I really despise how obviously male Reddit is by [deleted] in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I got banned from nearly every "left wing" space on Reddit for pointing out that communism is incompatible with porn and prostitution.

Insane beauty standards by anxietyaccount8 in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

There's a book called The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf which explains beauty as a means of reclaiming control over women which has been lost as women started to escape the role of domestic servant. Since women are no longer "domestic goddesses" and the spiritual center of the family, beauty and male centered hypersexuality (particularly porn) have become the means by which women's energies are diverted and women are parted from their personhood.

It's a very solid read. Unusually stream of conscious for a non-fiction book, but densely populated with important concepts. I highly recommend it for all women, particularly those struggling with beauty.

Sex-negative feminism killed my sex life! by MisandryFTW in GenderCritical

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Your therapist "WASN'T COMFORTABLE TALKING ABOUT SEX???" That's fucked. Seriously. How did they indicate this to you? That is insanely unprofessional, holy shit.

"Anti TERF Flag": TumblrInAction by EmptyCode in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Man, any of that comment session would get you banned on all the subs I used to frequent. Must be because they are presumed to be male commenters.

Personal favorite:

Honestly any male that has the gall to claim that liking spinny dresses and dolls as a kid made him a woman, he's a sexist jackass. Dysphoria is one thing, deifying gender rolls is another.

Fam, I really need advice on the fIL situation here.EE by WrongToy in GenderCritical

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Are you set on cohabitating?

The way I see it, you're in a relationship with your partner and your partner only. You have no obligation to a relationship with his family. If you WANTED to spend time with them, that would be one thing. It sounds like he is spending a lot of time dealing with his parents needs. That's fine, so long as the impact on you only comes in the form of him being busier. If your partner can't respect that and expects you to care for his aging parents, he's taking advantage of you. Either he sets boundaries with his family such that they don't negatively impact you, or he's not worth it. If he respects and prioritizes you, he will understand that you are not and should not be beholden to his mother and father.

Key thing? You need boundaries. You need firm boundaries like, yesterday. If she needs help, it sounds like she's got plenty of money to get help. If they can't care for their pets, they shouldn't have pets. If you SO decides he wants to step up and take care of them, that's his business, not yours.

Adding money into this seems like a disaster in the making.

What I learned about male desire in a sex doll factory by anxietyaccount8 in GenderCritical

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To be LOVED BY??? Things don't love you. They want to a fuck toy. That's why they bought a doll. They want an object. They want something attractive to stick their penis into. The only downsides are that their toy isn't intricate enough to suck their dick and cook their dinner and wash their socks.

TiM catfishes redditor and pretends to be a beautiful woman, redditor is not interested to go on a second date, TiM throws a tantrum and calls them a bigot by MinisterOfTerfery in GenderCritical

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lol imagine if this post was from a lesbian turning down a transwoman

imagine the threats they would receive from this 'woman' and how Reddit would view her rejection

YUCK -TiM stalks specific woman's work bathroom to steal her used sanitary products and wear them. BLURGH. by BEB in GenderCritical

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They exist. https://twitter.com/guessimafab/status/1123291153519001600?lang=en

There's a user whose content we used to see pretty often linked to on r/gc. I can't find them at the moment, but they posted regularly about stealing and wearing women's used menstrual products.

Misogyny and Sexism in media by TalkToTheVoid in GenderCritical

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It's unending. I have a difficult time consuming any form of media because of the unrelenting sexism and misogyny. Books, movies, tv shows, video games, music, and hell, even cartoons... I think that's why so many people balk at second wave feminism. It's not fun. It's not empowering. It's definitely not sexy. It's a constant barrage of reminders that you aren't a whole person in this world.

YUCK -TiM stalks specific woman's work bathroom to steal her used sanitary products and wear them. BLURGH. by BEB in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

It definitely happens. You can find forums discussing stealing used pads and tampons (how, where, practices, tips) as well as simulating menstruation. I've seen fetish artists who specialize in fetish art for transforming into menstrual products.

