt, panic attacks, and big anxiety about being weaker than her fears, and was not able to achieve her goal, instead of climbign the mountain she was falling deeper and deeper down, and in the end she stopped running from fears and achieved her goal.

Through whole game everyone is saying "she" on her, she is perceived as woman even by women NPC's, who giving her advices no man will be able to take advantage of.

And now I've read developer letter about "game was about afraiding of true self and accepting that I am trans, it was the fear of came out, and main motive and story in game is about that" - which makes no sense, because Magdalene was already wearing "women's clothing", everyone was saying "she" to her, she looks like a woman and have breasts, so Magdalene could NOT be trans in closet, only trans she could be is transman in this case. So whole story stops making any sense with this changes. If you are "closeted trans" - you are not making surgeries, everyone not speaking to you your prefered pronouns, and so on.

This pisses me the most, if story had sense with this retcon or was initially made like Magdalene was a closeted trans and then came out near the end, then I could be fine with this game. But such changes like this, which makes no sense are just stupid and are serving agenda of developer.

And developer said himself "When I was writing Magdalene, I was cis man, and I was writing cis woman, but now I am transed myself and I think now that in reality I was writing self reflection and Magdalene was transwoman!". So he is admitting it is senseless retcon, as she originally was created as "cis woman".

There still nothing in game indicated that Magdalene is trans, so she is still woman to me (and to everyone who is not reading twitter of the developer).

VioletRemi · 2020-11-10T16:08:36+00:00

Creator wrote "I was thinking I am normal cis man when was writing her as cis woman".

Isn't turning the female character into a transgender, in effect, admitting TW are NOT Women

But I like your logic.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-10T16:07:13+00:00

Yeah, but character was NOT trans before, and story makes no sense if character is trans as well, it ruins any integrity or logic of story.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-09T05:33:46+00:00

I've seen many American women getting angry with foreigners who are not thrilled with Biden's win

I saw such post on Ovarit. They were like "Trump wasn't good for us, Baiden will be slightly better", and were ignoring that Trump was mostly bad for USA only (and, well, he was empowering China, which was bad for some regions of Asia, but that's it), while Baiden will be "a bit better" for USA, but much-much worse everywhere else. And everyone who disagreed were downvoted (I still think adding downvotes was a bad idea, as instead of people making an argument - they just putting "minus one" instead).

Edit

What I've seen (on Twitter and Ovarit) is that they are saying "Baiden at least can be reasoned, while Trump will not listen for sure".

VioletRemi · 2020-11-09T00:02:21+00:00

99%

Oh, I have a good one.

Let poster's own logic bite them back: by poster logic it will mean that if there only 0.3% of transgender people - and 99.7% are not, then transgender people do not exist! :D

VioletRemi · 2020-11-08T23:49:20+00:00

Then even less reason for them not being banned in USA.

Here (and in all post-USSR countries and USSR) - people in military are more "disposal" and military is obligatorily for all men and some women (my father is victim of such system, he became broken person after returning from there, not sure if it was the reason of him becoming an asshole tho). Our country is trying to go the professional army route instead of "throwing bodies USSR style", tho - so maybe it will change with time. However, because of Russian invasion and permanent war activities on border with them, it was halted for now. So we here can have in army even half disabled people, they would be sitting headquarters doing paper work. And mostly mental issues and some other disabilities are the only reasons to not get into military for both men and women.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-08T23:46:33+00:00

"No healthcare for everyone, only transgenders are privileged to get healthcare from everyone's taxes"

VioletRemi · 2020-11-08T23:05:42+00:00

"The road to hell is paved with good intentions".

VioletRemi · 2020-11-08T23:05:03+00:00

Only thing I can think why - are either Pharma lobby or paedo lobby. Most likely both.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-08T22:30:47+00:00

Well, banning transes from military made sense because of the mental condition, as there people will be shouted on, injuries, mental pressure and maybe killing of people or deaths of your friends. So obviously if person can't take being misgendered and cries out or becomes agressive - then they are not mentally ready for a military service.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-08T22:27:19+00:00

What the most scary in this, is that USA are always exporting their politics and ideas to other countries, so this will mean that it will be pushed in many other countries as well. We already had their hand (maybe even Baiden actually, as they had here some corruption scandals and some questionable fundings) in funding trans lobbies here in Ukraine, and they started coming from homophobic side "make your kid straight" (and for me, as lesbian, this means society can be returned back to post-USSR age, when I was fired from jobs and beaten by classmates for being lesbian, I hope people will think more than in USA, as our language just not allows this word-play bullsh*t that English allows).

