Peak trans: tell your story here

vitunrotta · 2020-07-03T11:51:15+00:00

I have probably peaked a thousand times during these past few weeks (JK Rowling "cancellation" being the first massive eye-opener). My most recent peak happened just the other day, though. I had been reading the archived "peak moments" from Reddit and had been thinking about gender ideology a lot.

Anyway, time comes for me to take out my dog (a big, drooly, silly labrador <3) so I get ready. I put on my sportswear, a cap, and sunglasses - this outfit shows very little skin but is a bit tight, I admit (not that there's anything wrong with that, but of course one can see shapes through the clothes). Anyway, we go out and I keep thinking I was almost wearing a disguise. There was nothing specifically feminine about any of my clothes. I don't even have long hair. I'm not very "shapey" in that sense, I've always had a more masculine body type. Wearing this kind of outfit made me feel quite androgynous, to be honest. Ha, wishful thinking. Soon enough I encounter a group of three men. They start whistling at me, catcalling, saying whatever about my looks and my butt and boobs, you know, the usual.

I give them the finger and keep walking but I kept becoming more and more livid. I was thinking about all these stories I've read about these outrageous "transwomen" who don't even bother to shave their beard, but can somehow call themselves WOMEN. And other women accept them as full-on WOMEN as well, without batting an eye. So I thought, why the fuck could I not do the same in reverse? Why couldn't I walk up to those leering guys and tell them, look y'all, you have misgendered me, I'm actually a dude just like you! Don't let these little tiddies fool you, or the fact that I don't have a penis. I totally feel like a man. So, can you now stop your comments please, can we all just be bros now?

Of course even the thought of that sounded laughable and ridiculous. Had I said something like that they probably would have done much worse than just call me nasty names. In that moment I fully realized that it was NEVER possible for a woman to be a "transman" in the same fashion guys are pretending to be "transwomen" - no transition required, they're brandishing their ladydicks and all, but sure, they are WOMEN. gigantic eyeroll

But for me? The real woman, woman since birth - this kind of role-reversal is not and will not ever be possible. My womanhood is not some performance that I put on every day because it's so much fun. It's certainly not some vague "feeling" and it absolutely is NOT something I get to opt out of (as I feel like my mind and body are in 100% perfect harmony with each other). I don't get to FEEL like a guy and then get a free pass to their privilege. But when a man with dick and balls says they ~feel~ like a woman - yeah sure, you are a woman - moreover, you're THE woman, and natal women are CISwomen, some odd, lesser type of "woman."

I was raging by the time I got home from that walk. This small (yet unfortunately common) encounter made me peak hard. I have all the sympathy for the very few actual trans people who suffer from major dysphoria and feel like the only way they can carry on living is a massive surgery and lifelong hormone treatments. I cannot imagine how horrible it must be to truly feel like you are in the wrong body. BUT... but. I am seeing virtually ZERO of these transpeople out there nowadays. It's all about these goddamn dudes who think womanhood is some act, some sensation we all feel. That it's something pink and glittery. They put on lipstick and WHAM BAM THANK YOU MAM, they are supposed to be fucking women now. What the hell?!

I keep peaking a dozen times each day, it feels. But thank all the gods in heaven and hell that I found this group. Sincerely, I thought I was going mad - but not I feel like I HAVE been right all along, and the libfems and leftards are exactly as stupid as they sound, just as I suspected.

(Just FYI - I am an extremely "liberal leftie" but I honestly cannot take their horseshit about this gender-crap anymore.)

venecia · 2020-07-03T09:11:14+00:00

It was simple: being beyond reproach as an ''oppressed class'' accounts for like 90% of people resorting to some kind of trans-umbrella fuckery (more easily spotted if they're trenderqueer). For straight men especially, this is a way to deny their male privilege and gain theoretical access to the only kind of woman they did not have access to as a straight male (lesbians). Corrective rape was just nicely changed to forced teaming. The number of incels who ''cope'' by becoming transwomen ought to speak volumes.

TRA has seen such enormous, explosive growth that is only explained by the privilege of white straight males NOT being discarded so easily!

Anonimouse · 2020-07-03T08:19:29+00:00

I had a male online friend since the age of about 14. He was same age, and we mostly discussed life - nothing creepy (yet). 7 years later, he tells me he feels like a woman and is about to start hormones. I ask exactly what it is that feels womanly, as I sure as hell don't identify it with a feeling being PMS - it's a physical body. His explanation involved feeling pretty in summer dresses, wanting to be pampered and do girly things in spas and the like (though thankfully not JY type, just face and nails), and then the truly misogynistic things like feeling subervient, wanting to serve people, wanting to be forcibly feminised by bitchy women. Textbook fetish stuff.

I still talk to him. He ended up giving up on the transition for work reasons, and now acknowledges it's a fetish, which I guess is a win.

I'll probably edit in some less PEAK stories. I know way too many trans folx.

