An Ad I found on tumblr targeting people with gender dysphoria

barnarnas · 2021-08-25T00:49:30+00:00

Every time I see that ad on my dash I report it lol

barnarnas · 2021-06-24T18:30:53+00:00

I have, and it scares me to think about how different my life would be if I was surrounded by different people during that time. I didn't even know what it was at first, just that I finally accepted that I was a lesbian and then I couldn't look at myself in the mirror anymore. I would cry if I did, and at one point I thought about top surgery. Thankfully, my friends (and therapist) recognized that what I needed was time and reassurance that I would be okay and that I didn't need to make any drastic decisions and/or changes to my body and eventually it passed. Accepting my feelings as valid and real instead of "affirming" them as reality honestly saved me.

barnarnas · 2021-06-17T04:32:13+00:00

Now, personality disorders like schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, and narcissistic personality disorder are validated as "neurodivergent".

Absolutely agree with your main point but the first two aren't personality disorders.

barnarnas · 2021-05-31T01:29:42+00:00

I tried requesting it at my local library since they didn't have a copy but it's been two months and nothing.

barnarnas · 2021-05-26T11:39:09+00:00

They were all wearing this too :/

barnarnas · 2021-05-25T18:21:42+00:00

Exactly. The ability to navel-gaze that hard is a privilege even if the navel-gazers pretend otherwise. They also need to turn the TV off and maybe realize what's on the screen isn't actually real life.

barnarnas · 2021-05-25T17:50:42+00:00

Honestly you'll find most so-called "normies" feel this way, it just doesn't affect their lives enough to require any deeper thought.

barnarnas · 2021-05-25T17:43:14+00:00

My local pride parade lost all meaning for me when it was moved from September to June and stopped being held in the "gayborhood" and subsequently became less connected to local history. Even before this, however, it was obvious this wasn't meant for me when I went with a friend who invited a bunch of other girls who wouldn't talk to me after finding out I was "actually...y'know...like that" (their words).

The fact that stores started dropping their Pride Collections on May 1st is really gross and annoying and transparent, and I'm someone who usually doesn't mind tacky rainbow things. Target has pride themed dog poo bags, and they aren't even striped and I don't know why that's bothering me so much! It's also gotten harder to find stuff that doesn't include the extra stripes or that godawful trans triangle :/ The only criticism I see of pink capitalism revolves around not supporting evil corporations and buying "merch" (🤢) from a small business owned by a trans woman selling shit from Aliexpress with stolen art on it.

I see perverts gyrating in leather bondage suits. I see deviants crawling on their hands and knees dressed like dogs.

Not as horrible, but I've had to stop my kid from catching condoms that were thrown into the crowd because he thought they were candy.

This year I might be (ever so slightly) more vocal in my opposition to pride.

Hell yeah! Fuck the stupid aLpHaBeT mAfIa

Edit: I also hate that the pink and orange "lesbian flag" is now mainstream. Tumblr should not leak into real life like wtf

barnarnas · 2021-05-24T22:45:47+00:00

Google just taught me that body masculinization surgery exists. Yikes.

(Also that one of those "trans care" places exists in my city 🙄)

barnarnas · 2021-05-24T22:20:45+00:00

My first thought! It just doesn't look real at all.

barnarnas · 2021-05-24T15:32:40+00:00

Denying access to a medically necessary therapy compromises both the health and happiness of an individual.

It's not medically necessary! Nor is it medical care, and TRAs continuing to refer to it in that way makes me so mad. Maybe if the parents and adults in these children's lives would actually care about their well-being, these laws wouldn't even be necessary:/ Honestly, as a parent I cannot even imagine wanting to put my child through that, much less being fucked up enough to encourage or even introduce the idea to him.

barnarnas · 2021-05-24T15:06:10+00:00

I was passively keeping up with the subreddit at first and then stopped checking until right now. Glad it's back!

