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[–]our_team_is_winning 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

She's staying with him because, in her words, 'they are all like this and at least he's not abusive'.

The bigger question here then is why a woman should have one? If all boyfriends are awful and the best you can hope for is not to be abused, why pair off with one? Is it just expected of us? The desire for sex? Help with the bills (which all too often becomes the woman paying his way)?

[–]yishengqingwa666 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Separatism from men is the closest to freedom women can ever hope for. I will never put up with another male parasite in my life.

[–]Aquadog 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think it's always deeply ingrained that women need to have a really strong "safety net." It won't matter how much money we save or invest, or how fit we are, or how great our social circle is; we're used to feeling unsafe. So many women think they need to be in a relationship to feel physically secure, even if a partner doesn't care all that much.