It's so funny to me that Reddit is claiming TERFs were brigading different women's subs (like r/PCOS and r/pregnancy) like there weren't radfems in those subs to begin with

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-12T18:23:16+00:00

Part of the problem is the norm in our society is to look down on women and reinforce gender roles. So I wonder if men hate women because they resent their mothers for raising them in these masculine stereotypes they didn't want. Idk.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-12T03:43:01+00:00

And then you have high caliber journalism like this: https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/a35wgz/what-happens-when-your-girlfriend-finds-out-youre-into-trans-women

/s

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-12T03:30:50+00:00

The problem is the public has no idea they are trying to gut Title IX. No idea at all.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-12T03:27:25+00:00

This really pisses me off. Like, help the homeless. Combat income inequality. Volunteer with make a wish. Instead, far too many men waste their entire lives bitching about sex and how victimized they feel when they can't get it. It's pathetic and selfish.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-12T03:24:39+00:00

I really think we should document this. How many threats of violence towards women v trans people.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-12T03:24:01+00:00

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-11T01:54:40+00:00

The fact that there are popular media articles who basically make fun of the assertion that women are subordinated by men is what is so fucked up about this. Those media outlets typically describe TERF's as believing women are intentionally put down by men. Well, they fucking are. That's a fact.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-11T01:52:43+00:00

This is another twitter thread I'm enjoying: https://twitter.com/Athers1977/status/1281180230338719745

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-11T01:36:03+00:00

Posted in r/detrans:

joliphotia detrans male, retired mod 8 points · 1 hour ago There is a group who works to brigade rival subs, get them banned, then apply for ownership of the subreddit so they can repurpose it. A member of the group admits to their process here: https://www.reddit.com/r/ModSupport/comments/hk0w7x/request_for_clarification_on_selfreferential/fwr7gb4/

That same person attempted to gain ownership of this sub today: https://www.reddit.com/r/redditrequest/comments/howh7v/requesting_rdetrans_was_briefly_banned_is_now/

level 3 joliphotia detrans male, retired mod 6 points · 50 minutes ago They've become quite brazen in what they're willing to admit in public. And the admins don't seem to care.

Also, have you seen what that same person above has been screenshot as doing and saying in discord chats? https://www.bitchute.com/video/vlTJnwygrFhZ/

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-11T01:31:07+00:00

For the women who haven't worked in tech - now you see how the silicon valley sex scandals go on without anyone batting an eye. These sick fucks are deranged and pathetic.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-10T19:59:02+00:00

Also OMG intersex people are less than 1% of the population. Even if there are trans people with a brain-based intersex condition - so far - no dice. No proof at all. Same with people who have adrenal and endocrine issues - negligible amounts. This is a fucking joke. And a cover for dismantling title IX.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-10T19:18:59+00:00

Reddit depends on having content people want to read and engage with on their subs. So even if you're in something benign like r/askreddit and you've made some good comments - take them down. People find topics you speak on in search engines. If they don't have the content from the 70k+ people they just booted from feminist subs all the better.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-10T19:17:01+00:00

Not super new but relevant: https://www.wired.com/story/misogyny-reddit-research/ - wouldn't you think these incel community bans just warped into men who are pro-trans. They must know that the EA would gut Title IX. Also, at least r/FemaleDatingStrategy wasn't part of the cull.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-10T19:05:20+00:00

More to screw over Reddit. We can't access comments from banned subs. If you delete from other subs that just removes the content they depend on.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-10T18:54:27+00:00

Delete your comments on Reddit before you delete your account.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-10T18:53:58+00:00

same

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-10T18:53:21+00:00

These people are fucking insane.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-09T05:23:59+00:00

Most women don't realize how much men dislike them and see them as objects. Thank you for being here with us.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-04T02:14:41+00:00

Don't want to listen to men. I want them to listen to women. What will that take? In most cases, not strict accounting of the facts. What else would work?