Edit: Yes we definitely need a better back up, I'm still occasionally on reddit (u/chekovslesbian) but it would be nice not to rely on the saiditnet subreddit for updates if this happens again.

barnarnas · 2021-05-03T20:42:37+00:00

The torrent of half-truths, non-truths, inconsistencies, and flat-out word salad was overwhelming. And I'm increasingly convinced that this is the entire point. Assault people's critical faculties with content that cannot be engaged with critically.

Exactly this. Any actual thought is suspiciously terfy.

barnarnas · 2021-05-03T20:33:22+00:00

Since it was raining, she was waiting for her mom to pull the car around.

This is the point where a well-adjusted individual would MOVE ON

I want to make sure that children who are being abused know that they have adults like myself on their side.

Oh fuck all the way off Stranger Danger

barnarnas · 2021-05-02T23:37:53+00:00

I forgot to go vote yesterday but the person I was going to vote for won so it all worked out :P

barnarnas · 2021-05-01T23:34:51+00:00

Not personally, but yes

barnarnas · 2021-05-01T23:23:39+00:00

I agree, it's a fear tactic

barnarnas · 2021-04-30T19:02:21+00:00

I have the same problem with youtube and podcasts, people can't seem to stop going on tangents about Trans Rights and for what? Woke points? And most of it is subtle enough that an impressionable viewer/listener just absorbs it without thinking because it's the opinion of someone they like :/ And then I have trouble taking them seriously after hearing a rant about how TWAW or why JK Rowling is the devil.

barnarnas · 2021-04-29T18:43:25+00:00

Facebook being garbage isn't new. They let actual harmful misinformation spread like wildfire while censoring people for "hate speech" that is anything but. Honestly I forget FB and twitter aren't the same company since they both have the same dumbass stances towards censorship.

barnarnas · 2021-04-29T17:59:16+00:00

Can't have grown adults facing reality, that would be literal violence /s

barnarnas · 2021-04-29T17:57:03+00:00

"The overwhelming response was there was a risk around causing distress to particular members of the community and that was the last thing we wanted to do,” he said. “We always thought Booktown should be an inclusive, welcoming place for everyone, so we took the decision not to go with Harry Potter.”

What happened to pretending she didn't write the books? Not dramatic enough?

barnarnas · 2021-04-29T11:18:37+00:00

I actually did some digging after I asked that and I guess it originated in Spain? I couldn't go back past 2012 since all the resources were only in spanish. However, It looks like the day as it's currently known sprang into existence in 2015 and didn't start taking off until 2017 thanks to twitter and really took off when TRAs decided it needed to include "all women".

barnarnas · 2021-04-28T02:03:47+00:00

Ovarit is idealogically rigid.

And their circles are so confusing

barnarnas · 2021-04-28T01:56:12+00:00

Before the site was redirected to the saiditnet subreddit it showed that it was connecting to cloudflare so I don't know how those rumors started.

barnarnas · 2021-04-27T19:24:28+00:00

Technically it didn't go down but it came scary close and people lost power for several days.

barnarnas · 2021-04-27T05:19:16+00:00

2021 promises a bumper year of LVW activities with a collaboration between DIVA magazine and Stonewall attracting sponsors including Proctor & Gamble, Tesco and TSB.

Of course it has sponsors.

Is it a week now? Also @ older lesbians when did the day start? Wikipedia says 2008 but there's no actual source. The amount of days and weeks dedicated to the trans is depressing, I don't recommend that wiki journey

barnarnas · 2021-04-26T22:43:02+00:00

Unfortunately, yes 😂 Though despite what the former governor, head of the state republican party, and just a shocking number of citizens believe, Texas can't actually leave and become it's own country

barnarnas · 2021-04-26T22:19:24+00:00

No problem! It helps to think of US states as borderless countries who all agreed to work together except for that one time.

barnarnas · 2021-04-26T22:08:26+00:00

Arthnold's Civics 101 Question du jour: What does the governor do? How are they related to the state legislature?

