Well, well, well...

Aquadog · 2020-07-30T19:26:12+00:00

We did slug wars-you turn a sleeping bag upside down over your head and run into each other.

Aquadog · 2020-07-30T19:24:31+00:00

"Girls think about themselves in their sexual fantasies, so they're the same as me."

Aquadog · 2020-07-30T03:10:48+00:00

lol wtf does being "one of the girls" even mean?

Aquadog · 2020-07-30T03:08:13+00:00

I forget the name of the documentary, but there was a town in Colorado where everyone got sick with some flu, and something like 70% of the women had symptoms of chronic fatigue syndrome after. They called in the CDC and they were like, "Well, they're women." So nothing was done and they were told to see psychologists.

Aquadog · 2020-07-30T03:00:45+00:00

She also wouldn't have gone far in field hockey due to her height/frame. I bet they went to the private schools so the kids would have a more "BBC" accent.

Aquadog · 2020-07-28T18:24:32+00:00

She was always adamant that it was speculative fiction and not science fiction though.

Aquadog · 2020-07-28T18:23:24+00:00

They're also well-spoken. If you look into the content of what they're saying it's just kind of fluff.

Aquadog · 2020-07-28T18:22:28+00:00

Because it doesn't affect her. She's a multimillionaire who has a squeaky-clean reputation. Transgender issues don't affect her-it's not like she has to use the same washrooms or fight for scholarships like regular women.

Aquadog · 2020-07-25T23:55:30+00:00

Risks are very young or older parents.

Aquadog · 2020-07-25T23:51:30+00:00

"I'm an emo kid, nonconforming as can be. You'd be non conforming too if you looked just like me."

Aquadog · 2020-07-25T23:48:52+00:00

Sometimes she would wait until Kimberly was on the toilet to taunt her from just out of striking range: “You know I’m a girl.” Other times, she began praying within her mother’s earshot that God would “let Joseph” (Kai’s former name) “go home and be with Jesus.”

That poor little boy.

Aquadog · 2020-07-24T21:47:08+00:00

I always wanted to get married and I've been married for almost a year now. I'm a pretty cautious, nervous person. I think beyond all of the great qualities my husband has I probably partially married him to feel "safe." Even though I grew up with a great family my parents were very into traditional gender roles-I can't really imagine what my mom would be like on her own.

Statistically, men gain a LOT more than woman from marriage: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/insight-therapy/201510/is-marriage-worth-it-women

I like my husband. I like that there are certain legal and financial benefits to being married. But it is 100% more beneficial for him to be married to me than I to him.

Aquadog · 2020-07-24T21:39:47+00:00

I think it's always deeply ingrained that women need to have a really strong "safety net." It won't matter how much money we save or invest, or how fit we are, or how great our social circle is; we're used to feeling unsafe. So many women think they need to be in a relationship to feel physically secure, even if a partner doesn't care all that much.

Aquadog · 2020-07-24T21:37:08+00:00

Lucky! My husband views food as fuel and couldn't care less if something tastes good, so I always end up cooking for us. He does clean the kitchen up after me but it can be very mentally taxing to plan meals, shop, etc. and even though I love cooking I always worry about how our future will look with kids.

Aquadog · 2020-07-24T21:31:26+00:00

Middle-class women always had some form of domestic help for most of history because it was recognized that it was probably better to have two people get through chores if you wanted time to raise kids (or make clothes, or tend to animals, or have ten minutes to read, etc.). In the last century or so women are now considered "lazy" if they do have someone come in, despite them having new responsibilities that take up their time.

Aquadog · 2020-07-24T21:00:12+00:00

I would be interested to see if any of these studies were factoring in changes based on other factors like personality disorders, early life trauma, etc.

Aquadog · 2020-07-24T20:56:22+00:00

I'm not totally trashing them, but they are unreliable as markers for a lot of things-mental illness included. For example, people with schizophrenia may have some structures that are under developed, while other people might have brains that look totally healthy and normal. They can show bursts of activity when not much might be happening at all: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27357684/

There's also been evidence that the software used as benchmark to analyze these fMRIs may show false positive rates up to 70%. While fMRIs are a good tool, they are not gold standard for predicting behaviours.

