🍿🍿The peakening hits r/PCOS🍿🍿

venecia · 2020-07-17T10:40:12+00:00

In my fantasies, I come out with my hundred-thousand karma account, throw off my disguise and proclaim ''BEHOLD. I who has earned your acclaim and friendship for so many years is an evil TERF!''. But realistically they get fucking scary in piecing together information even if you think you've scrubbed your account or fudged some details about your life to throw them off the scent. Plus it wouldn't go as cool as it does in my head lol

venecia · 2020-07-17T13:24:06+00:00

if they'd become a bit more open considering I"ve been friends with them for fucking ever.

lol oh no, this doesn't happen anymore.

venecia · 2020-07-13T11:00:56+00:00

Take heart. I have a feeling that by the time you're off to uni, the backlash should be fully in swing and you will find likeminded friends.

If you have to smile and nod if it means keeping some resemblance of a normal life, that's okay. There will be plenty of opportunities to come to find better people.

venecia · 2020-07-12T11:18:37+00:00

Wokebros are going to be the death of us all. I'll change my mind about them all being full of shit when they, as straight white males, date transwomen.

venecia · 2020-07-05T18:17:36+00:00

''None of that may trouble you or disturb your belief in your own righteousness. But if so, I can’t pretend I care much about your bad opinion of me. 11/11''

Mic drop. She is a fucking legend.

Here's the thread to watch her firing off:

https://twitter.com/jk_rowling/status/1279759870133182465

venecia · 2020-07-12T13:40:04+00:00

I've noticed it too. ''Educate yourself'', ''google it'', ''TWAW full stop, no qualifiers, period''. I get that kind of response with sealioning neckbeards because you're genuinely sick of being asked to explain everything to people who won't listen, but EVERYONE gets shut down with the same playbook.

venecia · 2020-07-12T13:37:21+00:00

They can’t even fathom that a woman can learn things outside their rhetoric and come to a rational conclusion different than their cult spew.

This is the one thing I cannot stand about liberal feminism, and why I've shed any ties with the term feminism altogether.

Every space you find wants to put you in a box. Educate yourself, they say from the ivory towers of university sociology classes and all the spare time in the world to invent things to be upset by. It's just unthinkable that actual oppressed women don't see the problems they do, and they need to be educated. The poor little dears. If only they enlightened themselves enough to sympathize with the plight of manspreading.

venecia · 2020-07-12T13:31:38+00:00

If TWAW, how come their go-to when their feelings are hurt is to be violent, threaten you with their dick, and threaten to kill themselves?

We've been taught to anticipate, prepare for, and mitigate wherever possible men's feelings. And this is everything they do when they are hurt.

venecia · 2020-07-14T14:41:27+00:00

Oh yeah, and we've also been told that even wanting it is bitchy and demanding. Never you mind that tradition sees men proposing, and they're the ones CHOOSING these ''bitchy'' ''demanding'' women and CHOOSING this life-ending-sacrifice instead of the sticking with the cool girl who is down with whatever.

It's outright horrifying how women aren't even supposed to want marriage anymore for the sake of ''equality''. Play mommy, take care of his kids, but don't you dare ask for commitment.

ETA: And the ''cheapest/least fussy wedding'' contest on reddit is always my favorite! Where women are celebrated for asking the least in return and pretending like the thing they've been told to want their whole lives is something they couldn't care less about

venecia · 2020-07-07T14:43:21+00:00

And here's the link back up showing, definitively, that regular users were sick of this shit. It wasn't ''trolled by TERFs''

https://snew.notabug.io/r/PCOS/comments/hl5dbz/why_is_is_always_the_femaleoriented_subs/

venecia · 2020-07-05T19:26:23+00:00

That username... holy shit, there's more than one of me in this country!