Never underestimate the depths of depravity fetishes will reach.

The transition is real and biological by vintologi28 in GenderCritical

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I've got the time.

Women getting banned from saidit too by Maeven in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Entitlement, mostly. Arguably some genetic predisposition.

Women getting banned from saidit too by Maeven in GenderCritical

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I hear you, and I don't think you're wrong. Ovarit is much more liberal than the previous Gender Critical subreddit, but I believe that's somewhat to be expected. New forums need time to grow and mature. I think the lack of downvoting poses a potential problem as well. Both Ovarit and Spinster have gender critical feminists, and I'd say both have content that... misses the mark. Rather than picking based on their current state, I'd focus on which you'd like to see succeed and work to shape the tone and content. The benefit of starting over is that each user plays a bigger role in what the site becomes.

Women getting banned from saidit too by Maeven in GenderCritical

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I anticipate GC being pushed from this site eventually. I highly recommend moving to Ovarit, or even Spinster if you prefer the Twitter format. Ovarit is gaining steam.

Women getting banned from saidit too by Maeven in GenderCritical

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That's something the mods have to include to be able to remove comments and ban users who are posting anti-feminist, anti-gc ideas. When we first started we were overwhelmed by incels and MRA types telling us "IT'S FREE SPEECH, THIS ISN'T REDDIT, (pick your favorite slur for women here)"

If we don't keep GC spaces strictly GC, they quickly become dominated by men and male allies.

Why do we have men working in women's prisons? by our_team_is_winning in GenderCritical

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Man, reading that makes me want to commit certain crimes.

Just want to say THANK YOU to the Mods! by BEB in GenderCritical

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Love doing it <3

Are male and female sexuality that stereotypically different? by Mencantbewomen in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Most women are not interested in video games -- Source? Women are major consumers of video games, they just tend to be drawn toward different genres.

If this is "sex positivity," I weep. by our_team_is_winning in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Our behavior doesn't exist in a vacuum. There's nothing wrong with have multiple partners or engaging in different sexual acts, but aggression is part of her sexual fantasy and that needs to be viewed with some class analysis. Why would a woman seek to "push her boundaries" in a sexual situation? Why would she use porn terminology like "gangbang" when referring to having sex with multiple male partners instead of a foursome? Does it benefit her as a woman as part of a class of women to pretend like her sexuality is not influenced by her experiences and the world around her? Can we gain any insight into the way she may view herself and her relationship with her sex when her fantasies include being "shoved to the ground"?

Liberalism sells us the idea of choice feminism. That our choices are inherently empowering because they are choices. This ignores the larger context. Recognizing social influences, norms, expectations, and class-based power structures (especially relating to male dominance and the patriarchy) is essential in radical feminism. Perhaps you are in the wrong forum or should do further research into radical feminist ideas.

If this is "sex positivity," I weep. by our_team_is_winning in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Hypersexuality is a well documented response to abuse, especially molestation.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3693773/

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0890856709636418

Do your own legwork next time instead of assuming that others are wrong when they disagree with your worldview. Strikes me as really hypocritical.

Detransitioners, society and gender non-conformity by aqrylix in GenderCritical

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Women attempt suicide 1.2 times as often as men. The larger number of male deaths by suicide is likely attributable to methodology. Men and women tend to use different methods. I'd argue women tend to put more thought into their corpse and the impact of their death on the people they leave behind. Men also are more likely to own guns, which are a major driver in the success of a suicide attempt.

Wait I am confused at how this is supposed to be a cute pro trans man comic by GrendelsScaryMom in GenderCritical

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I used to wear two of the smallest sports bras I could squeeze into layered on top of each other. My best girlfriend wore thick baggy hoodies every single day, year round.

It's heartbreaking how young women feel about their bodies and I'm sick to death of gender ideologies taking advantage of this painful stage in a young woman's development.

Why are you here, and how has pornography negatively affected your life? by [deleted] in antipornography

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Pornography was a heavy contributer in my sexual grooming and dehumanization from pre pubescence. My rapist showed me pornography as a means of introducing me to having sex with him when I was 13. He was 17-18 over the course of our relationship.

