100 Easy Ways to Make the World Better for Trans People: which I am planning to disregrad completely.

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-05-16T00:05:25+00:00

Look at that. We've helped them inadvertently. There's my good deed for the day.

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-05-15T22:33:29+00:00

Does running out of pretend problems qualify as a problem?

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-05-15T19:00:14+00:00

Thanks for the laugh.

"Do not fetishise trans folk." ...pretending a significant section of society fetishizes trans people is hilariously tone deaf.

This entire article is amazingly spoiled and upper middle class.

I would, however, pay to see the gory fallout if these coddled kids ever have the guts to make the same demands in a bad neighbourhood at 2AM to our local gang as they loiter in the parking lot screaming threats at everyone they see. Will their pronouns still matter when their next door neighbours openly deal crack and are threatening to kick their doors in?

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-05-14T02:01:10+00:00

I always played games with a male name/avatar, because who has time for a bunch of death and rape threats and dick pics? (Also, blast from the past: if you were a female toon in skimpy armour dancing on a mailbox in Silvermoon, I assumed you were a gross dude who never bathed.) 🙄 It's best to find female friends to play with if you want to use voice chat in games.

They may be sussing you out by your typing/phrasing style. There are analysis tools you can look up which are reasonably accurate at assuming if you're male or female based on the way you word things.

I know you didn't ask for advice, but: there's no obligation to engage with PMs like that. Turn em off or ignore them. You don't owe people a response.

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-05-13T12:12:04+00:00

I ignored them too, til I remembered that if you return their envelopes they have to pay for it.

They really do seem to be trying to please a couple big donors. There's no way they're still getting sufficient funding from ordinary concerned citizens.

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-05-13T00:52:16+00:00

She's even more high pitched than usual imo, and she's talking fast: both are subconscious indicators to the rest of us that dishonesty is happening.

Starting every response to a judge with "Well, I think," is pathetic. How do you lawyer at this level and not pass community college public speaking 101?

Thanks for this, I'm genuinely feeling better about our society 10 years from now.

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-05-08T00:10:10+00:00

You ever spend time in rattlesnake country, watching where you step? More and more, that's what this feels like.

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-05-05T02:28:18+00:00

And sure enough, the TIM issues a threat of physical violence. They always manage to live down to the lowest expectations (and then dig deeper).

Keep it coming: they do their best peaking work in their own unedited words.

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-05-03T21:26:58+00:00

Next he'll be claiming he found "abandoned" bear cubs in the woods, and was just seeing if they were okay, and had no clue the mama bear was going to come roaring out of the bushes. Stupid transphobic bears!

10 trans identifed males die and arrive at the Pearly Gates and Saint Peter says, "Save your breath. If you're pedos you're going to Hell, so you might as well just turn around now and save yourselves a kick in the ass." And 9 of the trans identified men immediately turn around and head off down the stairs to Hell. And Saint Peter yells after them, "And take the deaf bastard with you!"

That joke used to be about Catholic priests but it's clearly due for a modernized update.

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-04-15T20:07:02+00:00

This is the way. Force in numbers.

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-04-12T22:03:16+00:00

Horses, dogs, and humans have been coexisting and selecting for traits for so many millennia that we can read each other's emotions from facial expressions. We care about each other.

I can't in good faith pretend that the trans crowd cares about other beings.

I am <40 and grew up in a "first world" country, and yet multiple people I know rode horses to school, grocery store, etc. I owed my horse my life several times over, as she owed me. OTOH I have never received anything but rape, murder, and death threats from trans people. The most dangerous animal my horse ever fended off was a human male.

Buy the horse. Divorce the husband. Experience love and loyalty.

Edit to add (shaddup the font is tiny on this screen). Summary: grown-ass adult is jealous of a more deserving being.

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-04-11T14:36:27+00:00

I 'member.

'member when Kyle identified as a black kid to play basketball and Gerald had an unethical surgeon perform a trans-species procedure to turn him into a dolphin?

But they were respectively actually neither black nor dolphin, and we all learned something...

I'd have thought the violent TRAs would be threatening to rape and burn Trey and Matt, and Richard Dawkins, the way they threatened JK Rowling. I wonder why they haven't...I just can't seem to put my finger on the penis, I mean reason, why they only target some people who point out their insanity. I wonder what they all have in common.

And that's enough sarcasm from me for one weekend.