Aquadog · 2020-07-24T06:16:51+00:00

The one "gender" study on brains that I know of for TiMs used a sample size of 26 people and only looked at MRI imaging. MRI imaging is very unreliable when predicting behaviours, yet people are acting like it's the holy grail of "gendered brain" testing.

Aquadog · 2020-07-24T06:12:24+00:00

nOt aLL womEn mEnstrUATE

Aquadog · 2020-07-23T04:23:41+00:00

He wore Kim's lingerie, but Khloe had also seen the underwear, as did Kendall & Kylie. Gee, I wonder why you're wearing your most sexualized stepdaughter's clothes...must just be because it fits!

Aquadog · 2020-07-23T04:21:47+00:00

I have never come across anyone in a relationship with a TiM that has been healthy. They're almost always emotionally abusive, manipulative, constantly gaslighting, etc. I was sexually abused in a relationship with someone-he came out as a TiM shortly after we broke up.

Aquadog · 2020-07-22T04:11:06+00:00

You absolutely need to keep your safety & mental health priorities. And I don't think its cowardly at all-people speaking up HAS caused some people to lose their jobs/reputations. While your testimony is super valuable, it's not on you to come forward if the risks outweigh the benefits.

Aquadog · 2020-07-21T22:51:37+00:00

Your story breaks my heart and also fills me with rage. How dare they take advantage of your trauma and not even assist with treatment for years. I'm very glad that you were able to get things delayed...but holy hell, what would have happened if you'd gone to just ONE more?

Would you be comfortable making a post on your experiences? These are the kinds of accounts that NEED more discussion.

Aquadog · 2020-07-21T22:47:34+00:00

Yup. I got diagnosed with BPD. Nobody thought it fit 100% and I questioned if I "lived up" to the symptoms. I didn't get diagnosed with autism until 27. I feel like a lot of grief could have been saved if I had just been diagnosed as a kid.

Aquadog · 2020-07-21T22:39:51+00:00

For the younger generation it 100% has to do with Tumblr. People come up with vague, horoscope-like views of mental illness and a vulnerable teenager reads it, thinks they must be borderline or autistic, and then glamorize it into something cute and "quirky." It's the same thing with being trans. They get a sense of belonging in this unique, special club, and as adults they can either keep playing into that delusion OR get treatment/move on from it.

Aquadog · 2020-07-21T16:23:52+00:00

Flip side is they're diagnosing kids who have bipolar with ADHD. Stimulants can cause their first manic episode :(

Aquadog · 2020-07-21T06:27:21+00:00

My mom is of the bipolar/refusing treatment/sometimes wanting the sweet oppression point and she does try to pull the bipolar sometimes if she's being mean or unfair (outside of a manic episode). And my family looks at that and we're like, this is her being crummy AND it's partially the mental illness (and let's not forget her own grief from being mentally ill in the first place). But for TRAs it's apparently neither because they can't be horrible, rude people and/or mentally ill.

Aquadog · 2020-07-21T06:20:00+00:00

Your prof was disgusting, especially considering she's a WS professor! It's not even on her to say what accommodations are reasonable; she's not an expert. You are absolutely right that there's this undercurrent of ableism that is underlying libfem/trans movement.

It seemed like ableism was kind of giggled about in 2010, taken seriously by around 2015, and then poof! It's not even a term you really hear anymore, let alone discuss. I have a disability and I can't even really organize with people who have the same issue as me without the help of others, but I honestly can't imagine how exhausting and difficult that would be for people who have mental illnesses.

You know how people jokingly say, "I organized my kitchen last night. I'm so OCD!" and it's pretty icky?

Can you imagine if someone said, "I wore lipstick yesterday. I'm such a girl!"

Oh wait...

Aquadog · 2020-07-21T02:43:59+00:00

Oh, I wasn't trying to claim anything other than the surface brush. It's the damaging rhetoric that having a mental illness is some sort of failing-and then saying that their own treatment is for...what exactly? It's ridiculous.

Aquadog · 2020-07-20T21:01:53+00:00

There's nothing more narcissistic than reality TV.