Back on subject, here it is:

I've ignored fake tweets attributed to me and RTed widely. I've ignored porn tweeted at children on a thread about their art. I've ignored death and rape threats. I'm not going to ignore this. 1/11

When you lie about what I believe about mental health medication and when you misrepresent the views of a trans woman for whom I feel nothing but admiration and solidarity, you cross a line. 2/11

I’ve written and spoken about my own mental health challenges, which include OCD, depression and anxiety. I did so recently in my essay ‘TERF Wars’. I’ve taken anti-depressants in the past and they helped me. 3/11

Many health professionals are concerned that young people struggling with their mental health are being shunted towards hormones and surgery when this may not be in their best interests. 4/11

Many, myself included, believe we are watching a new kind of conversion therapy for young gay people, who are being set on a lifelong path of medicalisation that may result in the loss of their fertility and/or full sexual function. 5/11

These concerns were explored by the recent BBC documentary about the Tavistock Clinic. Whistleblowers were talking about transitions driven by homophobia. https://bit.ly/31KLdRf 6/11

As I’ve said many times, transition may be the answer for some. For others, it won’t – witness the accounts of detransitioners. “The system sees surgery as the easy fix to girls who do not conform.” https://bit.ly/31LWP6L4/11 7/11

Sophie is a trans woman and a true feminist ally. She was making the point that anti-depressants were over-prescribed to teenagers in the past, with serious consequences. https://bit.ly/2VNqyIK 8/11

The long-term health risks of cross-sex hormones have been now been tracked over a lengthy period. These side-effects are often minimised or denied by trans activists. https://bit.ly/38F0GnD 9/11

Carl Henegan, professor of evidence-based medicine at Oxford University, has described the off-label use of puberty blockers on under-18s as an ‘unregulated live experiment on children’. https://bit.ly/3dVU6Kg 10/11

None of that may trouble you or disturb your belief in your own righteousness. But if so, I can’t pretend I care much about your bad opinion of me. 11/11

venecia · 2020-09-01T13:05:46+00:00

I'm not even exaggerating when I say I had a full body shudder when I saw that picture of him. Literally the creepiest person I have ever seen in my life. If that was in the ladies toilet or came near my daughter I'd scream.

venecia · 2020-07-19T09:09:05+00:00

She is likely one of the rare types that pass 100% and earned her pronouns. That used to be how it worked. You got called ''ma'am'' and ''she'' when that is what people saw when they looked at you. OR, that you people started to call you when you revealed yourself to be a solid, good friend, and they adapted to make you feel better. Before the mass gaslighting began and we owed this emotional labor to strangers.

venecia · 2020-07-17T18:09:20+00:00

No honey, this dude is a Stage 5 Creep. Run away!

Also, you don't owe friendship to the lonely guy everyone got away from for a reason. And you DEFINITELY don't win a boyfriend who will feel lucky to have you that way (I've made that mistake).

venecia · 2020-07-08T14:36:06+00:00

Like that lady who pretended to be black and was rejected by the black community. I hundred per cent agreed with the black community on that matter but then somehow I felt that the same argument for trans people would made me a transphobe so I had to hide it deep down in my brain.

Why is this somehow not an acceptable counter-argument? Literally how is it not okay for a white lady (oppressor) to ''identify'' as Black and change her body to reflect that, but it's stunning and brave for a man (oppressor) to identify as a woman and discard all of his privilege the instant he says ''I'm a woman''?

Has anyone tried bringing this up? What do they typically say? Getting mainstream feminists to realize that transwomen still have enormous male privilege - yes, even if they never wanted it, directly benefitted in their own view, or ''asked for it''. White people don't get to opt out on those grounds, do they? - is the only way to stop this madness.

venecia · 2020-07-21T17:10:48+00:00

Same. Removal of downvoting also removed the possibility of downvote/upvoting brigade from the TRAs. They would swamp reddit and downvote sane, thoughtful comments and upvote hateful, inflammatory comments. It served their purposes nicely. One side of that equation is balanced now as long as we upvote thoughtful content.

venecia · 2020-07-06T07:35:23+00:00

It shuts people up. The less dissent you allow, the less other people will see. They were born male and are used to using their privilege to become the ultimate authorities. There are also aggregators like Russia involved.
The male-led pharmaceutical companies and for-profit healthcare in the USA is also incentivized to keep people from thinking too hard about whether they need to transition.
When your identity is literally based off other people's words and positive validation from the community you ''belong'' to, they literally DO feel like taking that away from them is hateful. That's how entitlement and a need for validation works. If they were so confident in their womanhood, nothing anyone says could take that from them and they could handle dissent.

oh and

They can always pull the ''It'll be your fault if I kill myself'' - quoth every single abusive man when you try to leave, ever

venecia · 2020-07-04T15:01:34+00:00

I was around to watch the birth of all this bullshit when Tumblr got popular.

the accepted dogma seemed to be that trans people suffer from gender dysphoria, which is best treated by transitioning and using their favoured pronouns was a way of helping them not experience even more dysphoria.