Porn reinforced the message from society that as a woman I was worthless. My rapist called me his loli. I was admired by him and his friends for my sexual maturity as he progressively coerced and later forced me into more and more extreme sexual acts. When I started to fight him during sex, he claimed that he was unaware that it was not part of our ongoing sex. I used to self harm heavily and sex became another method of hurting myself. When I finally left him after he forcefully penetrated me after I repeatedly told him no, he threatened me, stalked me, and made my life a living hell. He believed I belonged to (with) him. I believe his constant porn habit played a significant part in his predatory socialization as well.

Upset with the anarchist subreddit: the shitty title said "Bye T*rfs" by [deleted] in itsafetish

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I got banned from damn near every anarchist, communist, feminist, and leftist sub way before the banwave ever started.

If we are banned, r/EntitledBitch, r/FuckYouKaren, r/pussypassdenied and all porn subs should be banned. by RIP_r_GenderCritical in GenderCritical

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The only thing liberals and conservatives can agree on these days is "fuck white women".

If we are banned, r/EntitledBitch, r/FuckYouKaren, r/pussypassdenied and all porn subs should be banned. by RIP_r_GenderCritical in GenderCritical

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I love that the all these anti-mask entitled people complaints and content are women. And yet, overwhelmingly when I go out it isn't white women without masks but men. Reminds me of the anti-vaxx movement being attributed to women when men are just as susceptible.

I had a man raid /s/antipornography yesterday and again this morning, trying to spam and destroy a small community. This is what they do to women when they're scared, huh? by [deleted] in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'll help mod if you need someone still. Good luck! We've been dealing with a significant influx of unwelcome material here as well. Saidit itself is being DDOS'd

I believe there's a divide between radfems and gender critics who aren't necessarily radfem by oevervbervb in GenderCritical

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I understand your perspective and any frustration you might have from fuzzyfuzz's tone. I understand where women's separatists are coming from, but I don't personally adhere to it.

To all of you trans ladies out there by AdmiralPangolin in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I understand what you're saying. I don't particularly care about them being referred to as transwomen but I reject using female pronouns. I reject the idea of catering to someone's mental illness, particularly one so steeped in sexist ideas. The idea that your rejection of your body and your gender somehow makes you the opposite sex or agender or non-binary... as though gender is real and immutable is absurd.

I believe there's a divide between radfems and gender critics who aren't necessarily radfem by oevervbervb in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Fuzzyfuzz considers women's separatism to be an essential part of radical feminism. You do not. This is not an uncommon debate within branches of radical feminism.

The vibe of this sub seems a lot different than the original r/gendercritical by Jeanie1990 in GenderCritical

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This is unfortunate, but somewhat inevitable given the much smaller community, the opportunists seeing a chance to interact with the community while it regains traction, and the overall tone of the platform of saidit.

We're doing what we can to moderate this community to the same standard as our Reddit community. If you prefer, Spinster is another option for you. Give it a shot. Only you can determine if it's a site for you. A team of the original GC mods are also currently working on creating a GC specific site.

To all of you trans ladies out there by AdmiralPangolin in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

No, they absolutely do not "go through everyday life as women". They weren't socialized as women. They don't have female reproductive organs. They experience life as trans identifying men, not women, and that's the whole freaking point!

Who are some trans people you get along with/admire? by quickbeam in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

We are not an open and welcoming group to all people. If we were we wouldnt be a feminist space. The fastest way to kill a women's group is to open it to men and antifeminists.

Who are some trans people you get along with/admire? by quickbeam in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Trans ideology is diametrically opposed to women's fight for liberation. There's no such thing as being trans (or non binary) and a gender critical feminist. I don't hate trans people, but what they believe in is regressive and harmful to women. Gender is nothing but a prison. So no, I don't. Just like I don't admire any conservatives because what they believe is directly harmful to my sex class.