Aquadog · 2020-07-20T20:59:17+00:00

I like that he went with Caityln, which has the on-brand "K" sound but is special enough that it doesn't start with the same letter.

Aquadog · 2020-07-20T17:12:31+00:00

A lot of people are pulling the height card. "I've read a lot of studies on how men are stronger due to a height advantage, but I'd be curious to see what it would be with people of the same height."

Yes, height is the ONLY possible advantage.

Aquadog · 2020-07-20T17:07:29+00:00

There's no way in hell she would openly say anything because it would destroy her career and reflect poorly on her family. Kris Jenner barely said anything even though she was clearly crushed by the transition.

However, in the clips I did watch you could see Kim struggling to "sound right" and Khloe became very confrontational over the lies Bruce told. The two younger ones went pale and totally silent and I don't think they've ever really talked about it publicly. So I think at the very least 4/6 woman of the Kardashian-Jenners have peaked, but they'll never publicly say that.

I also read something about Bruce tearing into that interview Khloe had with Howard Stern where she said he lied to everyone in the family.

Aquadog · 2020-07-20T16:56:15+00:00

PoP-People of Penis.

Aquadog · 2020-07-20T16:48:41+00:00

Very eye-opening; thanks for your comment!

Aquadog · 2020-07-20T16:43:29+00:00

"Yes but did Malala look pretty?"

Aquadog · 2020-07-20T07:08:00+00:00

It bothers me that this sub validates African-American people to be afraid even when it's, yes, irrational.

I remember in the days of reddit, there was a black woman in need of safety. She wanted a peace officer to talk to her, but there wouldn't be a peace officer available for months. However, she was adamant she didn't want a racist armed police officer coming into her house where she would be alone. The comments were all encouraging and validating her, telling her she wasn't being unreasonable to refuse an armed police officer.

I mean? Did anyone think it likely that the racist policeman providing security was going to find a reason to arrest her? This poor woman was actively jeopardising her safety because she was so afraid of police brutality, and no one challenged her.

When there are threads about a woman who is on edge around armed police officers, when running, driving, at work, waiting for the train, etc. the comments are a fap fest about how dangerous armed police officers are. Yes, racist police officers are more violent. Yes, police brutality almost always happens from untrained armed police officers. We need to protect African-American safety. But that doesn't mean black people are in constant and imminent danger of being brutalised or racially profiled every moment of their lives.

Encouraging black people to be afraid all the time only hurts African-Americans. Black people are reminded every time they "look suspicious" they could be falsely convicted of a crime, beaten, or murdered. Keeping African-American people afraid limits our freedom, opportunity and quality of life. It makes us more likely to believe we need racist police officers in our life for "protection", putting us in danger of black-on-black crime, which is the real threat to the African-American community

Our society wants us to be afraid. We are trained from a young age to be conscious of how vulnerable we are to racial prejudice. White people are more likely to be violently attacked or murdered by law enforcement on the street due to their higher proportional population, but they don't have it constantly rubbed in their face all the time. They are allowed to go about their lives comfortable and happy. Why is that?

As non-racists we should be rejecting the cultural conditioning to be afraid, just like we reject the conditioning to be disgusted of our natural skin tone, place our main value on our looks etc. Not leaning into and reinforcing it constantly.

Just needed to get that off my chest.

Aquadog · 2020-07-20T06:34:57+00:00

Totally forgot that he killed someone too.

Aquadog · 2020-07-20T03:18:04+00:00

You have to wonder why this person was sheltered in the first place. Was it perhaps because her parents...gasp...didn't want their daughter sexualized by old men?

Aquadog · 2020-07-20T02:33:24+00:00

Sometimes I think the transgender community is more misogynistic than heavily Christian communities. At least Christians don't call female reproductive organs "inner organs" or women and girls have the right to female-only spaces.

Aquadog · 2020-07-20T02:22:24+00:00

Lmao at the top comments being "You're wrong/I'd rather share spaces with a TERF."

And yeah. While I can't claim to speak for every single woman, I know that because of xyz reasons it is more difficult being a woman in society-all pretty much coming down to socialization and anatomy. "I was sheltered so I wasn't sexualized!" isn't an argument that you weren't sexualized.