Governors are to the state governments what the president is to the federal government, meaning they're in charge of the executive branch. Each state has individual laws regarding the powers and other things like term limits. Someone from California could give a better answer regarding his chances.

barnarnas · 2021-04-25T20:18:20+00:00

Is it available to purchase anywhere other than TransgenderTrend? Shipping to the US is more than the actual book

barnarnas · 2021-04-25T15:05:37+00:00

Deffo understand how you feel. It's hard to separate the people from the idea that their political views mean they're some sort of evil human rights stealing monster. I don't know how to fully put it into words haha but the narrative that there's a Good side and a Bad side does nothing except cause stress and make people think their good people simply for being on what they perceive as the "right side of history"

barnarnas · 2021-04-25T15:01:59+00:00

I had a covid scare last week since my sister decided to celebrate being vaccinated in the Bahamas and I saw her after she got back and she tested positive after that but it was a false positive. Very stressful few days 😬 Also was supposed to vote yesterday (local election, early voting) but got too lazy and now I can't go until next Saturday.

Doesn't it feel like April just started? Does anyone have any plans for the summer? Been vaccinated? Glad saidit isn't gone forever?

barnarnas · 2021-04-25T06:06:47+00:00

I like how they automatically label it as conservative and christian and Bad like The Gays are a monolith that can't be those things

barnarnas · 2021-04-25T06:01:24+00:00

At this point white feminism just means any feminism that doesn't include TW and I think they're also implying that these women are lesbians before they're women. Edit: and that women putting themselves and other women first is bad

barnarnas · 2021-04-24T18:31:35+00:00

More attention

barnarnas · 2021-04-24T18:06:53+00:00

and using female pronouns

I think that's just when she's in drag. Still ridiculous though, pretending like there isn't a difference between actual men and "men" being ~feminine.

Also I thought Rupaul got cancelled for not allowing trans people on RPDR? Shows how much I pay attention I guess

Edit: Also cancelled for fracking?

barnarnas · 2021-04-24T03:57:06+00:00

Omg yes that's an amazing way of looking at it

barnarnas · 2021-04-24T01:22:47+00:00

Not shocked. They haven't "claimed" him since he voted for Trump or whatever

barnarnas · 2021-04-24T01:20:50+00:00

Looks like it

barnarnas · 2021-04-24T00:50:48+00:00

Conspiracy theories?

barnarnas · 2021-04-23T22:06:55+00:00

r/saiditnet not r/saidit but the confusion is understandable

barnarnas · 2021-04-23T21:56:01+00:00

The comments on the posts(?) are all "you'll never be a woman" and worse so they didn't even achieve anything

barnarnas · 2021-04-23T21:42:28+00:00

LGBDropTheT has been on here for almost a year

barnarnas · 2021-04-23T20:02:03+00:00

Enough to connect my Reddit account to this one yes haha

barnarnas · 2021-04-23T20:00:34+00:00

Just don't confuse it with the LGBDropTheT guild which is being squatted by a TW

barnarnas · 2021-04-23T19:58:32+00:00

Finally! I thought AHS was going to nuke us before the site was back lol

barnarnas · 2021-04-21T00:30:20+00:00

Not them pretending to care about Lasting Effects

barnarnas · 2021-04-21T00:25:44+00:00

it’s set to go into effect this summer.

It hasn't even happened yet and they're already acting like the cops are about to round them up. How embarrassing lol

My state is trying to pass a similar law and this mom was sobbing about how her "daughter" was going to get taken away from her as if it was an immediate danger 🙄

barnarnas · 2021-04-20T14:54:15+00:00

They really didn’t like that he, being an actual primary source to Stonewall, was saying that MPJ wasn’t there etc.

This reply is spot on. How dare this evil cis white gay man invalidate their hero who, LBR is barely even a real person at this point.

Yes, it's all "Bring down capitalism and evil corporations!" until those corporations do something they like.

Fucking hypocrites, but what's new

barnarnas · 2021-04-20T00:02:49+00:00

You've heard of WLW, now get ready for...

NMLNM

barnarnas · 2021-04-19T20:33:47+00:00

Forget lesbians, I doubt a lot these dudes can get any women to sleep with them.