Detrans female— Venting, what the f just happened to me? by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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You're still beautiful and valid and one of us. You've made some extremely difficult decisions and you've been so fucking brave. You will always have a place with your sisters. I'm so sorry for all the struggles you've been through and I hope you find peace and comfort in your body.

TRA wants to murder me by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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We had a post recently where someone linked to a shared google doc which, if you were logged in to your gmail account, as most people are, would keep a history of the accounts which accessed the doc.

Trans activists are nice people by Lingenfelter in GenderCritical

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God. I love it when my vagina violently gatekeeps 🤗

r/GenderCynical doing what it can to get rid of gay people on Reddit by Cacator in GenderCritical

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And men. Men can't be violently transphobic, only women.

The jobless TRA at AHS are now targeting r/Radical_Feminists by [deleted] in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Bringing up things you've said in the past is relevant to the current discussion. It's not doxxing as it isn't personally identifying information. You posted publicly and anonymously on a sister site. This is not a debate subreddit.

The jobless TRA at AHS are now targeting r/Radical_Feminists by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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"How dare you use the things I said against me?"

....seriously?

Trans homicide epidemic is a false narrative. by koonay in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You made a claim. I'm asking for some evidence. You think there is a physical difference in brain structure for sexual orientation, is there any proof of your assertion?

Trans homicide epidemic is a false narrative. by koonay in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You got a source for homosexuals having brains like those of the opposite sex? Because scientists can't determine a brain's sex consistently.

It's so funny to me that Reddit is claiming TERFs were brigading different women's subs (like r/PCOS and r/pregnancy) like there weren't radfems in those subs to begin with by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical

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Because only women are diagnosed with PCOS. It's transwomen who object to being left out of the space and identify as women with hormonal imbalances. You've got to adapt the backwards think of gender ideology. A. Women can't have anything unless transwomen have it too (regardless of how useless or awful it is), and B. If transwomen are biologically female but have excessive body hair, low estrogen, etcetc, then it's due to hormonal imbalance and not intrinsic to sex.

It's so funny to me that Reddit is claiming TERFs were brigading different women's subs (like r/PCOS and r/pregnancy) like there weren't radfems in those subs to begin with by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical

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If I had PCOS, I would feel inclined to bop someone for saying I wasn't a woman because of my condition. Hell, I feel inclined to bop them when they imply I'm less of a woman because I wear comfortable clothing and don't waste my time and energy with the toxic cesspool that is beauty and diet culture.

Detrans female— Is there space for me here? by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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There have been some great resources posted below. I just wanted to say that we will always be here to support women. Our only limitation is that this is an explicitly gender critical space. If you're looking for a broad range of viewpoints including those beyond gender critical feminism, you might want to check out the gender critical debate saidits. I believe Gender Critical QT is being rehomed here as well. There used to be a subreddit specifically for detrans individuals started by a detrans FTM. I used to recommend the subreddit wholeheartedly, but I do so with some caution at this point. The subreddit has been caught up in the purge. Reddit has been working hard to remove any and all viewpoints which may be considered critical of gender (particularly coming from women). The subreddit still exists at this time (thought it was temporarily banned). The top post still seems very relevant. Here's the URL for the sub https://www.reddit.com/r/detrans/

Take it with a grain of salt in the current environment. If you'd be interested, it could be beneficial to start a Saidit detrans community as well. You are absolutely not alone in the slightest. I hope you find peace and acceptance, both within yourself and within women's communities. Many of us have experienced some degree of gender dysphoria in the past and while we may be critical of gender, we will always have solidarity with you as a fellow woman.

It's so funny to me that Reddit is claiming TERFs were brigading different women's subs (like r/PCOS and r/pregnancy) like there weren't radfems in those subs to begin with by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical

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They want their spaces protected and everyone else's. There's no such thing as a safe space for anyone but transwomen. "If it isn't for or about me, I will use my massive privilege to destroy it."

Is “gender” innate? I’m confused by Confuzzled in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Source that bby

"how do I report these women talking amongst themselves on a different site" by gparmesan in GenderCritical

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I recommend that you take some time to educate yourself then. This is a gender critical community and not a debate forum. At a minimum, learn the core ideology and basic terminology to avoid confusion in the future.