Aquadog · 2020-07-19T01:46:58+00:00

Just make it better?

Aquadog · 2020-07-19T01:44:24+00:00

Plus if you look at the original SARS patients lots of them ended up with CFS, headaches, dysatonomia etc. YEARS later.

Aquadog · 2020-07-19T01:41:55+00:00

I've seen it in 3 spheres:

Granola people.
Conspiracy-theorist "Vaccines make you gay"/big pharma etc.
Whataboutism people who were probably vaccinated but want to play "devil's advocate."

Aquadog · 2020-07-17T05:20:07+00:00

The last season was pretty garbage anyways.

Aquadog · 2020-07-16T22:04:40+00:00

"They do it for money therefore they like it!"

yes, I'm sure you love working as a cashier at Burger King.

Aquadog · 2020-07-16T22:02:55+00:00

"PoRn iS EmPOwERinG!"

Aquadog · 2020-07-16T22:00:20+00:00

Some also prefer the term MAPs...minor attracted persons.

Aquadog · 2020-07-16T21:58:31+00:00

I took a pic of my 65 y.o. bald dad and made him female. He ended up with long flowing hair, wrinkle-free skin, and long eyelashes. If someone is using it as an example of what they look like now I'm calling bull.

Aquadog · 2020-07-16T21:43:57+00:00

Are you controlling for poverty? African-Americans are much more likely to be experiencing poverty than any other racial group.

I'm also going to add that black women are the most educated group in the US, yet still have a large income disparity compared to white women.

Aquadog · 2020-07-16T21:36:32+00:00

So wait, during that time she hasn't adopted or had a baby? She's so unbelievably selfish. Plus, what would that child be to you? Your son/daughter/niece/nephew?

Aquadog · 2020-07-16T21:34:11+00:00

It was actually because of this sub that I decided against surrogacy.

I have a medical condition that would make pregnancy very, very hard for me, but not dangerous to the baby. I had a ton of outside pressure to use a surrogate-my doctor, family, and friends all pushed for me to do it. Then I began reading into it more-the massive health risks for the mother, the horrible predatory surrogacy agencies, and the effect on her family. I told my husband that we're not doing that, so we're exploring either adoption or trying naturally.

Aquadog · 2020-07-16T21:12:51+00:00

I was so disappointed when Good Girls decided to go through the trans storyline.

Aquadog · 2020-07-16T21:12:21+00:00

Ugh then there was a whole storyline about Sabrina maybe making the character an ACTUAL boy...it was so awful.

Aquadog · 2020-07-16T21:11:14+00:00

Tuca and Bertie is made from the women behind Bojack Horseman. Once you get over the idea of sentient plants and talking birds, it's a really good story about two 30+ women's friendship. It was cancelled, but Adult Swim just picked it up for season 2!

Aquadog · 2020-07-16T18:04:37+00:00

I couldn't stop laughing. https://www.reddit.com/r/GenderCynical/comments/bseb20/i_hate_gender_critical_subreddit/

Aquadog · 2020-07-16T03:00:17+00:00

Rape is just sexual expression :')

Aquadog · 2020-07-16T02:56:10+00:00

It's easy to say that woman are the problem and not big corporations paying people a wage that's been out of whack with inflation since the '80s.

Aquadog · 2020-07-15T22:34:53+00:00

Isn't all of reddit controlled by like 20 people?

I saw their criticism of the GC sub:

"Misgenderism, bigotry, transphobia, transmisoginia, even some transmisandrism"

They're just making up words lol.

Aquadog · 2020-07-15T21:09:50+00:00

I can't stop laughing.

Aquadog · 2020-07-15T21:07:05+00:00

Total side note, but why tf do they all have this OBSESSION with beards? I'm not going to say its wrong to put effort into your personal grooming but there is literally a friggin beard store in my city that sells axes and whisky glasses.

Aquadog · 2020-07-15T21:03:08+00:00

I think gender-neutral pronoun users use "they/them" to form one giant super-annoying special entity. Also, I'm really missing the days of "xe/xir."

Aquadog · 2020-07-15T20:59:48+00:00

Talking about the patriarchy hurts their feelings. MeN cAn'T cRy!