Hence the incel to transbian pipeline.

barnarnas · 2021-04-19T12:57:58+00:00

Kellogg’s and GLAAD have created “All Together” cereal which combines all your favorite breakfast cereals, like Apple Jacks, Rice Krispies, Froot Loops, Frosted Flakes, and Frosted Mini Wheats, into one box.

At least it's one cereal instead of what they did in 2018 lol

barnarnas · 2021-04-19T03:03:43+00:00

Even pre-peak that one confused me, because how could I be a lesbian if I liked dicks? (Even inside out ones lol) Eventually I stopped feeling bad about it and accepted myself as the pussy loving genital fetishist I was always meant to be.

barnarnas · 2021-04-19T02:43:42+00:00

It's a fetish.

barnarnas · 2021-04-18T23:35:53+00:00

I'm waiting on the email to tell me when I'm going in to get my second dose, but it still don't be for a few weeks. I found out my sister went behind my back and signed me up to get the J&J one but it was scheduled after my original appointment so I just kept that one. And the day before I would have gotten the J&J it was paused :P

Nothing has changed for me yet re: social distancing but omg I will be so happy for remote learning to be a memory next fall

barnarnas · 2021-04-18T23:27:07+00:00

IIRC it was also spread by "cis" LGBs who took memeing way too far.

I’ll admit to seeing some dark hilarity in this meme

Yup, that was pretty much the idea behind it. "Oh isn't it hilarious to imagine this 14 yr old girl yelling the f-slur at me in a mall parking lot" and it's okay to make jokes like that as long as you're ell gee bee tee, #straightpeopledon'ttouch

It got brought back again in 2020 because nothing on the internet can ever die :/

barnarnas · 2021-04-18T18:33:43+00:00

TiMs get a stomach ache and think they're experiencing period cramps, so this isn't surprising.

barnarnas · 2021-04-18T17:59:17+00:00

RIP Lesbian spaces 😔

You absolutely hit the nail on the head. There's not a real sense of community unless you share ~quirky interests and it's frustrating to watch.

Terf as an insult has gained too much power, and I hate how genuinely afraid some lesbians are of it. I jokingly called my best friend a terf the other day and she visibly flinched :/ I know the rest of the LGB community is waking up to the consequences of giving up spaces, but lesbians have been impacted the most, and it's not as recent as some people think.

barnarnas · 2021-04-18T14:56:34+00:00

And here I was thinking the most exciting thing I did this week was take my dogs to get groomed for the first time in a year :P

barnarnas · 2021-04-18T13:48:45+00:00

Toothpaste flag???

barnarnas · 2021-04-18T05:34:53+00:00

The second picture is a meme of Millie Bobby Brown. I don't know why that one started a while ago but weirdos thought it was funny to spread a rumor she was homophobic.

barnarnas · 2021-04-18T00:13:03+00:00

A majority of the straight people in my life are Very Christian so I've gotten a lot of "it's okay, we can still be friends." and the occasional totally agenda free church invite. I'll usually give them a pass since I'm the first LGB person they've (knowingly) encountered, as long as they aren't being intentionally homophobic which I haven't run into yet. They don't tend to treat me differently, but I've never brought girls around them so it might just be begrudging tolerance

I don't modify anything about myself around them, but the assumed straightness of everyone around is so ingrained that it's still somehow a shock :P

barnarnas · 2021-04-17T16:08:34+00:00

When it comes to identifying genes, these TRAs WISH they could fool a DNA test into thinking they're the opposite sex

The ultimate validation

barnarnas · 2021-04-17T15:31:40+00:00

Ban DNA!

Don't give them ideas lol

barnarnas · 2021-04-17T12:50:02+00:00

As if we needed any more evidence of maleness, they go and show off their utter lack of knowledge re: periods. The way your body reacts to the cocktail of hormones you're throwing at it =\= a period no matter how much it resembles the symptoms of PMS. But sure it's totally not a fetish.