Basically it just kept going from there. Misgendering became a literal hate crime instead of a mistake someone made. Being excluded from anything women have for themselves made them feel more dysphoria - hate crime. Talking about periods makes them feel excluded - hate crime. Lesbians saying they don't like dick - hate crime.

It really is that simple. They took their former privilege as white males, found an avenue of guaranteed victimization, and ran with it. Incels have now discovered that they can transition and then guilt women into having sex with them lest they be branded transphobes. It's crazy as hell.. welcome back!

venecia · 2020-07-08T13:54:09+00:00

I mean, I don't think that's exactly fair. Many patients with advanced dementia can't recall lots of other facets of their core identity. You're just as likely to have to talk them down from panicking about being referred to as the wrong gender as you are to remind them of the current year and that you're not their mother. Some multi-lingual people don't even speak their mother tongue!

That said, I'm interested to know exactly how carers are being told to deal with this. Are they even allowed to fib to patients and ''misgender'' them, even if not doing so would bring them more distress?

Oh wait it's here. Jesus..

They also include advice on how to help a transgender person with dementia to maintain their preferred appearance when they can no longer do it themselves.

So we're to force a dress on a man even if he no longer identifies as a woman? What the what now?

venecia · 2020-07-03T17:00:41+00:00

Oh my god. Not a single ounce of woman-invalidating bullshit. I'm stunned, that was gorgeous!

venecia · 2020-07-15T13:01:22+00:00

What I want to know is why transwomen get to deny having male privilege in the oppression olympics. I thought libfem was supposed to be intersectional? In this case, their male privilege is telling them they know how to be women better than women themselves, because their brains are superior.

I'm sure plenty of white people would like to know how you get one of these get-out-of-accountability cards!

venecia · 2020-06-30T13:35:27+00:00

I didn't hit peak trans until one of THOSE people was encountered in real life. You know, the rainbow haired barely-disguished men in dresses busting for the chance to use women's spaces. The ones that we all convinced ourselves and others were strawmen made up to discredit trans rights.

He latched on to me and decided we were instant friends. He had terrible body odor (fruitlessly covered up by cheap flowery perfume) and spent the entire lesson burping on me and loudly clearing his throat/gargling snot in that loud way that men do. The only indication in dress or otherwise that he identified as a woman was a female name, and rainbow hair. But the last straw was when I quitely stole away in the middle of the lesson to use the toilet without announcing anything, only to return to find him emerging from the ladies restroom to ask where I'd gone (thank god I used another up the stairs). Why would he do that? When classes ended for the day he asked where I lived, and kept bothering me for contact information on social media before I relented and took his phone number.

And then it just hit me like a truck that he was allowed to do all of this with no other requirement other than say he ''felt'' like a woman, and asking to be called a different name. And that he had a penis. And that he was so thoroughly socialized male that he didn't see how any of what he was doing should be uncomfortable or threatening to ''another'' woman.

Yes, I admit that I was selfish enough to see all of you as t-slurs right up until the kind of people you were warning me about actually exist and actually do this stuff.

venecia · 2020-09-01T13:12:53+00:00

Jesus christ another one that is scarier than any damn Halloween mask you could even hope to find. I should make a spooky collage for this year's.

venecia · 2020-07-21T13:52:08+00:00

Yeah, I agree. I actually suspect it's a raid so they can make us look bad. AGAIN.

venecia · 2020-07-05T10:24:32+00:00

a lot of the young women who've drank the kool-aid won't wake up until they themselves are attacked in some way

Can confirm, that's the only way I ever could have possibly peaked. Being the object of obsession of a morbidly obese, rainbow haired brute who ''identified'' as a woman and tried to follow me to the toilet is the only thing that could have done it. Before it happened to me, that was just some bullshit story from a T*** because the TRAs are so vocal about predators/not-even-attempting-to-pass ''transwomen'' only existing in transphobic fantasies.