MezozoicGay · 2020-07-03T07:27:34+00:00

My "peak trans" happened twice. First time was nearly 5 years ago when my ex-boyfriend who was bottom (i am gay male) was pushed by queer theory propagandists in our country to become a transwoman. And instead he bacame a Trans-identified Male in all meanings. I know a lot of respectful and nice transwomen (up to 20 people), but this one became TiM. When he was sharing his (can't call him "she" like I am calling other my transwomen friends) thougths, all I felt was disgust. He was saying "Now I am a better woman, I have male brain and smarter than women, I don't have periods, I can't become pregnant, and I have good looking body, I am better than any woman can ever be". He was saying tha living as man is hard, and living as woman is easy way and piece of cake (really?). The single thought in my mind was "for 20 years my friends and myself were fighting for LGBT rights, we have scars on our bodies and souls, we were repressed, beaten, and all was for this? This can't be real". That was the first time I started thinking about this english-language-only "gender" idea being harmful. "More woman" really? There can't be "more woman" or "more man". You can wear any cloths, work at any job, have any tastes, how you live and what you like does not define your sex and your sexuality. Cooking food does not mean that you are a "woman", wearing pants does not mean that you are a "man". Eating bananas does not make you a monkey, you are still human, no matter what. And the worst thing is that this "TiM" ideology is on all channels, all sites, so new transwomen thinking this is correct thing to do, correct way of thinking, and instead of being themselves, they are trying to follow "gender" stereotype. So they are becoming abusers themselves, instead of living happy life and being themselves as they really wanted to.

Second time was when I finally opened my eyes. My very close friend, lesbian, with which we were fighting together in our youth (I was 18, she was 15, and her girlfriend was 16) 17 years ago was a victim of a "corrective rape", which was so horrible, that she is until now can not recognize anyone but her mom, and can not move her body. My soul was scared for life (that was when I started to helping lesbians and feminists more than my fellow gay men). And last year, there was this situation with Vancouver Rape Relief center. When Trans-Laws Abusers made a war against VRR. When whole world was celebraing fact, that "rape victims now will have no place to go, that less rapists now would be caught" - was standing aside and not believing in all the surrealism of the situation. LGBT community celebrating victory of patriarchy and helping rapists. Instead of fighting for their rights, they reduced someone elses rights. This was unbeliavable. Untill this day I can not believe this is true. But it is. LGBT community is supporting people who made my close friends life a living hell, supporting people who are against LGBT and just using it as shield. This is just some sadistic form of misogyny, it is not LGBT anymore. Anakin of Jedi's. LGBT community was supposed to fight misogyny, not join it. And now LGBT community and "allies" are censoring any ideas that are not "correct", just like it always was from patriarchy, but now it is from the inside. I just felt discouraged after seeing that, and that was the last drop.

AutogynePhil · 2020-07-02T23:34:35+00:00

My peak trans story is incredibly embarassing, but it almost killed me and I feel as though it needs to be told to help lift the veil of this absurd ideology. I am a man. I was born with a penis. I also got exposed to incredibly degenerate, kinky porn at a very young age on 4chan, including trap porn, which initially interested me only in terms of being attracted to traps, but I slowly began to realize that I was finding myself imagining being the girl more and more. This fetish escalated to me stealing my step mothers panties and bras and buying a wig from party city and, while underage, at the encouragement of users online, I started dressing up like a girl and posting lewd photographs of myself online. I got far more positive feedback pretending to be a girl than I ever did as a boy, and with all the mental issues that come with being 16-17, it became something of a refuge for me. I didn't like myself, but girl me was cute and got tons of attention, so obviously that must be the better version of me, right? Besides it was totally harmless, just cross dressing, right?
I spent years loving the idea of myself as a girl, I mean why wouldn't I? Particularly with growing support for trans people, and less love for bi people than ever, I could finally be part of a group where people would want to raise me up and support me rather than put me down for being male (ironically while dressing up in girls clothes, I was drinking a lot of Redpill koolaide at the same time. I believe these are absolutely linked to my aforementioned self hate)
My Peak Trans moment was realizing that the only parts of being a girl I liked were deeply rooted in horribly misogynistic beliefs. I loved womanhood because I am submissive, and I subconsciously and problematically perceived femininity to be a titillating way to express my inferiority. I wanted to be a woman because Reddit, 4chan, and The Red Pill were all telling me how being a girl is life on easy mode, and you can just be paid for being cute, and you get to wear frilly dresses and do whatever you want without fear of judgement. To my young, troubled self that siren song seemed like such a free escape from the loneliness and confusion I was struggling with at the time. So I had this perfect storm perception of woman hood A) being the easy route in life and B) I had been conditioning myself like one of pavlovs dogs, only getting off to tranny and "sissy" porn. I was miserable. I was convinced I was in the wrong body and started developing weight based dysmorphia, and even at one point tried to go on hormones (thank god I didn't.)
Ironically, since I live in a pretty liberal area, the girls I've dated have always been incredibly supportive of me as a "genderqueer" and some have even encouraged me to transition despite only ever having any interest in girls clothes when incredibly horny or depressed (or both) and would dress me up and things like that, then give me tons of positive affirmation, digging the idea deeper in my head. Between that and this societal shift towards pretending trans women are exactly the same as biological women, female superiority, trans superiority, and frankly very real cis-hate out there, I was effectively being groomed from a mild kink for liking womens underwear into fully transitioning into life as a woman.
I actually got so far as setting up the Gofundme. My GF at the time was a bi-radfem and also fetishized the idea of my transitioning. She was turned on by the idea of me giving up my manhood and therefor actively encouraged me, so I made plans. I was gonna take a year off from work and live with her, try to transition out of the public eye. I was gonna get on estrogen and top surgery then save up for bottom. Luckily I realized (due to far more than just the trans grooming) that she was manipulative and not healthy for me and I got out of the relationship before taking any further steps towards transitioning. I found GenderCritical 2 years ago and HATED it. I actually spent several months trolling it till I got banned and gave up, but I never unsubscribed and kept seeing the headlines pop up, slowly chinking away at my cognitive dissonance. I started to think about what exactly about being a woman was appealing to me, and realized that those ideas of submission and passivity go directly against my beliefs as someone who tries their hardest to be a good feminist despite many years of ignorance.
If you were to believe porn, most trans women are these gorgeous hairless 5'4 pixies who are barely distinguishable from women if not their cocks. In real life, as I collected more and more friends in the trans community, I realized that the majority looked a lot more like me, male looking, male acting for the most part, only into feminity when horny, fully convinced they were stuck in the wrong body because of porn and the internet warping their perception. It just felt so toxic when I realized we were all feeding each others delusions and then going out and demanding others respect it as well.
I am so glad that I've accepted my actual biological gender. I've stopped shaving my legs and chest, I'm no longer dressing up or watching trans porn, and it's only helped bolster my once shaky confidence. Now that I am owning who I actually am, I am able to build up from there, rather than running to some identity I perceive as being "easy mode."