And this too, with erasure of women: https://twitter.com/AlessandraAster/status/1325524037628522497

and investigate violations of transgender students' civil rights.

They will punish girls for not wanting boys with errected penises who are "just started transitioning" in their shared school/university showers/toilets?

VioletRemi · 2020-11-08T18:29:17+00:00

Found thread on it: https://twitter.com/CroneInAMillion/status/1325223009683185666

VioletRemi · 2020-11-08T13:58:05+00:00

How "lesbians must have sex with me, because I am legit woman with penis" is "right to exist"?

VioletRemi · 2020-11-08T10:05:13+00:00

If pussy is gross, why they were watching two pussies? :D

VioletRemi · 2020-11-08T10:02:54+00:00

Yes, it is the one.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-08T01:51:31+00:00

Even worse, today I saw this: https://i.imgur.com/X9MdygT.png

"Birthing bodies" instead of "women" or "mothers". Just bodies. And photo without head too.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-07T22:09:39+00:00

And so true.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-07T16:47:55+00:00

I saw few studies that regular consumption of porn is making people harder to get aroused by "regular" stuff, and many of porn addicts are going more and more weird categories with time, for some people that was including real sex as well.

So most likely it can be the cause, or maybe it is just weather, mood, nerves, period cycle, anything. So removing porn from consumption for some time may help, or may not. It is not harmful to try, tho.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-07T16:42:51+00:00

If someone just loves femininity in either men or women, or masculinity in either men or women - they are bisexual. So someone who loves both men and transmen - is bisexual. However, being bisexual does not make someone automatically like transgender people.

Pansexual can only really work only if transgenders would still be attacking bisexual people and bisexual people will want to distance from them. So pansexuality is more like "can you finally stop harassing bisexuals?" than actualy sexuality.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-07T16:31:28+00:00

You reminded me this: /s/LGBDropTheT/comments/6giq/_/p11u

VioletRemi · 2020-11-07T16:22:59+00:00

Same is happening with word "woman" there, for some reason they (and many other organisations) are naming transes and men, but everyone else is just "person".

VioletRemi · 2020-11-07T16:18:39+00:00

You reminded me old movie I watched when was young. It was called Angelica or smth I think, maybe different one, there was a rape scene, and one of men said that "all women are sl*ts and want any sex, at first they will be fighting back to show that they are noble, but then they will start enjoying it and asking for more". I was like 10-12 years old, but I stopped watching that movie, as I found that phrase so much wrong and ugly. I would not be surprised if every rapist thinks like that then. And for victims that should be even more pain and mental harm from this.

And seems it is actually really hurting a lot of victims, and because of that rape cases are under-reported. And seems that judges can rule out against victim because of that:

https://archive.is/Vtv10

https://archive.is/ImR51

VioletRemi · 2020-11-07T11:48:39+00:00

How are some people allergic to bananas?

They are just not cannibals.

VioletRemi · 2020-11-06T17:31:52+00:00

...but getting aroused by feminine males, or by feminine males having sex with penises, is making attraction to females not exclusive :P

VioletRemi · 2020-10-31T23:59:03+00:00

That answer only said that your question is not clear enough, as if you redefine word "real" (or, well, any word), then answer can't be given.

I am pretty sure there a lot of lenghty answers explaining and answering the question.

Short answer - no, it would not be penis or vagina, even hypothetically, as there are too many things attached to them on the inside side.

It looks like you made mistake and now trying to calm yourself down, that that was not a mistake and everything is fine (while in reality you should accept a mistake and go sue people who not warned you about that, or pushed you to that).

VioletRemi · 2020-10-31T23:43:30+00:00

Are you like, creating this topic every few weeks or something? I am pretty sure I saw this already at least 2 times.

VioletRemi · 2020-10-28T22:10:12+00:00

All the cruelty is our fault too. Every day we are physically attacking and killing transwomen of color with our bigger physical strenght and political force! I am still can't understand why all blame is on women, all attacks are on women - when for transwomen real problem and threat are men?

