Girl Splash (Provincetown)

WildwoodFlower · 2022-04-10T00:06:43+00:00

If you're asexual, all you need to do is hang out with some senior citizens. Most of them are done with that aspect of life.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-07-16T05:38:35+00:00

25% of American youth want someone to pay attention to their blue hair and their weird clothes. Yawn... I hung around with goths in the 80s and 90s. These "non-binary" kids do not impress me.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-03-09T02:34:38+00:00

SuperStraight might not be banned because it's full of heterosexual males.

WildwoodFlower · 2020-11-17T22:33:33+00:00

Why don't they just call themselves bisexual?

WildwoodFlower · 2021-08-28T06:14:17+00:00

We were at a lake and I saw him in a bathing suit. He is very pale, with old man boobs and a big belly. But his arms and legs are normal sized.

BTW, she told me she liked my bathing suit. My response? I pointed out to her that my swim shorts have pockets! I didn't realize it at the time, but that sounded kind of butch, didn't it?

WildwoodFlower · 2021-04-24T01:47:22+00:00

Sounds like my former high school classmates on Facebook.

WildwoodFlower · 2020-10-17T23:26:20+00:00

Intelligence.

WildwoodFlower · 2020-08-31T21:46:35+00:00

I especially don't want straight MEN writing "lesbian" storylines.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-04-21T01:52:21+00:00

Kate McKinnon has been accused of being a TERF. This article is from 2017, but the TRAs still haven't forgiven her. (Do they ever forgive anybody for anything?) http://affinitymagazine.us/2017/04/13/if-you-support-lesbians-stop-supporting-these-women/

WildwoodFlower · 2021-04-17T00:37:08+00:00

I am not surprised.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-01-15T06:32:44+00:00

For me, David Bowie always felt like someone I knew in a previous life. Or on another planet. There was this sense of "everyone thinks he's weird, everyone thinks I'm weird, but in some other time and place we would not be weird." But it was never sexual.

Does that make sense?

WildwoodFlower · 2021-01-04T03:37:19+00:00

Seriously, what exactly am I supposed to be attracted to when I "reconsider" these MTFs? Most trans women still look like males. The few who "pass" have had so much cosmetic surgery that they look like plastic Barbie dolls. I am not interested in dating either one. And that's not even getting into all the gender dysphoria and psychological issues that I, frankly, don't have the patience to deal with. If I wanted to be with a male-bodied person, I would just take the easy route and find myself a nice, normal straight guy. But I don't want to be with a male-bodied person.

WildwoodFlower · 2020-08-29T23:08:52+00:00

Even a simple "What's your name?" is a loaded question.

WildwoodFlower · 2020-07-29T19:44:19+00:00

She sounds bisexual to me.

WildwoodFlower · 2020-07-25T06:26:37+00:00

I don't like any of the existing lesbian flags, especially that pink and orange one. I think there are too many pride flags in general. I can't even keep track of whose is whose anymore. The old-fashioned rainbow flag is good enough for me. But if I were to design a lesbian flag, it would be lavender and purple plaid, in homage to plaid flannel shirts. It would also be distinguishable from the various striped flags.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-09-01T20:16:02+00:00

So Elton John isn't gay, then?

WildwoodFlower · 2021-08-29T02:01:50+00:00

I'm over 50, and nearly all of the lesbians I know have not only slept with men, they were also married to them at one time. Some of them had children with those men. I think there are more gold stars among the younger generations, so you could restrict your dating pool to women who have only been with other women. Or to virgins who haven't yet been with anyone.

I think hearing a girlfriend talk about the men she'd be with if she were straight is bothersome on a different level. It sounds to me like she was trying to stir you up and drive you crazy with that kind of talk. It's one thing to have slept with men, but it's something else to go on and on about it knowing it upsets your girlfriend. Did you ever ask her if she was bi? To me, it sounds like she might be.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-04-24T02:27:22+00:00

A billing issue? That was it??? It does make more sense than those other theories, though. If it was hate speech or death threats, they could have just removed the evil clowns without shutting down the whole circus. But given how every other LGB forum ends up getting shut down, we had every reason to freak out.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-03-17T02:05:36+00:00

I haven't met many lately because I don't get out much due to Covid-19 restrictions. I know several lesbians in real life, but I first met them several years ago.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-02-24T06:30:31+00:00

57.14% bisexual and 42.86% gay. Straight didn't appear on my pie graph.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-01-26T23:50:39+00:00

Old bookshops??? Okay, that settles it. I am going to P-town when this plague is over.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-01-15T01:52:48+00:00

We are living in such a crazy world, aren't we? People who aren't lesbians are calling themselves lesbians while women who actually are lesbians are identifying as trans, genderqueer, or nonbinary.