The takeaway here is to pull the Biden approach: lie in wait and offer them enough rope to hang themselves, and then sweep up the pieces. It's already happening and will only accelerate the more of these low-lifes people actually have to be subjected to irl.

venecia · 2020-07-04T10:32:15+00:00

Yep. It's gotten to the point where I'm about to just identify as a T-slur and take all the power from it. Apparently thinking that there's literally no way to sort out the fetishists who have ''belonging'' as part of their fetish and legit dysphoric trans people and for that reason opposing Self-ID laws makes me a TERF.

So fuck it. I'm a TERF. And they are MRAs. Let's see how they like polarizing labels that make them sound like oppressors.

venecia · 2020-07-19T09:12:32+00:00

Watch: if there's any pushback, they'll use the example of a pregnant woman hiding her pregnancy to get hired. And the allies will say HAH you got them!

venecia · 2020-07-15T15:01:54+00:00

It stopped being funny after about 5 minutes, and here it is blown up to mean ''any woman who voices preferences, ever'' and having women living in fear of the label like a year later. Just one more way to ensure a steady supply of ''chill'' women.

Ugh shoot me.

venecia · 2020-07-01T12:48:33+00:00

Are straight men vagina fetishists too? lol

venecia · 2020-07-10T20:17:12+00:00

OK, literally what the fuck?

All of the misogynist subreddits that have been banned and come back with whack-a-mole subs don't get mass banned like this.

We should be given a chance to come back. Strict rules and modding against hateful or disrespectful speech. But no, they don't even give us a chance and deem that because we think a certain way (dissenting even by 1% from the TRA agenda), we're bigoted and hateful.

If they had any decency and lack of double standards they'd at least quarantine.

venecia · 2020-07-17T06:27:04+00:00

WARNING: Make sure to open OP's link in a private window, or log out of your google account before viewing.

venecia · 2020-07-01T16:50:08+00:00

We have a lot of trolls and dumbasses derailing discussions, but I think once the mods figure out how to moderate this space, it will all take shape. AFAIK, because they put the disclaimer on the sidebar, they are allowed to remove discenting opinions even if they are articulate and good faith. And bad faith/trolling/off topic posting is already A-OK to be removed under saidit's rules. We'll be removed for s/all in so doing, so less people will stumble in unintentionally.

I wanna stay. Spinster requires an email address and I just don't want to tie my real world identity to this whole thing just yet. Plus it's comforting because it's so much like reddit.

venecia · 2020-07-05T08:27:33+00:00

"He can't really be trans, can he? He's doing all the horrible things that trans people say trans people never do, so he can't really be a girl if he's doing the insane stuff that real girls would never do."

'atta girl. That's what got most people to peak. I feel sorry for kids growing up having to deal with this social contagion.

venecia · 2020-07-21T17:12:06+00:00

I'm not nice. I'm just not on board with an obvious, almost pantomime version of what a ''TERF'' is getting to the top of the subsaiddit. It's what they want.

venecia · 2020-07-13T10:50:59+00:00

I'll allow ''Karen'' to be a thing, even though it stopped being funny after about 5 minutes, once there's a male equivalent in place that achieves the same popularity.

venecia · 2020-07-23T11:03:40+00:00

SHE IS GOING OFF! So here for it.

venecia · 2020-07-12T19:31:08+00:00

In a trojan horse. The horrifying thing is it's already been cheerfully guided inside and the gates are shut. What do we do?

venecia · 2020-07-06T17:23:24+00:00

I just hate that dogmatic bullshit. It's FINE to say transphobia is against the rules, but this statement of fact is too far. Like ''no qualifiers'', really?

venecia · 2020-07-01T12:30:49+00:00

How are we expected to ensure people never feel like they have to explain themselves if we are asking for pronouns and how they refer to their body parts - isn't this asking for explanation???

Yep. Welcome to the rabbit hole where you can't do anything right and the points don't matter!