(Saidit) PEAK TRANS I: Please continue to share your stories!! by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical

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Anecdotal evidence. It's the same as saying, "I don't believe men are raping women because all the men I've met are super nice and would never do that." There are people who identify as trans who are caught and arrested for male pattern violence. It's illogical and arrogant for you to determine whether some is or isn't trans based on your feelings from the few interactions you've had with some trans people.

"Women are only less violent because they are physically weak" by DifferentAirGC in GenderCritical

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Because it's common, or is the name based on a scene from an old movie and now it refers to any woman who gets emotional or unstable at the end of a relationship? Do you have examples of women killing men's pets as they leave relationships? I'm sure it happens, but I cannot think of a single example, whereas I know of several situations where the sexes were reversed.

"how do I report these women talking amongst themselves on a different site" by gparmesan in GenderCritical

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You aren't listening to what she's saying. You're expecting her to directly quote you instead of paraphrasing. Do you or do you not believe in Self-ID? Because that's essential to your core argument. She is extrapolating information based on what you say, while you're intentionally challenging her extrapolation without refuting her points.

(Saidit) PEAK TRANS I: Please continue to share your stories!! by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical

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You aren't just relaying your experience though. You're making a statement. You said "I honestly don't believe that these people are trans people".

"how do I report these women talking amongst themselves on a different site" by gparmesan in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Are you being intentionally obtuse?

(Saidit) PEAK TRANS I: Please continue to share your stories!! by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical

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Claiming to be the opposite sex based on gender feelings seems inherently boundary pushing to me.

Help! Any advice for talking to my little sister about gender ideology? by warriorwombyn in GenderCritical

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I would stick with gentle guiding questions, but only so long as she brings the topic up with you. Otherwise, I say leave it be for now. Does she share her blog with you? I'm surprised you found it.

If it does come up, I'd play the part of an outsider. "Why do you identify as non-binary and trans?" "What does it mean to be non-binary?" "Does that make me non-binary? I don't think I identify with femininity." "Are tomboys non-binary? Are butch lesbians? How do they know?"

Let her walk you through her ideology and gently probe the weak points with further questions. Don't approach it as changing her mind, just seek to understand. Get into the mindset of challenging your own ideology and let logic guide the conversation.

"how do I report these women talking amongst themselves on a different site" by gparmesan in GenderCritical

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My dad died of the same type of cancer a couple years before Magdalen. My mother and I cared for him up until three days before his death. I think about his decline. The first time he couldn't recognize one of us. Sitting and eating with him because he feared he was being poisoned and only trusted me to protect him. Watching his body waste away to nothing. The first fall. The day he no longer understood how to use a spoon. His first accident.

My dad was a proud, fiercely independent man and I loved him with every fiber of my being. When Magdalen was diagnosed, my heart broke for her and her loved ones. Fuck cancer. Fuck brain cancer in particular. May those who loved her find peace.

Who is out with their hairy legs this summer? by materialrealityplz in GenderCritical

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I've done some digging on this. I heard the same thing from my husband when I stopped shaving. Fortunately he said it jokingly and encouraged me to do whatever is most comfortable, but I was curious. I've seen studies that indicate this, but the degree of the increase seems to be negligible in most cases. I haven't found a study I would consider totally conclusive and meaningful. On the other hand, telling your girl that she she should shave to deal with body odor seems like a good way to give her a complex toward her body hair. It's like, even if it does make a small difference, the overwhelming majority of body odor is just going to be regular bathing, deodorant, and personal hygiene.

The problem I have with transwomen is that they keep trying to speak FOR women by uglyelephant121 in GenderCritical

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Is there a reason you use female pronouns for Blair White?

As much as I disliked the far right subs, I have to say boo-hoo to this by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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I'm assuming this is an /s post based on post history. Unfortunately given the current social climate, I do not know. :/

Random thought re: "vulnerable populations" by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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Women coming from less "woke" regions of the world generally don't buy into this trans bullshit narrative to begin with. They are much more aware of the sex differences between men and women and the oppression of women based on their sex.