I am so sorry both for any damage I might have done back in the day as well as how fucking long and ranty this post is. I just need to get it out there because I KNOW there are many many many like me who have simply fallen for a lie that the internet is selling them that they will be happier as women, and that any issues they have in their life stem not from unnadressed issues but being in the wrong body. Those ideas actively caused my mental health harm and almost sent me down a path that would have likely ended in suicide.
We need to save children from the scourge of trans grooming.

TL;DR: Peak Trans for me was realizing how sexist and delusional it was to want to live as a woman to be more "naturally submissive" and desirable.

veruscka8 · 2020-07-01T19:06:01+00:00

I used to have a coworker who was a trans woman and they would tease and neg me for not wearing full makeup and flowy dresses every day like they did, as well as dole out unsolicited advice about managing PMS. I never could figure out why it made me so uncomfortable and I never talked about it for fear of being transphobic. I started peaking when people attacked JK Rowling and then when Reddit’s banwave happened, that was it. I had actually never heard of GC before the banwave, but now I’m so grateful I’ve stumbled into it. I feel like the world makes more sense now!

EllaRoxy · 2020-07-01T17:08:38+00:00

I always lurked before but Reddit was the last straw for me. I peaked a long time ago when on several dating sites got called all kinds of nasty things because I am a lesbian and wanted to date another woman rather than a transwoman. The J.K. Rowling thing pushed me even further into being gender critical. I can't believe how many people on this sub think like me and I feel way less alone. I am peak left now too. I'm done with the name calling that happens when you don't agree with their view points. It's not all of them, but a whole hell of a lot of them. I just don't get how you can deny science. Identify how you like it doesn't make it true. I look forward to participating here.

Edit: After reading more I had no idea what the Cotton Ceiling was and all I can say is what the actual fuck? Word lesbian means attraction to the same sex, as in two women together. I don't even know what to say and as someone who is rarely speechless that did it.

Susiesmum · 2020-07-01T12:54:34+00:00

My first post on reddit was made on a Peak trans thread when we had less than 1,000 members.

I remember watching a documentary about transsexuals about 15 years ago where a transwoman described how thrilling it was to be groped by a taxi driver - it meant he "passed" as a real woman! No real woman would be thrilled by that, most would be scared and angry. It was then that I realised that they have no more idea about women's lives than any other man.

SameOldBS · 2020-07-01T09:10:38+00:00

I was a second wave feminist blithely celebrating the sudden resurgence of feminism amongst young women, having no idea that it was not any kind of feminism I'd recognise. I was also oblivious to the whole trans debate until I watched a documentary on Munroe Bergdorf where she goes to a feminist meeting to show what horrible bigots they are and realising the woman in the background was making more sense than Munroe. Then finding out trans women are competing in women's sport. But it was the proposals for self ID in the UK that first peaked me - the idea that any bloke could decide he was a woman and enter women's spaces just struck me as completely insane. Perhaps because I'd had a lifetime of men and their shitty behaviour so I know they absolutely would take advantage of that. Then I happened to watch an interview with Posie Parker, and while I wasn't on board with her hard line on pronouns, she introduced me to AGP, and then a whole lot of other things fell into place. I'd watched a British documentary on people who transition, and the way the middle aged tims treated their wives, their obvious selfishness and narcissism had really struck me, but now I had a name for it. From then on it was a fast downhill run into full terfdom, with JKR giving me a hefty shove along the way.

