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[–]Girlwiththeraventat 24 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 0 fun25 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Yes this is my life and its depressing as hell. I work a full time job, have a elementary age child and I'm going to college part time. But I'm still expected to clean the house, make the food, and take full care of the child. Meanwhile my husband thinks because he works a job that pays more, that's his only responsibility.

We have had argument after argument that I need more help around the house. Which pisses me off that it should even be considered "help". Its his house too. His excuse is men can't see the mess and it's not mens fault that women wanted to leave the house and get jobs.

So I either keep arguing about the same shit we've been arguing about for 10 years, accept that I am responsible for everything and everyone, or divorce him. If we do ever get divorced, I won't date or remarry. Theres just nothing in it for women.

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    [–]our_team_is_winning 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

    She's staying with him because, in her words, 'they are all like this and at least he's not abusive'.

    The bigger question here then is why a woman should have one? If all boyfriends are awful and the best you can hope for is not to be abused, why pair off with one? Is it just expected of us? The desire for sex? Help with the bills (which all too often becomes the woman paying his way)?

    [–]Aquadog 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    I think it's always deeply ingrained that women need to have a really strong "safety net." It won't matter how much money we save or invest, or how fit we are, or how great our social circle is; we're used to feeling unsafe. So many women think they need to be in a relationship to feel physically secure, even if a partner doesn't care all that much.