VioletRemi · 2020-10-27T16:19:03+00:00

I don't want to sound wrongly or rude, but this sounds to me as it caused because of the racism - "men liking when white women are fragile, and when women of color are more feral/masculine/brutal". Maybe because of this it is more acceptable for people of color to be homosexual in media? For some reason, when I am seeing anglo-world depictings of people of color, they are more often than not "more masculine" or "more criminal" - both men and women. While here (in Ukraine) it is very rarely people of color shown in media (we most have none here), but when they are - it is often just a normal regular person like everyone else. I may be wrong, but I really have strong impression that it is like I've said shown in media at least to a some degree.

VioletRemi · 2020-10-27T16:18:34+00:00

They are very homophobic there in reality, but in media they are often fine with homosexuality, but almost always it is shown in fetishistic way.

VioletRemi · 2020-10-27T16:18:07+00:00

Yeah, even in "lesbian" games (like Life is Strange or The Last of Us 2) - one of girls is (or was) obsessed with a man at one point, or even was dating a man and is pregnant during two women dating.

VioletRemi · 2020-10-27T16:16:43+00:00

to make her girlfriend jealous.

But if my woman will be making looks like she is into man, it would not make me jelaous, more like indefferent ("again bisexual changing for man") or disgusted ("she lied to me"). To make me jelly she should try flirting with women instead.

VioletRemi · 2020-10-27T16:16:04+00:00

Most of them seems to be fetishists too in those subs. They've raised on porn or movies or games, where in all "lesbian" relationships one of them is at least bisexual (or both of them straight and all this was only to arouse a man), or have sex with man, or even if they are true lesbians - on of them is pregnant. There never anything lesbian related in big media without penis involved. And #lesbian is most popular tag on porn sites as well...so many straight or bi women are saying they are lesbian, as it is just "sexy" and lifestyle.

VioletRemi · 2020-10-27T16:15:34+00:00

We came here from /r/TrueLesbians, which was last female-only lesbian subreddit, and we were banned for not accepting dicks. Only "lesbian" subreddits left areones full of men or with porn. And reddit is big site, so most people will go there first. It is so harmful and stressful for young lesbians who don't know how to be - to come to /r/ActualLesbians and receive there "you are lesbian, so eat my girl dick like a good girl".

VioletRemi · 2020-10-26T21:28:28+00:00

I am happy you are back, honey~

VioletRemi · 2020-10-26T00:23:08+00:00

I met few screaming ones too. I think they are screaming to us more because we are women, as for my gay friend those same people were silent other day, when he was asking similar to my questions.

VioletRemi · 2020-10-24T21:45:57+00:00

Yeah, because those women clearly have sooooo much choice. I remember them defending of women being beaten by rocks and wearing burquas, as "it is their religion and their choice". I am pretty sure if those women had real choice, they'd chose not to be beaten by rocks at all. Because if choice is "you will suffer something bad OR you will suffer something much worse. Now chose between the two" - it is NOT a chiuce.

VioletRemi · 2020-10-24T21:43:14+00:00

you aren't allowed

You mean "you aren't forced"?

they are changing their bodies in an unusual way.

And their characters are often very bad for dating, as too few people will like narcissistic partner focused on themselves only and who need to spend a lot of money on medicine every month through whole their life. Even if that person is not a trans, but beautiful man or woman.

VioletRemi · 2020-10-24T21:34:44+00:00

Well, first of all - that thread is showing WHY it is important.

And second - not really, they are stating that they are different in one place, and that they aren't in other places. And there even some of them that are saying "in my documents I have written 'female' now, this means my penis is female biology too". And in general gaslighting is their favoirute strategy, like here: https://pbs.twimg.com/media/ElBAXsgVcAAZIpq?format=jpg&name=medium - at first they are writing "it is transphobic to not date transgenders" and in the end they are writing "no one forces you to date anyone". Completely contradicting themselves :D

VioletRemi · 2020-10-23T21:15:19+00:00

It is just insanely stupid. And how anyone will know if someone is "xer" or "fae" or anything else? You can put in prison any opponent in debates or competitor in business like that :D

VioletRemi · 2020-10-21T20:44:56+00:00

In that dictionary that is now saying that "homosexual" is offensive word, there one of meaning of "woman" is "not a man, opposite of man". But "man" is not "opposite of woman" there!

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