WildwoodFlower · 2020-10-14T21:08:47+00:00

Wait... WHAT????

WildwoodFlower · 2020-08-27T21:36:44+00:00

I don't think there is a word that can stop some of these guys. If you say you're a lesbian/homosexual, then they think all you need is some dick-- his dick, of course-- and then you'll be straight. Pretending to be straight with a husband/boyfriend doesn't stop them, either, because they think their dick is better than the dick you already have. Sometimes telling them you have kids is a turnoff, but the guy could also be one of those pedos who goes after single moms in order to access their children. Or even if he's not a pedo, he might figure his dick will mean so much to you that you'll send the kids to live with their dad or their granny.

The one thing that does usually work is if you sound intelligent. Flaunt that grad school vocabulary, or at least learn how to do a good Hillary Clinton imitation.

WildwoodFlower · 2020-08-20T00:03:31+00:00

Some of these straight women sound like they need to outgrow their high school mean girl behavior. I am wondering how much of what you're dealing with is internalized homophobia vs. how much is actual homophobia?

WildwoodFlower · 2020-08-18T05:45:27+00:00

Let's just put it this way... Any feelings I ever had for a member of the opposite sex disappeared at the mere idea of him taking off his clothes.

WildwoodFlower · 2020-08-08T21:04:43+00:00

Or she prefers to use toys.

WildwoodFlower · 2020-08-06T05:53:34+00:00

But what IS it? A group? A new label? Why would I "need it"?

WildwoodFlower · 2020-08-04T23:12:18+00:00

I think of it as regressive feminism, or male-centered feminism. Liberal/neo-liberal has other connotations that are more related to economics than whether trans women are women.

WildwoodFlower · 2020-08-04T22:29:39+00:00

My style is kind of "tomboy femme", but I really don't identify as either butch or femme.

WildwoodFlower · 2020-07-26T20:27:06+00:00

I didn't think much about the fandom stuff when I wrote my response earlier. But yeah, I'm just too damn old for that scene. Also, my straight best friend from high school was REALLY into all these sci-fi and fantasy conventions back in the 80s and 90s. I only went once and let's just say that I did not "click" with those folks.

WildwoodFlower · 2020-07-21T05:44:51+00:00

Yeah, but what am I supposed to do when one of those unavailable "straight" women starts acting like she feels the same way?

WildwoodFlower · 2020-07-19T01:59:36+00:00

The idea of living out in the middle of nowhere, doing farm work, and not having access to 20th century conveniences (let alone 21st century) has ZERO appeal to me. Now, I would be interested if someone were to come up with an all-female urban art collective, or even an urban farm (assuming I could do some other job that doesn't require digging around in the dirt).

WildwoodFlower · 2020-07-17T05:53:06+00:00

I think the best way to reclaim "lesbian" is to keep using it the way it is meant to be used. I don't use "queer" or "dyke" myself. I am okay with other people using those words on a strictly in-house, in-group basis (the same way some African-Americans call themselves or each other the N-word), but I do get offended when I hear those words from straight people or the I-kissed-a-girl-once-when-I-was-drunk types. WLW might work online, but it sounds awkward when spoken out loud. It sounds like the name of a professional wrestling conglomerate. Sapphic? I don't find it offensive or inoffensive personally. But it seems more like a word that would describe a thing (i.e. a Sapphic sculpture) than a person, or a group of people. I do refer to myself as gay sometimes, although I know some people consider it a male-only term. It works for me in a cultural sense because I actually relate more to certain elements of gay culture than I do to lesbian culture. (For example, I would rather see a Broadway musical or go disco dancing than attend a womyn's music festival because the idea of camping in the woods makes me itch.)

WildwoodFlower · 2022-08-03T05:07:47+00:00

It's a red flag any time an adult male shows a fixation with little girls. It might mean he wants to BE one, or it might mean he's a pedo. Or both. Either way, steer clear!

WildwoodFlower · 2022-04-12T05:57:35+00:00

They really do think "woman" is a costume, don't they?

WildwoodFlower · 2022-04-10T00:03:48+00:00

I have never even seen this woman, but she sounds hot!

WildwoodFlower · 2022-03-29T06:24:16+00:00

I wonder what the options are on this multiple choice test? Anybody know?