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-04-10T21:40:25+00:00

They've been shockingly accurate in their predictions:

Mr. Garrison claiming to be a lesbian; his eagerness to get an abortion because it's validating; his blatant misogyny and sexual crudeness when talking about himself as a woman as real women edge away in disgust; his proclamation to Mr. Slave that because he's had a sex change they are now a straight couple; his shock and selfish rage when Mr. Slave says "but I'm gay" and rejects him; his homophobia and attempt to ban gay marriage; his transition regret and demand to be given a new penis as if he's some sort of lego set...

And then there's brave and stunning Bruce Jenner running as Garrison's Vice President after running down the pedestrian with his car (he's rumoured to be considering running for CA governor in real life).

And Strong Woman's run-in with her ex, who is identifying as a woman just to humiliate her and beat her at sports...

Whatever drugs Trey is taking, they appear to enable him to actually see the future.

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-04-10T20:52:25+00:00

Is that an opinion I detect? In the same vicinity as a pack of women?! Clearly sufficient evidence of the devil's presence. To the ducking stool with you!

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-04-10T18:21:00+00:00

I don't usually click Twitter links but this one was worth it. The bloodbath in the comments: chef's kiss

Watching Dawkins climbing toward the peak (as predicted years ago by South Park) has been so delicious. My brain did me a favour and read his tweet in Mr/s. Garrison's voice.

Thank you, Crank Prank Time Phone!

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-04-09T03:21:52+00:00

All of this. And flights just went on sale and I was about to snag one. So glad I saw this first.

I love(d) Iceland including the geothermal spas. There is no way in hell I will do it again if I have to share the mandatory, totally nude, open showers with men. This news shut it right down for me.

During tourist season the biggest spa, Blue Lagoon, is at max capacity every day with tourists from various cultures that do not tolerate this crap. There will be issues.

Also, Icelandic women have gone on nationwide strike for their rights in the past. If they choose, they can shut down the country...

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-04-07T23:25:20+00:00

I've been pondering how to reply to this. I think it's best that I not trot out my opinion while you work through what this, and similar, bills mean as well as their wider impacts.

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-04-07T22:35:21+00:00

Multiple articles/sources in link.

Looks like the backlash has arrived regarding schools letting kids "socially transition" without informing the parents.

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-04-04T03:40:49+00:00

Eventually they'll give women's blood containing pregnancy-related antibodies to men who insist they're biological women and natural selection will ensue.

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-04-03T00:13:06+00:00

...well why on earth would an Actual Real Live Girl, who by definition is under 18 and is packing both the X chromosomes that make females more resistant to Covid think she should be a priority? /s 🙄

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-03-31T16:13:02+00:00

Yes. So much this.

I miss the misty forgotten days when my biggest security concern was the nosy lady down the street eavesdropping on my party-line phone call. 🙄

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-03-31T02:49:14+00:00

Ah. Yes, I am aware of Private Manning. They haven't hit my personal defunding threshold. Yet.

If you want to fall down the rabbit hole, here's some detail (archive.org to not give clicks) on another crowdfunded TRA connections tool with an overview of methodology. https://web.archive.org/web/20210219233925/https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/andreajames/the-transphobia-project

"Andrea James" is the same TRA who harassed Michael Bailey ("The Man Who Would be Queen") and his children along with other academics. Overview by Alice Dreger: http://www.alicedreger.com/in_fear

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-03-31T01:01:31+00:00

If the EFF has come out as pro trans they'll lose my donation, as does any org or business that is pro trans. Now I have to go look it up. Again. I'm so sick of having to follow behind people checking this shit.

While I'm fine with speaking in person and to my representatives with my real name, I'll never connect it to an online profile.

The digital Kevlar comment is not about using real names, it's about maintaining habits that prevent people and their networks of association from being identified and linked across multiple sites in the tools TRAs are using. Identification should be voluntary and shouldn't expose one's friends.

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-03-30T22:39:55+00:00

Of course it's sinister and evil and wrong and should be illegal. Much like Wal-Mart identifying customers with facial recognition the second they walk in.

But unfortunately it's not. (Support the EFF.)

So if one uses the same handle or password or email in more than one place, or uses one's real photo ever, or leaves metadata in a photo, or puts down real info ever, or doesn't use VPN, or doesn't use Tor, or doesn't use containered browsing, or doesn't have a hardened browser, etc., well... why the hell would one ever be that stupid?

ex: Kellie-Jay Keen's site wouldn't accept my secure encrypted (well known! paid!) email address...so she'll never get money from me. I won't let her expose me to risks.