OptimisticOcelot · 2020-07-01T03:08:21+00:00

I already posted this as a reply to someone else, but I think it's worth posting because my absolute peak was the erasure of GC and other female-oriented subs.

"Finding GC was a wake up call for me. I had largely just gone along with it, blindly accepting everything I was told so as not to be mean or hurtful.

I became a feminist because I was tired of being shrunken. I was sick of being minimized, of crossing my legs and leaning against the opposite edge of my seat to make room for the "manspreading" individual next to me on the bus. I was done being talked over and being told how to be myself by men and women with internalized misogyny. I was strong!

But then I found GC, and it was a revelation. I realized how much room I had been making for men in my own female spaces! I was, once again, being told how to woman by people who had grown up with male privilege. I was still being shrunken, hushed, and talked over to make room in the conversation for people who, even if they had similar experiences, had chosen to live those experiences. Even still, I never commented or posted. I was grappling between my newfound rage and my indoctrinated beliefs (not to mention fearing the social backlash of saying that sex is biological and gender is bologna).

But seeing GC along with several other feminist subs get erased changed things. Watching trans people dance on the grave of GC while casually ignoring the fact that rape fetish subs were untouched sealed the deal.

I've peaked. I'm here. I won't be silent anymore."

warriorwombyn · 2020-07-01T01:25:50+00:00

I was a lurker on GC, never posted. I peaked around 2014 when I was neck-deep in SJW ideology during my tumblr days and even got swept along briefly. I eventually realized that they were actually upholding the binary they claimed to be dismantling (by insisting you feel more like a girl when you wear dresses and makeup, etc). I was shut down for that wrong-think immediately and that reaction alone made me begin to question every facet of gender identity and its involvement/implication on other social movements. I began studying feminist theory and strongly identified as a radical feminist for awhile but honestly over the years I have grown very, very wary of ALL ideology and consider myself simply a discerning and compassionate humanitarian. But my passion for honoring biological womanhood has only strengthened over the years as I grew in my spiritual practice as an eclectic/non-traditional witch. Re-peaked briefly when I realized that men were trying to call themselves witches despite how fucked up that is in historical context. That make my blood boil. Re-peaked yet again when I began my training as a birth doula and realized that the birth community is being overtaken by libfems trying to enforce dehumanizing and reductive language, ie: Birthing people (NOT women). Chest feeding (NOT breast feeding). This REALLY makes my blood boil and I can't voice my concerns for fear of being ostracized by the birth community and never finding clients. Re-peaked again with JK Rowling and banning GC was the last straw. I'm here to stay because I NEED this community or I will lose my damn mind in this illogical, chaotic world.

pennyheax · 2020-06-30T22:31:53+00:00

Like many here, I started off fully TWAW. I felt sympathetic to the plight of trans people and the stories of high school students being harassed in bathrooms. Making laws to forbid them from the bathrooms where they "passed" seemed needlessly intrusive and cruel. The explanation of protecting women seemed like a smokescreen for transphobia given the incredibly low rate of assault in bathrooms. It seemed like any other excuse that right wing bigots used to keep out Latinos, Muslims, or Black people. I feel absolutely awful for trans people in the prison system and have read many gutwrenching stories from them. Many of them describe lives where they must either act as sex slaves the entire time or go mad from solitary confinement.

The first crack in my ideology was when I saw transwomen competing and winning in women's sports years ago. This just seemed to fundamentally unfair and akin to steroid use that I couldn't believe it was actually allowed. Not everyone can compete in high level sports. All kinds of people for whatever reason aren't able to compete in high level sports, whether it's allergies or asthma or disability, and maybe it's best to lump trans people in with them and that's okay.

Every time I heard about a transwoman winning at sports, I would get a little flare up of unease, and then outrage when I heard about Fallon Fox fracturing a woman's skull in MMA. I don't understand how anyone can't look at that as male-on-female violence right there.

However, I wasn't passionate about this issue, so it fell off my radar for a while until I heard about the Vancouver Rape Relief Shelter being vandalized. I was so shocked at the vandalization that I wondered whether it was an actual trans person who did it or some alt-right asshole who was just trying to spread hate and further polarize these groups. That was the first time I ever heard the term "TERF," and when I googled it, I wasn't entirely clear why it was supposed to be offensive. I read the descriptions, but I didn't understand what it was about "TERF" beliefs that deserved so much vitriol.

Then, I read that the Vancouver Rape Relief Shelter was defunded due to a trans activist. I read trans people celebrating this, saying shit like "fuck all TERFs," and I realized just how toxic trans activism had become.

These thoughts were only amplified when JKR made her tweet about Maya Forstater, and I saw all the abuse she got for basically telling people to live how they wanted but don't deny biology. Like, WTF? How did trans activism get filled with extremists and science deniers? I read through all of their refutations too, the articles that they thought supported them containing the most specious arguments about clownfish and intersex people somehow supporting their cases. (Also, I saw a picture of Gregor Murray and W T F that is a full-ass man. I have some background in biology, and I've always been skeptical of "nonbinary" as a legit gender dysphoria category anyway.)