We need to push for sex-based terminology. It's all fine to me if someone wants to be called a man, have a male name, whatever. Go nuts. But if you're happy to keep your vagina, ovaries, and uterus, don't complain when that's what they're called at the the office of a doctor who specializes in those specific organs.

venecia · 2020-07-03T10:59:17+00:00

They desperately have to believe that because they found out the hard way that most ugly women don't become hot and sexy except with very expensive and extensive plastic surgery. For an average man it's nigh hopeless to even pass, let alone become the hot woman they think they will ''become''. Without clinging to the weaponized mediocrity of being raised male (wherein all white men believe they are brilliant geniuses) they are nothing and they know it.

venecia · 2020-07-06T18:31:14+00:00

They specifically mentioned only transwomen. By their own logic, they're being bigoted by excluding trans men who have uteri/ovaries!

venecia · 2020-07-13T10:55:22+00:00

I'm just wondering how the fuck we made the jump from BLM to ''trans rights are human rights''. Of course their example has to be black transwomen or people would point out (correctly) that they're once again riding the coattails of someone else's fight and trying to make it about them.

venecia · 2020-07-08T08:46:23+00:00

Welcome! I'm glad you found us.

Don't stress to much about using the ''right'' language. We're all of different minds here. I don't prefer to use TIM/TIF words even though they are acceptable terms here, for example. We all are here because we agree TRA has gone too far.

venecia · 2020-07-19T10:33:52+00:00

I swear "enby"s are just white people who want to feel oppressed.

No fuckin lies detected.

venecia · 2020-07-15T09:36:01+00:00

I'd rather not, I'm afraid of clowns

venecia · 2020-07-10T13:05:16+00:00

She ignores it in the drastic hope that you cut it the fuck out/less children have to see it if she throws fuel on the fire by acknowledging it. You loons.

venecia · 2020-07-09T11:17:02+00:00

Right? They outright told any lurkers the name of the website on which to find us!

Welcome lovelies. Stay awhile :)

venecia · 2020-07-04T15:19:49+00:00

It's amazing to see so many women speaking up in her threads, unafraid!

venecia · 2020-07-20T10:08:39+00:00

Thanks for being here. I only speak for myself but it warms my heart when older trans people and younger ones who are capable of reason stand up to this absolute bullshit whereby the most oppressed person in any given place has the right to act however they want.

The backlash is going to suck for you guys and I am so sorry. People like you don't deserve it, and there's no way you'll convince them to change course before it happens.

venecia · 2020-07-11T09:42:28+00:00

Funny how they rally behind the crab meme - taking down ''cissies'' and shitting on other women despite proclaiming to be one of us is the biggest example of actual crab mentality (''if we can't have it, neither can you'') I believe I've ever seen.

venecia · 2020-07-09T11:31:11+00:00

Downvotes don't exist here, so come on over and tell us just why you're obsessed with us!

To those who found us because they oh-so-helpfully told you the website on which to find us, welcome! Stay awhile and see if the hateful TERFs you've heard so much about are that bad.

venecia · 2020-07-01T19:43:41+00:00

Yeah, GC on reddit went seriously off the rails at times, and TRAs were constantly in there roleplaying as man-hating TERFs so they would have something outrage worthy to share. Like right there.

No reasonable person here thinks those comments were okay, except maybe the ones about being disappointed about a baby's sex (happens to lots of women, with both girls and boys).

venecia · 2020-07-18T09:16:45+00:00

Yeah, I feel like ''old guard'' trans people are pretty allied in being horrified by all this and really wishing it would stop. All that they worked for is going up in smoke if these hyperwoke continue to witch hunt and add former allies to the backlash. I'm for damn sure not sticking around when the response to ''I'm not a witch, I just don't think I should kneel and kiss the ring of the pope'' is ''Hmm, that sounds like something a witch would say!''

venecia · 2020-07-14T13:05:18+00:00

I'm so sorry that you were duped like that and that you were in any way encouraged in doing something so dangerous. I understand the pain and desperation you felt and how wonderful it feels to come across something that so many other people tell you is the ultimate cure. You weren't stupid for believing it: we're all here because we accepted the TRA bs ourselves, though obviously some of us were outright victimized before learning better.