Who is out with their hairy legs this summer? by materialrealityplz in GenderCritical

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The things our mothers said... Can you imagine telling your insecure preteen daughter that she needs to shave to deal with body odor?

Who is out with their hairy legs this summer? by materialrealityplz in GenderCritical

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I stopped shaving almost entirely when I got a puppy ten months ago. I was getting up constantly and dealing with 3am and 8am baths because of constant diarrhea (parasites). No more accidents, but I've found I just can't be bothered anymore. Occasionally I'll shave just to "start over", but it's every two months if that.

"how do I report these women talking amongst themselves on a different site" by gparmesan in GenderCritical

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Mod here. No, do not do that. We will remove your comments. This is not a debate subreddit and we can remove posts based on Rule 4 of Saidit's terms. XD

"how do I report these women talking amongst themselves on a different site" by gparmesan in GenderCritical

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A political rival, haha. You mean a woman with very little real power who used a cheap camera and spoke out about what she believed? It's not like Magdalen was an authority. She was a woman with a webcam and he's celebrating her tragically premature death over a year later.

"how do I report these women talking amongst themselves on a different site" by gparmesan in GenderCritical

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Not banned, private.

"how do I report these women talking amongst themselves on a different site" by gparmesan in GenderCritical

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"They're so hateful!" they say, while still making jokes about a young woman who died from brain cancer over a year ago

Radical Feminism is failing because it’s too racist (part 2) by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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Uh oh. You seem to be getting a little tired. Better misquote an excerpt of her original post and use it as a call out.

Radical Feminism is failing because it’s too racist (part 2) by [deleted] in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

So you got "too tired" to respond to ANY of the countless requests for details and context for your post and now you want to pick specific rewritten quotes out of context and pretend you're replying to the barrage of feedback you got? Are you kidding me?

Radical Feminism is failing because it’s too racist (part 2) by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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Jumping on to back up WrongToy here. Multiple mods have tried to get information from you separately as well as examples. We are in no way prioritizing the feelings of white supremacists or racists, we remove racist content as quickly as it comes to light every time it comes to light.

Supporting & Enabling TIFs/TIMs is misogynistic and it NEEDS to be addressed. by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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Good luck with that. If you gain any traction whatsoever it'll be deleted. I hardly see the point.

Is “gender” innate? I’m confused by Confuzzled in GenderCritical

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You cannot tell from a brain with any certainty whether a person is male or female. There are brain characteristics which may be more predominantly male or female, but you CANNOT tell whether a person is male or female based on their brain alone.

Quick Sources: https://www.nbcnews.com/better/wellness/can-you-tell-which-brains-are-male-neither-can-these-n471751 https://neurosciencenews.com/neuroscience-brain-sex-4366/

God I'm so Sick of Talking About Trans - Remember Women's Issues?? by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical

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OH SHIT. I COMPLETELY LEFT OUT HEALTHCARE AND ABORTION ACCESS. THAT TOO

God I'm so Sick of Talking About Trans - Remember Women's Issues?? by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical

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I think there's a time and place for the finger pointing and the mockery women have for men who pantomime womanhood. Derision is a powerful social tool and the costumery that womanhood has become is an insult in itself. We need to talk about how bullshit and laughable a lot of trans ideology and behavior is, but trans is just so goddamn loud and endless. There are things which have a much greater impact on our lives that we struggle to talk about because we're losing so much energy on the unending parade of absolute fucking nonsense that the liberal left have embraced to the detriment of women.

God I'm so Sick of Talking About Trans - Remember Women's Issues?? by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical

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God, is there anything less productive to meaningful change than postmodernism? Ugh. It's important to talk about what it means to be a woman, but as soon as men joined the conversation, as it always goes, the conversation became a black hole of women's time and energy for the coddling of men.