The latest tweets from JKR, the essay, and the "woke" response to them are what sealed the deal for me. When the fuck did it become okay for woke left to dismiss the concerns of women who are rape and domestic abuse survivors? What ever happened to being respectful of triggers for traumatized women? It used to only be butthurt men who frothed at the mouth at the suggestion of treating interactions with men as dealing with Schrodinger's Rapist, but now it's the left that's telling women to shut up and #NotAllMen. THIS IS NOT OKAY.

But, I was still open to the idea that maybe I was wrong. Maybe transwomen really weren't as big of a threat as cismen. So I did a deep dive into a bunch of the research.

I found out that one study found that transwomen retained a male pattern in regards to violent crime. https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0016885

I found out that 20% of the trans population in male prisons in CA are incarcerated for sex offenses. This is actually higher than the cismale rate of ~15%. http://ucicorrections.seweb.uci.edu/files/2013/06/A-Demographic-Assessment-of-Transgender-Inmates-in-Mens-Prisons.pdf

I found out the 40% of the trans population in UK prisons are there for sex offenses. (Though this "only includes people who have had a prison case conference. It won't include transgender people who haven't identified themselves to the prison service or who already have a gender recognition certificate." Although the actual percentage is probably lower, it's still an alarming number) https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-42221629

I found out that since the UK's new laws allowing trans people to be housed with their identified gender, the number of trans-identifying people skyrocketed 10x. If all of these are actual trans people and not just opportunistic cismales, then they are overrepresented in prison populations by a factor of 4. https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2019/07/09/one-50-prisoners-identify-transsexual-first-figures-show-amid/

From there, I've just been reading more and more outrageous things. Like crunching the numbers on the "epidemic" of trans people murdered reveals that overall they are statistically safer from homicide than the general population. This suggests that the high murder rate for transwomen of color has more to do with race, poverty, and sex work than anything else. And on that note, Black women are over twice as likely to be murdered compared to trans people--where is the outrage?

All that said, I still feel that most trans people are fine in the same way that I feel most men are fine. I don't hate men, I'm just wary of them and I won't stand for my legitimate concerns being dismissed. They're just trying to live their lives and they face a lot of discrimination and harassment. They deserve support and safe spaces, but those safe places shouldn't come at the expense of women's safety.

PurpleAmathea · 2020-06-30T20:56:32+00:00

Transing kids was what made me start questioning all of it. A parenting group I was in had one very very transactivist mom and her trans kindergartener bringing I Am Jazz for show and tell, and complaining about the trans phobic parents who had a problem with that.

I was like... "what the fuck? How is a kindergartener trans? What does a kindergartener know about gender?"

And that led me to detrans and gender critical and once the blinders were off I couldn't put em back on again...

1234abcdcba4321 · 2020-06-30T19:32:07+00:00

I was always considering seriously going trans, but it was reading this sub that finally got me to think that it's been enough. I realized how much I'd been glorifying being a woman despite how I'd consistently heard otherwise, but I've always thought that stuff like TiM being able to participate in female sports was going way too far. It's surprising how far propaganda goes, but I'm glad I didn't make a decision I would likely regret (I believe had I started it would be more difficult to stop than stopping beforehand, since there's a tendency to take the path of least resistance and getting all the supports for transwomen would be one of those). I'm a bit surprised by how quickly my opinion changed, but I had doubts the entire time and the reddit banning was what finally did it.

AbrasiveLace · 2020-06-30T19:12:06+00:00

I first began to Peak Trans 10-12+ years ago when I first read about Michfest. I'd never heard about it previously and was utterly baffled that there was controversy surrounding the fact that a women only gathering wasn't allowing people with penises - aka men - in. I could certainly understand why women might want to organize without men around, regardless of how said men "identify", and honestly could not fathom that anyone would have any sort of problem with it.

Then, 6-7+/- years ago I heard the word TERF for the first time. As with any acronym I'm not familiar with I did a search and found out what it allegedly meant. I looked up what TERF's believe and... again, could not fathom why anyone would have an issue with what they were saying. People with penises should not be centered in feminism, since they aren't female. How could anyone with any sense argue against that?

I heard about lady-dick. That magical, magical appendage which is somehow female despite no other female mammal possessing of one. I saw what they were doing to the lesbians... and once more, could not fathom that not only were actual lesbians being driven from their communities, but the people doing so were being cheered on in the name of "progress" and "equality". I could not understand how anyone could deny that a lesbian is someone only attracted to the same sex. When did it mean anything other than that?

I joined r/gendercritial several years ago, back.. maybe 5 years ago? when they had a mere 3000 or so subscribers. I didn't agree with what they said entirely, but probably 95% made perfect sense to me. Again, I could not fathom that people though men should be centered in feminism.