We've known these vile TRAs are doing this for yeeeaaaars. Literally. They used to crowd fund devs. It's past time for women to to get digital Kevlar and a better knowledge base.

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-03-28T23:09:08+00:00

When my friends and I have had (necessary) surgeries, we've been worried about being a) sexually assaulted while incapacitated and b) losing the ability to work, which is what gives us agency and independence and medical coverage.

The unbelievable, jaw-dropping, self-centeredness of this man as he leeches off the public teat is the dead giveaway that he is, indeed, irrevocably male.

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-03-28T17:43:39+00:00

"I can't play games or type or work or tie my own shoelaces."

...It's immensely telling that the first priority that unconsciously leapt to mind was PLAYING GAMES.

malleus_maleficarum · 2021-03-21T15:42:18+00:00

Rude. Watching Hannibal eat him piece by piece gets more satisfying with every year that passes.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-26T04:26:31+00:00

amidst the abundant evidence that it's not

A few years ago I'd have thought I sounded like a loon, but now it seems so reasonable to mention how thorough the trans movement has been at systematically trying to discredit and de-platform the very academics who would provide the expert testimony re: immutability. It feels highly coordinated, along with the development of mass-taggers to identify wrong-thinkers, the take-over of reddit/twitter/facebook policies...

It's another if they hope to enter a professional field where they have to interact with all kinds of people and they have no control over what they're exposed to.

I do worry about institutional capture, but I think the sheer volume of the rest of society - of the people they have to bully - will turn them into Hitler slogging through Russia. Perhaps I'm too optimistic.

They've done as predicted. Now that they've gotten women thrown off reddit and attacked women like JK Rowling, they're moving on to men: gay men's forums, Linehan, etc. And of course men are harder to bully and society cares more about their opinions when it happens.

I was a tomboy and I wanted to be a boy as a teen. I wasn't unhappy with my body or my social life, but I desperately wanted the privilege of not worrying about pregnancy, or rape, or a lifetime of catcalling and gross comments and being told girls are supposed to get married and have kids. I wanted to travel the world as a man with two pairs of khakis in a backpack, riding trains and sleeping in cheap hostels with no fear of men. I wanted men's jobs that paid well and came with respect and adventure. The TRA determination to get around the obstacle of parents, the grooming, the recruiting documented in that book sent a cold jolt through me. I'm sure that they would have tried to drag me in too, and that's horrifying.

But, I think the dam is breaking because we're all having the same jolts: "They'd have tried to get their hooks in me as a teenager" and "They're coming after every adult with boundaries and critical thinking skills." It's getting more and more personal for the bystanders.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-26T01:59:38+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing all this knowledge and insight. I'm not a lawyer, so I find your perspective really illuminating and educational.

so no doubt she has a few friends who might be interested in this topic.

She had mentioned the framing of 'trans' as immutable in regards to positioning it for coverage under the 14th Amendment's Equal Protection Clause; and I thought to myself when reading through that chapter that I'd like to see their claims of immutability get a serious public airing out and a legal challenge in the future.

Known serious risks are very obviously not being disclosed and are arguably if not actually intentionally being kept hidden.

Excellent point. And Lupron's off label/experimental usage seems to be enabling prescribers to say, "We don't have studies on the effects of this specific off label use so we can't inform as to what the full future risks are". And no studies of its use as a puberty blocker in healthy kids are in progress either. They clearly don't want any studies done. (Of course when it was offered to me it was on-label, so to speak, therefore all the horrific side effects were explained. I noped out of there.)

We really should be pushing this discussion in the public domain through every mechanism and angle possible.

Off you trot to re-education camp. In all seriousness, it's starting to feel like the dam is breaking and we are starting to talk about it more, and more frankly, as a society in just the last few months. Which gives me a modicum of hope.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-26T01:20:54+00:00

I look forward to it. Also this is a fantastic description of why playing the validation game is not on the table for so many people.

I don't feel comfortable talking to elderly community leaders about how a man is manipulating them for sexual purposes. Most of them wouldn't understand what I am on about anyway.