I'm so glad that you won't have any longstanding health problems and that you are on track to get to the root of it all. Thank you for sharing with us!

venecia · 2020-07-10T17:20:13+00:00

Ain't that the god's honest truth

venecia · 2020-07-12T11:13:36+00:00

What if we did a ''find your people'' megathread here? To brainstorm the spaces people miss most on reddit and to create them afresh on another sub..saidit?

venecia · 2020-07-09T11:32:41+00:00

You're right about r/pcos, but r/pregnancy says the following:

You must be invited to visit this community r/Pregnancy

Congratulations and good luck! /r/pregnancy has moved to /r/babybumps, please join us there. :)

The moderators of this subreddit have set it to private. You must be a moderator or approved user to visit.

venecia · 2020-07-07T14:45:13+00:00

There seemed to be unanimous support - does the average woman with PCOS support female erasure or were they being brigaded by TRA trolls who want it to seem like women are ok with this?

Here is a link to the thread that set it on the course to shutting down and going private. It's pretty clear to see that ordinary users were sick of this shit, but they're trying to make it out like they were outliers or T***s.

https://snew.notabug.io/r/PCOS/comments/hl5dbz/why_is_is_always_the_femaleoriented_subs/

venecia · 2020-07-06T07:01:28+00:00

Yes. It's one of the reasons I don't dare to speak on reddit, or comment/vote on things related to this with my account. The admins have the exclusive right to replace moderators if the subreddit is considered one of the mains (1 million+ subscribers).

venecia · 2020-07-04T15:12:15+00:00

Oh my god, she's still going? I have to admit I never really liked the books (don't shoot me pls) but she is earning a fan in me by keeping this up! <3

venecia · 2020-07-21T06:43:30+00:00

You're free to make your own choice here, but I've never had good experiences with male romantic partners who say that women's concerns about safety are ''fear mongering'' with no basis in reality. Or talk in that Voice of Great Male Authority that ''well IIIIIIIII have never felt unsafe in a bathroom/on the street late at night''. Everyone knows that tone. The one where you KNOW you have to agree with the weaponized mediocrity and let this neckbeard tell you what your experience is, or you'll be arguing for hours.

... whew, went on a tangent there. All that to say, I know how you feel.

venecia · 2020-07-12T19:25:36+00:00

I don't want to just read and run so I will just say - absolutely! I speak only for myself, but I perceive most of the ire around these parts directed at the toxic TRA and transwomen. Women who are de-transitioning and even trans men I have never had these kinds of problems with.

Take it easy here. If reading here gets to be too much, take a break. I'm interested in what we can do to make you and people like you feel more welcome and supported here. Do you have family and friends who can help you, or will they take this news super badly? If you reply to me I will get to it in the morning. :)

venecia · 2020-07-11T13:02:20+00:00

That's funny, because the admins have been telling us mods in a mainstream woman's subreddit that subreddit participation is NOT an acceptable reason to ban the user, and could result in us being removed. We are allowed to ban, say, a poster on T_D (before it got the axe) ONLY if they break the rules, not a moment before.

The idea was that nobody should be branded a bad-faith user simply based off subreddit participation. Back when reddit gave a shit about assuming good faith.

venecia · 2020-07-07T12:28:36+00:00

Is there any way to tell anymore who actually believes this foolishness and who is just playing along to avoid being doxxed/death-threat'd/cancelled?

venecia · 2020-07-05T17:57:12+00:00

And aren't they supposed to be dysphoric? There are very inexpensive options available to a transman who no longer wants to menstruate, which certainly a dysphoric individual would take advantage of.

Instead they're hanging around women's communities constantly reading all about periods and childbirth and demanding to be included. Um? I thought you were leaving? They ought to be part of MGTOW with the level of not leaving they're committing to.

venecia · 2020-07-05T14:15:22+00:00

Shit, I thought this was a one-off that I only got. I deleted the associated account. Thank god that I never chose to use an email address with my main accounts.

This is an awfully weird coincidence and I wouldn't be surprised if they're sending these out with the intended purpose of ''Hey! Here's an old account! Is it associated with this email address?'' Click ''yes'' and reddit now can see your IP and definitively link it to all other accounts you have. Click ''no'' (which I did, and now regret), and pray that they don't scrape your IP anyway/notice which account you're using when the page opens.