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-04T02:13:41+00:00

Not sideline ourselves, not silence ourselves. Women are not in power at this point. I am not advocating listening to men, I am trying to get them to listen to us. Which they don't do.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-04T02:12:46+00:00

They think it is worth it for the same reason women shit on other women. It's validation. That's not true freedom or liberation.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-02T21:32:05+00:00

But aren't women still speaking in this case? The topic might change, but they are still speaking. I want women to be heard, I don't care what they say, so long as it helps other women and is heard.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-02T21:23:13+00:00

We can't make it about them, it IS about them. That IS the current status quo. I am more focused on getting power and influence. Right now it doesn't matter if I speak, no one listens or thinks I'm worth listening to.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-02T21:20:14+00:00

I will, I guess I feel like we are asking a group of people who have a lot to lose (and less opportunity) to risk themselves further by breaking the stereotype. I also want to voice opinions, but perhaps it could be useful to highlight opinions that actually do show it harms men. The reason TWAW works is that it harms women, not men. Women will harm themselves before they'll harm men because we are socialized that way (to take the side of men, be selfless). That's what is so insidious. Women feel validated as women when they hurt themselves. They feel like they are being good girls, and look forward to the pat on the head they get from society. Just as men get validation for fulfilling prescribed gender roles for men. Can't we try to take advantage of that as the TRA's do, but in a way that helps women instead of harms them?

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-02T20:39:57+00:00

The article makes great points. I guess the perspective I have is as an assault survivor (who are often forced to sign NDA's) and as a person who was sexually harassed and forced out of my job because of it. Recently I was laid off from a different company (due to COVID allegedly) but also I think in part because I spoke up for women's sex-based rights on the D&I committee, but in my industry, it's heavily trans controlled and influenced. I was not well-liked for rocking the boat. So I'm sensitive to being cancelled because what did I really accomplish if I can't speak, and I can't work anymore? Isn't there some way to say the same thing, convey the same idea, without closing the door entirely?

As an example, I do think it's abhorrent that men's misogyny (especially in the working classes) prevents them from investing in education, and makes them unwilling to enter jobs that are in demand (like nursing and elderly care) because they are perceived as women's work. This is material harm to men (and by extension women). I don't want to fix women's discrimination by having the men do it for us, but I'd also rather have my rights then be right all the time if that makes any sense.

Men need to yield the floor in some cases and give us our own spaces in others. But yet in others, men need to be willing to enter predominantly female spaces. The reason for this is they drive up the value of that work by their presence, which I obviously ideologically oppose. But at least you don't have the sex segregation in professions that disadvantages women due to men's unwillingness to "stoop" to women's work. It can't be women's work if there are just as many men doing it as women. And STEM can't be seen as the uber valuable profession it is now if care work gets some respect and attention.

I risk my personal comfort and safety a lot to stand up for women. And other women see what happens when I do. I don't think that is bringing all women to my side (though I am glad to see JK Rowling was able to turn some). I am a Hillary Clinton personality. A lot of women think I deserve what I get. I just don't know what to do because I am not going to change into some sweet and cuddly woman to make the world happy. I'm a bitch (in the best way in the sense that I have boundaries and convictions) and I don't mind saying so. I'm angry!

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-02T19:48:43+00:00

Perhaps they get funding from TRA's. That seems to be behind all of the other orgs who adhere to this ideology.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-02T19:43:54+00:00

I took African American history in college (I'm white). Colin Powell came up (due to his conservatism and general lack of activism in the African American community during his time under the Bush administration) and I said well "Does he need to care about racism if his life's passion is education? Why does he have to be an activist or care about racial issues just because he is Black?" I was the only white person and my Black classmates let me know in no uncertain terms that what I said was fucked up. Looking back, I have to agree. It was fucked up of me, and invalidating, and unrealistic. Colin Powell is a Black person who has some power and privilege, and he should use it to help the disproportionate number of Black people who don't.

Later, I realized this is what OJ says/said about himself. He is just OJ, he isn't Black. And that really worked for him in terms of getting business deals and acceptance from white wealthy people (of course before his trial anyway). I'm thinking about the parallels between that and TWAW.

My presumption from my college class is that most Black people don't appreciate someone trying to opt-out of their responsibility to help Black people as a class. That is how I feel about "feminists" who support TWAW. And about TIM's who appropriate the female experience. How could a white person possibly speak to the experience of being Black? How could a male possibly understand being female? And just being feminine does not make one female. It's almost like TRA is the gay male (and AGP male) perspective overtaking/defining what it means to be a woman/female.

It just reinforces to me how little respect women have from men, across all races, ethnic groups, and sexual minorities. Males literally think they can do woman better than females can. And no one thinks this is wrong!