It often seems to me that the generational gap is insulating trans activism from full visibility. I was trying to explain the related problem of doxxing & cancellation (and why I was refusing to give out personal information) to someone in their 60s the other day and ran up against a similar lack of understanding.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-25T17:13:59+00:00

Please please provide updates on this. Or a blog link. Or a book if you write one. Seeing this start-to-finish in a fairly contained setting is pretty rare and I would truly love to hear about it as it unfolds.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-25T16:59:56+00:00

Ah, gotcha. Yes, I think you're right. At least now we're seeing just how many people think it.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-25T16:37:42+00:00

I frankly think that is a goal for the near future for many of these people.

Incels were proudly saying that forcing women to fuck them was their goal before reddit banned them.

My grandmother remembered gaining the right to vote in her lifetime. That was only 100 years ago in the USA. Women's rights haven't even fully come into being and they're already being snuffed out.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-25T16:34:28+00:00

I'm a lawyer but this is not my field so I'd have to look more into the legal framework but I doubt the "informed consent" defense is anything close to bulletproof. There's only so much liability a person can waive.

Words to inspire hope here.

I'm not surprised that the lawsuits have started in the UK as they're ahead of the U.S. in terms of how far the trans craze has made changes to the law and warped the public discourse, so they will provide a helpful template for our legal approach.

I would think that the fact Britain is not split into 50 different states (with different laws, different data collection, etc.) and has a unified national health care system is helping bring it into the light. Would love your knowledgeable opinion on that.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-25T16:15:45+00:00

"Policy makers and the media are doing no favors to the public or the transgendered by treating their confusions as a right in need of defending rather than as a mental disorder that deserves understanding, treatment and prevention." Dr Paul McHugh as cited by Abigail Shrier

the stuff coming out of trans activists lately is really stupid. They're going to have to shape up or get out because people are starting to wake up to the crap they're saying.

I don't think they can help it. I suspect that most of them are so mentally ill that they have zero capacity to comprehend their own insanity. What horrifies me is other people coddling it. We can all see this crap! Why is the media pretending it's okay for inmates to run the asylum? Infuriating.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-25T15:41:40+00:00

"Informed Consent" clinics are a way to deflect these lawsuits with signed disclaimers and waivers. However, I do believe you're right, it's coming like a very expensive tidal wave. It's already hitting Britain:

*'I should have been told to wait': Woman treated with hormone blockers to reassign gender as a teenager takes NHS to court *

https://news.sky.com/story/i-should-have-been-told-to-wait-woman-treated-with-hormone-blockers-to-reassign-gender-as-a-teenager-takes-nhs-to-court-12031191

No Longer Silent, UK Gender Clinic Whistleblower Launches Lawsuit

https://genderheretics.org/index.php/2020/07/07/no-longer-silent-uk-gender-clinic-whistleblower-launches-lawsuit/

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-24T23:32:07+00:00

Glad to help

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-24T22:04:42+00:00

The Trans Ego: Why Allies are becoming TERFS

https://archive.is/zTrKE

But then you said no. I don’t want trans spaces, I want yours. I want your vagina, your female spaces, I want you to stop using your words, I want you to stop talking about your body, I want to destroy you in your sports, take your places in public offices, schools, and organizations. I WANT YOUR WOMANHOOD. And you expected me to comply. To hand it over. And you’ve convinced many to do just that.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-22T19:34:23+00:00

Absolutely. And the data collection verbiage indicates a deliberate choice to be unethical. I am going to keep calling it out when people mention that app.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-22T15:27:42+00:00

Woke up to the tantrum, laughed, but had to block her. At first I was thinking 'shill', which is fun to poke. But it's just another troll, and that's boring.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-22T01:27:15+00:00

Up until about 4 years ago I'd have called myself a 2nd wave feminist. But re: your point, it's gettin' personal. There are negative connotations fermenting for me around the label of 'feminism' due to purity tests, etc., and once I got into my 30's I realized that I don't do well with -isms.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-21T23:23:52+00:00

The British use the Queen's 'u'. Honour/honor. Neighbour/neighbor. Etc. The Americans threw that 'u' into Boston harbour/harbor and never got it back. Some words like biscuit would be changed to convey the original meaning. Some slang like 'loo' is only British.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-21T23:03:20+00:00

What's vile is the fine print on that app as well as her unprofessional behaviour.