Don't click shit. Wait a week or so to throw them off the trail, and quietly go in, renuke, and delete the account.

venecia · 2020-07-04T18:19:02+00:00

Oh yeah, you don't have to have surgeries or anything like that! You can shout ''choke on my girldick'' to any uppity lesbians who dare reject you for having a penis and be hailed as stunning and brave warrior 10/10

venecia · 2020-07-18T06:42:39+00:00

That's all sorts of horrifying! I'm probably just full-stop not going to be clicking links associated with google when browsing here. In the minor chance you get caught or doxxed and actual people you care about find out, you can always say that you wanted to see what arguments ''TERFs'' are making so that you can be ready to fight them. When in doubt, roleplay woke!

venecia · 2020-07-13T08:12:56+00:00

I hold many opinions that you disagree with. Ban me.

You're my least favorite kind of ''controversial'' poster, straight down to the ''ban me''. I always make sure not to. If you don't like it here, leave. You're not that important.

venecia · 2020-07-08T11:33:17+00:00

Looks like she's trying to play both sides. She'll have to learn just like Rowling had to, not to give them an inch.

venecia · 2020-07-04T07:32:42+00:00

I agree, we should have both! I like it here and it seems that as long as the sidebar is transparent about what kind of content is allowed, trolls and off topic posters (like the weird ones bringing up anti-anti-semitism constantly) can be banned.

venecia · 2020-07-01T08:30:05+00:00

Hello fellow European sister! Keep fighting the good fight. Self-ID is not signed into law to my knowledge here, but it's de-facto policy for most schools, workplaces, and businesses when it comes to accessing same-sex spaces. Do whatever you all can to keep the same from happening there.

venecia · 2020-09-01T14:39:28+00:00

No no, I get it 100%. I would have stumbled across this too if I had found this kind of resource when I was young and figuring it out.

What people mean when they are asking ''how do lesbians have sex'' is how sex is done with two vulvas and no penis. And instead of getting a clear answer to the damn question, they have to be spun around about what the term ''lesbian'' even means before having their questions answered.

I'm so pissed for young queer girls having to deal with this shit.

venecia · 2020-07-23T19:55:20+00:00

Oh lord, I remember this thing from a long time ago. Like, Livejournal days. There was a prominent user who was like this (yaoi fangirl) and went on some kind of American talk show (those daytime ones that are super dramatic) to talk about how it feels to be a gay man in their soul. I never cringed so hard. it was a good 12 years ago or something.

Not at all surprised that the de-facto Livejournal replacement that in Tumblr magnified this foolishness by a million!

venecia · 2020-07-21T17:28:56+00:00

And I mean, there's a ton of women there agreeing with me that it looks like a fake post. You're welcome to see it another way. We agree that it's low effort!

venecia · 2020-07-21T06:36:46+00:00

lmao he is my hero.

it has to be done on every meeting

Good lord, that soured my laughter a bit. How ridiculous. But ''the normal ones'' is just too funny!

venecia · 2020-07-18T06:40:31+00:00

Same, that's why I made the post! I THINK we'll be okay but yeah, it's just good to be aware.

That's why I'm doing the hover with all links next time before clicking. No google docs or albums tyvm!

venecia · 2020-07-12T09:30:08+00:00

NYC recognises 3 genders on birth certificates (M, F, and X for nonbinary).

What the actual fuck. Medical professionals should be clearly stating the sex of the neonate for the purposes of the child's future healthcare.

And the fact that you can just choose the sex of your baby at birth against available evidence is batshit insane, and HAS raised some very fucked up children who struggle with mental health issues for life.

venecia · 2020-06-30T17:40:19+00:00

I've never seen an instance of hateful TRA telling men to ''suck their girlcock'' or threaten rape. Not a one. Even the most shitlordy.