WildwoodFlower · 2021-12-16T23:22:30+00:00

That's why I said "good therapist". It's sad-- and dangerous-- that parents have to treat their own kids' mental illnesses at home because most therapists are either on board the trans train or else they're afraid to say anything that could get them in trouble. And no, I am not supporting any form of conversion therapy here. I am absolutely against those barbaric old-school practices where effeminate boys were punished for playing with dolls, or where teenagers were sent to pray-away-the-gay camp. Girls like the ones described in this article need to explore why they hate themselves, why they have difficulty making friends in the real world, why they are drawn to the sick and twisted corners of the internet, and how they can learn to cope. Some of them probably need antidepressants, but none of them should be on T.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-12-16T07:36:09+00:00

I think one of the keys here is that the mom was mostly going at this alone. Ideally, this kid should have been in therapy and the therapist would have uncovered what was really going on. The therapist also would have helped the mother work through her own anxiety and feelings and put the brakes on the mom when she was overcontrolling. But from the sound of it, it took a long time to find a good therapist, and even then this person was out of state.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-10-12T23:52:42+00:00

I'll probably just carve a pumpkin and pass out candy to the neighborhood kids. Last year, I had to leave the candy on a table in my yard, so at least this year the trick or treating should be somewhat normal.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-09-12T02:28:52+00:00

First of all, I think you are going down the right path by seeing a therapist. Second of all, since this woman was complimenting your pubic hair, of all things, I absolutely understand why you would take that to mean she's interested. Since other people noticed that she seemed to like you that way, then there probably is/was something there. But clearly, this woman has issues. The fact that she was messing around with a 60-year-old dude when she was in her 20s is proof of that. And no, that doesn't mean you are disgusting. I doubt it has anything to do with you at all. If I had to guess, it probably means the 60-year-old had $$$ and she wanted a sugar daddy. Or if the guy was her boss or her professor or something like that, it could have been some weird sexual harassment type of deal. Plenty of woman have sex with men for reasons that have nothing to do with the woman getting any physical pleasure out of it.

Anyhow, I'm sorry you are going through such a bad time because of this woman. I hope you can find someone who will treat you right, because you deserve it!

WildwoodFlower · 2021-09-01T00:53:22+00:00

It happens all the time. I also know gay men who were married to women and had children with those women.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-08-28T06:28:08+00:00

You are attracted to who you are attracted to, and you have every right to those attractions. You are allowed to be selfish when it comes to figuring out who you want to be with, and who turns you off. For me, the worst thing about the TQ+ crowd are their personalities, not their genitals (which I don't want to see) and not the way they dress (which isn't my style, but whatever). I can't really see myself being friends with them the way I am friends with gay men or straight people. I just can't deal with their drama, their cultish groupthink, or their never ending need for attention and validation. I don't know if these things bother you the way they bother me. But I don't blame anyone who wants to steer clear of these folks.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-08-26T21:07:58+00:00

Smart move. People like that are looking for attention, so it's best not to give them any.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-08-26T21:03:16+00:00

The only one I know well is someone from high school. "Louis" was a basic preppy honors student type. I knew him in the "gender bender" 80s, but he never showed any interest in any of that music or the people who made it. He was a basic suburban straight white boy who was into Rush, Van Halen, and Stevie Ray Vaughan. Fast forward to the late 2010s, when Louis started using the name Louise, along with they/them pronouns, and posting a lot of selfies with makeup, wigs, feminine clothing, etc. I also noticed in a few of the photos that "Louise" has boobs now. Sure, a lot of overweight men over 50 grow man boobs, but these are too big to be that. They also aren't perfect and perky enough to be the result of a boob job, so I'm thinking that Louis is on hormones.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-08-26T20:26:08+00:00

LOL! I think it's best if she and I just stay friends. As for her boyfriend, he looks like a seventysomething-year-old pregnant man.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-08-25T21:40:48+00:00

I don't know. How can I tell the difference between a straight woman and a bi in denial? All I know is that there has been this bizarre, flirty dynamic between the two of us and it's gone on for years. I have never experienced anything like this with a straight friend before. I'm in my 50s and she's in her 60s, so we're not confused college kids or anything like that.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-08-23T04:14:06+00:00

I saw my "straight" crush for the first time in almost a year. We were at a party together. It was a nice party, but unfortunately, she brought her boyfriend with her. It wasn't earth shattering because I am almost over her. Almost. Maybe about 80 percent.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-08-21T02:14:34+00:00

I haven't been to ActuallyLesbians in awhile. I find that OlderLesbians is the sub that actually has the most real lesbians.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-06-30T21:17:26+00:00

I don't come here much anymore because saidit has shut down twice. When something shuts down once, okay, things happen. But twice within such a short period of time?