Since that time it's gotten worse. All of it. Women's sports. Women's prisons. Women's shelters. The word TERF being tossed around like the worst sort of slur... right up there with racist and nazi.... as if being a woman concerned about the rights of women was a dirty, shameful act of hatred. Lesbians banished from their own communities. Censorship and silencing and autocratic dogma and regressive ideologies leading the way towards pushing women's rights backwards. r/Gendercritical was the ONLY place on reddit, and most of the internet, where these issues could be discussed. Everywhere else you'd be burned at the figurative stake for voicing even the most sensible of concerns (see JK Rowling). And now that's gone, too.

Something needs to give. The TRA's are taking too much from women and girls... and given it to the (mostly white) TIMS as if the women are their oppressors. The censorship and authoritarianism that they've wielded like weapons has to break at some time, doesn't it? Because, once more, I can't fathom how anyone with any sense can see what is happening and think that this is any sort of progress.

GConly · 2020-06-30T18:43:09+00:00

Peaked a couple of years ago while arguing with /u/lividspring, a Reddit TIM. At the time I had the idea that all TIMs were the gender dysphoric HSTS who genuinely had issues, and I was only concerned about male offenders taking advantage of self ID to offend.

After being told some outright lies (like TIMs don't sex offend) and the usual bullcrap I hit Google to dig up some research.

So... Yeah.

Same offending rate as males, most don't have gender dysphoria and most are heterosexual. We are being lied too about who wants access to women's safe spaces.

Putting on a dress does not make men less likely to sex offend, who knew.

Underthestairs · 2020-06-30T18:34:17+00:00

I've peaked so many times by now I've lost track. The super sharp ones? Yaniv, Vancouver, the hatred on JK Rowling, period-havers/menstruators, the hatred people use when they chant TERF, the art exhibit, Caitlyn Jenner taking her daughter-in-law's name (that was peak #10,000 something). Bathrooms. I was raped in a bathroom, so yes, I am going to be triggered if I see someone like Gamestop dude in one. Sports. The pronoun game. People reposting Tumbler crap that was so one-sided. The Cotton Ceiling. Jazz Jennings' filmed brainwashing and abuse. the 'you're a terf in my POV' hashtag, showing MEN threatening violence. It's sit down and shut the fuck up. Then detransitioners. I feel so bad for the kids that were brainwashed by this cult, and now will be paying for that their entire lives.

I don't hate trans people. I have trans friends I care about. I support them as humans. But I also stand for women's rights. Those things shouldn't be in conflict, but here we are.

Also, I was pissed when I found out the ban. I've only posted a few times, but I never saw hatred on GC.

Chair · 2020-06-30T15:00:23+00:00

Cancellation of MichFest, and that TiM that won the women’s cycling race.

Finally · 2020-06-30T14:24:23+00:00

JK- anyone who read what she ACTUALLY wrote and finds it hateful is deluded.

TheOnyxGoddess · 2020-06-30T13:59:58+00:00

My peak was from way before the gender delusion became mainstream movement, because I wasn't a stupidly bias female who took the brain scans as conclusive evidence that there's "female" or "male" brain structure. Research as far as I know hasn't considered what causes the brain to develop structures that's stereotypically seen in humans and have not tracked the development of the brain structures stereotypically seen in female and male humans from day of birth to adulthood (and I came up with this thought without actually studying university level biology, watching YouTube nor discussing about this on reddit, in my early 20s) and I also knew since I was a late teen how bullcrap this whole "born in the wrong body" mentality (I never paid attention to this stupidity and lunacy until I began using Tumblr around that age).

I was raised in a family where I have to do a lot of self-reflection, value objectivity over subjectivity and being a lonely independent kid makes for a lot of personal conversations with myself (private thinking time which comes as a form of me talking to myself in my mind and feeling like I am actually talking to someone, which is a nice feeling to have and allowed me to accept my solitude throughout my life) and the ability to do basic research helps.

It would be nice to call it common sense, but considering how many people don't understand basic biology (and even neuroscientists seem to fail at maintaining non-bias in their research as you can tell by the language they used in their notes) people in general tend to heavily weigh feelings over facts, it doesn't seem so. Even I wasn't so sure at the start, hence why I spent so much time contemplating about my current knowledge and beliefs on how gender identity should apply to society and how it's already being applied to society (e.g. "female" is a term for the sex who reproduces in all animals, "girl" and "woman" are terms for female humans at different stages of their life).

Edit: Fixed some wording

venecia · 2020-06-30T13:35:27+00:00

I didn't hit peak trans until one of THOSE people was encountered in real life. You know, the rainbow haired barely-disguished men in dresses busting for the chance to use women's spaces. The ones that we all convinced ourselves and others were strawmen made up to discredit trans rights.

He latched on to me and decided we were instant friends. He had terrible body odor (fruitlessly covered up by cheap flowery perfume) and spent the entire lesson burping on me and loudly clearing his throat/gargling snot in that loud way that men do. The only indication in dress or otherwise that he identified as a woman was a female name, and rainbow hair. But the last straw was when I quitely stole away in the middle of the lesson to use the toilet without announcing anything, only to return to find him emerging from the ladies restroom to ask where I'd gone (thank god I used another up the stairs). Why would he do that? When classes ended for the day he asked where I lived, and kept bothering me for contact information on social media before I relented and took his phone number.