Anyone wanna take bets on how long it takes for them to make an Inclusive™ period tracker?

barnarnas · 2021-04-17T00:40:00+00:00

important debate

Is it Pink News? Is it really?

disabled, queer, poor, gender diverse or dogs of colour

inb4 the show makes changes and gets criticized for perpetuating stereotypes

barnarnas · 2021-04-17T00:33:36+00:00

Yikes, I regret looking at her comment history. Those thoughts shouldn't be validated and allowed to fester and reach this point :/ Heartbreaking.

barnarnas · 2021-04-17T00:18:34+00:00

Like LGBDropTheT I bet they’re mostly straight conservative bigots cosplaying as gay to drive wedges into the LGBTQ+ umbrella coalition. Standard reactionary tactics.

The only ones cosplaying as gay are TRAs but okay

barnarnas · 2021-04-16T04:12:05+00:00

Here

His reputation is unearned IMO

barnarnas · 2021-04-16T02:17:22+00:00

Exactly. They assume that because they're being honest that everyone they interact with online is being honest. After all, who would lie on their carrd?

barnarnas · 2021-04-16T02:14:38+00:00

He fucked off after trying to get relevant on youtube and then massively screwing up an investigation

barnarnas · 2021-04-15T03:28:07+00:00

This category does not include xenogenders. For xenogenders see xenogender.

There's more?

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This is the bad place.

barnarnas · 2021-04-15T03:06:17+00:00

Thank you for the earworm 😂 how did you find this? Haha it's so old

barnarnas · 2021-04-14T19:02:46+00:00

And apparently so threatening that on TRAs are reporting anyone on TikTok with the flag in their bio because "it was started by nazis"

barnarnas · 2021-04-14T13:10:34+00:00

As if he'd still be relevant if #freebritney wasn't a thing lol

barnarnas · 2021-04-13T21:09:21+00:00

It makes sense to have generational references if you're going to DJ for a party -- Gen X guests? Bring on the 80s music!

Points were made :P

But this is cult stuff -- separate the generations and make the TRA reject the "olds"

Exactly, it's so fucking creepy the way they obsess over the idea of the older generations dying off

barnarnas · 2021-04-13T18:38:06+00:00

They'd probably take less offense since it uses their label lol

barnarnas · 2021-04-13T17:04:03+00:00

In the Before Times, when my son left the house to go to school he would sometimes get in fights with kids who insisted "boys can't marry boys and girls can't marry girls" and honestly at this point, I'd take that over him coming home with news about his new gender identity or some shit.

(This is also a little bit because I know it bothers homophobic parents who still haven't accepted marriage equality is no longer an abstract concept they can shield their spawn from lol)

barnarnas · 2021-04-13T16:47:37+00:00

Driving the dilution of acceptance are young women whose overall comfort levels plunged from 64% in 2017 to 52% in 2018, says the survey conducted by The Harris Poll on behalf of LGBTQ advocacy group GLAAD.

Shocking and unexpected /s

I do agree, though. If you look at the areas where the acceptance has gone down the most it makes way more sense when focusing on the TQ+. Also including LGB history in schools is a good goal, but that's probably not what they mean :/

barnarnas · 2021-04-13T16:25:42+00:00

Accidentally posted my reply as a separate comment, whoops!

barnarnas · 2021-04-13T16:23:00+00:00

she went to pick up her daughter after her bi-monthly visitation

It sounds like the mom has custody. The fact that she and the step-dad(?) are indulging this and enabling this victim mentality makes this seem like a mistake.

At four years old, I was absolutely certain I was a Power Ranger. Imagine if everyone had entertained that thought.

This is the future liberals want :P

barnarnas · 2021-04-13T15:58:14+00:00

I think at this point it's gen z (I've seen them called zoomers?) vs everyone. They see themselves as the Most Progressive and the ones who will Change The World as if it's a novel concept that no generation did before.