WildwoodFlower · 2021-06-02T22:46:25+00:00

It was a nice place.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-05-28T00:56:26+00:00

This article is from 2010, but it's still worth a read: https://www.livescience.com/6073-children-raised-lesbians-fine-studies-show.html

WildwoodFlower · 2021-05-26T22:15:33+00:00

I went over and looked at PinkSofa. It looks pretty nice. The site doesn't specifically seem targeted to trans women. It does mention bi women (which is fine with me, although I understand that some lesbians won't date bi women).

WildwoodFlower · 2021-05-12T06:14:58+00:00

The poor kid just wants to play with the toys she likes and wear clothes that make her feel comfortable. It's the adults who have the problem here. The kid is fine.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-05-10T05:53:22+00:00

This article might help. http://gomag.com/article/14-lit-cities-for-lesbians-to-live-in/

WildwoodFlower · 2021-05-08T05:37:53+00:00

I've never been on Ovarit.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-05-06T22:31:07+00:00

If a transwoman changes into a suit and tie (or a sweatshirt and jeans), washes off her makeup, and takes off her wig, then the world will treat her the same as any man. If a transwoman came out as an adult, chances are she is still making more $$$ than her female co-workers. Her childhood and adolescence would have been completely different from what non-trans girls experience. Even transgirls who come out at a young age don't have the same childhood experiences as non-trans girls. Transkids are treated like transkids, not like typical boys or girls.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-04-29T06:00:09+00:00

If Jazz and El Page actually were that developmentally advanced as toddlers, then their current issues are most likely due to their extreme giftedness rather than "born in the wrong body." Highly gifted children tend to be anxious, extremely sensitive perfectionists who overthink every little damn thing. They also have difficulty relating to other children. There is also some overlap between the characteristics of giftedness and autism/Asperger's. But they're still little kids and they need adults to provide them with guidance instead of agreeing that yes, Jazz, you really are a girl because boys don't like sparkly toys and Broadway showtunes.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-04-29T05:39:36+00:00

https://www.scholastic.com/teachers/articles/teaching-content/ages-stages-im-boy-youre-girl/

For those who don't know much about child development, the above link explains pretty well what young children understand (and don't understand) about boys vs. girls.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-04-27T22:22:43+00:00

I hear you! The whole "it gets better" thing is true in terms of how straight people treat us compared to what it was like 30 or 40 years ago (I'm old.). But our own "community"? Not so much. We can't even have a freakin' Internet forum on a mainstream platform because of trans feels.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-04-27T00:55:35+00:00

I don't have anything to share, but Happy Lesbian Visibility Day!

WildwoodFlower · 2021-04-27T00:10:14+00:00

Dear Steven, 1. Admit that you have a fetish. 2. Either satisfy your desires within the privacy of your own home, or find a group of like-minded, consenting adult playmates. 3. You aren't a woman. 4. You probably aren't trans, either. You don't seem to be suffering from dysphoria. You just get off on wearing women's clothes.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-04-24T05:34:57+00:00

From what you have written here, I would suggest a new therapist, preferably someone who understands toxic religious environments. And by all means, steer clear of anyone who is pushing trans/non-binary jabberwocky.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-04-17T01:47:10+00:00

I loved this! But then again, I have a massive crush on Kate McKinnon.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-04-08T01:24:41+00:00

Hundreds? Then maybe it's time for trans inmates to be housed in separate facilities, or at least in their own wing of a prison.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-04-05T21:53:35+00:00

The darker, the better. I also like dark chocolate with caramel. But really, any kind of chocolate will do.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-03-31T01:07:15+00:00

Good for her!

WildwoodFlower · 2021-03-30T00:46:00+00:00

Thank you for the work that you do! (((HUGS)))

I've had my first dose of the vaccine and will get my second dose in mid-April. Right now, I just feel tired of it all. Even the idea of going back to "normal life" just makes me feel tired.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-03-06T00:44:42+00:00

I can't deal with anyone's gender dysphoria. I've had far too many front row seats in the addiction and mental illness arenas, and I have no desire to get caught up in the whole gender dysphoria mess. I don't want to sound mean here, but how can I love someone who is so consumed with self-hatred that they want to completely erase who they used to be and assume an entirely new identity? If someone is triggered by their own baby pictures, or by the mere mention of the name their parents gave them... Well, I just can't.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-03-03T03:22:31+00:00

I am attracted to women who are more feminine than myself, so no.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-02-26T07:57:14+00:00

Just tell the cops you are being your authentic self! :D

WildwoodFlower · 2021-02-25T07:28:19+00:00

It depends. If her hair is just a weird shade of red, I've been there and done that. That's what the 90s were for! :D I also have a straight hippie friend who dyes her hair lavender because her natural color right now is whitish-gray (she's 70). There aren't too many goths around these days, but I knew some back in the day who were into various shades of burgundy and purple. (Again, that's what the 90s were for.) But yeah, I know there's a link between unnaturally colored hair and being gender special. The ones I see around here also tend to wear very childish-looking pajamas in public. Actually, I think the pajamas put me off more than the hair. There is something deeply disturbing about adults who dress like children. Besides, I am just not attracted to people who would wear their pajamas outside the house. Maybe I'm just a snob?