And then it just hit me like a truck that he was allowed to do all of this with no other requirement other than say he ''felt'' like a woman, and asking to be called a different name. And that he had a penis. And that he was so thoroughly socialized male that he didn't see how any of what he was doing should be uncomfortable or threatening to ''another'' woman.

Yes, I admit that I was selfish enough to see all of you as t-slurs right up until the kind of people you were warning me about actually exist and actually do this stuff.

Tumblingteddy · 2020-06-30T11:40:18+00:00

For me, moving in birth circles in social media, and seeing women erased from birth. "Birthing persons". Birth is the most female thing anyone could ever do. It is the central theme of womanhood, and all of our social burdens come from the fact that it is women who birth, (even where we chose not to). But all of a sudden, normal words for the female body were becoming taboo. And then everything after.

irritablewombat · 2020-06-30T08:24:32+00:00

I peaked a few months ago when I first saw lesbians being banned from lesbian spaces and sent rape and death threats for not wanting to interact with "girldicks".

Anna_Nym · 2020-06-30T07:58:06+00:00

This is my first post because peaking has been a slow process for me from being hella Woke, and I still consider myself a trans ally at heart. But the attempted take down of Jesse Singal's Atlantic article on detransitioners caused me to get so confused because the discourse around it seemed so unrelated to what was actually in the article. This in turn caused me to pay a lot more attention to what the discourse was. And it was so, so not the trans advocacy I knew from my college days, in which no one considered transvestism to be the same thing as transsexuality (because yes, I'm old enough for that to have been the desired language) and no transsexual denied the reality of biological sex.

And I want trans people to have bodily autonomy and employment and happiness, but there ARE conflicts in rights. Women should be able to advocate for our needs without being threatened with rape or other forms of violence. We should have a say in whether so-called gender inclusive language is ACTUALLY inclusive (because "menstruators" IS hella dehumanizing). And biological sex is real and matters, and there is no way to talk about sexism without preserving language about sex.

I think it's been a 2 or 3 year journey for me to get to the point where I could admit that what I thought was fringe stuff that no one really advocated for (like cotton ceiling) had actually become representative of the movement. This is leading to some peak Lefting as well (along with other things).

I'm glad to find you all. It's nice to be able to say explicitly that when push comes to shove, I believe trans women are trans women, trans men are trans men, and non-binary identities have no coherent meaning to them. Also, that the whole co-opting of intersex identities is gross and incompatible with the Woke left's own principles.

Stand · 2020-06-30T07:40:15+00:00

My peak trans: When the TRAs made such a fuss apparently that they got this subreddit banned from reddit. This is what prompted me to create an account here.

threefingersam · 2020-06-30T04:19:20+00:00

I peaked when I saw a woman on twitter refer to women as menstruators & uterus-havers. Big yikes. Worse still, she was praised for her "inclusivity."

Itsmeagain · 2020-06-30T04:18:07+00:00

I peaked with the treatment of vancouver rape relief by TRAs. I’m now a regular donor.

essentialismisBS · 2020-06-30T04:13:07+00:00

I peaked thanks to my AGP ex. I tried to tell him what it was really like to be a woman. He told me it was sad that I didn't like being a woman, and maybe I was trans, too, because when he thought of himself as a woman he felt only peace. My lived experience meant nothing to him, his feelings and fantasies were the only truth. I finally realized he was just practicing more of the same erasure I'd experienced since childhood.

Moirawr · 2020-06-30T03:34:31+00:00

Reposting my old peak

About 6-7 years ago or so I was very libfem, was barely aware of radfem. Gay people were granted the right to be married in the US and I wanted something new to feel self righteous about. Trans people were being talked about a lot more. It was new and different and magical and “breaking gender norms” lol. Of course I didn’t believe they were literally women, but if they were so unhappy and suicidal, I didn’t see the harm in a small number of mentally ill people living that way if it helped. The death of Leelah Alcorn got a lot of attention and pushed me to join pro trans subs to understand them better and adopt their rhetoric. I was looking through memes in gender cynical and not really understanding them. Then one caught my attention. It said something like “if you saw someone cute at a bar, you wouldn’t grab their genitals to check before flirting.” Well that makes no sense. So I commented something like “I’m straight so I don’t want to interact sexually with someone else’s vagina, trans or not. Am I missing something?” They dogpiled called me a “terf” and told me to go back to gender critical. Having never heard of it before, I checked it out. Being a libfem I was confused there too and got banned, but I stuck around and learned cuz I knew I was hearing the truth. They had a ready and willing ally and in my very first interaction with them they proved to be hysterical morons, whereas GC put me off initially but won me over with something they’ll never have, the truth.

