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[–]sisterinsomnia 73 insightful - 2 fun73 insightful - 1 fun74 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Yup. What was that stockbroker or something called who won Glamour magazine's Woman of the Year a few years ago? He carefully built his career in a pinstripe suit, then started going in on alternative days as a(n inappropriately dressed) woman. Part-time womaning for giggles.

But if he chose to list his gender as 'woman' in official statistics, his high earnings would be counted as female. There are too few people doing this to affect the overall average gender (really sex) gap in wages, say, but it is still extremely annoying and insulting.

[–]trw365 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Pips Bunce is I think who you mean

[–]onesundaymorning 59 insightful - 1 fun59 insightful - 0 fun60 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This is disgusting. You don't get to opt out of being a woman.

[–][deleted] 57 insightful - 2 fun57 insightful - 1 fun58 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

There's no "boymode" for real women.

[–][deleted] 55 insightful - 2 fun55 insightful - 1 fun56 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

I know a TIM who said (after her transition) that society has more of a problem with her being a woman rather than being trans. i.e. that misogyny is worse than so called transphobia. Men will never understand how bad the patriarchy and misogyny actually is.

[–]venecia 38 insightful - 1 fun38 insightful - 0 fun39 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

She is likely one of the rare types that pass 100% and earned her pronouns. That used to be how it worked. You got called ''ma'am'' and ''she'' when that is what people saw when they looked at you. OR, that you people started to call you when you revealed yourself to be a solid, good friend, and they adapted to make you feel better. Before the mass gaslighting began and we owed this emotional labor to strangers.

[–][deleted] 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

She means “homophobia” is worse than transphobia, which is true. Because she’s not experiencing misogyny. Most of society think trans women are gay men, and most trans women are clearly not passing as women. If you don’t pass as female you don’t experience misogyny.

[–]Poofter 45 insightful - 2 fun45 insightful - 1 fun46 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

This is honestly disgusting, revealing this person thinks womanhood is playing pretend. As a man, this absolutely infuriated me

[–]yishengqingwa666 2 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

"As a man"

LOL, uh huh.

[–]Finnegan7921 38 insightful - 1 fun38 insightful - 0 fun39 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

His story reveals the insane narcissism that most trans people have. It isn't that the other jobs he applied for were filled with superior candidates; such a thing is simply not possible. It must be b/c he's trans. That can be the one and only reason. He has no clue as to whether those jobs were filled by women; it is possible that all of them were but he just assumes that since he got hired as a man, that it is the only reason he was hired. They become so wrapped up in their identity that it becomes the single defining aspect of them as people. It is the only thing they talk about and they have to be the center of attention. You just know this guy wants to walk into his new job as a "woman"(in drag) to shock people and be the talk of the office. Then he'll set about looking for the phobes to get them fired b/c, you know, justice. The fact that he'll most likely get away with it is just gross.

[–]puffball 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

They become so wrapped up in their identity that it becomes the single defining aspect of them as people. It is the only thing they talk about and they have to be the center of attention.

It tends to be the case with most of the TQ+ that their identity is the entirety of their personality, and that narcissism abounds, but the T really seem intent to turn that up to 11. Even before things started going off the rails completely with the Ts, my experience was that most were b o r i n g people. Try to talk to them about anything other than trans "issues" or their personal "struggles", and... there's nothing there.

The somewhat older ones who had gotten educations and jobs prior to transitioning might be able to discuss topics related to that, but in many cases, it seems that transitioning wiped out any passion or interest they may have had for it. So the net result would pretty much be the same.

[–]oyasuminasai50 37 insightful - 1 fun37 insightful - 0 fun38 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yet discussing material, sex-based oppression against women is verboten. Female socialization, the fight for reproductive rights, and the inability to opt in and out of womanhood are three concrete examples of oppression that trans women do not face. But you literally cannot discuss these things on any public platform without enduring the anonymous TRA rage mob.

[–]marmalade 35 insightful - 2 fun35 insightful - 1 fun36 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Imagine thinking you hired a relatively normal guy for a position just to get called transphobic by him right after you hire him.

[–]Realwoman 28 insightful - 8 fun28 insightful - 7 fun29 insightful - 8 fun -  (1 child)

Interesting, how come no one noticed he's actually a woman and they just believed he's a man? Could it be that it's pretty obvious what one's sex is? Hm🤔

[–]meranii 9 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

And how come he even survived "boymode"? I thought any act of being misgendered is literal violence, and not treating a TiM 100% as female is literal erasure of their existence?

That TiM honestly needs to cancel himself for such an act of murderous transphobia agains a member of the trans community!

[–]venecia 28 insightful - 3 fun28 insightful - 2 fun29 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Watch: if there's any pushback, they'll use the example of a pregnant woman hiding her pregnancy to get hired. And the allies will say HAH you got them!

[–]VioletRemi 27 insightful - 3 fun27 insightful - 2 fun28 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

Imagine being so privileged, that you can swap to anything you want and gain access to all the spaces and everyones rights.

In my country when I was trying to get a job as an engineer or software engineer after university I was setting my sex as "male" almost always, because if I was setting as "female", most companies would not even look at my side. While when I am already in HR office, it was harder to them to ignore me. However, I still had few instances when HR just laughed into my face with "woman, software engineer, really?". Those people will never understand how it is to be a woman, they can never ever "feel" themselves as a woman.

[–]critical_of_WR 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I think it is more pathetic than that. The TIM knew he never passed in "girl mode," and he would look like a freak during the interviews. There would be a 0% chance of him landing the job when he walked into the job looking more like RuPaul than Beyonce. Said TIM decided to walk in and at least pretend to look like a normal man and then conned the employer who has standards as to how his employees should look. It is nothing more than awareness that looks matter, and he looked like an IT.

[–]VioletRemi 9 insightful - 4 fun9 insightful - 3 fun10 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

When "gender theory" is so real, that you need to constantly remind people about it and about who "you feel you are", or they will forget and perceive you as a male or female instead.

[–]Camberian 25 insightful - 1 fun25 insightful - 0 fun26 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Good grief.

[–][deleted] 14 insightful - 5 fun14 insightful - 4 fun15 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

I wish they would switch to “fucking off forever” mode.

[–]ImPiqued1111111 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This makes me unspeakably angry.

[–]LoganBlade 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Whats with the heavy use of Boy and Girl? It’s kinda creepy.