Aquadog · 2020-07-15T20:58:10+00:00

Same with "far-right."

Aquadog · 2020-07-15T19:40:34+00:00

Half of the posts were reasonable GC arguments and people were tearing them apart for being "bigoted" or "willfully ignorant."

Aquadog · 2020-07-15T18:29:20+00:00

I never knew about dowries in Northern Europe, that's really interesting!

I would assume that dowries would offer an extra layer of protection to the woman? I have heard that in some smaller African cultures that the village kind of collectively pays for the bride-to-be's dowry. If the husband mistreats his wife (cheating, abuse) they take the dowry and sometimes his wife back, leading to a greater incentive to treat her well. I don't know how well this actually works in practice but it's always interesting to learn about marital practices in different cultures.

Aquadog · 2020-07-15T05:47:38+00:00

Well it was also meant to obtain property or for strengthening social/business ties, including among the lower classes. Both parents would be involved in the decision: the father on who is most advantageous, and, depending on the mother, whether or not she thought the couple-to-be would get along and learn to love each other OR whether she should just shut up and accept it. Very rarely a mother would push to not have her daughter married to a monster, but we see all three of these dynamics still existing in this day and age in various cultures.

Aquadog · 2020-07-15T05:37:18+00:00

It's more the idea of, "we made a medical breakthrough for these very specific issues with very specific people that can have impacts on wider parts of medicine" vs. "I can now be a real woman, just let me have your womb."

Aquadog · 2020-07-15T05:35:38+00:00

Any insights?

Aquadog · 2020-07-15T05:34:51+00:00

Having known someone who did the process, "vetting" them is a copy of their medical forms and a questionnaire. That's it.

I've heard so many accounts of women who now are wondering if they're going to be at an increased risk for ovarian/breast/cervical cancer, fertility issues, and a sense of loss-did her eggs go to a good family? Is it ethical that there is more of "her" in the world?

The whole thing is terrifying.

Aquadog · 2020-07-15T05:31:22+00:00

They would whine about not being able to get an appointment with a GYN in the first place.

Aquadog · 2020-07-15T05:28:59+00:00

My guess is an unsupportive partner who wanted his genes in the babies. Confirmation bias, but while I see woman grieve much more over issues with fertility and are more excited to go through the process of motherhood, they also have an easier time getting to know adoptive child vs. a man.

Aquadog · 2020-07-13T20:56:25+00:00

Yes but they get to wear dresses and makeup so its okay.

Aquadog · 2020-07-13T20:54:30+00:00

I couldn't click the link. This is someone that needed serious, serious help and instead got applauded for wearing dresses and makeup.

Aquadog · 2020-07-13T20:52:40+00:00

Does anyone know if he's supposed to go to a woman's prison?

Aquadog · 2020-07-13T20:48:32+00:00

It puts the lotion on its skin.

Aquadog · 2020-07-13T20:47:56+00:00

The transplanting procedure itself is dangerous. I mean, I understand some siblings being okay with experiments but what about organ rejection?

Aquadog · 2020-07-13T20:46:19+00:00

That's what creeps me out the most. Like they're entitled to have them! All of these cases pretty much were one sister who didn't want to have children giving her uterus to her sister who couldn't have children. They're MAJOR surgeries and I think only 9 or something have been successful in producing a child. Still, it was enough for TiMs to think it was for THEM.

Aquadog · 2020-07-13T17:35:17+00:00

I left reddit in this last purge. It's a horribly misogynistic hellhole.

Aquadog · 2020-07-13T16:56:53+00:00

Does anyone else think it is absolute insanity for a parent to be so homophobic that they would rather give their children harmful puberty blockers or hormones just so they can be in "straight" relationships? Your child isn't even likely to "pass" for the opposite sex, so you're forcing them to put a half-hearted costume that will cause years of emotional and physical damage.

Aquadog · 2020-07-11T00:22:27+00:00

I've used the website for a decade and I'm done. I am so sick and tired of seeing a normal subreddit banned when actual hate subs are kept up.

Aquadog · 2020-07-10T23:47:30+00:00

Pippi Longstocking.

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