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-02T19:32:48+00:00

Michael Jackson's niece was stabbed by a trans wo(man) in Vegas. I hope the Black community is up in arms on Twitter.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-02T19:22:56+00:00

Most of my friends are white. They feel more than qualified to speak on behalf of the Black community and to center white culture's views on the LGBTQ community as though they are universally held by every other racial and ethnic minority group in the US as well. Not the case. TRA's have a lot of power because the dominant culture (rich white people) don't have an issue with them (notably they don't have an issue with the T whereas other groups agree they have no issue with the LGB). On the left it's because they think they are being kind/don't want to lose face with the wolk folk circles they are in, on the right it's because TRA ideology reinforces MRA and evangelical ideologies.

Meanwhile, Catholics and other religions with a high percentage of racial minority groups as worshipers call bullshit. And the elite left thinks it's ok to silence them because they are religious people. And feminists aren't really in touch with these folks because of the abortion and birth control dispute.

The working class gets shit on once again, but I want to be respectful to the Black community as well here, by acknowledging that many Black people feel they are primarily oppressed due to race and not class and in certain aspects I believe that to be true also. I just think it's interesting that white people chose Laverne Cox as their first introduction of trans people to the country. It's hard to question the movement if a Black person is the face of it. That feels intentional - not to diminish Laverne, she seems lovely, I just abhor white people who use minorities as a shield for their real aims (usually $ and corporate interests).

In short - the white elite has done it again. All the normies hate each other, and all the normies especially take issue with Black normies. Not enough normies take issue with the actual root.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-02T17:25:48+00:00

This MB video has really pushed me over the edge. This is exactly the workplace experience I've had with people in the Q/T community. https://youtu.be/0PPV83fgJx0

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-02T17:23:45+00:00

This is terrifying.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-02T04:54:47+00:00

I don't have a Twitter account but I'll make one to do this.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-01T22:38:13+00:00

I've met trans people IRL and I know others have commented they have too. That experience, along with the non-sensical reactions of some of my (now ex) friends made me wake up. I'm an assault survivor so for my "friends" to not get how their disregard for women's rights AND especially the TRA rhetoric being so anti-consent (genital preferences are transphobic) really made me understand viscerally how fucked up this all is. Most people are followers, that is not their fault and followers have a purpose too. It's up to us to lead them to the right conclusion. I think as more young people meet trans people and really understand how it makes them feel to be around those people they will start looking into it more and really thinking about it. It's not that I have a problem with trans people, it's more that I see a lot of trans people doing it for the special attention and affirmations they receive when they take on that persona. I'm talking wealthy, white, Harvard, Amherst, Smith educated trans folks here. They are not a disadvantaged group.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-01T22:20:06+00:00

Why aren't they posting the list of the anti-female subs that need to go? This doesn't compute.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-01T22:14:15+00:00

Right, I used to think the radfem premise that women who transition do it to escape being women. I thought that could not possibly be true. But then that happened and I realized that maybe that is true.

respectmyidentity · 2020-07-01T00:13:02+00:00

I don't know, it's really frustrating. I don't understand this world at all.

respectmyidentity · 2020-06-30T22:35:28+00:00

I reported it.

respectmyidentity · 2020-06-30T22:29:47+00:00

Maybe they will keep calling women TERF's who ask those questions and keep turning everyone against them.

respectmyidentity · 2020-06-30T22:28:07+00:00

I had a female friend come out as a trans man and the second she did I was not allowed to interject when she was conversing with other dudes. One she transitioned I was literally excluded from bro talk. Like, what?

respectmyidentity · 2020-06-30T22:22:51+00:00

This is what I can't stand about the trans movement. It gives straight men even further license to act like they can diminish/ignore what women are saying.

respectmyidentity · 2020-06-30T21:41:19+00:00

Are they not banning the woman killing/raping stuff because that is where their ad clicks are coming from? I honestly don't expect Reddit to be moral, so I am assuming there is a capitalistic reason for this.

respectmyidentity · 2020-06-30T17:59:00+00:00

I just want to say that it is indicative of how serious income inequality has become in the US- that GC feminists are being banned from Reddit and that the rest of the world is jumping onto TRA ideology because we are so culturally influential. Only in very well to do, liberal, elite circles would some of the things said in trans groups on Reddit be acceptable. Rich men support TRA's because it allows them to continue to behave in ways that exploit women for sexual gratification. These men aren't healthy, they are deeply insecure and wounded and they are willing to harm untold numbers of women to feed their own ego. Look at Weinstein and Epstein - those two men alone raped hundreds of women. What can we do about this? I don't want anyone to be harmed (esp poor trans people), but I am not willing to weaken women's rights and protections in that process. We should be building trans specific services not asking women to share resources that are already scarce and inadequate for them.

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