I haven't berated you for having opinions I disagree with, nor have I harassed you for saying things I don't like. Please do me the same basic courtesy.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-21T16:16:02+00:00

"about 8"

There are wayyy more than that. Learn 2 count. However, I do see 1 crappy startup spiralling out of control One! ah ah ahhh.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-21T16:09:55+00:00

They really are great for learning another language. They're familiar enough to get my head around the interpretation/tone aspect of the text, plus they also come in audiobooks for other languages as well, so I can read and listen along.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-21T16:06:30+00:00

Today in: "Shit We Could've Told You But You Slammed Your Hands Over Your Ears and Went 'La-la-la I Can't Hear You!'" Read all about it in cold, hard numbers.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-21T15:56:05+00:00

I have no political home and never have: I'm simply a woman. I likely disagree with a lot of other women on a lot of various topics, but I believe that being female is the most important, indeed the only, uniting characteristic necessary. I'm here because we all have that in common and it has shaped every aspect of our lives and people who are not women will never understand it. And if we do not unite we will be once again be bulldozered by men and corporations: our human rights, our boundaries, our bodily integrity, our independence...

I support abolishing the notion of gender, which is impactful to society so I talk about it.

But I also loathe cats and support the abolishment of twinsets, which is only really impactful to me so I don't talk about those items. :)

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-21T15:36:30+00:00

Yes please!

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-21T15:34:25+00:00

in b4 someone re-posts her stupid definition of 'giggle is a group of girls' tee hee /s

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-21T03:03:04+00:00

Jack's Blowhole in New Zealand: such a fun name for a great way to dispose of a body. You have to be way out in the middle of nowhere at the ass end of the earth and then hike a bit to find it.

Also, about 20 years ago while on a road trip: 3:30 AM at a truck stop in the Midwest USA, mist swirling around, and into the cone of light from a streetlamp stepped...a bagpipe player. He played for about half an hour between Greyhound stops for me and ~3 other people.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-21T01:01:08+00:00

I wonder how long before other trans people burn her at the stake for this...

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-21T00:08:55+00:00

https://www.nsfwyoutube.com/watch?v=PZiADylIG1U

The "These Are Not Our Crimes" video can be very impactful. It just goes on...and on...and ON with horrifying crimes committed by UK transwomen.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-20T20:04:15+00:00

Every few years I have the honour of sitting down to dinner with a man who is the top instructor in his martial arts discipline in his country. He teaches men with multiple black belts, who are huge and fit and know how to handle themselves, how to get out of close quarters group assaults: being ganged up on in truck stop bathrooms, dudes coming at you with bats and wrenches when you're closing up your shop office late at night, etc. Not "win"...just get out before a traumatic brain injury or a shattered eye socket or death happens. That's realistic self defence: getting the hell away without being annihilated. They aren't walking around shit-scared any more than I am, but they are definitely walking around with an appropriate sense of their place in the universe.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-20T02:04:19+00:00

One of the best things I figured out as an adult was that a lot of men are just as scared of violent men as I am. It was a good widening of perspective for me that let me truly hear more of what some of them had to say on the topic.

Also, I'm really tired of being told what boundaries I should have.

It feels recent: I've been noticing an uptick in this behaviour all around me for the last 5 years or so. I get that we all do it as humans: we all pick at each other and tell others what they should/n't do. It's part of being social animals. But it's a trait I'm trying hard to eliminate in myself (I'm always asking myself: Who do I want to be in two years?) and it's a primary issue that keeps me out of women's groups.

More and more I'm seeing other women dare to tell each other who they should vote for, where they should donate their money, etc. I want to hear other points of view, I may well agree after I hear them! But I'm not down with people judging each other as 'trash' or 'irrational' for having opposing experiences or voicing other opinions -- it feels like I'm constantly fighting the purity spiral in every single group I belong to. It's exhausting.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-20T00:55:56+00:00

who work for the utility companies almost all having a conceal and carry license.

Not trying to pull off topic but yes it's a very, very different world out there. ...marijuana grows, meth labs, javelinas that want to chew your feet off, the cold panic of seeing a baby bear and wondering where mom is, poachers (yes really), and then there's just your run of the mill crazy pants creeper who lives out in the middle of nowhere. It'll get the adrenaline going for sure.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-20T00:27:53+00:00

When I took women's self defence in my late teens, it was from a female instructor with 3 black belts. The first thing she said was "I have 3 black belts and I was still raped." She pointed out that there are situations where fighting back will get you killed and that men can punch women so hard that it can fracture our skulls or kill us outright. That was her class intro (!!) and her advice was "Never let your guard down. Always listen to your instincts."