WildwoodFlower · 2021-02-23T06:27:52+00:00

I don't know about the specific study you are looking for, but try googling Dr. Ray Blanchard and also "autogynephilia."

WildwoodFlower · 2021-02-23T00:24:09+00:00

If adults didn't shove kids like this into the media spotlight, they would just be little boys playing dress-up.

I also don't know any parent of an actual female child who lets her out of the house wearing makeup unless it's Halloween, she is performing in a dance recital, or is appearing at some other venue where the makeup is part of her costume. Makeup is for girls who are at least in middle school, not for children. Ditto for all these trans kids with dyed pink hair.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-02-23T00:14:31+00:00

I've been thinking about signing up for Our Time (I'm over 50), and if they don't kick women off for specifying "no trans" then this is a point in their favor.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-02-22T01:34:33+00:00

Yes, I would date a bisexual woman as long as she is single and monogamous. I am not interested in being somebody's side dish. Then again, the same is true for any lesbian I might date.

I figure if I restrict myself to a "lesbians-only" dating pool, that leaves me with a very small number of women to choose from. There just aren't a lot of lesbians out there, and all of the ones I know are married/partnered. And just because someone is a lesbian, that doesn't automatically makes us compatible.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-02-20T23:58:39+00:00

I found this article on Twitter, and there were a lot of comments. The Lesbian and Gay News website is new, so it might not be on many people's radar yet.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-02-19T07:16:59+00:00

Bravo, Vanessa!

WildwoodFlower · 2021-02-18T06:26:00+00:00

I'm not going there. Can lesbians "love men"? Sure, if you're talking about platonic love for male family members (fathers, grandfathers, uncles, brothers, grown sons, male cousins, longtime male friends who are like family-- especially if they're gay). But I don't think this type of love is what this person means.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-02-17T01:26:05+00:00

And since all of these kids are on the autism spectrum or have mental health issues, the doctors (and perhaps even the parents) don't care if their reproductive systems are forever ruined, or if they are unable to have a satisfying sex life as an adult.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-02-16T00:24:33+00:00

What parent (even one who believes that this type of surgery is right for their teen) would choose a surgeon with such an unprofessional attitude? Wouldn't they want someone who takes their job more seriously than "Teetus Deletus"?

WildwoodFlower · 2021-02-09T23:27:54+00:00

I never tell random men who hit on me that I'm gay. I don't feel like this is a safe thing to do.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-01-28T06:31:46+00:00

And those white nationalists who stormed the Capitol on January 6th would bring back the absolute worst of those atrocities and take them to the next level.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-01-28T03:01:53+00:00

Not me. I didn't want to be around those people before January 6th. Then after they tried to violently overthrow the government, I really don't want to be around them.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-01-27T22:03:25+00:00

I pay attention to flags when I drive through different areas, especially if it's a place where I am thinking about buying a home. Rainbow flags are a good sign. If I don't see any rainbow flags, I wonder if I could feel truly at home in that place. And if I see a lot of right wing flags (Trump, Don't Tread On Me, weird variations on the American flag), then I know I don't belong there.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-01-27T07:18:12+00:00

I like the rainbow flag. To me, it signals that I am in a safe place. But the rest of those flags are meaningless to me. I have trouble remembering which one is which.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-01-25T01:39:57+00:00

I am not even interested in men and there are more/only men asking me out. So I can see where the bi girls are coming from on this.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-01-23T02:19:34+00:00

I have heard someone say "cishet" to describe straight people. But I figure if straight people don't like it, that's their problem, not mine.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-01-21T22:35:16+00:00

I couldn't tell from the tweets if those "lesbians" were sexually fantasizing about those celebs, if they just thought those guys were cute, or if they want to be them because the straight girls at school like them. My main takeaway from those tweets is that those "lesbians" were very, very young. Or maybe very, very immature. I ended up thinking of them as girls rather than as women.

WildwoodFlower · 2021-01-17T01:35:52+00:00

It sure sounds nice, doesn't it?

WildwoodFlower · 2021-01-14T03:26:41+00:00

Most of the ones I saw in that Twitter thread were teenagers with crushes on girly-looking K-pop stars. I don't know what that means as far as whether these kids are lesbians or bi or what. They'll figure it out eventually.

WildwoodFlower