God I'm so Sick of Talking About Trans - Remember Women's Issues?? by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical

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Thanks for joining us here. You've got some very importance experiences to share and we're absolutely here for your perspective. I'm sorry for all the shit you had to deal with in your reproductive history. I hope you and your baby are hale and healthy now. Your voice is a valuable part of our community and I hope you continue to speak of the challenges you faced.

In light of the r/PCOS nonsense, is there an appetite for women's health subs here on SaidIt? by strawberryfields4evr in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I support it, but you'd have to have some very dedicated moderators. Saidit has different rules than reddit which you'll want to review. You will also have a challenge of getting enough users. You are welcome to make posts about PCOS and other medical issues here as well.

Human Trafficking Is an Epidemic in the U.S. It’s Also Big Business by limegreen in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Men LOVE to talk about things like sex trafficking. By talking about sex trafficking they can A. Tell women they don't have anything to complain about because their situation could be so much worse, B. Frame it as though it's entirely separate from porn and prostitution and C. Ignore the fact that these are largely underage girls and SOMEONE IS BUYING THEM and IT'S NOT FUCKIN WOMEN.

Human Trafficking Is an Epidemic in the U.S. It’s Also Big Business by limegreen in GenderCritical

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I found out from a sex trafficking documentary that I live in one of the worst places for sex trafficking in this part of the country. I can't believe it's not something we talk about more. I saw one of the local schools where one of the girls was from and I was like, Oh shit. It's not just big cities. It's not just the poorest or the most vulnerable. It seems so remote to most of us, but sex trafficking is way more widespread than we realize.

(Saidit) PEAK TRANS I: Please continue to share your stories!! by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical

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A great post, but off topic for this thread.

What does everyone think of having a book club of sorts? by FuriousPenguin in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

He's got to make sure lesbians aren't meeting and deciding they aren't obligated to fuck him

PIV SEX/INTERCOURSE IS BAD FOR WOMEN by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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My beautiful son

r/PCOS removes for not being gender neutral. Another example of misogyny within reddit. by hylia in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Man, I wonder why transwomen aren't getting up in arms over the loss of this women's medical community?

Radical feminism is failing because it’s too racist by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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Is there evidence of Spinster mods blatant ignoring racism?

Radical feminism is failing because it’s too racist by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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Sure will be interesting to see if OP has any specific examples. So far we just have their intuition that there weren't enough women of colored based on gut feel or some shit.

Radical feminism is failing because it’s too racist by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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I was a mod on G_c. I removed some comments of a similar vein as this. The user repeatedly failed to respond to requests for specific examples and instead picked fights and continually accused GC of racism and antisemetism.

As mods, we take racist and antisemitic content as seriously as we do misogynistic content. We will always seek to have the content removed to the extent possible in accordance with our rules. If you have a specific example you would like to discuss, please PM me the comment you want addressed.

(Saidit) PEAK TRANS I: Please continue to share your stories!! by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical

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I'm sorry that happened to you. I hope things are better for you now!

Should there be a Peak Trans mega thread? by Lilith_Fair in GenderCritical

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I've created and stickied one. :)

Why do tras always act like not agreeing with their ideology is "denying trans people human rights " by TheSeventhSense in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well, when ignoring pronouns is an act of LITERAL VIOLENCE...

FYI the mod stance is that posts and comments from men are somewhat tolerated, but strongly preferred to go to another sub such as gender critical guys. Adding "AS A MAN" or "FROM A MALE PERSPECTIVE" or otherwise bringing attention to your maleness is a good way to get your post removed.

Do you want to tell him, or should I? by womenopausal in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I have not. Not a single time. Seen Karen refer to men

Male voices on GC by woodrup in GenderCritical

[–]Irascible-harpy 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

FYI, current policy as discussed by Saidit Mods is that we're going to allow comments from men so long as they don't include "AS A MAN" or make the focus of their post about their male perspective. As much as you're claiming to be understanding and one of the good ones, you're doing the exact thing you say shouldn't be done. Just lurk. Help Gender Critical Guys stay strong and healthy.