When I travel, the number one thing men warn me about...is other men. Am I constantly terrified of shadows? Of course not. But I never let my guard down and it's saved me at least 3 times in the last 10 years from really, really bad shit.

My greatest fear of old age/physical decline is exactly what u/MarkTwainiac is describing. Men and boys have been engaging in a relentless onslaught of violent, predatory behaviour since I was 5 years old and it will never get better. It's why even 30+ years ago my mother/aunts were unmoveable on the topic of female-only home health aides for my grandmother. It's why my mother used to say she'd rather fall down the stairs and be eaten by coyotes than end up being victimized in a nursing home.

Thanks for saying this MT.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-18T19:41:00+00:00

(am old)

no idea when this happened to me :) It snuck up on me.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-18T18:47:26+00:00

Her point that westerners may look down on what they consider to be 'developing' countries for so-called 'barbaric' practices like breast ironing and genital mutilation while simultaneously giving their kids Lupron is just...searing.

I had no idea Mermaids ads were running even in Minecraft.

Thanks for sharing this.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-18T16:50:22+00:00

Other people do not get to dictate the risk level you are comfortable with. You can't know for sure if a man has good intentions, and it's not your responsibility to prioritize his potential butthurt feelings over your safety. If he's a decent man, he is aware that his presence can make lone women nervous. I know plenty of dudes who will hang back to create a safer distance, or cross the street to pose less of a threat.

Have you heard the term "Schrödinger’s Rapist"? This article made waves ~10 years ago. The author has made the original post private so here is the archive link:

"Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced" https://archive.fo/6men0

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-18T15:57:47+00:00

They'd know you were GC if you engaged in conversation or interaction with others... Not sure how one would use it meaningfully without that coming up.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-18T15:06:20+00:00

The article "Pronouns are Rohypnol" is a great resource for understanding why so many of us refuse to use "preferred pronouns". It used to be in the sidebar of r/gendercritical for quick reference.

https://archive.fo/b1pHk

*I’ve heard many people tell me they don’t mind doing this, as a courtesy, although it takes some effort to keep up the mental gymnastics of perceiving one sex, but consistently using pronouns for the other. That’s a personal choice, and I respect the reasons why some people make it.

I’ve also heard many people declaring that anyone who won’t comply (usually directed at a woman) is obnoxious, mean, hostile, and unpleasant. ‘Misgendering’ is hate speech. They say.*

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-18T03:10:33+00:00

0 karma. Not reading the room. Reporting as sockpuppet.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-17T23:49:49+00:00

You always dish up great information.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-17T23:41:56+00:00

Excellent point. Thank you for bringing that up!

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-17T23:41:24+00:00

In the end, I still have no idea what her stance is.

My best guess is that it's: "Give me money."

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-17T23:31:43+00:00

all about being fun, flirty and feminine.

This makes me wonder if she had a bunch of male financial backers pulling strings.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-17T23:18:11+00:00

It appears she's trying to do a 180 on the female-only stance in order to save her business.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-17T23:17:01+00:00

And GC views are borderline illegal in some countries (see police logging hate incidents in Britain) so why would women want their faces attached to their membership if their faces can be searched against a database of driver's licenses? It can so easily used to shut down free speech. And what if a TIM breaches that database and uses womens' photos to hunt them down and murder them? Just...no.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-17T23:11:46+00:00

Yeah it's such a bizarre mix of poor decision making (why would she not roundtable her ideas first? how did the app get that far into development with flaws that are hugely offputting to its target customers?) and poor people skills.

She's a capitalist, trying to make money. She wasn't ever trying to stand for women or help us.

Absolutely agree. She thought we were dumb 'giggling girls' who'd buy anything pink.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-17T21:06:17+00:00

It's a social networking app that uses facial recognition to weed men out during the automated account set up.

So, here's my recollection of what went down. Anyone else can chime in:

Sall tried to debut it to r/gendercritical.

She received a lot of feedback that the app was: a) not women-only because she was letting trans women in on purpose, b) the term "girl" was viewed as degrading or condescending by a lot of adult women, c) the word "Giggle" was offputting to women who fight to be taken seriously and d) so, so pink, which is reminiscent of gender stereotypes and the pink tax. Also e) facial recognition is creepy.

She told us TWAW and blew off our feedback.