The instant a woman is less than 100% rah-rah-hooray about trans' rights, that's when the deluge of rape threats and ''smd'' roll right in. They know that they can shame us and use our social conditioning to their advantage and like the world's most successful trojan horse, they're eating us from within.

venecia · 2020-07-21T17:17:32+00:00

4th in place sorted by ''hot''

https://saidit.net/s/GenderCritical/comments/5kg9/to_all_of_you_trans_ladies_out_there/

venecia · 2020-07-17T19:00:07+00:00

Holy shit. If I had any idea what it is I'd join.

venecia · 2020-07-12T08:37:49+00:00

stomps around punching things in a very unwomanly way

IT'S MA'AM 😭

venecia · 2020-07-06T15:42:01+00:00

I can't wait. It sounds so easy to just identify as black and scream down bigots who dare suggest I have white privilege or should listen to people born black as authorities on their own issues. I will LITERALLY kill myself if they do that, you guys.

venecia · 2020-07-01T14:41:22+00:00

Manage the feelings of men at all times. Anticipate what feelings they may get and work around them. After all, men's feelings can turn dangerous or deadly in a heartbeat.

What we're seeing in the TRA community is people who have been thoroughly socialized as white males who believe that their feelings are more enormously important than anything in the world, and they still feel entitled to coddling and invisible ''feelings management'' from women despite, bafflingly, wanting to become one. Don't point out that realizing that their feelings are not the most important thing in the world is Step 1 in actually becoming a woman. They don't want any of the self-sacrifice that we've been taught to do forever.

venecia · 2020-07-01T14:13:26+00:00

TL;DR she said that biological sex is real and that there is cause to consider what happens to women when people born male are given access to our spaces and competitions.

Even most of my fellow lefty friends (who are very left, just not TRA indoctrinated) could not believe how people blew it up into being some kind of transphobic magnum opus. The reaction to it peaked a lot more people than the writing itself imo.

venecia · 2020-07-21T10:57:06+00:00

It was explained to me on fb that pronouns and gender identity are unrelated. So you can be a male, masc identified she/her lesbian.

Unfuckingbelievable. Why do they insist on the right words anymore when words clearly mean nothing?

venecia · 2020-07-19T10:28:59+00:00

Sorry folks, even the most oppressed person in the room doesn't get to say that water is dry, grass is blue, and water is yellow. You can disagree however nicely you want, it makes you -phobe or -ist. And once you're branded with that mark, there is no coming back, so just stick to the truth.

When the hyperwoke ~witches against patriarchy~ deem you a witch for saying you see where they're coming from but you're not kneeling and kissing the ring of the pope? Don't apologize. Never apologize. You're being burned anyway, so hold your head high.

♫ Welcome to the backlash we got fun and games ♫

venecia · 2020-07-08T08:52:43+00:00

Oh god, what a nightmare S is. I had a similar experience with one of these types becoming obsessed with me. Just one experience like ours will undo years of TWAW indoctrination in an instant!

venecia · 2020-07-08T07:50:11+00:00

Same. I'm here to find like-minded people who are even mildly anti-TRA. We're not allowed even 1% dissent anywhere else, so we're pushed here. I am just an ordinary woman trying to live my life.

venecia · 2020-07-06T12:38:57+00:00

Don't believe the accusations or the insistence of AGHS that us here on saidit are brigading transphobic bigots. My only interest in pointing people to the PCOS subreddit was to give hope that even on reddit, the tide is turning.

Welcome! You're already a hateful transphobic bigot from disagreeing even 1% with what they're saying, so stay awhile :) And tell any friends you have there.

venecia · 2020-07-02T10:24:12+00:00

Exactly. And actually, for some of them, the aspect of their fetish that is the most gratifying is knowing that they have infiltrated women's spaces and are getting away with it. Straight from the horse's mouth. The validation they supposedly need to feel like women/human being can be used by the fetishists and there is literally no distinguishing between them.

So, that's fun.

venecia · 2020-07-20T10:01:57+00:00

Say what? It's almost as if deplatforming just makes people want to read the forbidden book, and further pisses off people who were formerly on your side but are now being branded bigots for the slightest disagreement in dogma.

venecia · 2020-07-18T15:13:26+00:00

It's Schrodinger's Asshole, press edition. If it gets backlash, the airquotes indicate they were using the word ironically. If it gets good press, the word stands on its own.

IT'S MA'AM 😭

venecia