Rationalmind · 2020-06-30T03:04:01+00:00

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dancing_with_durga · 2020-06-30T02:54:15+00:00

Reddit silencing women has DEFINITELY given me a major re-peak. I first peaked a year ago when I was researching trans issues because I wanted to be a better ally and learn about respecting pronouns. The more I learned the more I was like "Wait...hang on? What? Males in female sports? Girldick? Harassing and silencing women who speak up? Cotton ceiling? Calling us menstruators? WHAT?!" But for a long time I thought it was just a silly fringe issue. I don't want to be a political person, I want a quiet life with my family. The unbelievable vitriol poured out on JK Rowling, and now this act of woman hating censorship. They are making me want to fight.

avesatan · 2020-06-30T02:31:17+00:00

I have quite a few~ this was when I was still in high school. we had a typical shy nerdy kid with autism. a bad breakup later and he's suicide bating on snapchat, posting the im so lonely, I want her back ect, a few months later he suddenly came out as trans to a bunch of women in my grade, and changed his online avatars to be more ~feminine~, then suddenly he started sending snaps asking for pictures of girls breasts to see what they looked like because his dysphoria was killing him. when it was brought to the attention of the school he threatened suicide and baited the administration to not suspend him. he still hasn't 'transitioned' yet..

usernamezerozero · 2020-06-30T02:13:29+00:00

When my daughter was about three we were out walking, stopping on a fairly desolate train bridge to look at trains (her fascination at the time). A very imposing figure with feminine attire approaches, gets into my personal space and says “You know, if you abuse them at this age it’s okay... they won’t remember.” After the disgust passed, I felt sad that this person was so emotionally damaged. Looking back, I see it was calculated abuse against a natal woman. It was the “no one will believe you,” smirk on his face. Like many, I’ve been busy and somewhat isolated. I wasn’t aware of how horrible cancel culture had become. The JKR post and the violent response to it, getting personally banned by two parenting groups for benign comments, getting cancelled by a school librarian friend all pushed me over the edge. As a woman and mother of a daughter, it is incredibly important for me to fight this battle. Unlike some women with careers to protect, I am professionally aloof at the moment (a stay at home parent for various reasons). As you can see, I need to hone my writing ability to be more effective, but I’m ready for the challenge.

its1342 · 2020-06-30T00:59:51+00:00

Here’s the archive link for the previous peak trans threads, and so far it seems like the links work to get to past ones. (I’m not sure if it’s because I’m on mobile, but Peak Trans XI just redirects to todays date and a message saying GC is banned.) Peak Trans X

myjq · 2020-06-29T23:52:47+00:00

One of my best friends from university came out as a TIM. At the time I was deep in libfem territory and the woke friend, so I was very supportive, etc. Our chats, which were normal before, became all about cute anime boys, makeup (which I never wear), clothes, bra sizes, you know, the usual ~girly stuff~. He was only out to some people so I lied a lot about him to other friends who cared deeply about him, since he basically ghosted everybody. Made me beg so our common friend used the correct pronouns, but then used his male name and male pronouns online when convenient. That was the first wake up call to me. Then I discovered he used his older sister's clothes when she wasn't home and he was in my house countless times before. Of course this caused my brain to wire something new and I discovered Gender Critical at the time. Everybody was so supportive and helpful, and I didn't feel crazy or like I was the only person feeling what I was feeling about this hijack of women's struggles.

So then I started posting soft (lol) gender critical stuff on facebook and he decided it was because of him and asked me why I was posting "hate". So I was upfront with him and told him what I thought about the whole issue and that my mind had changed. The subjects went from "why are men allowed to identify as women and white people can't identify as black people" to women's rights. He wasn't at all empathetic with women's issues like menstrual huts. Made my blood boil so I just deleted him from my life.

FrancaLeosbini · 2020-06-29T23:36:43+00:00

I was a shy lurker on Reddit, I didn't have an account there. Your posts and ideas have been such a relief to me this year, I felt so alone when I thought I was the only lesbian peaking in the whole world. Today's ban made me peak so intensely that I put away my natural introverted behaviour to join this new place. I see, now more than ever, that numbers matter: I was an invisible supporter, and now I'd like to be at least a "+1" in this situation. Thank you so much, thanks to all the women here that made my mind clearer and calmer. P.S. my written English is rusty, I hope it's not full of mistakes, lol

Freddit98 · 2020-06-29T23:34:07+00:00

Malick Yoba being trans-attracted and being told it meant he's heterosexual. Seeing the attempts to redefine sexual orientations and deny biology. The first JKR drama then REALLY took me there.

Edit: Oh and the cotton ceiling, being attacked for being bi and having a preference for men and women but not transpeople.

nerio · 2020-06-29T23:22:49+00:00

The very first peak was when I got death threat and rape threats for saying I don't want girl dick or any dick. I was flat out disgusted. Ever since then I have been slowing waking up. Seeing realizing more and more. Another time I got told I was a man and should change my gender because I'm a masculine woman (think butch). I can't assume other's genders but they can tell me what I am? Hell, no. This is another peak. I will not change my opinion. I will not bow.

Cosmo · 2020-06-29T23:00:36+00:00

Trans widow here. Ex husband was addicted to porn. Confessed he was sexually attracted to young girls and lady dick. Shamed me for having genital preferences soon after coming out. Emotionally abused me for years.

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