IMHO the hyperfocus on the divide comes from a place of just not understanding why these cohorts exist. My pet theory is that the misunderstanding stemmed from my generation taking reports about consumer spending habits as a personal attack. (Another one is that their obsession with identity is the same thing boomers aka the Me Generation were dragged for as young adults haha)

Sorry this got so off topic 😅 but TL;DR set generational divides only matter in marketing and the social sciences and focus on the USA too much to be considered relevant elsewhere.

barnarnas · 2021-04-13T12:00:32+00:00

Does it matter? This time the wokesters can't criticize her without looking like hypocrites.

barnarnas · 2021-04-13T07:29:06+00:00

More generally, James tells me, kids are taught to start from the basic premise that their parents’ generation is outdated in its values and riddled with prejudice, a belief that gets more anachronistic with every passing year.

I know that the current obsession with generational divides isn't solely the fault of Buzzfeed and their Boomer v Millennial "articles" but it's still the first place my mind goes when I think about it. I guess Gen X is the enemy now? Even if the people pointing the fingers are screaming Boomer lol

Jazz Jennings

Abuse victim? Yes. Role model? Absolutely not.

barnarnas · 2021-04-12T20:50:12+00:00

like "demigirl"

I was into this girl in 2015(ish?) who ~identified as this and since it was so novel to me and she was always talking about how much she loved being in the lgbt community I naively assumed she liked women. (She didn't)

Now they expect people to walk around knowing that the trans label includes non-binary people and that the non-binary label covers a whole other mess of labels that make no sense, and all of these labels should be important to everyone, and if you don't believe or care then you're a nasty terf

At least they've made it easy to spot people who never developed an actual personality lol

barnarnas · 2021-04-12T18:15:22+00:00

feminine penis

mouthfeel.

Words that activate my fight or flight response.

barnarnas · 2021-04-11T17:54:41+00:00

IMO so much of this stems from the push to be "kind" and "nice" to everyone you meet (especially aimed at women) and making it a strictly black and white concept where if you aren't kind and nice - words with vague and easily manipulated definitions - then you're mean and no one wants to be mean.

Except sometimes the nicest thing you can do for someone is be firm and honest, but in opposite land this is a horrible way to behave and on par with being an Actual Nazi.

I know this doesn't only affect women, but I see it the most in women, especially younger ones. They're so afraid of being labelled an unpleasant bitch that they bend over backwards to "treat people with kindness" without considering who their so-called kindness is hurting.

People are also so afraid of being "on the wrong side of history" they've got the brainrot, but that's a whole other problem.

TL;DR fuck kindness lol

barnarnas · 2021-04-09T02:40:20+00:00

Have you checked out the edit history? It's a fucking mess lol

barnarnas · 2021-04-07T01:56:09+00:00

Would she give it to her child?

It's not something she would have to think about, but I also never considered her potentially being the cool gender affirming aunt so this has been a weird development.

So fucking sick of Americans who think that just because the opposite party did it, it's wrong...

It's worse in the south because they feel like they have more prove or something.

It's also obvious the people opposing the bill have not read it, or even bothered to read up on any details not spoonfed via tweets.

barnarnas · 2021-04-07T01:31:55+00:00

My sister just finished ranting about this to me after I pretended I wasn't familiar with it and it was so obvious she was just parroting stuff from twitter and didn't actually understand what the bill entails. Virtue signaling at it's finest 🙄

barnarnas · 2021-04-06T21:47:32+00:00

It was also taken off the chrome store for a day or two but it's back up now :/

barnarnas · 2021-04-06T14:43:54+00:00

Rolling my eyes at the people in the comments believing the wife was also struggling with her sexuality and that this isn't her choosing not to become a trans widow.

barnarnas · 2021-04-06T02:10:18+00:00

auncle

Why.

Like, obvious cringe aside that's so awkward and clunky to say out loud.

barnarnas · 2021-04-05T23:08:45+00:00

These are the people who have a browser extension used to track and mark anyone who disagrees with them.

Taken from github:

This extension supports Facebook, Twitter, Reddit, Tumblr, Medium, YouTube, Wikipedia articles, search engine results and all the sites with Disqus comments.

But we're the crazy ones.

barnarnas · 2021-04-05T22:59:00+00:00

My bad! Satanic Ritual Abuse, let's be real, My Little Pony, and mad on the internet.

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