Then she came back months later and basically said we'd been right and trans activists were bombarding her with threats.

...and now this. Make of it what you will.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-17T19:32:00+00:00

The "I told you so" that echoed 'round the internet. Watching this unfold has been epic.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-17T13:54:43+00:00

https://www.nsfwyoutube.com/watch?v=PZiADylIG1U

This might be a useful starting point...

I used the nsfw link so people won't have to log in to watch. (Interesting that the crimes committed are so horrifying that it's flagged as only suitable for adults.)

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-16T22:41:08+00:00

Thank you for sharing this link. This is the lobotomy scandal of our generation.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-16T05:48:46+00:00

I think that's a very good point and I'll amend my comment accordingly.

PS: This is an example of how to interact when you disagree with people.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-16T04:48:15+00:00

You indicated that I'm "trash" for taking a different position from yours, and you said "I hated and despised Elizabeth Warren for threatening women’s shelters and I don’t feel any different about you" and you are making assumptions about my life experience and why I take the position I take.

Just because I advocate actions or positions that are the polar opposite to yours that you've barely scratched the surface of does not mean I am trash. It means we have very, very different views on a problem we both think is important.

If you think I'm this this easily put into a box then either a) agree to disagree and walk away and realize you may get more perspective later or b) dig in and ask why.

This isn't reddit: you can't just call me names, tone police me, and cancel me. https://saidit.net/static/PyramidDebate.jpg

I am taking option A: I'm walking away from you.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-16T04:16:17+00:00

I’m not going to deny them the one life line they have.

Well, I will. I'm fine with agreeing to disagree. It's a shame you're not.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-16T02:24:12+00:00

I can certainly see where you are coming from and you raise valid points. But I've already had to ruthlessly cut out women in my life who are career social workers who would cheerfully make you and I share a room in a shelter with a TIM. That's real and immediate and I will not allow those women back into my life, my home, my support network, my trust, etc. They have prioritzed predatory men over other women. They can get help from those men instead of from me.

"I will stand by while someone is raped"

But that isn't what I said. Please be careful not to misrepresent those of us you disagree with.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-16T01:38:24+00:00

"...and a relatively low effort action..."

🙄🙄🙄 I politely beg to differ. It's like pulling teeth from someone who WANTS to die of sepsis. 😕

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-16T00:36:24+00:00

If that shelter has a TIM in it, it's unusable by me or any woman I care about. Shut the shelter down and end all funding, revoke the social workers' licenses, and repurpose the property. I consider the women who run it and let TIMs in to be traitors -- I don't want them in my home, my life, or my support network. People in positions of trust should feel the backlash when they betray that trust by compromising the values of their mission.

Edit. Also, thank you for proving my point. How hot will you let the bathwater get before you realize you're boiling?

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-15T04:59:32+00:00

Regarding Item 5. Physical letters to elected officials/media orgs/NGOs for those of us with long-standing donation patterns...

Has anyone else noticed how many women are still reluctant to actually cancel their Planned Parenthood, ACLU, women's shelter, etc., donations even though they disagree deeply with TIMs on the board & hormones being prescribed, cheating athletes, men in the shelter... The instinct to be non-confrontational and just let the donation lapse, or to keep it going and ask weakly and politely that the organization stop what they're doing (and reconsider pretty please) is allowing these groups to ignore us.

Cancel it! Cancel the damn donation! Swing the axe and then send a physical letter telling them why. Don't ask them to reconsider. Tell them concisely and bluntly why they lost your money and where it's going now. Many non-profits share donor lists, and as they ramp up for the elections in November they'll see donors shifting their support.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-14T13:20:54+00:00

Yep. When I was that age, a boy a couple years older was determined to beat my head in (with rocks, logs, etc). Any time I was alone he would try to run me down and smash my face. He was sneaky. He knew not to do it in front of his grandparents or anywhere someone might see the whole beating take place. He terrorized multiple girls at church. When girls complained, everyone said "boys will be boys" and laughed it off instead of making him stop.

It generally seems like only women care when their daughters are harmed.

If my mother, and other mothers, had not gone to his grandmother and issued direct private threats, he'd never have been stopped. Not a single father, elder, or male sunday school teacher gave a single solitary shit that a 7 year old boy was punching 5 and 6 y.o. girls in the head.

Like many assault cases, nothing can be proved 100% because "he said she said" makes it a question of who is more trustworthy. I really hate that phrase, because it implies that evidence from women and girls is automatically less trustworthy or insufficient.

Yep. And the doubt: "Are you sure that happened?" and ""Well we don't want to get little Charles thrown out of class do we." The older I get the more clearly I see just how young I was when people in positions of authority began showing me that I didn't matter as much because I was female, and how damaging those experiences were.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-14T03:47:11+00:00

I was hoping I'd get recommendations back! Adding that to my list. Thank you!

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-14T02:52:01+00:00

we all went together with a teacher supervision

Yep. At that age some kids are still having trouble getting on higher toilets, reaching faucets, etc. Who lets a five year old walk off alone like that?!

One can't help but think they are intentionally setting kids up to be assaulted or hurt.

Edit: It's pretty clear he assaulted her. They just can't prove it. So it's still problematic... if there is no intervention and no change in policy he will likely offend again... which is also scary for all the other kids who will interact with him.

Quote from the investigation: “The [school] district’s approach allows children of different biological sexes to mix in the bathrooms, an area where students may engage in misconduct out of sight of adult supervision. Given the serious nature of the reports of harassment reportedly occurring in school bathrooms, one might have anticipated the district would be extra vigilant in providing a proper response under Title IX.”

Interesting that they're maintaining an environment where they know it's a problem and they know there will be no witnesses next time either.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-13T22:33:26+00:00

Or threatening to kill you because you want to feel safe after that trauma. It's a scary new world. https://makemorenoisemanc.wixsite.com/mysite/post/the-harassment-of-vancouver-rape-relief-women-s-shelter-and-its-supporters

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-13T22:26:16+00:00

I'm sort of being a wiseass here, but, have they not considered that self-id provides an instant loophole. "Oh whoops well I now identify as agender. Your move." "How dare you assume I'm a woman just by looking at me!" etc.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-13T21:21:44+00:00

...I'm not really down with sidetracking the focus from the victimisation of the girl or the primary issue of the dangerous policies driven by the trans lobby, so I'm not going to discuss it further.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-13T21:14:39+00:00

His access to commit this act was facilitated by the school's inappropriate policies which pander to trans-feelings, and that's unacceptable. There's a lot of text in the links, but basically that's what the complaint/lawsuit is all about: the responsiblity of the school to protect the female student.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-13T20:07:30+00:00

Have you ever read the Holdfast Chronicles by Suzy McKee Charnas? In the second book, the women hold a Reprisal Day.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-13T19:42:30+00:00

Some of the wisest advice you can get, here, OP.

Make yourself into a YOU that you and other people will like once you've entered adulthood. You can't pick your parents or your school, but you can pick your nose, your seat, and your friends.

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-13T19:16:18+00:00

So much this. Even in the 90's we were learning about McCarthyism and reading 1984 & Darkness At Noon & Brave New World in high schools as a cautionary tale... What happened!?

malleus_maleficarum · 2020-07-13T19:00:32+00:00

I know, brains don't even finish developing until we're 25.

When you fiiiinally get there and they let you rent a car all by yourself for a reasonable price, then you know you're a grown up at last.

But what do I do in the meantime?

I do not have a magic spell. But I do know rather a lot of lesbians. Places/activities where I either hang with the ones I already know or run into more: Kayaking. Hiking. Cross-country skiing. The farmer's market. The feed store. The gun range. A lot of them golf. I used to run into them a lot when I went to dog training events. Are you driving yet? ...consider a used Subaru :)

You have already found us and we like you the way you are. You will start to bump into accepting people in real life too as your independence increases and you have more control over your surroundings. And the backlash is starting, the community is growing, activism is happening.

There's no rule that says you have to hang out with people your own age. Once you expand your social interactions to older people and people who may not be passionate leftists, it may not feel so oppressive.

Older people (60's and up) were so good to me when I was 16-25. They were willing to teach me skills: canning, sewing, roofing, beekeeping, winetasting, installing a new toilet, refinishing furniture...you name it. And they can speak from such a wide range of perspectives and experiences. Be careful of creeps, don't be alone with strangers, but it's okay to sensibly expand your social group.

Asking other people's parents/grandparents what they're doing or how they did something will eventually get you sucked in to participating, and then you meet more of them. I was at a picnic a few years ago and was discussing bathroom renovations and tile with my friend, and an older lady just leaned over and said, "Do you need a tile saw? I have a tile saw." ...bingo :D

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